5 Common Types Of Traumatic Events - Did It Happen To You?
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Astraea!
I dont know if this counts as a broken home. but growing up in a household where my parents constantly argued really left scars with me. sometimes during the argument my dad would leave and I used to think hed never come back, even though he always did. One time I remember it got so bad. before my mom was a citizen here he threatened to call the police on her. She was packing our things and I was so confused and scared. Then my dad came back and they just argued again. Even though the police didnt show up. It was traumatizing, sometimes the fights would get physical between them and those who interfered. I remember my parents putting their hands on each other multiple times, I was young and naive and i only wanted the fighting to stop so one time I tried to stop them by asking them- begging them to stop fighting. I think at one point I got in their way and my mom threw me onto the couch from like- across the room. All this fighting from my childhood and that still happens on occasion took a toll on my health and I have trust issues, and abandonment issues because of it. I havent even begun to further dissect the way I feel exactly about what the trauma I have from them, and Ive never fully been able to understand what that toll has been taken on me. I do struggle with maintaining healthy relationships and have a control problem, trying to control aspects of my life since I guess I never could control whether or not my parents fought or stopped. Though I desperately wanted to. I dont know its all just beginning to really hit me in my teen years and Im beginning to try and put up a brave face and tackle it head on, but easier said than done right?
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I dont know if this counts as a broken home. but growing up in a household where my parents constantly argued really left scars with me. sometimes during the argument my dad would leave and I used to think hed never come back, even though he always did. One time I remember it got so bad. before my mom was a citizen here he threatened to call the police on her. She was packing our things and I was so confused and scared. Then my dad came back and they just argued again. Even though the police didnt show up. It was traumatizing, sometimes the fights would get physical between them and those who interfered. I remember my parents putting their hands on each other multiple times, I was young and naive and i only wanted the fighting to stop so one time I tried to stop them by asking them- begging them to stop fighting. I think at one point I got in their way and my mom threw me onto the couch from like- across the room. All this fighting from my childhood and that still happens on occasion took a toll on my health and I have trust issues, and abandonment issues because of it. I havent even begun to further dissect the way I feel exactly about what the trauma I have from them, and Ive never fully been able to understand what that toll has been taken on me. I do struggle with maintaining healthy relationships and have a control problem, trying to control aspects of my life since I guess I never could control whether or not my parents fought or stopped. Though I desperately wanted to. I dont know its all just beginning to really hit me in my teen years and Im beginning to try and put up a brave face and tackle it head on, but easier said than done right?
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Enraged
I have experienced all of these. except the stab in the back was one of my closest friends who instigated the worst bullying in my life, just because she was jealous of my safety net within the school system.
In the end, no psychiatrist or therapist has been able to help me. No medication helps me. all they did was make me want to just disappear. I healed on my own, but those scars are still there.
I have very few loved ones I can fall back to when I need to cry. When I need to vent out my frustrations. All this because my trust had been shattered repeatedly, time and time again.
I taught myself these lessons:
1. Forgive but don't forget (only 3 times)
2. Cut out the toxicity
3. Don't rely on those that have hurt others
4. Push forward towards the promises made to your true loved ones
5. Don't blindly listen to 'professionals' who won't understand or listen to your side
These have guided me to what I am today. I seem cynical at times, but who wouldn't be after watching your mother divorce twice, losing 2 fathers in 1 day, being uprooted multiple times (up to 13 I can recall, bullied relentlessly for health issues, constantly hospitalized, and being abused from early childhood to late adulthood.
I use my experiences to console others when they need it. To be the ear they need. But I won't tell them to do things like take X medication.
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I have experienced all of these. except the stab in the back was one of my closest friends who instigated the worst bullying in my life, just because she was jealous of my safety net within the school system.
In the end, no psychiatrist or therapist has been able to help me. No medication helps me. all they did was make me want to just disappear. I healed on my own, but those scars are still there.
I have very few loved ones I can fall back to when I need to cry. When I need to vent out my frustrations. All this because my trust had been shattered repeatedly, time and time again.
