4 Types of Trauma & How It Impacts Your Relationship
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Date: 2023-08-20
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I remember when my classmate's father said I look like a beggar (because my mom hit me and scolded me before we went to their house and I have to act like nothing happened) and he was laughing at me and my mom said nothing to defend me.
I remember when I was 12 yrs old, I am so tired of hearing from people that I am fat. I told my sister, brother and a cousin (who were younger than me) that we will create a group (we call it phoenix. something) and as a group we are supposed to protect each other. I even made us an ID, we pinned it on our shirt when we went outside once and then there were group of kids teasing me and no one from my group said something to defend me. So, I got mad and disband our group. That day I accepted that no one will defend me.
During my elementary days, I joined a musical play, I played as one of the step sister in the Cinderella. I was just done changing into my pink gown and I felt pretty cause it was my first time wearing a gown. I walked back to our room to join my co-actors and I passed by two boy scouts in our school and they called me fat. They were boy scouts, I didn't know they'd be teasing me too. They are even wearing their uniforms.
I had a lot of experiences where in I got embarrassed but the people whom I thought will defend me did nothing.
and now, I am 30 yrs old. I am still messed up. I still feel alone. I still feel like I need to watch my own back because no one else will. and no one will even try to understand.
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I remember when my classmate's father said I look like a beggar (because my mom hit me and scolded me before we went to their house and I have to act like nothing happened) and he was laughing at me and my mom said nothing to defend me.
I remember when I was 12 yrs old, I am so tired of hearing from people that I am fat. I told my sister, brother and a cousin (who were younger than me) that we will create a group (we call it phoenix. something) and as a group we are supposed to protect each other. I even made us an ID, we pinned it on our shirt when we went outside once and then there were group of kids teasing me and no one from my group said something to defend me. So, I got mad and disband our group. That day I accepted that no one will defend me.
During my elementary days, I joined a musical play, I played as one of the step sister in the Cinderella. I was just done changing into my pink gown and I felt pretty cause it was my first time wearing a gown. I walked back to our room to join my co-actors and I passed by two boy scouts in our school and they called me fat. They were boy scouts, I didn't know they'd be teasing me too. They are even wearing their uniforms.
I had a lot of experiences where in I got embarrassed but the people whom I thought will defend me did nothing.
and now, I am 30 yrs old. I am still messed up. I still feel alone. I still feel like I need to watch my own back because no one else will. and no one will even try to understand.
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Christine
Whats the Trauma of being unable to love anybody? I never had any relationship because i wont know how this concpet is working. You feel nothing. i have a bit from everything.
Not so much abusement from Parents but from Abussive Violence in School and lack of Care of my needs at home. It wasnt this bad and felt loved, but nobody really allowed me to have emotions. I had allways controll myself Problems pulled under a Rug. it was the world of my dad. The Abusive behavior becaume worse when became adult and had no clue they gaslighed me my entire Life. Showing they bad faces since i now longer play rules. It sucks never ahd any help because i got told theres no help for me. and have been simply too lazy to look with me for it. The thown all the stuff that is no fun at me i have to carry so much burden and preasure alone. I simply cant fail, nobody is there who cares anymore. Being in a emotional abussive family who thins this is fully ok to do this with me, makes it mor harder esp. when you burned out, chronic depressed and in the ASD. doing all on your own because you learned it this Way that they dont care about your needs and i should stop being a chicken or i just ajust to them. My dad has never accepted my not so special needs instead he tortures me for his fun. Loud noisy places loud car etc. To give me hell as much he can to feel superior when need to beg for something.
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Whats the Trauma of being unable to love anybody? I never had any relationship because i wont know how this concpet is working. You feel nothing. i have a bit from everything.
