Why Smart People Keep Just A Few Close Friends (According To Science)
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Date: 2023-11-14
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Malak
I feel like this video is speaking to my soul. I'm literally struggling with this rn because I feel like I don't have a lot of friends and acquaintances like people around me. The transition to university was quite hard on me because all 3 of my best friends went to different universities. I only ever have them they're the only people I actually feel comfortable around. I did make friends in uni but I'm really just not close with them and I don't feel that much connection with them at all. I feel like my social circle is actually quite small and I sometimes feel guilty because my parents and relatives always encourage me to be more social. I just don't know what to do anymore
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I feel like this video is speaking to my soul. I'm literally struggling with this rn because I feel like I don't have a lot of friends and acquaintances like people around me. The transition to university was quite hard on me because all 3 of my best friends went to different universities. I only ever have them they're the only people I actually feel comfortable around. I did make friends in uni but I'm really just not close with them and I don't feel that much connection with them at all. I feel like my social circle is actually quite small and I sometimes feel guilty because my parents and relatives always encourage me to be more social. I just don't know what to do anymore
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Thunder
I m finally able to be myself because I have an SO that will love me no matter what and friends that have my back. My old work place was so bad, it felt like employees could only rely on each other. I was ready to get in an actual fight to keep one of my coworkers safe. Just about the whole store (employee wise and for a while, probably different now) would turn on someone that hurt one of our coworkers, as she s so sweet and wouldn t hurt a fly. She s been spayed in the face (she s deaf so can t hear) and hit by cars in the parking lot despite wearing the designated safety vest. Don t start none, won t be none is a motto I ve adopted from my SO
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I m finally able to be myself because I have an SO that will love me no matter what and friends that have my back. My old work place was so bad, it felt like employees could only rely on each other. I was ready to get in an actual fight to keep one of my coworkers safe. Just about the whole store (employee wise and for a while, probably different now) would turn on someone that hurt one of our coworkers, as she s so sweet and wouldn t hurt a fly. She s been spayed in the face (she s deaf so can t hear) and hit by cars in the parking lot despite wearing the designated safety vest. Don t start none, won t be none is a motto I ve adopted from my SO
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Mellon
Just 2 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me, for valid reasons, I ve been improving myself on them, but I fear that as time goes on she falls more and more out of love, how would I stop her from falling out of love, or if she already has, be able to get her to fall back in love? I don t want to do ANYTHING manipulative, I just want to somehow recreate what originally made her fall in love with me. And if she doesn t end up loving me again, how would I move on? This was my first relationship so I don t know how I could move on.
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Just 2 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me, for valid reasons, I ve been improving myself on them, but I fear that as time goes on she falls more and more out of love, how would I stop her from falling out of love, or if she already has, be able to get her to fall back in love? I don t want to do ANYTHING manipulative, I just want to somehow recreate what originally made her fall in love with me. And if she doesn t end up loving me again, how would I move on? This was my first relationship so I don t know how I could move on.
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Dave
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I have always strived for this. However, reciprocation is hard to find. Every time I thought I found true solid friends, they've let me down in critical ways I would have never done them. One comes to realize that it's quite a feat to find people who value you as much as you value them, as most people just tend to have conflicting priorities that can easily push you out of their inner circle, and/or cause you to excuse yourself from a friendship that clearly is not as safe and solid as you thought it was.
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I have always strived for this. However, reciprocation is hard to find. Every time I thought I found true solid friends, they've let me down in critical ways I would have never done them. One comes to realize that it's quite a feat to find people who value you as much as you value them, as most people just tend to have conflicting priorities that can easily push you out of their inner circle, and/or cause you to excuse yourself from a friendship that clearly is not as safe and solid as you thought it was.
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Creecadia
I have the same two best friends since high school. That is it. I'm very close to those two. So, I guess I'm smart according to this video. Since high school, I spend lots of time researching communication and other topics that require that extra brain power. As an adult, I don't find people that I can have that conversation with. I'm grateful for my two friends. They might not be super interested like me, but they can talk with me about it openly and have a conversation.
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I have the same two best friends since high school. That is it. I'm very close to those two. So, I guess I'm smart according to this video. Since high school, I spend lots of time researching communication and other topics that require that extra brain power. As an adult, I don't find people that I can have that conversation with. I'm grateful for my two friends. They might not be super interested like me, but they can talk with me about it openly and have a conversation.
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Sean
I often feel a little guilty when I meet up with acquaintances or newer friends and have that realization that they do not process information to the same degree or in the same way that I do, its not that I see them as lesser its just that I know we won't be able to converse meaningfully in the ways that I enjoy most and so it makes it much harder to invest in those relationships, they just feel less reciprocal.
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I often feel a little guilty when I meet up with acquaintances or newer friends and have that realization that they do not process information to the same degree or in the same way that I do, its not that I see them as lesser its just that I know we won't be able to converse meaningfully in the ways that I enjoy most and so it makes it much harder to invest in those relationships, they just feel less reciprocal.
