7 Sound Reasons Not To Get Back With Your Ex
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Dabuhuh
My ex broke up with me back in May 17 we were dating for two years. She broke up with me because of some mistakes I had made before we ever started dating but there was more behind why she just broke up with me out of the blue. I tried getting back with her twice but she wouldnt budge and accept me back soo I asked her a question. have you been talking to someone else? She said yes which totally broke me soo i just hung up on her and let her goo. Thinking i was doing the right thing. The next day she blew up my phine asking to explain herself but I cut her off thinking it was the best thing to do. I totaly ignored i didnt believe she wanted me back after all she was talking to someone else? After all I tried getting back with her and she didnt seem to wanna make things work? So for a month we were separated around the end of June she messaged me again asking to make things work and start over. We been talking ever since and are not currently dating just talking, but it turns out she did want me back that day she blew up my phone, and it turns out the guy she was talking to was also the guy she had been talking to about me and the mistakes I made in the past so he did what any other desperate man would do and interfere and basically convince her to leave me just to have her for himself. So they dated for a few weeks while we were separated and she never got over me just tried to move on from but couldnt. She didnt think I wanted her back and I didnt think she wanted me back either so that whole month we were just missing each other not knowing we couldve tried to make things work alot sooner. I cant help but blame myself, I am trying to move on from what has happened but it is hard, this girl/ex is doing everything she can to prove that she is sorry and wants to make things work but I am just here living daybyday in a constant regret and depression for what has happened we hangout every now and then just talking, plenty of laughs and smile we share, but deep inside I am just dead and hurt. I am trying and trying hard to move on and just be happy cus afterall she did leave that guy to come back to me when she figured out she just couldnt do it anymore. And afterall she is doing everything to make it up to me. Soo i ask you all? For your opinion and advice as to what should i do?
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My ex broke up with me back in May 17 we were dating for two years. She broke up with me because of some mistakes I had made before we ever started dating but there was more behind why she just broke up with me out of the blue. I tried getting back with her twice but she wouldnt budge and accept me back soo I asked her a question. have you been talking to someone else? She said yes which totally broke me soo i just hung up on her and let her goo. Thinking i was doing the right thing. The next day she blew up my phine asking to explain herself but I cut her off thinking it was the best thing to do. I totaly ignored i didnt believe she wanted me back after all she was talking to someone else? After all I tried getting back with her and she didnt seem to wanna make things work? So for a month we were separated around the end of June she messaged me again asking to make things work and start over. We been talking ever since and are not currently dating just talking, but it turns out she did want me back that day she blew up my phone, and it turns out the guy she was talking to was also the guy she had been talking to about me and the mistakes I made in the past so he did what any other desperate man would do and interfere and basically convince her to leave me just to have her for himself. So they dated for a few weeks while we were separated and she never got over me just tried to move on from but couldnt. She didnt think I wanted her back and I didnt think she wanted me back either so that whole month we were just missing each other not knowing we couldve tried to make things work alot sooner. I cant help but blame myself, I am trying to move on from what has happened but it is hard, this girl/ex is doing everything she can to prove that she is sorry and wants to make things work but I am just here living daybyday in a constant regret and depression for what has happened we hangout every now and then just talking, plenty of laughs and smile we share, but deep inside I am just dead and hurt. I am trying and trying hard to move on and just be happy cus afterall she did leave that guy to come back to me when she figured out she just couldnt do it anymore. And afterall she is doing everything to make it up to me. Soo i ask you all? For your opinion and advice as to what should i do?
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Plymothian
I'm sorry but who the hell would want to get back with their ex? Your literally going back to someone that has hurt you and no one deserves to go through that pain and heartache, only if you let it. Once a cheater always a cheater. I feel sorry for a very very lovely man who I've fallen for, has been through it as of I and I understand how hard it must be to commit someone again because of the hurt and pain from the past. I mean I've been very badly hurt but I still have the fight in me. If someone is important to you don't let them go because someone else might get there first and I'd hate to think that people make the wrong decisions. I know myself I'm not like that, anybody would be safe with me, they really would. I'm not like other women, if I'm committed someone I ain't going anywhere and that's the truth! And I ain't no liar. My feelings are perfectly clear. I don't hurt anybody, EVER!
