Stay Away From These Kinds of Friends
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Date: 2023-11-22
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Benz
Roughly a decade ago, it wouldve been nice if I knew all of this when I had to deal with my narcissistic friend.
Then again, without that experience, I wouldnt be able to tell weather someone is narcissistic and/or a fake friend so I guess theres something positive about that horrible experience.
Long story short, that fake friend only took advantage of me, spoke against me when my back was turned and slandered me to make him the good guy/victim and to portray me, his victim, an evil villain.
Im not going into details because its a long story. By the end of it all I just cut ties with him. One day I walked away and pretended that he didnt exist. I didnt took revenge or anything. I just walked away.
Forgive but never forget.
I forgave him not for his sake but for my own peace of mind. Holding grudges will only damage me emotionally. Its like drinking poison and hoping someone else gets poisoned. Holding grudges and negative thoughts will only cloud my judgement. I made many mistakes in the past and I ended up venting my anger towards innocent people who didnt deserve it. Looking back, I trully regret it.
Never forget. Forgiving and forgetting are two different things. Forgiving is to be a better person and just move on. Find a better person to be friends with, find a better place to be at and dont get revenge as much as possible as it never lead to anything good. Just move on. But never forget the lessons so other people wont be able to do the same shit to you again. Never forget because you might allow those snakes to be in your life again.
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Roughly a decade ago, it wouldve been nice if I knew all of this when I had to deal with my narcissistic friend.
Then again, without that experience, I wouldnt be able to tell weather someone is narcissistic and/or a fake friend so I guess theres something positive about that horrible experience.
Long story short, that fake friend only took advantage of me, spoke against me when my back was turned and slandered me to make him the good guy/victim and to portray me, his victim, an evil villain.
Im not going into details because its a long story. By the end of it all I just cut ties with him. One day I walked away and pretended that he didnt exist. I didnt took revenge or anything. I just walked away.
Forgive but never forget.
I forgave him not for his sake but for my own peace of mind. Holding grudges will only damage me emotionally. Its like drinking poison and hoping someone else gets poisoned. Holding grudges and negative thoughts will only cloud my judgement. I made many mistakes in the past and I ended up venting my anger towards innocent people who didnt deserve it. Looking back, I trully regret it.
Never forget. Forgiving and forgetting are two different things. Forgiving is to be a better person and just move on. Find a better person to be friends with, find a better place to be at and dont get revenge as much as possible as it never lead to anything good. Just move on. But never forget the lessons so other people wont be able to do the same shit to you again. Never forget because you might allow those snakes to be in your life again.
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MsGracie
The way you posted this days after i was thinking about this lol. I was cursed to have 2 toxic people as friends. Once, they both called my interest in fanfiction cringe. One of them, Max, always found a way to shit on my interests by bringing up something negative about it (i shared a funny video about kpop, and he brought a controversy bts was in some years ago for example.
The other one, Will, seemed less judgmental but had his moments: once, i texted him about me feeling left out even when we all hung out, and he excused it with sorry, it's the autism
Mainly, both of them just seemed to put up with me, and i just sucked it up for so long cuz i thought i wasn't gonna find better friends (still do tbh) sorry for the ramble, it just struck a chord with me
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The way you posted this days after i was thinking about this lol. I was cursed to have 2 toxic people as friends. Once, they both called my interest in fanfiction cringe. One of them, Max, always found a way to shit on my interests by bringing up something negative about it (i shared a funny video about kpop, and he brought a controversy bts was in some years ago for example.
The other one, Will, seemed less judgmental but had his moments: once, i texted him about me feeling left out even when we all hung out, and he excused it with sorry, it's the autism
Mainly, both of them just seemed to put up with me, and i just sucked it up for so long cuz i thought i wasn't gonna find better friends (still do tbh) sorry for the ramble, it just struck a chord with me
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Dynasty2201
My biggest annoyance with people and friends in general when it comes to maintaining a friendship - almost everyone is clearly sitting around waiting for others to initiate stuff, but expect friendships to continue. If you're almost all sat around waiting for others to initiate stuff, how do you expect to keep friends? I don't get how anyone is keeping friendships any more. And you have your little collection of friends and refuse to add more. So people are struggling to find new friends especially as adults (because groups have been established for years at this point, and even if you do everyone sat around waiting for you to contact them.
And if you DON'T contact them or initiate, they assume you don't want to be friends at all or anymore. FOR GOD SAKE!
