7 Ways To cope With Birthday Depression
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Heartwork
Its my birthday today. I dont know what to do with myself. Thankfully I had a therapy session or who knows, I May have ended up in a relapse. I havent been this vividly in touch with my emotional pain in years. Im grateful that I had my therapist to talk to.
As far back as I can remember I have dealt with sadness on my birthday but now as a single adult living alone, it gets worst every year. I have no one that I can call to spend the day with.
The two superficial friends (acquaintances) I have, are not aware that I have no one else in my life that I can call upon for company today when I desperately need it and Im not about to tell them that because 1- its incredibly embarrassing and hard to open up about and 2- I dont want to question that their interactions with me are now solely because of a sense of forced moral obligation. I dont want to be wondering if these people even want to be around me the few times I reach out for their company.
What makes today so painful is the deep loneliness. I usually am not very in touch with it because I work as much as possible so its all I do besides sleep but today Im forced to face the fact that I dont have anyone left in my life. All my connections are empty and If I passed away suddenly in my condo, no one would know until someone called the cops because my body was decomposing because that is how distant my social world is.
Its hard, especially because Ive tried SO hard to improve my situation but it simply hasnt. I feel like my heart weighs a ton, my eyes hurt from the tears and my chest and body feel vacant and hollow.
Im looking forward to tomorrow, though, I know from experience that the next day is not much better because then I am left to grieve the loss of a dream and the potentially fun experiences and times I could have had, had I had someone to spend it with.
Another year gone by. Hopefully next year will be better.
I send my understanding and empathy to all the others who are going through this. This is painful
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Its my birthday today. I dont know what to do with myself. Thankfully I had a therapy session or who knows, I May have ended up in a relapse. I havent been this vividly in touch with my emotional pain in years. Im grateful that I had my therapist to talk to.
As far back as I can remember I have dealt with sadness on my birthday but now as a single adult living alone, it gets worst every year. I have no one that I can call to spend the day with.
The two superficial friends (acquaintances) I have, are not aware that I have no one else in my life that I can call upon for company today when I desperately need it and Im not about to tell them that because 1- its incredibly embarrassing and hard to open up about and 2- I dont want to question that their interactions with me are now solely because of a sense of forced moral obligation. I dont want to be wondering if these people even want to be around me the few times I reach out for their company.
What makes today so painful is the deep loneliness. I usually am not very in touch with it because I work as much as possible so its all I do besides sleep but today Im forced to face the fact that I dont have anyone left in my life. All my connections are empty and If I passed away suddenly in my condo, no one would know until someone called the cops because my body was decomposing because that is how distant my social world is.
Its hard, especially because Ive tried SO hard to improve my situation but it simply hasnt. I feel like my heart weighs a ton, my eyes hurt from the tears and my chest and body feel vacant and hollow.
Im looking forward to tomorrow, though, I know from experience that the next day is not much better because then I am left to grieve the loss of a dream and the potentially fun experiences and times I could have had, had I had someone to spend it with.
Another year gone by. Hopefully next year will be better.
