6 Signs You Are Socially Awkward, not a Shy Introvert
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Date: 2023-08-20
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exposure therapy. its like overcoming a phobia. socializing is a skill you have to get comfortable with and you can't do that alone in you're bedroom. there is something that you can do physically which you might want to lay down for. if you're anxiety prone or you suck your stomach in chances are you breath with your chest and neck muscles which basically defaults your body into a semi fight or flight mode 100% of the time.
breathing with your diaphragm which feels like you're breathing with your stomach will allow your body to receive way more oxygen which can make you light headed. this will help you think more clearly not only because of your brain getting the oxygen it needs, but you'll be less prone to anxiety. the only time you should ever use your chest to breath is if you're getting chased by a bear or your body is under tremendous physical stress. breathing with your stomach will alleviate nearly 50% of the anxiety you feel daily. forget about what people might think about your belly, focus on doing whats healthy for yourself. chest breathing is very unhealthy and its important to get out of that habit.
but overall just take baby steps. dont scare yourself with the idea of talking to random people just yet. start doing things you normally wouldn't do in public. wear louder clothes, wear you're hair up (if you're a guy with longer hair like me, this can be scary believe it or not, if you work somewhere where you have to talk to people try to add a little to the convo, don't use self check out in grocery stores, compliment peoples clothing, work on your posture and stand up straight (not only is that belly is not nearly as bad as you think it is, you're not hiding anything trust me)
but the most important tip i can give you by far is DONT BEAT YOURSELF UP BECAUSE OF BABY STEPS. a lot of people will be super hard on themselves because maybe they weren't as natural talking to someone, maybe they spoke too quietly, maybe their anxiety got the best of them and they didn't do something. instead of nitpicking the things that you thought you did wrong, congratulate yourself on what you know you did right. you took the risk and did something which is infinitely better then doing nothing even though it might not feel like it in the moment.
making progress, no matter how little, is important and you will notice it.
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exposure therapy. its like overcoming a phobia. socializing is a skill you have to get comfortable with and you can't do that alone in you're bedroom. there is something that you can do physically which you might want to lay down for. if you're anxiety prone or you suck your stomach in chances are you breath with your chest and neck muscles which basically defaults your body into a semi fight or flight mode 100% of the time.
breathing with your diaphragm which feels like you're breathing with your stomach will allow your body to receive way more oxygen which can make you light headed. this will help you think more clearly not only because of your brain getting the oxygen it needs, but you'll be less prone to anxiety. the only time you should ever use your chest to breath is if you're getting chased by a bear or your body is under tremendous physical stress. breathing with your stomach will alleviate nearly 50% of the anxiety you feel daily. forget about what people might think about your belly, focus on doing whats healthy for yourself. chest breathing is very unhealthy and its important to get out of that habit.
but overall just take baby steps. dont scare yourself with the idea of talking to random people just yet. start doing things you normally wouldn't do in public. wear louder clothes, wear you're hair up (if you're a guy with longer hair like me, this can be scary believe it or not, if you work somewhere where you have to talk to people try to add a little to the convo, don't use self check out in grocery stores, compliment peoples clothing, work on your posture and stand up straight (not only is that belly is not nearly as bad as you think it is, you're not hiding anything trust me)
but the most important tip i can give you by far is DONT BEAT YOURSELF UP BECAUSE OF BABY STEPS. a lot of people will be super hard on themselves because maybe they weren't as natural talking to someone, maybe they spoke too quietly, maybe their anxiety got the best of them and they didn't do something. instead of nitpicking the things that you thought you did wrong, congratulate yourself on what you know you did right. you took the risk and did something which is infinitely better then doing nothing even though it might not feel like it in the moment.
making progress, no matter how little, is important and you will notice it.
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Ottz
I feel like my intense social awkwardness is one of the reasons why Ive wasted my late teens and twenties.