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My biggest annoyance with people and friends in general when it comes to maintaining a friendship - almost everyone is clearly sitting around waiting for others to initiate stuff, but expect friendships to continue. If you're almost all sat around waiting for others to initiate stuff, how do you expect to keep friends? I don't get how anyone is keeping friendships any more. And you have your little collection of friends and refuse to add more. So people are struggling to find new friends especially as adults (because groups have been established for years at this point, and even if you do everyone sat around waiting for you to contact them.
And if you DON'T contact them or initiate, they assume you don't want to be friends at all or anymore. FOR GOD SAKE!
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Catalina
This one is excellent information. ASD keeps me from understanding social cues i find this very helpful. Thank you. I am in recovery from trauma i have CPTSD as well. This year in therapy my goal was to stop fawning people pleasing behavior. Major life lessons about people in my life came when i stopped initiating and trying the most. Was disheartening and hard to see almost everyone liked what i did for them snd not me specifically. Hurt a lot but i let go of a lot of real toxic friends so win in the end right.
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This one is excellent information. ASD keeps me from understanding social cues i find this very helpful. Thank you. I am in recovery from trauma i have CPTSD as well. This year in therapy my goal was to stop fawning people pleasing behavior. Major life lessons about people in my life came when i stopped initiating and trying the most. Was disheartening and hard to see almost everyone liked what i did for them snd not me specifically. Hurt a lot but i let go of a lot of real toxic friends so win in the end right.
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The
lack empathy [check]
loves drama [no check]
unreliable or inconsistent [double check]
forget people entirely [who? ]
Envious [no check]
Crosses boundaries [very probable. Should I ever find myself in a situation where I have to tolerate pests, I enjoy testing boundaries and confront people with a reflection of themselves]
What I don't understand is why humans seem to tolerate and even seek a companionship. Just don't have friends. Problem solved.
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lack empathy [check]
loves drama [no check]
unreliable or inconsistent [double check]
forget people entirely [who? ]
Envious [no check]
Crosses boundaries [very probable. Should I ever find myself in a situation where I have to tolerate pests, I enjoy testing boundaries and confront people with a reflection of themselves]
What I don't understand is why humans seem to tolerate and even seek a companionship. Just don't have friends. Problem solved.
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princeoffriendship
Mine is the 3rd. I have/had a friend for four years, who has been my closest friend but he disappears for months, ignores my messages and calls or he says we should meet up and then he never does. I try every time I have the chance to talk to him about it but he laughs and doesn't take me seriously. It's sad because I really liked him as a person but he shows that he doesn't value me as much as I value him.
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Mine is the 3rd. I have/had a friend for four years, who has been my closest friend but he disappears for months, ignores my messages and calls or he says we should meet up and then he never does. I try every time I have the chance to talk to him about it but he laughs and doesn't take me seriously. It's sad because I really liked him as a person but he shows that he doesn't value me as much as I value him.
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Alloytale
So over the past few days, I ve been being attacked being called a trans slur, race slue, and compared to a sickly, vile person by a multitude of different people.
I trt to be as nice as I can, but it forces me to get defensive when they go that far, and it actually seems I m actually ALWAYS the victim, and I respond as harshly as I can without slurs and stuff.
What does or say about me? What can i do
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So over the past few days, I ve been being attacked being called a trans slur, race slue, and compared to a sickly, vile person by a multitude of different people.
I trt to be as nice as I can, but it forces me to get defensive when they go that far, and it actually seems I m actually ALWAYS the victim, and I respond as harshly as I can without slurs and stuff.
What does or say about me? What can i do
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Who
I thought I had a friend, they were sweet & warm in the begining, now but they only want me around when they need something or act overly compassionate towards me only around other people. I see the truth when this friend never invites me to their functions. The way they changed hurt, I try keep the conversations the same as before. But I think I should let them go.
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I thought I had a friend, they were sweet & warm in the begining, now but they only want me around when they need something or act overly compassionate towards me only around other people. I see the truth when this friend never invites me to their functions. The way they changed hurt, I try keep the conversations the same as before. But I think I should let them go.
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Who
I thought I had a friend, they were sweet & warm in the begining, now but they only want me around when they need something or act overly compassionate towards me only around other people. I see the truth when this friend never invites me to their functions. The way they changed hurt, I try keep the conversations the same as before. But I think I should let them go.
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I thought I had a friend, they were sweet & warm in the begining, now but they only want me around when they need something or act overly compassionate towards me only around other people. I see the truth when this friend never invites me to their functions. The way they changed hurt, I try keep the conversations the same as before. But I think I should let them go.
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Sparkle
They are not friends, hey're frienemies.
Energy vampires.
They secretly hate you but jealous of your light.
They try and turn everbody against you.
The green eyed monster.
They smile in your face, all the time they wanna take your place, the backstabbers.
