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Date: 2024-10-08
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Chisszaru
As someone who ended up with a broken heart way too many times, i kinda want to be single, but only because i have some serious trust issues. I don't even trust my best friends and family, but only because i got stabbed in the back by everyone i've been in a relationship with, and because i got depression when i was a kid, because i told a bad joke to a former friend who clearly couldn't handle jokes. I've been quite messed up in the head since, and i don't even trust animals, that's how big my trust issues are, so yeah, i will probably never be in a relationship ever again, at least not in a healthy relationship that heals my wounds after getting stabbed in the back by everyone i ever cared about. Even my best friends and family stabbs me in the back every so often, which means every other week.
I pretty much get stabbed twice a week, every other week, so if i don't get stabbed in the back this week, i'll be stabbed in the back next week. I've gotten used to it, so i don't pay it much attention, as i'm in a serious survival mode where literally everything and everyone is a threat. Even things that aren't a threat is somehow a threat to me, so yeah, nothing csn fix me, mostly because i don't want help, and because i don't trust anyone to help me.
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As someone who ended up with a broken heart way too many times, i kinda want to be single, but only because i have some serious trust issues. I don't even trust my best friends and family, but only because i got stabbed in the back by everyone i've been in a relationship with, and because i got depression when i was a kid, because i told a bad joke to a former friend who clearly couldn't handle jokes. I've been quite messed up in the head since, and i don't even trust animals, that's how big my trust issues are, so yeah, i will probably never be in a relationship ever again, at least not in a healthy relationship that heals my wounds after getting stabbed in the back by everyone i ever cared about. Even my best friends and family stabbs me in the back every so often, which means every other week.
I pretty much get stabbed twice a week, every other week, so if i don't get stabbed in the back this week, i'll be stabbed in the back next week. I've gotten used to it, so i don't pay it much attention, as i'm in a serious survival mode where literally everything and everyone is a threat. Even things that aren't a threat is somehow a threat to me, so yeah, nothing csn fix me, mostly because i don't want help, and because i don't trust anyone to help me.
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mekman4
Growing up television put a mountain of pressure on finding a relationship.
Edit: it’s not okay to do things before you’re ready, it’s not okay to be something before you’re mature enough to be that thing.
It’s not okay to lock into a spouse to check a box. This is how we are taught to manage relationships. To commodify entire people to claim human completion. It’s madness. I was so sad and I’ve lost so much time focusing on relationships rather than my physical mental and spiritual health and the same world that said that this path was okay for me, also tried to crush me as I went through it, _since it saw how pathetic and miserable it had made me through its own bad advice. _ I am calmer now, but I can’t forget how repulsive and deleterious the pressure to be partnered was. I’ll never get that time back (no one will. I am back to where I was, and as a single person, maturing, becoming whole through healthier habits has made me acceptable to people who would have gladly seen me destroyed while simultaneously advising to me that I needed someone. I picked the single lane independently because it was the only sane choice.
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Growing up television put a mountain of pressure on finding a relationship.
Edit: it’s not okay to do things before you’re ready, it’s not okay to be something before you’re mature enough to be that thing.
It’s not okay to lock into a spouse to check a box. This is how we are taught to manage relationships. To commodify entire people to claim human completion. It’s madness. I was so sad and I’ve lost so much time focusing on relationships rather than my physical mental and spiritual health and the same world that said that this path was okay for me, also tried to crush me as I went through it, _since it saw how pathetic and miserable it had made me through its own bad advice. _ I am calmer now, but I can’t forget how repulsive and deleterious the pressure to be partnered was. I’ll never get that time back (no one will. I am back to where I was, and as a single person, maturing, becoming whole through healthier habits has made me acceptable to people who would have gladly seen me destroyed while simultaneously advising to me that I needed someone. I picked the single lane independently because it was the only sane choice.
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1ND1G066
Conversely, I actually didn't click the video for any of the reasons listed at the start, but rather simply because. I've never had any luck even properly asking a girl out so far, much less getting anything started/going relationship wise. Yeah I've never been into/have any sort of romantic relationship/intimancy experience experience whatsoever. at 25. I just don't know how to ask one out properly and be taken seriously for it! Not to mention the limerence that I've had for staying fixiated on my crushes that were never going to accept/didn't even consider accepting me in the first place anyway.
. People might possibly say better this way than to have had any girl only pretend to go along with it while just playing with your feelings all along and never actually wanting anything serious, but. honestly at this point I just don't know, and would rather have SOME semblance of experience whatsoever, even just once, because I feel like time is slipping by and I'm not living up to my fullest potential, despite the possibilities being there. I don't know how to combat all this.
