Gaslighting Tactics and Types You Should Avoid
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Rachel
My therapist told me today that one of my coworkers may be gaslighting me in a way and I kept trying to see the situation as something else.
It started with me suddenly getting pulled aside by my boss. I was told people have been complaining about me, that I don't help, I let them do everything, and I was so taken aback because I hadn't gotten that vibe from any of my coworkers. I've been there 2 months about. The person I believe complained about me was also pretty rude to me recently for a question I had during a shift.
I've been so self conscious for weeks now and am constantly checking in with other coworkers, asking if I'm too slow, am I doing enough, and so on. My therapist said that the doubt I have from all of this, when I don't experience it with anyone else, could be the result of a form of gaslighting.
This coworker is also very fast and I am not. He's exceptionally fast, it's actually crazy but the average person is not him. The third type hit me a bit. He'll gladly take something over because I'm too slow. Idk. Just wanted to say that last type make my heart drop when I heard it.
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My therapist told me today that one of my coworkers may be gaslighting me in a way and I kept trying to see the situation as something else.
It started with me suddenly getting pulled aside by my boss. I was told people have been complaining about me, that I don't help, I let them do everything, and I was so taken aback because I hadn't gotten that vibe from any of my coworkers. I've been there 2 months about. The person I believe complained about me was also pretty rude to me recently for a question I had during a shift.
I've been so self conscious for weeks now and am constantly checking in with other coworkers, asking if I'm too slow, am I doing enough, and so on. My therapist said that the doubt I have from all of this, when I don't experience it with anyone else, could be the result of a form of gaslighting.
This coworker is also very fast and I am not. He's exceptionally fast, it's actually crazy but the average person is not him. The third type hit me a bit. He'll gladly take something over because I'm too slow. Idk. Just wanted to say that last type make my heart drop when I heard it.
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sofe
Sometimes, it can be difficult to realize the dangers when the person(s) is/are the glamour and good guy gaslighter types. You may even doubt yourself when you sense that something is wrong and everyone else says that nothing is wrong since they only see the advertised good side.
Please trust your instincts or gut feeling when you sense danger or some warning concerning people who seem kind to you and others (even if no one believes you because there is a possibility the malice just so happened to be aimed at you, not on others. Escape! Save yourself from suffering with the after effects of their manipulation, which may take a long time time for healing.
For those who are victims of gaslighting or any psychological manipulation, May you recover and bloom. You can make it. You can be better and stronger than them and the manipulation.
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Sometimes, it can be difficult to realize the dangers when the person(s) is/are the glamour and good guy gaslighter types. You may even doubt yourself when you sense that something is wrong and everyone else says that nothing is wrong since they only see the advertised good side.
Please trust your instincts or gut feeling when you sense danger or some warning concerning people who seem kind to you and others (even if no one believes you because there is a possibility the malice just so happened to be aimed at you, not on others. Escape! Save yourself from suffering with the after effects of their manipulation, which may take a long time time for healing.
For those who are victims of gaslighting or any psychological manipulation, May you recover and bloom. You can make it. You can be better and stronger than them and the manipulation.
