5 Signs You're Unintentionally Manipulative
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Soo
1. Saying that you will do everything yourself
Oh dear, I do that a lot but it depends on who Im with. Depending on the person, Ill say things like that because I know theyll feel guilty and offer to help or just to show off I guess, (yeah that sounds really terrible now-)
2. You make promises a lot
I dont make promises a lot, probably never to no one, because I was once told that I should never make a promise because youll never know whatll happen. I guess I took that too seriously? But I still almost never make a promise unless Im with a really close person and feeling serious
3. You give somebody the silent treatment
Now, I try my best to do the silent treatment sometimes but in the end I really cant hold back an eye roll or defend myself if Im in an argument, I just cant stay silent even if I know thats the wiser option; -;
4. You have distinct patterns in your language
Oh that I do a lot I guess for attention and to get others to feel bad for me and help? I guess I exaggerate a lot sometimes
5. You find yourself embellishing or twisting the facts
I also do this a lot, I do enjoy? hearing peoples sympathies, and I cant believe how accurate that description was because it does make me feel better to get pity from others. Other times, I exaggerate or make up some parts of stories I tell to get a stronger reaction from others, does that count?
Wow I guess Im pretty manipulative, but I kinda feel that wasnt much of a surprise. I do tend to lie a lot because I dont want to deal with the responsibility or Im scared of the other person, I guess that makes me an untrustful person? I dont exactly want to hurt my friends though, so does that mean Ill have to stop some of these behaviors? .-.
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1. Saying that you will do everything yourself
Oh dear, I do that a lot but it depends on who Im with. Depending on the person, Ill say things like that because I know theyll feel guilty and offer to help or just to show off I guess, (yeah that sounds really terrible now-)
2. You make promises a lot
I dont make promises a lot, probably never to no one, because I was once told that I should never make a promise because youll never know whatll happen. I guess I took that too seriously? But I still almost never make a promise unless Im with a really close person and feeling serious
3. You give somebody the silent treatment
Now, I try my best to do the silent treatment sometimes but in the end I really cant hold back an eye roll or defend myself if Im in an argument, I just cant stay silent even if I know thats the wiser option; -;
4. You have distinct patterns in your language
Oh that I do a lot I guess for attention and to get others to feel bad for me and help? I guess I exaggerate a lot sometimes
5. You find yourself embellishing or twisting the facts
I also do this a lot, I do enjoy? hearing peoples sympathies, and I cant believe how accurate that description was because it does make me feel better to get pity from others. Other times, I exaggerate or make up some parts of stories I tell to get a stronger reaction from others, does that count?
Wow I guess Im pretty manipulative, but I kinda feel that wasnt much of a surprise. I do tend to lie a lot because I dont want to deal with the responsibility or Im scared of the other person, I guess that makes me an untrustful person? I dont exactly want to hurt my friends though, so does that mean Ill have to stop some of these behaviors? .-.
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Brita
I find this too accurate. I consistently have the need for others to pity me and sympathize with me, I make promises I do not keep, I almost always keep quiet when in arguments or in conflict, and I twist the truth to make myself seem like a better person.
I find that I am horrible with communication and I consistently lie to my loved ones, which started when I was a child. This has become very detrimental in my long term relationship and I have allowed myself to become a highly toxic person. I can't seem to stop lying to others in order for them to like me, including my own partner. I have found myself lying about who I am hanging out with because I know my partner would not like it. And yet I keep falling into the cycle of being deceptive, my partner finding out, having an argument, and then moving past the issue only for it to happen again. What the hell is wrong with me?
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I find this too accurate. I consistently have the need for others to pity me and sympathize with me, I make promises I do not keep, I almost always keep quiet when in arguments or in conflict, and I twist the truth to make myself seem like a better person.
I find that I am horrible with communication and I consistently lie to my loved ones, which started when I was a child. This has become very detrimental in my long term relationship and I have allowed myself to become a highly toxic person. I can't seem to stop lying to others in order for them to like me, including my own partner. I have found myself lying about who I am hanging out with because I know my partner would not like it. And yet I keep falling into the cycle of being deceptive, my partner finding out, having an argument, and then moving past the issue only for it to happen again. What the hell is wrong with me?