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Conversely, I actually didn't click the video for any of the reasons listed at the start, but rather simply because. I've never had any luck even properly asking a girl out so far, much less getting anything started/going relationship wise. Yeah I've never been into/have any sort of romantic relationship/intimancy experience experience whatsoever. at 25. I just don't know how to ask one out properly and be taken seriously for it! Not to mention the limerence that I've had for staying fixiated on my crushes that were never going to accept/didn't even consider accepting me in the first place anyway.
. People might possibly say better this way than to have had any girl only pretend to go along with it while just playing with your feelings all along and never actually wanting anything serious, but. honestly at this point I just don't know, and would rather have SOME semblance of experience whatsoever, even just once, because I feel like time is slipping by and I'm not living up to my fullest potential, despite the possibilities being there. I don't know how to combat all this.
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psych2go
I don't know how my statement will be taken.
I (33, F) am someone who is not at all good looking and have overweight issues also. So never got any chance to date also. Therefore, I was always rejected by eligible men, when my parents started to search for an eligible grooms.
Men interested in me are always less educated than me (I am an engineer, divorced with kids, too old and broken and ugly looking.
In my country, dating or marrying a divorced man only when you are undesirable and not privileged enough to give dowry to get an eligible bachelor as spouse. So I do not wish to settle for some other woman's leftover. Period.
Do not know, whether I am desperate or not
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I wish to be loved by someone I desire (even for namesake) as I want to know the feeling of romance, being loved, admired, by a person I like and love. I know it is tough but still.
Otherwise, I am ready to embrace singlehood.
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I don't know how my statement will be taken.
I (33, F) am someone who is not at all good looking and have overweight issues also. So never got any chance to date also. Therefore, I was always rejected by eligible men, when my parents started to search for an eligible grooms.
Men interested in me are always less educated than me (I am an engineer, divorced with kids, too old and broken and ugly looking.
In my country, dating or marrying a divorced man only when you are undesirable and not privileged enough to give dowry to get an eligible bachelor as spouse. So I do not wish to settle for some other woman's leftover. Period.
Do not know, whether I am desperate or not
BUT
I wish to be loved by someone I desire (even for namesake) as I want to know the feeling of romance, being loved, admired, by a person I like and love. I know it is tough but still.
Otherwise, I am ready to embrace singlehood.
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waynetech10
For some of us, it's both a choice and an unfortunate consequence. Sounds odd, but really. I'm under 6ft, regular job, nerdy hobbies, lame, their friends would not be impressed. Women, for 20 years, have told me that they could do way better. As a result, I did what they asked. I left them alone. Improved a lot of aspects of my life, gained some weight, learned more, practiced how I spoke, looking them in the eye, all that. I'm not a prize, by any stretch, but I have been cursed out for saying I won't be dating anymore, and told I should give it another chance.
Here's the thing. I'm still a nerd. I'm still not what women are looking for. I will die alone, like they said. But in all the time I was out of the game, I learned to sustain myself, without their validation or support. I had to. Who'd want to be embarrassed and used again
So, basically, you get forced out, but you learn to live with it and stay out.
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For some of us, it's both a choice and an unfortunate consequence. Sounds odd, but really. I'm under 6ft, regular job, nerdy hobbies, lame, their friends would not be impressed. Women, for 20 years, have told me that they could do way better. As a result, I did what they asked. I left them alone. Improved a lot of aspects of my life, gained some weight, learned more, practiced how I spoke, looking them in the eye, all that. I'm not a prize, by any stretch, but I have been cursed out for saying I won't be dating anymore, and told I should give it another chance.
Here's the thing. I'm still a nerd. I'm still not what women are looking for. I will die alone, like they said. But in all the time I was out of the game, I learned to sustain myself, without their validation or support. I had to. Who'd want to be embarrassed and used again
So, basically, you get forced out, but you learn to live with it and stay out.
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emtz1
When I was a teen, I met someone who I became very attached with. I got so used to being dependent with them that I could never imagine a single day not being or talking with them. Its been more than 2 years since we last been together. Its been hard, especially how my whole teenage years are all spent with that person all by my side, but being single helped me realize both the positive and negative things of our relationship during that time. This allowed me to gain a deeper understanding of myself, which helped me grow and appreciate myself a bit more.
Of course from time to time, I miss having someone as my half, I miss the feeling of romantic love. But still, I'm grateful for my personal growth that made me more mature over the past years. I still have a lot to learn and do in life. Hopefully the next time I meet someone, I'll be more ready than ever.
