8 Things People with High Functioning Depression Want You To Know
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Date: 2023-08-20
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MentalRebllion
I think I experience almost all except the first. I actually have little trouble with insecurity so the first issue, which is most reliant on that trait, isnt something I have as hard a time with. I am diagnosed as having depression with high function. However this depression thing does run in the family and I know for a fact my brother has the first one mentioned. It has more to do with our family dynamic behavior and how my brother often feels obligated to do things. Little things like saying I loved this show or could you help me with this means my brother feels obligated to do the socially acceptable thing such as take time to watch said show or say yes to the task. I have learned to make a point to tell him he isnt obligated for any of these things from me at all. Because of our long relationship Im aware he actually believes me but I still remind him because he does want to do it still to please me or give him social openings like talking about that recent thing Im in to. Which is nice but as mentioned in 7 (I think) we dont always have the energy with our depression and catching up on shows or something else isnt really an easy thing to do when so much of your mental and emotional energy is elsewhere. My brother and I use the analogy of having a set of spoons. You can only designate out so many so a set of tasks and if you are missing a few it isnt possible to find more like one might actually do. This is mentally. So you make do with what you got and only give the spoons to what you need most that day. And that means catching up on shows or some one elses other passions just to have a discussion with them, isnt really a possible or reasonable avenue. I make it a point that just spending time sipping tea and hearing my brother talk about his passions and him teaching me about them with or without context is perfectly fine with me and is what Im most interested in. If I ask for help its ok to say no. I can and always do find another way if needed. Im stubborn like that. And if its really urgent Ill make it known off the bat. Casual asking of help isnt an obligation. I prefer leaving the other party the option to consent. Ah but this is off topic. Either way my brother, sister, and I all have depression though only my brother and I are considered high functioning. I attribute our high functionality to our sheer stubbornness though. We dont like to be limited or feel like things are standing in the way of our goals, including ourselves. So we power through. Doesnt make the bad days feel too good but at least gives us the sense that we can fight for another day. I like to think of my depression as being in a dark dungeon with many monsters but you cant see them. And you are the hero who battles them every day. If you ask for help, its like filling your arsenal with the weapons best suited for each beast that attacks you in the dark and that makes it easier that day. Another way I describe my depression is that its like being the river. It flows and has currents and can run fast or slow. It can flood or it can shrink down to a trickle but its still always there. When I use techniques and ask for help this is like building irrigation canals which assist with controlling the flooding and slow down and tame the rushing currents. Can the water still overflow the banks? Sure, but its easier for this to happen less often. So yeah, I think of my depression like water and monsters and spoons. It helps to have a mental visual component which helps allow one to have a sense of more control. Mind over matter, or in this case mind over mind.
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I think I experience almost all except the first. I actually have little trouble with insecurity so the first issue, which is most reliant on that trait, isnt something I have as hard a time with. I am diagnosed as having depression with high function. However this depression thing does run in the family and I know for a fact my brother has the first one mentioned. It has more to do with our family dynamic behavior and how my brother often feels obligated to do things. Little things like saying I loved this show or could you help me with this means my brother feels obligated to do the socially acceptable thing such as take time to watch said show or say yes to the task. I have learned to make a point to tell him he isnt obligated for any of these things from me at all. Because of our long relationship Im aware he actually believes me but I still remind him because he does want to do it still