How To Leave A Toxic Relationship
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Ryan
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Wot is wits this blooming world's ood habit generation toxicity so popular successful survival traits ood behaviors tricky beasts on d regs rounds routines standard operating procedures totes highly natural environment shifty shenanigans cosmic choas collection times theys err changing commercial cares jus business nuffins personal gotta pays professional rates constantly consistently furs all each every gud measures has means dole compensation freaky rewards motivation system so marr wonky than alls rest too much furs dat influence stuff things fluff appearance surface tension hollow tones distraction mindtricks mindgames powerplay domination punishment rounds floop d fool returns d slab wot is wits nice noise but greedy tood pressure place it on professionals won't take appropriate action till tabs paid loot em furs all theys worth damn itty feels rotten keeping to hetic pacing convenience survival instincts impulses mixed signals trippy fickle affection forced ood direction so weird wants oot distance from this place confusion panic mode red alerts feelings flying off our radar stay wits our boundaries & gits cake as itty lies so whirrs when err ya lot ever gonna do a thing ya can't afford to mess wits function ya don't knows risky scary anews unknown unproven tried true tested methodology after methodology after methodology chase doon dragon distraction ya favorite flavors steady the course all expenses ur buying paying through nosey ice pick bit pinch gray behinds eyes mood adjustments satisfaction cheapskate cheap thrill holler doon void listen not jus looky bouts blinky takes dat bs shove it idfk why can't b convinced caring seems theys desperate furs mine allowance ways too much venture too costly price apply benefits wot wits mine nonsense nonideas alls issues ood theys wanna rids but greedy furs dat loot ood ineffective communication skills theys drill into ya control schemes tills tilt evens inevitably meh shenanigans ago lurky slink depths gits oot sways watch em do theys business alls idfk whys ood mood strikes jot blot mess theys whirrs wally wot better b like can ya tally telly locates there err puts meh to pitys exhausted ashes colours breeze but this wicked energy can't b spontaneous generation instantaneously gratification err destroyed even equal oot ood measures err calculated clock ko srry bouts bother sensation satisfaction err ya happy ever marr than micromomments happens stood ship shape atomic quantum flux flex too brainy split sum dice sways err idfk dat intuitive idfk err near future notes deja predictable patterns control freaky schemes system nya sojourneys
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W0lfbane
I had a friend I had to leave because they were constantly messaging me, not respecting my time - would see me not answering or not getting the answer they wanted to hear as I no longer like them and when confronted about how they treated someone else they would act as if I didn't speak for them: they would gaslight me, manipulate me to make them happy and were constantly keeping tabs on when I was available - I did not ask for a relationship where I was essentially Robin Williams in Aladdin: POOF! What do you need? POOF! What do you need? POOF What do you need? I also AM NOT A COUNCELLOR!
If there is something bad happening in your life - it's not my job to listen to your every anxiety - you need to cope and deal with that in a healthy way, don't overshare and expect my validation and advice: I have a life. Essentially this guy was toxic down to their core and was making me feel bad all the time: it got so bad in fact when my sister overheard a conversation which sounded abusive she said that you should really just not give them the energy to complain - just say, oh that sounds bad, yeah that's a shame, I understand, I know what you mean: this is just to quietly tell them that you're not really engaged in that part of their life and they need to sort this out on their own and not keep seeking validation: it's like an annoying neighbour that doesn't understand that you don't want to enjoy their company constantly - just say you're busy.
If your friend starts to take the relationship to a uncomfortable level where they are controlling how you feel, how you think and are constantly being used to bounce their stress levels off you: maybe it's on them, not you that the relationship got this way: take a step back, examine your relationship and identify if the relationship is toxic: if you are no longer happy in that relationship you need to either A) Confront them and set Boundaries or B) Leave.
That's all there is to it. I would personally seek guidance from a family member, friend or professional body before you decide. But when someone is treating you bad: leaving is just the best option and is not worth your time - you are your own person, if they can't respect you then they are not worth being around.
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I had a friend I had to leave because they were constantly messaging me, not respecting my time - would see me not answering or not getting the answer they wanted to hear as I no longer like them and when confronted about how they treated someone else they would act as if I didn't speak for them: they would gaslight me, manipulate me to make them happy and were constantly keeping tabs on when I was available - I did not ask for a relationship where I was essentially Robin Williams in Aladdin: POOF! What do you need? POOF! What do you need? POOF What do you need? I also AM NOT A COUNCELLOR!