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When I was a teen, I met someone who I became very attached with. I got so used to being dependent with them that I could never imagine a single day not being or talking with them. Its been more than 2 years since we last been together. Its been hard, especially how my whole teenage years are all spent with that person all by my side, but being single helped me realize both the positive and negative things of our relationship during that time. This allowed me to gain a deeper understanding of myself, which helped me grow and appreciate myself a bit more.
Of course from time to time, I miss having someone as my half, I miss the feeling of romantic love. But still, I'm grateful for my personal growth that made me more mature over the past years. I still have a lot to learn and do in life. Hopefully the next time I meet someone, I'll be more ready than ever.
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ACertainGuy0
Ive been single for 10 years now (im 32, and it was a good (and honestly painful but also needed) time to self-reflect on why I lost who I considered my soulmate. Part of it was me, part of it is her, but I dont blame her so much as I blame myself.
It took 8 years to finally get past wanting her back but im also not interested in dating, for myriad reasons, the current dating scene among them. Im just not at a point in my life where I feel like i wouldnt just be a burden to my partner due to finances, emotional state etc, and honestly: Thats okay.
Knowing youre not ready is a sign of growth and leads you to where you need to go to improve yourself and your life. Be single. Be proud of it. Also, if anyone says we need to get you an X, just decline and say youre happy where you are. Let your growth happen naturally.
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Ive been single for 10 years now (im 32, and it was a good (and honestly painful but also needed) time to self-reflect on why I lost who I considered my soulmate. Part of it was me, part of it is her, but I dont blame her so much as I blame myself.
It took 8 years to finally get past wanting her back but im also not interested in dating, for myriad reasons, the current dating scene among them. Im just not at a point in my life where I feel like i wouldnt just be a burden to my partner due to finances, emotional state etc, and honestly: Thats okay.
Knowing youre not ready is a sign of growth and leads you to where you need to go to improve yourself and your life. Be single. Be proud of it. Also, if anyone says we need to get you an X, just decline and say youre happy where you are. Let your growth happen naturally.
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Deadpan_Snarker
While I understand the nothing is wrong with being single mentality, I will never agree that being single is ok. You always need to have people in your life and living a lonely life, coming to a home where no one excepts you is gut wrenching. Humans are social creatures, and for generations we have survived on relying on each other - you may feel like you don't need no one right now when you have strength, youth and money, but when you get older, weaker and have no one, this is an extremely depressing way to live. I know at least a couple of single old people who have no children and no loved ones and looking at the way the live (survive, even) is painful.
There is a reason why love is considered one of the most beautiful and sought after feelings.
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While I understand the nothing is wrong with being single mentality, I will never agree that being single is ok. You always need to have people in your life and living a lonely life, coming to a home where no one excepts you is gut wrenching. Humans are social creatures, and for generations we have survived on relying on each other - you may feel like you don't need no one right now when you have strength, youth and money, but when you get older, weaker and have no one, this is an extremely depressing way to live. I know at least a couple of single old people who have no children and no loved ones and looking at the way the live (survive, even) is painful.
There is a reason why love is considered one of the most beautiful and sought after feelings.
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ASHEN_WITCH_RYMER
I never went out of my house for 10 months because of depression and I feel good I never see the rubbish people again and I ran away from home and lived with my aunt and I started school again I really hate people's like example insult disguised as a joke like a wolf in sheep's clothing or getting mobbed by family members or so called friends and that's why I always stay on my room so no one can hurt me anymore just me and my depression along with anxiety then panic attack always have panic attack when school or home I always overthinking plus anxious that's probably why I have panic attack when go out or staying home I really love solitude more than everything in this world solitude is all I know always love to die young.
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I never went out of my house for 10 months because of depression and I feel good I never see the rubbish people again and I ran away from home and lived with my aunt and I started school again I really hate people's like example insult disguised as a joke like a wolf in sheep's clothing or getting mobbed by family members or so called friends and that's why I always stay on my room so no one can hurt me anymore just me and my depression along with anxiety then panic attack always have panic attack when school or home I always overthinking plus anxious that's probably why I have panic attack when go out or staying home I really love solitude more than everything in this world solitude is all I know always love to die young.
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Absolhunter251
I’m honestly happy being single. After being in so much fake relationships and bad people, I find it more value in myself and my friends and family.
After everything I went through for the wrong people. I see now, being single is probably the best for me, I’m doing much better in my work, I’m getting noticed for my hard work and I can have time for myself and heal more after my surgery and mingling with new people and making friends.
And I’m making time for my hobbies and even getting into writing.