to please me or give him social openings like talking about that recent thing Im in to. Which is nice but as mentioned in 7 (I think) we dont always have the energy with our depression and catching up on shows or something else isnt really an easy thing to do when so much of your mental and emotional energy is elsewhere. My brother and I use the analogy of having a set of spoons. You can only designate out so many so a set of tasks and if you are missing a few it isnt possible to find more like one might actually do. This is mentally. So you make do with what you got and only give the spoons to what you need most that day. And that means catching up on shows or some one elses other passions just to have a discussion with them, isnt really a possible or reasonable avenue. I make it a point that just spending time sipping tea and hearing my brother talk about his passions and him teaching me about them with or without context is perfectly fine with me and is what Im most interested in. If I ask for help its ok to say no. I can and always do find another way if needed. Im stubborn like that. And if its really urgent Ill make it known off the bat. Casual asking of help isnt an obligation. I prefer leaving the other party the option to consent. Ah but this is off topic. Either way my brother, sister, and I all have depression though only my brother and I are considered high functioning. I attribute our high functionality to our sheer stubbornness though. We dont like to be limited or feel like things are standing in the way of our goals, including ourselves. So we power through. Doesnt make the bad days feel too good but at least gives us the sense that we can fight for another day. I like to think of my depression as being in a dark dungeon with many monsters but you cant see them. And you are the hero who battles them every day. If you ask for help, its like filling your arsenal with the weapons best suited for each beast that attacks you in the dark and that makes it easier that day. Another way I describe my depression is that its like being the river. It flows and has currents and can run fast or slow. It can flood or it can shrink down to a trickle but its still always there. When I use techniques and ask for help this is like building irrigation canals which assist with controlling the flooding and slow down and tame the rushing currents. Can the water still overflow the banks? Sure, but its easier for this to happen less often. So yeah, I think of my depression like water and monsters and spoons. It helps to have a mental visual component which helps allow one to have a sense of more control. Mind over matter, or in this case mind over mind.
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Infinite
I don't know who needs to hear this, but I know I do
Failure is not an identity. Neither is success. You need not fear either one. Failure will even aid you on the path to successes and is, in some instances, more valuable. Success is what you believe it to be. Define it for yourself. There are many kinds.
Just because you don't function like other human beings does not mean you are worse than them.
Your process is unique to you and that's okay.
Focus on what's right in front of you. Focus on only what you have to do in the present. You don't eat your whole meal in one bite, you eat it in parts, one at a time.
Processing things at your own rate is perfectly acceptable. Sameness is an illusion and you don't have to conform to it. Everyone has their own rate of processing. That doesn't make you unintelligent or inferior.
All human beings are imperfect and flawed. All human beings are still intrinsically worthy. Don't hold yourself to an extreme double standard.
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I don't know who needs to hear this, but I know I do
Failure is not an identity. Neither is success. You need not fear either one. Failure will even aid you on the path to successes and is, in some instances, more valuable. Success is what you believe it to be. Define it for yourself. There are many kinds.
Just because you don't function like other human beings does not mean you are worse than them.
Your process is unique to you and that's okay.
Focus on what's right in front of you. Focus on only what you have to do in the present. You don't eat your whole meal in one bite, you eat it in parts, one at a time.
Processing things at your own rate is perfectly acceptable. Sameness is an illusion and you don't have to conform to it. Everyone has their own rate of processing. That doesn't make you unintelligent or inferior.
All human beings are imperfect and flawed. All human beings are still intrinsically worthy. Don't hold yourself to an extreme double standard.