I send my understanding and empathy to all the others who are going through this. This is painful
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Luca
Today is my 19th BD. I hate my BD because I dont have good memories of it. I woke ap at 6: 50 because my mother was arguing with her boyfriend. They were yelling at each other throwing things and spitting. They know i dont like my BD but they gave a shit about it. I raged and yelled at them to stfu and almost broke my hand because I was punching my door. So I quickly dressed myself up and went away with my Motorcycle. I smoked a Cigarette somewhere in the city to calm by self a bit. A texted my GF if I could come over. She was there for me and calmed me eventhough we both have a bit of hard time now like every Relationship once does. We went out and she tried everything to get me happy (luckily I have her) My father forgot my BD, perfect right? After all that shit my mother called me and wanted that I come back home but I dont want to. After a time she blamed me for it and said Im respect less after all that and now of course im the asshole again after having almost a breakdown on my Birthday. 1 hour ago I came home nobody even said hello to me
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Today is my 19th BD. I hate my BD because I dont have good memories of it. I woke ap at 6: 50 because my mother was arguing with her boyfriend. They were yelling at each other throwing things and spitting. They know i dont like my BD but they gave a shit about it. I raged and yelled at them to stfu and almost broke my hand because I was punching my door. So I quickly dressed myself up and went away with my Motorcycle. I smoked a Cigarette somewhere in the city to calm by self a bit. A texted my GF if I could come over. She was there for me and calmed me eventhough we both have a bit of hard time now like every Relationship once does. We went out and she tried everything to get me happy (luckily I have her) My father forgot my BD, perfect right? After all that shit my mother called me and wanted that I come back home but I dont want to. After a time she blamed me for it and said Im respect less after all that and now of course im the asshole again after having almost a breakdown on my Birthday. 1 hour ago I came home nobody even said hello to me
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Gobsmacked
I'm 63 - my birthday was several weeks ago. I TRULY don't mind getting older (beats the alternative) but I always feel depressed in the days leading up to my birthday. Once the day is here and gone, I snap out of it. I used to think the sadness was caused by the holiday season but I know now it's not. It took me 63 years to realize it's the birthday day itself. I keep the celebrating small - my husband, kids/their spouses and g-kids only. I'm not sure I even want to do that anymore. I think, at this point, I'm going to bypass any celebrating with other in 2023. I also removed my birthdate visibity from Fakebook. Maybe I'll change my mind as the date in December approaches, but, for now, I'm happy to not feel forced to acknowledge it at all.
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I'm 63 - my birthday was several weeks ago. I TRULY don't mind getting older (beats the alternative) but I always feel depressed in the days leading up to my birthday. Once the day is here and gone, I snap out of it. I used to think the sadness was caused by the holiday season but I know now it's not. It took me 63 years to realize it's the birthday day itself. I keep the celebrating small - my husband, kids/their spouses and g-kids only. I'm not sure I even want to do that anymore. I think, at this point, I'm going to bypass any celebrating with other in 2023. I also removed my birthdate visibity from Fakebook. Maybe I'll change my mind as the date in December approaches, but, for now, I'm happy to not feel forced to acknowledge it at all.
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Richard
I think this video - like others in the series has good practical advice. I am no longer depressed on my birthday but now my depression has lifted a lot I just feel very very overwhelmed by everything. Both what is going on with me and with my family and friends and indeed some of the appaulling things happening in the world. This especially happens around my birthday and it makes me want to grind to a halt. I have come to the conclusion that the best thing if I possibly can is to not fight it as this makes it worse but think of it as a necessary stage to go through in my recovery and realise that things slowly but surely are getting better. If I don't fight it I can regather my strength more quickly than if I do and am very harsh on myself.
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I think this video - like others in the series has good practical advice. I am no longer depressed on my birthday but now my depression has lifted a lot I just feel very very overwhelmed by everything. Both what is going on with me and with my family and friends and indeed some of the appaulling things happening in the world. This especially happens around my birthday and it makes me want to grind to a halt. I have come to the conclusion that the best thing if I possibly can is to not fight it as this makes it worse but think of it as a necessary stage to go through in my recovery and realise that things slowly but surely are getting better. If I don't fight it I can regather my strength more quickly than if I do and am very harsh on myself.
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Lilac
Wait so I need peoples help. I dont get sad that the years are passing or Im getting older, I love birthdays just not mine. I hate how I have to act all happy and cheerful while everyone watches me open gifts, I hate how I have to blow out candles and smile for photos. I truly want to do this stuff but I cant. I always feel guilty because everyone makes a massive effort into getting me things and being cheerful when Im miserable and cry non stop. Its almost like Im ungrateful, I cant even bring myself to thank them and give them a hug, or smile when I get a great gift. I just wish I didnt have to celebrate my birthday and it could be a regular day.
