Does Being in a Relationship Make You Less Productive?
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We should learn as much as possible in our life and use the time we have to spent with our loved ones.
I know this is difficult for a lot of people and also for myself because I have anxiety and I am a high sensitive person (therefore I m really clingy and need to work a lot on myself but my boyfriend keeps me motivated and helps me where he can) but if there is someone who really cares about you it is possible and if you really want it(when it is too difficult you can always visit a therapist it is nothing to be ashamed of)
Sorry for my english I am from Luxembourg and it is only my 3rd and a half year English.
and sorry if you disagree with my point of view I don't want to offend someone.
Date: 2023-08-20
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education
It's 'kind of' the opposite for me, There are times that this is accurate but there are times that it's not. When it comes to school work, I did everything perfectly fine. I was able to balance my bf with school since he was the one who's been supporting me emotionally. I didn't have the need to satisfy him all the time because I knew that he was already satisfied for who I am. Sure I think about him alot, but when it comes to school lessons, my attention is switched there. Even if we were in a fight, my attention would suddenly switch to school stuff when I'm in school and tend to talk with my friends about random stuffs just for fun. I'm also doing well with my grades. They're not the highest, but I'm doing better than usual but I do recall that I drew alot of drawing related to me and my bf when he first confessed it's been 10 months since we've confessed to each other and 7 months since we've been together (our confession day is different to the day we were in a relationship)
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It's 'kind of' the opposite for me, There are times that this is accurate but there are times that it's not. When it comes to school work, I did everything perfectly fine. I was able to balance my bf with school since he was the one who's been supporting me emotionally. I didn't have the need to satisfy him all the time because I knew that he was already satisfied for who I am. Sure I think about him alot, but when it comes to school lessons, my attention is switched there. Even if we were in a fight, my attention would suddenly switch to school stuff when I'm in school and tend to talk with my friends about random stuffs just for fun. I'm also doing well with my grades. They're not the highest, but I'm doing better than usual but I do recall that I drew alot of drawing related to me and my bf when he first confessed it's been 10 months since we've confessed to each other and 7 months since we've been together (our confession day is different to the day we were in a relationship)
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Masked
I was less productive in my last relationship, but for the exact opposite reason.
I'm very, uhh, let's say touchy when it comes to dating. I have really bad issues for reasons I will not disclose.
I was always so angry for no reason when I was dating, it was completely unprovoked and constant. The only time I got any real satisfaction was when I would tease him in a really dominant way.
I remember one evening we made plans to get breakfast before school, and the next day when he came to pick me up I was sitting in my living room with all of the lights turned off, staring at the wall, one wrong word away from punching him in his fking face. I didn't say a single thing to him, I just climbed in the car. Luckily he read my mood and just took me to school. Had he still taken me to breakfast God only knows what I would have done.
So basically I'm too focused on fighting my anger to do any other tasks. I tell ya, dating really isn't my thing.
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I was less productive in my last relationship, but for the exact opposite reason.
I'm very, uhh, let's say touchy when it comes to dating. I have really bad issues for reasons I will not disclose.
I was always so angry for no reason when I was dating, it was completely unprovoked and constant. The only time I got any real satisfaction was when I would tease him in a really dominant way.
I remember one evening we made plans to get breakfast before school, and the next day when he came to pick me up I was sitting in my living room with all of the lights turned off, staring at the wall, one wrong word away from punching him in his fking face. I didn't say a single thing to him, I just climbed in the car. Luckily he read my mood and just took me to school. Had he still taken me to breakfast God only knows what I would have done.
So basically I'm too focused on fighting my anger to do any other tasks. I tell ya, dating really isn't my thing.
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Tenderil
My life was just existence before my partner came into my life. (like if he didn't come along, I'd most certainly be dead, or have mutilated my body permanently if I was still alive)
0riginally, my grades were almost always F, F, F, D, F, C, stuff like that. But now, since I have a relief from all the horrors in the world, my grades got much better, and I can keep 3 A's from my classes at once. I even push myself to be better and match up to how good he is.
My grades are getting worse currently because I am separated from my friends and partner and the school will not let me transfer despite the proof from teachers about my suicidal behavior.