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Migraine
I have depression its pretty severe and it connected to every single disorder that I currently have and I fight every single day with my depression its hard for me to do a lot of tasks its hard for me to even do daily tasks every day normal things a lot of times I never get anything done and it bothers me that I cant I see a therapist and a psychiatrist for all of my disorders and they are borderline personality disorder bipolar to PTSD generalized anxiety disorder unofficially diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder and major depressive disorder those are the issues that I deal with on a daily basis on top of the fact that Im transgender and Im trying to stay stable enough to be able to get my bottom surgery and my top surgery to complete my transition because Im going from male to female
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I have depression its pretty severe and it connected to every single disorder that I currently have and I fight every single day with my depression its hard for me to do a lot of tasks its hard for me to even do daily tasks every day normal things a lot of times I never get anything done and it bothers me that I cant I see a therapist and a psychiatrist for all of my disorders and they are borderline personality disorder bipolar to PTSD generalized anxiety disorder unofficially diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder and major depressive disorder those are the issues that I deal with on a daily basis on top of the fact that Im transgender and Im trying to stay stable enough to be able to get my bottom surgery and my top surgery to complete my transition because Im going from male to female
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aishairwn
8 Things People with High Functioning Depression Want You To Know
1. We constantly feel like we're bluffing, even if we're not
2. There is rarely obvious proof of our struggle and need for help
3. My GOOD day might just be your NORMAL every day
4. Bad days are overwhelming and feel impossible
5. Getting through bad days requires amounts of energy, even more than usual
6. We frequently struggle to focus and we are not at the top of our game
7. Our Average Everyday means regular routines can often feel like performing an Olympic tryout. x2 in a row
8. We're not weak because we ask for or receive help
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8 Things People with High Functioning Depression Want You To Know
1. We constantly feel like we're bluffing, even if we're not
2. There is rarely obvious proof of our struggle and need for help
3. My GOOD day might just be your NORMAL every day
4. Bad days are overwhelming and feel impossible
5. Getting through bad days requires amounts of energy, even more than usual
6. We frequently struggle to focus and we are not at the top of our game
7. Our Average Everyday means regular routines can often feel like performing an Olympic tryout. x2 in a row
8. We're not weak because we ask for or receive help
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Annegret
I just remembered how in school, my math teacher wrote on my test that I was terribly lazy, and my mother told me he was right. I was devastated, because I had no energy to do any more work than what I had been doing all the time, which I knew was not much. This lead to me hiding bad test results from everyone, then to me not even writing down when a test was due, forgetting about it, getting even worse grades.
Shortly after this incident I was diagnosed with depression. Which still did not change a thing, because so many people don't realize that this massive lack of energy has something to do with that.
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I just remembered how in school, my math teacher wrote on my test that I was terribly lazy, and my mother told me he was right. I was devastated, because I had no energy to do any more work than what I had been doing all the time, which I knew was not much. This lead to me hiding bad test results from everyone, then to me not even writing down when a test was due, forgetting about it, getting even worse grades.
Shortly after this incident I was diagnosed with depression. Which still did not change a thing, because so many people don't realize that this massive lack of energy has something to do with that.
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Dr. Kari
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Lithium
I have depression, and having to deal with school and depression is soul crushing. I can't do my work, I'm too overwhelmed already, and my family still doesn't understand how depression works so I get told I'm lazy constantly. I've reached out before but they still do this. It's so hard, I've had a panic attack and nearly had a mental breakdown this week. It's so hard, and the only few who understand aren't around me, or are too wrapped up in other things. I know I'm going to crack soon. It's so bad, and people still don't understand why.
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I have depression, and having to deal with school and depression is soul crushing. I can't do my work, I'm too overwhelmed already, and my family still doesn't understand how depression works so I get told I'm lazy constantly. I've reached out before but they still do this. It's so hard, I've had a panic attack and nearly had a mental breakdown this week. It's so hard, and the only few who understand aren't around me, or are too wrapped up in other things. I know I'm going to crack soon. It's so bad, and people still don't understand why.
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TopHatChronics
this might be too personal, but since middle school iv'e felt like deep down i wasnt okay even though everything else in my life is fine. I constantly think if there is something wrong or not do i even want to know. Watching your videos gives me more insight on the possibilities, but i teared up watching this because it sounds alot like me. I still dont know if i want help because i feel fine but thanks for the insight.
Ps: dont even know why i commented lol
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this might be too personal, but since middle school iv'e felt like deep down i wasnt okay even though everything else in my life is fine. I constantly think if there is something wrong or not do i even want to know. Watching your videos gives me more insight on the possibilities, but i teared up watching this because it sounds alot like me. I still dont know if i want help because i feel fine but thanks for the insight.
Ps: dont even know why i commented lol
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Jean
Ive never been officially diagnosed, but Ive been depressed, but high functioning all my life. People, my friends and acquaintances, believe Im confident and strong but I dont feel it on the inside. I completely know the extreme exhaustion. at times I can barely talk my way out of a paper bag, its just too much, yet Im told I should have been a lawyer and that they would never even try to argue with me because they wouldnt win! LOL! The last thing I want is confrontation.