I taught myself these lessons:
1. Forgive but don't forget (only 3 times)
2. Cut out the toxicity
3. Don't rely on those that have hurt others
4. Push forward towards the promises made to your true loved ones
5. Don't blindly listen to 'professionals' who won't understand or listen to your side
These have guided me to what I am today. I seem cynical at times, but who wouldn't be after watching your mother divorce twice, losing 2 fathers in 1 day, being uprooted multiple times (up to 13 I can recall, bullied relentlessly for health issues, constantly hospitalized, and being abused from early childhood to late adulthood.
I use my experiences to console others when they need it. To be the ear they need. But I won't tell them to do things like take X medication.
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Flame
I may not have any of these (except for the first. I do have a little trauma and I am just stressed all of the time. Having parents that stay together no matter what may seem like a great thing unless they fight 24/7 or are just always busy and never have time for me. I am atleast happy my parents fights aren't violent anymore! But clearly remembering all of the mean things your parents said under your breath can definitely make you cry abit because it hurts so much for a loved one to say that to you! Then they just go ahead and say that my mental health isn't that bad even though I want to do the same things my dad says he wants to do when he doesn't take his medication! I am just stressed and I don't know what to do at all. On top of all of this, my parents also have trauma, my dad lost his mom and my mom didn't have the best childhood (not to mention she got in a car crash once when she was younger) so technically generational trauma since my mom is the main person who says stuff like that! Not to mention their talks in the middle of the night that can be calm or just turn into arguing!
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I may not have any of these (except for the first. I do have a little trauma and I am just stressed all of the time. Having parents that stay together no matter what may seem like a great thing unless they fight 24/7 or are just always busy and never have time for me. I am atleast happy my parents fights aren't violent anymore! But clearly remembering all of the mean things your parents said under your breath can definitely make you cry abit because it hurts so much for a loved one to say that to you! Then they just go ahead and say that my mental health isn't that bad even though I want to do the same things my dad says he wants to do when he doesn't take his medication! I am just stressed and I don't know what to do at all. On top of all of this, my parents also have trauma, my dad lost his mom and my mom didn't have the best childhood (not to mention she got in a car crash once when she was younger) so technically generational trauma since my mom is the main person who says stuff like that! Not to mention their talks in the middle of the night that can be calm or just turn into arguing!
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Daph
My parents divorced when I was 7, and at the time I took it really lightly and well, because first of all I was young and innocent, I wasn't aware of the consequences of a divorce, plus that way I thought that my parents would stop fighting. I think I have internalised all of the negative thoughts of my parents divorce until now.
Today I'm 16 and my parents still struggle to communicate, they are not getting along at all, they fight whenever they see each other and just keep criticizing each other, talk about the other negatively with me. Now I'm just getting really tired of their conflicts, plus sometimes I have to be the messenger between them, and I'm always in the crossfire, as I can't choose a side. Now I just have to stop listening to their critics and find a solution to this.
I have realized all of this not so long ago, thanks to these videos and to a therapist. Thank you for this
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My parents divorced when I was 7, and at the time I took it really lightly and well, because first of all I was young and innocent, I wasn't aware of the consequences of a divorce, plus that way I thought that my parents would stop fighting. I think I have internalised all of the negative thoughts of my parents divorce until now.
Today I'm 16 and my parents still struggle to communicate, they are not getting along at all, they fight whenever they see each other and just keep criticizing each other, talk about the other negatively with me. Now I'm just getting really tired of their conflicts, plus sometimes I have to be the messenger between them, and I'm always in the crossfire, as I can't choose a side. Now I just have to stop listening to their critics and find a solution to this.
I have realized all of this not so long ago, thanks to these videos and to a therapist. Thank you for this
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Daze
Can you make a video on how to cope with moving too much during childhood? I wasa military child, and I still cry from leaving the people I cared about. I moved from alaska to Florida at the age of 10, then at age 12 realized how toxic my best friend since I was 7 had been. I thought she cared. She did care. Too much. She was super possessive and wouldnt let me have any other friends without her approval and I loved her. I thought she was my friend. She had me on a metaphorical leash for 3 years. When I moved we were still friends and she still tried to keep me on that leash. Im about to move again and I dont even want to meet anyone. If Im socially distant it will be easier, right? 8th grade is going to be terrible. I am going to be that random kid that randomly showed up. I dont want to talk to people. I dont want to lose anyone else.
