8 Signs Its A Trauma Bond, Not Love
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Date: 2024-01-07
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ryanricks318
Is society standards sucha bonds sucha loopy business conditionings encouragement to b properly recognized become as they are taking traits subconscious alls itty seems is toxic environmental atmospheric fighting n losing itty so exhaustive assertion dominance illusion controlling factors too broad ugh survival mechanisms instincts impulses experiences ingrained to muscle memories autonomic reflexive refraction reflections hollow empty echoes oceans whitenoises emeance ugh gotta continues existence as traumatic force join de crowd enter flowstate gits caught in popular distraction ugh so seems jus a resource to loots affection tension from consumer influencer dynamics common practices alls days every days season unending idfk idwfk tihi tysm sensation system needy to turn off o tone oot been too receptive too open nows am too much damaged guds bork blursed blind blackbox baka breakdoon boot bouts reboot err itty doesn't compute become indifference apathetic lessening pains deliver n ootputs uncanny valley slighted tiny things taken furs granted measures oot o wack doesn't synchronization too stubbornly zelfish entropic factors dat change inevitably happenings whrrrs meh sways gud spimes err n alls thnx creatures o ood habits o so familiar patterns ded set wots mine proper course recourse wot starshine cuteness enjoys o ours pitys err we ago b yond tosser cares bouts to the void idfk whoms else to telly troubling details err o wot gud to b ootdones whom am meh to disagree jus letty itty goes curious trails maybes afters gud rest smells ya laters takes cares ya noisey noid o nuffins nya sojourneys
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Is society standards sucha bonds sucha loopy business conditionings encouragement to b properly recognized become as they are taking traits subconscious alls itty seems is toxic environmental atmospheric fighting n losing itty so exhaustive assertion dominance illusion controlling factors too broad ugh survival mechanisms instincts impulses experiences ingrained to muscle memories autonomic reflexive refraction reflections hollow empty echoes oceans whitenoises emeance ugh gotta continues existence as traumatic force join de crowd enter flowstate gits caught in popular distraction ugh so seems jus a resource to loots affection tension from consumer influencer dynamics common practices alls days every days season unending idfk idwfk tihi tysm sensation system needy to turn off o tone oot been too receptive too open nows am too much damaged guds bork blursed blind blackbox baka breakdoon boot bouts reboot err itty doesn't compute become indifference apathetic lessening pains deliver n ootputs uncanny valley slighted tiny things taken furs granted measures oot o wack doesn't synchronization too stubbornly zelfish entropic factors dat change inevitably happenings whrrrs meh sways gud spimes err n alls thnx creatures o ood habits o so familiar patterns ded set wots mine proper course recourse wot starshine cuteness enjoys o ours pitys err we ago b yond tosser cares bouts to the void idfk whoms else to telly troubling details err o wot gud to b ootdones whom am meh to disagree jus letty itty goes curious trails maybes afters gud rest smells ya laters takes cares ya noisey noid o nuffins nya sojourneys
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BakonIsCool_3
3. My dad always takes his problems out on me I have adhd so at first I didn t really understand so I thought I did something wrong. My dad would yell at me for somebody else s wrongs, and sometimes even yell at me for being too skinny or too light weighted even tho I eat so much I should be a bit more chubby I am only 96. 6 pounds and my waist is about 8 inches, I also get in trouble because of my art I haven t been drawing for long but he always points out what I do wrong and sometimes it gets to the point where I don t draw for a while, then he will ask me why I haven t been drawing. Sometimes even I get yelled out to the point where I just zone out and he ask me if I heard anything of that and I say no sorry I zoned out and he ll just yell. One time my cousin told me chuckies coming for you to me and so I thought oh why not just say it at school! And so I did- I was suspended for a week and had to talk to a police, they also said that if I say it again I ll go to child jail. and one thing also. I WAS ONLY 6 YEARS OLD. So I had NO clue what I did wrong.
