5 Unobvious Signs You're Attractive (Backed up by Science)
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Date: 2023-11-21
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Polymathically
I don't think I'm that attractive. A solid 6, maybe a 7 on a good day. But I know how to carry myself, dress well, and stay groomed. I have long, thick curly hair, which gets me lots of positive attention, and occasionally confusion. Having a naturally androgynous appearance is surprisingly appealing to a lot of people; I like to joke that I'm a Rorschach Test when it comes to perceived gender. Staying in shape definitely helps, too. I'm the last person in my family that doesn't have diabetes, and I intend to keep it that way. I live on a hill, and walk laps up and down it every day for an hour. I used to worry that my neighbors would think I was crazy or some kind of prowler, but now I get waves and greetings all the time. Whenever I travel, I spend most of it either hiking or taking photos. I'm the one that _always_ gets asked to take someone's photo whenever we're at a famous location. Or if I'm on a cruise at sea or waiting for jury summons, you'll always find me quietly working on a jigsaw puzzle with any confident enough to join me. These go well with the passion aspect; people can see that I'm attentive to my surroundings and know what I'm doing. I have a lots of interests: reading, writing, travel, hiking, photography, physical/Earth sciences, video games, movies, anime, jigsaw puzzles. The list goes on and on. People especially take notice when you put energy into whatever subject you're discussing.
That part about influencing others is absolutely correct. This is probably going to sound old-fashioned, but it really is a matter of putting your best foot forward. Not only do people remember their first impression of you the most, but they perceive you by the way you make them _feel. _ It's amazing how far you can get with eye contact, listening instead of talking, asking questions, being earnest, and having an easygoing attitude. I'm on a first name basis with several of the staff at my local grocery store and the wheelchair volunteers at the hospital, simply because I always take the time to ask how their lives are going. They love hearing about my latest adventures (32 countries/6 continents as of now) and seeing photos. One of them even recently stopped their car in the middle of the road so they could say hi as I did my cardio. There's a store in the city that I only visit once a year, and the owner still recognizes me. Whenever I'm in a group - be it in an academic, work, or travel setting - I inevitably end in some kind of leadership, planning, or navigational role. Apparently, I come off as capable and trustworthy. I once even talked my way into a high profile tech event in San Francisco; I just wandered in off the street and asked what it was about. The woman at the desk printed me out a full pass - worth over 1, 000 - and told me to go see for myself. One of the booths in there had authentic Hawaiian leis as decorations. I asked if I could take one, and was shocked when they said yes. I wore those flowers for the entire subway ride home. Good times.
There is one _massive_ flaw, though: I struggle with actually making meaningful connections. It's totally for lack of trying, too; I gave up a long time ago. I had an extremely rough childhood: born, raised in, escaped from a cult, dealt with neglectful and violent parents, took care of myself at a young age, faced years of racism and homophobia, grew up mostly in social isolation, and put myself through college without student loans or help from my family. As a result, it's like I missed some of the basics of How To Human. When you take a step back and observe things as an outsider, you realize just how nonsensical - if not outright insane - a lot of people are. So I spent my early life running in survival mode, never connecting with anyone. People are shocked when they find out I don't have a wife/SO, or even any friends. Every relationship I've had has ended with me being used and/or abandoned. This has wrecked my mental well-being; I'm officially diagnosed with depression and personality disorder not otherwise specified because whatever is wrong with me is too complex to be narrowed down. So whenever I interact with others, I still put my best foot forward. I feel like I have to be positive and easygoing, otherwise people will think I'm arrogant and self-absorbed. That can negatively impact how well I'm treated. It's ironic; people love talking to me, but I'm happiest when I'm alone on a trail. If I could get away with it, I'd live without talking to others. But I know that's impossible. I don't know how I'm supposed to get past this.
TLDR: I agree with all the points brought forth in this video. In terms of physical attraction, I think I'm slightly above average at best. But I know how to carry myself, dress well, and stay groomed. I keep myself in reasonably good shape as well. But the real difference comes with passion; I have a lot of interests and stay engaged with my surroundings, and people notice. Influencing others is also important; I present myself well, because I know that first impressions and how you make someone _feel_ are absolutely vital to their lasting perceptions. It's amazing how far you can get with eye contact, listening instead of talking, asking questions, being earnest, and having an easygoing attitude. People are naturally drawn to me, and I'm regarded as a natural leader, planner, etc. However, I struggle to make actual, meaningful connections. Despite everything, I have no relationships. My early life was filled with violence, neglect, and isolation, and I missed out on some of the basics of How To Human. I lost faith in people and relationships a long time ago, but keep up appearances despite it not feeling natural to me. I don't know how I'm supposed to live with this.