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Lian
idk if i m being delusional but i feel like my life was better when i only had 3 friends. I moved schools and became more social but now i feel less productive and less happy? they re actually more like acquaintances, i don t always talk to all my friends. I m not saying that my friends are bringing me down but i feel lonelier, since i m not actually close with most of my friends
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idk if i m being delusional but i feel like my life was better when i only had 3 friends. I moved schools and became more social but now i feel less productive and less happy? they re actually more like acquaintances, i don t always talk to all my friends. I m not saying that my friends are bringing me down but i feel lonelier, since i m not actually close with most of my friends
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education
You can have many friends that you like & love & sometimes have different intrests to share with different people. When you need private time just go for as there is no need to apologize for who you & your needs are.
Pschology with all due tespect is not an exact sciense ( as for instance Math or Phisics ).
Thank you very much.
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You can have many friends that you like & love & sometimes have different intrests to share with different people. When you need private time just go for as there is no need to apologize for who you & your needs are.
Pschology with all due tespect is not an exact sciense ( as for instance Math or Phisics ).
Thank you very much.
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RuTgr
I had a friend group of around 8 people. The thing is their was always some sort termoil then i got into a conflict with 1 of them and i basically got left out. Now i have a new group of just 3 including me but they are close friends of mine. Closer than my previous group has ever been. For now i dont want a bigger group
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I had a friend group of around 8 people. The thing is their was always some sort termoil then i got into a conflict with 1 of them and i basically got left out. Now i have a new group of just 3 including me but they are close friends of mine. Closer than my previous group has ever been. For now i dont want a bigger group
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education
This reminds me of this Genius i had in my year who had Autism just like i do and he was smarter than anyone i have ever known yet he would never boast about it or even have friends (i don't either) yet he was labeled weird and strange for it. That's why i've become so isolated since i was even seen like that.
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This reminds me of this Genius i had in my year who had Autism just like i do and he was smarter than anyone i have ever known yet he would never boast about it or even have friends (i don't either) yet he was labeled weird and strange for it. That's why i've become so isolated since i was even seen like that.
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The
What's even worse is when you have to call yourself smart because you have nobody else that compliments you about it because of the lack of friends. This also makes the quote only intelligent people never say they are intelligent make absolutely no sense.
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What's even worse is when you have to call yourself smart because you have nobody else that compliments you about it because of the lack of friends. This also makes the quote only intelligent people never say they are intelligent make absolutely no sense.
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M nh
very relatable to me, I've only got 6 close friends and one of them is gone somewhere else since grade 4, I have no idea if he'll be back because he promised me that he will come back once both of us got to grade 8, just 1 more year. gotta keep going
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very relatable to me, I've only got 6 close friends and one of them is gone somewhere else since grade 4, I have no idea if he'll be back because he promised me that he will come back once both of us got to grade 8, just 1 more year. gotta keep going
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Deadly
Timestamps
1. Quality over quantity 0: 51
2. Emotional depth and trust 1: 32
3. Intellectual compatibility 2: 14
4. Privacy and introspection 3: 06
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. Quality over quantity 0: 51
2. Emotional depth and trust 1: 32
3. Intellectual compatibility 2: 14
4. Privacy and introspection 3: 06
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Loreen
this video is relatable to me, especially that one quote at the end never change just to fit in in the crowd is very true and that we should always choose our friends wisely in a way that they can appreciate and value you for who you are
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this video is relatable to me, especially that one quote at the end never change just to fit in in the crowd is very true and that we should always choose our friends wisely in a way that they can appreciate and value you for who you are
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Shannon
What if you only have a few acquaintances but no real friends. And now that I'm 46 disabled and no longer able to work. Making any will be extremely difficult if not impossible. Looks like its a lonely isolated life for me from now on.
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What if you only have a few acquaintances but no real friends. And now that I'm 46 disabled and no longer able to work. Making any will be extremely difficult if not impossible. Looks like its a lonely isolated life for me from now on.
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Slipstreamz
People also mistake exams and tests for IQ. Answering questions doesn't determine how intelligent someone is and I feel like this is why so many people that fail their exams fall into Depression straight after High School.
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People also mistake exams and tests for IQ. Answering questions doesn't determine how intelligent someone is and I feel like this is why so many people that fail their exams fall into Depression straight after High School.
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Maddi!
It s been weeks since I avoided one of my friends. I have no idea why. Everytime I see them I run away. I don t even reply to any of their messages. something in me just doesn t wanna be around them
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It s been weeks since I avoided one of my friends. I have no idea why. Everytime I see them I run away. I don t even reply to any of their messages. something in me just doesn t wanna be around them
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Riley
For me I ve always been like that it happens when you have high functioning autism like young Sheldon dose but it s just better that way so it s less likely for your only few friends to leave you.
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For me I ve always been like that it happens when you have high functioning autism like young Sheldon dose but it s just better that way so it s less likely for your only few friends to leave you.
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Stachu
Very relatable. I can say I'm relatively smart and I have 6 nice friends, including 2 close ones. All the points in the video are correct and it's nice to feel so understood!
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Very relatable. I can say I'm relatively smart and I have 6 nice friends, including 2 close ones. All the points in the video are correct and it's nice to feel so understood!
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Flamegamer
I couldn t agree more with this video. I like to keep my circle small and I have at least 5 genuine friends. Those are ones that I can always talk to and have my back.
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I couldn t agree more with this video. I like to keep my circle small and I have at least 5 genuine friends. Those are ones that I can always talk to and have my back.
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