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The Dark Side of Highly Sensitive People (HSP) [8 Mil Bonus]
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Nikki
I hate how much of an hsp i am, i overthink over the smallest details, peoples moodchanges or responses, the criticism and how i reply to people, knowing that mostly everything i do or say can go downhill without me knowing, im fully aware that i can mess things up which made me become a hsp. when criticism, i try to better myself and try reach peoples expectations where to the point i overwhelm myself and i slowly loose the sense of my own feeling, i dont know how i was or how i feel anymore, the only thing im doing is being someone i know i shouldnt be but yet here i am, im nobody who tries to mask themselves when im a completely different person. And when my family notices if im very stressed or pressured, theyd always say that im the one thats dramatic and that everyone has it and everyones situation is worse. What am i supposed to do here? I thought you wanted me to be smarter so i try to look cold and stoic because SOME people stereotype smart people as stoic and more mature, and youre bothered because im stressed about trying to be smart? Some reassurance would be nice please? Every tiny criticism someone would give, either positive or negative, id sometimes and immediately say sorry because im not doing what they want to, and sometimes i take it too seriously to the point where my friends or my mama asks me if im okay. and No i was never okay.
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I hate how much of an hsp i am, i overthink over the smallest details, peoples moodchanges or responses, the criticism and how i reply to people, knowing that mostly everything i do or say can go downhill without me knowing, im fully aware that i can mess things up which made me become a hsp. when criticism, i try to better myself and try reach peoples expectations where to the point i overwhelm myself and i slowly loose the sense of my own feeling, i dont know how i was or how i feel anymore, the only thing im doing is being someone i know i shouldnt be but yet here i am, im nobody who tries to mask themselves when im a completely different person. And when my family notices if im very stressed or pressured, theyd always say that im the one thats dramatic and that everyone has it and everyones situation is worse. What am i supposed to do here? I thought you wanted me to be smarter so i try to look cold and stoic because SOME people stereotype smart people as stoic and more mature, and youre bothered because im stressed about trying to be smart? Some reassurance would be nice please? Every tiny criticism someone would give, either positive or negative, id sometimes and immediately say sorry because im not doing what they want to, and sometimes i take it too seriously to the point where my friends or my mama asks me if im okay. and No i was never okay.
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PeachyFoxy
as an HSP im so thankful for more videos to get myself more educated about the idea of being this way and the knowledge that there are more people like me out there
it gets really lonely being hypersensitive and usually when i tell people i am, they don't really understand what comes with it
I'm said to be emotional and sensitive and small things that no one cares about just bother me incredibly much.
I once stayed at my uncles house and he tore the spaghetti in two halves. It was a huuuge deal for me and i cried over it yet they didn't understand and kept asking why i made such a big deal out of it when to me it was a really big deal.
I get really overwhelmed when my parents try putting me to study and lack focus, on top of that I have diagnosed depression and I'm an overthinker
Not all too great combinations but ahhh.
on top of that also high EQ and IQ which aLso doesnt help because I get SO bored easily from every day things then have no motivation for them or for studying and then my depression also kicks my ass and ahh
not so pleasant, but I have therapy and i'm pulling through it
It just. sometimes get's really lonely to feel alone with all this. :')
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as an HSP im so thankful for more videos to get myself more educated about the idea of being this way and the knowledge that there are more people like me out there
it gets really lonely being hypersensitive and usually when i tell people i am, they don't really understand what comes with it
I'm said to be emotional and sensitive and small things that no one cares about just bother me incredibly much.
I once stayed at my uncles house and he tore the spaghetti in two halves. It was a huuuge deal for me and i cried over it yet they didn't understand and kept asking why i made such a big deal out of it when to me it was a really big deal.