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Wait so I need peoples help. I dont get sad that the years are passing or Im getting older, I love birthdays just not mine. I hate how I have to act all happy and cheerful while everyone watches me open gifts, I hate how I have to blow out candles and smile for photos. I truly want to do this stuff but I cant. I always feel guilty because everyone makes a massive effort into getting me things and being cheerful when Im miserable and cry non stop. Its almost like Im ungrateful, I cant even bring myself to thank them and give them a hug, or smile when I get a great gift. I just wish I didnt have to celebrate my birthday and it could be a regular day.
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Sandra
Today is my birthday. I just can't belive I am 42 y. o. I am sad, but I don't want to spend my birthday with fake friends anymore. I will go with my husband and eat icecream. I did not want to celebrate it with people that I only see on my or their birthday, that don't make time to see me otherwise or that don't even invite me on their birthdays. Why spend the money and time and make the effort of organising a party for fake friends? It is better this way, yet I am sad. The pandemic showed me the real face of the people. If they don't gain something from me, they don't care how I am. Well. good to know, I guess.
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Today is my birthday. I just can't belive I am 42 y. o. I am sad, but I don't want to spend my birthday with fake friends anymore. I will go with my husband and eat icecream. I did not want to celebrate it with people that I only see on my or their birthday, that don't make time to see me otherwise or that don't even invite me on their birthdays. Why spend the money and time and make the effort of organising a party for fake friends? It is better this way, yet I am sad. The pandemic showed me the real face of the people. If they don't gain something from me, they don't care how I am. Well. good to know, I guess.
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Great_Western
Birthdays are so fun as a child, yet it gets depressing when you become an older teenager, like at 15 and above. Because you have exams, your parents refusing to make your birthday the way you want, for example if you don't want your parents shouting happy birthday they'll scream it at your face with unnecessary enthusiasm, and not caring about your boundaries, and making you think as if your birthday isn't actually yours.
Im not socially awkward, but my 15th and 16th (now) have been very depressing.
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Birthdays are so fun as a child, yet it gets depressing when you become an older teenager, like at 15 and above. Because you have exams, your parents refusing to make your birthday the way you want, for example if you don't want your parents shouting happy birthday they'll scream it at your face with unnecessary enthusiasm, and not caring about your boundaries, and making you think as if your birthday isn't actually yours.
Im not socially awkward, but my 15th and 16th (now) have been very depressing.
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dies
happy birthday!
if you're feeling sad because no one wished you one, happy birthday to you!
if you're feeling worthless because you wasted an entire year, don't waste this one too!
if you feel inferior to other people's success at your age, remember that you made it this far and that you can accomplish a lot starting now!
if you feel like the entire idea of a birthday is pointless now, just remember that your life does matter, and should be celebrated, even if its just by me! :D
happy birthday!
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happy birthday!
if you're feeling sad because no one wished you one, happy birthday to you!
if you're feeling worthless because you wasted an entire year, don't waste this one too!
if you feel inferior to other people's success at your age, remember that you made it this far and that you can accomplish a lot starting now!
if you feel like the entire idea of a birthday is pointless now, just remember that your life does matter, and should be celebrated, even if its just by me! :D
happy birthday!
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gayratweddings
my 21st birthday is tomorrow (february 4th) and im spending it completely alone. i dont have any friends here in college because I spend all my time studying and never really socialize so im just gonna be alone. im trying to make it special for myself since its the big milestone of the 21st birthday but idk it just makes me really sad that im just gonna be alone in my dorm room with a little cake from walmart i bought myself. anyway, thats my little sad rant. im gonna try and have fun anyway: )
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my 21st birthday is tomorrow (february 4th) and im spending it completely alone. i dont have any friends here in college because I spend all my time studying and never really socialize so im just gonna be alone. im trying to make it special for myself since its the big milestone of the 21st birthday but idk it just makes me really sad that im just gonna be alone in my dorm room with a little cake from walmart i bought myself. anyway, thats my little sad rant. im gonna try and have fun anyway: )
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adiroots
Birthdays can be hard. A few years ago, I decided instead of sitting inside thinking how some close friends who I usually reach on to on their birthday might have forgotten me etc, I decided going forward I will make sure I do something for myself. So far, I've done 3 solo trips and I keep busy by having excursions planned, exploring a new place or doing something in Nature. I use it as a time to reconnect with myself and as a people pleaser, it's a time I can do what every I want.