Being single and alone isn’t all bad, like people say. You can be much happier without the stresses of being hurt, or mentally harmful in a relationship.
This video helped me see that. Thank you
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I’m honestly happy being single. After being in so much fake relationships and bad people, I find it more value in myself and my friends and family.
After everything I went through for the wrong people. I see now, being single is probably the best for me, I’m doing much better in my work, I’m getting noticed for my hard work and I can have time for myself and heal more after my surgery and mingling with new people and making friends.
And I’m making time for my hobbies and even getting into writing.
Being single and alone isn’t all bad, like people say. You can be much happier without the stresses of being hurt, or mentally harmful in a relationship.
This video helped me see that. Thank you
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MegaManNeo
I don't think being single is bad, just that it hurts when having feelings for someone it's not worth risking to lose despite - frankly fitting in context to that video - expanding life's story.
Finding no one else makes me see myself as being way too picky even if your videos and articles online suggest it's good to have standards rather than to settle for less (or as I'd prefer to call it, settle for someone on a different wave, as that's exactly what my first and so far only love relationship was from start to finish.
Being on my own is fine by me as being a highly introverted guy in his early 30's with lots of fun hobbies but it hurts when I wanna share quality time with certain people badly.
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I don't think being single is bad, just that it hurts when having feelings for someone it's not worth risking to lose despite - frankly fitting in context to that video - expanding life's story.
Finding no one else makes me see myself as being way too picky even if your videos and articles online suggest it's good to have standards rather than to settle for less (or as I'd prefer to call it, settle for someone on a different wave, as that's exactly what my first and so far only love relationship was from start to finish.
Being on my own is fine by me as being a highly introverted guy in his early 30's with lots of fun hobbies but it hurts when I wanna share quality time with certain people badly.
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jwanie366
A good friend of mine at work could use this video rn. He rushed into his former marriage because he really wanted a partner, but they got divorced last year because of how terribly she was treating him. As a 30-year old who's never been in a serious romantic relationship, I do feel the pressure of finding a partner at this point in my life (especially as I see more people from my childhood years getting married or even having kids. But I have to keep reminding myself that being single isn't all bad, as this video states. And my mother always likes to tell me, it's just not time for you yet. She's usually right so I believe my time will come eventually!
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A good friend of mine at work could use this video rn. He rushed into his former marriage because he really wanted a partner, but they got divorced last year because of how terribly she was treating him. As a 30-year old who's never been in a serious romantic relationship, I do feel the pressure of finding a partner at this point in my life (especially as I see more people from my childhood years getting married or even having kids. But I have to keep reminding myself that being single isn't all bad, as this video states. And my mother always likes to tell me, it's just not time for you yet. She's usually right so I believe my time will come eventually!
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Lyndelle_4010
To me, being alone is different from being lonely
Being alone is fine, and it's fine to want be alone sometimes But just because you might be alone, doesn't mean you have to feel lonely.
I feel like there's too much pressure put onto people for being alone when in reality, it's not necessarily a bad thing The same thing can be said about being single
A lot of single people, myself included, always seem to have this feeling of pressure about others saying they NEED to be in a relationship to be happy But that's not true for all people
You can be single, but still be happy. You can be alone without being lonely.
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To me, being alone is different from being lonely
Being alone is fine, and it's fine to want be alone sometimes But just because you might be alone, doesn't mean you have to feel lonely.
I feel like there's too much pressure put onto people for being alone when in reality, it's not necessarily a bad thing The same thing can be said about being single
A lot of single people, myself included, always seem to have this feeling of pressure about others saying they NEED to be in a relationship to be happy But that's not true for all people
You can be single, but still be happy. You can be alone without being lonely.
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psych2go
I really love to be single because I like my own personality because I don't fxrce me into relationships just for the sake of being in a relationship with someone & please society standards. The only issue with me being single is that I literally attract all types of men, especially married men want to pursue me badly & there were some who tried to hide it just to approach me & that's why I'm afraid of getting into a relationship with men & to be honest with y'all, the more I know about people's relationships around me, the more I appreciate to dancing on my own. ;-]
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I really love to be single because I like my own personality because I don't fxrce me into relationships just for the sake of being in a relationship with someone & please society standards. The only issue with me being single is that I literally attract all types of men, especially married men want to pursue me badly & there were some who tried to hide it just to approach me & that's why I'm afraid of getting into a relationship with men & to be honest with y'all, the more I know about people's relationships around me, the more I appreciate to dancing on my own. ;-]
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psych2go
Being alone in terms of both romantice and friendship is not my choice. That all social anxiety's doing. Not a shakle but a prison, it's not a bullet, it's a nuke. It's more that a problem, its an unbeatable god. I've learned that over the years. I've gone though the stages of grief over it and threw all I had at it more times than I can count and it has never even flinched. It is completely unbeatable. I've found solace in my empty bubble though, I'm not in danger at least. But I'm missing so much it can't help but hurt anyways.