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I'm sorry but who the hell would want to get back with their ex? Your literally going back to someone that has hurt you and no one deserves to go through that pain and heartache, only if you let it. Once a cheater always a cheater. I feel sorry for a very very lovely man who I've fallen for, has been through it as of I and I understand how hard it must be to commit someone again because of the hurt and pain from the past. I mean I've been very badly hurt but I still have the fight in me. If someone is important to you don't let them go because someone else might get there first and I'd hate to think that people make the wrong decisions. I know myself I'm not like that, anybody would be safe with me, they really would. I'm not like other women, if I'm committed someone I ain't going anywhere and that's the truth! And I ain't no liar. My feelings are perfectly clear. I don't hurt anybody, EVER!
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Clintoni
both there is no grey area between truth and false
Never look back while your aspirations of getting back something or someone you've lost is understandably admirable, for the most part it's almost never a good idea simply because clearly your differences were far too wide to maintain the relationship! Don't ever settle for someone giving you 30 50 and 90% of their Love or affection, because you will inevitably regret it, and all the time that you would have invested into that person, unless there was a child (something good that you can bring from that relationship and experience, will have just been a waste of time, and no one wants that! (If they're not offering 100% of their heart, if they are offering 80 90% of themselves, simply ask yourselve, what are they saving the other 10 or 20% of themselves for or who? It's all just common sense, hope it helps
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both there is no grey area between truth and false
Never look back while your aspirations of getting back something or someone you've lost is understandably admirable, for the most part it's almost never a good idea simply because clearly your differences were far too wide to maintain the relationship! Don't ever settle for someone giving you 30 50 and 90% of their Love or affection, because you will inevitably regret it, and all the time that you would have invested into that person, unless there was a child (something good that you can bring from that relationship and experience, will have just been a waste of time, and no one wants that! (If they're not offering 100% of their heart, if they are offering 80 90% of themselves, simply ask yourselve, what are they saving the other 10 or 20% of themselves for or who? It's all just common sense, hope it helps
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Maria
I got a lot of reasons not to go back with ex.
Reasons:
1. Fight arguments.
2. Not understanding each other.
3. He wanted to change me, to something your not.
4. Grew apart.
5. He cheated lied caused more problems drama.
6. Emotional verbal abuse gaslighting manipulation critizing belittling disrespectful behavior shaming rudeness bullying bossy controlling, hot and cold. Distance
Also made me cry.
Toxic relationship, incapacitated that why it ended. Better off without toxic ex.
Leave the past behind instead.
Maybe he got someone else instead.
It's healthier to let go of the past ex then hold on to the past. Let it go move forward.
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I got a lot of reasons not to go back with ex.
Reasons:
1. Fight arguments.
2. Not understanding each other.
3. He wanted to change me, to something your not.
4. Grew apart.
5. He cheated lied caused more problems drama.
6. Emotional verbal abuse gaslighting manipulation critizing belittling disrespectful behavior shaming rudeness bullying bossy controlling, hot and cold. Distance
Also made me cry.
Toxic relationship, incapacitated that why it ended. Better off without toxic ex.
Leave the past behind instead.
Maybe he got someone else instead.
It's healthier to let go of the past ex then hold on to the past. Let it go move forward.
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Chanel
I really tried. I was understanding, compassionate, trying to help him heal from things, looked deeper into his disrespect, I tried it all, tried all the conversations, found ways to talk things out and yet I was still met with disrespect, ungratefulness, hardly the bare minimum, his emotional unavailability which has its own series of problems, being dismissed, him being defensive, not being heard, feeling unloved, unappreciated. the cycle. I feel bad because maybe if i was stronger i could carry on, but im just not happy anymore. Im tired. He has things he needs to heal and I can't burn myself, trying to keep someone else warm. It's hard and I love him but it needs to end.
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I really tried. I was understanding, compassionate, trying to help him heal from things, looked deeper into his disrespect, I tried it all, tried all the conversations, found ways to talk things out and yet I was still met with disrespect, ungratefulness, hardly the bare minimum, his emotional unavailability which has its own series of problems, being dismissed, him being defensive, not being heard, feeling unloved, unappreciated. the cycle. I feel bad because maybe if i was stronger i could carry on, but im just not happy anymore. Im tired. He has things he needs to heal and I can't burn myself, trying to keep someone else warm. It's hard and I love him but it needs to end.