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3. My dad always takes his problems out on me I have adhd so at first I didn t really understand so I thought I did something wrong. My dad would yell at me for somebody else s wrongs, and sometimes even yell at me for being too skinny or too light weighted even tho I eat so much I should be a bit more chubby I am only 96. 6 pounds and my waist is about 8 inches, I also get in trouble because of my art I haven t been drawing for long but he always points out what I do wrong and sometimes it gets to the point where I don t draw for a while, then he will ask me why I haven t been drawing. Sometimes even I get yelled out to the point where I just zone out and he ask me if I heard anything of that and I say no sorry I zoned out and he ll just yell. One time my cousin told me chuckies coming for you to me and so I thought oh why not just say it at school! And so I did- I was suspended for a week and had to talk to a police, they also said that if I say it again I ll go to child jail. and one thing also. I WAS ONLY 6 YEARS OLD. So I had NO clue what I did wrong.
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ingrid5944
I'm in the breakup phase right now. I'm alone in my room on a Saturday night, watching this! Videos like this makes me remind why I took the right decision to stay away. Actually, if he haven't said i don't want this anymore I think I would still keep trying with him, and when I realize this, I understand that I have a lot to heal from childhood trauma. I didn't learn how to be loved for who I am, but to be loved only when I did something to my mom or dad, then, I learned how to be a servant, basically. I want to experience REAL LOVE! I want to love someone for who they are and I want them to love me back, for who I am, because they enjoy my company, my personality, my sense of humor, my ideas! I want to feel really loved and appreciated and understood! That relationship I had was bad as hell, but I think I learned really important things. It's better to be alone right now but at peace, knowing that I'm not being mistreated, lied to. I want someone honest, kind hearted, mature, a real gentleman! Thank you psych2go for helping me on my healing journey!
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I'm in the breakup phase right now. I'm alone in my room on a Saturday night, watching this! Videos like this makes me remind why I took the right decision to stay away. Actually, if he haven't said i don't want this anymore I think I would still keep trying with him, and when I realize this, I understand that I have a lot to heal from childhood trauma. I didn't learn how to be loved for who I am, but to be loved only when I did something to my mom or dad, then, I learned how to be a servant, basically. I want to experience REAL LOVE! I want to love someone for who they are and I want them to love me back, for who I am, because they enjoy my company, my personality, my sense of humor, my ideas! I want to feel really loved and appreciated and understood! That relationship I had was bad as hell, but I think I learned really important things. It's better to be alone right now but at peace, knowing that I'm not being mistreated, lied to. I want someone honest, kind hearted, mature, a real gentleman! Thank you psych2go for helping me on my healing journey!
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dreamyalora
I was in a relationship like this, and honestly, I am so glad that it's over now. I feel so relieved, and although I was scared of losing them, I'm very glad I lost them. Because I always made excuses and denied having an abusive relationship when talking to my friends, I also lost one of my most loved friends. However, I am so happy that it's over and that now, I am finally learning how a non-abusive relationship is like with a person who really cares about me and my feelings.
I don't regret leaving that emotionally abusive person at all, because now I can focus on the good sites of a relationship. The actual loving and comforting part of a relationship feels so much better.
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I was in a relationship like this, and honestly, I am so glad that it's over now. I feel so relieved, and although I was scared of losing them, I'm very glad I lost them. Because I always made excuses and denied having an abusive relationship when talking to my friends, I also lost one of my most loved friends. However, I am so happy that it's over and that now, I am finally learning how a non-abusive relationship is like with a person who really cares about me and my feelings.
I don't regret leaving that emotionally abusive person at all, because now I can focus on the good sites of a relationship. The actual loving and comforting part of a relationship feels so much better.
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kenzieplays890
Yeah i think I've just got out of a trauma bond with a friend, he was never physically abusive but he would be blaming his actions on his ADHD, i have it as well and know not to act that way, i would be emotionally drained after going out for events, and would tell my parents about what happen and my dad saying to end it and my mom saying to be friends just don't go to places with him. but the breaking point was getting mad at a bad roll in a dnd game at get pissing with me until i said enough and ended it, now im getting feeling of sadness, and I want to talk to him but then realized what he did, it hurts yes but if people are toxic too you and bring you down it's not okay
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Yeah i think I've just got out of a trauma bond with a friend, he was never physically abusive but he would be blaming his actions on his ADHD, i have it as well and know not to act that way, i would be emotionally drained after going out for events, and would tell my parents about what happen and my dad saying to end it and my mom saying to be friends just don't go to places with him. but the breaking point was getting mad at a bad roll in a dnd game at get pissing with me until i said enough and ended it, now im getting feeling of sadness, and I want to talk to him but then realized what he did, it hurts yes but if people are toxic too you and bring you down it's not okay
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justultrra3568
I messed up, here is the correct list with corresponding time stamps.
