How to Change Your Love Style
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Davai
Hey Psych2Go, I've been feeling really down lately because my crush won't talk to me. I can't find answers from any friends or online because I have some pretty special circumstances. Now, I'll give some context to the situation.
I started having a crush on her around March of last year, we were really good friends and would talk all the time. Around April she started to whisper to her friends about a crush she had. She was saying my name, and beleiving she had an interest in me, my feelings for her swelled. But I started noticing inconsistencies, the most notable one being when she said I'd write a whole confession and then just delete it. I didn't have social media or her phone number. When May rolled around she revealed it was not me and instead someone else by the same name as me. This person had been an asshole to me for the last five years. That really stung. I lost all self confidence and every suicidal thought I ever had returned. I spent all summer thinking about her and hoping that her relationship with him had fizzled out.
It had not.
When school started again I desperately sought her out and where do I find her? Standing next to him. Just. My. Luck. I'd pass by her in the halls and we'd sometimes make eye contact but she'd swiftly look away and continue on. This semester I got placed in a class with her and I was thrilled. Next, I was seated directly behind her, YES. I thought this would be my chance to reconnect with her, even if it was as just friends. But despite my close proximity she still hasn't said a word to me directly since last May. She'd rather make conversation with the annoying prick that never shuts up and insults under the guise of friendly banter for no reason. It could've been my demeanor, I act pretty indifferent and annoyed with the people around me but she knows thats just a facade.
She probably has figured out I like her, she'd have to be pretty dense not to, but I don't understand why that means she has to completely stop talking to me and pretend like I don't exist, she's not that cold.
I thought that all the self improvement on my looks and personality might make her want to talk to me but instead she completely stopped.
I'm just completely stumped right now, I don't know who to talk to. DEFINITELY not my parents. Even my therapist treats it like something I shouldn't talk about. I've been seeing this therapist for 8 years.
I just sorta wanted to vent and maybe gets some adivice/feedback.
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Hey Psych2Go, I've been feeling really down lately because my crush won't talk to me. I can't find answers from any friends or online because I have some pretty special circumstances. Now, I'll give some context to the situation.
I started having a crush on her around March of last year, we were really good friends and would talk all the time. Around April she started to whisper to her friends about a crush she had. She was saying my name, and beleiving she had an interest in me, my feelings for her swelled. But I started noticing inconsistencies, the most notable one being when she said I'd write a whole confession and then just delete it. I didn't have social media or her phone number. When May rolled around she revealed it was not me and instead someone else by the same name as me. This person had been an asshole to me for the last five years. That really stung. I lost all self confidence and every suicidal thought I ever had returned. I spent all summer thinking about her and hoping that her relationship with him had fizzled out.
It had not.
When school started again I desperately sought her out and where do I find her? Standing next to him. Just. My. Luck. I'd pass by her in the halls and we'd sometimes make eye contact but she'd swiftly look away and continue on. This semester I got placed in a class with her and I was thrilled. Next, I was seated directly behind her, YES. I thought this would be my chance to reconnect with her, even if it was as just friends. But despite my close proximity she still hasn't said a word to me directly since last May. She'd rather make conversation with the annoying prick that never shuts up and insults under the guise of friendly banter for no reason. It could've been my demeanor, I act pretty indifferent and annoyed with the people around me but she knows thats just a facade.
She probably has figured out I like her, she'd have to be pretty dense not to, but I don't understand why that means she has to completely stop talking to me and pretend like I don't exist, she's not that cold.
I thought that all the self improvement on my looks and personality might make her want to talk to me but instead she completely stopped.
I'm just completely stumped right now, I don't know who to talk to. DEFINITELY not my parents. Even my therapist treats it like something I shouldn't talk about. I've been seeing this therapist for 8 years.
I just sorta wanted to vent and maybe gets some adivice/feedback.
