How to Help Someone with Depression
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Ann
i'm talking to this guy for few months & we both fell in love,
we're not in a relationship because he told me he wants to court me first in respect for my culture and standards so i agreed
he have a depression and eating disorder, his situation got worse when he founds out he can't eat gluten, loss his job, and he really find it hard to get a new one
he's also stressed out when his sister got a miscarriage and tried to kill herself
he told me he feels useless and his depression got worse and worse everyday
he even started to pushed me away, hide from me, ignores me, and act rude just to make me go away
i just don't know what to do, i want to stay beside him & i know i can't help him but i want to show him my support and love, i want to show him i'm willing to be patient and understanding
that's why I'm doing everything i can to understand him more & now i'm here
any more advices?
also, another question
just recently, he forgot my birthday. i was very upset, i even thought about leaving him but i didn't
i don't know what to do, i found out through some people that if someone forgets your birthday, they don't care about you but some people say it's not really a big deal
any advice? should i be mad or leave?
i'm genuinely asking
i really love him
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i'm talking to this guy for few months & we both fell in love,
we're not in a relationship because he told me he wants to court me first in respect for my culture and standards so i agreed
he have a depression and eating disorder, his situation got worse when he founds out he can't eat gluten, loss his job, and he really find it hard to get a new one
he's also stressed out when his sister got a miscarriage and tried to kill herself
he told me he feels useless and his depression got worse and worse everyday
he even started to pushed me away, hide from me, ignores me, and act rude just to make me go away
i just don't know what to do, i want to stay beside him & i know i can't help him but i want to show him my support and love, i want to show him i'm willing to be patient and understanding
that's why I'm doing everything i can to understand him more & now i'm here
any more advices?
also, another question
just recently, he forgot my birthday. i was very upset, i even thought about leaving him but i didn't
i don't know what to do, i found out through some people that if someone forgets your birthday, they don't care about you but some people say it's not really a big deal
any advice? should i be mad or leave?
i'm genuinely asking
i really love him
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Tito
My ex broke up with me because she was very overwhelmed and depressed, with suicidal thoughts but with no plan. She told me to give her time and that well talk after the semester ends (May 25th) Its been 3 weeks since we split and Ive reached out to her twice and all Ive said was things like: Im here for you, you can do this, I believe in you, Im here if you need me, have a good day, youre not alone. We only exchanged a couple texts the first time I reached out but then did not reply after my good morning have a good day text. The second time I reached out was a couple days ago and all I said was that Im here for her, and that shes not alone, that she can reach out when she needs me, thats it. but no reply. Im not sure what to do. Idk if I should reach out again in a couple weeks just to let her know that Im still here for her. The day we broke up, she made me promise to text her whenever my mom gave birth to my little sister and she promised that we would talk about our relationship after the semester ends. Should I keep my promise or should I just give her space? Im overwhelmed, I hope shes doing okay. In the past, she tends to struggle a lot during the end of the semester so idk what to do. anyone have any tips/advice/feedback on what I did or should of done? Thank you so much.
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My ex broke up with me because she was very overwhelmed and depressed, with suicidal thoughts but with no plan. She told me to give her time and that well talk after the semester ends (May 25th) Its been 3 weeks since we split and Ive reached out to her twice and all Ive said was things like: Im here for you, you can do this, I believe in you, Im here if you need me, have a good day, youre not alone. We only exchanged a couple texts the first time I reached out but then did not reply after my good morning have a good day text. The second time I reached out was a couple days ago and all I said was that Im here for her, and that shes not alone, that she can reach out when she needs me, thats it. but no reply. Im not sure what to do. Idk if I should reach out again in a couple weeks just to let her know that Im still here for her. The day we broke up, she made me promise to text her whenever my mom gave birth to my little sister and she promised that we would talk about our relationship after the semester ends. Should I keep my promise or should I just give her space? Im overwhelmed, I hope shes doing okay. In the past, she tends to struggle a lot during the end of the semester so idk what to do. anyone have any tips/advice/feedback on what I did or should of done? Thank you so much.