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Birthdays can be hard. A few years ago, I decided instead of sitting inside thinking how some close friends who I usually reach on to on their birthday might have forgotten me etc, I decided going forward I will make sure I do something for myself. So far, I've done 3 solo trips and I keep busy by having excursions planned, exploring a new place or doing something in Nature. I use it as a time to reconnect with myself and as a people pleaser, it's a time I can do what every I want.
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SleepyTraxy
Today is my birthday, yet I wonder why today, It comes this early, even wish my birthday is 29th Feb so I only need to celebrate once every 4 years
I just. don't care, don't want to celebrate or be celebrated, have nothing to do, it's like a normal day for me
One of the biggest worry is that I am aging, not a teenager anymore. (20. I think, my teenage years end today, and I am 1 year less of life.
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Today is my birthday, yet I wonder why today, It comes this early, even wish my birthday is 29th Feb so I only need to celebrate once every 4 years
I just. don't care, don't want to celebrate or be celebrated, have nothing to do, it's like a normal day for me
One of the biggest worry is that I am aging, not a teenager anymore. (20. I think, my teenage years end today, and I am 1 year less of life.
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that
I will getting older on Christmas eve. nobody come to celebrate cz absolutely they will going back to theirs family, while I surrounded by toxic parents and always get broken hearts after xmast. furthermore 5 years past was the hardest life, got fired and can't get any jobs. that's why I cry for 5 years past. and today I was sick. I hope everything get better
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I will getting older on Christmas eve. nobody come to celebrate cz absolutely they will going back to theirs family, while I surrounded by toxic parents and always get broken hearts after xmast. furthermore 5 years past was the hardest life, got fired and can't get any jobs. that's why I cry for 5 years past. and today I was sick. I hope everything get better
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Luden
The only thing that makes ne sad is that I thought I had friends and the more I think about it, they really arent friends since I try hanging out but cancel plans and hang other days without inviting. Not saying they should, but I feel left out and unwanted. I just miss having a friend group, i miss having a best friend.
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The only thing that makes ne sad is that I thought I had friends and the more I think about it, they really arent friends since I try hanging out but cancel plans and hang other days without inviting. Not saying they should, but I feel left out and unwanted. I just miss having a friend group, i miss having a best friend.
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Mugdha
It's my birthday today. I didn't thought it'll be this depressing. It's literally 12: 15 but I'm still sad. I just wish I had friends. I have got zero wishes till now, not even my mom or sister has wished me. I'm not even celebrating my birthday. Just another day to remind me that I'm lonely and have no friends.
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It's my birthday today. I didn't thought it'll be this depressing. It's literally 12: 15 but I'm still sad. I just wish I had friends. I have got zero wishes till now, not even my mom or sister has wished me. I'm not even celebrating my birthday. Just another day to remind me that I'm lonely and have no friends.
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Brandon
Today is my 26th bday and i havent felt this defeated in awhile. Pretty much woke up crying at the realization of what today was and all i want to do is sleep through it. I feel like its only a reminder of what little ive done and how crappy of a person ive become. I hope things change by my 27th.
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Today is my 26th bday and i havent felt this defeated in awhile. Pretty much woke up crying at the realization of what today was and all i want to do is sleep through it. I feel like its only a reminder of what little ive done and how crappy of a person ive become. I hope things change by my 27th.
