5 Ways to Talk about Depression with Your Parents (No Music)
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Benny
Ive been suffering from this severe depression lately, I have no emotions and motivation anymore, I have no interest to do the activities and hobbies I used to do, I get overwhelmed easily trying to perform the simplest of task, I dont feel like I am human anymore, The only thing I seem to do and find interest outta it is daydream constantly (Malaptive daydreaming) I just pace around all day back and fourth daydreaming into my own fantasies escaping the reality that Ive been having trouble Face lately. My parents dont seem to have much attention to it, But Im not trying to say theyre all bad, I live a occasionally happy home, My parents arent abusive to me its just that they dont seem to put attention on to my mental health, I understand they have issues to, My family has a lot of financial problems and mental illness (Mental illness runs heavily in my family. But Ive been telling them for years about all the metal problems Ive experienced and have been experiencing, They would make sure to get me the right treatment and fast, And now that Im older and in adolescence they always say Oh its just puberty and/or say just deal with it, I understand puberty could be the cause but I still dont feel like myself anymore and they just dont seem to put the attention into my mental health like they used to. I dont know if its our recent financial problems or if they dont know what to do, Or if they have somewhat of theyre own mental problems, They also say because I have matured over the years they expect me to deal with the endless and constant feeling of depression that adults in theyre 40s would seek out help for. I hate to go up and tell my parents to put more attention on my mental health, like in the video I dont want them to feel bad about their parenting, because theyre very caring, theyre just forgetting about my internal problems.
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Ive been suffering from this severe depression lately, I have no emotions and motivation anymore, I have no interest to do the activities and hobbies I used to do, I get overwhelmed easily trying to perform the simplest of task, I dont feel like I am human anymore, The only thing I seem to do and find interest outta it is daydream constantly (Malaptive daydreaming) I just pace around all day back and fourth daydreaming into my own fantasies escaping the reality that Ive been having trouble Face lately. My parents dont seem to have much attention to it, But Im not trying to say theyre all bad, I live a occasionally happy home, My parents arent abusive to me its just that they dont seem to put attention on to my mental health, I understand they have issues to, My family has a lot of financial problems and mental illness (Mental illness runs heavily in my family. But Ive been telling them for years about all the metal problems Ive experienced and have been experiencing, They would make sure to get me the right treatment and fast, And now that Im older and in adolescence they always say Oh its just puberty and/or say just deal with it, I understand puberty could be the cause but I still dont feel like myself anymore and they just dont seem to put the attention into my mental health like they used to. I dont know if its our recent financial problems or if they dont know what to do, Or if they have somewhat of theyre own mental problems, They also say because I have matured over the years they expect me to deal with the endless and constant feeling of depression that adults in theyre 40s would seek out help for. I hate to go up and tell my parents to put more attention on my mental health, like in the video I dont want them to feel bad about their parenting, because theyre very caring, theyre just forgetting about my internal problems.
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Ami
It's been nearly a year since it happened but I have had a confrontation with my parents. Albeit being completely against my will and that it was one of my friend's parents that told my own. Several months back, during winter break, my mom had shouted to me that something was wrong with me. This wasn't uncommon but it made me look back on everything since the confrontation and I realized that other than my mother saying something along the lines of suicide is a sin and my father promising to let me go to therapy and later forgetting to do so that neither of them had really attempted to comfort or support me. Even during the confrontation, well more like after my friends parent left, my mother kept yelling at me and I remember her saying not to go to the school consular in case they put the fact that I have mental issues on my school record and that prevents me from getting into a good college. At this point I've decided to go to therapy as soon as I can go without my parents knowing and moving out ASAP. I know that I should try to work this out with them but I neither feel safe nor do i trust them enough to do so. I can't remember ever having a good relationship with either of them so what should I do? If you don't know then that's ok. I've been receiving support from friends and I'm probably better than I was before. Oh and thanks for making these videos they've really helped me see how toxic this relationship has become.