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Headphone
Once had a friend who was a huge gaslighter and offered to take me to a sports game (which she lied about having tickets to) of a team I really like just so that I would be friends with her and after a while I started voicing my concerns about her manipulation and she sent me a picture of their arena to hold it over my head and then I called her out and she got completely pissed at me and she got really defensive, which is when I absolutely knew 100% she was a liar and manipulator. So all this to say I can confirm this is accurate especially the whole goodguy gaslighter thing. Also it sucks and if anybody is treating you that way, voice your concerns to them and dont let them get to you
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Once had a friend who was a huge gaslighter and offered to take me to a sports game (which she lied about having tickets to) of a team I really like just so that I would be friends with her and after a while I started voicing my concerns about her manipulation and she sent me a picture of their arena to hold it over my head and then I called her out and she got completely pissed at me and she got really defensive, which is when I absolutely knew 100% she was a liar and manipulator. So all this to say I can confirm this is accurate especially the whole goodguy gaslighter thing. Also it sucks and if anybody is treating you that way, voice your concerns to them and dont let them get to you
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sfozardmccall8
Hahaha is this example of a good guy gaslighting if I really am a great guy then you should want to be with me ( boy bye)
Is this example of love bombing gaslighting, the person just showed you love in person, then the next day text this person just said this and that you said about me why are you a liar'' me: do you want to talk about it and hear my narrative of the situation him: I don't want to talk about it lol (boy bye)
Please leave a comment if you think these are examples of gaslighting I would love to know
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Hahaha is this example of a good guy gaslighting if I really am a great guy then you should want to be with me ( boy bye)
Is this example of love bombing gaslighting, the person just showed you love in person, then the next day text this person just said this and that you said about me why are you a liar'' me: do you want to talk about it and hear my narrative of the situation him: I don't want to talk about it lol (boy bye)
Please leave a comment if you think these are examples of gaslighting I would love to know
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Kor
My ex girlfriend was the second type. It hurted so bad, because she seemed so sweet and understanding most of the time and it made me think that i was the one that was lacking somehow, the one responsible for the lack of progress for our relationship. by time she appeared more and more insensitive and controlling using silence and lies towards me. She made me feel worthless on purpose, the feeling of betrayal after the realization hurted like hell.
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My ex girlfriend was the second type. It hurted so bad, because she seemed so sweet and understanding most of the time and it made me think that i was the one that was lacking somehow, the one responsible for the lack of progress for our relationship. by time she appeared more and more insensitive and controlling using silence and lies towards me. She made me feel worthless on purpose, the feeling of betrayal after the realization hurted like hell.
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purpledylan1010
I don't know of it was gaslighting, but I recently broke up with an ex, I'm 20 and she is 23. She always use to say to me everytime I spaced out that I shouldn't even have trauma cuz I'm young, that I'm 20. That was stuff that just made me snap, my face would have anger on it, but I would keep my mouth shut cuz I didn't want a argument. I would like to know if you guys think that it was gaslighting
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I don't know of it was gaslighting, but I recently broke up with an ex, I'm 20 and she is 23. She always use to say to me everytime I spaced out that I shouldn't even have trauma cuz I'm young, that I'm 20. That was stuff that just made me snap, my face would have anger on it, but I would keep my mouth shut cuz I didn't want a argument. I would like to know if you guys think that it was gaslighting
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education
As a sociopath, yes, this is accurate, and gaslighting is very effective, I recommend staying away from someone you suspect is gaslighting you, create boundaries, and make it certain that there will be consequences if boundaries are broken.
PS.
1: 18 This is the second time the Dark Empath has bothered or teased the sociopath now, leave Blue alone you dang orange scarfed evil being!
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As a sociopath, yes, this is accurate, and gaslighting is very effective, I recommend staying away from someone you suspect is gaslighting you, create boundaries, and make it certain that there will be consequences if boundaries are broken.
PS.
1: 18 This is the second time the Dark Empath has bothered or teased the sociopath now, leave Blue alone you dang orange scarfed evil being!
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Ratter's
You can see a lot of good guys online complaining mainly about women in relationships, and the most hilarious thing is that they even call themselves 'good guys'. I mean, seriously. If you give a lady a ride or a box of chocolates, she isn't indebted to you, and not all women are the same, so stop generalizing them. Some women don't wan't guys in the first place. Just accept it.
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You can see a lot of good guys online complaining mainly about women in relationships, and the most hilarious thing is that they even call themselves 'good guys'. I mean, seriously. If you give a lady a ride or a box of chocolates, she isn't indebted to you, and not all women are the same, so stop generalizing them. Some women don't wan't guys in the first place. Just accept it.