If there is something bad happening in your life - it's not my job to listen to your every anxiety - you need to cope and deal with that in a healthy way, don't overshare and expect my validation and advice: I have a life. Essentially this guy was toxic down to their core and was making me feel bad all the time: it got so bad in fact when my sister overheard a conversation which sounded abusive she said that you should really just not give them the energy to complain - just say, oh that sounds bad, yeah that's a shame, I understand, I know what you mean: this is just to quietly tell them that you're not really engaged in that part of their life and they need to sort this out on their own and not keep seeking validation: it's like an annoying neighbour that doesn't understand that you don't want to enjoy their company constantly - just say you're busy.
If your friend starts to take the relationship to a uncomfortable level where they are controlling how you feel, how you think and are constantly being used to bounce their stress levels off you: maybe it's on them, not you that the relationship got this way: take a step back, examine your relationship and identify if the relationship is toxic: if you are no longer happy in that relationship you need to either A) Confront them and set Boundaries or B) Leave.
That's all there is to it. I would personally seek guidance from a family member, friend or professional body before you decide. But when someone is treating you bad: leaving is just the best option and is not worth your time - you are your own person, if they can't respect you then they are not worth being around.
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DksFried
I'm in a toxic relationship currently and we both know it is one. It's a long distance relationship currently but we think when we are together in person things will get better because we will have more trust for eachother since we are with the other person instead of in another different state. The problem is we both don't want to leave eachother even though it is both hurting us mentally. I don't know what to do honestly. Like do I wait til we are together in person (which we will be next year) or is it time for us to breakup? Im just stuck because he means so much to me and he been different from all my past relationships. The cons is he doesnt let me have friends as he would threaten to break up with me but I told him i dont really mind because i have trouble talking to people anyways and im homeschooled. We also argue alot but we usually make up. The pros is he cares about me when im not feeling the best and hes loyal to me since he doesnt talk to any other people. Should I leave or wait til we are together in person (we been together for 2 years now) If anyone read this to here, thankyou for listening to me.
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I'm in a toxic relationship currently and we both know it is one. It's a long distance relationship currently but we think when we are together in person things will get better because we will have more trust for eachother since we are with the other person instead of in another different state. The problem is we both don't want to leave eachother even though it is both hurting us mentally. I don't know what to do honestly. Like do I wait til we are together in person (which we will be next year) or is it time for us to breakup? Im just stuck because he means so much to me and he been different from all my past relationships. The cons is he doesnt let me have friends as he would threaten to break up with me but I told him i dont really mind because i have trouble talking to people anyways and im homeschooled. We also argue alot but we usually make up. The pros is he cares about me when im not feeling the best and hes loyal to me since he doesnt talk to any other people. Should I leave or wait til we are together in person (we been together for 2 years now) If anyone read this to here, thankyou for listening to me.
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Anhedonic
My first relationship was pretty toxic, but I didn't realise until after we broke up. I realised all of the things she did to me and put me through, and somehow I still ended up in another toxic relationship when I started dating again. In hindsight, I think why I didn't recognise the red flags the second time around either is because the toxicity was so different the second time, compared to the first, but there was a little overlap.
First one ended around 7 and a half years ago, second ended coming on 3 and a half years ago. I recognise the red flags so much better now, I just wish it didn't take me going through what I was put through for me to understand, especially on top of my past beyond my bad dating history.
It reminds me of a quote from Bojack Horseman: You know, it's funny; when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.
But, I'm happy to say that I've been in an extremely healthy romantic relationship for over 2 and a half years now. No more toxic romantic relationships for me, never again.
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My first relationship was pretty toxic, but I didn't realise until after we broke up. I realised all of the things she did to me and put me through, and somehow I still ended up in another toxic relationship when I started dating again. In hindsight, I think why I didn't recognise the red flags the second time around either is because the toxicity was so different the second time, compared to the first, but there was a little overlap.
First one ended around 7 and a half years ago, second ended coming on 3 and a half years ago. I recognise the red flags so much better now, I just wish it didn't take me going through what I was put through for me to understand, especially on top of my past beyond my bad dating history.
It reminds me of a quote from Bojack Horseman: You know, it's funny; when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.