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Lisa
hello psych2go! i have seen a couple of your videos thumbnails in my recommended and when i look up stuff and recently i have watched like 3 or 4 of your videos fully recently and have watched some of them a little bit and i was just
wondering if i could ask you to diagnose me with something. (sorry if you have already made a video on these things that i have, i feel like my life is moving too fast and im wasting my time - there have been many moments so far in the last 3 years of my life where i feel like things come to me way too fast and i dont have as much time as i wish i could have to prepare for them and i feel like there are things in my life that i should be enjoying way more than i do that are big and i end up not enjoying them/not caring about them as much as i should/i set my expectations up too high because of what ive heard about those things and for some reason i build them up to be these massive things in my head and when they happen i just feel sad because it makes me feel like life is way less exciting then i was hoping it to be. and something weird about this is that i used to not feel like this too, i remember stuff like breaks from school being way longer then how they feel now. the 2 biggest examples of this is spring break and winter break, i remember when i was slightly younger they felt really long and felt like they were like months long but i just had my spring break 2/3 weeks and they felt really short compared to how they used too feel. another weird thing about this is i am a young person and people who are middle aged or older are usually the ones that feel like this but im a teen and im feeling like this which scares me because im supposed to being enjoying my life when im young and not feeling like life used too be good but now its not. there are many other things like this that i have that i dont know what they are but this is what i could think of right now that i dont know about, hopefully you can tell me what i have! thank you!
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hello psych2go! i have seen a couple of your videos thumbnails in my recommended and when i look up stuff and recently i have watched like 3 or 4 of your videos fully recently and have watched some of them a little bit and i was just
wondering if i could ask you to diagnose me with something. (sorry if you have already made a video on these things that i have, i feel like my life is moving too fast and im wasting my time - there have been many moments so far in the last 3 years of my life where i feel like things come to me way too fast and i dont have as much time as i wish i could have to prepare for them and i feel like there are things in my life that i should be enjoying way more than i do that are big and i end up not enjoying them/not caring about them as much as i should/i set my expectations up too high because of what ive heard about those things and for some reason i build them up to be these massive things in my head and when they happen i just feel sad because it makes me feel like life is way less exciting then i was hoping it to be. and something weird about this is that i used to not feel like this too, i remember stuff like breaks from school being way longer then how they feel now. the 2 biggest examples of this is spring break and winter break, i remember when i was slightly younger they felt really long and felt like they were like months long but i just had my spring break 2/3 weeks and they felt really short compared to how they used too feel. another weird thing about this is i am a young person and people who are middle aged or older are usually the ones that feel like this but im a teen and im feeling like this which scares me because im supposed to being enjoying my life when im young and not feeling like life used too be good but now its not. there are many other things like this that i have that i dont know what they are but this is what i could think of right now that i dont know about, hopefully you can tell me what i have! thank you!
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Dirty_Miso
Im definitely an avoider but I also have the tendency to do the opposite of the victim. I usually play the villain just to avoid a fight because I feel like the small things arent worth fighting over so I accept all the blame because its a pointless argument. I say youre right and Im wrong. I apologize even when I know I did nothing wrong and Im not even sorry I just know that most human beings are relentless in proving theyre right even when theyre not just to protect their own pride so I eliminated all of this by surrendering my own foolish pride. It hurts tho because it takes a toll on my self esteem. Bleck love is so complicated which is I dont care about romance in the slightest. If it comes along then Ill give it a go as a whats the harm in trying but if I have to play the villain a certain amount of times then Im out of there faster than my dad when he went to get some milk
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Im definitely an avoider but I also have the tendency to do the opposite of the victim. I usually play the villain just to avoid a fight because I feel like the small things arent worth fighting over so I accept all the blame because its a pointless argument. I say youre right and Im wrong. I apologize even when I know I did nothing wrong and Im not even sorry I just know that most human beings are relentless in proving theyre right even when theyre not just to protect their own pride so I eliminated all of this by surrendering my own foolish pride. It hurts tho because it takes a toll on my self esteem. Bleck love is so complicated which is I dont care about romance in the slightest. If it comes along then Ill give it a go as a whats the harm in trying but if I have to play the villain a certain amount of times then Im out of there faster than my dad when he went to get some milk
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Kareem
Could someone help me please? My gf and I are on the rocks right now and I don't know what to do. I keep making the same mistakes again and again, and we both know we love each other but she will eventually get tired of it and leave me (she already considered a few times. I just want her to be happy with me, and obviously I'm not hurting her on purpose, but I don't know what to do. :(
PS: Please don't respond with Just learn from your mistakes, I know that, it's not helpful.