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Ochtaphy
Im 100% sure my grandma is the reason why my brother has extreme anger issues and depression. Im also a sister so sometimes i still bicker with him like siblings do. My grandma has always hated my lil bro for God knows why, and everytime she does that (coz she always makes it obvious) i feel super bad and mad, she loves me so much but i can't bring myself to love her coz she is that kind of a person who is awfully mean to those she dislikes for no reason. My lil bro b hurting more especially coz my grandma often stays with her son (my dad) than her other kids. Everytime she did my bro dirty id quietly giv my bro consolation and tiny gifts like food or stuff. But i keep feeling like that just wont do, i feel like my lil bro seeks validation from my Grandma since she continuously talking bad about him and accusing him a lot. I feel like only consoling him after wont b enough to compensate the damage. Felt like the only way is for my grandma to leave, i dont want her dead or smth, just if she couldnt change i just wish she'd live with her other kid or smth. she also hates my mom and stuff. Can i have any other advice on how to help my brother in this case? My grandma is stuck with us here coz of the pandemic, or else she woudve been gone to Australia months ago.
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Im 100% sure my grandma is the reason why my brother has extreme anger issues and depression. Im also a sister so sometimes i still bicker with him like siblings do. My grandma has always hated my lil bro for God knows why, and everytime she does that (coz she always makes it obvious) i feel super bad and mad, she loves me so much but i can't bring myself to love her coz she is that kind of a person who is awfully mean to those she dislikes for no reason. My lil bro b hurting more especially coz my grandma often stays with her son (my dad) than her other kids. Everytime she did my bro dirty id quietly giv my bro consolation and tiny gifts like food or stuff. But i keep feeling like that just wont do, i feel like my lil bro seeks validation from my Grandma since she continuously talking bad about him and accusing him a lot. I feel like only consoling him after wont b enough to compensate the damage. Felt like the only way is for my grandma to leave, i dont want her dead or smth, just if she couldnt change i just wish she'd live with her other kid or smth. she also hates my mom and stuff. Can i have any other advice on how to help my brother in this case? My grandma is stuck with us here coz of the pandemic, or else she woudve been gone to Australia months ago.
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Joshua
Reason why I been watching these vids is because majority of my friends have always been going through rough times such as bullying and isolation too often which they are almost at a breaking point to give up everything. I try to be there for them and listen to their situations so they wont feel so alone, but its often hard for me to relate to them cause I never got bullied or dealt with anything they had to go through that have made them feel this way, and ofc I never want to use phrases such as Ik how you feel, cause its too vague and I honestly cant understand why theyre like this. Most of the time I keep them company or just leave them alone if they just want to be by themselves for a while, but at times I just feel less as a friend and more of a stranger.
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Reason why I been watching these vids is because majority of my friends have always been going through rough times such as bullying and isolation too often which they are almost at a breaking point to give up everything. I try to be there for them and listen to their situations so they wont feel so alone, but its often hard for me to relate to them cause I never got bullied or dealt with anything they had to go through that have made them feel this way, and ofc I never want to use phrases such as Ik how you feel, cause its too vague and I honestly cant understand why theyre like this. Most of the time I keep them company or just leave them alone if they just want to be by themselves for a while, but at times I just feel less as a friend and more of a stranger.
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Mrlne
Yesterday I had a fight with my mom. It was also the first time I opened up about how I feel etc. I said what my depression feels like for me and how frustrating it can be. That I dont know why I talk sometimes about my day and other days I want to hide. That I dont know why nothing bothers me. That sometimes I dont feel the love for my mom. That every second of the day feels like pain. That it feels like drowning and I want to stop fighting. I FREAKING DONT KNOW WHY I HAVE THIS, WHAT I AM DOING AND HOW I FEEL.
She stood there and said: I understand. After that she continued with telling me how mad she is about the fact that my brother didnt do the laundry and how hard it is for HER because she works 5 days a week.
Nothing hurts more than this.
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Yesterday I had a fight with my mom. It was also the first time I opened up about how I feel etc. I said what my depression feels like for me and how frustrating it can be. That I dont know why I talk sometimes about my day and other days I want to hide. That I dont know why nothing bothers me. That sometimes I dont feel the love for my mom. That every second of the day feels like pain. That it feels like drowning and I want to stop fighting. I FREAKING DONT KNOW WHY I HAVE THIS, WHAT I AM DOING AND HOW I FEEL.
She stood there and said: I understand. After that she continued with telling me how mad she is about the fact that my brother didnt do the laundry and how hard it is for HER because she works 5 days a week.
Nothing hurts more than this.
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Deku
theres something wrong with me. i love helping people, and i could probably write some paragraphs to help someone but when its someone i know, i suddenly cant do it anymore. because its someone i know it should be the opposite way, right? like im able to write paragraphs to people i know but i cant. i start to get embarrassed ) and cant send anything to help them. no matter how bad i want to help. its also even more bad cuz i dont even know how to help myself. when im feeling down i just slap, hit, scratch, and do other things to myself. i dont want my loved ones to do that. i cant hug them, i cant call them on the phone, and i cant even text them a simple i love you. i just want to help them. im being selfish. all just because of me being embarrassed.