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Can you make a video on how to cope with moving too much during childhood? I wasa military child, and I still cry from leaving the people I cared about. I moved from alaska to Florida at the age of 10, then at age 12 realized how toxic my best friend since I was 7 had been. I thought she cared. She did care. Too much. She was super possessive and wouldnt let me have any other friends without her approval and I loved her. I thought she was my friend. She had me on a metaphorical leash for 3 years. When I moved we were still friends and she still tried to keep me on that leash. Im about to move again and I dont even want to meet anyone. If Im socially distant it will be easier, right? 8th grade is going to be terrible. I am going to be that random kid that randomly showed up. I dont want to talk to people. I dont want to lose anyone else.
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Opponax
idk if this is a traumatic event in my life but I figure id better share it and let y'all decide.
It was around Christmas time when I think I was around 11 or 12. me and my younger brother had this tradition where we would sleep in the same bed because it was cute, and we were waiting for Santa to come. However, it was different because he kept on touching my chest inappropriately, keep in mind I'm a biological female, and it wasn't the first time he's done that. I kept on telling him to stop, but he didn't listen. I eventually told my mom about what had happened, and she asked me why I just didn't go sleep with her in her room, and it just made me feel worse.
To this day i have issues with people touching me, even if its a playful touch. Does that mean anything? He's stopped now, but it still bothers me
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idk if this is a traumatic event in my life but I figure id better share it and let y'all decide.
It was around Christmas time when I think I was around 11 or 12. me and my younger brother had this tradition where we would sleep in the same bed because it was cute, and we were waiting for Santa to come. However, it was different because he kept on touching my chest inappropriately, keep in mind I'm a biological female, and it wasn't the first time he's done that. I kept on telling him to stop, but he didn't listen. I eventually told my mom about what had happened, and she asked me why I just didn't go sleep with her in her room, and it just made me feel worse.
To this day i have issues with people touching me, even if its a playful touch. Does that mean anything? He's stopped now, but it still bothers me
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PRGME7
I dont really think growth is possible after consistent 3-5 cycle. Every 3-5 years something happens. It could be a person, place, anything really. Once you get over one another comes into prominence. Like mass extinction events. Large amounts of species are lost and just as the ecosystem recovers another mass extinction. There is no growth from this. Only anticipation of the next trauma, only reliving the past, no future and no present. You cant say the past cant hurt you when youve effectively lived in it for the majority of your life. Yes, there are brief periods of living in the present and sometimes seeing a future. But that future is just the worst case scenario of every major institution, every country, every person descending into a tribal mentality for the rest of humanities existence.
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I dont really think growth is possible after consistent 3-5 cycle. Every 3-5 years something happens. It could be a person, place, anything really. Once you get over one another comes into prominence. Like mass extinction events. Large amounts of species are lost and just as the ecosystem recovers another mass extinction. There is no growth from this. Only anticipation of the next trauma, only reliving the past, no future and no present. You cant say the past cant hurt you when youve effectively lived in it for the majority of your life. Yes, there are brief periods of living in the present and sometimes seeing a future. But that future is just the worst case scenario of every major institution, every country, every person descending into a tribal mentality for the rest of humanities existence.
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Cyan
1-When I got bullied I didn't care and when they tried to take it physical, I beat both of them up (lol)
2- Parents Happily Married
3- Been left by friends and lovers (more often then not sadly) but never cheated on
4- Black, nationality kinda confusing since like 3 countries don't give me full citizen rights,
5- Things still happening and I'd rather be laughing then crying. Being constantly left by friends sucks but that's what happens when you force yourself to be social. Loneliness as addicting as it is quite frankly, sucks. I just wish I could find people who want to be my friend as much as I do. A lover at this point is just unrealistic without any good friends so yeah.
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1-When I got bullied I didn't care and when they tried to take it physical, I beat both of them up (lol)
2- Parents Happily Married
3- Been left by friends and lovers (more often then not sadly) but never cheated on
4- Black, nationality kinda confusing since like 3 countries don't give me full citizen rights,
5- Things still happening and I'd rather be laughing then crying. Being constantly left by friends sucks but that's what happens when you force yourself to be social. Loneliness as addicting as it is quite frankly, sucks. I just wish I could find people who want to be my friend as much as I do. A lover at this point is just unrealistic without any good friends so yeah.
