The Drama Triangle (Victim, Prosecutor, Rescuer) by Stephen Karpman Explained
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Ryan
I'm starting to realize a disturbing pattern o behavior o my friends they appear to have this tendency to rob me o my allowance only appears on paydays to drain me o fundage leaving disappearing wrapped up in there business o shenanigans not keeping any promises they makes wish i could prevent myself from noticing these signs I'm gonna change roles dynamically drastically i don't see them doing this routines o behavior wit anyone else they only hangout while the funds last leaves my high & dry month after month where's their conscious why am i not a person to them why do i accept them behaviors letting people b people but i don't feel like a person when they take that course o actions rounds wit me gotta really discuss this stuff out wit them they can't b blind to this special treatment I've been receiving they recognize enuff to treat themselves to my funds i think i gittin fed up wit how they behave how i behaves feeling needy moodiness tendencies soon i may force them to treat me harshly like the crowd rather they abandoned me for gud than give me a boost o the fleeting feels o importance i don't knows how to handle being a tool for their convenience anymore I'm gittin over being used if they're only in this for my allowance jus the cash there's more important things than money buddy if you can't see me for more then that's worth heck am i even valued in the first place feels sorta too much too little in all the rong ways now that i wrote this out maybe times to write off some wiseguys where to locate that better crowd out there sojourneys
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I'm starting to realize a disturbing pattern o behavior o my friends they appear to have this tendency to rob me o my allowance only appears on paydays to drain me o fundage leaving disappearing wrapped up in there business o shenanigans not keeping any promises they makes wish i could prevent myself from noticing these signs I'm gonna change roles dynamically drastically i don't see them doing this routines o behavior wit anyone else they only hangout while the funds last leaves my high & dry month after month where's their conscious why am i not a person to them why do i accept them behaviors letting people b people but i don't feel like a person when they take that course o actions rounds wit me gotta really discuss this stuff out wit them they can't b blind to this special treatment I've been receiving they recognize enuff to treat themselves to my funds i think i gittin fed up wit how they behave how i behaves feeling needy moodiness tendencies soon i may force them to treat me harshly like the crowd rather they abandoned me for gud than give me a boost o the fleeting feels o importance i don't knows how to handle being a tool for their convenience anymore I'm gittin over being used if they're only in this for my allowance jus the cash there's more important things than money buddy if you can't see me for more then that's worth heck am i even valued in the first place feels sorta too much too little in all the rong ways now that i wrote this out maybe times to write off some wiseguys where to locate that better crowd out there sojourneys
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Fernanda
Im the victim lately i used to be the rescuer hahahaha i fell in love with someone i wanted to help regain happiness and a partner that is always there for him, and i still love him but he took me out of his life bc he doesnt want help. Then i had a crisis and my life broke completely and i dont have the strenght to keep going and go out my victim mentality, angry at the people that were the cause of my childhood wrecking, finally allowing myself to get angry, maybe as i let myself feel those things ill heal and gather strenght to get my life together
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Im the victim lately i used to be the rescuer hahahaha i fell in love with someone i wanted to help regain happiness and a partner that is always there for him, and i still love him but he took me out of his life bc he doesnt want help. Then i had a crisis and my life broke completely and i dont have the strenght to keep going and go out my victim mentality, angry at the people that were the cause of my childhood wrecking, finally allowing myself to get angry, maybe as i let myself feel those things ill heal and gather strenght to get my life together
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Sharkylover
The victim archetype is why I don't allow myself to fall in love. I've been struggling with depression and have a lot of emotional baggage from my childhood. I've created this illusion in my head that once I fall in love all my problems would go away, since I'll have somebody by my side. It sounds good at first, but that would mean heavily depending my partner. I don't wanna burden other people with all of that and end up becoming toxic.
I just wanna fall in love like everybody else.