Not so much abusement from Parents but from Abussive Violence in School and lack of Care of my needs at home. It wasnt this bad and felt loved, but nobody really allowed me to have emotions. I had allways controll myself Problems pulled under a Rug. it was the world of my dad. The Abusive behavior becaume worse when became adult and had no clue they gaslighed me my entire Life. Showing they bad faces since i now longer play rules. It sucks never ahd any help because i got told theres no help for me. and have been simply too lazy to look with me for it. The thown all the stuff that is no fun at me i have to carry so much burden and preasure alone. I simply cant fail, nobody is there who cares anymore. Being in a emotional abussive family who thins this is fully ok to do this with me, makes it mor harder esp. when you burned out, chronic depressed and in the ASD. doing all on your own because you learned it this Way that they dont care about your needs and i should stop being a chicken or i just ajust to them. My dad has never accepted my not so special needs instead he tortures me for his fun. Loud noisy places loud car etc. To give me hell as much he can to feel superior when need to beg for something.
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Amlie. is. drawing
someone help me, my parents used to not like eachother very much (i wont go too deep in it because i dont wanna talk about it) and it left some sort of trauma upon me. i show some signs of ptsd (mostly flinching) but im really confused about whats wrong with me. my parents never hurt me and tried to spend as much time with me as possible, theyd always ask if i felt not loved or if they should spend more time with me. its just the fights they had, everytime my parents come even close to touching me i flinch away, i started doing that a couple of weeks ago and idk why, everytime i hear my parents do something it sounds like fighting or crying and i start overthinking it, i most of the time end up sobbing and scared. someone help, whats wrong with me
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someone help me, my parents used to not like eachother very much (i wont go too deep in it because i dont wanna talk about it) and it left some sort of trauma upon me. i show some signs of ptsd (mostly flinching) but im really confused about whats wrong with me. my parents never hurt me and tried to spend as much time with me as possible, theyd always ask if i felt not loved or if they should spend more time with me. its just the fights they had, everytime my parents come even close to touching me i flinch away, i started doing that a couple of weeks ago and idk why, everytime i hear my parents do something it sounds like fighting or crying and i start overthinking it, i most of the time end up sobbing and scared. someone help, whats wrong with me
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furryoftheyear
i didnt even experience rejection in my childhood and all i think about is that i have to make someone happy for me to be valid. i do find rejection as proof that im not worthy. i jump to conclusions faster than light. when someone even misses a message or misinterprets what i say, i usually almost overthink myself into a panic attack. if people ignore my messages, it becomes all i think about for the day. my mood depends entirely on what other people seem to think of me, and someone telling me something even slightly positive or negative can both easily put me in tears. i feel invisible to myself, like i only exist if people say i do. and im only scratching the surface here. i wish i could still see myself as a person.
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i didnt even experience rejection in my childhood and all i think about is that i have to make someone happy for me to be valid. i do find rejection as proof that im not worthy. i jump to conclusions faster than light. when someone even misses a message or misinterprets what i say, i usually almost overthink myself into a panic attack. if people ignore my messages, it becomes all i think about for the day. my mood depends entirely on what other people seem to think of me, and someone telling me something even slightly positive or negative can both easily put me in tears. i feel invisible to myself, like i only exist if people say i do. and im only scratching the surface here. i wish i could still see myself as a person.
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Screaming
A lot of these can also be applied to friendships. The abandonment isnt just parents leaving their kids behind, its friends ditching friends. Its people turning you into a third wheel that ultimately breaks away. Its people only talking to you because youre in the same class, not because they like you.
Its people erasing you from their existence and denying you ever played a major part.
This can go hand in hand with the pleasure love style because you dont want them to leave. Youll change yourself and youll do everything if it means they dont leave you. Its doing everything to avoid conflict because you think that if they get mad at you, that youre not worthy of their love and attention.
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A lot of these can also be applied to friendships. The abandonment isnt just parents leaving their kids behind, its friends ditching friends. Its people turning you into a third wheel that ultimately breaks away. Its people only talking to you because youre in the same class, not because they like you.
Its people erasing you from their existence and denying you ever played a major part.
This can go hand in hand with the pleasure love style because you dont want them to leave. Youll change yourself and youll do everything if it means they dont leave you. Its doing everything to avoid conflict because you think that if they get mad at you, that youre not worthy of their love and attention.
