4 Signs You're Touch Starved, Not NEEDY
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Tiny
I was really hugged for the first time since I graduated highschool on my 25th bday. Not a quick hi good to see you hug, but an i see the problems you have in life, I can't help you with them but I sympathize with you hug. This person had never met me before that day. He was dating my mom at the time and thats how we met.
I was destroyed. I have never cried so hard and deeply before or since. I didn't know how lonely I was on the inside.
Now its been 5 years and I'm 30. I haven't been touched since and I'm afraid to meet anyone because I know I'll break down like that again. He was a stranger. If I were cared for by someone who means somthing to me I would need days to recover.
Stuck in a viscious cycle of self depreciation and unchecked loneliness.
I answer telemarketer calls just to hear someone talk to me. Even if it is a script to sell me somthing. It nice to be acknowledged as a person.
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I was really hugged for the first time since I graduated highschool on my 25th bday. Not a quick hi good to see you hug, but an i see the problems you have in life, I can't help you with them but I sympathize with you hug. This person had never met me before that day. He was dating my mom at the time and thats how we met.
I was destroyed. I have never cried so hard and deeply before or since. I didn't know how lonely I was on the inside.
Now its been 5 years and I'm 30. I haven't been touched since and I'm afraid to meet anyone because I know I'll break down like that again. He was a stranger. If I were cared for by someone who means somthing to me I would need days to recover.
Stuck in a viscious cycle of self depreciation and unchecked loneliness.
I answer telemarketer calls just to hear someone talk to me. Even if it is a script to sell me somthing. It nice to be acknowledged as a person.
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AltruisticWarrior
Lol i can't even get my wife or few friends of family to talk to me for longer than a few minutes. I'd gladly take a phone call. I work and live in total isolation for a month at a time and when i get home my wife doesnt even look up from her phone. I honestly don't even know why I'm still here quite often. I've dealt with 5 self deletions so far and I kind of envy them. The idea of no longer being driven mad by wanting to fulfill these supposed basic needs is. nice. My wife even shames me when I express how I'm feeling oftentimes and it usually shifts to her feelings or needs, so I really have nowhere to go. My mom passed of cancer recently and my father was one of those self deletions when I was only in third grade. A man often only has his mother and partner, if he's fortunate enough for that.
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Lol i can't even get my wife or few friends of family to talk to me for longer than a few minutes. I'd gladly take a phone call. I work and live in total isolation for a month at a time and when i get home my wife doesnt even look up from her phone. I honestly don't even know why I'm still here quite often. I've dealt with 5 self deletions so far and I kind of envy them. The idea of no longer being driven mad by wanting to fulfill these supposed basic needs is. nice. My wife even shames me when I express how I'm feeling oftentimes and it usually shifts to her feelings or needs, so I really have nowhere to go. My mom passed of cancer recently and my father was one of those self deletions when I was only in third grade. A man often only has his mother and partner, if he's fortunate enough for that.
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Dargonhuman
I wonder if this has anything to do with the recent increase of mommy dom and related types of ASMR online recently? It seems that a lot of those types of ASMR videos are attempting to capitalize on (or in some cases, prey upon) the void by simulating the kind of affection that people who have skin hunger (that is the _most_ metal name for that condition, gotta say) have. I just recently learned about the mommy dom kink and listened to a few out of curiosity and many comments under those types of videos are in line with what people who are lonely and touch starved would say and feel, which makes me wonder if there is a correlation?
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I wonder if this has anything to do with the recent increase of mommy dom and related types of ASMR online recently? It seems that a lot of those types of ASMR videos are attempting to capitalize on (or in some cases, prey upon) the void by simulating the kind of affection that people who have skin hunger (that is the _most_ metal name for that condition, gotta say) have. I just recently learned about the mommy dom kink and listened to a few out of curiosity and many comments under those types of videos are in line with what people who are lonely and touch starved would say and feel, which makes me wonder if there is a correlation?