But, I'm happy to say that I've been in an extremely healthy romantic relationship for over 2 and a half years now. No more toxic romantic relationships for me, never again.
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Zeros
Journaling has saved me in many ways. So much, I recommend it to anyone I hear has struggles similar to mine.
Back when I started, I could not sleep from intrusive thoughts that were all over the place (I call it Mindrattling, but once I started to not them down, everything fell into place and I was able to understand my own emotions and build up grievances.
I have become a way more relaxed and less petty person. Still one to hold grudges, but instead of going over the same never happening confrontational scenarios in my head over and over again, I write down what I'd tell the other party and come to peace with the issues quicker than before.
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Journaling has saved me in many ways. So much, I recommend it to anyone I hear has struggles similar to mine.
Back when I started, I could not sleep from intrusive thoughts that were all over the place (I call it Mindrattling, but once I started to not them down, everything fell into place and I was able to understand my own emotions and build up grievances.
I have become a way more relaxed and less petty person. Still one to hold grudges, but instead of going over the same never happening confrontational scenarios in my head over and over again, I write down what I'd tell the other party and come to peace with the issues quicker than before.
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truhhhhhhhokIII3
Lmaoooo you say first red flag do they care about you and check up on you? ahaha what? shouldnt it be the exact opposite? Every toxic person i dated has been cold, sociopathic and uncaring and doesnt even attempt to make contact. Thats the actual red flag.
Whats more healthy hey babe, making sure you are doing good every couple of hours
Or
6 hours of radio silence hey gone for another 3 hours
repeat
Yall would think the latter is healthy lmaoo
No.
Communication is key.
If there is no communication there needs to be no relationship.
Im basically treated as just a f-buddy, when i have emotional needs too.
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Lmaoooo you say first red flag do they care about you and check up on you? ahaha what? shouldnt it be the exact opposite? Every toxic person i dated has been cold, sociopathic and uncaring and doesnt even attempt to make contact. Thats the actual red flag.
Whats more healthy hey babe, making sure you are doing good every couple of hours
Or
6 hours of radio silence hey gone for another 3 hours
repeat
Yall would think the latter is healthy lmaoo
No.
Communication is key.
If there is no communication there needs to be no relationship.
Im basically treated as just a f-buddy, when i have emotional needs too.
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AI
My Prince Charming turned into a narcissistic nightmare. I honestly felt we could have had something, but now I am so free away from his society. As in, I cut him off on all fronts, and now I act blandly civil in public when we do encounter each other. He is a true manipulator from words to lovebombing and good looks.
To those still trapped: PLEASE remember you are not alone. You have many unknown comrades in your struggle. And their vile behaviour is not your fault no matter what they say. Leaving is simple but not easy, and the reward is sweet freedom. Just keep your distance when you can.
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My Prince Charming turned into a narcissistic nightmare. I honestly felt we could have had something, but now I am so free away from his society. As in, I cut him off on all fronts, and now I act blandly civil in public when we do encounter each other. He is a true manipulator from words to lovebombing and good looks.
To those still trapped: PLEASE remember you are not alone. You have many unknown comrades in your struggle. And their vile behaviour is not your fault no matter what they say. Leaving is simple but not easy, and the reward is sweet freedom. Just keep your distance when you can.
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Neelu
He overreacts at lil things. He gets jealous without any reason. He doesn't like guys around me. He tries to control. He wants to know every hour what I am doing. He interfered in my private time. He wants attention 24hours. Please tell me if these signs are of toxic relationship. I feel so suffocated and I fell out of love even though I was the one who proposed him. It's only been 5months of our relation. and I wanna break up with him already. I feel like I am toxic for doing this to him. but his behavior make me feel disrespected.
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He overreacts at lil things. He gets jealous without any reason. He doesn't like guys around me. He tries to control. He wants to know every hour what I am doing. He interfered in my private time. He wants attention 24hours. Please tell me if these signs are of toxic relationship. I feel so suffocated and I fell out of love even though I was the one who proposed him. It's only been 5months of our relation. and I wanna break up with him already. I feel like I am toxic for doing this to him. but his behavior make me feel disrespected.