0: 57 - the other person is outwardly charming
1: 31 - they are emotionally unpredictable
2: 07 - they tend to take their problems out on you
2: 31 - they isolate you from your loved ones
3: 03 - you deny or minimize their abusive behavior
3: 42 - you constantly make excuses for them
4: 13 - you're becoming more and more emotionally numb
4: 50 - you're hiding aspects of your relationship from others
These videos do help at times and I have always seen time stamps to aid out, so it's my turn to provide them!
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I messed up, here is the correct list with corresponding time stamps.
0: 57 - the other person is outwardly charming
1: 31 - they are emotionally unpredictable
2: 07 - they tend to take their problems out on you
2: 31 - they isolate you from your loved ones
3: 03 - you deny or minimize their abusive behavior
3: 42 - you constantly make excuses for them
4: 13 - you're becoming more and more emotionally numb
4: 50 - you're hiding aspects of your relationship from others
These videos do help at times and I have always seen time stamps to aid out, so it's my turn to provide them!
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sarahjanechien4044
I have an amazing partner. I am 21 now and moved out when I was 18. Watching this made me realize this sounds like my parents. Outwardly Charming, emotionally unpredictable, tend to take their problems out on you, isolate you from loved ones (friends, the outside world, denying and minimizing the behaviour is something I always did and I still do, I became emotionally numb as a teen, told myself I deserve this, they are not bad, I hid these aspects of my parents. Trauma bonding can happen with any kind of relationship, even with a boss and employee.
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I have an amazing partner. I am 21 now and moved out when I was 18. Watching this made me realize this sounds like my parents. Outwardly Charming, emotionally unpredictable, tend to take their problems out on you, isolate you from loved ones (friends, the outside world, denying and minimizing the behaviour is something I always did and I still do, I became emotionally numb as a teen, told myself I deserve this, they are not bad, I hid these aspects of my parents. Trauma bonding can happen with any kind of relationship, even with a boss and employee.
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A55a551n
Timestamps
1. The other person is outwardly charming 0: 56
2. They are emotionally unpredictable 1: 30
3. They tend to take their problems out on you 2: 06
4. They isolate you from your loved ones 2: 29
5. You deny or minimize their abusive behaviour 3: 01
6. You constantly make excuses for them 3: 41
7. You're becoming more and more emotionally numb 4: 13
8. You're hiding of your relationship from others 4: 50
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. The other person is outwardly charming 0: 56
2. They are emotionally unpredictable 1: 30
3. They tend to take their problems out on you 2: 06
4. They isolate you from your loved ones 2: 29
5. You deny or minimize their abusive behaviour 3: 01
6. You constantly make excuses for them 3: 41
7. You're becoming more and more emotionally numb 4: 13
8. You're hiding of your relationship from others 4: 50
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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skvarty_music
TIMESTAMPS:
0: 57 1. The other person is outwardly charming;
1: 31 2. They are emotionally unpredictable;
2: 07 3. They tend to take their problems out on you;
2: 30 4. They isolate you from your loved ones;
3: 05 5. You deny or minimize their abusive behaviour;
3: 43 6. You constantly make excuses for them;
4: 14 7. You're becoming more and more emotionally numb;
4: 51 8. You're hiding aspects of your relationship from others.
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TIMESTAMPS:
0: 57 1. The other person is outwardly charming;
1: 31 2. They are emotionally unpredictable;
2: 07 3. They tend to take their problems out on you;
2: 30 4. They isolate you from your loved ones;
3: 05 5. You deny or minimize their abusive behaviour;
3: 43 6. You constantly make excuses for them;
4: 14 7. You're becoming more and more emotionally numb;
4: 51 8. You're hiding aspects of your relationship from others.
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Devilish_.
