5 Signs You've Been Emotionally Neglected In Childhood
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Date: 2023-08-20
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NaT
My narcissistic mother turned all my siblings and my dad against me all my life. I had almost no connection to my extended family because she isolated siblings and I from them too. I was the scapegoat and an outcast. I am still the outlier/outcast. My dad and I never really spoke more than a few words in my life because I always felt hated by him, thanks to my mother. She never really got along with him either. Then I got married and no longer lived in that hell hole. Not too long after that, my dad passed away. He never got to know the type of person I was, until about a year or 2 before his passing. He simply found out that my mom was the wrong one and not me (especially since he saw my mother abuse my siblings even after I no longer was there. My narc mother sent me a voice message to come to the funeral and she said what would the society say if you don't come to the funeral. She had some nerve messaging me with her toxic voice, after all the years of abuse and turning me against my dad and him against me. She knew deep down she was wrong and the culprit, but she still turned it all against me like a typical narcissist. If only the society knew what she did with me and my dad. Now my siblings are suffering since they live with her. Only now that they know her reality, that they suddenly show care for me. But I am kind of put off mostly, because I don't trust them fully. I never had a single supportive person in my life all those years I suffered under my toxic mother. My siblings were manipulated too and all used to gang up on me. I don't trust that they wouldn't turn against me if my mother became nicer to them if she ever had her hands again on me because she would continue the abuse with me and become nicer to my siblings. I was her least favorite and her most hated child. This is the same woman who won't stop yapping about how parents are perfect and how parents want the best for their children. This comment is coming from someone who was always or at least always tried to be obedient to her parents.
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My narcissistic mother turned all my siblings and my dad against me all my life. I had almost no connection to my extended family because she isolated siblings and I from them too. I was the scapegoat and an outcast. I am still the outlier/outcast. My dad and I never really spoke more than a few words in my life because I always felt hated by him, thanks to my mother. She never really got along with him either. Then I got married and no longer lived in that hell hole. Not too long after that, my dad passed away. He never got to know the type of person I was, until about a year or 2 before his passing. He simply found out that my mom was the wrong one and not me (especially since he saw my mother abuse my siblings even after I no longer was there. My narc mother sent me a voice message to come to the funeral and she said what would the society say if you don't come to the funeral. She had some nerve messaging me with her toxic voice, after all the years of abuse and turning me against my dad and him against me. She knew deep down she was wrong and the culprit, but she still turned it all against me like a typical narcissist. If only the society knew what she did with me and my dad. Now my siblings are suffering since they live with her. Only now that they know her reality, that they suddenly show care for me. But I am kind of put off mostly, because I don't trust them fully. I never had a single supportive person in my life all those years I suffered under my toxic mother. My siblings were manipulated too and all used to gang up on me. I don't trust that they wouldn't turn against me if my mother became nicer to them if she ever had her hands again on me because she would continue the abuse with me and become nicer to my siblings. I was her least favorite and her most hated child. This is the same woman who won't stop yapping about how parents are perfect and how parents want the best for their children. This comment is coming from someone who was always or at least always tried to be obedient to her parents.
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jan
67 yr old who grew up this way and nothing changed with our relationship into my adulthood- between different traumas never addressed I always felt different. My home was never a place I felt comfortable with inviting friends over growing up. Their homes were so much normal than mine. Took me well into my adulthood to realize what had shaped me. Only had a brother, who after my narcissistic mother passed, told me that our parents had deliberately kept him and me apart growing up. I never found out any details. He had left home to deliberately distance himself from our parents right out of college. He had very little communication/ interaction with family matters except to visit 3 days/year and only a couple of hours actually spent with family. I never had answers to so many questions about why. he drowned with 3 times over the limit of alcohol while celebrating the eve of his 62nd birthday. Needless to say I have an overload of insight acknowledge every bit of how the neglect of my upbringing made me what I am. (And him. Im immensely empathetic, people pleaser, self negligent in doing so, doubting, wanting. I had little in the way of set boundaries looking back- do as I was told or expected of that was it - no if, ands, or buts, no discussion. I opened up to a therapist years ago because I just couldnt sleep and was convinced it was due to anxiety. That began my journey to realization. I only regret that there had been that experience earlier in my life.