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I don't think I'm that attractive. A solid 6, maybe a 7 on a good day. But I know how to carry myself, dress well, and stay groomed. I have long, thick curly hair, which gets me lots of positive attention, and occasionally confusion. Having a naturally androgynous appearance is surprisingly appealing to a lot of people; I like to joke that I'm a Rorschach Test when it comes to perceived gender. Staying in shape definitely helps, too. I'm the last person in my family that doesn't have diabetes, and I intend to keep it that way. I live on a hill, and walk laps up and down it every day for an hour. I used to worry that my neighbors would think I was crazy or some kind of prowler, but now I get waves and greetings all the time. Whenever I travel, I spend most of it either hiking or taking photos. I'm the one that _always_ gets asked to take someone's photo whenever we're at a famous location. Or if I'm on a cruise at sea or waiting for jury summons, you'll always find me quietly working on a jigsaw puzzle with any confident enough to join me. These go well with the passion aspect; people can see that I'm attentive to my surroundings and know what I'm doing. I have a lots of interests: reading, writing, travel, hiking, photography, physical/Earth sciences, video games, movies, anime, jigsaw puzzles. The list goes on and on. People especially take notice when you put energy into whatever subject you're discussing.
That part about influencing others is absolutely correct. This is probably going to sound old-fashioned, but it really is a matter of putting your best foot forward. Not only do people remember their first impression of you the most, but they perceive you by the way you make them _feel. _ It's amazing how far you can get with eye contact, listening instead of talking, asking questions, being earnest, and having an easygoing attitude. I'm on a first name basis with several of the staff at my local grocery store and the wheelchair volunteers at the hospital, simply because I always take the time to ask how their lives are going. They love hearing about my latest adventures (32 countries/6 continents as of now) and seeing photos. One of them even recently stopped their car in the middle of the road so they could say hi as I did my cardio. There's a store in the city that I only visit once a year, and the owner still recognizes me. Whenever I'm in a group - be it in an academic, work, or travel setting - I inevitably end in some kind of leadership, planning, or navigational role. Apparently, I come off as capable and trustworthy. I once even talked my way into a high profile tech event in San Francisco; I just wandered in off the street and asked what it was about. The woman at the desk printed me out a full pass - worth over 1, 000 - and told me to go see for myself. One of the booths in there had authentic Hawaiian leis as decorations. I asked if I could take one, and was shocked when they said yes. I wore those flowers for the entire subway ride home. Good times.
There is one _massive_ flaw, though: I struggle with actually making meaningful connections. It's totally for lack of trying, too; I gave up a long time ago. I had an extremely rough childhood: born, raised in, escaped from a cult, dealt with neglectful and violent parents, took care of myself at a young age, faced years of racism and homophobia, grew up mostly in social isolation, and put myself through college without student loans or help from my family. As a result, it's like I missed some of the basics of How To Human. When you take a step back and observe things as an outsider, you realize just how nonsensical - if not outright insane - a lot of people are. So I spent my early life running in survival mode, never connecting with anyone. People are shocked when they find out I don't have a wife/SO, or even any friends. Every relationship I've had has ended with me being used and/or abandoned. This has wrecked my mental well-being; I'm officially diagnosed with depression and personality disorder not otherwise specified because whatever is wrong with me is too complex to be narrowed down. So whenever I interact with others, I still put my best foot forward. I feel like I have to be positive and easygoing, otherwise people will think I'm arrogant and self-absorbed. That can negatively impact how well I'm treated. It's ironic; people love talking to me, but I'm happiest when I'm alone on a trail. If I could get away with it, I'd live without talking to others. But I know that's impossible. I don't know how I'm supposed to get past this.