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WhAtEvEr
I never heard of this before, but it definitely puts my feelings in perspective. In my family, it's rare for either of my parents to show any physical affection towards me or my siblings, so I always thought that being physically affectionate towards people was weird or abnormal. Then I got into kpop and was very VERY surprised.
I haven't had many friends over the years either, so now as an adult I'm looking for that non intimate touch yall described without even knowing why. I don't think I'll ever fully get used to someone touching me, though. Feels like an electric shock every time someone puts their hands on me
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I never heard of this before, but it definitely puts my feelings in perspective. In my family, it's rare for either of my parents to show any physical affection towards me or my siblings, so I always thought that being physically affectionate towards people was weird or abnormal. Then I got into kpop and was very VERY surprised.
I haven't had many friends over the years either, so now as an adult I'm looking for that non intimate touch yall described without even knowing why. I don't think I'll ever fully get used to someone touching me, though. Feels like an electric shock every time someone puts their hands on me
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Jzombi
i've been realizing i've been fantasizing more and more about getting supportive, comforting hugs from friends and/or potential future partners. its so rare that i get them. but because of my social anxiety and rejection sensitivity i feel like i subconsciously avoid touching other people even though i want it. i get uncomfortable and sometimes flinch when someone gives me an unexpected shoulder pat or arm grab. i dont know how to handle it and i kinda retreat into myself which is the opposite of what i want to happen and the opposite of what they expect.
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i've been realizing i've been fantasizing more and more about getting supportive, comforting hugs from friends and/or potential future partners. its so rare that i get them. but because of my social anxiety and rejection sensitivity i feel like i subconsciously avoid touching other people even though i want it. i get uncomfortable and sometimes flinch when someone gives me an unexpected shoulder pat or arm grab. i dont know how to handle it and i kinda retreat into myself which is the opposite of what i want to happen and the opposite of what they expect.
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Robert
LOL Good luck to anyone in Ontario, you know we're never gonna have simple freedoms like dating anymore. But. Keep at it! Let everybody in! I love giving my future away. 31 and not a thing in my name as a man, so I'll NEVER have interaction. Steel/rebar and the abuse of steroids/painkillers have ruined my life and for what? Just to pay bills and rent.
The people of my nation are such cowards, and they expect men like ME to fix it? I'd rather find a way to kill off federal government.
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LOL Good luck to anyone in Ontario, you know we're never gonna have simple freedoms like dating anymore. But. Keep at it! Let everybody in! I love giving my future away. 31 and not a thing in my name as a man, so I'll NEVER have interaction. Steel/rebar and the abuse of steroids/painkillers have ruined my life and for what? Just to pay bills and rent.
The people of my nation are such cowards, and they expect men like ME to fix it? I'd rather find a way to kill off federal government.
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Harald
This hit me hard. I try to avoid beeing touched because i start sobbing immediately because it is so rare and people are repelled by that wich gives me even more pain. I have a very cuddly Cat that makes it a little easier, but it's not a human touch. Therapy didn't work, because i am a stable person in every other aspect. Now I really understand why older people are so happy when someone holds their hands or hug them. Male, 54 years old. I am open for advice
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This hit me hard. I try to avoid beeing touched because i start sobbing immediately because it is so rare and people are repelled by that wich gives me even more pain. I have a very cuddly Cat that makes it a little easier, but it's not a human touch. Therapy didn't work, because i am a stable person in every other aspect. Now I really understand why older people are so happy when someone holds their hands or hug them. Male, 54 years old. I am open for advice
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Chelsea
I was just talking about desiring to treat myself to a spa day. massage, mani-pedi, facial, hair treatment, the whole bit. Every one of those requires physical touch.
For someone like me whose primary love language is physical touch, touch-starved easily translates to love-starved, and the worst part is that I'm so lonely that I apparently have to pay for it.
And I can't afford it.
I can't afford to experience love, even non-intimate.
Cool.
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I was just talking about desiring to treat myself to a spa day. massage, mani-pedi, facial, hair treatment, the whole bit. Every one of those requires physical touch.