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Being alone in terms of both romantice and friendship is not my choice. That all social anxiety's doing. Not a shakle but a prison, it's not a bullet, it's a nuke. It's more that a problem, its an unbeatable god. I've learned that over the years. I've gone though the stages of grief over it and threw all I had at it more times than I can count and it has never even flinched. It is completely unbeatable. I've found solace in my empty bubble though, I'm not in danger at least. But I'm missing so much it can't help but hurt anyways.
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Juuchan17
I'm 38, forever single & too scared to attempt dating (even though I would like to, but I clicked this as soon as I saw it. I definitely want to be with someone, but I just have high standards for who I want to be with and would prefer to get myself on track before choosing to share my life with another. I definitely believe in soulmates though. but I just want to find the right person once the time is right. Singleness does have its freedoms, but I really want to fall in love with the right person one day.
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I'm 38, forever single & too scared to attempt dating (even though I would like to, but I clicked this as soon as I saw it. I definitely want to be with someone, but I just have high standards for who I want to be with and would prefer to get myself on track before choosing to share my life with another. I definitely believe in soulmates though. but I just want to find the right person once the time is right. Singleness does have its freedoms, but I really want to fall in love with the right person one day.
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4eraeI
heck yeah sweet SWEET sour. s0litude!
also personally, at least, i see relationship more as a complement or bonus, nothing we need, but something we would want, in case you do. If you don't feel good by yourself, then the problem has to do with yourself, not with the abscense of someone else, you should try to fix it yourself, and not use someone to fix it for you, right
but jokes on everyone, sour is my favorite taste. _but i also love cold, yet too much of it will still k1ll me. what do i do. _
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heck yeah sweet SWEET sour. s0litude!
also personally, at least, i see relationship more as a complement or bonus, nothing we need, but something we would want, in case you do. If you don't feel good by yourself, then the problem has to do with yourself, not with the abscense of someone else, you should try to fix it yourself, and not use someone to fix it for you, right
but jokes on everyone, sour is my favorite taste. _but i also love cold, yet too much of it will still k1ll me. what do i do. _
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Hespro
I had in relationships many times and i know how it feels when you are ignored or you don't get the attention you want. Honestly speaking, its very very dificult but all i would say is that don't compromise on self respect. Don't beg someone for love. It will even make situation worse. I did it and i am regretting it. I am talking from a vast experience. Just stay positive listen to some positive muusic. You are unique. Just take care of yourself, your hair, your body. You are really mesmerizing. OK
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I had in relationships many times and i know how it feels when you are ignored or you don't get the attention you want. Honestly speaking, its very very dificult but all i would say is that don't compromise on self respect. Don't beg someone for love. It will even make situation worse. I did it and i am regretting it. I am talking from a vast experience. Just stay positive listen to some positive muusic. You are unique. Just take care of yourself, your hair, your body. You are really mesmerizing. OK
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johanvycolon762
Even though I'm as single as it gets this video just isn't for me, they show the good parts of being single, being single by choice while also being fairly sociable and that part of 30% of Americans considering themselves single is something I don't fully believe, in what context I mean in most government papers the options are single, married, divorced or widowed, so if if half of those who said that are single did so while in an unmarried relationship then that statistic is wrong.
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Even though I'm as single as it gets this video just isn't for me, they show the good parts of being single, being single by choice while also being fairly sociable and that part of 30% of Americans considering themselves single is something I don't fully believe, in what context I mean in most government papers the options are single, married, divorced or widowed, so if if half of those who said that are single did so while in an unmarried relationship then that statistic is wrong.
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nathansmith5726
I've spent the last month falling in love with my best female friend and this has been scary. It's going to be so hard to tell her. What's worse is that she's in an unhealthy position due to strained relationships with friends and family and we are almost codependent on each other. I don't want to pressure her by making her feel like she has to match my feelings for my support of her to continue. At the same time, if she doesn't, it will be hard to continue to be her friend.
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I've spent the last month falling in love with my best female friend and this has been scary. It's going to be so hard to tell her. What's worse is that she's in an unhealthy position due to strained relationships with friends and family and we are almost codependent on each other. I don't want to pressure her by making her feel like she has to match my feelings for my support of her to continue. At the same time, if she doesn't, it will be hard to continue to be her friend.
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