Im 28 now. I believe the reason why Ive struggled to maintain conversations, to get out more, why Ive actually worked poorly at jobs, why relationships have ended, why I have yet to really pursue my dreams, why I have not taken advantage of big opportunities, and why Im currently living with my parents and jobless is because of me. Because of my intense fear of failure, my fear that I may prove my close ones right, and my fear of humiliation, which tends to then overwhelm my mind. I keep saying what if you dont make the cut? Youve wasted your time then. What if everything they said is right? What if you say the wrong thing? What if you embarrass yourself? What if you take this opportunity and you mess it up royally and then wish you never taken the opportunity in the first place? What if everyone laughs at you? What if everyone talks about you behind your back? What if someone steals your ideas if you send out a story idea or open up about it? What if you pursue this path and find out that this whole endeavour was a waste of time? But what if you dont do it then you definitely know that youre not going to succeed? What if you get the opportunity, succeed but then mess it up? You wasted an opportunity then and taken it from someone who deserves it.
Bizarrely the reason why I fail to remember things is because all Im thinking of is hoping not to forget things so it prevents anything else from coming in.
I want to stop this from further doing more to waste my life (Im in a relationship now which isnt a waste) and Im trying the best I can. However when I have tried, it has crashed poorly which is now what I think about whenever I think about opening up and trying to improve myself.
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I feel like my intense social awkwardness is one of the reasons why Ive wasted my late teens and twenties.
Im 28 now. I believe the reason why Ive struggled to maintain conversations, to get out more, why Ive actually worked poorly at jobs, why relationships have ended, why I have yet to really pursue my dreams, why I have not taken advantage of big opportunities, and why Im currently living with my parents and jobless is because of me. Because of my intense fear of failure, my fear that I may prove my close ones right, and my fear of humiliation, which tends to then overwhelm my mind. I keep saying what if you dont make the cut? Youve wasted your time then. What if everything they said is right? What if you say the wrong thing? What if you embarrass yourself? What if you take this opportunity and you mess it up royally and then wish you never taken the opportunity in the first place? What if everyone laughs at you? What if everyone talks about you behind your back? What if someone steals your ideas if you send out a story idea or open up about it? What if you pursue this path and find out that this whole endeavour was a waste of time? But what if you dont do it then you definitely know that youre not going to succeed? What if you get the opportunity, succeed but then mess it up? You wasted an opportunity then and taken it from someone who deserves it.
Bizarrely the reason why I fail to remember things is because all Im thinking of is hoping not to forget things so it prevents anything else from coming in.
I want to stop this from further doing more to waste my life (Im in a relationship now which isnt a waste) and Im trying the best I can. However when I have tried, it has crashed poorly which is now what I think about whenever I think about opening up and trying to improve myself.
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KopyErr
4: 10 this made me cry
[like actual crying bruh, idk why im so surprised bc i cried about it before]
i was like do i have social anxiety or shy extrovert
no i am socially awkward
once, my classmate said that everyone thought i was extremely quiet[my close friends know that i am not] and that i wasnt a very social person. i wanted to scream 'I AM BUT MY MUM DOESNT LET ME GO OUT' but i didnt know how to justify not talking to people at school
and now im at a new school where everything is worse, somehow
at least i go to a smashing new youth club where i can practice(even though its just little kids, but it makes it maybe slightly easier]
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4: 10 this made me cry
[like actual crying bruh, idk why im so surprised bc i cried about it before]
i was like do i have social anxiety or shy extrovert
no i am socially awkward
once, my classmate said that everyone thought i was extremely quiet[my close friends know that i am not] and that i wasnt a very social person. i wanted to scream 'I AM BUT MY MUM DOESNT LET ME GO OUT' but i didnt know how to justify not talking to people at school
and now im at a new school where everything is worse, somehow
at least i go to a smashing new youth club where i can practice(even though its just little kids, but it makes it maybe slightly easier]
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TAEHYUNG
Literally watching this rn because I want to go to this club fair that my school hosted today on Sep 16 Friday so i can get into clubs for my resume but I don't want to go anymore because I sit by myself during lunch and I will get to overwhelmed if I go by myself and see all the kids with their friends and I will probably think everyone is looking at me because I'm by myself. yeah no thank. I actually wanted to go to the club fair and been anticipating it since last week, but did not expect for it to be like this. I kinda lost some opportunities because of it. Social anxiety is not for the weak seriously. this shit is so draining