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67 yr old who grew up this way and nothing changed with our relationship into my adulthood- between different traumas never addressed I always felt different. My home was never a place I felt comfortable with inviting friends over growing up. Their homes were so much normal than mine. Took me well into my adulthood to realize what had shaped me. Only had a brother, who after my narcissistic mother passed, told me that our parents had deliberately kept him and me apart growing up. I never found out any details. He had left home to deliberately distance himself from our parents right out of college. He had very little communication/ interaction with family matters except to visit 3 days/year and only a couple of hours actually spent with family. I never had answers to so many questions about why. he drowned with 3 times over the limit of alcohol while celebrating the eve of his 62nd birthday. Needless to say I have an overload of insight acknowledge every bit of how the neglect of my upbringing made me what I am. (And him. Im immensely empathetic, people pleaser, self negligent in doing so, doubting, wanting. I had little in the way of set boundaries looking back- do as I was told or expected of that was it - no if, ands, or buts, no discussion. I opened up to a therapist years ago because I just couldnt sleep and was convinced it was due to anxiety. That began my journey to realization. I only regret that there had been that experience earlier in my life.
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FayCantCommunicate
Oh yes. my sister the protagonist. everything is about her, to the point I TALK AB HER TOO. LIKE NO ONE IS AS IMPORTANT AS HER. to the point that my parents give more attention to her. No. I hate the excuseShe is irresponsible, you are responsible cause i am scared, scared of messing up, then the world doesnt get why i am clingy. which is not an excuse at all. I learned i need more time with myself, not an entire family or world that see me as her little sister. For god sake i had panic attack on a relatives bathroom alone about my future and the university, which no one answered the questions i had for it, and she was crying for a guy that she was never clear about her feelings and everyone supported her. which one you think is going out for walks and works out?
Some things still. linger(is that the word) however i love her, and i love myself if people wanna come with me, sure i like cozy vibes, not constant violence and screams for what, she constantly talks above me and makes the others seem like the bad guy, like i am not in a better place and she is. I am mad cause she doesnt get that i am ok and i dont need her constant anger in the house. keep in mind she is older than me. she is like a kid.
To note: I love her a lot, thats the only thing that annoys me. well that and that my parents accept that and then they question why i am in my room
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Oh yes. my sister the protagonist. everything is about her, to the point I TALK AB HER TOO. LIKE NO ONE IS AS IMPORTANT AS HER. to the point that my parents give more attention to her. No. I hate the excuseShe is irresponsible, you are responsible cause i am scared, scared of messing up, then the world doesnt get why i am clingy. which is not an excuse at all. I learned i need more time with myself, not an entire family or world that see me as her little sister. For god sake i had panic attack on a relatives bathroom alone about my future and the university, which no one answered the questions i had for it, and she was crying for a guy that she was never clear about her feelings and everyone supported her. which one you think is going out for walks and works out?
Some things still. linger(is that the word) however i love her, and i love myself if people wanna come with me, sure i like cozy vibes, not constant violence and screams for what, she constantly talks above me and makes the others seem like the bad guy, like i am not in a better place and she is. I am mad cause she doesnt get that i am ok and i dont need her constant anger in the house. keep in mind she is older than me. she is like a kid.
To note: I love her a lot, thats the only thing that annoys me. well that and that my parents accept that and then they question why i am in my room
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Dulce
This reminds me of a time I wanted to face my fears of having stage fright by singing at a talent show at my high school one time. from the audiences perspective, you'd say I did a great job. But after my performance my nerves got the best of me and I just ran to the gym and cried, I didn't even go back on stage to the award announcements (I didn't win anything. After the show was over, on the way home my mom told me that I shouldn't have done that and should have just went back on stage because it was rude, and that my sister does this thing all the time and I should understand a little better. When we got home my dad was worse, he said I was an asshole for not coming back on stage and I should apologize to the teacher that organized the talent show. Even my own grandmother was belittling me about crying in the gym when she found me. I was met with nothing but scolding and lectures. No reassurance, No one saying I even did a good job. Nothing. My sister is a professional singer now and I only now recently told her what happened years ago. And she was absolutely dumbfounded about it.