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education
5: 07
No. because ive always know that I had some type of trauma in my childhood but never been able to remember anything about it.
I know because I remember something happened, I know it was a memory I had at one point long ago, and I know adults in my life have mentioned it as well, yet I have no recollection of what happened or even what it was about and no matter how hard I try i just can't remember it.
That also goes along with the it often continues in present life, with the fact that someone could do something terrible or abusive to me and ill be mad, but I can never stay mad and seem to just pass it off and forget about it altogether.
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5: 07
No. because ive always know that I had some type of trauma in my childhood but never been able to remember anything about it.
I know because I remember something happened, I know it was a memory I had at one point long ago, and I know adults in my life have mentioned it as well, yet I have no recollection of what happened or even what it was about and no matter how hard I try i just can't remember it.
That also goes along with the it often continues in present life, with the fact that someone could do something terrible or abusive to me and ill be mad, but I can never stay mad and seem to just pass it off and forget about it altogether.
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pustelnica
Abandonment trauma hit too close home. I mean I always knew I had that because my mom left me when I was 6 but I never got into any relationship. One of many reasons was fear of rejection and being vulnerable, I was afraid how my mental health and traumas would affect me. I'm in talking stage with a guy and you perfectly described how I'm feeling. I feel like I'm self sabotaging myself because I'm so afraid I'm going to be like my mother in relationship and I don't think I deserve someone like him and at the same time I'm already scared he's gonna leave. I'm really thinking whether I have bpd because it's really getting into my head lmao
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Abandonment trauma hit too close home. I mean I always knew I had that because my mom left me when I was 6 but I never got into any relationship. One of many reasons was fear of rejection and being vulnerable, I was afraid how my mental health and traumas would affect me. I'm in talking stage with a guy and you perfectly described how I'm feeling. I feel like I'm self sabotaging myself because I'm so afraid I'm going to be like my mother in relationship and I don't think I deserve someone like him and at the same time I'm already scared he's gonna leave. I'm really thinking whether I have bpd because it's really getting into my head lmao
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LifeofPee
Ik i have my fair share of issues and problems by never bringing them up or talking about
Its just so hard to but i do sometimes
Im usually at a point where I feel its just my partner that deserves to be okay and not me so Ill keep on a face or happy face
Growing up I never complained, did what I was told kept it all in
In my ex-relationship same happened
i sulked most of time
I do this its good
I do that its not good
Him complaining about almost everything and keeping score I dont even know how to behave anymore or see myself as a whole
Its exhausting for me too
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Ik i have my fair share of issues and problems by never bringing them up or talking about
Its just so hard to but i do sometimes
Im usually at a point where I feel its just my partner that deserves to be okay and not me so Ill keep on a face or happy face
Growing up I never complained, did what I was told kept it all in
In my ex-relationship same happened
i sulked most of time
I do this its good
I do that its not good
Him complaining about almost everything and keeping score I dont even know how to behave anymore or see myself as a whole
Its exhausting for me too
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Miriam
sadly, i have suffered from two kind of these childhood traumas and mi friendship and romantic relationships are, during crisis, chaotic, even sometimes when i'm not in a crisis i act like someone i don't feel represented at all. i am in a psychological treatment but i feel like i'm getting worse and my personality disorder is going out of control. these kind of videos make me feel like I'm not the only one out there, like there's has to be a slightly better version of myself and I'm not alone.
thank you so much.
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sadly, i have suffered from two kind of these childhood traumas and mi friendship and romantic relationships are, during crisis, chaotic, even sometimes when i'm not in a crisis i act like someone i don't feel represented at all. i am in a psychological treatment but i feel like i'm getting worse and my personality disorder is going out of control. these kind of videos make me feel like I'm not the only one out there, like there's has to be a slightly better version of myself and I'm not alone.
thank you so much.