TLDR: I agree with all the points brought forth in this video. In terms of physical attraction, I think I'm slightly above average at best. But I know how to carry myself, dress well, and stay groomed. I keep myself in reasonably good shape as well. But the real difference comes with passion; I have a lot of interests and stay engaged with my surroundings, and people notice. Influencing others is also important; I present myself well, because I know that first impressions and how you make someone _feel_ are absolutely vital to their lasting perceptions. It's amazing how far you can get with eye contact, listening instead of talking, asking questions, being earnest, and having an easygoing attitude. People are naturally drawn to me, and I'm regarded as a natural leader, planner, etc. However, I struggle to make actual, meaningful connections. Despite everything, I have no relationships. My early life was filled with violence, neglect, and isolation, and I missed out on some of the basics of How To Human. I lost faith in people and relationships a long time ago, but keep up appearances despite it not feeling natural to me. I don't know how I'm supposed to live with this.
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SkyLine
Its cool to hear these things, but its far more theoretical than its said in the video
If you are not good looking in the eyes of the other person, than you can try to be attractive in those other ways, but its not gonna matter
We always judge by the first look, so the best tipp is: exercise and be the best form of you, the other points are just ether you have this personia or you need to learn it
I personally am this type of persona, but most people these days dont care about someone that would make them feel loved, its more the just keep yourself rare and I personally hate that, Its so hard for me to be myself and be accepted in this modern time and there still is the option, that people have more trust issues than ever before
I truly am a good hearted person, but I simply cannot show this so much to many people
Personally I dont feel accepted in this world and I feel incredibly alone, everytime I date someone, no one wants me
But hey thats life, some of us will be alone almost there whole life and this is what makes good hearted people, slowly adapting to this broken world, its sad and Im in so much pain, I hate life with all my passion, my life just keeps gettin worse and worse, its so hard
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Its cool to hear these things, but its far more theoretical than its said in the video
If you are not good looking in the eyes of the other person, than you can try to be attractive in those other ways, but its not gonna matter
We always judge by the first look, so the best tipp is: exercise and be the best form of you, the other points are just ether you have this personia or you need to learn it
I personally am this type of persona, but most people these days dont care about someone that would make them feel loved, its more the just keep yourself rare and I personally hate that, Its so hard for me to be myself and be accepted in this modern time and there still is the option, that people have more trust issues than ever before
I truly am a good hearted person, but I simply cannot show this so much to many people
Personally I dont feel accepted in this world and I feel incredibly alone, everytime I date someone, no one wants me
But hey thats life, some of us will be alone almost there whole life and this is what makes good hearted people, slowly adapting to this broken world, its sad and Im in so much pain, I hate life with all my passion, my life just keeps gettin worse and worse, its so hard
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Ruler
Wellp, I love it when I m right xD literally everything here was not the case and since I m always telling people in my surroundings that I don t look good and they deny because well, my self esteem is already low as hell so yeah, very nice video, gave me the confirmation I needed, to know I m not attractive. I m not muscular at all, I don t have any self esteem, I don t show any sort of self love whatsoever, I don t attract people around me like a magnet and just to shoot the nail in the coffin, in my 20 years of life there was exactly one individual who fell in love with me, problem with that is that I to that time was so damn dense that I didn t even give it any sort of try or anything despite literally knowing she had the doki dokis for me, conclusion of this, in the span of 20 years there was one singular individual who fell in love with me, the whole rest of the time no one ever had anything for me and I m always in the friendzone before even knowing each other properly. I will definitely die alone xD
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Wellp, I love it when I m right xD literally everything here was not the case and since I m always telling people in my surroundings that I don t look good and they deny because well, my self esteem is already low as hell so yeah, very nice video, gave me the confirmation I needed, to know I m not attractive. I m not muscular at all, I don t have any self esteem, I don t show any sort of self love whatsoever, I don t attract people around me like a magnet and just to shoot the nail in the coffin, in my 20 years of life there was exactly one individual who fell in love with me, problem with that is that I to that time was so damn dense that I didn t even give it any sort of try or anything despite literally knowing she had the doki dokis for me, conclusion of this, in the span of 20 years there was one singular individual who fell in love with me, the whole rest of the time no one ever had anything for me and I m always in the friendzone before even knowing each other properly. I will definitely die alone xD
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Javier
I used to attract people without trying, people always coming up to me trying to be friends while not even knowing how to be one really. it started to get really annoying especially when alot of the people that wanted to be around me were either toxic or very VERY dumb to the point where it was just migraine inducing so i made it my goal to do everything possible without coming off like an ass (in most cases at least) to keep people away from me, now it's like second nature to me and i don't even have to try and keep em away, its been so serene these past couple years
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I used to attract people without trying, people always coming up to me trying to be friends while not even knowing how to be one really. it started to get really annoying especially when alot of the people that wanted to be around me were either toxic or very VERY dumb to the point where it was just migraine inducing so i made it my goal to do everything possible without coming off like an ass (in most cases at least) to keep people away from me, now it's like second nature to me and i don't even have to try and keep em away, its been so serene these past couple years
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Andr s
This video is on point!