Luckily, the only class I'm failing right now is Algebra because I'm bad at homework. Don't get me wrong, I do like Algebra, but home time is me time, wind down time, regain sanity time.
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My life was just existence before my partner came into my life. (like if he didn't come along, I'd most certainly be dead, or have mutilated my body permanently if I was still alive)
0riginally, my grades were almost always F, F, F, D, F, C, stuff like that. But now, since I have a relief from all the horrors in the world, my grades got much better, and I can keep 3 A's from my classes at once. I even push myself to be better and match up to how good he is.
My grades are getting worse currently because I am separated from my friends and partner and the school will not let me transfer despite the proof from teachers about my suicidal behavior.
Luckily, the only class I'm failing right now is Algebra because I'm bad at homework. Don't get me wrong, I do like Algebra, but home time is me time, wind down time, regain sanity time.
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education
Just because u can't balance life and work doesn't mean u can blame ur partner. If u are the one being obsessed, it's ur job to get balanced, don't blame ur partner. If ur partner is obsessed, make them understand, and if they truly love u they will respect ur space, but make sure u give them little drops of love when u are free, caus eu won't be working 24 hrs a day, even if u work 14 hours a day ( which is already way too much ) u can give atleast an 1 hr. If u are so focused in ur goal that u don't have time for ur family or love, then just don't be in a relationship, first establish yourself to such a position where u can have time. Also If u can't make time for ur loves one even as little, u failed at life, it's said, we are humans we need love So be mindful of all these things
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Just because u can't balance life and work doesn't mean u can blame ur partner. If u are the one being obsessed, it's ur job to get balanced, don't blame ur partner. If ur partner is obsessed, make them understand, and if they truly love u they will respect ur space, but make sure u give them little drops of love when u are free, caus eu won't be working 24 hrs a day, even if u work 14 hours a day ( which is already way too much ) u can give atleast an 1 hr. If u are so focused in ur goal that u don't have time for ur family or love, then just don't be in a relationship, first establish yourself to such a position where u can have time. Also If u can't make time for ur loves one even as little, u failed at life, it's said, we are humans we need love So be mindful of all these things
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Blessie
I can balance both. Falling in love made me more open and happier. More trusting and less stressed at times. My partner improved after being with me. He used to be lazy, apathetic, careless and an overall stone-hearted boy.
Befriending him mellowed him (more like broke down his walls) and he slowly realized he fell in love. We've been together for a year and he's been improving. He's no longer a computer addict. He has higher grades, even a model student if I do say so. He's more confident in himself and he's been the happiest he's ever been. And we're still improving. :)
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I can balance both. Falling in love made me more open and happier. More trusting and less stressed at times. My partner improved after being with me. He used to be lazy, apathetic, careless and an overall stone-hearted boy.
Befriending him mellowed him (more like broke down his walls) and he slowly realized he fell in love. We've been together for a year and he's been improving. He's no longer a computer addict. He has higher grades, even a model student if I do say so. He's more confident in himself and he's been the happiest he's ever been. And we're still improving. :)
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farhanimator
Happened to me. i was always trapped in her thoughts to the point that i started daydreaming and overthinking about her 24x7. i remained in this state for like 8 months, the relationship even became toxic in the later months. We broke up after 8 months and it was like the hardest thing to get over with. my mind was like a cage! obsessed with her thoughts! slowly i tried concentrating on other things and now after 2 months am getting NORMAL again. can concentrate on anything now without any problem. actually even better than before! DafaQ was that XD
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Happened to me. i was always trapped in her thoughts to the point that i started daydreaming and overthinking about her 24x7. i remained in this state for like 8 months, the relationship even became toxic in the later months. We broke up after 8 months and it was like the hardest thing to get over with. my mind was like a cage! obsessed with her thoughts! slowly i tried concentrating on other things and now after 2 months am getting NORMAL again. can concentrate on anything now without any problem. actually even better than before! DafaQ was that XD
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Rayven
I believe that the obsessive nature that comes from high-octane relationships is subjective to the individual. I would say that more calm, level-headed, logical individuals have a higher control over their productivity, as they know that they must still continue to live outside of the relationship, because they are practical thinkers. But there are others on the spectrum who have lower focus, more emotional, and thus a stronger obsession with the other person.
