We Need To Talk About The Heartbreaking Jamel Myles Story
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Date: 2019-11-01
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FairyHero57
Is it sad that I knew that between the coming out to his classmates and feminine clothing, I knew that he was going to be bullied? It horrible the way my mind goes to that, but I had a similar thing happen with a conversation between my sister and her husband because she wanted to dress my nephew in salmon (almost pink) shorts for his first day of 4K or (Kindergarten - age 4) and her husband argued against it because he was worried that my 4 year old nephew would be picked on for wearing almost something feminine on the first day of school and I agreed with him out of concern for my nephew. My sister didn't see anything wrong with it and in a normal society I would have agreed with her, but knowing from my own experiences that the slightest thing from hanging out with a particular crowd or sounding a different way can label you as something and be bullied because something you couldn't change about yourself at all. I wish things could be different and children wouldn't judge based on appearances or who you love, but it going to take a while before that happens.
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Is it sad that I knew that between the coming out to his classmates and feminine clothing, I knew that he was going to be bullied? It horrible the way my mind goes to that, but I had a similar thing happen with a conversation between my sister and her husband because she wanted to dress my nephew in salmon (almost pink) shorts for his first day of 4K or (Kindergarten - age 4) and her husband argued against it because he was worried that my 4 year old nephew would be picked on for wearing almost something feminine on the first day of school and I agreed with him out of concern for my nephew. My sister didn't see anything wrong with it and in a normal society I would have agreed with her, but knowing from my own experiences that the slightest thing from hanging out with a particular crowd or sounding a different way can label you as something and be bullied because something you couldn't change about yourself at all. I wish things could be different and children wouldn't judge based on appearances or who you love, but it going to take a while before that happens.
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BesuBaru
I feel sorry for the kid, but I really think this comes down to an issue with teachers and the lack of parenting. All of us with half a brain know that being gay is perfectly normal. There are morons who bully someone, but that mainly comes down to them being a fool themselves. Honestly, I think that most anti-bullying PSAs do a half-ass job at telling children what to do in the event of bullying. Bullying rates have skyrocketed because parents and teachers have abandoned the notion of teaching kids to stand up for themselves and what they believe. I had that issue when I was in 4th and 5th grade myself. I was constantly bullied by classmates and my own relatives, yet telling my parents or teachers about it did nothing or made things worse. I grew a thick skin and thought to myself Why bother dealing with these cretins? As a result of that, I shut off people who weren't close friends of mine, and people that I could trust, and I didn't give a single rat's-ass about what people who didn't know me thought about me. I improve myself on my own terms, not for others.
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I feel sorry for the kid, but I really think this comes down to an issue with teachers and the lack of parenting. All of us with half a brain know that being gay is perfectly normal. There are morons who bully someone, but that mainly comes down to them being a fool themselves. Honestly, I think that most anti-bullying PSAs do a half-ass job at telling children what to do in the event of bullying. Bullying rates have skyrocketed because parents and teachers have abandoned the notion of teaching kids to stand up for themselves and what they believe. I had that issue when I was in 4th and 5th grade myself. I was constantly bullied by classmates and my own relatives, yet telling my parents or teachers about it did nothing or made things worse. I grew a thick skin and thought to myself Why bother dealing with these cretins? As a result of that, I shut off people who weren't close friends of mine, and people that I could trust, and I didn't give a single rat's-ass about what people who didn't know me thought about me. I improve myself on my own terms, not for others.
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Winterland kris
It always breaks my heart to see stories of suicide caused by bullying. I remember that I was bullied when I was in school, and I was bullied for 6 years. I've had multiple suicide attempts that I tried and failed, and if any one of those succeeded then I would not be here today. If there was the one counsellor who did not read my homework- which, back in those elementary school days was writing a diary of what I did over the school break- if they did not read it, if they did not notify the school and found out the scapegoating I endured for 6 years- if they did not find out that even my TA was against me and allowed for the bullying to happen, I would not be alive today. I cry every time I hear such a story because it reminds me of my traumatic past and it can depend on just one moment, on just one person- to accept you- and to save a life. I endured bullying when I was 5. 5 years old. Just how unfair the world is, how terrible and cruel the world is.