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AnnaVG
I searched for this video after getting manipulating others from a skills test on school, next to innocents skills such as drawing, reading and singing. So it was a big shock for me seeing such a big word explaining how I do harm. I've always been told I was woke, and I could be a therapist. I took that to heart, and felt like enough people liked me. But that was not true. I have manipulated them liking me, subconciously. I didn't know my actions were like this. I realised, most of my real loves weren't real. Good to know it's not all my fault though. Wish I could improve myself to satisfy others
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I searched for this video after getting manipulating others from a skills test on school, next to innocents skills such as drawing, reading and singing. So it was a big shock for me seeing such a big word explaining how I do harm. I've always been told I was woke, and I could be a therapist. I took that to heart, and felt like enough people liked me. But that was not true. I have manipulated them liking me, subconciously. I didn't know my actions were like this. I realised, most of my real loves weren't real. Good to know it's not all my fault though. Wish I could improve myself to satisfy others
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TheNailBox11
i got 1/5 in this but that 1 has ruined me so much. being told don't try to manipluate by someone u love depsite not intentionally doing it and also explaining (sometimes even over explaining) that i didnt mean what they thought i mean can be so draining but i just cant help myself explaining things every single time. it has become so, that now i keep doubting myself if i am intentionally being manipulative or if i am actually a manipulator: (
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i got 1/5 in this but that 1 has ruined me so much. being told don't try to manipluate by someone u love depsite not intentionally doing it and also explaining (sometimes even over explaining) that i didnt mean what they thought i mean can be so draining but i just cant help myself explaining things every single time. it has become so, that now i keep doubting myself if i am intentionally being manipulative or if i am actually a manipulator: (
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Ana
In regards to #3, sometimes not saying things in the heat of the moment is better than saying something and causing more problems. However, it becomes silent treatment when you are in full charge of your emotions again, but still refusing to talk to them. Thats when this becomes silent treatment. Sometimes, however, people dont bother to respond to things because they clearly dont care about the other person, and theyre just communicating that.
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In regards to #3, sometimes not saying things in the heat of the moment is better than saying something and causing more problems. However, it becomes silent treatment when you are in full charge of your emotions again, but still refusing to talk to them. Thats when this becomes silent treatment. Sometimes, however, people dont bother to respond to things because they clearly dont care about the other person, and theyre just communicating that.
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Tiara
What frustrates me about the silence thing I have a trauma disorder. Overwhelming emotions make me shut down. On top of that, if Im trying to express myself and being met with aggression and/or invalidation, I shut down to avoid a blow up. That is not manipulation. It isnt a weapon, its a defense mechanism to try and save the other person and myself from whatever storm may be brewing as I get more and more triggered.
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What frustrates me about the silence thing I have a trauma disorder. Overwhelming emotions make me shut down. On top of that, if Im trying to express myself and being met with aggression and/or invalidation, I shut down to avoid a blow up. That is not manipulation. It isnt a weapon, its a defense mechanism to try and save the other person and myself from whatever storm may be brewing as I get more and more triggered.
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Juice
my mom has been super manipulative my whole life. i watched this video and was confused, i take on tasks and stuff by myself because i try to push myself, not because i want to impress others. i used to make alot of promises but i would always keep them. i exaggerate but in a funny way to make the situation more light hearted and so others can laugh. am i manipulative? i really cant tell.
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my mom has been super manipulative my whole life. i watched this video and was confused, i take on tasks and stuff by myself because i try to push myself, not because i want to impress others. i used to make alot of promises but i would always keep them. i exaggerate but in a funny way to make the situation more light hearted and so others can laugh. am i manipulative? i really cant tell.
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antler
I came here today because my friend lent me her shoes, and I think I might've been accidentally manipulative when I asked her whether she wanted them back (cuz they were a bit to small for her) rather than just changing out of them and giving them to her. She ended up saying I could keep them for now.
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I came here today because my friend lent me her shoes, and I think I might've been accidentally manipulative when I asked her whether she wanted them back (cuz they were a bit to small for her) rather than just changing out of them and giving them to her. She ended up saying I could keep them for now.
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KagenNoTsuki
When I get sick and tell everyone I'm gonna die, it's not I'm trying to be manipulative, I'm just thoroughly convinced that I feel so bad that I might actually not make it through!
I may not handle being sick very well, but I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad for me I swear!
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When I get sick and tell everyone I'm gonna die, it's not I'm trying to be manipulative, I'm just thoroughly convinced that I feel so bad that I might actually not make it through!
I may not handle being sick very well, but I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad for me I swear!
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Neil
1. Saying that you will do everything yourself 0: 45
2. You make promises a lot 1: 27
3. 2: 01 You give somebody the silent treatment
4. 2: 38 You have distinct patterns in your language
5. You find yourself embellishing or twisting the facts. 3: 15
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1. Saying that you will do everything yourself 0: 45
2. You make promises a lot 1: 27
3. 2: 01 You give somebody the silent treatment
4. 2: 38 You have distinct patterns in your language
5. You find yourself embellishing or twisting the facts. 3: 15
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education
Might be the case. I don't know the extent of my mental illness as much as I don't know the extent of my mental illness on my personality as much as I don't know what being conscious is about and therefore if I do things intentionally or unintentionally.
