8 Signs Someone Is Using You
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Ace
Thank you for this video. Im very confused, as an old friend I was close with messages me every 6+ Months all happy and complimentary, reminding me of our memories together etc. But then if I reply, the convo just dies (I put energy into the reply and ask them a question back. If I ever reach out, even just saying hi or asking how they are, Im flat out ignored. Tried to meet up twice and got a cold Could do, up to you. But then they invited me to a party out of the blue when we hadnt seen each other in 2 years, guessing to make the numbers up. (I didnt go)I dont know if im being used of if its their personality, but I think its really rude and dislike it. So when they got in touch yesterday, for the first time in nearly 8 months, Im completely on the fence about replying. Its difficult because it seems SO sincere, and they genuinely remember times we had together. But every time I get my hopes up and then get no reply. It almost feels like theyre still checking they can do this.
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Thank you for this video. Im very confused, as an old friend I was close with messages me every 6+ Months all happy and complimentary, reminding me of our memories together etc. But then if I reply, the convo just dies (I put energy into the reply and ask them a question back. If I ever reach out, even just saying hi or asking how they are, Im flat out ignored. Tried to meet up twice and got a cold Could do, up to you. But then they invited me to a party out of the blue when we hadnt seen each other in 2 years, guessing to make the numbers up. (I didnt go)I dont know if im being used of if its their personality, but I think its really rude and dislike it. So when they got in touch yesterday, for the first time in nearly 8 months, Im completely on the fence about replying. Its difficult because it seems SO sincere, and they genuinely remember times we had together. But every time I get my hopes up and then get no reply. It almost feels like theyre still checking they can do this.
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Alayna
I had a crush on this super cute boy for awhile, but I never wanted to tell him. I was among many other girls that he seemed to accidentally lure in. But none mattered but one. He expressed his love for one of my friends. I started to hate her. She flirted with every boy I knew, and I couldn't see what he saw in her. I started to try to move on. I wanted to just learn to love myself, when my secret got out. My best friend accidentally spilled the beans. After that he stopped talking to me. No more good morning texts, no more casual small talk, he just stopped. He'd text every so often but i grew upset and decide to stop initiating conversations. Suddenly my friend stops liking him. He grew obsessive and eventually she lost the spark. Now he comes to me heart broken. I feel used. He only ever talks to me when he wants to blow off steam. I'm not his therapist, and karma sucks to suck. And yet, I still have feelings for him. It's so difficult.
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I had a crush on this super cute boy for awhile, but I never wanted to tell him. I was among many other girls that he seemed to accidentally lure in. But none mattered but one. He expressed his love for one of my friends. I started to hate her. She flirted with every boy I knew, and I couldn't see what he saw in her. I started to try to move on. I wanted to just learn to love myself, when my secret got out. My best friend accidentally spilled the beans. After that he stopped talking to me. No more good morning texts, no more casual small talk, he just stopped. He'd text every so often but i grew upset and decide to stop initiating conversations. Suddenly my friend stops liking him. He grew obsessive and eventually she lost the spark. Now he comes to me heart broken. I feel used. He only ever talks to me when he wants to blow off steam. I'm not his therapist, and karma sucks to suck. And yet, I still have feelings for him. It's so difficult.
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Xiao
They make u watch what you say is so damn tru. like between the mutual friends if I want to share smth about me she's like: how could u do that? That's supposed to be our secret (when I never made anything about secrets while telling her) and after some time she says the same thing that was gonna say and when I confront her about it she says: it doesn't matter now
I hate it. like why the f u controling me, she's always trying to push me aside from our mutual friends so she can be their favorite. i feel like crying every single day at school, when I mistakenly do smth like this she crys and I apologize so many times, yet she tells my mom that I am being mean and my mom then yells at me, if my mom doesn't yell at me she calls again.
I just want a real bff who will not control me of everything I say. its like I am her puppet (I always give her my notes when she needs them. i don't understand why she does that to me)
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They make u watch what you say is so damn tru. like between the mutual friends if I want to share smth about me she's like: how could u do that? That's supposed to be our secret (when I never made anything about secrets while telling her) and after some time she says the same thing that was gonna say and when I confront her about it she says: it doesn't matter now
I hate it. like why the f u controling me, she's always trying to push me aside from our mutual friends so she can be their favorite. i feel like crying every single day at school, when I mistakenly do smth like this she crys and I apologize so many times, yet she tells my mom that I am being mean and my mom then yells at me, if my mom doesn't yell at me she calls again.