PS2: Not that anyone cares, but we're 2 months away from our final exams and we're off to college, so we kinda deduced that that's an important factor to us being anxious
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Could someone help me please? My gf and I are on the rocks right now and I don't know what to do. I keep making the same mistakes again and again, and we both know we love each other but she will eventually get tired of it and leave me (she already considered a few times. I just want her to be happy with me, and obviously I'm not hurting her on purpose, but I don't know what to do. :(
PS: Please don't respond with Just learn from your mistakes, I know that, it's not helpful.
PS2: Not that anyone cares, but we're 2 months away from our final exams and we're off to college, so we kinda deduced that that's an important factor to us being anxious
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mugyFORCE
My girl would be a Vacillater I think. But dont think she knows that completely.
And Im a Controller, but I was already working on that before seeing this video. Cause I kinda knew that part was already part of me, so I started to take a step back, take a couple breaths and than respond way more thoughtfull (when previously being frustrated. It indeed helped me a ton! And she appreciates those kind of responses way more instead of feeling like she disappointed me. So its good for both of us!
Ill probably show those parts of this video to her as well, so we could maybe both work on this together.
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My girl would be a Vacillater I think. But dont think she knows that completely.
And Im a Controller, but I was already working on that before seeing this video. Cause I kinda knew that part was already part of me, so I started to take a step back, take a couple breaths and than respond way more thoughtfull (when previously being frustrated. It indeed helped me a ton! And she appreciates those kind of responses way more instead of feeling like she disappointed me. So its good for both of us!
Ill probably show those parts of this video to her as well, so we could maybe both work on this together.
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Silver
It doesn't really matter. It is impossible for love to exist in my life. I cannot express it or even desire it. All forms of affection and attraction are alien to me. Humans don't value my presence, nor require it. There is no change. After all, change is just a form of decay. It leads to no good.
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It doesn't really matter. It is impossible for love to exist in my life. I cannot express it or even desire it. All forms of affection and attraction are alien to me. Humans don't value my presence, nor require it. There is no change. After all, change is just a form of decay. It leads to no good.
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Msssy
The first 2 really hit home for me. I really miss my mom so much (she got cancer and passed away almost 2 years ago) but even as an adult, she made me be in fear of finding love. I've never been in a relationship and I wouldn't know how to find one and for it to be successful.
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The first 2 really hit home for me. I really miss my mom so much (she got cancer and passed away almost 2 years ago) but even as an adult, she made me be in fear of finding love. I've never been in a relationship and I wouldn't know how to find one and for it to be successful.
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Nicola
How can you stop playing the victim when you have no clue of what to do, not knowingly how others will interpreate your action or your life isn't going towards any direction and there's nothing that can give the perception of any possible change regardless of what you do?
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How can you stop playing the victim when you have no clue of what to do, not knowingly how others will interpreate your action or your life isn't going towards any direction and there's nothing that can give the perception of any possible change regardless of what you do?
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CalicoOfTheStreets
Nothing to do with the vid but I need help
So my family is making me feel like Im a idiot who doesnt matter and stuff but I just dont know how to cut my sis and mom (the ones who hurt me) out of my life, do you have any advice to help?
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Nothing to do with the vid but I need help
So my family is making me feel like Im a idiot who doesnt matter and stuff but I just dont know how to cut my sis and mom (the ones who hurt me) out of my life, do you have any advice to help?
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Gene
Thank You all at Psych2Go. When I see small children and realize that some or so many will have their personality altered by abuse I try to be more willing to understand what was denied and what to understand to move forward.