Because of this event I don't even know if I can even sing in front of people anymore. Which is a shame because I love to sing.
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This reminds me of a time I wanted to face my fears of having stage fright by singing at a talent show at my high school one time. from the audiences perspective, you'd say I did a great job. But after my performance my nerves got the best of me and I just ran to the gym and cried, I didn't even go back on stage to the award announcements (I didn't win anything. After the show was over, on the way home my mom told me that I shouldn't have done that and should have just went back on stage because it was rude, and that my sister does this thing all the time and I should understand a little better. When we got home my dad was worse, he said I was an asshole for not coming back on stage and I should apologize to the teacher that organized the talent show. Even my own grandmother was belittling me about crying in the gym when she found me. I was met with nothing but scolding and lectures. No reassurance, No one saying I even did a good job. Nothing. My sister is a professional singer now and I only now recently told her what happened years ago. And she was absolutely dumbfounded about it.
Because of this event I don't even know if I can even sing in front of people anymore. Which is a shame because I love to sing.
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Phantamanta
Ive been neglected many times as a child by my parents, which in itself is mental abuse. Sure, I got food, a roof over my head, clothing, school, games & consoles, yet when I was still upset or sad, my parents pulled 'that' card; Why are you upset? You got everything, you shouldn't be upset. Not realizing that they judge me for everything, and they want me perfect because apparently, they want to talk to everyone about how good I was in school and that I got a job that pays well? Im sorry but my life is my business, they don't have the right to use me like a trophy.
This is also what lead to me using games to cope with depression. Even after going to a therapist, if I stop playing games, my entire brain shuts down and goes 'worthless mode', sometimes even suicidal tendencies. I just accepted it as part of me and continued playing games even today, and gave up on therapy. It did more harm to me than good. That doesn't mean that Therapy is bad, it never is, but some people, going through therapy can mess them up even more. Everyone works differently mentally, and my parents assuming that mentally I'm the same as everyone else, messed me up many times.
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Ive been neglected many times as a child by my parents, which in itself is mental abuse. Sure, I got food, a roof over my head, clothing, school, games & consoles, yet when I was still upset or sad, my parents pulled 'that' card; Why are you upset? You got everything, you shouldn't be upset. Not realizing that they judge me for everything, and they want me perfect because apparently, they want to talk to everyone about how good I was in school and that I got a job that pays well? Im sorry but my life is my business, they don't have the right to use me like a trophy.
This is also what lead to me using games to cope with depression. Even after going to a therapist, if I stop playing games, my entire brain shuts down and goes 'worthless mode', sometimes even suicidal tendencies. I just accepted it as part of me and continued playing games even today, and gave up on therapy. It did more harm to me than good. That doesn't mean that Therapy is bad, it never is, but some people, going through therapy can mess them up even more. Everyone works differently mentally, and my parents assuming that mentally I'm the same as everyone else, messed me up many times.
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Lucy
My parents never seriously neglected me, and i can't say that any of these signs really apply to me. But my family never showed empathy and made me feel like i was in the wrong for being kind towards people without expecting a reward. They're cynical and don't even notice it. It certainly damaged me and prevented me from developing self esteem as I've always felt like i was too weak and sensitive to live in the world my family has tried to prepare me for. I'm still coping with the consequences of that specific type of neglect, but having realized what's wrong already helps a lot.
To all you people who have parents that are loving, but unkind and purely pragmatic, the world isn't as harsh as they're trying to make it look to you. There are people who enjoy being nice and helping others without expecting anything in return. Kindness and compassion aren't weaknesses but strengths that you have to fight to keep intact.