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Literally watching this rn because I want to go to this club fair that my school hosted today on Sep 16 Friday so i can get into clubs for my resume but I don't want to go anymore because I sit by myself during lunch and I will get to overwhelmed if I go by myself and see all the kids with their friends and I will probably think everyone is looking at me because I'm by myself. yeah no thank. I actually wanted to go to the club fair and been anticipating it since last week, but did not expect for it to be like this. I kinda lost some opportunities because of it. Social anxiety is not for the weak seriously. this shit is so draining
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th
I am both, i need to be alone at my house but i also want to spend time and talk with people that looks so king but then i remember no matter i try so hard to approach them it feels like people don't get attached to me enough to be friends, or it's just to difficult to overcome my fear and trying makes it even more exhausting for me to talk to people. It's an infinite loop of loneliness even though i have old friends i want to talk to others i want to discover new people, my coworkers, my classmates, my neighbours, i just want it to be as easy has it is for others
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I am both, i need to be alone at my house but i also want to spend time and talk with people that looks so king but then i remember no matter i try so hard to approach them it feels like people don't get attached to me enough to be friends, or it's just to difficult to overcome my fear and trying makes it even more exhausting for me to talk to people. It's an infinite loop of loneliness even though i have old friends i want to talk to others i want to discover new people, my coworkers, my classmates, my neighbours, i just want it to be as easy has it is for others
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aneilish
I feel like I have never related to a video of you more than rn, actually I never felt like I am big of an introvert, although everybody says I am one, I have a big problem with being social for a years, I really really want some friends and it really feels like the curse of my life, I watched soo many videos and stuff to learn more abt how I could talk to people better, how to have better interactions, how to get friends but I am still not having real progress, does anyone has like a real good tip or smth like that for my problem?
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I feel like I have never related to a video of you more than rn, actually I never felt like I am big of an introvert, although everybody says I am one, I have a big problem with being social for a years, I really really want some friends and it really feels like the curse of my life, I watched soo many videos and stuff to learn more abt how I could talk to people better, how to have better interactions, how to get friends but I am still not having real progress, does anyone has like a real good tip or smth like that for my problem?
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Keyma
I isolate myself from people for many years try to make friends they dont wanna be bothered so I keep to myself I have thoughts sometimes about not existing anymore in this world I have thought about hurting others people where they are no more of a existence in life I think a lot about being in heaven with my mother and brother I feel extremely numb inside shut off from the world I look for anything that will help me carry on day by day I rather be not here living.
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I isolate myself from people for many years try to make friends they dont wanna be bothered so I keep to myself I have thoughts sometimes about not existing anymore in this world I have thought about hurting others people where they are no more of a existence in life I think a lot about being in heaven with my mother and brother I feel extremely numb inside shut off from the world I look for anything that will help me carry on day by day I rather be not here living.
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FunGuyOmer0909
i watched a lot of the extrovert, introvert videosu u guys made
but still. i find it hard to identify.
am i socially awkward, am i an introvert, am i a socially skilless extrovert
gosh darn it its so hard sometimes to see whether or not it fits or not
im not tryna diagnose but its still hard to see if the question can be answered: (
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i watched a lot of the extrovert, introvert videosu u guys made
but still. i find it hard to identify.
am i socially awkward, am i an introvert, am i a socially skilless extrovert
gosh darn it its so hard sometimes to see whether or not it fits or not
im not tryna diagnose but its still hard to see if the question can be answered: (
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space
I'm really sad about last night. I went to a small get together with my friends and we sparked up a joint and I got really socially awkward and silent and I felt that I was ruining the mood. And I couldn't say anything. I wanted to talk to a girl I met but I just didn't know what to say
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I'm really sad about last night. I went to a small get together with my friends and we sparked up a joint and I got really socially awkward and silent and I felt that I was ruining the mood. And I couldn't say anything. I wanted to talk to a girl I met but I just didn't know what to say
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Mr
1 3 and 4 I relate to. I used to be very social but ever since at winter I would just stay quiet, dont know what to say or how to talk to people. What scares me more is just and 1 on 1 talk it, even with my friends it just hard what to say or what to talk about.
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1 3 and 4 I relate to. I used to be very social but ever since at winter I would just stay quiet, dont know what to say or how to talk to people. What scares me more is just and 1 on 1 talk it, even with my friends it just hard what to say or what to talk about.