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It always breaks my heart to see stories of suicide caused by bullying. I remember that I was bullied when I was in school, and I was bullied for 6 years. I've had multiple suicide attempts that I tried and failed, and if any one of those succeeded then I would not be here today. If there was the one counsellor who did not read my homework- which, back in those elementary school days was writing a diary of what I did over the school break- if they did not read it, if they did not notify the school and found out the scapegoating I endured for 6 years- if they did not find out that even my TA was against me and allowed for the bullying to happen, I would not be alive today. I cry every time I hear such a story because it reminds me of my traumatic past and it can depend on just one moment, on just one person- to accept you- and to save a life. I endured bullying when I was 5. 5 years old. Just how unfair the world is, how terrible and cruel the world is.
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Jeshire Katt
I knew I was as attracted to girls as I was to guys growing up - there was no big moment of realization, it developed as with everything else growing up, and was lucky enough to somewhat safely be open about that. I knew I wasn't a girl before I knew what being genderqueer or trans was. It's not that hard to tell, we're just more open about the terms for this now. Queer people just grow up that way, and we may go into denial due to the hate we face or grow up without language for our experiences, or get bullied out of voicing or expressing our queerness before we ever get a chance to come to terms with it fully. What happened to Jamal has happened to countless LGBTQ+/queer youth over the years - and no, it never did stop. And it really, really has to. Hating queer people helps no one and accomplishes nothing. RIP Jamal, you should have had more of a chance to live your truth.
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I knew I was as attracted to girls as I was to guys growing up - there was no big moment of realization, it developed as with everything else growing up, and was lucky enough to somewhat safely be open about that. I knew I wasn't a girl before I knew what being genderqueer or trans was. It's not that hard to tell, we're just more open about the terms for this now. Queer people just grow up that way, and we may go into denial due to the hate we face or grow up without language for our experiences, or get bullied out of voicing or expressing our queerness before we ever get a chance to come to terms with it fully. What happened to Jamal has happened to countless LGBTQ+/queer youth over the years - and no, it never did stop. And it really, really has to. Hating queer people helps no one and accomplishes nothing. RIP Jamal, you should have had more of a chance to live your truth.
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Hudaef Cares?
Two weeks ago an uncle had a catered beach party with a band for his birthday. It was a big party so I went with my mom and my sister's kids to said party, with my aunt and her son. When we arrived the venue was still being set up, so me and my aunt had a few laughs with the makeshift stage. Then my aunt mentioned to me how she and another uncle fought over the phone the other day. They were fairly close so I was shocked and asked why. She told me while laughing, I only said he was crazy in the head. I mean he is, right? Only those who are crazy in the head would like another guy. She was looking me in the eye when she said that, still laughing and smiling. Me, who looks like a butch and is either a lesbian or a trans. (Still not decided)How the eff was I going to answer? #IgnorantPeople
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Two weeks ago an uncle had a catered beach party with a band for his birthday. It was a big party so I went with my mom and my sister's kids to said party, with my aunt and her son. When we arrived the venue was still being set up, so me and my aunt had a few laughs with the makeshift stage. Then my aunt mentioned to me how she and another uncle fought over the phone the other day. They were fairly close so I was shocked and asked why. She told me while laughing, I only said he was crazy in the head. I mean he is, right? Only those who are crazy in the head would like another guy. She was looking me in the eye when she said that, still laughing and smiling. Me, who looks like a butch and is either a lesbian or a trans. (Still not decided)How the eff was I going to answer? #IgnorantPeople
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Gina B
It's not a matter of the media at all in my opinion. I have vivid memories of my first crush and I was in grade 1 (I was 6) there was a boy in my class that I just felt a connection to. We got caught one day for talking because the teacher had told the class to go back to our desks (we were sitting on the floor) and I we were talking so much that we didn't even hear the request and we were the last ones sitting on the floor. It doesn't matter what age you are, you feel what you feel and that's it, people, especially of all children shouldn't have to lose their lives over how they feel inside. I am so heartbroken with this story. I thought our generation was going to change the stigma about who is right to love. My prayers and condolences to his family; rest in peace