There are some who will want to abuse that kindness, but also a lot of others who will love you for it, and some who may owe their life to it. So don't give up on being someone who's willing to love and be open.
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My parents never seriously neglected me, and i can't say that any of these signs really apply to me. But my family never showed empathy and made me feel like i was in the wrong for being kind towards people without expecting a reward. They're cynical and don't even notice it. It certainly damaged me and prevented me from developing self esteem as I've always felt like i was too weak and sensitive to live in the world my family has tried to prepare me for. I'm still coping with the consequences of that specific type of neglect, but having realized what's wrong already helps a lot.
To all you people who have parents that are loving, but unkind and purely pragmatic, the world isn't as harsh as they're trying to make it look to you. There are people who enjoy being nice and helping others without expecting anything in return. Kindness and compassion aren't weaknesses but strengths that you have to fight to keep intact.
There are some who will want to abuse that kindness, but also a lot of others who will love you for it, and some who may owe their life to it. So don't give up on being someone who's willing to love and be open.
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Color
Im still young, but my parents did abuse me and the first one is the one that affects me the most. I wasnt just neglected emotionally but punished for expressing emotions and opinions even if it was just Dandelions are my favorite flower! I got spanked and repeatedly told it was a weed, I was told not to feel emotions but to be afraid of my parents even if I didnt feel. It reached the point that even now when my parents are good I reflect it as them changing and letting me be a person as something for their own gain, they want their child to speak again, when it does it will go back to being another object it will go back to being abandoned and unimportant just the scapegoat it used to be. Its even too late for me to learn to feel emotions to get attached to other humans, so I go by life expressing things I dont feel or understand I even recognized myself as inhuman or an object just like they wanted because of it being too late, if maybe they showed me support and emotional care I wonder if I would have those attachments and feelings and not just fantasize about them.
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Im still young, but my parents did abuse me and the first one is the one that affects me the most. I wasnt just neglected emotionally but punished for expressing emotions and opinions even if it was just Dandelions are my favorite flower! I got spanked and repeatedly told it was a weed, I was told not to feel emotions but to be afraid of my parents even if I didnt feel. It reached the point that even now when my parents are good I reflect it as them changing and letting me be a person as something for their own gain, they want their child to speak again, when it does it will go back to being another object it will go back to being abandoned and unimportant just the scapegoat it used to be. Its even too late for me to learn to feel emotions to get attached to other humans, so I go by life expressing things I dont feel or understand I even recognized myself as inhuman or an object just like they wanted because of it being too late, if maybe they showed me support and emotional care I wonder if I would have those attachments and feelings and not just fantasize about them.
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chezzsays
I was told by my mother that after having 3 girls already, and me being the 4th, my mom was ready to trade me with another woman who was upset that she had another boy. She said she was serious. She also said she had nightmares about having a redheaded child covered in freckles, which I was, although I wasn't totally red headed, just brown with red in it. She favored my 3 older sisters and neglected me. She finally got her boy after me, so he was favored also.
I was the misfit and hated myself growing up, all the way into my late teens. During family gatherings, I would go into the kitchen where my sisters were, and tried to join in the conversation but was ignored and made to feel invisible. I think it's why all thru life, I tried making sure that if i noticed someone not getting attention (like the new kid in school, i would befriend them. I was everybody's friend, but nobody wanted to be close friends with me in highschool except very few. With my Mom, in her later years, I forgave but didn't forget.
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I was told by my mother that after having 3 girls already, and me being the 4th, my mom was ready to trade me with another woman who was upset that she had another boy. She said she was serious. She also said she had nightmares about having a redheaded child covered in freckles, which I was, although I wasn't totally red headed, just brown with red in it. She favored my 3 older sisters and neglected me. She finally got her boy after me, so he was favored also.