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I believe that the obsessive nature that comes from high-octane relationships is subjective to the individual. I would say that more calm, level-headed, logical individuals have a higher control over their productivity, as they know that they must still continue to live outside of the relationship, because they are practical thinkers. But there are others on the spectrum who have lower focus, more emotional, and thus a stronger obsession with the other person.
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Amy
This explains a lot about my behavior when I first met my ex in person. dating him online posed enough challenges emotionally, but when I was with him physically, it became even more difficult for me to focus on anything but him. I just didn't know how to be myself around him. 3 or 4 visits later and this starts to change, but of course, I recently ended things with him for reasons that would take too long to list out.
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This explains a lot about my behavior when I first met my ex in person. dating him online posed enough challenges emotionally, but when I was with him physically, it became even more difficult for me to focus on anything but him. I just didn't know how to be myself around him. 3 or 4 visits later and this starts to change, but of course, I recently ended things with him for reasons that would take too long to list out.
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jessie
Interesting. I was in a relationship for nine months (he broke it off, sadly) but I soon realized once it was over I was doing more work and was spending more time with family. I even joined a theatre program that I always wanted to join, but didn't because I wanted to be around my boyfriend. Even my close friends have taken note that I'm acting differently. This was an eye opener
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Interesting. I was in a relationship for nine months (he broke it off, sadly) but I soon realized once it was over I was doing more work and was spending more time with family. I even joined a theatre program that I always wanted to join, but didn't because I wanted to be around my boyfriend. Even my close friends have taken note that I'm acting differently. This was an eye opener
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Classified
I suffer in relationships due to this subject. I become consumed to the point of embitterment. I have not dated in over 18 yers. Maybe now, fortified with Psych2Go advice, I will try again with confidence. What I have learned: Be yourself and stand firm on your beliefs, opinions, and values. Know that you WANT a relationship, and not NEED a relationship. Enough said.
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I suffer in relationships due to this subject. I become consumed to the point of embitterment. I have not dated in over 18 yers. Maybe now, fortified with Psych2Go advice, I will try again with confidence. What I have learned: Be yourself and stand firm on your beliefs, opinions, and values. Know that you WANT a relationship, and not NEED a relationship. Enough said.
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GetPsyched
New relationships can be exciting, keeping time for yourself to maintain your productivity is vital. What I would recommend is to have a designated productivity space, that could be a library or a room in your house. This designated area can highlight to you the importance of productivity and help you to maintain focus from your outside life.
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New relationships can be exciting, keeping time for yourself to maintain your productivity is vital. What I would recommend is to have a designated productivity space, that could be a library or a room in your house. This designated area can highlight to you the importance of productivity and help you to maintain focus from your outside life.
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Kenny
I would like to request more information on this. It is a very interesting and deeply relevant topic to all of us. Just to share my story, I fell for someone that wasn't right for me whom I worked with and mistreated me which went on for about 3 years when we went our separate ways. 2 years later, I could swear that something is still amiss.
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I would like to request more information on this. It is a very interesting and deeply relevant topic to all of us. Just to share my story, I fell for someone that wasn't right for me whom I worked with and mistreated me which went on for about 3 years when we went our separate ways. 2 years later, I could swear that something is still amiss.
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Divine
Love what is it really. How many times have we been in love! Marry for money it's smarter don't go with the pirate He won't do anything for you in long run have your affair but marry the wealthy guy who loves you more. as he will make you happy by supporting you with good food company travel better clothes house family be sensible please
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Love what is it really. How many times have we been in love! Marry for money it's smarter don't go with the pirate He won't do anything for you in long run have your affair but marry the wealthy guy who loves you more. as he will make you happy by supporting you with good food company travel better clothes house family be sensible please
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RainbowOcean
uh. does the App Amino count. cause I am addicted to it that I don't really think about boys. however in school I am always worried about what is happening in the chat/roleplay? or is this certain person online? I am slowly limiting myself but this is not easy and I am findiing myself on it even more. yeah. I might need help.