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The victim archetype is why I don't allow myself to fall in love. I've been struggling with depression and have a lot of emotional baggage from my childhood. I've created this illusion in my head that once I fall in love all my problems would go away, since I'll have somebody by my side. It sounds good at first, but that would mean heavily depending my partner. I don't wanna burden other people with all of that and end up becoming toxic.
I just wanna fall in love like everybody else.
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-Random
My mother is a persecutor most of the time. A few days ago she started being a bit nicer, going in a victim-like mentality when she's been mad at us for years. My father has more of a victim-like mentality when he's the one that first hurt us, and i guess i'm a mix. It's a bit hard to balance, but once i'm out of here i'll be better. I just worry about what they'll become.
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My mother is a persecutor most of the time. A few days ago she started being a bit nicer, going in a victim-like mentality when she's been mad at us for years. My father has more of a victim-like mentality when he's the one that first hurt us, and i guess i'm a mix. It's a bit hard to balance, but once i'm out of here i'll be better. I just worry about what they'll become.
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Naomi
I unfortunately act like a victim in dramatic situations whereas my father is a persecutor. I know having that mentality isnt good but I went through a lot of emotional abuse when I was younger and my dad was never punished or sent to therapy for how he treated\treats me. I try my best to work on my victim mentality but its hard sometimes
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I unfortunately act like a victim in dramatic situations whereas my father is a persecutor. I know having that mentality isnt good but I went through a lot of emotional abuse when I was younger and my dad was never punished or sent to therapy for how he treated\treats me. I try my best to work on my victim mentality but its hard sometimes
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Shiratama
I'm always so excited every time you upload a new video! Your voice is very reassuring, the drawing make me comfortable, and the tips are probably life changing! Just wanted to say thank you for making everyone informed. I'm sure I can speak for pretty much all of your viewers! Thank you!
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I'm always so excited every time you upload a new video! Your voice is very reassuring, the drawing make me comfortable, and the tips are probably life changing! Just wanted to say thank you for making everyone informed. I'm sure I can speak for pretty much all of your viewers! Thank you!
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Jasmine
Yoo were you thinking of doing the victory triangle? How this model can apply to disagreements in a relationship/friendship and how to break the horrible cycle the drama triangle causes? I think it'd be very useful for people struggling as it was for me when my therapist told me about it! x
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Yoo were you thinking of doing the victory triangle? How this model can apply to disagreements in a relationship/friendship and how to break the horrible cycle the drama triangle causes? I think it'd be very useful for people struggling as it was for me when my therapist told me about it! x
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Maya
I think I'm the victim but the sometimes the rescuer. Every time I get the opportunity to be in a relationship, I turn it down. Because I have the victim mentality. I don't want to spread something that's within me to other people. who are perfectly fine. (I just had to get this off my chest)
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I think I'm the victim but the sometimes the rescuer. Every time I get the opportunity to be in a relationship, I turn it down. Because I have the victim mentality. I don't want to spread something that's within me to other people. who are perfectly fine. (I just had to get this off my chest)
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EYESMR
A normal healthy person have their feelings organized and are aware when they express an emotion. They allow themselves to be natural and start/stop when they feel like to. They are intuitive. Everything works in their body. They are empathetic. THEIR SENSITIVITY IS NOT ABUSED.
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A normal healthy person have their feelings organized and are aware when they express an emotion. They allow themselves to be natural and start/stop when they feel like to. They are intuitive. Everything works in their body. They are empathetic. THEIR SENSITIVITY IS NOT ABUSED.
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Nicola
is there some other types of rescuer? because i feel mostly like it but not entirely, but not like other types of the triangle. more like rescuer that likes to take things to the end and be happy if the result helped the person be more independent
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is there some other types of rescuer? because i feel mostly like it but not entirely, but not like other types of the triangle. more like rescuer that likes to take things to the end and be happy if the result helped the person be more independent
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The
I love how they time everything to when I am looking for certain videos. I want a video on how to help your mental health when you are not well psychically and just have to wait for the doctors to figure out what they can do to help.
