Letting Go: Toxic Friendships
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Date: 2023-08-20
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francesca
i left a toxic friend a couple months ago, i didnt communicate with her i just stopped talking to her because she was so toxic for me for two whole years. i was so scared of a new argument (bc she would make an argument with me everyday) that i just couldnt be bothered talking with her about not being friends anymore. its been like four months now and i was reading old messages with her and reminiscing the amazing moments i had with her and i got a bit emotional missing her
it just hurts that i see her all the time in school being nice and funny to people, and other people saying how nice she was, but me knowing deep down she wasnt good to me hurts so much
but the best advice thats helping me to help others is to remember all the times that your old friend/ex made you feel tiny, made you offended, or made you feel terrible
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i left a toxic friend a couple months ago, i didnt communicate with her i just stopped talking to her because she was so toxic for me for two whole years. i was so scared of a new argument (bc she would make an argument with me everyday) that i just couldnt be bothered talking with her about not being friends anymore. its been like four months now and i was reading old messages with her and reminiscing the amazing moments i had with her and i got a bit emotional missing her
it just hurts that i see her all the time in school being nice and funny to people, and other people saying how nice she was, but me knowing deep down she wasnt good to me hurts so much
but the best advice thats helping me to help others is to remember all the times that your old friend/ex made you feel tiny, made you offended, or made you feel terrible
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Not_Here
idk if their toxic or not, but if i did smthn wrong they wouldnt talk to me about it and ignore me, when i asked to talk they would either ignore me or say no. and when we finally were able to have a talk they literaly took nothing from that and instead said they needed space, which i respected and gae them space but then they stopped talking to me altogether and two said smthn like we are giving you hints and its annoying you dont know but we ahvent even been speaking so how have i been hinted at smthn? and it's not like i continued sticking with them after they needed space i went with my othe freind groups but these ones are all pissed at me and arent telling me why. one of them was like my first friend in hs but she completely neglects me now r they toxic or not.
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idk if their toxic or not, but if i did smthn wrong they wouldnt talk to me about it and ignore me, when i asked to talk they would either ignore me or say no. and when we finally were able to have a talk they literaly took nothing from that and instead said they needed space, which i respected and gae them space but then they stopped talking to me altogether and two said smthn like we are giving you hints and its annoying you dont know but we ahvent even been speaking so how have i been hinted at smthn? and it's not like i continued sticking with them after they needed space i went with my othe freind groups but these ones are all pissed at me and arent telling me why. one of them was like my first friend in hs but she completely neglects me now r they toxic or not.
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Arty
I tried opening up to my friend as nice as i could about how they effected me and i made sure to point out that i understood where they were coming from but they lashed out and started talking about how they didnt know why my insecurities were their issue. We have been friends for years and its like a coin flip whether or nor they are going to be nice or lash out. I just cant take it anymore and ive given them so many chances and so many confessions about how i feel with no empathy returned i think i should just leave. The problem is that they are so engrained in all of my friendships, school, neighboorhood, and life that i dont know how everyone would react if i suddenly distance myself. They for one would make a whole scene about it and i dont want to lose anyone else.
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I tried opening up to my friend as nice as i could about how they effected me and i made sure to point out that i understood where they were coming from but they lashed out and started talking about how they didnt know why my insecurities were their issue. We have been friends for years and its like a coin flip whether or nor they are going to be nice or lash out. I just cant take it anymore and ive given them so many chances and so many confessions about how i feel with no empathy returned i think i should just leave. The problem is that they are so engrained in all of my friendships, school, neighboorhood, and life that i dont know how everyone would react if i suddenly distance myself. They for one would make a whole scene about it and i dont want to lose anyone else.
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Rinku
I feel so broken because I had these friends that were so nice to me and would always make my day (or atleast I thought becasue looking back now, they would talk bad about me and be mean to me) But one day they started matching user, pfps, bios and started discluding me. It really hurt. Then that same day, one of them had a gf from a while ago and accused them of cheating on them with me just because we were friends and matching pfps and users. Then a few minutes later she said: sorry ____ thinks i should block you when I tried responding she already blocked me. I cried that entire night, and i just wish I saw this video earlier, or dropped them earlier.
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I feel so broken because I had these friends that were so nice to me and would always make my day (or atleast I thought becasue looking back now, they would talk bad about me and be mean to me) But one day they started matching user, pfps, bios and started discluding me. It really hurt. Then that same day, one of them had a gf from a while ago and accused them of cheating on them with me just because we were friends and matching pfps and users. Then a few minutes later she said: sorry ____ thinks i should block you when I tried responding she already blocked me. I cried that entire night, and i just wish I saw this video earlier, or dropped them earlier.