I feel as though my 'bond' with my mother is a trauma bond, she has done wrong by me several times, verbally and mentally abusing me and so on although I feel like I can't leave her. I know I should due to how bad it gets but I when the time comes I choose to stay because I feel like she's doing it for a reason, y'know? like i promise myself that she'll stop but she never does
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I feel as though my 'bond' with my mother is a trauma bond, she has done wrong by me several times, verbally and mentally abusing me and so on although I feel like I can't leave her. I know I should due to how bad it gets but I when the time comes I choose to stay because I feel like she's doing it for a reason, y'know? like i promise myself that she'll stop but she never does
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snowwriting
I'm just so happy to see the views number going up while watching the video because it feels like some people are out there in the world, right this moment, watching this same video and probably feeling similar feelings. It doesn't sound so impressive, true, but it's miraculous if you give attention to the little things. Remember that you are not alone.
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I'm just so happy to see the views number going up while watching the video because it feels like some people are out there in the world, right this moment, watching this same video and probably feeling similar feelings. It doesn't sound so impressive, true, but it's miraculous if you give attention to the little things. Remember that you are not alone.
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Leispada
I've come to realize I was the toxic push-pull one in my previous relationship. I broke up because of it. I did not consciously treat her bad, but despite intentions, the insidious effect remains.
I find this knowledge devastating, and will strive to never let this happen again
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I've come to realize I was the toxic push-pull one in my previous relationship. I broke up because of it. I did not consciously treat her bad, but despite intentions, the insidious effect remains.
I find this knowledge devastating, and will strive to never let this happen again
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jazzywazzy1998
I went through all this in the past. I left him in 2021, was with him for 6 years. It's hard at first but it gets better and you have to rediscover who you are after an abusive relationship like that. I'm still depressed, but things have improved in my life drastically.
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I went through all this in the past. I left him in 2021, was with him for 6 years. It's hard at first but it gets better and you have to rediscover who you are after an abusive relationship like that. I'm still depressed, but things have improved in my life drastically.
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psych2go
There s a role that religion plays in it too certain Christian cults (Calvinists) teach that you are worthless and you do deserve the absolute worst, so you ll find yourself in an abusive situation and Calvinist Christians will tell you that that s God s purpose for you.
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There s a role that religion plays in it too certain Christian cults (Calvinists) teach that you are worthless and you do deserve the absolute worst, so you ll find yourself in an abusive situation and Calvinist Christians will tell you that that s God s purpose for you.
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janiealexander9450
One of the things that made it very hard for me to get out of an abusive relationship was how he charmed everyone with his lies (even the police. No one believed me. Finally, I found the help I needed at a Women's Center in Phoenix AZ
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One of the things that made it very hard for me to get out of an abusive relationship was how he charmed everyone with his lies (even the police. No one believed me. Finally, I found the help I needed at a Women's Center in Phoenix AZ
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courtoons
Thanks for sharing this! I m currently dealing with getting past a previous relationship, but I was unable to leave due to this issue. This was very educational, and it s helped me understand why it was so hard to leave
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Thanks for sharing this! I m currently dealing with getting past a previous relationship, but I was unable to leave due to this issue. This was very educational, and it s helped me understand why it was so hard to leave
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flamegamer3424
I needed to see this. I heard people who are or were having who were or are having these kind of relationships. The effect of this kind of pain would only get worse. So I don t want that to happen to me ever.
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I needed to see this. I heard people who are or were having who were or are having these kind of relationships. The effect of this kind of pain would only get worse. So I don t want that to happen to me ever.
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Aja_Bug
I stayed like this for 3 years, she was suicidal and I felt like it was my responsibility but please if anyone related to this video, leave! Prioritize your mental health! You matter! And it s not just you!
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I stayed like this for 3 years, she was suicidal and I felt like it was my responsibility but please if anyone related to this video, leave! Prioritize your mental health! You matter! And it s not just you!
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Poopyguy12
with number 7 is too relatable i ve started to notice it and i m not sure what to do, parents not trying to stop them cant even get my parents to get me help they think it s fine and i don t need it
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with number 7 is too relatable i ve started to notice it and i m not sure what to do, parents not trying to stop them cant even get my parents to get me help they think it s fine and i don t need it
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LunaEclipsed
Now I feel like I just don't get any physical touch from my partner barely any kisses. I know it's cause of her past and she is shy and uncomfortable about those things but for me. It's a need.
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Now I feel like I just don't get any physical touch from my partner barely any kisses. I know it's cause of her past and she is shy and uncomfortable about those things but for me. It's a need.
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