I just want a real bff who will not control me of everything I say. its like I am her puppet (I always give her my notes when she needs them. i don't understand why she does that to me)
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Chase
So I have a lot of Freinds there is one and many that probably think I'm dumb and I'm not and everytime I'm around him when I want to do something near him he has said that he doesn't want me there and I feel like he rallies my other friends behind his back back because it seems everytime I try to talk to them they laugh or think I said something dumb and that they weren't talking to me. There's been times were they ask me out of the blue questions like do you know what a pssy is and they play dumb like they don't know what it is and they want me to tell them. He also gets pissed at me for walking slow to talk to my one caring friend when he walks slow too. I almost punched him in the face after he pushed me and everyone started laughing. I only want caring friends and they don't show it and it seems like everyone I know is like that to me except for a few.
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So I have a lot of Freinds there is one and many that probably think I'm dumb and I'm not and everytime I'm around him when I want to do something near him he has said that he doesn't want me there and I feel like he rallies my other friends behind his back back because it seems everytime I try to talk to them they laugh or think I said something dumb and that they weren't talking to me. There's been times were they ask me out of the blue questions like do you know what a pssy is and they play dumb like they don't know what it is and they want me to tell them. He also gets pissed at me for walking slow to talk to my one caring friend when he walks slow too. I almost punched him in the face after he pushed me and everyone started laughing. I only want caring friends and they don't show it and it seems like everyone I know is like that to me except for a few.
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Ram
Hello. I need your advice. If its alright. See I have this friend that and she kept on asking help from me by giving her money for the past few weeks. In my POV, I notice that everytime she would message me first, she would ask for money and vice versa. I also notice that she doesnt fall through the plans that we made. Like she said that if ever I would give her the money we would finally watch the movie that we've been waiting for online but then when I gave it to her, biglang she wants to watch by herself na lang. From that point, I was done and I told her how I felt about this then suddenly shes the one who got mad and we got into an arguement. Since then we never talked after that. My question is did I do the right thing and am I better off without her? I really need to know another opinion.
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Hello. I need your advice. If its alright. See I have this friend that and she kept on asking help from me by giving her money for the past few weeks. In my POV, I notice that everytime she would message me first, she would ask for money and vice versa. I also notice that she doesnt fall through the plans that we made. Like she said that if ever I would give her the money we would finally watch the movie that we've been waiting for online but then when I gave it to her, biglang she wants to watch by herself na lang. From that point, I was done and I told her how I felt about this then suddenly shes the one who got mad and we got into an arguement. Since then we never talked after that. My question is did I do the right thing and am I better off without her? I really need to know another opinion.
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Yamislittleangel55
1) They wanted me to come in all the time, even when I had plans.
2) How many times have I told friends and family they make promises they never intended to keep? This made me stop trusting them.
3) They lied to me about the boss saying he was thinking of firing me so I can work for them again. I found out the boss never said such a thing.
4) In an ironic way, so when I did, they called me an idiot.
5) Their favourite line: You know you love me?
6) Mother was always worried about me, and really despised that person for what they did.
7) They did say thank you, but never meant it.
8) I dislike them. I've never bothered to call them, and they haven't spoken to me since I've left.
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1) They wanted me to come in all the time, even when I had plans.
2) How many times have I told friends and family they make promises they never intended to keep? This made me stop trusting them.
3) They lied to me about the boss saying he was thinking of firing me so I can work for them again. I found out the boss never said such a thing.
4) In an ironic way, so when I did, they called me an idiot.
5) Their favourite line: You know you love me?
6) Mother was always worried about me, and really despised that person for what they did.
7) They did say thank you, but never meant it.
8) I dislike them. I've never bothered to call them, and they haven't spoken to me since I've left.