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theres something wrong with me. i love helping people, and i could probably write some paragraphs to help someone but when its someone i know, i suddenly cant do it anymore. because its someone i know it should be the opposite way, right? like im able to write paragraphs to people i know but i cant. i start to get embarrassed ) and cant send anything to help them. no matter how bad i want to help. its also even more bad cuz i dont even know how to help myself. when im feeling down i just slap, hit, scratch, and do other things to myself. i dont want my loved ones to do that. i cant hug them, i cant call them on the phone, and i cant even text them a simple i love you. i just want to help them. im being selfish. all just because of me being embarrassed.
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Kevin
Humans r not as evolved as we would like to think, people only care about what's in front of them and sometimes not even then, there busy busy busy, work work, Saturday is kid day, Sunday is worshipping the invisible man in the clouds, humans r not so great, as a kid I was fooled like so many that I matter & life was ok, then I hit 15 and had no friends, family besides my parents is a cruel joke, always having to work so much for little in return, my dad is gone and my mother has dementia and life in general isn't so great.
Had depression since 1996 enough is enough!
People who I loved, helped and listened to r no were to be found!
My good moments r gone and there not coming back!
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Humans r not as evolved as we would like to think, people only care about what's in front of them and sometimes not even then, there busy busy busy, work work, Saturday is kid day, Sunday is worshipping the invisible man in the clouds, humans r not so great, as a kid I was fooled like so many that I matter & life was ok, then I hit 15 and had no friends, family besides my parents is a cruel joke, always having to work so much for little in return, my dad is gone and my mother has dementia and life in general isn't so great.
Had depression since 1996 enough is enough!
People who I loved, helped and listened to r no were to be found!
My good moments r gone and there not coming back!
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Alla
The important thing when helping them (as described in the video) is NOT to make them feel like a charity case or even more worthless. Many people trying to help feel burdened by the depressed person and take out their frustration on them while doing their chores for them. Some even ridicule or bully them, throw it in their face that they have become useless. Please, if you don't feel like you have it in your heart to be sincerely nice - don't help with any chores or other physical or financial things at all. The damage your attitude and your words will cause will be many times greater than any assistance you think you are providing.
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The important thing when helping them (as described in the video) is NOT to make them feel like a charity case or even more worthless. Many people trying to help feel burdened by the depressed person and take out their frustration on them while doing their chores for them. Some even ridicule or bully them, throw it in their face that they have become useless. Please, if you don't feel like you have it in your heart to be sincerely nice - don't help with any chores or other physical or financial things at all. The damage your attitude and your words will cause will be many times greater than any assistance you think you are providing.
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Mafruha
How am I supposed to help someone online with depression? .
I have a friend, he went thru a lot last year n still life's not getting well for him(n worse is that he's a minor ), he's closing himself up from his irl friends. no family he can rely on a little, now he's suffering from depression.
I'm there for him (online. which sucks being just online, as I can't Rly do anything except just talk. n I can't even make sure if he's safe, around good ppl or not ) so. idk what to do, I Rly need/want to help him.
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How am I supposed to help someone online with depression? .
I have a friend, he went thru a lot last year n still life's not getting well for him(n worse is that he's a minor ), he's closing himself up from his irl friends. no family he can rely on a little, now he's suffering from depression.
I'm there for him (online. which sucks being just online, as I can't Rly do anything except just talk. n I can't even make sure if he's safe, around good ppl or not ) so. idk what to do, I Rly need/want to help him.
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ThatPunkGurl
When I'm depressed over a longer time I ask myself 'What do I need to get better? ' and the answer often is 'I'd help me if somebody would be here and can move me just a little everytime I slip or just help me organize myself'. So the Doing the dishes part resonated witth me.
But also I feel this is something I CAN NOT ask anyone. For this is to much. Who would do that? Also I would look like a cripple. So I would be a burdon and nobody would ever do this again.
So I won't ask.
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When I'm depressed over a longer time I ask myself 'What do I need to get better? ' and the answer often is 'I'd help me if somebody would be here and can move me just a little everytime I slip or just help me organize myself'. So the Doing the dishes part resonated witth me.
But also I feel this is something I CAN NOT ask anyone. For this is to much. Who would do that? Also I would look like a cripple. So I would be a burdon and nobody would ever do this again.