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I love how they time everything to when I am looking for certain videos. I want a video on how to help your mental health when you are not well psychically and just have to wait for the doctors to figure out what they can do to help.
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BriamGzz
I have years knowing I'm a White Knight Rescuer. I have been receiving psychological help for only a few months due to an emotional dependence.
I will return to this comment when I know that I am better in the future.
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I have years knowing I'm a White Knight Rescuer. I have been receiving psychological help for only a few months due to an emotional dependence.
I will return to this comment when I know that I am better in the future.
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education
This one is so helpful for me right now. I just realized that I have a little of victim mentality but shifts to a rescuer most of the time and then becomes a persecutor in a subtle way when I bottle up negativity.
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This one is so helpful for me right now. I just realized that I have a little of victim mentality but shifts to a rescuer most of the time and then becomes a persecutor in a subtle way when I bottle up negativity.
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Pollyana
My psychotherapist always talks about those 3 archetypes. I played many of those roles, but specially the rescuer white knight in my relationships. Trying to find balance and be aware of my own actions now.
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My psychotherapist always talks about those 3 archetypes. I played many of those roles, but specially the rescuer white knight in my relationships. Trying to find balance and be aware of my own actions now.
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Lorn
Applies to friends and social groups too.
I've witnessed persecutors come in as a victim type, only to start asserting control. Rescuer types sided with them, leaving behind at least one victim.
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Applies to friends and social groups too.
I've witnessed persecutors come in as a victim type, only to start asserting control. Rescuer types sided with them, leaving behind at least one victim.
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Rainbow
Which one are you? Ah yes, there is no physical way that you can't have a bad relationship. E V R Y T H I N G I S B A D
Can you tell that I have depression yet XD
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Which one are you? Ah yes, there is no physical way that you can't have a bad relationship. E V R Y T H I N G I S B A D
Can you tell that I have depression yet XD
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Shenew
i feel as though i have been guilty of all three at one time or another
but i recognize with 1 most 2 somewhat and 3 the least
what would i address first?
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i feel as though i have been guilty of all three at one time or another
but i recognize with 1 most 2 somewhat and 3 the least
what would i address first?
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mexiety
i know this is unrelated, but have you ever heard of equine (horse) therapy? it's an interesting topic, just an idea for a future video if you'd like
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i know this is unrelated, but have you ever heard of equine (horse) therapy? it's an interesting topic, just an idea for a future video if you'd like
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trickster
Wow. all three is me on some days. The prosecutor is only very little. I'm definitely a victim when I'm down but a rescuer otherwise
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Wow. all three is me on some days. The prosecutor is only very little. I'm definitely a victim when I'm down but a rescuer otherwise
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Amanda
What do you do when the victim will not try any or entertain the thought of suggestions to try to prevent these problems from arising?
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What do you do when the victim will not try any or entertain the thought of suggestions to try to prevent these problems from arising?
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ViceN53X
I'm willing to bet most of those rescuer types were men who get taken advantage of by women who are the victim or the persecutor
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I'm willing to bet most of those rescuer types were men who get taken advantage of by women who are the victim or the persecutor
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sassylittleprophet
Persecutors issue empty threats. oh I assure you, they follow through often enough to hold you in a state of terror.
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Persecutors issue empty threats. oh I assure you, they follow through often enough to hold you in a state of terror.
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hope
this is a really intense random and a lot of a question but is anyone here good with people who are suicidal and has discord
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this is a really intense random and a lot of a question but is anyone here good with people who are suicidal and has discord
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Nurul
As a victim with a prosecutor brother is really hard. He ignores me all the time like some dirt! Yeah, just go away
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As a victim with a prosecutor brother is really hard. He ignores me all the time like some dirt! Yeah, just go away
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Peter
Is it possible for someone to manifest all three personalities? Or is that a completely different mental disease?
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Is it possible for someone to manifest all three personalities? Or is that a completely different mental disease?
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