I was the misfit and hated myself growing up, all the way into my late teens. During family gatherings, I would go into the kitchen where my sisters were, and tried to join in the conversation but was ignored and made to feel invisible. I think it's why all thru life, I tried making sure that if i noticed someone not getting attention (like the new kid in school, i would befriend them. I was everybody's friend, but nobody wanted to be close friends with me in highschool except very few. With my Mom, in her later years, I forgave but didn't forget.
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education
I'm working on accepting the idea that, yeah, my parents are humans who also struggled. I am working through the struggles I faced growing up. I'm hoping and praying that if I can overcome my shadows and understand them, then I can feel a little more normal. I always thought and believed I was broken. I assumed it was my fault or I am just damaged. I'm 32 years old, and now finally fully feeling that I am valid, and I do deserve love and compassion. I am trying to control my negative thoughts, and allow myself to be me. I am practicing self-love and talking to myself better. I've gotten better at apologising and feeling really sorry when I think or say bad things about myself. I will actually say out loud, I'm sorry, that is not true. Which looks crazy, but, I'm actually starting to feel more empowered. I need more practice, but I know it's a start.
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I'm working on accepting the idea that, yeah, my parents are humans who also struggled. I am working through the struggles I faced growing up. I'm hoping and praying that if I can overcome my shadows and understand them, then I can feel a little more normal. I always thought and believed I was broken. I assumed it was my fault or I am just damaged. I'm 32 years old, and now finally fully feeling that I am valid, and I do deserve love and compassion. I am trying to control my negative thoughts, and allow myself to be me. I am practicing self-love and talking to myself better. I've gotten better at apologising and feeling really sorry when I think or say bad things about myself. I will actually say out loud, I'm sorry, that is not true. Which looks crazy, but, I'm actually starting to feel more empowered. I need more practice, but I know it's a start.
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Kitsuyuutsu
I just turned 50 A few years ago, I snapped out one day and told my mom I felt resentment towards her and some of the reasons why, though not all of them. You know, she actually denied that she had done anything wrong until I brought up one thing I had never brought up before and this was right after she had her triple bypass. She confirmed what I had thought for all these years, which caused me more problems than you can imagine. When I felt able to speak to her again about it, this was months later, she denied shed said that and acted as if shes done no wrong again. So I learned that, if you want to know the truth and have your parents admit to what they messed up, catch them when theyre in that Im so lucky to be alive phase. It lasts about a month, so grow a set and talk fast.
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I just turned 50 A few years ago, I snapped out one day and told my mom I felt resentment towards her and some of the reasons why, though not all of them. You know, she actually denied that she had done anything wrong until I brought up one thing I had never brought up before and this was right after she had her triple bypass. She confirmed what I had thought for all these years, which caused me more problems than you can imagine. When I felt able to speak to her again about it, this was months later, she denied shed said that and acted as if shes done no wrong again. So I learned that, if you want to know the truth and have your parents admit to what they messed up, catch them when theyre in that Im so lucky to be alive phase. It lasts about a month, so grow a set and talk fast.
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joyk727
I'm pushing 43 and I have to say, I cried when I saw this video. I was physically abused and neglected growing up. I was always told that by my parents that I am to be neither seen nor heard. Now get out of my face. 99% of my family ostracized me by the time I reached 15, just because I was too weird. For me, the pain never truly goes away. I was recently diagnosed with ASD and that gave me some answers to my questions. The depression, anxiety, self harm and even suicidal thoughts come and go in waves.
I never understood what a loving family looks like until, I met my husband a decade ago. I now find peace knowing I have loving in-laws, but every time my mom tries to talk to me, I shut down all over again. These videos help a lot with trying to sort out my trauma. Thank you
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I'm pushing 43 and I have to say, I cried when I saw this video. I was physically abused and neglected growing up. I was always told that by my parents that I am to be neither seen nor heard. Now get out of my face. 99% of my family ostracized me by the time I reached 15, just because I was too weird. For me, the pain never truly goes away. I was recently diagnosed with ASD and that gave me some answers to my questions. The depression, anxiety, self harm and even suicidal thoughts come and go in waves.