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Thank You all at Psych2Go. When I see small children and realize that some or so many will have their personality altered by abuse I try to be more willing to understand what was denied and what to understand to move forward.
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Hollis
I generally avoid getting too close to people because most of the time, I find them too annoying, silly and too shallow.
Yes I have huge ego myself. I prefer reading books, planning, or working. instead of socializing.
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I generally avoid getting too close to people because most of the time, I find them too annoying, silly and too shallow.
Yes I have huge ego myself. I prefer reading books, planning, or working. instead of socializing.
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JokerSmash
Im going through a hard time with school I like this girl and she in relationship with boy called kenny people in next door class not happy its annoying for me cuz I know her idk what to do she sill looks at me
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Im going through a hard time with school I like this girl and she in relationship with boy called kenny people in next door class not happy its annoying for me cuz I know her idk what to do she sill looks at me
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The
This video seems to suggest that a person is likely to reflect their upbringing in romantic relationships. So then violence and abuse may lead to the same treatment towards romantic partners. What a scary thought.
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This video seems to suggest that a person is likely to reflect their upbringing in romantic relationships. So then violence and abuse may lead to the same treatment towards romantic partners. What a scary thought.
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Neil
Me who has never experienced real love before: fawwk.
And as Major Campbell once said: Men like us, Mr. Shelby, will always be alone. And the love we get we will have to pay for it.
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Me who has never experienced real love before: fawwk.
And as Major Campbell once said: Men like us, Mr. Shelby, will always be alone. And the love we get we will have to pay for it.
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Elliot
Eh, for me it may happen but I'm not going to be holding my breath. If anything I just kinda came to terms with the fact that a relationship is never gonna happen in my lifetime.
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Eh, for me it may happen but I'm not going to be holding my breath. If anything I just kinda came to terms with the fact that a relationship is never gonna happen in my lifetime.
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Milan
The voice is different in this video and actually seems to be computer-generated. It is somewhat disturbing to listen to it while following the video. Please re-consider
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The voice is different in this video and actually seems to be computer-generated. It is somewhat disturbing to listen to it while following the video. Please re-consider
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sofie
what's wrong with the voice, this is the first time i had to mute and turn on subtitles. i love psych2go but this video seems like she's sick or trying to seduct.
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what's wrong with the voice, this is the first time i had to mute and turn on subtitles. i love psych2go but this video seems like she's sick or trying to seduct.
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DumbBlobfish
1: 11 I am somewhat of pleaser not in a love way just in general due to my upbringing it is getting much better now but still it some what a bit bad for me
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1: 11 I am somewhat of pleaser not in a love way just in general due to my upbringing it is getting much better now but still it some what a bit bad for me
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ink_boi
idk if this has to do with anything but i feel like a pleaser even tho im not in a relationship and im trying to work on my self so i can find love; --;
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idk if this has to do with anything but i feel like a pleaser even tho im not in a relationship and im trying to work on my self so i can find love; --;
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LastEarBender
I found it hard to focus on the content with what I felt to be a bit heavy on the vocal inflections mixed with an fast tempo narration.
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I found it hard to focus on the content with what I felt to be a bit heavy on the vocal inflections mixed with an fast tempo narration.
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tofol
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
Rumi
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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
Rumi
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VonWeasel
It's kind of impossible to believe your as important as everyone else when that's obviously not even remotely true
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It's kind of impossible to believe your as important as everyone else when that's obviously not even remotely true
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Nick
I loved them like strawberries and THEY gave me Jackfruit.
Now I am peeling it to make pickle.
Love-li pickle.
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I loved them like strawberries and THEY gave me Jackfruit.
Now I am peeling it to make pickle.
Love-li pickle.
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Lazy
Well for me Ive never really been in control but I dont want a lot of control because of a fear of messing it up
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Well for me Ive never really been in control but I dont want a lot of control because of a fear of messing it up
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Nevan
Love isn't worth your time and money. Want to save for your dream car or retirement? My advice is to stay single
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Love isn't worth your time and money. Want to save for your dream car or retirement? My advice is to stay single
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