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Steph
He ended the relationship with me Bc he became tired of keeping his addiction a secret from me. Saying that I deserved better. I begged him to stay and said Id work with him to become better even after he had lied. We had been fighting a lot and I realize now it was due to his secrets. Bc of his secrets there had been a shift in the relationship. He had isolated himself from me. I gave him everything and thought if I kept fighting it would work and wed be together forever. He still stuck to his decision on ending it. Saying he needed to work on himself. The very next day. He begged for me back: (
I did not take him back.
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He ended the relationship with me Bc he became tired of keeping his addiction a secret from me. Saying that I deserved better. I begged him to stay and said Id work with him to become better even after he had lied. We had been fighting a lot and I realize now it was due to his secrets. Bc of his secrets there had been a shift in the relationship. He had isolated himself from me. I gave him everything and thought if I kept fighting it would work and wed be together forever. He still stuck to his decision on ending it. Saying he needed to work on himself. The very next day. He begged for me back: (
I did not take him back.
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SWATI
ok so whenever i miss the person B i come here to give me a reality check. thanks Psych2go. i have realised that seriously after we separated i just started ignoring all his bad behaviour which is 95% of him and was romanticising only 5% of his good behaviour which led me to question my own descision of leaving him. like seriously? what the fuk was i doing. if i left him bcoz there was a reason and reason can be repeated any time in future. he was such a toxic and disrespectful person who doesnt knows self respect is something in all relations. he was meant to be left. but my idiot emotions started forming a person B.
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ok so whenever i miss the person B i come here to give me a reality check. thanks Psych2go. i have realised that seriously after we separated i just started ignoring all his bad behaviour which is 95% of him and was romanticising only 5% of his good behaviour which led me to question my own descision of leaving him. like seriously? what the fuk was i doing. if i left him bcoz there was a reason and reason can be repeated any time in future. he was such a toxic and disrespectful person who doesnt knows self respect is something in all relations. he was meant to be left. but my idiot emotions started forming a person B.
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Lauren
This video definitely helps. I didn't realize how much I've grown apart from my ex. Us both being alcoholics, I decided to get help and change my life for the better. he has not. He still lies to me about his sobriety and we have a 4month old son together. Sometimes, when days go by, part of me wonders if I did the right thing. But after seeing this video, and realizing how much I am damaged from all the lying he has done, reminds me of what I don't want in a partner. So thank you
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This video definitely helps. I didn't realize how much I've grown apart from my ex. Us both being alcoholics, I decided to get help and change my life for the better. he has not. He still lies to me about his sobriety and we have a 4month old son together. Sometimes, when days go by, part of me wonders if I did the right thing. But after seeing this video, and realizing how much I am damaged from all the lying he has done, reminds me of what I don't want in a partner. So thank you
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iaiaflo
In quarantine, I was lost, sad, and confused, and that's when I met him. I can say that he was a big help from God someone to talk to, someone to laugh with and someone to know at that time, but now that I'm happy and learning how to be by myself, our connection is taking different paths because, as the video stated, you grew as people, you also grew apart. It's difficult to let him go because he was there for me in my sad time's. Maybe his time in my life is over. It's sad
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In quarantine, I was lost, sad, and confused, and that's when I met him. I can say that he was a big help from God someone to talk to, someone to laugh with and someone to know at that time, but now that I'm happy and learning how to be by myself, our connection is taking different paths because, as the video stated, you grew as people, you also grew apart. It's difficult to let him go because he was there for me in my sad time's. Maybe his time in my life is over. It's sad
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Lucky
God this woman hurt me so badly that I cant even comprehend the pain I feel, its been so long and the heart ache is still so sharp. Im so so afraid to love again that just the thought of it makes my stomach turn. But I feel the loneliness deep in my soul. This isnt a cry for help or whining just something I had to get off my chest. Ive begged god to help me find love again and to ease my pain. I want nothing more then to forget and love once more
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God this woman hurt me so badly that I cant even comprehend the pain I feel, its been so long and the heart ache is still so sharp. Im so so afraid to love again that just the thought of it makes my stomach turn. But I feel the loneliness deep in my soul. This isnt a cry for help or whining just something I had to get off my chest. Ive begged god to help me find love again and to ease my pain. I want nothing more then to forget and love once more
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one_more_dance_1
He made me choose between dance and him. I can't leave either of them. I love dancing it's my passion my therapy my life and so is he. It just breaks my heart so much. And I have no one to talk to I am just dealing this on my own and hiding it from the world how much hurt I am. I have been putting fake smiles and happiness on my face since a month. I don't know what to do we are on a break and I still haven't decided what to do.