I get really overwhelmed when my parents try putting me to study and lack focus, on top of that I have diagnosed depression and I'm an overthinker
Not all too great combinations but ahhh.
on top of that also high EQ and IQ which aLso doesnt help because I get SO bored easily from every day things then have no motivation for them or for studying and then my depression also kicks my ass and ahh
not so pleasant, but I have therapy and i'm pulling through it
It just. sometimes get's really lonely to feel alone with all this. :')
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pamela
Hello I feel being highly sensitive an empathy you get toke advantage of so much! At times I hate being this way! You feeel for everything g every body not moments break even animals i because vegan about 4 years ago! Have been little off lately just eat vegetarian due not job but never eat meats again! When woke up from being asleep all my life I realize we eating an animal that wants to be a pet! So I have not ate meat in long time 4 years! I stoping eating them never went back! But yes I feel like I was given a huge amount of heart an its getting harder harder to deal with because ppl take advantage when you down! How ever I am get better! Just need find my own space again! My sister passed 2 months ago I lived with her now I take care her husband do not mine but I now feel it is expected of me just because I live in the house! Going find my way out before he go back down God for bid anything should happen but it a lot tske on! No complaints I did it well until I seen the light how it is expected! I just want be normal.
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Hello I feel being highly sensitive an empathy you get toke advantage of so much! At times I hate being this way! You feeel for everything g every body not moments break even animals i because vegan about 4 years ago! Have been little off lately just eat vegetarian due not job but never eat meats again! When woke up from being asleep all my life I realize we eating an animal that wants to be a pet! So I have not ate meat in long time 4 years! I stoping eating them never went back! But yes I feel like I was given a huge amount of heart an its getting harder harder to deal with because ppl take advantage when you down! How ever I am get better! Just need find my own space again! My sister passed 2 months ago I lived with her now I take care her husband do not mine but I now feel it is expected of me just because I live in the house! Going find my way out before he go back down God for bid anything should happen but it a lot tske on! No complaints I did it well until I seen the light how it is expected! I just want be normal.
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psych2go
I've struggled with #6 (and all the other ones) all my life. #6 really stuck out. When i was younger I use to cry so easily because my feelings would be so overwhelming it would come out in tears. Just because I'm crying doesn't mean I'm sad, I could be mad. I had to learn how to suppress that. When I tried describing HSP to my mom she didn't listen. it would be nice for her to just listen to me instead of trying to solve things for me. I understand she's being a mother, and she's been an amazing mother but certain things that I wish i could tell her, I don't. The only person I want to understand me and be the most transparent with, I can't. She told me not to diagnosis myself. She was trying to tell me I'm fine the way I am but that wasn't the point of me expressing the HSP topic to her. Idk what to do.
I've had to learn how to put myself in an invisible bubble when I'm around too much energies from others.
Do you guys also hear higher pitched noises? Like old tv's or those deer/rodent deterrents?
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I've struggled with #6 (and all the other ones) all my life. #6 really stuck out. When i was younger I use to cry so easily because my feelings would be so overwhelming it would come out in tears. Just because I'm crying doesn't mean I'm sad, I could be mad. I had to learn how to suppress that. When I tried describing HSP to my mom she didn't listen. it would be nice for her to just listen to me instead of trying to solve things for me. I understand she's being a mother, and she's been an amazing mother but certain things that I wish i could tell her, I don't. The only person I want to understand me and be the most transparent with, I can't. She told me not to diagnosis myself. She was trying to tell me I'm fine the way I am but that wasn't the point of me expressing the HSP topic to her. Idk what to do.
I've had to learn how to put myself in an invisible bubble when I'm around too much energies from others.
Do you guys also hear higher pitched noises? Like old tv's or those deer/rodent deterrents?
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Mariana
As a HSP myself and one who has been through way too much in terms of betrayals, loss, and abuse. It's not that we're too sensitive. Rather, in my experience, it's the ones around who lack the proper level of respect, empathy or sensitivity, or even care.
If anything, they ought to be ashamed or feel bad because if I am to be pointed out for being empathetic and being able to put myself in another's shoes to try and understand their sorrow with someone, then they should be pointed out for not even shedding a tear or trying to be compassionate or just being idle while witnessing injustice and suffering, especially if they could at least offer an ear or a shoulder as support. Which is beyond monstrous and incomprehensible to me.
After too many occasions, I have gotten back to my own company. Because it's better to bask in your solitude instead of feeling alone in a crowded room.
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As a HSP myself and one who has been through way too much in terms of betrayals, loss, and abuse. It's not that we're too sensitive. Rather, in my experience, it's the ones around who lack the proper level of respect, empathy or sensitivity, or even care.