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drope
As a person who has struggled in a very toxic reationship, I can confirm the part about breaking up. For people who haven't been through it, it might even seem contraditory. which it is. It's not stockolm syndrom, but it's something of the kind, where you KNOW you've been and are being mistreated and you still come up with excuses/reasons to not break up.
Pretty much all of it was horrible, but the part that stuck with me the most was how hard it was to break up even though I knew I wasn't happy with her.
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As a person who has struggled in a very toxic reationship, I can confirm the part about breaking up. For people who haven't been through it, it might even seem contraditory. which it is. It's not stockolm syndrom, but it's something of the kind, where you KNOW you've been and are being mistreated and you still come up with excuses/reasons to not break up.
Pretty much all of it was horrible, but the part that stuck with me the most was how hard it was to break up even though I knew I wasn't happy with her.
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Andrew
I'm in a toxic relationship. I have crossed many lines and regret it deeply. I have a million reasons to leave as well, as I'm not the sole aggressor in the relationship. But i would be willing to do whatever it takes to mend the hurt and start fresh being what my person needs. We're going to couples' therapy but it just feels like the help isnt coming quick enough and we're gonna end before we even gain any traction in therapy.
EDIT I must make a disclaimer that I have not physically abused my partner.
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I'm in a toxic relationship. I have crossed many lines and regret it deeply. I have a million reasons to leave as well, as I'm not the sole aggressor in the relationship. But i would be willing to do whatever it takes to mend the hurt and start fresh being what my person needs. We're going to couples' therapy but it just feels like the help isnt coming quick enough and we're gonna end before we even gain any traction in therapy.
EDIT I must make a disclaimer that I have not physically abused my partner.
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Crispu
Hey! Why did you put a woman being the victim (practically) all the time? I had a toxic and manipulative relationship with a bloody gal who gave me a hard time. Fortunately, she's not in my life anymore.
It's important to remember that women, due to their lack of physical strength and their social nature, are more likely to abuse men with manipulation and psychological abuse. I think you should have reflected that as well in this video.
Best wishes!
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Hey! Why did you put a woman being the victim (practically) all the time? I had a toxic and manipulative relationship with a bloody gal who gave me a hard time. Fortunately, she's not in my life anymore.
It's important to remember that women, due to their lack of physical strength and their social nature, are more likely to abuse men with manipulation and psychological abuse. I think you should have reflected that as well in this video.
Best wishes!
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t3hsis
In a perfect world, this is good advice. Sadly, a lot of the aforementioned points are not accessible to me. I've already gotten the social worker and told friends. It's complicated, as I'm not able to support myself. And having a really hard time trusting anyone. Saying that. I'm not physically in any harm. I just worry about the lack of stability in my situation is impeding on my ability to heal, and ultimately move on.
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In a perfect world, this is good advice. Sadly, a lot of the aforementioned points are not accessible to me. I've already gotten the social worker and told friends. It's complicated, as I'm not able to support myself. And having a really hard time trusting anyone. Saying that. I'm not physically in any harm. I just worry about the lack of stability in my situation is impeding on my ability to heal, and ultimately move on.
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Ishi
I'm sending this to my friend who's love life has been very hard and, luckily she isn't in one now, but I hope she doesn't get into anymore toxic relationships. She knows better but it's hard. I understand we all have moments of weakness, but we have to keep fighting. For our mental health, for ourselves and for the ones who care about you and are there to support you every step of your journey. Hugs to all.
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I'm sending this to my friend who's love life has been very hard and, luckily she isn't in one now, but I hope she doesn't get into anymore toxic relationships. She knows better but it's hard. I understand we all have moments of weakness, but we have to keep fighting. For our mental health, for ourselves and for the ones who care about you and are there to support you every step of your journey. Hugs to all.
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education
Psych2Go would you make video about the schema therapy developed by Dr. Jeffrey Young for personality disorders, chronic depression, and other difficult individual and couples problems. Schema therapy integrates elements of cognitive therapy, behavior therapy, object relations, and gestalt therapy.
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Psych2Go would you make video about the schema therapy developed by Dr. Jeffrey Young for personality disorders, chronic depression, and other difficult individual and couples problems. Schema therapy integrates elements of cognitive therapy, behavior therapy, object relations, and gestalt therapy.
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Linden
Ive noticed these videos tend to focus on how toxic people take action to hurt you, not the quiet ways they can hurt you. Someone withholding affection or shunning you or ignoring you for days on end to punish you is still toxic. Especially when they try to claim the changes in behavior dont exist.