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He made me choose between dance and him. I can't leave either of them. I love dancing it's my passion my therapy my life and so is he. It just breaks my heart so much. And I have no one to talk to I am just dealing this on my own and hiding it from the world how much hurt I am. I have been putting fake smiles and happiness on my face since a month. I don't know what to do we are on a break and I still haven't decided what to do.
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Jamie
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I cant stop thinking about her, Ive tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, Im frustrated, I dont see my life with anyone else. Ive done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I cant, I dont know why Im saying this here, I really miss her and just cant stop thinking about her
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Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I cant stop thinking about her, Ive tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, Im frustrated, I dont see my life with anyone else. Ive done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I cant, I dont know why Im saying this here, I really miss her and just cant stop thinking about her
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Bee
6 months i got out of 8 years relationship she told she doesnt feel the same to me Im 22 now and i cant feel nothing except for anger, grudge and sadness Im working on my self but when my emotions turn a little i just start to feel these feelings quickly I need help! I feel like Im not good enough, I feel like nobody can see how sad Im, my childhood was bad too and I think this is effecting me now Help me I dont know what to do
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6 months i got out of 8 years relationship she told she doesnt feel the same to me Im 22 now and i cant feel nothing except for anger, grudge and sadness Im working on my self but when my emotions turn a little i just start to feel these feelings quickly I need help! I feel like Im not good enough, I feel like nobody can see how sad Im, my childhood was bad too and I think this is effecting me now Help me I dont know what to do
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awsupiburd
There was nothing bad about him. The relationship we had was never toxic and we never argued. He said he didn't have time for me and that it was best for to find someone else who did have time for me. I feel like I'm not being told the real reason why he broke up with or maybe it's just because I don't want to believe it. It was young love anyways. The relationship was probably not meant to last for a long time
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There was nothing bad about him. The relationship we had was never toxic and we never argued. He said he didn't have time for me and that it was best for to find someone else who did have time for me. I feel like I'm not being told the real reason why he broke up with or maybe it's just because I don't want to believe it. It was young love anyways. The relationship was probably not meant to last for a long time
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Jorge
My ex suffered from BPD And Living With It Must Be Hard But It Was Harder For Me Because Not Only Did He Break My Promise But He Just Made Things Worst And resented me and our relationship his Behavior And Actions Were The Reason I Broke Up
But then I discovered he been cheating on me even while seeing me which was just a breaking point and thankfully I have good friends and mutuals that care and support me
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My ex suffered from BPD And Living With It Must Be Hard But It Was Harder For Me Because Not Only Did He Break My Promise But He Just Made Things Worst And resented me and our relationship his Behavior And Actions Were The Reason I Broke Up
But then I discovered he been cheating on me even while seeing me which was just a breaking point and thankfully I have good friends and mutuals that care and support me
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Georgia
I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years. He was at fault. (No cheating) but I love him still so much I want him back but he hasn't done any move which means that he hasn't yet understand all the things that he did and said to me. I'm so confused and sad cause I can't think of another woman holding him but I know I deserve better in general cause I'm genuinely a really good person that wants love, family etc.
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I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years. He was at fault. (No cheating) but I love him still so much I want him back but he hasn't done any move which means that he hasn't yet understand all the things that he did and said to me. I'm so confused and sad cause I can't think of another woman holding him but I know I deserve better in general cause I'm genuinely a really good person that wants love, family etc.
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yellow
but what if the reason we broke up was because of distance, that he was moving away? sure we had our problems (we were both so young, he said it was love at first sight and i wasn't sure what I wanted) and i forgot about him totally, until he came back two years later.
Now in stuck wondering about what we could have been, while he's completely over me. I sent him a message but a cold reply is all i get.
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but what if the reason we broke up was because of distance, that he was moving away? sure we had our problems (we were both so young, he said it was love at first sight and i wasn't sure what I wanted) and i forgot about him totally, until he came back two years later.
Now in stuck wondering about what we could have been, while he's completely over me. I sent him a message but a cold reply is all i get.