I never understood what a loving family looks like until, I met my husband a decade ago. I now find peace knowing I have loving in-laws, but every time my mom tries to talk to me, I shut down all over again. These videos help a lot with trying to sort out my trauma. Thank you
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Gregory
Things neither of my parents ever said to me:
I love you
Im proud of you
I believe in you
Follow your dreams
Im so glad you were born
Youre so smart(which I am)
Youre so talented
Youre handsome
I never had a birthday party.
To this day, when I remember dreams, theyre always bad dreams of being abandoned. Ill be out with friends and suddenly, theyve disappeared, and I dont know where I am, and I dont have my phone on me. That was a recent dream. Im 53.
A therapist said: They werent capable of being the parents you needed I actually forgave them( internally, bc I never went hungry and they provided what I needed materially. They werent bad people, but probably just products of their parents. And so it gets perpetuated
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Things neither of my parents ever said to me:
I love you
Im proud of you
I believe in you
Follow your dreams
Im so glad you were born
Youre so smart(which I am)
Youre so talented
Youre handsome
I never had a birthday party.
To this day, when I remember dreams, theyre always bad dreams of being abandoned. Ill be out with friends and suddenly, theyve disappeared, and I dont know where I am, and I dont have my phone on me. That was a recent dream. Im 53.
A therapist said: They werent capable of being the parents you needed I actually forgave them( internally, bc I never went hungry and they provided what I needed materially. They werent bad people, but probably just products of their parents. And so it gets perpetuated
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Rachel
My father died when I was 5, I had no siblings and was raised by a single, alcoholic parent, who, even when she wasn't drunk, it seemed like the only tool in her toolbox was ignore her. I remember her often encouraging people to do that. Around the age of 8, she added hitting to the toolbox. And I don't mean spanking, I mean with a fist.
I feel like I've overcome everything you mentioned in the video, and raised 2 children who knew they were loved beyond the shadow of a doubt. but, I struggle with making friends. I try my hardest, but people just don't seem to click with me, and I don't understand why! I'm an INFJ, but beyond that, I don't get it?
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My father died when I was 5, I had no siblings and was raised by a single, alcoholic parent, who, even when she wasn't drunk, it seemed like the only tool in her toolbox was ignore her. I remember her often encouraging people to do that. Around the age of 8, she added hitting to the toolbox. And I don't mean spanking, I mean with a fist.
I feel like I've overcome everything you mentioned in the video, and raised 2 children who knew they were loved beyond the shadow of a doubt. but, I struggle with making friends. I try my hardest, but people just don't seem to click with me, and I don't understand why! I'm an INFJ, but beyond that, I don't get it?
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Karen
My parents just didn't realize when I had been hurt. I cried alot during the summer when I was a kid cause they kept the air on 78 degrees. I had mostly low self esteem and problems knowing how to communicate. My mom once gave something away that was sentimental. I said I didn't mind her doing it with out grown clothes as long as it's not something sentimental. That hurt. No one is always right. None are perfect. I've learned or had to learn when to let somethings go. It's called picking your battles sometimes. I always thought you should'nt always sweat the small stuff but little things mean something sometimes too.
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My parents just didn't realize when I had been hurt. I cried alot during the summer when I was a kid cause they kept the air on 78 degrees. I had mostly low self esteem and problems knowing how to communicate. My mom once gave something away that was sentimental. I said I didn't mind her doing it with out grown clothes as long as it's not something sentimental. That hurt. No one is always right. None are perfect. I've learned or had to learn when to let somethings go. It's called picking your battles sometimes. I always thought you should'nt always sweat the small stuff but little things mean something sometimes too.