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Faith
I can definitely relate to the divorce bit. I was 12 when it happened but oh boy do I have some massive baggage from it. I remember trying to get some sleep since I had school in the morning and hearing my mom shouting at my dad through the phone and I can hear the argument through the floor in my bedroom which was right above the kitchen. So yeah, trying to sleep with that going on was nearly impossible for me. I think its why to this day I cant stand when a fight happens or people start to yell and scream at each other. Its a huge trigger for me and I just want to get out of the area that its happening in and try to calm down and stop my brain from going haywire.
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I can definitely relate to the divorce bit. I was 12 when it happened but oh boy do I have some massive baggage from it. I remember trying to get some sleep since I had school in the morning and hearing my mom shouting at my dad through the phone and I can hear the argument through the floor in my bedroom which was right above the kitchen. So yeah, trying to sleep with that going on was nearly impossible for me. I think its why to this day I cant stand when a fight happens or people start to yell and scream at each other. Its a huge trigger for me and I just want to get out of the area that its happening in and try to calm down and stop my brain from going haywire.
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blabb
ive got bullied from my school mates and my parents. there was no safespace for me. my only and best friend was my anchor. but there was no place to rest. i have to fight with bad memories and sometimes dreams even today. this situation of all vs. me marked me. but im too stubborn to give up. my potential exists and belongs to me. but hardcore triggerpoint nr. 1, lonelyness and disappointment are still there. its hard to breath sometimes. i cried waterfalls of tears. luckily i crafted a rubber boat by myself and did well. i can smile and enjoy, i can do things well, i can do better. i still cant bake good muffins, but its just a matter of time.
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ive got bullied from my school mates and my parents. there was no safespace for me. my only and best friend was my anchor. but there was no place to rest. i have to fight with bad memories and sometimes dreams even today. this situation of all vs. me marked me. but im too stubborn to give up. my potential exists and belongs to me. but hardcore triggerpoint nr. 1, lonelyness and disappointment are still there. its hard to breath sometimes. i cried waterfalls of tears. luckily i crafted a rubber boat by myself and did well. i can smile and enjoy, i can do things well, i can do better. i still cant bake good muffins, but its just a matter of time.
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Floor
You left out you don't always bounce back depending on how bad you're hurt. You find a new normal. I found out my partner hooked up with an older gentleman weeks before we got together and she found out she was pregnant a month after we started dating. Never told me my child isn't mine after raising him for eight years. I'm determined to spend my life with my partner even if I can't fully forget or forgive I still love her even though the resentment and it's changed me as a person. I'm not able to be Mr. Brightside anymore. But I have a new normal now and not every day is terrible.
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You left out you don't always bounce back depending on how bad you're hurt. You find a new normal. I found out my partner hooked up with an older gentleman weeks before we got together and she found out she was pregnant a month after we started dating. Never told me my child isn't mine after raising him for eight years. I'm determined to spend my life with my partner even if I can't fully forget or forgive I still love her even though the resentment and it's changed me as a person. I'm not able to be Mr. Brightside anymore. But I have a new normal now and not every day is terrible.
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Future
I'm 15 years old. I've been homeschooled since 4th grade, after I left my school because of bullying. I remember drawing comics during break and having people steal them and rip them up, and a bunch of other things. For years I've felt like it didn't really affect me, but I've realized that having left for years has destroyed my social skills. I'm only just now making new friends, and I still have trouble with social interactions.
Does this even qualify as trauma? I had never considered it that way.
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I'm 15 years old. I've been homeschooled since 4th grade, after I left my school because of bullying. I remember drawing comics during break and having people steal them and rip them up, and a bunch of other things. For years I've felt like it didn't really affect me, but I've realized that having left for years has destroyed my social skills. I'm only just now making new friends, and I still have trouble with social interactions.
Does this even qualify as trauma? I had never considered it that way.
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Janina
1) Was bullied until I started high school.