Two things to notice.
1) People are generally more anxious than before, so you might not feel the closing up and talking so directly.
2) Excersize were always fun, I used to like training, though some people look better than me without training. I end up disliking it, when I tried so hard to improve myself. Never forget that excersize is fun. If you are so good in it, you will get into a team and become a professional on some level, but after 5-6 attendance nearly everyone could tell if you into this or not.
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This video is on point!
Two things to notice.
1) People are generally more anxious than before, so you might not feel the closing up and talking so directly.
2) Excersize were always fun, I used to like training, though some people look better than me without training. I end up disliking it, when I tried so hard to improve myself. Never forget that excersize is fun. If you are so good in it, you will get into a team and become a professional on some level, but after 5-6 attendance nearly everyone could tell if you into this or not.
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dudeguy
At my last job, I was all of these things and respected. not just because of my position. However, I've never thought of that respect as attractive. Even off times, mostly breaks, a lot of the girls and even guys asked me about my workout. So, I would say borderline on that subject. As for if others attract towards me yes and no more toxic people tend to draw to me only some positive people do. The ratio would roughly be 4/1 respectively. I think it's just the city I live in, Vegas has scummy people.
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At my last job, I was all of these things and respected. not just because of my position. However, I've never thought of that respect as attractive. Even off times, mostly breaks, a lot of the girls and even guys asked me about my workout. So, I would say borderline on that subject. As for if others attract towards me yes and no more toxic people tend to draw to me only some positive people do. The ratio would roughly be 4/1 respectively. I think it's just the city I live in, Vegas has scummy people.
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psych2go
people dont gravitate towards me, i gravitate towards people, i would literally try to befriend everyone x-x(except for the ones that looks like theyre annoyed by me)
random guard that looks like a celebrity? hey sir u kinda look like fernando poe jr!
then at school i over hear someone talking about genshin and i be like oh hey u play genshin: 3 and then we just talk for a long time about our favorite characters
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people dont gravitate towards me, i gravitate towards people, i would literally try to befriend everyone x-x(except for the ones that looks like theyre annoyed by me)
random guard that looks like a celebrity? hey sir u kinda look like fernando poe jr!
then at school i over hear someone talking about genshin and i be like oh hey u play genshin: 3 and then we just talk for a long time about our favorite characters
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Zach
Hey, 90th comment! I guess one thing I know that I have in the bag is intelligence. I don't mean to sound like im saying that im the smartest person i know or anything, just that I like to learn and I do it often, about almost anything. Science, in all it's forms, has always been my favorite subject, ever since I was a little kid. I wish I could keep that passion more often when it comes to my classes in college though lol.
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Hey, 90th comment! I guess one thing I know that I have in the bag is intelligence. I don't mean to sound like im saying that im the smartest person i know or anything, just that I like to learn and I do it often, about almost anything. Science, in all it's forms, has always been my favorite subject, ever since I was a little kid. I wish I could keep that passion more often when it comes to my classes in college though lol.
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Poodle
1. People are mean to you
2. You never get complimented on your looks by strangers
3. Old people and people who care about you say you're so beautiful you'll be snatched right up
4. Guys never approach you
5. Babies and little kids like you
6. Women constantly ruin your life and work politics are impossible. You're constantly stressed out.
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1. People are mean to you
2. You never get complimented on your looks by strangers
3. Old people and people who care about you say you're so beautiful you'll be snatched right up
4. Guys never approach you
5. Babies and little kids like you
6. Women constantly ruin your life and work politics are impossible. You're constantly stressed out.
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Michael
I also noticed some subtle covert signs; beyond being an intelligent charismatic man, people tend to create meaningful dialogs out of nowhere. When interacting with women, I see re occurring themes, like flirty prolonged eye contact and the want to establish some touch even if playful. Establishing rapport is not very difficult, also envious stares.