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xoxo_lills
I recently had a best friend and I was spending time with my other friends and then she started making random rumors about them that she thought they would make me hate them
But it didnt work like that
I continued to hang out with them and then she started bullying me and getting me in trouble in different classes bc the teachers were nudging into the fiasco
And now she acts nice to my friends so I dont have anymore friends
But the nice trick doesnt work on them luckily and one of my bestest friends that I would be so depressed if I lost them said that
The same thing happend to them so she told me all of the girls tricks
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I recently had a best friend and I was spending time with my other friends and then she started making random rumors about them that she thought they would make me hate them
But it didnt work like that
I continued to hang out with them and then she started bullying me and getting me in trouble in different classes bc the teachers were nudging into the fiasco
And now she acts nice to my friends so I dont have anymore friends
But the nice trick doesnt work on them luckily and one of my bestest friends that I would be so depressed if I lost them said that
The same thing happend to them so she told me all of the girls tricks
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education
I recently let a toxic friend back into my life after he expressed how much he missed me. Biggest mistake ever! I was already apprehensive about letting him back in, but did so because I genuinely cared for him. In less than a week of us reconnecting, hes back to his toxic ways and draining me of all of my energy. He found a way to blame me for all of our friendships problems and ghosted me! SMH! I CANNOT and will NOT allow him to make me feel worthless as a person anymore! I refuse to walk on eggshells around him! Who TF does he think he is! Being ghosted was the best thing he could have ever done for me. The trash took itself out!
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I recently let a toxic friend back into my life after he expressed how much he missed me. Biggest mistake ever! I was already apprehensive about letting him back in, but did so because I genuinely cared for him. In less than a week of us reconnecting, hes back to his toxic ways and draining me of all of my energy. He found a way to blame me for all of our friendships problems and ghosted me! SMH! I CANNOT and will NOT allow him to make me feel worthless as a person anymore! I refuse to walk on eggshells around him! Who TF does he think he is! Being ghosted was the best thing he could have ever done for me. The trash took itself out!
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Melanie
I have a friend that we were very close for 2 years and I already realized how mean she was, but I didn't think that was bad for me, I started to distance myself and I feel much better physically and mentally, but I feel guilty because I still we're in our senior year of high school and she can't find any other friends because everyone has seen how mean and toxic she is and her mom is always telling our moms what she complains about my mom doesn't care but i can't take it and no i want to be mean to her, how can i let her go without hurting her or myself?
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I have a friend that we were very close for 2 years and I already realized how mean she was, but I didn't think that was bad for me, I started to distance myself and I feel much better physically and mentally, but I feel guilty because I still we're in our senior year of high school and she can't find any other friends because everyone has seen how mean and toxic she is and her mom is always telling our moms what she complains about my mom doesn't care but i can't take it and no i want to be mean to her, how can i let her go without hurting her or myself?
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psych2go
Today i found out that a old friend blocked me she stoped talking to me took all my other friends and brainwashed them and now i don't have any friends but i gave her the same energy then i realised that i'm better without her she was giving me bad energy made me feel less ab my self
then i convinced my self that i don't need someone like gher in my life plus i really like being alone i'm not really a social person i love it this way more i happy that we cut ties together i always want to end this toxic friendship with her so THANK YOU NEXT BTCH
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Today i found out that a old friend blocked me she stoped talking to me took all my other friends and brainwashed them and now i don't have any friends but i gave her the same energy then i realised that i'm better without her she was giving me bad energy made me feel less ab my self
then i convinced my self that i don't need someone like gher in my life plus i really like being alone i'm not really a social person i love it this way more i happy that we cut ties together i always want to end this toxic friendship with her so THANK YOU NEXT BTCH
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Justice
Currently trying to rid myself of toxic friends Ive had for years: and also trying to let go. Had so many great memories with them but overall, at their core they dont care about me. They are trying to take me down with them on their sinking ships. They started showing around videos of my promposal rejection video to classmates and I decided Id had enough. Im done hanging around them - and they wont ask whats up, whats wrong, where have you been, how are you doing, or anything like that. Somehow thats the best part.
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Currently trying to rid myself of toxic friends Ive had for years: and also trying to let go. Had so many great memories with them but overall, at their core they dont care about me. They are trying to take me down with them on their sinking ships. They started showing around videos of my promposal rejection video to classmates and I decided Id had enough. Im done hanging around them - and they wont ask whats up, whats wrong, where have you been, how are you doing, or anything like that. Somehow thats the best part.