For someone like me whose primary love language is physical touch, touch-starved easily translates to love-starved, and the worst part is that I'm so lonely that I apparently have to pay for it.
And I can't afford it.
I can't afford to experience love, even non-intimate.
Cool.
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Asriel
Can anyone tell me why even though 1. Feel lonely. 2. Wanting what everyone else gets touch wise like hugs. 3. I have had depression especially due to the fact i have no love and it can come randomly. I still when recieving it which i rarely have gotten in my life, dont feel anything from it even though its something i crave? I really need to understand why and i dont believe in therapy so i dont think i need to see a therapist for that
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Can anyone tell me why even though 1. Feel lonely. 2. Wanting what everyone else gets touch wise like hugs. 3. I have had depression especially due to the fact i have no love and it can come randomly. I still when recieving it which i rarely have gotten in my life, dont feel anything from it even though its something i crave? I really need to understand why and i dont believe in therapy so i dont think i need to see a therapist for that
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Zyano
Video popped up yesterday so I saved to watch later. It showed up on the anniversary of the kidnapping of my kids a year ago yesterday by their mother. Old friend of mine I met 20 years ago while in the Navy came by and the hug I got literally brought tears to my eyes. Wish court would work faster to bring them home. Keep up the work, might have been 10 days before notice but worth watching.
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Video popped up yesterday so I saved to watch later. It showed up on the anniversary of the kidnapping of my kids a year ago yesterday by their mother. Old friend of mine I met 20 years ago while in the Navy came by and the hug I got literally brought tears to my eyes. Wish court would work faster to bring them home. Keep up the work, might have been 10 days before notice but worth watching.
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Ace
This is pretty common for men, since men were trained to always be tough and to suck it up. And if a guy craved any physical contact they'd be teased and bullied.
I never really thought about it much but whenever I was touched not in a bad way. I felt good, like if someone touched my shoulder or even a handshake. I do want people to touch but I don't have friends so that's a no go. Hehe.
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This is pretty common for men, since men were trained to always be tough and to suck it up. And if a guy craved any physical contact they'd be teased and bullied.
I never really thought about it much but whenever I was touched not in a bad way. I felt good, like if someone touched my shoulder or even a handshake. I do want people to touch but I don't have friends so that's a no go. Hehe.
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Jory
Nobody has physically touched me other than trying to move me out of the way to get past me in almost 15 years. I've been without meaningful physical contact for so long that now even the thought of somebody touching me creeps me out and makes me angry and feeling confused. Even the act of touching and consoling my son after he falls off his bike and gets hurt feels weird and foreign.
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Nobody has physically touched me other than trying to move me out of the way to get past me in almost 15 years. I've been without meaningful physical contact for so long that now even the thought of somebody touching me creeps me out and makes me angry and feeling confused. Even the act of touching and consoling my son after he falls off his bike and gets hurt feels weird and foreign.
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Marco
I find it extremely inappropriate that a sonorous, female voice speaks the text for such sensitive topics. Women are THE cause of emotional difficulties, of heartache, women are the most unsympathetic creatures in the world and with their behavior or their demands the main cause of psychological stress, depression and sicide.
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I find it extremely inappropriate that a sonorous, female voice speaks the text for such sensitive topics. Women are THE cause of emotional difficulties, of heartache, women are the most unsympathetic creatures in the world and with their behavior or their demands the main cause of psychological stress, depression and sicide.
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Worvern
if its someone i know, ok, sure, just dont make it weird. If its THAT guy from work, well he can, you know. I guess it doesn't help I actually enjoy isolation, which I had to come to terms with myself that that also, unfortunately, includes my own family. I don't hate them despite what they think. I just want my alone time.
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if its someone i know, ok, sure, just dont make it weird. If its THAT guy from work, well he can, you know. I guess it doesn't help I actually enjoy isolation, which I had to come to terms with myself that that also, unfortunately, includes my own family. I don't hate them despite what they think. I just want my alone time.