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It's not a matter of the media at all in my opinion. I have vivid memories of my first crush and I was in grade 1 (I was 6) there was a boy in my class that I just felt a connection to. We got caught one day for talking because the teacher had told the class to go back to our desks (we were sitting on the floor) and I we were talking so much that we didn't even hear the request and we were the last ones sitting on the floor. It doesn't matter what age you are, you feel what you feel and that's it, people, especially of all children shouldn't have to lose their lives over how they feel inside. I am so heartbroken with this story. I thought our generation was going to change the stigma about who is right to love. My prayers and condolences to his family; rest in peace
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Bad Dragonite
Just gonna say my heart goes to that mother and I feel horrible hearing about this kid. It genuinely touched me. Noone should have to go through that. Here's where I'm gonna be an asshole to some though. Tbh a big problem with something like this is that parents and schools aren't teaching kids how to deal with bullying or how to stanr up for themselves. We live in a world where words are treated with this huge power instead of learning that words can't do anything unless you let them. That's not the kids fault. He Shouldve been taught to let things like that roll off of him. That's not to say I blame the mother either, I think she's a victim in this as well of the culture. Plus I wonder if any teachers knew what was going on and if anything was done.
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Just gonna say my heart goes to that mother and I feel horrible hearing about this kid. It genuinely touched me. Noone should have to go through that. Here's where I'm gonna be an asshole to some though. Tbh a big problem with something like this is that parents and schools aren't teaching kids how to deal with bullying or how to stanr up for themselves. We live in a world where words are treated with this huge power instead of learning that words can't do anything unless you let them. That's not the kids fault. He Shouldve been taught to let things like that roll off of him. That's not to say I blame the mother either, I think she's a victim in this as well of the culture. Plus I wonder if any teachers knew what was going on and if anything was done.
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scarface matt
being that age yes tv internet and the public they learn what their feelings mean it but i watched a young person struggle with being transgender when he was only five years old back in the 90s before all this Jenner shit plastered everywhere my mother used to babysit him where he would show up every day with nail polish and even at 5 years old saying I want to cut off my penis I don't want to be a boy anymore fast forwards 20 years that's exactly what happened he is now she but it started long before being transgender or gay was plastered everywhere honestly it was the first time even I ever heard of anything of the kind and back then he was a lot more sheltered then I was just because of his faith so i guess they just know their own feelings
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being that age yes tv internet and the public they learn what their feelings mean it but i watched a young person struggle with being transgender when he was only five years old back in the 90s before all this Jenner shit plastered everywhere my mother used to babysit him where he would show up every day with nail polish and even at 5 years old saying I want to cut off my penis I don't want to be a boy anymore fast forwards 20 years that's exactly what happened he is now she but it started long before being transgender or gay was plastered everywhere honestly it was the first time even I ever heard of anything of the kind and back then he was a lot more sheltered then I was just because of his faith so i guess they just know their own feelings
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Bee Whistler
I hate that the politics of why the kid was bullied are distracting from the core problem, that kids think it's okay to single out anyone they see as different and unload on them. I had to pull my son out of high school and put him into independent study because he was bullied to the point that he couldn't tell who was just being friendly and who was playing head games. They called him school shooter because he let his appearance get scraggly for a while and because he didn't beam sunshine everywhere he went. And don't even get me started on the hell that school was for me. and the response that always got was that I was sent to psychologists. Because the school was a poisonous place to be, I was sent to a psych. Schools don't give a damn.
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I hate that the politics of why the kid was bullied are distracting from the core problem, that kids think it's okay to single out anyone they see as different and unload on them. I had to pull my son out of high school and put him into independent study because he was bullied to the point that he couldn't tell who was just being friendly and who was playing head games. They called him school shooter because he let his appearance get scraggly for a while and because he didn't beam sunshine everywhere he went. And don't even get me started on the hell that school was for me. and the response that always got was that I was sent to psychologists. Because the school was a poisonous place to be, I was sent to a psych. Schools don't give a damn.
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