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SandBlackBondchick
He spends his money on what he wants! I am paying a majority of the bills. He doesnt buy me anything. When he gives me birthday money I spend it all on the house or US! Hes very selfish and he told his mother to use me to take her to the doctor. He has his mother spying on me through ring doorbell! The whole situation with those two are very weird! They have a vendetta against me! They invite me over then he and she are throwing indirect insults! They both are nice when they need to be but talk about me like a dog when they dont need anything from me! He never says thank you when I buy him things. Talked about me like a dog to his friends and colleagues!
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He spends his money on what he wants! I am paying a majority of the bills. He doesnt buy me anything. When he gives me birthday money I spend it all on the house or US! Hes very selfish and he told his mother to use me to take her to the doctor. He has his mother spying on me through ring doorbell! The whole situation with those two are very weird! They have a vendetta against me! They invite me over then he and she are throwing indirect insults! They both are nice when they need to be but talk about me like a dog when they dont need anything from me! He never says thank you when I buy him things. Talked about me like a dog to his friends and colleagues!
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Doris
A friend Ive known for 40 years will come see me (we live 300+ miles away) every year around her birthday (this past week. This time I made her a cake and fixed dinner a couple of times and she does not lift a finger to help with dishes. When we went out to eat, she orders and walks away (at deli and coffee shop. Then to top it all off, she sits and is either on her phone talking, texting or on social media most of the time. Im hurt and fed up. She likes to remind me that none of my other friends come see me, only her. It is really hard to be direct with her because of her outbursts (she is bi-polar) but Im allowing her to get away with treating me this way.
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A friend Ive known for 40 years will come see me (we live 300+ miles away) every year around her birthday (this past week. This time I made her a cake and fixed dinner a couple of times and she does not lift a finger to help with dishes. When we went out to eat, she orders and walks away (at deli and coffee shop. Then to top it all off, she sits and is either on her phone talking, texting or on social media most of the time. Im hurt and fed up. She likes to remind me that none of my other friends come see me, only her. It is really hard to be direct with her because of her outbursts (she is bi-polar) but Im allowing her to get away with treating me this way.
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Cdric
i have a female friend that does this. last time i saw her, we were planning to do a BBQ on sunday at my place, it was with her, her boyfriend and X. next day, she went is it possible to do it on saturday evening? 'ok, sure. ' i was passing her place anyway. that evening around 11pm, she send me i'm still with X. i'm going to be too tired. that saturday, she send me, tonight I might go with X. i'm standing there like wait what? . with me you cancel everything but you still want to go with X. she did this many times. i was talking to a mutual friend and apparently she chooses X above all else.
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i have a female friend that does this. last time i saw her, we were planning to do a BBQ on sunday at my place, it was with her, her boyfriend and X. next day, she went is it possible to do it on saturday evening? 'ok, sure. ' i was passing her place anyway. that evening around 11pm, she send me i'm still with X. i'm going to be too tired. that saturday, she send me, tonight I might go with X. i'm standing there like wait what? . with me you cancel everything but you still want to go with X. she did this many times. i was talking to a mutual friend and apparently she chooses X above all else.
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Yass
I just had to let this out, I'm an introvert and i find it really difficult to socialize with others but i have this one friend. however this year, i decided to transfer on different school. and i this is the time when i realized that she's been using me to just help her with school works all the time, i didnt mind it back then bc i dont wanna be rude and shes a really nice person. but these days, she would only message me when she needs me to do something and would often just ignore my messages when she doesnt
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I just had to let this out, I'm an introvert and i find it really difficult to socialize with others but i have this one friend. however this year, i decided to transfer on different school. and i this is the time when i realized that she's been using me to just help her with school works all the time, i didnt mind it back then bc i dont wanna be rude and shes a really nice person. but these days, she would only message me when she needs me to do something and would often just ignore my messages when she doesnt
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charfx
If someone is I am emotional when Im sad and get mad at me Im trying not to get in trouble and if I made my own thing and decided to copy me exactly and then say we should work for the hole summer to get a shed to help us with the thing that I started even though she told me 1 million times it was a dream is that you using can I feel like hes kind of secretly trying to get something she really wanted and taking my money/ time.
Btw I have been friends with her for 3 years
Oh and the shed is 2k
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If someone is I am emotional when Im sad and get mad at me Im trying not to get in trouble and if I made my own thing and decided to copy me exactly and then say we should work for the hole summer to get a shed to help us with the thing that I started even though she told me 1 million times it was a dream is that you using can I feel like hes kind of secretly trying to get something she really wanted and taking my money/ time.