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It's been nearly a year since it happened but I have had a confrontation with my parents. Albeit being completely against my will and that it was one of my friend's parents that told my own. Several months back, during winter break, my mom had shouted to me that something was wrong with me. This wasn't uncommon but it made me look back on everything since the confrontation and I realized that other than my mother saying something along the lines of suicide is a sin and my father promising to let me go to therapy and later forgetting to do so that neither of them had really attempted to comfort or support me. Even during the confrontation, well more like after my friends parent left, my mother kept yelling at me and I remember her saying not to go to the school consular in case they put the fact that I have mental issues on my school record and that prevents me from getting into a good college. At this point I've decided to go to therapy as soon as I can go without my parents knowing and moving out ASAP. I know that I should try to work this out with them but I neither feel safe nor do i trust them enough to do so. I can't remember ever having a good relationship with either of them so what should I do? If you don't know then that's ok. I've been receiving support from friends and I'm probably better than I was before. Oh and thanks for making these videos they've really helped me see how toxic this relationship has become.
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Panic!
But Im really young ( not really, Im 11) and I havent been feeling my best. I dont know if this is just a phase but ever since I have turned 8 I slowly changed from a happy little girl to a crying mess. I went to my end-of-school party ( as Im going to secondary school ) and spent all of it crying in the toilets, i felt like I ruined my friends experience by crying, I wasnt worth it for them, I wasnt good enough, they shouldnt hang out with me because I just mess things up and make their lives a living hell. Everyday at school I spend crying in the toilets because of things people have said, just generally not feeling like I should keep trying and needing to cry. Whenever I say I need the toilet my friends have to go with me because they know what Im going to spend my time doing in there. This has been going on for a long time, too long to remember. I get really angry for no reason just because of flipping people or just nothing at all but then I just end up in tears coz I cant express my anger otherwise I will get in trouble, I also have to hold the tears in. I feel like I cant talk to anyone because whenever I try to talk about it to my friends they just blab on about themselves which makes me more angry and makes me feel like I shouldnt bother. I dont know how to tell my mum because Im too young and I dont know if I have it or not. I dont even have a guidance councillor for gods sake. I dont know what to do anymore.
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But Im really young ( not really, Im 11) and I havent been feeling my best. I dont know if this is just a phase but ever since I have turned 8 I slowly changed from a happy little girl to a crying mess. I went to my end-of-school party ( as Im going to secondary school ) and spent all of it crying in the toilets, i felt like I ruined my friends experience by crying, I wasnt worth it for them, I wasnt good enough, they shouldnt hang out with me because I just mess things up and make their lives a living hell. Everyday at school I spend crying in the toilets because of things people have said, just generally not feeling like I should keep trying and needing to cry. Whenever I say I need the toilet my friends have to go with me because they know what Im going to spend my time doing in there. This has been going on for a long time, too long to remember. I get really angry for no reason just because of flipping people or just nothing at all but then I just end up in tears coz I cant express my anger otherwise I will get in trouble, I also have to hold the tears in. I feel like I cant talk to anyone because whenever I try to talk about it to my friends they just blab on about themselves which makes me more angry and makes me feel like I shouldnt bother. I dont know how to tell my mum because Im too young and I dont know if I have it or not. I dont even have a guidance councillor for gods sake. I dont know what to do anymore.
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LiloAndSketch
Im not sure if I do have depression or anxiety but I am going to go to a therapist next month to confirm everything. My mom only knows about it but its kind of obvious that she disapproves of it. Being the familys happy baby makes it hard for them to believe Im not exactly happy. Every time I try to start a conversation with my family, they cut me off and start telling me that Im just exaggerating and for the longest time, I believed them.
I mean I do get out of bed but thats because I know Ill be yelled at if I dont. and I used to think about not living anymore but I told myself that thats not exactly suicidal thoughts, I just want the problem to go away not to take my own life. But lately, Ive been freaking out because every time I see knives and shard objects, especially when Im feeling down, it looks so inviting and I unconsciously want to grab it and hurt myself.