If anything, they ought to be ashamed or feel bad because if I am to be pointed out for being empathetic and being able to put myself in another's shoes to try and understand their sorrow with someone, then they should be pointed out for not even shedding a tear or trying to be compassionate or just being idle while witnessing injustice and suffering, especially if they could at least offer an ear or a shoulder as support. Which is beyond monstrous and incomprehensible to me.
After too many occasions, I have gotten back to my own company. Because it's better to bask in your solitude instead of feeling alone in a crowded room.
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Bernice
This was a really interesting video. Many aspects of life are difficult when people dont understand and were mislabeled. The usual comments of dont be so sensitive, youre acting bipolar, you just need to learn to be less sensitive, you think and care way too much etc and always being overwhelmed by noise, exhausted because of taking on other peoples emotions, difficulties in crowds etc
Its so hard to find comfort in anything these days, Im constantly trying to mask who I am as a person because the characteristics of an hsp make it seem like im overly nice, which leads to me being taken advantage of or people dumping entire problems/emotions on me. I do love to help people but its so overwhelming sometimes.
To be honest this is why I can spend weeks at a time trying to socially isolate myself because I just dont want to deal with people anymore
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This was a really interesting video. Many aspects of life are difficult when people dont understand and were mislabeled. The usual comments of dont be so sensitive, youre acting bipolar, you just need to learn to be less sensitive, you think and care way too much etc and always being overwhelmed by noise, exhausted because of taking on other peoples emotions, difficulties in crowds etc
Its so hard to find comfort in anything these days, Im constantly trying to mask who I am as a person because the characteristics of an hsp make it seem like im overly nice, which leads to me being taken advantage of or people dumping entire problems/emotions on me. I do love to help people but its so overwhelming sometimes.
To be honest this is why I can spend weeks at a time trying to socially isolate myself because I just dont want to deal with people anymore
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POisson
My parents would always blame me for not being talkative and extroverted. In fact most of the times it was just me being frightened--I was afraid I may not present myself well, and I didn't know whether people would like me if I was to start the conversation, and it would be awkward, but I didn't want to let my parents down. That's probably why I stammer and sweat when I try to start conversations though I have lots to say. Now the REAL problems is, I have to take the English proficiency test (I got IELTS 8. 0, and I had marks deduced because the examiner thought I wasn't confident and fluent because I 'emm' and 'ehh', but that's just how I talk even in my native language. Maybe I'm being too negative about this but I do hope things can work out. I'm 16, there's a long way to go and I don't even think I can survive being like this.
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My parents would always blame me for not being talkative and extroverted. In fact most of the times it was just me being frightened--I was afraid I may not present myself well, and I didn't know whether people would like me if I was to start the conversation, and it would be awkward, but I didn't want to let my parents down. That's probably why I stammer and sweat when I try to start conversations though I have lots to say. Now the REAL problems is, I have to take the English proficiency test (I got IELTS 8. 0, and I had marks deduced because the examiner thought I wasn't confident and fluent because I 'emm' and 'ehh', but that's just how I talk even in my native language. Maybe I'm being too negative about this but I do hope things can work out. I'm 16, there's a long way to go and I don't even think I can survive being like this.
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Clary
I discovered late in life I was an HSP, and with all this articles and books I have learned who I am, and I want to deal with myself and understand myself in a brand new way and see that those qualities that I have doubts, and thought were an attitude problem are just part of my personality, which brings me to understand myself and love myself better and to be more patient and understanding of previous relationship fails as I rediscover myself so thank you to you guys for making these resources and videos possible for the rest of us who are HSP desperate for a world more comfortable to ourselves in our communities, our system, and in our contemporary times, thank you a lot for helping me and for helping us a HSPs to understand ourselves there will be able to love ourselves more thank you thank you thank you
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I discovered late in life I was an HSP, and with all this articles and books I have learned who I am, and I want to deal with myself and understand myself in a brand new way and see that those qualities that I have doubts, and thought were an attitude problem are just part of my personality, which brings me to understand myself and love myself better and to be more patient and understanding of previous relationship fails as I rediscover myself so thank you to you guys for making these resources and videos possible for the rest of us who are HSP desperate for a world more comfortable to ourselves in our communities, our system, and in our contemporary times, thank you a lot for helping me and for helping us a HSPs to understand ourselves there will be able to love ourselves more thank you thank you thank you
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Ellanore
I hate feeling other peoples emotions. I may be having a great day, smiling and doing a craft. But then in walks a family member who is angry or depressed and there goes my happy light mood.