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I also noticed some subtle covert signs; beyond being an intelligent charismatic man, people tend to create meaningful dialogs out of nowhere. When interacting with women, I see re occurring themes, like flirty prolonged eye contact and the want to establish some touch even if playful. Establishing rapport is not very difficult, also envious stares.
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Isaac
First of all, I saw Disney s The Hunchback of Notre Dame multiple times, and while I may share a similar personality as Quasimodo, I don t think I m as ugly as he is.
Secondly, the most creative thing that I m doing with my lifestyle is creating a webcomic, which almost everyone is curious to know more about.
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First of all, I saw Disney s The Hunchback of Notre Dame multiple times, and while I may share a similar personality as Quasimodo, I don t think I m as ugly as he is.
Secondly, the most creative thing that I m doing with my lifestyle is creating a webcomic, which almost everyone is curious to know more about.
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Douglas
I think the thing that makes me attractive is that I don t put labels on people. if I see someone new at work/school I will approach them and talk to them about anything. ask if it s their first day and go from their. regardless of who you are I will give you a chance and try to get to know you as a person
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I think the thing that makes me attractive is that I don t put labels on people. if I see someone new at work/school I will approach them and talk to them about anything. ask if it s their first day and go from their. regardless of who you are I will give you a chance and try to get to know you as a person
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Orion
I used to think I was kinda meh, but other people have somehow managed to wear me dow-
I mean _convince_ me over the years that I m more attractive than I thought, in looks and personality, with relapses of self-doubt now simple to manage and/or nip in the bud before growing out of control.
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I used to think I was kinda meh, but other people have somehow managed to wear me dow-
I mean _convince_ me over the years that I m more attractive than I thought, in looks and personality, with relapses of self-doubt now simple to manage and/or nip in the bud before growing out of control.
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Violet
I'm late, but hey, it's anoher video. This relates to me so well. I'm deeply insecure, despite being confident and usually looking at innocent and happy and such. But thank you, and this has made me a little more confident. Still a bit of time until I can fully appreciate myself though!
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I'm late, but hey, it's anoher video. This relates to me so well. I'm deeply insecure, despite being confident and usually looking at innocent and happy and such. But thank you, and this has made me a little more confident. Still a bit of time until I can fully appreciate myself though!
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Radouane
Trait 1 = Failed.
Trait 2= I do exercise but
Trait 3= Not really (sad.
Trait 4= I barely have any hobbies but when I do express I feel like I'm bragging.
Trait 5= Well people ignore me even when I'm talking to them.
Can my self esteem be any lower
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Trait 1 = Failed.
Trait 2= I do exercise but
Trait 3= Not really (sad.
Trait 4= I barely have any hobbies but when I do express I feel like I'm bragging.
Trait 5= Well people ignore me even when I'm talking to them.
Can my self esteem be any lower
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Deadly
Timestamps
1. You connect with others 0: 24
2. You keep fit 1: 03
3. You influence others 1: 46
4. You are passionate 2: 22
5. The halo effect 3: 09
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day.
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Timestamps
1. You connect with others 0: 24
2. You keep fit 1: 03
3. You influence others 1: 46
4. You are passionate 2: 22
5. The halo effect 3: 09
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day.
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Sammy
So, apparently I'm (to an extent) attractive? I kinda don't feel like I'm attractive tho, probably because of my past relationships and the horrible people I used to have around me.
shrugs
Oh well.
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So, apparently I'm (to an extent) attractive? I kinda don't feel like I'm attractive tho, probably because of my past relationships and the horrible people I used to have around me.
shrugs
Oh well.
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SirChampion
Have you ever wondered why you are single? Well, lucky for you! Here is 1 sign why you are single.
1. It's not your time. When it is your time, you'll know that she's the one for you. Thank you.
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Have you ever wondered why you are single? Well, lucky for you! Here is 1 sign why you are single.
1. It's not your time. When it is your time, you'll know that she's the one for you. Thank you.
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education
I m not attractive but I m cute
my friend says I m cute like a TikTok baby
my bestie who is like my sister even says I m cute
everyone in class thinks i am some category of cute
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I m not attractive but I m cute
my friend says I m cute like a TikTok baby
my bestie who is like my sister even says I m cute
everyone in class thinks i am some category of cute
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