Im actually looking forward for my first appointment and I hope Im just overthinking everything.
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Im not sure if I do have depression or anxiety but I am going to go to a therapist next month to confirm everything. My mom only knows about it but its kind of obvious that she disapproves of it. Being the familys happy baby makes it hard for them to believe Im not exactly happy. Every time I try to start a conversation with my family, they cut me off and start telling me that Im just exaggerating and for the longest time, I believed them.
I mean I do get out of bed but thats because I know Ill be yelled at if I dont. and I used to think about not living anymore but I told myself that thats not exactly suicidal thoughts, I just want the problem to go away not to take my own life. But lately, Ive been freaking out because every time I see knives and shard objects, especially when Im feeling down, it looks so inviting and I unconsciously want to grab it and hurt myself.
Im actually looking forward for my first appointment and I hope Im just overthinking everything.
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Nanaughty
I doesn't have mom. And my father always beat up me ever since we have mom or not he still same. The sad thing is I'm depression. I always get lonely even it in school or at home. The one that make smile always is my little sister, 5 years old and my little brother 15 years old. And I still 16 years old. Even I want to talk to my grandmom at my father side, she just love to get me more hurt and she also always make me get beat up from my father. Nowadays I'm trying just sit in my room. About 3 days K don't come to school. Because I feel afraid and nervous at the same time. And my weight get loss. I keep thinking how to make them happy. But one day I get out in my room cause I was thirsty and my father jut come out from his room and angry to me and I get beat up from him at my cheek. I'm crying a loud. Then when I got a chance, I run to my room and start to crying. I miss my mom. For you guys know my mom had passed away about 4 years.
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I doesn't have mom. And my father always beat up me ever since we have mom or not he still same. The sad thing is I'm depression. I always get lonely even it in school or at home. The one that make smile always is my little sister, 5 years old and my little brother 15 years old. And I still 16 years old. Even I want to talk to my grandmom at my father side, she just love to get me more hurt and she also always make me get beat up from my father. Nowadays I'm trying just sit in my room. About 3 days K don't come to school. Because I feel afraid and nervous at the same time. And my weight get loss. I keep thinking how to make them happy. But one day I get out in my room cause I was thirsty and my father jut come out from his room and angry to me and I get beat up from him at my cheek. I'm crying a loud. Then when I got a chance, I run to my room and start to crying. I miss my mom. For you guys know my mom had passed away about 4 years.
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its4nge
my mom and her boyfriend say that it's my fault that i'm depressed and that i'm the only one who can fix it but they honestly do not understand; they say that they do, but they really don't. they think-- well, her boyfriend thinks that i am depressed as a cry for help and that i'm just looking for attention. i can't trust them because whenever i try to talk to them about it, they bash me and sometimes i lash out and it leads them to not care even more. i just feel like nothing. also, when i tell my mom or dad that i want to die, but i don't want to kill myself, they both say that it's selfish but i can't explain it any better. i just don't want to be in this world because i can't get proper help (i see a therapist but everytime i see her, it's like i can't explain these things in the moment and i feel helpless right away after the session.
my parents think this is a phase. no, no it's not.
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my mom and her boyfriend say that it's my fault that i'm depressed and that i'm the only one who can fix it but they honestly do not understand; they say that they do, but they really don't. they think-- well, her boyfriend thinks that i am depressed as a cry for help and that i'm just looking for attention. i can't trust them because whenever i try to talk to them about it, they bash me and sometimes i lash out and it leads them to not care even more. i just feel like nothing. also, when i tell my mom or dad that i want to die, but i don't want to kill myself, they both say that it's selfish but i can't explain it any better. i just don't want to be in this world because i can't get proper help (i see a therapist but everytime i see her, it's like i can't explain these things in the moment and i feel helpless right away after the session.
my parents think this is a phase. no, no it's not.
