6 Ways To Be More Charismatic (Yet Still Be YOU)
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Remnator
0: 55 born leaders. Can you imagine, at the moment you open your eyes for the first time outside of your mom's belly, belonging to either the leader category or not?
They are no born leaders, from the early childhood to who we are today, experiences we live, familial and cultural environments, our personal development and habit building, and most of all, observation and critical spirit, how we evolve and decide to evolve, are factors that play a role in the equation of becoming charismatic.
Either psychological or physical (although we cannot really put a border between these two, can we? More as a whole system that we are, aren't we, what you live and how you (choose to) develop will help you becoming a leader.
Another point: you may not be a leader in all fields, in all environments and cultures, with everybody.
Then, how do we connect and adapt to a group or a culture, by being born, or by experiencing and living?
Last point: if becoming a leader would only about being a born leader, and sorry for the others, will this video exist, will this video be useful for people who desire to EVOLVE and develop?
BOTTOM LINE: people should maybe stop using that expression, that is none just not accurate, but segregating people into categories, with a philosophical point of view that is outdated since 1700.
PS: in an academic or political context, with such a comment and accurately using confidence and communication, I may have my chances to stand out and be charismatic. However, in a Football team, will it still be the case? Probably not. Stop speaking and play Dude! Players would doubtlessly say.
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0: 55 born leaders. Can you imagine, at the moment you open your eyes for the first time outside of your mom's belly, belonging to either the leader category or not?
They are no born leaders, from the early childhood to who we are today, experiences we live, familial and cultural environments, our personal development and habit building, and most of all, observation and critical spirit, how we evolve and decide to evolve, are factors that play a role in the equation of becoming charismatic.
Either psychological or physical (although we cannot really put a border between these two, can we? More as a whole system that we are, aren't we, what you live and how you (choose to) develop will help you becoming a leader.
Another point: you may not be a leader in all fields, in all environments and cultures, with everybody.
Then, how do we connect and adapt to a group or a culture, by being born, or by experiencing and living?
Last point: if becoming a leader would only about being a born leader, and sorry for the others, will this video exist, will this video be useful for people who desire to EVOLVE and develop?
BOTTOM LINE: people should maybe stop using that expression, that is none just not accurate, but segregating people into categories, with a philosophical point of view that is outdated since 1700.
PS: in an academic or political context, with such a comment and accurately using confidence and communication, I may have my chances to stand out and be charismatic. However, in a Football team, will it still be the case? Probably not. Stop speaking and play Dude! Players would doubtlessly say.
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hybrid8theory
I'm here because I notice that for the longest time I am always the person picked last. I'm the person that people love clown on or hate immediately. I'm the person that when put in a group no one wants to work with me God forbid they put me in charge.
I seem to always get the comment of you're not fun have fun more, and don't take things personal. Then when I have more fun people are like you're so immature, or they get pissed or turned off by whatever it is I'm saying. I'm a true catch 22.
I am not quit witted at all. I'm the slowest witted person so there's that.
When I don't know what to say people take that as sensitive or mean rude.
Secondly I don't have interesting stories to tell if I did no one would listen they would immediately eye roll and find a way to go clique up with their real friends.
I have never been in a clique. I'm always the person who the loner that no one wants to hang out or be around. Seeking advice or help
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I'm here because I notice that for the longest time I am always the person picked last. I'm the person that people love clown on or hate immediately. I'm the person that when put in a group no one wants to work with me God forbid they put me in charge.
I seem to always get the comment of you're not fun have fun more, and don't take things personal. Then when I have more fun people are like you're so immature, or they get pissed or turned off by whatever it is I'm saying. I'm a true catch 22.
I am not quit witted at all. I'm the slowest witted person so there's that.
When I don't know what to say people take that as sensitive or mean rude.
Secondly I don't have interesting stories to tell if I did no one would listen they would immediately eye roll and find a way to go clique up with their real friends.
I have never been in a clique. I'm always the person who the loner that no one wants to hang out or be around. Seeking advice or help
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Bobbi
1- set a playful tone: make an energetic and enthusiastic and positive first impression
2- have some funny, short, good stories on hand. Be confident & animated, use present tense with dynamic voices and utilize well-placed pauses.
3- be quick-witted. Think fast on your feet and look for a opening to engage in banter with people
4- BE REAL. Stay Genuine, open, and polite. Steer clear from politics/religion/divisive subjects.
5-SMIZE; Open body posture, lean in, nod, make eye contact, mimic their movements. Be likable and a GOOD listener. Ask deeper and open-ended questions. Be genuinely interested in learning more about them. Always remember, PEOPLE LOVE TALKING ABOUT THEMSELVES!