It's a song.
Loving yourself is the greatest love of all.
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They are not friends, hey're frienemies.
Energy vampires.
They secretly hate you but jealous of your light.
They try and turn everbody against you.
The green eyed monster.
They smile in your face, all the time they wanna take your place, the backstabbers.
It's a song.
Loving yourself is the greatest love of all.
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Kephy_
I'll add something:
If a friend complains because you followed your values (for example, honesty is one of your main values but they ask you to lie for them and they complain when you refuse, it's not a true friend. A true friend respects your values.
I was betrayed by two friends in a week so I know what I am talking about.
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I'll add something:
If a friend complains because you followed your values (for example, honesty is one of your main values but they ask you to lie for them and they complain when you refuse, it's not a true friend. A true friend respects your values.
I was betrayed by two friends in a week so I know what I am talking about.
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DJ
Back in the day of High School I would be upset not to go to those parties i felt like i was missing out something vut now im mad at myself for going to those parties just the feeling to inpress these people who are pretending to be your friend i find myself just chilling at home out of sight out of mind
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Back in the day of High School I would be upset not to go to those parties i felt like i was missing out something vut now im mad at myself for going to those parties just the feeling to inpress these people who are pretending to be your friend i find myself just chilling at home out of sight out of mind
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FNF
I am in this situation. a fake friend of mine Where i always ask Them to play or to chat, But they never do The same for me: ( Also they say they miss me and is Sorry for not having time to me, but they never text me or chat at all: ( and Im tired of doing all The work
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I am in this situation. a fake friend of mine Where i always ask Them to play or to chat, But they never do The same for me: ( Also they say they miss me and is Sorry for not having time to me, but they never text me or chat at all: ( and Im tired of doing all The work
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Narc
Their words never match their actions. It s just lip service. They say they re going to do something, but they never do. They gossip about you behind your back. They don t stick up for you. Because they re envious and jealous. They re secretly competing with you.
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Their words never match their actions. It s just lip service. They say they re going to do something, but they never do. They gossip about you behind your back. They don t stick up for you. Because they re envious and jealous. They re secretly competing with you.
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Xvxa
I had a close friend of mine that would only talk to me whenever its the most convenient for them and would ignore me for days before getting back to me, but it still sucks to have to see them that way. It's tough to think that fake people do exist out there tbh
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I had a close friend of mine that would only talk to me whenever its the most convenient for them and would ignore me for days before getting back to me, but it still sucks to have to see them that way. It's tough to think that fake people do exist out there tbh
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Juntos. Together
What if they get you confused saying, you are complaining because you are a victim, but they are not accepting you, criticizing you, not accepting that they are not being nice and it's hard to say something because you may think they are right?
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What if they get you confused saying, you are complaining because you are a victim, but they are not accepting you, criticizing you, not accepting that they are not being nice and it's hard to say something because you may think they are right?
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Potato
I think for me one of the biggest give aways on fake friends
Is if as soon as I'm not doing well
They seem to either be super happy
Or dissappear
Friends who leave you when you're not at your best, don't want you at your worst
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I think for me one of the biggest give aways on fake friends
Is if as soon as I'm not doing well
They seem to either be super happy
Or dissappear
Friends who leave you when you're not at your best, don't want you at your worst
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Deadly
Timestamps
1. They lack empathy 0: 35
2. Drama follows them 1: 41
3. They're unreliable or inconsistent 2: 45
4. Green with envy 3: 58
5. Crosses boundaries 5: 28
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day.
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Timestamps
1. They lack empathy 0: 35
2. Drama follows them 1: 41
3. They're unreliable or inconsistent 2: 45
4. Green with envy 3: 58
5. Crosses boundaries 5: 28
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day.
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education
Thanks for this video: ) I ve had a hard time with friends recently. Yesterday my two friends ended their friendship and the same happened today again (but with different people) and I want to know who is better to stay with
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Thanks for this video: ) I ve had a hard time with friends recently. Yesterday my two friends ended their friendship and the same happened today again (but with different people) and I want to know who is better to stay with
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Harsharaj
Intro: 0: 01
They lack empathy: 0: 36
Drama Follows Them: 1: 41
They are Unreliable & Unconsistent: 2: 46
Green with Envy: 3: 59
Crosses Boundries: 5: 28
Something better than a Fake Friend: 6: 17
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Intro: 0: 01
They lack empathy: 0: 36
Drama Follows Them: 1: 41
They are Unreliable & Unconsistent: 2: 46
Green with Envy: 3: 59
Crosses Boundries: 5: 28
Something better than a Fake Friend: 6: 17
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