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darshan
My mum and my brother just ignores the fact that I have depression and tried to commit suicide and now I think they might have forgotten that I have told them something about it. Many things had happened when I told them about it but I don't want to bore anyone by telling about it. So telling them didn't work for me and its already been a year. I am still suffering from depression and anxiety and I self harm to cope with it. I know when it will get too much I will just snap and commit suicide. But till then I will just wait for it to happen and the courage needed to do it.
I am a 15 year old girl so many say it's just a phase or trying to get attention but I know what it is. If you read this, thank you for taking your time to read this and sorry because I wasted your precious time.
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My mum and my brother just ignores the fact that I have depression and tried to commit suicide and now I think they might have forgotten that I have told them something about it. Many things had happened when I told them about it but I don't want to bore anyone by telling about it. So telling them didn't work for me and its already been a year. I am still suffering from depression and anxiety and I self harm to cope with it. I know when it will get too much I will just snap and commit suicide. But till then I will just wait for it to happen and the courage needed to do it.
I am a 15 year old girl so many say it's just a phase or trying to get attention but I know what it is. If you read this, thank you for taking your time to read this and sorry because I wasted your precious time.
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YoOoOo
Sorry for my bad English, I'm a Mexican girl. ok, I am 25 years old, I have depression, I am infp, I have a dysfunctional family, I tried to commit suicide 2 times. The first one at 15, they helped me a few months and they forgot it. The second time was a couple of months before going to work, I did not succeed, and I went to seek psychological help at a university. When I went back to the house and explained what happened, my mom said, and that's why you did not go to work? I felt devastated. I mean, I was about to die and did not feel empathy or something. I was under psychiatric treatment for my depression and I took pills, I left them because my family made fun of my condition. I really can not anymore. I need to vent to someone, sorry. :(
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Sorry for my bad English, I'm a Mexican girl. ok, I am 25 years old, I have depression, I am infp, I have a dysfunctional family, I tried to commit suicide 2 times. The first one at 15, they helped me a few months and they forgot it. The second time was a couple of months before going to work, I did not succeed, and I went to seek psychological help at a university. When I went back to the house and explained what happened, my mom said, and that's why you did not go to work? I felt devastated. I mean, I was about to die and did not feel empathy or something. I was under psychiatric treatment for my depression and I took pills, I left them because my family made fun of my condition. I really can not anymore. I need to vent to someone, sorry. :(
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leah
honestly, i really needed this. thank you for putting your time and effort into such an informative video. ive been very anxious about bringing my mental health into the conversation with my parents. my mum has multiple severe mental health disorders and has been living in an institution for around three and a half years, and was in and out of the psych ward multiple years before that. because of this, im hesitant to talk about the possibility of a disorder with me. i dont want to become another statistic, saying that children of mentally ill parents end up the same way. while my childhood was by no means easy, i know that both my mother and my father tried their absolute best for me. i dont want them to think their efforts went unnoticed.
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honestly, i really needed this. thank you for putting your time and effort into such an informative video. ive been very anxious about bringing my mental health into the conversation with my parents. my mum has multiple severe mental health disorders and has been living in an institution for around three and a half years, and was in and out of the psych ward multiple years before that. because of this, im hesitant to talk about the possibility of a disorder with me. i dont want to become another statistic, saying that children of mentally ill parents end up the same way. while my childhood was by no means easy, i know that both my mother and my father tried their absolute best for me. i dont want them to think their efforts went unnoticed.
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dont
What if. they don't count my opinion as. idk. valid? And this depression isn't a habit anymore. it's CHRONIC. I have a lot and I mean A LOT of symptoms for Bipolar Disorder/Manic Depression and. I don't even know what to do. it's scary and there's no one in real life to help me. I don't even know how to get to a doctor. how can. be solved? . and I am really nothing lately. and they hate me even more but I just give up for them sacrificing but. they hate me more and more and it's just so hurtful that. I sometimes wish for an end.
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What if. they don't count my opinion as. idk. valid? And this depression isn't a habit anymore. it's CHRONIC. I have a lot and I mean A LOT of symptoms for Bipolar Disorder/Manic Depression and. I don't even know what to do. it's scary and there's no one in real life to help me. I don't even know how to get to a doctor. how can. be solved? . and I am really nothing lately. and they hate me even more but I just give up for them sacrificing but. they hate me more and more and it's just so hurtful that. I sometimes wish for an end.