So I won't ask.
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: o
im trying my best to help my friend. but its getting really hard. ive been reaching out to her, but she acts like a brick wall every time. i try my best to stay with her for as many hours as i can, but its so difficult. i feel so anxious knowing shes depressed and going through something, and i cant help her. ive had a lot of sleepless nights where id throw up numerous times because of it. im so afraid to lose her, i feel like i dont have any impact anymore. i dont want to lose my friend
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im trying my best to help my friend. but its getting really hard. ive been reaching out to her, but she acts like a brick wall every time. i try my best to stay with her for as many hours as i can, but its so difficult. i feel so anxious knowing shes depressed and going through something, and i cant help her. ive had a lot of sleepless nights where id throw up numerous times because of it. im so afraid to lose her, i feel like i dont have any impact anymore. i dont want to lose my friend
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Cloud
Venting, if you dont want to read it then dont. to the people who are searching for this, thank you. I have a friend who lost someone and has no motive to live, I met them over tiktok. Im not supposed to have tiktok, but I met them. They mean the world to me. I dont know what I would do without them. They live far away from me but I want them to know that I care. And if the friend that this was meant for reads this, then hello. Please know I love you. You matter to me. You arent alone.
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Venting, if you dont want to read it then dont. to the people who are searching for this, thank you. I have a friend who lost someone and has no motive to live, I met them over tiktok. Im not supposed to have tiktok, but I met them. They mean the world to me. I dont know what I would do without them. They live far away from me but I want them to know that I care. And if the friend that this was meant for reads this, then hello. Please know I love you. You matter to me. You arent alone.
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Ons
Depressed people push you away then blaming you why you leave? . they make you feel always sad guilty and start blaming yourself for nothin. they tell you that you are the cause of their depressed, but the reality is that the only one who stand by their side. They insultin you and want you to stay kind and cool. they don't even know that you are a humain just like them. if you have someone close who's depressed please take care of yourself too. they can make you depressed
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Depressed people push you away then blaming you why you leave? . they make you feel always sad guilty and start blaming yourself for nothin. they tell you that you are the cause of their depressed, but the reality is that the only one who stand by their side. They insultin you and want you to stay kind and cool. they don't even know that you are a humain just like them. if you have someone close who's depressed please take care of yourself too. they can make you depressed
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Jittery
One of my new friends was just diagnosed with depression. Our friend group isn't really supportive of her, because she's kinda the brat of the group. She can be mean and lies to our faces all of the time. But she clearly feels so alone. I'm trying really hard to balance being a good friend, but also not letting her drag me down into her mean spirited view. I have asked people for help but no one has the right answer. What am I supposed to do?
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One of my new friends was just diagnosed with depression. Our friend group isn't really supportive of her, because she's kinda the brat of the group. She can be mean and lies to our faces all of the time. But she clearly feels so alone. I'm trying really hard to balance being a good friend, but also not letting her drag me down into her mean spirited view. I have asked people for help but no one has the right answer. What am I supposed to do?
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Carly
As someone who is Bipolar 2 and experiences severe bouts of depression I agree with all these tips. But, also listen to what your loved one wants. Sometimes you just need to be left alone and cry or sleep it off for a bit. So, if you try to help and are rejected come back in a few hours. If they are someone who self-harms or is suicidal though make sure there is nothing they can hurt themselves with during that alone time.
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As someone who is Bipolar 2 and experiences severe bouts of depression I agree with all these tips. But, also listen to what your loved one wants. Sometimes you just need to be left alone and cry or sleep it off for a bit. So, if you try to help and are rejected come back in a few hours. If they are someone who self-harms or is suicidal though make sure there is nothing they can hurt themselves with during that alone time.
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Psych2Go
May is almost over. In light of Mental Health month, we have another video that speaks on how to help someone with depression. These simple tips may go a long way. Also, this video was long overdue as many of you have watched our videos on how to tell if someone has suicidal thinking and wanted to know ways they can be there for there. Can someone help translate this?
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May is almost over. In light of Mental Health month, we have another video that speaks on how to help someone with depression. These simple tips may go a long way. Also, this video was long overdue as many of you have watched our videos on how to tell if someone has suicidal thinking and wanted to know ways they can be there for there. Can someone help translate this?
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evrlts
Due to pandemic, I can't meet my friend that have depression and I really want to help them, even though it's through internet but I don't know what to talk about without saying something that can bring them to the state where the sickness started, I want to talk to them with caution but I don't know what topic or how to start without making them uncomfortable.