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Kasey
My birthday is a month out and Im already dreading it every year its a grief-filled day. Really working on celebrating myself this year instead of being reminded of how alone I am. Ah its just depressing lighting your own birthday candles though. I wish we could just skip the day
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My birthday is a month out and Im already dreading it every year its a grief-filled day. Really working on celebrating myself this year instead of being reminded of how alone I am. Ah its just depressing lighting your own birthday candles though. I wish we could just skip the day
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hannah
thank you for these ill try it next year lol Ive had bad memories on my birthday since 3 years ago thats why everytime it comes I just dont have the energy for it like rn its actually my bday and i feel lonely and sad lol. the sadness just comes and I just want the day to end.
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thank you for these ill try it next year lol Ive had bad memories on my birthday since 3 years ago thats why everytime it comes I just dont have the energy for it like rn its actually my bday and i feel lonely and sad lol. the sadness just comes and I just want the day to end.
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Oh
My bday today I havent celebrated in years and last year one of my friends didnt wish me a happy bday and said I wouldnt appreciate it which hurt. Put my phone on do not disturb as I dont want like 2 family friends calling. They always cry on the phone to me which depresses me.
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My bday today I havent celebrated in years and last year one of my friends didnt wish me a happy bday and said I wouldnt appreciate it which hurt. Put my phone on do not disturb as I dont want like 2 family friends calling. They always cry on the phone to me which depresses me.
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tokyo
Literally expirencing this for thr first time and also for the first time hate my birthday. Yet i wanted to love today but I just couldn't even though I appreciated the stuff I got. Felt numb throughout the day and my friend had ti help cheer me up
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Literally expirencing this for thr first time and also for the first time hate my birthday. Yet i wanted to love today but I just couldn't even though I appreciated the stuff I got. Felt numb throughout the day and my friend had ti help cheer me up
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zero
its my birthday today and im highkey having a meltdown over it, especially as a lot of chaos is going on in my family and neither them or my friends are going to be celebrating me at all this year, so its not a fun day to deal with alone
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its my birthday today and im highkey having a meltdown over it, especially as a lot of chaos is going on in my family and neither them or my friends are going to be celebrating me at all this year, so its not a fun day to deal with alone
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Blehh
Ive always had a birthday crying stream its been going for 6-7 years today is my birthday and I really thought I was going to break the streak but now Im sad Im wasting a day thats supposed to be all about me and yet I feel so alone
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Ive always had a birthday crying stream its been going for 6-7 years today is my birthday and I really thought I was going to break the streak but now Im sad Im wasting a day thats supposed to be all about me and yet I feel so alone
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Kishinuma
Heh. tomorrow is the day (in less than 2 mor ehours, actually) and idk why I feel really sad. I dont really. want or expect anything. but that day just sucks and makes me cry everytime out of no apparent reason
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Heh. tomorrow is the day (in less than 2 mor ehours, actually) and idk why I feel really sad. I dont really. want or expect anything. but that day just sucks and makes me cry everytime out of no apparent reason
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Chris
Went through a lot of trauma growing up on birthdays. Even today I turn 28, and I still get those old feelings creeping up into my mind. Its def not easy, but remember everything youve been through thus far!
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Went through a lot of trauma growing up on birthdays. Even today I turn 28, and I still get those old feelings creeping up into my mind. Its def not easy, but remember everything youve been through thus far!
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youngShiva.
My birthday is in just a few weeks and it really hit me how lonely I am. I really have nobody to confide in or any close relationships.
And maybe those are the best reasons to spend it by myself.
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My birthday is in just a few weeks and it really hit me how lonely I am. I really have nobody to confide in or any close relationships.
And maybe those are the best reasons to spend it by myself.
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Shadow
I needed this bc Im not rlly friends with the ppl I was close to my whole life and I probably wont be celebrating with them this year. I feel like they will all forget abt my bday and Ill feel lonely
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I needed this bc Im not rlly friends with the ppl I was close to my whole life and I probably wont be celebrating with them this year. I feel like they will all forget abt my bday and Ill feel lonely
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