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uh. does the App Amino count. cause I am addicted to it that I don't really think about boys. however in school I am always worried about what is happening in the chat/roleplay? or is this certain person online? I am slowly limiting myself but this is not easy and I am findiing myself on it even more. yeah. I might need help.
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Megan
I'm much more productive creatively when I'm in a relationship (especially a new one) than when I'm single, but I'm definitely more productive in terms of my profession when I'm single because I don't really have a reason to take any time off. Guess I haven't really figured out how to find a good balance yet. :o
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I'm much more productive creatively when I'm in a relationship (especially a new one) than when I'm single, but I'm definitely more productive in terms of my profession when I'm single because I don't really have a reason to take any time off. Guess I haven't really figured out how to find a good balance yet. :o
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Davoin
perhaps if someone else isnt happy with their life theyre bound to look for happiness on someone else expense and that special someone is bound to live in missery until then the relationship starts to crumble. So why would you want to be with a person who is not even happy with himself/herself?
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perhaps if someone else isnt happy with their life theyre bound to look for happiness on someone else expense and that special someone is bound to live in missery until then the relationship starts to crumble. So why would you want to be with a person who is not even happy with himself/herself?
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Dragon
Ahhh this is very true! I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now and I think about him all the time. It hasn't effected my grades or anything bc I can't afford that (i'm in a Master program. But I can literally be doing any task and my thoughts will always circle back to him.
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Ahhh this is very true! I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now and I think about him all the time. It hasn't effected my grades or anything bc I can't afford that (i'm in a Master program. But I can literally be doing any task and my thoughts will always circle back to him.
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vjm3
Wouldn't setting boundaries, clear and effective communication, and making goals help combat this?
Or would this result in one side of the relationship feeling neglected, potentially deteriorating the relationship?
I don't know, maybe I'm defining love in an empirical way.
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Wouldn't setting boundaries, clear and effective communication, and making goals help combat this?
Or would this result in one side of the relationship feeling neglected, potentially deteriorating the relationship?
I don't know, maybe I'm defining love in an empirical way.
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Dream
This has happened to me and sometimes happens to me, only with the player type of guys. I dont know the reason why but it sucks. It hurts so much after i realize they dont worth my attention but cant help feeling so nervous, excited and energetic when i am around them.
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This has happened to me and sometimes happens to me, only with the player type of guys. I dont know the reason why but it sucks. It hurts so much after i realize they dont worth my attention but cant help feeling so nervous, excited and energetic when i am around them.
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solididie
Lol, even if I did get into a relationship, it'd be like it wasn't. I can't text people after 8: 00 pm, I can't go over to someones house, no one can come over to my house, I can't even go to the mall or the store or a 99 cents store. My mother won't let me lol
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Lol, even if I did get into a relationship, it'd be like it wasn't. I can't text people after 8: 00 pm, I can't go over to someones house, no one can come over to my house, I can't even go to the mall or the store or a 99 cents store. My mother won't let me lol
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Frowning
Sometimes I want to be productive and that means less time for my partner and that makes me feel pressured even though my partner says that they support me %100 on my work they still seem to get lonely and showing it causes my focus to break.
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Sometimes I want to be productive and that means less time for my partner and that makes me feel pressured even though my partner says that they support me %100 on my work they still seem to get lonely and showing it causes my focus to break.
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Time
Only if one of them are possessive and obsessive, then yes, the other person can't concentrate on their academic work.
My bf is on fire though, I'm improving in school because of him. I was dead, now I'm alive again.
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Only if one of them are possessive and obsessive, then yes, the other person can't concentrate on their academic work.
My bf is on fire though, I'm improving in school because of him. I was dead, now I'm alive again.
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Michael
My relationship makes me more productive because she motivates me to do better and become a better man she also assist me with basic problems so there is more productivity in my case
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My relationship makes me more productive because she motivates me to do better and become a better man she also assist me with basic problems so there is more productivity in my case
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Andromeda
So glad to know this is actually normal!
I go through this a lot because (sigh) I fall in and out of love a few times a year. With all kinds of people and fictional characters.
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So glad to know this is actually normal!
I go through this a lot because (sigh) I fall in and out of love a few times a year. With all kinds of people and fictional characters.
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