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1- set a playful tone: make an energetic and enthusiastic and positive first impression
2- have some funny, short, good stories on hand. Be confident & animated, use present tense with dynamic voices and utilize well-placed pauses.
3- be quick-witted. Think fast on your feet and look for a opening to engage in banter with people
4- BE REAL. Stay Genuine, open, and polite. Steer clear from politics/religion/divisive subjects.
5-SMIZE; Open body posture, lean in, nod, make eye contact, mimic their movements. Be likable and a GOOD listener. Ask deeper and open-ended questions. Be genuinely interested in learning more about them. Always remember, PEOPLE LOVE TALKING ABOUT THEMSELVES!
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gianna
ive been having a hard time at school this week, im an extrovert and love talking with people, but i dont have many friends, i do have anxiety which makes it a little harder to interact some times. i just played the sims today and my sim had the charismatic skill, it made me think about how i dont have a lot of charisma and which is probably why i dont have friends. its the 3rd week of school already and i have already made some first impressions, but im determined to build my charisma up and lower my anxiety, i hope my journey will be great
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ive been having a hard time at school this week, im an extrovert and love talking with people, but i dont have many friends, i do have anxiety which makes it a little harder to interact some times. i just played the sims today and my sim had the charismatic skill, it made me think about how i dont have a lot of charisma and which is probably why i dont have friends. its the 3rd week of school already and i have already made some first impressions, but im determined to build my charisma up and lower my anxiety, i hope my journey will be great
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Caroline
It sounds exhausting and attention seeking! Im an introvert and prefer to focus on having a conversation with someone likeminded as its more enjoyable to me. Hopefully we can share something and learn something and come away feeling like I have had a genuine connection with another human being
Being magnetic sounds like you are just there to act like some kind of clown to draw crowds and entertain people and then what? Every time you meet them they will expect a repeat performance? Way too much effort for me
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It sounds exhausting and attention seeking! Im an introvert and prefer to focus on having a conversation with someone likeminded as its more enjoyable to me. Hopefully we can share something and learn something and come away feeling like I have had a genuine connection with another human being
Being magnetic sounds like you are just there to act like some kind of clown to draw crowds and entertain people and then what? Every time you meet them they will expect a repeat performance? Way too much effort for me
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Vehement.
All of those things arent necessarily easy to change and youd be changing yourself along the way. Humor and playfulness only goes so far, you have to think it, prepare only be quick enough to think it. However, Id much rather focus on what the other person tells me. I find it draining when people spend their time relaxing the atmosphere it makes it seem like youll never get close and that theyre really shallow emotionally and intellectually.
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All of those things arent necessarily easy to change and youd be changing yourself along the way. Humor and playfulness only goes so far, you have to think it, prepare only be quick enough to think it. However, Id much rather focus on what the other person tells me. I find it draining when people spend their time relaxing the atmosphere it makes it seem like youll never get close and that theyre really shallow emotionally and intellectually.
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Darijan
If someone has any advice on how to turn it off on demand. Please let me know. It's really a magical thing. I can draw anybody or anything on myself. Woman mostly, most of the animals too. What i'm told mostly is being very warm, iressistibly attractive and more. I'm full of interesting stories. I'd say more, smile from or with the heart, not only eyes. I'm born this way, but i wasn't being aware of it at all.
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If someone has any advice on how to turn it off on demand. Please let me know. It's really a magical thing. I can draw anybody or anything on myself. Woman mostly, most of the animals too. What i'm told mostly is being very warm, iressistibly attractive and more. I'm full of interesting stories. I'd say more, smile from or with the heart, not only eyes. I'm born this way, but i wasn't being aware of it at all.
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TvT
Tbh even if i tried to apply these tips on my personality it wouldn't work. Im an introverted person since birth, but lately i mean 2 yrs ago I realized i have to be more opened up socially so u can have more friends, especially truthful ones. I can remember that whenever i try to be extravert i get ignored or seem awkward and fake lmao.
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Tbh even if i tried to apply these tips on my personality it wouldn't work. Im an introverted person since birth, but lately i mean 2 yrs ago I realized i have to be more opened up socially so u can have more friends, especially truthful ones. I can remember that whenever i try to be extravert i get ignored or seem awkward and fake lmao.
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evanlgarcia
Just wanted to say this is literally me minus the confidence part but if I build that up which Im working on itll be awesome being charismatic is a great thing but not a lot of people like it then again it depends on the person but you can definitely connect with a lot of people through charisma
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Just wanted to say this is literally me minus the confidence part but if I build that up which Im working on itll be awesome being charismatic is a great thing but not a lot of people like it then again it depends on the person but you can definitely connect with a lot of people through charisma
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Supersnow
I am charismatic according to the points mentioned in this video but I still have difficulty to talk to some people. They dont like me receiving the attention. They want themselves to receive all the attention. I guess I tried my best. That is life.