Btw I have been friends with her for 3 years
Oh and the shed is 2k
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bob
all those sighs are is friend sad to think about if they are relly my friend she was such a good person at the start of the school year and now i feel like im her 3ed choose and she chooses my other friends rather then my even thoght we know each other for longer and she dating my friend of 2 yrs and she only talks to me when she has no one else to talk with but i dont know if this is me trying to keep her for my self which i dont what i what her to do her own thing someone help what do i do
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all those sighs are is friend sad to think about if they are relly my friend she was such a good person at the start of the school year and now i feel like im her 3ed choose and she chooses my other friends rather then my even thoght we know each other for longer and she dating my friend of 2 yrs and she only talks to me when she has no one else to talk with but i dont know if this is me trying to keep her for my self which i dont what i what her to do her own thing someone help what do i do
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adrian
Sadly most of these boxes were ticked by my ex. Didn't manifest openly until we were married with a small child. Then it was too late. I did not see the red flags. Apart from being a happy father, the next 11 years were the worst of my life. The only way to break from that cycle of unhappiness is to leave and rebuild your life and confidence. Relationships aren't all like this but it is better to live outside because you cannot change a relationship that is so toxic
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Sadly most of these boxes were ticked by my ex. Didn't manifest openly until we were married with a small child. Then it was too late. I did not see the red flags. Apart from being a happy father, the next 11 years were the worst of my life. The only way to break from that cycle of unhappiness is to leave and rebuild your life and confidence. Relationships aren't all like this but it is better to live outside because you cannot change a relationship that is so toxic
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Anthony
Hey my name is Anthony Parker and I have a neighbor who is very toxic and manipulating to for the past month he has been constantly asking me for money when he wants something from me and that is the only time that he wants to be my friend but I have been telling him NO constantly and as soon as I had told him that then he act like he doesn't even know me all because I want let him manipulate me by using me just to get whatever he wants out of me.
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Hey my name is Anthony Parker and I have a neighbor who is very toxic and manipulating to for the past month he has been constantly asking me for money when he wants something from me and that is the only time that he wants to be my friend but I have been telling him NO constantly and as soon as I had told him that then he act like he doesn't even know me all because I want let him manipulate me by using me just to get whatever he wants out of me.
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cing
Im always helping my best friend with everything, i pay for her lunch when she can control herself not to eat her own lunch before. I lend her my pens and she steals them, but denying it always or being clueless. She asked me to hang out but really im helping with her job. I like someone and magically a week later she goes to ask him out. It can be so hurtful to finally figure out after all these years shes only been using me.
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Im always helping my best friend with everything, i pay for her lunch when she can control herself not to eat her own lunch before. I lend her my pens and she steals them, but denying it always or being clueless. She asked me to hang out but really im helping with her job. I like someone and magically a week later she goes to ask him out. It can be so hurtful to finally figure out after all these years shes only been using me.
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kinda
this only conferms my thoughts that the one I thought was my friend has just been using me for my attention and tharpy friend skills. I've bought him everything his paretn wont let him buy, talked him though any problem he's had in the past, and talked him out of (gaming out) at his worst times. all I've ever gotten was a few thank yous and 10 dollars. I refuse to reply to him now. I know I'm better then to buckle
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this only conferms my thoughts that the one I thought was my friend has just been using me for my attention and tharpy friend skills. I've bought him everything his paretn wont let him buy, talked him though any problem he's had in the past, and talked him out of (gaming out) at his worst times. all I've ever gotten was a few thank yous and 10 dollars. I refuse to reply to him now. I know I'm better then to buckle
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Wayne
I had a girlfriend who used and manipulated me so much. She told me when we go out she never expects to pay for anything. She would constantly disrespect me and when I expressed disappointment she would pin it on me like I am the wrong one. She would apologize and I would go back only to go through the vicious cycle again and again. Careful with these type of manipulating users. Great insight from the video!