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Ive never been officially diagnosed, but Ive been depressed, but high functioning all my life. People, my friends and acquaintances, believe Im confident and strong but I dont feel it on the inside. I completely know the extreme exhaustion. at times I can barely talk my way out of a paper bag, its just too much, yet Im told I should have been a lawyer and that they would never even try to argue with me because they wouldnt win! LOL! The last thing I want is confrontation.
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Snakeguy
This video spoke to me too much, number 2 especially because honestly I dont even know if I have depression or my baggage is worth being depressed about. I think the only diagnosis I got was from my past therapist who said I showed depressive tendencies. And my god, I can never express my shit, cause if I ever do the person listening just gives me this look and tries to be concerned but doesnt really try to help or forgets the shit I said.
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This video spoke to me too much, number 2 especially because honestly I dont even know if I have depression or my baggage is worth being depressed about. I think the only diagnosis I got was from my past therapist who said I showed depressive tendencies. And my god, I can never express my shit, cause if I ever do the person listening just gives me this look and tries to be concerned but doesnt really try to help or forgets the shit I said.
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No_FOMO
as an HSP, being sensitive is a liability, not an asset. my coworkers know i am sensitive, and act extra nice and attentive to me. i don't need special treatment, but know that even slight hostility, or passive aggression can sink my self confidence; after so much self effort trying to build it up. i believe this comes from a traumatic childhood, followed by traumatic experiences from employers and coworkers.
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as an HSP, being sensitive is a liability, not an asset. my coworkers know i am sensitive, and act extra nice and attentive to me. i don't need special treatment, but know that even slight hostility, or passive aggression can sink my self confidence; after so much self effort trying to build it up. i believe this comes from a traumatic childhood, followed by traumatic experiences from employers and coworkers.
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Marcelo
A few months ago I thought my depression went away bc everything in my life felt like it was getting better but it was the opposite I've been depressed for years and even tried suicide and was physically stopped i always hear that you should enjoy life and try to make the best of it but almost every day dying feels better then living the only thing thats stops me sometimes is my fear of death
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A few months ago I thought my depression went away bc everything in my life felt like it was getting better but it was the opposite I've been depressed for years and even tried suicide and was physically stopped i always hear that you should enjoy life and try to make the best of it but almost every day dying feels better then living the only thing thats stops me sometimes is my fear of death
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Bred
I have high functioning depression and this one dipshit in my class that always says hello depressed child in a super sarcastic voice to me and constantly says stop faking being depressed.
Another person in my class who trys to help me when Im crying but just fails miserably and end up ignoring me when I scream leave me alone and just make the situation that Im in even worse
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I have high functioning depression and this one dipshit in my class that always says hello depressed child in a super sarcastic voice to me and constantly says stop faking being depressed.
Another person in my class who trys to help me when Im crying but just fails miserably and end up ignoring me when I scream leave me alone and just make the situation that Im in even worse
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Th_ox1
This is exactly what I need like for an example Ill tell my parents about and all they say is Im being a drama queen or stop looking to much into it and Ill tell my friends and theyll think Im just doing it for attention and really Im not then want to go to speak about it with someone I feel dumb or I forget about what happened because I might sound over the top
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This is exactly what I need like for an example Ill tell my parents about and all they say is Im being a drama queen or stop looking to much into it and Ill tell my friends and theyll think Im just doing it for attention and really Im not then want to go to speak about it with someone I feel dumb or I forget about what happened because I might sound over the top
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Avery
I was able to relate to a lot of these.
And the worst part was, I have had a 30-minute mental breakdown in front of my parents, and all they did was get mad at me for crying and being a drama queen
I also struggle a lot when it comes to basic ways to take care of myself, like making myself take a shower, eating lunch, etc.
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I was able to relate to a lot of these.