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Nobody
So I am a dickhead well I would be considered one by others but I manipulate people I dont want to but I cant always control myself or I lose control and my mind takes control and I do it out of habit to have control over people and situations but I want to learn how to stop how to better myself despite the mental conditions trying to stop me do you have any advice
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So I am a dickhead well I would be considered one by others but I manipulate people I dont want to but I cant always control myself or I lose control and my mind takes control and I do it out of habit to have control over people and situations but I want to learn how to stop how to better myself despite the mental conditions trying to stop me do you have any advice
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education
I'm in college and just realized how much I got gaslighted at home before moving out for college. I got berated a lot when my parents came home exhausted, and I didn't do what they said. People say time and space are beneficial. I guess that's true. I never knew myself, but I knew I wanted to make it work so I started educating myself. Thanks for the video
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I'm in college and just realized how much I got gaslighted at home before moving out for college. I got berated a lot when my parents came home exhausted, and I didn't do what they said. People say time and space are beneficial. I guess that's true. I never knew myself, but I knew I wanted to make it work so I started educating myself. Thanks for the video
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Hanzo
last January i finally broke up with my gaslighter ex girlfriend. my friends helped me a lot and if you're going through the same situation pls if you can't talk to mental health professionals, talk to your friends first. being in a relationship with a gaslighter feels like hell without an exit. pls let go of that relationship and save yourself.
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last January i finally broke up with my gaslighter ex girlfriend. my friends helped me a lot and if you're going through the same situation pls if you can't talk to mental health professionals, talk to your friends first. being in a relationship with a gaslighter feels like hell without an exit. pls let go of that relationship and save yourself.
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Kenneth
I feel like a classmate in my mathematics class does this and it is super annoying and tiring to deal with. He acts like he has control when he knows nothing in reality. It is really frustrating because I want to do group study sessions. It just needs to be with the right people. Not everyone has your best interests at heart.
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I feel like a classmate in my mathematics class does this and it is super annoying and tiring to deal with. He acts like he has control when he knows nothing in reality. It is really frustrating because I want to do group study sessions. It just needs to be with the right people. Not everyone has your best interests at heart.
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Wayne
I now feel as if everyone I ever known was a gaslighter in one way or another. I worry that others think of me as a gaslighter, but my intentions towards other is genuine. I don't want to manipulate anyone, but if there's anyone who wants nothing to do with me, that's they'r problem. I just want to be friends with everyone.
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I now feel as if everyone I ever known was a gaslighter in one way or another. I worry that others think of me as a gaslighter, but my intentions towards other is genuine. I don't want to manipulate anyone, but if there's anyone who wants nothing to do with me, that's they'r problem. I just want to be friends with everyone.
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Yara
Some people don't even know they are doing it, it's the type that always think of themselves as victims so everyone else is in the wrong and they make you feel bad because they make you feel responsible for all the things that happenned in a relation. They want to be empathic but they never put themselves in your shoes.
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Some people don't even know they are doing it, it's the type that always think of themselves as victims so everyone else is in the wrong and they make you feel bad because they make you feel responsible for all the things that happenned in a relation. They want to be empathic but they never put themselves in your shoes.
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That
The person I love could be considered a gas lighter in fact Ive been around too many gaslighters in my life that I keep accepting the fact that Im meant to be forever alone.
None of these people have any idea how much pain Im in. I wish I was someone else but me
IS IT REALLY OKAY TO BE ALONE?
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The person I love could be considered a gas lighter in fact Ive been around too many gaslighters in my life that I keep accepting the fact that Im meant to be forever alone.
None of these people have any idea how much pain Im in. I wish I was someone else but me
IS IT REALLY OKAY TO BE ALONE?
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bomblast2000
I tried to talk to my housemate about the hair he leaves behind in the washing machine among other issues. He made it sound like it couldn't have been him even though until recently, the 2 of us have been the only ones there for months. I was getting so mad, I had to get away from him.