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Axelrod
My mother abused me emotionally, physically, and mentally when I was four months to five. I know that it was a while back, however, I would like to talk about it. She would do the usual (hitting, throwing stuff, yelling, screaming, being angry for no reason) and I now have zero self esteem and Ive tried to kll myself because of this-its just not right. I feel I deserved it but I didnt and I want everyone who reads this to know
you are beautiful and wonderful and amazing in every way. Do not kll yourself. People care about you. I learned that from my bf. I hope you have a nice day because you deserve it
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My mother abused me emotionally, physically, and mentally when I was four months to five. I know that it was a while back, however, I would like to talk about it. She would do the usual (hitting, throwing stuff, yelling, screaming, being angry for no reason) and I now have zero self esteem and Ive tried to kll myself because of this-its just not right. I feel I deserved it but I didnt and I want everyone who reads this to know
you are beautiful and wonderful and amazing in every way. Do not kll yourself. People care about you. I learned that from my bf. I hope you have a nice day because you deserve it
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DG
My parents were teenagers when they started a family. 16 and 18 years old. They were completely incapable of being parents. My mother engaged in the things she liked about motherhood but as soon as people were gone, she was back to ignoring. If it wasn't ignoring, it was forcing my father to beat us for minor accidents like dropping a spoon. I'm 65. I was never able to find a friend, boyfriend or husband who lasted. I guess I never learned to communicate feelings or circumstances because I had always been told I was nothing. Autoimmune diseases are rampant in my family. I believe there is a connection.
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My parents were teenagers when they started a family. 16 and 18 years old. They were completely incapable of being parents. My mother engaged in the things she liked about motherhood but as soon as people were gone, she was back to ignoring. If it wasn't ignoring, it was forcing my father to beat us for minor accidents like dropping a spoon. I'm 65. I was never able to find a friend, boyfriend or husband who lasted. I guess I never learned to communicate feelings or circumstances because I had always been told I was nothing. Autoimmune diseases are rampant in my family. I believe there is a connection.
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Tbeezious
My mom was extremely loving, but was a single mom raising 3 kids. Most of my childhood she was going to school and working full time to try and get ahead, or fighting stage 4 breast cancer. My sisters are also loving, but we're way older than me so didn't spend much time with me as a kid. I think the loneliness really got to me in ways I don't fully understand. I also would love to have a close relationship with my faimly, but feel extremely awkward reaching out to them. It really suck because they are so close to each other and I really look up to them.
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My mom was extremely loving, but was a single mom raising 3 kids. Most of my childhood she was going to school and working full time to try and get ahead, or fighting stage 4 breast cancer. My sisters are also loving, but we're way older than me so didn't spend much time with me as a kid. I think the loneliness really got to me in ways I don't fully understand. I also would love to have a close relationship with my faimly, but feel extremely awkward reaching out to them. It really suck because they are so close to each other and I really look up to them.
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education
How funny 8m 46yrs old my mother never in my development of my childhood my father raised me n my brother, mother was werid jealous I think she was so unbalanced mentally I recall a time my father went to rehab 9ne nite my mother I believe had an episode whelding a huge buther knife through the hallway I was standing lif she hadn't had someone there to snap her out of it. I truly believe I would not be here today. Some people I belive just should never have any children. Just saying in my case.
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How funny 8m 46yrs old my mother never in my development of my childhood my father raised me n my brother, mother was werid jealous I think she was so unbalanced mentally I recall a time my father went to rehab 9ne nite my mother I believe had an episode whelding a huge buther knife through the hallway I was standing lif she hadn't had someone there to snap her out of it. I truly believe I would not be here today. Some people I belive just should never have any children. Just saying in my case.
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angele
im 12 rn and every since my sister was born when i was 6 i felt abandoned, neglected and feelings that i didnt know what it was. does this happen to every person with a younger sibling? like every single time you hv to give in and everything. they do sht and dont get scolded but instead you get scolded for not being a good sister to teach them or smth. but im not the parent, im just a sister. even if i try to teach, they wouldnt care bcos they dgaf/has no respect for you.
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im 12 rn and every since my sister was born when i was 6 i felt abandoned, neglected and feelings that i didnt know what it was. does this happen to every person with a younger sibling? like every single time you hv to give in and everything. they do sht and dont get scolded but instead you get scolded for not being a good sister to teach them or smth. but im not the parent, im just a sister. even if i try to teach, they wouldnt care bcos they dgaf/has no respect for you.