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Scarlett
Some seems to relatable with my childhood but the last one is def smth I can relate 100%, idk if my parents say those mock words just for us to laugh bout or they just wanna have fun mocking me. It really did affected me to this day now tbh, I acted so harshly on my ex-bf when he found out bout my things and I didnt mean to came out as abusive. I was ashamed of myself and I lost someone I love more than anything in the world. I'm trying to get better atm but dang, it's so hard to move on from the past.
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Some seems to relatable with my childhood but the last one is def smth I can relate 100%, idk if my parents say those mock words just for us to laugh bout or they just wanna have fun mocking me. It really did affected me to this day now tbh, I acted so harshly on my ex-bf when he found out bout my things and I didnt mean to came out as abusive. I was ashamed of myself and I lost someone I love more than anything in the world. I'm trying to get better atm but dang, it's so hard to move on from the past.
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MacyPooh196
I fear rejection so much because my dad abandoned me. If I have a crush on someone, I assume they dont like me, even if its obvious that they do. Then Im paranoid that they might like someone else more once they see someone better. I constantly fear that I wont ever be enough but I crave intimacy and love. But I feel like its safer to just be alone. People not liking me back just confirms that Im unlovable and I cant go through that rejection.
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I fear rejection so much because my dad abandoned me. If I have a crush on someone, I assume they dont like me, even if its obvious that they do. Then Im paranoid that they might like someone else more once they see someone better. I constantly fear that I wont ever be enough but I crave intimacy and love. But I feel like its safer to just be alone. People not liking me back just confirms that Im unlovable and I cant go through that rejection.
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Bridgette
Is it possible to be all? I grew up in an alcoholic and abusive (physically and verbally) household. I realized that I in my last relationship I did a lot of things I didn't like (people pleaser) and felt shame when I did things that brought me happiness. I am not like that anymore, or trying to be at least, going into counseling and these videos really help me bring awareness to my behaviors and things I want to change. Thanks Psycho2Go!
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Is it possible to be all? I grew up in an alcoholic and abusive (physically and verbally) household. I realized that I in my last relationship I did a lot of things I didn't like (people pleaser) and felt shame when I did things that brought me happiness. I am not like that anymore, or trying to be at least, going into counseling and these videos really help me bring awareness to my behaviors and things I want to change. Thanks Psycho2Go!
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Kourosh
Not many people find out what is wrong with them through out their lives and what they should do.
Not everyone is a psychologist.
Even psychologists have anger and childhood problems they can't solve.
All I know that The best way to heal is just to let go, what ever this means for you!
Just forget and forgive. Act like a bigger person.
Fake it until you make it
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Not many people find out what is wrong with them through out their lives and what they should do.
Not everyone is a psychologist.
Even psychologists have anger and childhood problems they can't solve.
All I know that The best way to heal is just to let go, what ever this means for you!
Just forget and forgive. Act like a bigger person.
Fake it until you make it
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nour
Is it even possible to experience 4 types of trauma responses at the same time? I feel like i relate to all of them in many aspects of my life? but then what now? i did seek therapy, took meds, but i still feel the same way about myself and the people around me, does it ever get better? and how to move forward with my life? how to relay on healthy coping mechanisms?
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Is it even possible to experience 4 types of trauma responses at the same time? I feel like i relate to all of them in many aspects of my life? but then what now? i did seek therapy, took meds, but i still feel the same way about myself and the people around me, does it ever get better? and how to move forward with my life? how to relay on healthy coping mechanisms?
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Tiberiansam
I sadly have all of those as well and they came from a mix of growing up in a cult (Mormons, my parents (to some degree) and school.
School and especially the Mormon cult, where I got shamed plenty for being a free thinking spirit and was shunned by most people, including a big part of my family who is still in it, up to this day.
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I sadly have all of those as well and they came from a mix of growing up in a cult (Mormons, my parents (to some degree) and school.
School and especially the Mormon cult, where I got shamed plenty for being a free thinking spirit and was shunned by most people, including a big part of my family who is still in it, up to this day.