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I tried to talk to my housemate about the hair he leaves behind in the washing machine among other issues. He made it sound like it couldn't have been him even though until recently, the 2 of us have been the only ones there for months. I was getting so mad, I had to get away from him.
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Davey_Butternubs
Is there a way to tell of you yourself are being a gaslighter? Sometimes i feel like my boundaries or faults come across as gaslighting but i dont mean it in that way. I doubt myself in many ways but im not sure if im helping myself and others or being a detriment.
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Is there a way to tell of you yourself are being a gaslighter? Sometimes i feel like my boundaries or faults come across as gaslighting but i dont mean it in that way. I doubt myself in many ways but im not sure if im helping myself and others or being a detriment.
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Hajime
I've been relatively active on psych2go, psychological forums and other things online to identify my traumas for a few years now and I just found out that someone I used to rely on or someone who used to help me was actually a good guy gaslighter or shows those traits. Damn.
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I've been relatively active on psych2go, psychological forums and other things online to identify my traumas for a few years now and I just found out that someone I used to rely on or someone who used to help me was actually a good guy gaslighter or shows those traits. Damn.
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superslyko123
It's all about control. They want to control you, think for you, have you at their beckon call. Just say no! You take care of YOU and get out. After you've established that boundary, you can associate with them again in a month or two. Watch the reaction.
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It's all about control. They want to control you, think for you, have you at their beckon call. Just say no! You take care of YOU and get out. After you've established that boundary, you can associate with them again in a month or two. Watch the reaction.
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ShinyMewtwo3
I'll just never forget the time that I nearly gaslighted all my friends into playing mewtwo on Pokemon Showdown. They all did it and only stopped because of existence of Shadow Rider Calyrex (or now, Chi-Yu) Doesn't stop me though, am still using mewtwo
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I'll just never forget the time that I nearly gaslighted all my friends into playing mewtwo on Pokemon Showdown. They all did it and only stopped because of existence of Shadow Rider Calyrex (or now, Chi-Yu) Doesn't stop me though, am still using mewtwo
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truhhhhhhhokIII3
Just thought about itwhat if someone is actually going crazy, then they watch this, and it just feeds their god complex because they now think literally everyone is gaslighting them and they never get the helo they need haha
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Just thought about itwhat if someone is actually going crazy, then they watch this, and it just feeds their god complex because they now think literally everyone is gaslighting them and they never get the helo they need haha
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Gloria
Is phantom from Phantom of the Opera a glamour gaslighted? I feel like he is. Could psych2go please do a video breakdown of all the abuse, and all the genuine love, in phantom of the opera 2004? I would REALLY like that tbh
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Is phantom from Phantom of the Opera a glamour gaslighted? I feel like he is. Could psych2go please do a video breakdown of all the abuse, and all the genuine love, in phantom of the opera 2004? I would REALLY like that tbh
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Nasty
I LOVE when my husband tries to gaslight me into thinking I gaslight HIM. Lol. I used to fall for it so often. Now I ask him for specific instances like he demands from me whenever I have any problem. He hates it
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I LOVE when my husband tries to gaslight me into thinking I gaslight HIM. Lol. I used to fall for it so often. Now I ask him for specific instances like he demands from me whenever I have any problem. He hates it
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Venti
What if the good guy gaslighter manipulated everyone around you so when you try to explain to them why you hate them so much they take the blame out on you even though the person would be nowhere without you
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What if the good guy gaslighter manipulated everyone around you so when you try to explain to them why you hate them so much they take the blame out on you even though the person would be nowhere without you
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PondNon
My girlfriend keep gaslighting herself
When I asked her she said it is habit
Her ex give her traumatic and I trying my best to help her rn it get better took 2 years though to help her over come
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My girlfriend keep gaslighting herself
When I asked her she said it is habit
Her ex give her traumatic and I trying my best to help her rn it get better took 2 years though to help her over come
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