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I am charismatic according to the points mentioned in this video but I still have difficulty to talk to some people. They dont like me receiving the attention. They want themselves to receive all the attention. I guess I tried my best. That is life.
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Paul
Great tips and this is unrelated but damn, why is your voice so soothing? I thought I had stumbled onto top tier ASMR artist haha. Has anyone ever told you to go into voice acting or voice overring? you have a perfect voice for it.
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Great tips and this is unrelated but damn, why is your voice so soothing? I thought I had stumbled onto top tier ASMR artist haha. Has anyone ever told you to go into voice acting or voice overring? you have a perfect voice for it.
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TechNiKal408
This is a hardware problem not a software problem.
You're not going to rewire yourself into somone likeable.
You're shit and you're always going to be shit.
To whom ever needed to hear that.
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This is a hardware problem not a software problem.
You're not going to rewire yourself into somone likeable.
You're shit and you're always going to be shit.
To whom ever needed to hear that.
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Samskelly
Im a social introvert. I can be sort of charismatic and really understanding to others but it sucks when I have to explain to them that Im running low on social battery and that its not their fault xD
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Im a social introvert. I can be sort of charismatic and really understanding to others but it sucks when I have to explain to them that Im running low on social battery and that its not their fault xD
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Za
In my school i was the most popular for some reason i didnt do anything i was literally just My self maybe thats why but after every day i come late i enter not my class but the hallway to say Dojyaaaaaaan
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In my school i was the most popular for some reason i didnt do anything i was literally just My self maybe thats why but after every day i come late i enter not my class but the hallway to say Dojyaaaaaaan
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Whamtastic
I've always been told I was charming and all that and I think I am to but my ocd is telling me im not and it's hurting my feelings because I would love to be known even I leave that I was charming
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I've always been told I was charming and all that and I think I am to but my ocd is telling me im not and it's hurting my feelings because I would love to be known even I leave that I was charming
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Chris.
Is this why everybody likes my aunt? I mean like shes so charismatic and has a sense of humour, makes everyone laugh with her jokes and stories. Shes just my fav auntie since i was born!
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Is this why everybody likes my aunt? I mean like shes so charismatic and has a sense of humour, makes everyone laugh with her jokes and stories. Shes just my fav auntie since i was born!
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psych2go
Salience is Charisma. Enthusiasm is salient. Attentive listening is salient. Confidence is salient. Hotness, Intelligence, Communication skills, eye contact, smile all are salient.
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Salience is Charisma. Enthusiasm is salient. Attentive listening is salient. Confidence is salient. Hotness, Intelligence, Communication skills, eye contact, smile all are salient.
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Joe
Why is a dangerous question. Better to ask what and how. Why often gives off the idea that you are judging them(ex why did you do that? better to ask, and how did that make you feel)
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Why is a dangerous question. Better to ask what and how. Why often gives off the idea that you are judging them(ex why did you do that? better to ask, and how did that make you feel)
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Mutsaka
They have mistaken me to be a rapist and murderer because I always stare in the ceiling and wall, they don't realize I'm painfully shy but good hearted introvert.
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They have mistaken me to be a rapist and murderer because I always stare in the ceiling and wall, they don't realize I'm painfully shy but good hearted introvert.
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HHazard
Id be more charismatic if my affect wasnt as flat. I think thats my only downfall. I always know what to say/when to say it but when I say it, it sounds so fake.
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Id be more charismatic if my affect wasnt as flat. I think thats my only downfall. I always know what to say/when to say it but when I say it, it sounds so fake.
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Danica
I can't tell if I'm charismatic or nah cause I keep mirroring someone's personality but I'm not faking it, I just unintentionally mirroring how they talk.
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I can't tell if I'm charismatic or nah cause I keep mirroring someone's personality but I'm not faking it, I just unintentionally mirroring how they talk.
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PaintingMeJosh
Thanks! I was trying to research how to write a charismatic character for a book, and found this video. I think these tips will help me a lot!
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Thanks! I was trying to research how to write a charismatic character for a book, and found this video. I think these tips will help me a lot!
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Cheep
My dad said that all his past co-workers who met me have told him that if I was a dnd character, Id be very high on my charisma. :)
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My dad said that all his past co-workers who met me have told him that if I was a dnd character, Id be very high on my charisma. :)
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Winning
Good stuff. One of the simplest ways to raise charisma is to have a great workout. The mood boost and energy really up charisma.
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Good stuff. One of the simplest ways to raise charisma is to have a great workout. The mood boost and energy really up charisma.
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BLM
Did it but there wasn't any new dialogue option, i think i should have have sacrified a point of Perception for Charisma
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Did it but there wasn't any new dialogue option, i think i should have have sacrified a point of Perception for Charisma
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