2) Alcoholic father, narcissistic mom (love them, but they messed up)
3) Not being cheated on, but ghosted by someone I considered my best friend for years.
4) I'm gay and trans. go figure. I don't ever really feel safe. even in the queer community.
5) Had a major surgery that put me through hell. I'd do it again, but I don't think my brain cares.
So great. All 5. ugh. On to the healing. part.
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1) Was bullied until I started high school.
2) Alcoholic father, narcissistic mom (love them, but they messed up)
3) Not being cheated on, but ghosted by someone I considered my best friend for years.
4) I'm gay and trans. go figure. I don't ever really feel safe. even in the queer community.
5) Had a major surgery that put me through hell. I'd do it again, but I don't think my brain cares.
So great. All 5. ugh. On to the healing. part.
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Marie
My parents divorced when I was 7, and that was a good thing. It helped me with personal growth, since I could be completely away from my verbally violent father some of the time. The first time I was told about I cried a lot, but that was because it wasn't worded correctly. My dad said it as: Mom is moving. Like my mom was just moving away and I'd never see her again. I'm happy my parents divorced, that has been a really positive thing in our family.
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My parents divorced when I was 7, and that was a good thing. It helped me with personal growth, since I could be completely away from my verbally violent father some of the time. The first time I was told about I cried a lot, but that was because it wasn't worded correctly. My dad said it as: Mom is moving. Like my mom was just moving away and I'd never see her again. I'm happy my parents divorced, that has been a really positive thing in our family.
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Miss
A lot of my childhood was traumatic. I went through both verbal and physical abuse from school, teachers, and even a parent. My childhood is so blurry. People share fond memories, but I can only recall what was recorded on a camera of the time via cassettes/vhs. Then my relationships have been toxic, so that was another traumatic years of event stick with someone for this long. Meaning, majority of my childhood including high school, is a huge blur
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A lot of my childhood was traumatic. I went through both verbal and physical abuse from school, teachers, and even a parent. My childhood is so blurry. People share fond memories, but I can only recall what was recorded on a camera of the time via cassettes/vhs. Then my relationships have been toxic, so that was another traumatic years of event stick with someone for this long. Meaning, majority of my childhood including high school, is a huge blur
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Logan
I honestly hate people. I'm just really good at masking it. You couldn't tell by just looking at me, but on the inside, I would rather isolate and talk to no one. I would be fine dying alone and probably be fine and happy if no one cared. The world will go on without me, so I would rather have others not cry about me or remember me. Move on, I'm just another person in this world full of people who rrlly want to betray me anyways.
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I honestly hate people. I'm just really good at masking it. You couldn't tell by just looking at me, but on the inside, I would rather isolate and talk to no one. I would be fine dying alone and probably be fine and happy if no one cared. The world will go on without me, so I would rather have others not cry about me or remember me. Move on, I'm just another person in this world full of people who rrlly want to betray me anyways.
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Censored
The traumas are still in me. I feel too suffocated and this leads to me talking rudely to my loved one and this upsets my friend too. i don't want to be this way and want to open up but my second thoughts like they might judge me, they might backstab me like my other friends did, they might make fun of my insecurities with their friends. etc. it hurts tho. when you want to open up to your comfort person but you can't
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The traumas are still in me. I feel too suffocated and this leads to me talking rudely to my loved one and this upsets my friend too. i don't want to be this way and want to open up but my second thoughts like they might judge me, they might backstab me like my other friends did, they might make fun of my insecurities with their friends. etc. it hurts tho. when you want to open up to your comfort person but you can't
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The
I'm actually quite happy that I didn't watch my parents break up. It happened when I was still very young and I just didn't notice it. But then I heard them yelling at each other, sometimes it still happens. Sometimes it happens that they scold me, Did your father teach you? Well, go to him, don't make your own rules here. I sincerely feel sorry for the people who at the time of parting were in a conscious age: (
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I'm actually quite happy that I didn't watch my parents break up. It happened when I was still very young and I just didn't notice it. But then I heard them yelling at each other, sometimes it still happens. Sometimes it happens that they scold me, Did your father teach you? Well, go to him, don't make your own rules here. I sincerely feel sorry for the people who at the time of parting were in a conscious age: (
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Lesbian
I experienced a traffic accident in 7th grade and I still haven't gotten over it. I don't have nightmares or flashbacks, mainly to the fact that my eyes were closed the second the accident happen. But I have an intense of driving now and get nervous when I see a car coming, even if they are going at the correct speed, and sudden stops scare me too. I'm in college now and still do not drive.