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Steffi
people have a good way of clinging or attaching themselves to others in the name of being friends because that other person is doing something you cant do by yourself, then you distort that person what he/she was trying to do, this is what a toxic friend looks like, your expectation of what your friend should be is huge shame that you cant accept that person as who he/she is, this is a form of coercive control to make them do what you want them to do and always use them for your own benefit
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people have a good way of clinging or attaching themselves to others in the name of being friends because that other person is doing something you cant do by yourself, then you distort that person what he/she was trying to do, this is what a toxic friend looks like, your expectation of what your friend should be is huge shame that you cant accept that person as who he/she is, this is a form of coercive control to make them do what you want them to do and always use them for your own benefit
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Rasp
Toxic friends don't need you as a person, you are just a placeholder when they couldn't find no one else, or somebody canceled them at the last minute. They want to be with you only on their terms. When you have something that is important to you, or you need help, they will be occupied, they will not have time, or will openly dismiss it. They also talk behind your back about whatever you shared with them and make fun of that, even exaggerating, they are not here to help you but themselves.
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Toxic friends don't need you as a person, you are just a placeholder when they couldn't find no one else, or somebody canceled them at the last minute. They want to be with you only on their terms. When you have something that is important to you, or you need help, they will be occupied, they will not have time, or will openly dismiss it. They also talk behind your back about whatever you shared with them and make fun of that, even exaggerating, they are not here to help you but themselves.
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Sam
I got in a fight with my ex best friend last year and shes now trying to get to my new group of friends and she successfully did and I cant stand it I cant stand her or my friends for letting her in and they knew we had problems and now Im distanced myself from all of them but it still hurts to see her with my friends and i feel like i hate her I dont know what to do and on top of that i feel like sh! t for feeling anything for her please if someone can help. help
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I got in a fight with my ex best friend last year and shes now trying to get to my new group of friends and she successfully did and I cant stand it I cant stand her or my friends for letting her in and they knew we had problems and now Im distanced myself from all of them but it still hurts to see her with my friends and i feel like i hate her I dont know what to do and on top of that i feel like sh! t for feeling anything for her please if someone can help. help
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MINEDOGE
I had three friends that used to bully me a lot. They always thought they were right and when I tried to help them they never cared. I also had a friend that said he was quitting but a few minutes later, he was playing with my fake friend. And they all started playing together with other people and left me behind. I dont talk to them anymore and I dont have anyone to play with now but, Im doing better now that I dont have to deal with them anymore.
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I had three friends that used to bully me a lot. They always thought they were right and when I tried to help them they never cared. I also had a friend that said he was quitting but a few minutes later, he was playing with my fake friend. And they all started playing together with other people and left me behind. I dont talk to them anymore and I dont have anyone to play with now but, Im doing better now that I dont have to deal with them anymore.
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Marky
I have friend that always criticises me and honestly its been affecting my mental health badly lately because he wants everything his way always done he is always self centered. Does not care about my feeling even though he said horrible things to me I have been staying friends with him because im too scared to confront him. And i feel like bad person cutting ties with him. Is cutting ties with him the right thing to do?
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I have friend that always criticises me and honestly its been affecting my mental health badly lately because he wants everything his way always done he is always self centered. Does not care about my feeling even though he said horrible things to me I have been staying friends with him because im too scared to confront him. And i feel like bad person cutting ties with him. Is cutting ties with him the right thing to do?
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flesh
All relationships turn toxic at some point, you will never find the perfect friend. Even in your own family, relations with your mom, dad, syster, brother can turn toxic and we are talking about your supposed love ones here. Human relationships fail everywhere, even in music, how many bands broke up and dont want to even see each other anymore. So dont follow this videos thinking that a perfect friend is waiting for you
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All relationships turn toxic at some point, you will never find the perfect friend. Even in your own family, relations with your mom, dad, syster, brother can turn toxic and we are talking about your supposed love ones here. Human relationships fail everywhere, even in music, how many bands broke up and dont want to even see each other anymore. So dont follow this videos thinking that a perfect friend is waiting for you
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Erim
Slowly drifting yourself away and not letting that person know about is probably the best tactic. When you are too strict and you can't let go at the same time, it just returns back to you in a low self esteem form. Being alone is great! When I say alone, I mean being alone around other people. See finding a balance is not easy. No knowledge is easy to apply in life the way it is written or simply watched.
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Slowly drifting yourself away and not letting that person know about is probably the best tactic. When you are too strict and you can't let go at the same time, it just returns back to you in a low self esteem form. Being alone is great! When I say alone, I mean being alone around other people. See finding a balance is not easy. No knowledge is easy to apply in life the way it is written or simply watched.