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VicandWes
My ex boyfriend told me I dont think Ill ever love every part of your body. Weve been broken up a year and a half and he wants to get back together. He keeps telling me Ive changed, I no longer talk to the girl I had a crush on during our relationship and I will treat you how you deserve to be treated. He doesnt understand why I broke up with him so I told him and he told me youre overreacting
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My ex boyfriend told me I dont think Ill ever love every part of your body. Weve been broken up a year and a half and he wants to get back together. He keeps telling me Ive changed, I no longer talk to the girl I had a crush on during our relationship and I will treat you how you deserve to be treated. He doesnt understand why I broke up with him so I told him and he told me youre overreacting
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Yosh
I wont get into it but its a long story my ex played with my heart made me think we had an amazing future together and after 2. 5 months she reached out and were back together kind of. Shes worked on herself and a better person now and is remorseful and I believe it. Shes with another guy but has a secret thing with me she just cant quit me its an addiction so were giving it another go am I crazy?
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I wont get into it but its a long story my ex played with my heart made me think we had an amazing future together and after 2. 5 months she reached out and were back together kind of. Shes worked on herself and a better person now and is remorseful and I believe it. Shes with another guy but has a secret thing with me she just cant quit me its an addiction so were giving it another go am I crazy?
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Daniel
three years and i was struggling with my feelings and i finally realized that it wasn't worth it she just didn't want me i spent way too much energy for nothing and was thinking about it, she didn't deserve me, now i am so glad that i break up with her because i knew that it will happen any time so glad that i didn't marry her cz i wanted to go for her hand
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three years and i was struggling with my feelings and i finally realized that it wasn't worth it she just didn't want me i spent way too much energy for nothing and was thinking about it, she didn't deserve me, now i am so glad that i break up with her because i knew that it will happen any time so glad that i didn't marry her cz i wanted to go for her hand
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owls0ma
it would be nice if my friends actually listened to this advice but it's like being a superhero. its the same shit over and over again. they fall in love, they break up, they go back to their ex, they break up again, they stay single for a day or more and then repeat. its annoying as hell and I'm sick and tired of dealing with it.
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it would be nice if my friends actually listened to this advice but it's like being a superhero. its the same shit over and over again. they fall in love, they break up, they go back to their ex, they break up again, they stay single for a day or more and then repeat. its annoying as hell and I'm sick and tired of dealing with it.
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Chat's
I think I miss him because of how often he was around me and followed at my heels, it created a routine and now he doesn't want to be around me. Space is important, I know, but I miss the routine, I miss him sitting with me and he was the only one I ever sat with. I need to work on my friendships and sit with other people.
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I think I miss him because of how often he was around me and followed at my heels, it created a routine and now he doesn't want to be around me. Space is important, I know, but I miss the routine, I miss him sitting with me and he was the only one I ever sat with. I need to work on my friendships and sit with other people.
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Yama
Can someone reply?
I suggested me and my boyfriend broke up because I didnt feel loved, and it turns out he fell out of love because I havent spent a lot of physical time with him and his love language is in-person interaction, I want to get him back but should I? It might take some work but I think I can do it
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Can someone reply?
I suggested me and my boyfriend broke up because I didnt feel loved, and it turns out he fell out of love because I havent spent a lot of physical time with him and his love language is in-person interaction, I want to get him back but should I? It might take some work but I think I can do it
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Lauren
I just broke up with my boyfriend. And I cried a lot. It felt like I liked him more than he liked me. Plus we only met online for a week before he aske me out. We dated for less than three months before I felt ignored by him. It was a long distance relationship. Im scared that he won't come back.
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I just broke up with my boyfriend. And I cried a lot. It felt like I liked him more than he liked me. Plus we only met online for a week before he aske me out. We dated for less than three months before I felt ignored by him. It was a long distance relationship. Im scared that he won't come back.
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Scar
Just lost my first love because her parents forced her to break up with me. I treated her right and she treated me right, we loved each other dearly. And for my first relationship, Id say it went pretty long. Hoping maybe someday we could talk again when she moved out of her parents home.
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Just lost my first love because her parents forced her to break up with me. I treated her right and she treated me right, we loved each other dearly. And for my first relationship, Id say it went pretty long. Hoping maybe someday we could talk again when she moved out of her parents home.
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