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Due to pandemic, I can't meet my friend that have depression and I really want to help them, even though it's through internet but I don't know what to talk about without saying something that can bring them to the state where the sickness started, I want to talk to them with caution but I don't know what topic or how to start without making them uncomfortable.
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Chris
Hey guys!
well i dont know who im talking to
but i do hope u get through whatever ur goin through
and if ur loved one is goin through depression i hope it clears out for them too
and if u searched this up to clear a problem for ur loved one ur a very great person and ur friend has a really good person as a friend(you)
Happy life and good luck!
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Hey guys!
well i dont know who im talking to
but i do hope u get through whatever ur goin through
and if ur loved one is goin through depression i hope it clears out for them too
and if u searched this up to clear a problem for ur loved one ur a very great person and ur friend has a really good person as a friend(you)
Happy life and good luck!
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Mohammad
It's crazy to me. I have friends who wanna know about my condition and wanna listen to me and I wanna talk but at the same time I don't want them to know.
I wanna let things out but I know I should see a professional instead of telling a person who goes to my school. Maybe I worry that it will slip out or maybe I'm just being paranoid idek.
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It's crazy to me. I have friends who wanna know about my condition and wanna listen to me and I wanna talk but at the same time I don't want them to know.
I wanna let things out but I know I should see a professional instead of telling a person who goes to my school. Maybe I worry that it will slip out or maybe I'm just being paranoid idek.
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Luca
IMPORTANT: Dont guilt yourself into stickig to and helping someone with depression if it damages you own mental health. Cuz then you are just gonna pull each other down. You can try to help but realise when its not within your realm of possibilitys to help(that doesnt count for parents or close relatives tho- check up on your family will ya)
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IMPORTANT: Dont guilt yourself into stickig to and helping someone with depression if it damages you own mental health. Cuz then you are just gonna pull each other down. You can try to help but realise when its not within your realm of possibilitys to help(that doesnt count for parents or close relatives tho- check up on your family will ya)
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Brynn
I'm in a Long distance relationship and my partner and I both have our own struggles with depression. I wish I could go help them by doing some of these things, but I'm not there unfortunately. If I try to compliment my partner, they take it as flattery or that its biased because their my first (and hopefully last) partner. Any advice?
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I'm in a Long distance relationship and my partner and I both have our own struggles with depression. I wish I could go help them by doing some of these things, but I'm not there unfortunately. If I try to compliment my partner, they take it as flattery or that its biased because their my first (and hopefully last) partner. Any advice?
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Solar
because of pandemic i cant go to my friend's house.
My friend is ignoring my texts, calls and when i ask why; she once told that she feels very lazy to reply.
I know she is in depression and she doesnt opens up with me
How do u help her without meeting her? Pls someone help me, i dont want her to do something wrong
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because of pandemic i cant go to my friend's house.
My friend is ignoring my texts, calls and when i ask why; she once told that she feels very lazy to reply.
I know she is in depression and she doesnt opens up with me
How do u help her without meeting her? Pls someone help me, i dont want her to do something wrong
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Tawing
I like this girl and she has major depression, every week is a new thing sometimes we are so close, then next week she will ignore me for days and she always push me away, i still havent given up on her. Watching this videos and reading all the comments people are saying has given me ideas on how to take care of her.
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I like this girl and she has major depression, every week is a new thing sometimes we are so close, then next week she will ignore me for days and she always push me away, i still havent given up on her. Watching this videos and reading all the comments people are saying has given me ideas on how to take care of her.
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Ananyaa
So umm I think my guy best friend is in depression, he is behaving introvert and dull, but he is not at all like that, he is more of a very very funny guy but idk what just happened, I hope these things work and I'll make him feel better, I love him a lot and want him to get better asap
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So umm I think my guy best friend is in depression, he is behaving introvert and dull, but he is not at all like that, he is more of a very very funny guy but idk what just happened, I hope these things work and I'll make him feel better, I love him a lot and want him to get better asap
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2718aj
When you guys are depressed what would you want to hear or someone to do that helps?
My gf struggles with depression and at times its hard so I dont know how to help.
I usually just want someone to be there even if I say I want to be alone. I guess I just want to see they care.
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When you guys are depressed what would you want to hear or someone to do that helps?
My gf struggles with depression and at times its hard so I dont know how to help.
I usually just want someone to be there even if I say I want to be alone. I guess I just want to see they care.
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