I especially hate feeling anxiety. I myself am not an anxious person. But I know anxiety because I feel it when others are anxious. And I don't like it.
This is why I prefer being alone. I can be happy without anyone destroying it.
It is also why I always try to make people laugh. Because other people influence my emotions. So if they are laughing then I will feel happy.
I have heard that appearantly we can block other peoples emotions but so far I have not achieved it
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I hate feeling other peoples emotions. I may be having a great day, smiling and doing a craft. But then in walks a family member who is angry or depressed and there goes my happy light mood.
I especially hate feeling anxiety. I myself am not an anxious person. But I know anxiety because I feel it when others are anxious. And I don't like it.
This is why I prefer being alone. I can be happy without anyone destroying it.
It is also why I always try to make people laugh. Because other people influence my emotions. So if they are laughing then I will feel happy.
I have heard that appearantly we can block other peoples emotions but so far I have not achieved it
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hardtogetnamehere
My oldest sister that I refuse to talk to is overly sensitive. I buy a house, and its not me buying a house for my family, its me rubbing it in her face that she cant buy a house. I got married. Its not my husband loves me, its she deserves my husband more than I do and I should give him to her. I push my children to succeed in school. Thats not me trying to help my children do their best. Its me using my children to put hers down. Not allowing her 5yo child run around my house naked with my husband and sons home is not enforcing acceptable boundaries. Its me literally abusing her and her child. No contact on my part is glorious!
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My oldest sister that I refuse to talk to is overly sensitive. I buy a house, and its not me buying a house for my family, its me rubbing it in her face that she cant buy a house. I got married. Its not my husband loves me, its she deserves my husband more than I do and I should give him to her. I push my children to succeed in school. Thats not me trying to help my children do their best. Its me using my children to put hers down. Not allowing her 5yo child run around my house naked with my husband and sons home is not enforcing acceptable boundaries. Its me literally abusing her and her child. No contact on my part is glorious!
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Kasey
As an hsp, as a kid my parents always would say things like grow thicker skin, let it roll off of you. And it made me always seem like I was an issue. As an adult, my ex would always criticize me and make fun of me for being sensitive. Now I have a wonderful boyfriend who accepts that part of me, he says he loves and admires how I can love so deeply. He likes how I cry at cute things and get flustered so quickly. And he doesnt get angry when my mood does turn sour so quickly when something happens. He will give me alone time or offer a distraction when he can. For all HSPs out there. There will be people that understand you.
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As an hsp, as a kid my parents always would say things like grow thicker skin, let it roll off of you. And it made me always seem like I was an issue. As an adult, my ex would always criticize me and make fun of me for being sensitive. Now I have a wonderful boyfriend who accepts that part of me, he says he loves and admires how I can love so deeply. He likes how I cry at cute things and get flustered so quickly. And he doesnt get angry when my mood does turn sour so quickly when something happens. He will give me alone time or offer a distraction when he can. For all HSPs out there. There will be people that understand you.
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Jalyn
Well put! You basically summed up all my struggles with life. I think the biggest downside to being an HSP: the lack of legacy on how to manage the downside of being an HSP. It would have been nice if as kids, a knowledgeable adult could have noticed I was an HSP and taught me tools and strategies for managing it. Instead we're left to struggle and bcuz we're kids we don't have context for the upsets that everybody else takes for granted.
I have worked very hard to develop strategies and work through baggage so my dark side is more easily regulated, and I can experience more peace more of the time.
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Well put! You basically summed up all my struggles with life. I think the biggest downside to being an HSP: the lack of legacy on how to manage the downside of being an HSP. It would have been nice if as kids, a knowledgeable adult could have noticed I was an HSP and taught me tools and strategies for managing it. Instead we're left to struggle and bcuz we're kids we don't have context for the upsets that everybody else takes for granted.