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introvert
Don't know why I love being socially awkward cause it forces me to make up a conversation with people like right now know that people might not read this and knowing that my brain will make me delete this in 5 min so yeah well see
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Don't know why I love being socially awkward cause it forces me to make up a conversation with people like right now know that people might not read this and knowing that my brain will make me delete this in 5 min so yeah well see
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education
Ignore me haha, I needed a little of entertainment/support. i hate myself so much. I started crying cause I didnt want to talk to anyone I have to agree I am emotional and a crybaby, this made me feel a lil better: D
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Ignore me haha, I needed a little of entertainment/support. i hate myself so much. I started crying cause I didnt want to talk to anyone I have to agree I am emotional and a crybaby, this made me feel a lil better: D
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Surprisinglynot
Although I want to sociallly interact with people I find it very hard to and I don't like talking with strangers
And sometimes being alone is kinda of a benfit but it's really lonley for me
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Although I want to sociallly interact with people I find it very hard to and I don't like talking with strangers
And sometimes being alone is kinda of a benfit but it's really lonley for me
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Noam
Well based on what you said in the video, I think I was a social awkwardness person, but then after some time and changes, become an introvert. Didn't think about that before but it's really interesting.
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Well based on what you said in the video, I think I was a social awkwardness person, but then after some time and changes, become an introvert. Didn't think about that before but it's really interesting.
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education
I didn't know I was socially awkward, I'm concern that I have social anxiety as an extrovert, I related to all of them except one, I may be social awkward and I always thought I was just shy
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I didn't know I was socially awkward, I'm concern that I have social anxiety as an extrovert, I related to all of them except one, I may be social awkward and I always thought I was just shy
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EchoGnome&Cal
I feel the need to point out that one can be socially awkward due to a combination of introversion & life circumstances. It's entirely possible to be a bit of both.
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I feel the need to point out that one can be socially awkward due to a combination of introversion & life circumstances. It's entirely possible to be a bit of both.
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Itgel
can anyone tell me how am i supposed to act when someone just messages on group chat that they have a crush on you? I can't tell whether they are joking around or not.
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can anyone tell me how am i supposed to act when someone just messages on group chat that they have a crush on you? I can't tell whether they are joking around or not.
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Squeaker
Ok psych2go, now im really confused
The other video i watched basically said i was shy, but now your saying im just socially awkward?
WHICH ONE IS IT
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Ok psych2go, now im really confused
The other video i watched basically said i was shy, but now your saying im just socially awkward?
WHICH ONE IS IT
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nobodyxi
I don't feel drained by social interactions like an introvert but I also don't feel lonely when I'm alone nor do do I lack sequence
So where do I fit in?
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I don't feel drained by social interactions like an introvert but I also don't feel lonely when I'm alone nor do do I lack sequence
So where do I fit in?
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Thel0x
So i came to the conclusion i am socially awkward and everything said in this video matches me. i really dont know what to do anymore or from what it comes
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So i came to the conclusion i am socially awkward and everything said in this video matches me. i really dont know what to do anymore or from what it comes
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totadol
Finally someone spelled the truth, many people claim they're introvert rather than facing their social awkwardness or lack of social skills
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Finally someone spelled the truth, many people claim they're introvert rather than facing their social awkwardness or lack of social skills
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Simone
I am very socially awkward and its so frustrating when you wanna say smt so bad but u just dont cuz youre scared of other people reaction
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I am very socially awkward and its so frustrating when you wanna say smt so bad but u just dont cuz youre scared of other people reaction
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Alex
Not gonna lie, I've had people say I got social anxiety etc. But honestly, after this I believe im just slightly socially awkward. Thanks
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Not gonna lie, I've had people say I got social anxiety etc. But honestly, after this I believe im just slightly socially awkward. Thanks
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GR0
Me thinking: I want a medium pepperoni pizza and a big coca cola
Me speaking: I want a big coca pizza and a pepperoni medium cola
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Me thinking: I want a medium pepperoni pizza and a big coca cola
Me speaking: I want a big coca pizza and a pepperoni medium cola
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DAMN[TW]HSU
I am just wondering whats the relation or difference between shyness and social awkwardness? Are they the same things?
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I am just wondering whats the relation or difference between shyness and social awkwardness? Are they the same things?
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