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I experienced a traffic accident in 7th grade and I still haven't gotten over it. I don't have nightmares or flashbacks, mainly to the fact that my eyes were closed the second the accident happen. But I have an intense of driving now and get nervous when I see a car coming, even if they are going at the correct speed, and sudden stops scare me too. I'm in college now and still do not drive.
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Sari
I have experienced ALL 5 OF THESE.
INTHE LAST 5 YEARS!
1. BULLYING( employment)
2. DIVORCE TRAUMA(mine)
3. POST BETRAYAL TRAUMA (double)
4. CAR ACCIDENT TRAUMA (injury)
5. DISCRIMINATION TRAUMA(lifetime)
NO WONDER I WAS STRUGGLING WITH MY MENTAL HEALTH. DAMN!
6. ABANDONMENT
TRAUMA (double/partner)
Just because a CAKE NEEDS ICING
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I have experienced ALL 5 OF THESE.
INTHE LAST 5 YEARS!
1. BULLYING( employment)
2. DIVORCE TRAUMA(mine)
3. POST BETRAYAL TRAUMA (double)
4. CAR ACCIDENT TRAUMA (injury)
5. DISCRIMINATION TRAUMA(lifetime)
NO WONDER I WAS STRUGGLING WITH MY MENTAL HEALTH. DAMN!
6. ABANDONMENT
TRAUMA (double/partner)
Just because a CAKE NEEDS ICING
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Lazy
I was bullied from pre k till the 6th grade where I literally got a swirlied and the only reason it stopped was because I moved schools and Im in college now and my family tells me stop blaming the bullying for why I always say sorry or why I dont feel like I can do stuff over half the time and its really annoying at the least
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I was bullied from pre k till the 6th grade where I literally got a swirlied and the only reason it stopped was because I moved schools and Im in college now and my family tells me stop blaming the bullying for why I always say sorry or why I dont feel like I can do stuff over half the time and its really annoying at the least
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Goofball
Ive experienced bullying. People used to spread rumors about me, cybor bully me, physically attack me, and use me. Teachers also treated me differently than other students. I still have low self esteem and I still have trouble knowing for sure if people are actually my friend or if they are just using me.
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Ive experienced bullying. People used to spread rumors about me, cybor bully me, physically attack me, and use me. Teachers also treated me differently than other students. I still have low self esteem and I still have trouble knowing for sure if people are actually my friend or if they are just using me.
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Kas
An other common traumatizer is masking for nuerodivergent people. masking, also referred to as camouflaging, is the conscious or subconscious suppression of autistic behaviors and compensation of difficulties in social interaction by autistic people with the goal of being perceived as neurotypical
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An other common traumatizer is masking for nuerodivergent people. masking, also referred to as camouflaging, is the conscious or subconscious suppression of autistic behaviors and compensation of difficulties in social interaction by autistic people with the goal of being perceived as neurotypical
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Princess
Fifth grade was the most scarring time of my life. Not only was I surrounded by kids taking advantage of my fluctuating emotions, I had a once good friend of mine betray me and also bullied me. Although I forgave her after I moved away, the scar still lingers to this very day
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Fifth grade was the most scarring time of my life. Not only was I surrounded by kids taking advantage of my fluctuating emotions, I had a once good friend of mine betray me and also bullied me. Although I forgave her after I moved away, the scar still lingers to this very day
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Cara
I got bullied for having visible arm and leg hair, my tiny chest, my natural sensitivity and my hobbies and interests all through school. Im at the point where I hate people and hate the world and feel like I dont belong here. People honestly suck and Im so done with everything.
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I got bullied for having visible arm and leg hair, my tiny chest, my natural sensitivity and my hobbies and interests all through school. Im at the point where I hate people and hate the world and feel like I dont belong here. People honestly suck and Im so done with everything.
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