I have worked very hard to develop strategies and work through baggage so my dark side is more easily regulated, and I can experience more peace more of the time.
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Indrid
I find it a positive that I am an emotionless and emotion blind person. I can not read the emotions of others. Thus, I grew up believing humans experienced very little emotions. It is only very recently that I found out that humans have lots of emotions. Throughout my life, I never knew what emotions humans have had towards me. Did they like me? Did they hate me? Did they find me attractive? Did they find me hideous? Did they have a crush on me? To me, I was nothing to anybody and others are nothing to me. But this assures I perform at maximum efficiency for all the tasks I perform.
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I find it a positive that I am an emotionless and emotion blind person. I can not read the emotions of others. Thus, I grew up believing humans experienced very little emotions. It is only very recently that I found out that humans have lots of emotions. Throughout my life, I never knew what emotions humans have had towards me. Did they like me? Did they hate me? Did they find me attractive? Did they find me hideous? Did they have a crush on me? To me, I was nothing to anybody and others are nothing to me. But this assures I perform at maximum efficiency for all the tasks I perform.
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Venom
I am an HSP. I used to be horrible at setting boundaries. Living on this planet for 40 years now, Im pretty good at drawing lines now. Its one of the best things I do for myself. And as for being insecure about being sensitive. F that. I face it everyday and admit that I am whenever its necessary. It helps me to be comfortable with confrontation. Confrontation is part of life. I can either cower all the time and feel bad about myself or feel better about myself and embrace confrontation when its necessary.
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I am an HSP. I used to be horrible at setting boundaries. Living on this planet for 40 years now, Im pretty good at drawing lines now. Its one of the best things I do for myself. And as for being insecure about being sensitive. F that. I face it everyday and admit that I am whenever its necessary. It helps me to be comfortable with confrontation. Confrontation is part of life. I can either cower all the time and feel bad about myself or feel better about myself and embrace confrontation when its necessary.
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psych2go
As a HSP, I would never wanted to be less sensitive, becouse the life is one, and I can feel Its beauty even more, isnt this amazing? I can work out my minuses, and the advantages of being sensitive are huge! I want to be psychologist when I will grown up, and I can see my advantages as a therapist even now. So dont be upset about being sensitive, It is the easiest way. But If you will work a bit with your disvantages you will be blessed, my dear, you allready are blessed by God!
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As a HSP, I would never wanted to be less sensitive, becouse the life is one, and I can feel Its beauty even more, isnt this amazing? I can work out my minuses, and the advantages of being sensitive are huge! I want to be psychologist when I will grown up, and I can see my advantages as a therapist even now. So dont be upset about being sensitive, It is the easiest way. But If you will work a bit with your disvantages you will be blessed, my dear, you allready are blessed by God!
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Fluffy
my friend told me about how she was diagnosed with depression while crying over the phone. i cried with her at that time. but somehow the next day i was very disturbed. i couldnt concentrate at my work. i went to a quiet place to cry. and it lasted for the whole day. i tried to calm myself down so i can do my work. sometimes i wish i didnt feel anything and just move on like everybody else but i just cant
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my friend told me about how she was diagnosed with depression while crying over the phone. i cried with her at that time. but somehow the next day i was very disturbed. i couldnt concentrate at my work. i went to a quiet place to cry. and it lasted for the whole day. i tried to calm myself down so i can do my work. sometimes i wish i didnt feel anything and just move on like everybody else but i just cant
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DJ
Much appreciation for the awareness, but I wish the video would have stressed a call to action to fix being HIGHLY sensitive. This is something you would go to therapy for. Ive had highly sensitive people in my life before (girlfriends, platonic, etc) and its a struggle to deal with them. Functioning in normal society is difficult for them and they need help. Being highly sensitive is not a badge of honor.
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Much appreciation for the awareness, but I wish the video would have stressed a call to action to fix being HIGHLY sensitive. This is something you would go to therapy for. Ive had highly sensitive people in my life before (girlfriends, platonic, etc) and its a struggle to deal with them. Functioning in normal society is difficult for them and they need help. Being highly sensitive is not a badge of honor.