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Fiiuslair
The rejection one is so relatable to me, I often just expect people to hate me and to eventually reject me so I very rarely approach people. And the worst is taking small things personally. It's something I wanna work on since taking small things personally is a very toxic trait that I'm not comfy with.
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The rejection one is so relatable to me, I often just expect people to hate me and to eventually reject me so I very rarely approach people. And the worst is taking small things personally. It's something I wanna work on since taking small things personally is a very toxic trait that I'm not comfy with.
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Ozzy.
Im not sure what type of trauma I have but I have a deep fear of romantic relationships. I am 22 years old and have been single my entire life because the idea of being intimate with someone deeply frightens me. I tend to avoid any possible romantic situations with women.
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Im not sure what type of trauma I have but I have a deep fear of romantic relationships. I am 22 years old and have been single my entire life because the idea of being intimate with someone deeply frightens me. I tend to avoid any possible romantic situations with women.
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Sir. froggo
I recently learned that I completely separate my emotions from my memories and that apparently after telling a (what I thought was not that bad or normal) story about what happened in my childhood it's not appropriate to say at the end well what can you do
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I recently learned that I completely separate my emotions from my memories and that apparently after telling a (what I thought was not that bad or normal) story about what happened in my childhood it's not appropriate to say at the end well what can you do
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Logan
Definitely have the abandonment trauma. I just say such is life and move on. I dont want a relationship because of fear of betrayal. I feel people just want to manipulate me. I trust those I shouldn't and dont trust those I should, so I just don't trust anyone.
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Definitely have the abandonment trauma. I just say such is life and move on. I dont want a relationship because of fear of betrayal. I feel people just want to manipulate me. I trust those I shouldn't and dont trust those I should, so I just don't trust anyone.
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David13ushey
My parents didn't reject me directly, but when I tried to inform them of an abuser, they blew me off. It was easier. So I kept getting abused and when I tried to check out they were like 'Why? Why didn't you come talk to us? ' UGH.
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My parents didn't reject me directly, but when I tried to inform them of an abuser, they blew me off. It was easier. So I kept getting abused and when I tried to check out they were like 'Why? Why didn't you come talk to us? ' UGH.
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Alicia
I too wish school bullying should not be allowed. There should be a no tolerance. It's hard to deal with and a mother who had Major Depression. By the time I was in high school, I fought back. You learn you are the only one to count on.
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I too wish school bullying should not be allowed. There should be a no tolerance. It's hard to deal with and a mother who had Major Depression. By the time I was in high school, I fought back. You learn you are the only one to count on.
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teal2tantrum
My trauma started from my parents but it continued mostly because of my siblings, and small bits from my parents, could you do a video on how that affects a person when they are a child and an adult, i would like to watch it.
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My trauma started from my parents but it continued mostly because of my siblings, and small bits from my parents, could you do a video on how that affects a person when they are a child and an adult, i would like to watch it.
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Itz
Psych2Go is a major help for me and my mental health. Ive always been sad and tried to neglect the feeling. But, Psych2Go helped me work and push through my problems. Thank you for your amazing help, Psych2Go, keep up the good work!
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Psych2Go is a major help for me and my mental health. Ive always been sad and tried to neglect the feeling. But, Psych2Go helped me work and push through my problems. Thank you for your amazing help, Psych2Go, keep up the good work!
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Okami
Abandonment, Rejection, betrayal, humiliation, my parents have always done these type of things not everything but parts of the traumas. it stings when i hear that these types describe how my parent treat me
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Abandonment, Rejection, betrayal, humiliation, my parents have always done these type of things not everything but parts of the traumas. it stings when i hear that these types describe how my parent treat me
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PastaBoi
The fact that I cant tell if some types of abuse happened to me (cause I cant remember) but experiences the symptoms of ALL traumas listed here, idk if thats a symptom of something or not
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The fact that I cant tell if some types of abuse happened to me (cause I cant remember) but experiences the symptoms of ALL traumas listed here, idk if thats a symptom of something or not
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