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Maytal
I did notice the neglect from my family when I was 10 but mostly my mom since while I understand it's hard being a single mother it doesn't change the fact of what she did in my childhood scar me for life as an adult and still to this day stings.
It's not that easy to realize that until you become a middle age adult and it hurts I realized that too late. So thank you for this video. it actually means a lot to me.
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I did notice the neglect from my family when I was 10 but mostly my mom since while I understand it's hard being a single mother it doesn't change the fact of what she did in my childhood scar me for life as an adult and still to this day stings.
It's not that easy to realize that until you become a middle age adult and it hurts I realized that too late. So thank you for this video. it actually means a lot to me.
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education
Yeah I have massive resentment towards my parents but I also know they'd be the only ones who'd look after me in hard times. Or so I hope as I've been feeling very emotionally tired being around them. Feels like I've gotten selfish parents. They both deny their responsibility to teach us a few things & just pass it onto e/o. Resulting in a back & forth argument (which gets really messy, even physical btw)
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Yeah I have massive resentment towards my parents but I also know they'd be the only ones who'd look after me in hard times. Or so I hope as I've been feeling very emotionally tired being around them. Feels like I've gotten selfish parents. They both deny their responsibility to teach us a few things & just pass it onto e/o. Resulting in a back & forth argument (which gets really messy, even physical btw)
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Meelo
53 years old and only just realised the difference between self esteem and confidence, the former I have none the latter bags of, put on the cloak of confidence hard enough and you can become so, not so with self esteem. No longer speak to my violent narcissist ex alcoholic (during my childhood) hypocrite of a mother. I probably could forgive if it wasnt for the gigantic hypocrisy, that I cannot.
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53 years old and only just realised the difference between self esteem and confidence, the former I have none the latter bags of, put on the cloak of confidence hard enough and you can become so, not so with self esteem. No longer speak to my violent narcissist ex alcoholic (during my childhood) hypocrite of a mother. I probably could forgive if it wasnt for the gigantic hypocrisy, that I cannot.
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Dana
My mother abandoned me twice once when I was three again when I was 14 years of age. There was always abuse and neglect. Still trying to deal with everything at age 63. 30 years now I have not allowed that woman to be in my life or around my children. I have no good memories of my childhood with her. No memories of her ever hugging or kissing or caring for her children. Just abuse!
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My mother abandoned me twice once when I was three again when I was 14 years of age. There was always abuse and neglect. Still trying to deal with everything at age 63. 30 years now I have not allowed that woman to be in my life or around my children. I have no good memories of my childhood with her. No memories of her ever hugging or kissing or caring for her children. Just abuse!
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Sailin
Psych2Go:
I think this video would have been more helpful (at least to me) if the audio quality was better. My hearing isn't great, but there seemed to be too much bass, maybe even an echo, as might occur in a poorly sound-deadened recording environment. The narration sounded muddy and muffled making it very difficult for me to understand the words, even at high volume.
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Psych2Go:
I think this video would have been more helpful (at least to me) if the audio quality was better. My hearing isn't great, but there seemed to be too much bass, maybe even an echo, as might occur in a poorly sound-deadened recording environment. The narration sounded muddy and muffled making it very difficult for me to understand the words, even at high volume.
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Pamela
If parents didnt learn the tools from their parents then it can be learned as an adult child Im proof of so many things in spite of my dysfunctional childhood. We learn the good and the bad in Our family, and we can choose a better path thats healthier, therapy, honesty with ourselves, self care were not even vocabulary for our parents & grandparents & great grandparents.
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If parents didnt learn the tools from their parents then it can be learned as an adult child Im proof of so many things in spite of my dysfunctional childhood. We learn the good and the bad in Our family, and we can choose a better path thats healthier, therapy, honesty with ourselves, self care were not even vocabulary for our parents & grandparents & great grandparents.
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