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Satanen
Sensitive people can be such big bullies and liars themselves. Accusing people for things they haven't done!
These are the types of people who go and cry to the higher ups behind your back, magnifying everything you have ever said to them and taking offense for the most mundane everyday conversations you had. I try to avoid these people as much as I avoid people with the dark triad personality.
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Sensitive people can be such big bullies and liars themselves. Accusing people for things they haven't done!
These are the types of people who go and cry to the higher ups behind your back, magnifying everything you have ever said to them and taking offense for the most mundane everyday conversations you had. I try to avoid these people as much as I avoid people with the dark triad personality.
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Brigette
I just was crying because I heard the boy I like was crying. It hurts a lot to imagine him crying and I know I cant help him right now. I think were both HSPs. He was crying because he left his IPad over someones house but he needed it to do something for like two people so he was upset to let them down. Im crying because I simply heard hes crying I think thats a very HSP moment right there
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I just was crying because I heard the boy I like was crying. It hurts a lot to imagine him crying and I know I cant help him right now. I think were both HSPs. He was crying because he left his IPad over someones house but he needed it to do something for like two people so he was upset to let them down. Im crying because I simply heard hes crying I think thats a very HSP moment right there
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HailAnts
I have been this way my whole life and, ahh, things have not been great. Terrible in fact. I really really don't wish this upon anyone because it's impossible for me to see any benefits not being completely and totally destroyed by the enormous and overwhelming negative consequences of being like this.
It makes life impossible.
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I have been this way my whole life and, ahh, things have not been great. Terrible in fact. I really really don't wish this upon anyone because it's impossible for me to see any benefits not being completely and totally destroyed by the enormous and overwhelming negative consequences of being like this.
It makes life impossible.
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Alyson
I lost count over times Ive been called a baby or drama queen or told to toughen up, buttercup. It hurts so much. Even my own family is guilty of it. Im slowly trying to forgive myself and stop listening to them while also practicing calming exercises so I dont have people feel like theyre walking on eggshells around me.
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I lost count over times Ive been called a baby or drama queen or told to toughen up, buttercup. It hurts so much. Even my own family is guilty of it. Im slowly trying to forgive myself and stop listening to them while also practicing calming exercises so I dont have people feel like theyre walking on eggshells around me.
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Betsy
in order tbh I feel as if this planet way too cruel emotionless lustful horrific greedy sadistic hostile vingeful for us for animaswe need peaceful empathetic caring compassionate considerate &magical world full of anials angels fairies genies flowers plants sanctuaries cotton castles &lot less politcs &no more wars.
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in order tbh I feel as if this planet way too cruel emotionless lustful horrific greedy sadistic hostile vingeful for us for animaswe need peaceful empathetic caring compassionate considerate &magical world full of anials angels fairies genies flowers plants sanctuaries cotton castles &lot less politcs &no more wars.
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0darknana
When my brother in law, who had helped raise me, died in a trucking accident. I was so embarrassed that i was more upset than my sister.
Everyone thought it was weird, but i couldn't stop thinking about how sacred he was in his last moments. 20 years later, it's still the same.
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When my brother in law, who had helped raise me, died in a trucking accident. I was so embarrassed that i was more upset than my sister.
Everyone thought it was weird, but i couldn't stop thinking about how sacred he was in his last moments. 20 years later, it's still the same.
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The
There is so many times that I have felt so bad about something so depressed about myself, wondering why I am the way I am, and when I say that I dont mean feeling bad about being a highly sensitive person as much as having feelings about something I wish I didnt have
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There is so many times that I have felt so bad about something so depressed about myself, wondering why I am the way I am, and when I say that I dont mean feeling bad about being a highly sensitive person as much as having feelings about something I wish I didnt have
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unboxed
hsp and infj here, it's hard sometimes, but I am proud of who and what I am, as an empath I try to help others, of course this can also have it's downsides. 11 years single, due to reasons explained in the 7 reasons you are single as an infj xD.
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hsp and infj here, it's hard sometimes, but I am proud of who and what I am, as an empath I try to help others, of course this can also have it's downsides. 11 years single, due to reasons explained in the 7 reasons you are single as an infj xD.
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