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Ive noticed these videos tend to focus on how toxic people take action to hurt you, not the quiet ways they can hurt you. Someone withholding affection or shunning you or ignoring you for days on end to punish you is still toxic. Especially when they try to claim the changes in behavior dont exist.
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Httyd_lover
I have been in a toxic relationship before but she stopped being friends with me because I apparently stole here friend, which was unintentional. I also didn't know that her friend wants to be friend with me instead of her because I don't have her friend's contact
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I have been in a toxic relationship before but she stopped being friends with me because I apparently stole here friend, which was unintentional. I also didn't know that her friend wants to be friend with me instead of her because I don't have her friend's contact
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Sanely
Ah, yes. I remember when I broke up with my abusive bf and he played the victim by saying I was inconsiderate for leaving him at the lowest point in his life (he only failed a class. Hoping he turns to Christ soon, but I don't need to be involved in his process.
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Ah, yes. I remember when I broke up with my abusive bf and he played the victim by saying I was inconsiderate for leaving him at the lowest point in his life (he only failed a class. Hoping he turns to Christ soon, but I don't need to be involved in his process.
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Precious
This literally popped up while I was trying to get attention of my friend.
I was trying to get her attention but she kept ghosting me, she's also giving me some signs but idk if it's obvious.
Is this a sign to leave a toxic friendship?
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This literally popped up while I was trying to get attention of my friend.
I was trying to get her attention but she kept ghosting me, she's also giving me some signs but idk if it's obvious.
Is this a sign to leave a toxic friendship?
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Zimmernic
I really love the animation in this episode in particular. I don't know if it's the art style or the way way it was animated, but it was quite nice. I always feel bad for these little leafy fellas. Do you fellas accept fanart submissions?
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I really love the animation in this episode in particular. I don't know if it's the art style or the way way it was animated, but it was quite nice. I always feel bad for these little leafy fellas. Do you fellas accept fanart submissions?
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Ji
I would love a video in which toxic realationship wasn't just a clear cut between victim and abuser. From my personal experience it is not thatr easy. I doubted myself for really long time and was consrtantly telling myself I was doing it wrong.
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I would love a video in which toxic realationship wasn't just a clear cut between victim and abuser. From my personal experience it is not thatr easy. I doubted myself for really long time and was consrtantly telling myself I was doing it wrong.
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Olivia
Having my Ex lover back has brought great joy in life, this is one thing that I have always wished for in my life and I got it so easy through the help of #Draluya if you are going through any problems in your marriage contact #Draluya
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Having my Ex lover back has brought great joy in life, this is one thing that I have always wished for in my life and I got it so easy through the help of #Draluya if you are going through any problems in your marriage contact #Draluya
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education
lmao, all i did was an im breaking up with you then i blocked him, everytime i see him it ruins my day, but right now, one of his friends are showing signs they like me, should i or should i not try to see if they green flag or not
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lmao, all i did was an im breaking up with you then i blocked him, everytime i see him it ruins my day, but right now, one of his friends are showing signs they like me, should i or should i not try to see if they green flag or not
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Todd
Reasons why is redundant.
I needed this video 15 years ago, 18 years ago and 20 years ago. I always thought if I just loved her enough, she'd love me back. The thought of being the one to end it was alien, horrifying.
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Reasons why is redundant.
I needed this video 15 years ago, 18 years ago and 20 years ago. I always thought if I just loved her enough, she'd love me back. The thought of being the one to end it was alien, horrifying.
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Maginary
Dam I thought I could use the Power of friendship/Love to fix anything but I just gotta leave that stuff alone.
. Man I think way too different the cartoon shows I watched ain't teaching me oblivion as a kid.
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Dam I thought I could use the Power of friendship/Love to fix anything but I just gotta leave that stuff alone.
. Man I think way too different the cartoon shows I watched ain't teaching me oblivion as a kid.
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Moon
I was a gaslighter and was financally dependant on my gf, after she broke up with me i tried to change but ended up in mental hospital where i am now. I regret what i did and i will forever despise myself.
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I was a gaslighter and was financally dependant on my gf, after she broke up with me i tried to change but ended up in mental hospital where i am now. I regret what i did and i will forever despise myself.
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