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FalconGamer58
The stigma around people casually touching each other even if it's just putting your hand on someone's shoulder to get their attention makes people give you weird looks and so that makes everyone more awkward and act weird about touching than needed. So we grow colder as a society
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The stigma around people casually touching each other even if it's just putting your hand on someone's shoulder to get their attention makes people give you weird looks and so that makes everyone more awkward and act weird about touching than needed. So we grow colder as a society
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Hang
Someone that's suffered from anxiety so bad that I haven't had actual irl friends or a relationship for almost a decade, this whole video describes me. I always wondered why I could be in a good mood for a while but then for no reason get super depressed or irritated over everything.
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Someone that's suffered from anxiety so bad that I haven't had actual irl friends or a relationship for almost a decade, this whole video describes me. I always wondered why I could be in a good mood for a while but then for no reason get super depressed or irritated over everything.
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Amber
Yeah I used to think I was a validation addict but I think I'm just validation starved. I've never been validated fully by anyone I've deeply loved, including my parents. I don't even know what I would do if I actually got a relationship that validated me. It scares me a little.
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Yeah I used to think I was a validation addict but I think I'm just validation starved. I've never been validated fully by anyone I've deeply loved, including my parents. I don't even know what I would do if I actually got a relationship that validated me. It scares me a little.
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Liber
You eventually get used to it.
In fact, when people touch me (particularly women, it largely makes me feel uncomfortable at this point. Women only seem to bother when they need or want something, and they use touch as a initiating manipulation tactic.
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You eventually get used to it.
In fact, when people touch me (particularly women, it largely makes me feel uncomfortable at this point. Women only seem to bother when they need or want something, and they use touch as a initiating manipulation tactic.
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Riley
I feel like I am too, but i dont require it from other males I only want and crave the touch from girls, I love cuddles it comforts me I love hugs I love holding her hand and kissing her its one of my most favorite feelings if not my absolute favorite.
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I feel like I am too, but i dont require it from other males I only want and crave the touch from girls, I love cuddles it comforts me I love hugs I love holding her hand and kissing her its one of my most favorite feelings if not my absolute favorite.
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ugly
i have a long distance girlfriend and some days i need a hug but i don't want to hug a dude because is feels gay but i don't hug a girl because it feels like i'm not loyal and i've never been hug from outside of my family so i don't know how to hug
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i have a long distance girlfriend and some days i need a hug but i don't want to hug a dude because is feels gay but i don't hug a girl because it feels like i'm not loyal and i've never been hug from outside of my family so i don't know how to hug
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Proto
Male, 18 years old and living alone. It's still so hard for me to ask for a hug and I feel really embarassed when I accidentally make evident that I enjoy physical contact whenever it happens and find myself unconsciously asking for more
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Male, 18 years old and living alone. It's still so hard for me to ask for a hug and I feel really embarassed when I accidentally make evident that I enjoy physical contact whenever it happens and find myself unconsciously asking for more
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BYUtiful
I think I combat this with soft fluffy blankets and stuffed animals. If I need touch, soft blankets can increase my oxytocin for sure. I also work as a pet stylist and hugging the dogs who let me combats it too.
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I think I combat this with soft fluffy blankets and stuffed animals. If I need touch, soft blankets can increase my oxytocin for sure. I also work as a pet stylist and hugging the dogs who let me combats it too.
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Fjrseti
crazy how this might be the reason I've become at least twice as ticklish over the years and am also afraid of holding small children for fear of hurting them somehow.
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crazy how this might be the reason I've become at least twice as ticklish over the years and am also afraid of holding small children for fear of hurting them somehow.
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Dudeist
I just got a body pillow without the creepy covers.
Immediately mocked by my sister and mother. I know what they're getting me for Christmas.
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I just got a body pillow without the creepy covers.
Immediately mocked by my sister and mother. I know what they're getting me for Christmas.
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JoMcD21
I only touch people when I'm trying to not touch them. Like, Hey, I'm tryin' to get around ya! Really don't want my body to make contact here!
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I only touch people when I'm trying to not touch them. Like, Hey, I'm tryin' to get around ya! Really don't want my body to make contact here!
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