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G15
Good morning! I would like to say thank you for this video as it gave me more information about such things. It may be difficult to distinguish and identify what kind of friends or people surround us, but knowing which ones are the good ones who can help us grow and whom we can reciprocate those efforts and care would make a lot of difference. Thank you for this and I hope you have a blessed day!
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Good morning! I would like to say thank you for this video as it gave me more information about such things. It may be difficult to distinguish and identify what kind of friends or people surround us, but knowing which ones are the good ones who can help us grow and whom we can reciprocate those efforts and care would make a lot of difference. Thank you for this and I hope you have a blessed day!
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Commander
i knew a guy a bit younger than me who turns out is just using me for money, wanna know what he got me for my birthday? He used a printer at his school to print an image and gave it to me. As a BIRTHDAY GIFT, he said he was going to get me something better than that before my birthday, he got me paper and gaslighted me into thinking he never said that, this was TODAY, i blocked him
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i knew a guy a bit younger than me who turns out is just using me for money, wanna know what he got me for my birthday? He used a printer at his school to print an image and gave it to me. As a BIRTHDAY GIFT, he said he was going to get me something better than that before my birthday, he got me paper and gaslighted me into thinking he never said that, this was TODAY, i blocked him
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Pato124
I had one in Roblox, in a game called piggy he said i was bad and more, i said i would unfriend him, he reacted normal and like if it was ok, but i got hurt twice by it, and we met each other for 3 years and the nexts we stopped, yet this day when i think about it i try to find him again or either feel bad. I really cant believe i lost him because of a game. RIP.
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I had one in Roblox, in a game called piggy he said i was bad and more, i said i would unfriend him, he reacted normal and like if it was ok, but i got hurt twice by it, and we met each other for 3 years and the nexts we stopped, yet this day when i think about it i try to find him again or either feel bad. I really cant believe i lost him because of a game. RIP.
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education
I was involved in many toxic friendships but know I let everything go, then I realize that no one left by my side, everyone is busy with their own life. I always thought about people I know and I used to ask them about their health but for me? I could nothing I was just spending enough on worthless things.
Now, with no one left I feel satisfied on my own
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I was involved in many toxic friendships but know I let everything go, then I realize that no one left by my side, everyone is busy with their own life. I always thought about people I know and I used to ask them about their health but for me? I could nothing I was just spending enough on worthless things.
Now, with no one left I feel satisfied on my own
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SteampunkLimbo
Just broke out of my longest friendship, because we both we're being mean to eachother, and the reason I didn't end it sooner, is because he was unique, he was just like me, he liked the same things, we learned a lot from eachother, but we also lost a lot, and so yesterday, it ended. While this video doesn't exactly fit the situation, it sure helped
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Just broke out of my longest friendship, because we both we're being mean to eachother, and the reason I didn't end it sooner, is because he was unique, he was just like me, he liked the same things, we learned a lot from eachother, but we also lost a lot, and so yesterday, it ended. While this video doesn't exactly fit the situation, it sure helped
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Andro!
The way I let go of my toxic friendship was that I already knew they were toxic and wanted to leave. So they kept telling me to stop when I'm doing stuff that makes me happy. And at one point I just said no. I went up to their face and said no. It was the best feeling of my life. Watching them in rage while I'm refusing to go by their orders.
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The way I let go of my toxic friendship was that I already knew they were toxic and wanted to leave. So they kept telling me to stop when I'm doing stuff that makes me happy. And at one point I just said no. I went up to their face and said no. It was the best feeling of my life. Watching them in rage while I'm refusing to go by their orders.
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Shivani
What hurts the most that the person whom we thought to be The best person whom we can confide in everything about our lives Even the gravest of the secrets can ever ditch us like that and turning the toxic friend disturbing your mental health.
Don't let anyone come into your life such that they can destroy your mental health
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What hurts the most that the person whom we thought to be The best person whom we can confide in everything about our lives Even the gravest of the secrets can ever ditch us like that and turning the toxic friend disturbing your mental health.
Don't let anyone come into your life such that they can destroy your mental health
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jack
those people have replaced me, gaslighted me and as soon as i didnt wanna engage with certain behaviours anymore, turn my life around, they found no time for me, and straight up gave me a lower importance level in their life- now ima go talk to one of them and tell her how i feel so i can move on, wish me luck
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those people have replaced me, gaslighted me and as soon as i didnt wanna engage with certain behaviours anymore, turn my life around, they found no time for me, and straight up gave me a lower importance level in their life- now ima go talk to one of them and tell her how i feel so i can move on, wish me luck
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