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Might be the case. I don't know the extent of my mental illness as much as I don't know the extent of my mental illness on my personality as much as I don't know what being conscious is about and therefore if I do things intentionally or unintentionally.
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Ralitsa
The only thing that I'm doing is the silence treatment, but before that, I've tried to explain myself. Most of the times people don't care, and you have nothing left to do, than stop communicating with them in order to protect yourself.
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The only thing that I'm doing is the silence treatment, but before that, I've tried to explain myself. Most of the times people don't care, and you have nothing left to do, than stop communicating with them in order to protect yourself.
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gab
question: is giving the silent treatment the same as saying something like I need some time, and you seem upset. Lets talk later and then not replying to texts, calls, messages etc. no matter what or untill the other person seems calm?
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question: is giving the silent treatment the same as saying something like I need some time, and you seem upset. Lets talk later and then not replying to texts, calls, messages etc. no matter what or untill the other person seems calm?
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Nicole
I dont understand how someone can be unintentionally manipulative. I thought the very definition of manipulation implies intentional action - to control. If someone does something unintentional isnt that the opposite of control?
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I dont understand how someone can be unintentionally manipulative. I thought the very definition of manipulation implies intentional action - to control. If someone does something unintentional isnt that the opposite of control?
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Maria
I just realized how much of a bad person I am and the fact that I didn't know it and most probably have hurt someone. I should probably apologize to those people. Please don't judge me for being such a manipulater.
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I just realized how much of a bad person I am and the fact that I didn't know it and most probably have hurt someone. I should probably apologize to those people. Please don't judge me for being such a manipulater.
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Tricks
Ive been told that I am manipulative and toxic, and Im not even aware of what Im doing when Im like that! Seeing this video made some points I need to look more closely at. Thank you so much, psych2go!
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Ive been told that I am manipulative and toxic, and Im not even aware of what Im doing when Im like that! Seeing this video made some points I need to look more closely at. Thank you so much, psych2go!
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foorpyxof
Please, if anyone who has talked to me before and is/has been my (online) friend reads this, I'm sorry. This video has made me realise what kind of person I really am, and I'm trying to fix myself.
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Please, if anyone who has talked to me before and is/has been my (online) friend reads this, I'm sorry. This video has made me realise what kind of person I really am, and I'm trying to fix myself.
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RUS_GT
I've just watched this, now u know that I'm a manipulative person, I feel satisfied when I have the control of some people and make them believe what I say. I like feeling this, I makes me feel. proud
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I've just watched this, now u know that I'm a manipulative person, I feel satisfied when I have the control of some people and make them believe what I say. I like feeling this, I makes me feel. proud
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Rimma
Silence is golden!
Medicine is where the money is at!
There is a National Nurse shortage in America!
One of my roommates' who is going to nursing school.
I manipulate too at times.
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Silence is golden!
Medicine is where the money is at!
There is a National Nurse shortage in America!
One of my roommates' who is going to nursing school.
I manipulate too at times.
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education
I can here because today my friend said I was manipulative. I really don't mean to be, and I always want to have good intentions. so I hope people could tell me how to convey myself better.
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I can here because today my friend said I was manipulative. I really don't mean to be, and I always want to have good intentions. so I hope people could tell me how to convey myself better.
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Fluoriter
i just go to roblox and just bully everyone i see while making everyone think im the right so i can gang up with tohers and destroys others days its just for fun tho so im not manipulative
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i just go to roblox and just bully everyone i see while making everyone think im the right so i can gang up with tohers and destroys others days its just for fun tho so im not manipulative
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Alesha
I actually make promises a lot but keep them.
And the reason why i dont talk to people is because im too scared to. So instead i use simple actions like waving, smiling, etc.
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I actually make promises a lot but keep them.
And the reason why i dont talk to people is because im too scared to. So instead i use simple actions like waving, smiling, etc.
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Husein
Okay. Now I hated myself and felt bad for my Unintentionally Manipulation. But its good to know that this is a bad behavior and i am now should be more well aware of my action.
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Okay. Now I hated myself and felt bad for my Unintentionally Manipulation. But its good to know that this is a bad behavior and i am now should be more well aware of my action.
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lunaroid
my friend keeps calling me manipulative because i was mad at her one time and its making me really worriied bc i try so so hard to be a good person but idk if i am
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my friend keeps calling me manipulative because i was mad at her one time and its making me really worriied bc i try so so hard to be a good person but idk if i am
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Tracy
I fit these signs, for so long I would blame others but realize I need to fix myself and become a better person and change me and not play the victim anymore.
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I fit these signs, for so long I would blame others but realize I need to fix myself and become a better person and change me and not play the victim anymore.
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