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I had a girlfriend who used and manipulated me so much. She told me when we go out she never expects to pay for anything. She would constantly disrespect me and when I expressed disappointment she would pin it on me like I am the wrong one. She would apologize and I would go back only to go through the vicious cycle again and again. Careful with these type of manipulating users. Great insight from the video!
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Autumn
My friend of three years has been using me
He usually insults me and talks bad abt me to my face as a 'joke'
But when he needs something
He always softens up and tells me how I'm his best friend or how he loves me
It's really hard for me to leave him bacause honestly i think i mightve fallen for him alrdy and i would be broken if i had to leave him
But he doesn't really give a shit abt me
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My friend of three years has been using me
He usually insults me and talks bad abt me to my face as a 'joke'
But when he needs something
He always softens up and tells me how I'm his best friend or how he loves me
It's really hard for me to leave him bacause honestly i think i mightve fallen for him alrdy and i would be broken if i had to leave him
But he doesn't really give a shit abt me
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education
I always try my best to make my friends happy but at the end i always feel betrayed, i spend ton of money on them for just to listen good from them but as i said before they always use me to pay up there restaurant bills ohh forget to mention you guys were thinking why im with them even after what they did to me i have really bad anxiety problem i have no one to talk: ) Haha i know good days are near
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I always try my best to make my friends happy but at the end i always feel betrayed, i spend ton of money on them for just to listen good from them but as i said before they always use me to pay up there restaurant bills ohh forget to mention you guys were thinking why im with them even after what they did to me i have really bad anxiety problem i have no one to talk: ) Haha i know good days are near
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Big
I know I'm to help my fellow man. Yet I get appreciated to my face. And, talked about behind my back.
I'm done. The family friends I help? Live like they live in a barn. They don't do house work.
Their more concerned playing their video games all day. Instead of keeping their home clean. So, they can have a safe investment for their kids.
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I know I'm to help my fellow man. Yet I get appreciated to my face. And, talked about behind my back.
I'm done. The family friends I help? Live like they live in a barn. They don't do house work.
Their more concerned playing their video games all day. Instead of keeping their home clean. So, they can have a safe investment for their kids.
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RosettTV
i have a friend and iv'e released she only talks to me when she needs to vent and if i want to call her shes always busy and i feel like i'm being used for comfort because iv'e also realised that her convos with other people are different and that they have opposite from what we have because their actually talking
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i have a friend and iv'e released she only talks to me when she needs to vent and if i want to call her shes always busy and i feel like i'm being used for comfort because iv'e also realised that her convos with other people are different and that they have opposite from what we have because their actually talking
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Geneva
How about when your blood-family uses you
Your always there but you need help or support, theyll never there while youll always giving them a helping hand or lending a ear when they need to vent their frustration. But there never when you need them.
Funny about it is that it be family and friends
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How about when your blood-family uses you
Your always there but you need help or support, theyll never there while youll always giving them a helping hand or lending a ear when they need to vent their frustration. But there never when you need them.
Funny about it is that it be family and friends
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education
I dont know what to do with my friendHe said can you help me and i said sure why not. After hours he said i got to go and didnt even say thank you before leaving the game and i really wanna unfriend him but i cant hes pretty kind or idk so thats why my life is ruind by him
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I dont know what to do with my friendHe said can you help me and i said sure why not. After hours he said i got to go and didnt even say thank you before leaving the game and i really wanna unfriend him but i cant hes pretty kind or idk so thats why my life is ruind by him
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Cultureal
Do me a favor?
Just say NO.
Don't ask what? Or Depends on what you ask. NO.
No nice person ever begins with Do me a favor, though. No one nice.
When you have something to ask someone to do, how do you do it? Expect that too from a decent human being.
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Do me a favor?
Just say NO.
Don't ask what? Or Depends on what you ask. NO.
No nice person ever begins with Do me a favor, though. No one nice.
When you have something to ask someone to do, how do you do it? Expect that too from a decent human being.
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hehea9
See yeah somebody use fair to control me by telling me I was going to get my head blown off every single day hey man if I lose my head then I lose it man but thank you for using me. Appreciate it itllt scar me for the rest of my life
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See yeah somebody use fair to control me by telling me I was going to get my head blown off every single day hey man if I lose my head then I lose it man but thank you for using me. Appreciate it itllt scar me for the rest of my life
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