And the worst part was, I have had a 30-minute mental breakdown in front of my parents, and all they did was get mad at me for crying and being a drama queen
I also struggle a lot when it comes to basic ways to take care of myself, like making myself take a shower, eating lunch, etc.
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Lu
Having problems means I don't have good days. I'm always told,
Just calm down.
It's not THAT bad.
Calm down, geez.
I don't know why you're getting upset.
It's not a big deal.
Just get over it.
It's actually easy when you're not lazy.
Y'know if you actually tried.
Aka the shit I hear daily.
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Having problems means I don't have good days. I'm always told,
Just calm down.
It's not THAT bad.
Calm down, geez.
I don't know why you're getting upset.
It's not a big deal.
Just get over it.
It's actually easy when you're not lazy.
Y'know if you actually tried.
Aka the shit I hear daily.
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Someone
Does this sounds crazy to anyone else too that how people we know in our life, who are around us are so different from everyone here. everyone here is so sweet n kind n understanding and what not. but those people who are surrounding us are so damn bad. They don't understand even a single thing.
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Does this sounds crazy to anyone else too that how people we know in our life, who are around us are so different from everyone here. everyone here is so sweet n kind n understanding and what not. but those people who are surrounding us are so damn bad. They don't understand even a single thing.
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Subliminal. Spirit
I dont feel like im the best at all times, and i may relate to some points in this video, but i dont want to self diagnose because im not sure if i need the help when there are others who feel worse. And i feel embarassed for the way i feel so i dont like to open up especially irl.
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I dont feel like im the best at all times, and i may relate to some points in this video, but i dont want to self diagnose because im not sure if i need the help when there are others who feel worse. And i feel embarassed for the way i feel so i dont like to open up especially irl.
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Chaparo
And its not even all of that its like you dont either want to show ur depressed and make a whole show and waste lots of energy on that and making yourself seem like your happy or you try to act productive thinking you have done so much while all you have done was clean the table
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And its not even all of that its like you dont either want to show ur depressed and make a whole show and waste lots of energy on that and making yourself seem like your happy or you try to act productive thinking you have done so much while all you have done was clean the table
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Rebekah
When you try to explain your feelings, they'll call you dramatic, so you live your life quietly. while negative emotions eat you up on the inside.
Not to forget how they will also criticise you for being aloof when they practically pushed you in that direction.
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When you try to explain your feelings, they'll call you dramatic, so you live your life quietly. while negative emotions eat you up on the inside.
Not to forget how they will also criticise you for being aloof when they practically pushed you in that direction.
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education
I have a friend who just lose his mother recently. And their father was long gone too. My friend starts to talk and laugh at himself. He refuses to talk to anyone and refuses to eat too. And when his siblings try to talk to him, he just gets furious.
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I have a friend who just lose his mother recently. And their father was long gone too. My friend starts to talk and laugh at himself. He refuses to talk to anyone and refuses to eat too. And when his siblings try to talk to him, he just gets furious.
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TimjanThyme
I relate so much to literally every single point brought up in this video. The problem is I wouldnt know whether thats just because of my ADD or an actual depressive disorder gone undiagnosed. they sorta overlap in a lot of places i feel like.
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I relate so much to literally every single point brought up in this video. The problem is I wouldnt know whether thats just because of my ADD or an actual depressive disorder gone undiagnosed. they sorta overlap in a lot of places i feel like.
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Nimzi
Growing up, I always had someone tell me I was capable of this or that and later on I would find out they never believed in me. It's gotten to the point now where when someone says something positive about something i've done, I don't believe them.
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Growing up, I always had someone tell me I was capable of this or that and later on I would find out they never believed in me. It's gotten to the point now where when someone says something positive about something i've done, I don't believe them.
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What
There were times when I struggled with selfhurm, so I was working in the office while my body were covered with wounds. If you go through something similar, I want you to know there is me who understand you.
And there are many of us. Love
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There were times when I struggled with selfhurm, so I was working in the office while my body were covered with wounds. If you go through something similar, I want you to know there is me who understand you.
And there are many of us. Love
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