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djdjdhsh
hi there! i never had the luxury of telling my parents myself. They found out about my self harm several weeks after the last time i did it. Its been two months or so, and im still clean. They treat me with too much care, like im broken glass, and they blame themselves for my mental state. if they really feel so bad, why havent they taken me to a professional? i allready got to the doctor for skin reasons, which are minor and can be easily canceled and replaced with tharapy. isnt my menal health more important? Please help!
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hi there! i never had the luxury of telling my parents myself. They found out about my self harm several weeks after the last time i did it. Its been two months or so, and im still clean. They treat me with too much care, like im broken glass, and they blame themselves for my mental state. if they really feel so bad, why havent they taken me to a professional? i allready got to the doctor for skin reasons, which are minor and can be easily canceled and replaced with tharapy. isnt my menal health more important? Please help!
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Myst
According to my mom I started having showing signs of depression when I was in 9th grade but Im remember having thoughts of hopelessness when I was in 6th and only six months ago I started therapy but even then when i breakdown its my fault because I don't look on the bright side. She also had depression and had her turn of going through the process of recovery. Yeah she struggles and keeps going but still I need time to get there and she doesn't get that which makes me feel pretty down.
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According to my mom I started having showing signs of depression when I was in 9th grade but Im remember having thoughts of hopelessness when I was in 6th and only six months ago I started therapy but even then when i breakdown its my fault because I don't look on the bright side. She also had depression and had her turn of going through the process of recovery. Yeah she struggles and keeps going but still I need time to get there and she doesn't get that which makes me feel pretty down.
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stay
my doctor and parents are trying to find a physiatrist for me because they suspect that i have depression (i don't really know what to think about that, and my mom sometimes asks me why i feel lonely and sad at times. it's not hard to explain, but it's just hard to talk about (i don't know if you get it or not lmao. it makes me feel really uncomfortable and i always feel like if i try to explain, they won't get it. so we just don't talk about it anymore.
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my doctor and parents are trying to find a physiatrist for me because they suspect that i have depression (i don't really know what to think about that, and my mom sometimes asks me why i feel lonely and sad at times. it's not hard to explain, but it's just hard to talk about (i don't know if you get it or not lmao. it makes me feel really uncomfortable and i always feel like if i try to explain, they won't get it. so we just don't talk about it anymore.
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OKIKIPO
I'm having trouble finding out what I feel, I can't even define what I feel anymore, I usually bottle up my feelings and convince myself that I'm happy, try to be as ignorant as possible, but in the end, sometimes I break down, I still don't know why or how to solve this problem, I have general anxiety and self harm, but I don't even think I have anything, I mean, I have all I need, I have a nice life, tho I'm like the weirdo in my class: (
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I'm having trouble finding out what I feel, I can't even define what I feel anymore, I usually bottle up my feelings and convince myself that I'm happy, try to be as ignorant as possible, but in the end, sometimes I break down, I still don't know why or how to solve this problem, I have general anxiety and self harm, but I don't even think I have anything, I mean, I have all I need, I have a nice life, tho I'm like the weirdo in my class: (
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LazIsme
I wanted to tell my parents about my deppression but i remember everytime when i think abot telling my deppression i remembered when i was little my sister told my mom aboit her deppression then my mom got really mad she said that you think you have everyhting worse? ###(hername) i go to work to 6am to 5pm and she said all of her problems with us. and ever since im scared if ill even ever get cured.
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I wanted to tell my parents about my deppression but i remember everytime when i think abot telling my deppression i remembered when i was little my sister told my mom aboit her deppression then my mom got really mad she said that you think you have everyhting worse? ###(hername) i go to work to 6am to 5pm and she said all of her problems with us. and ever since im scared if ill even ever get cured.
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Pasquelz
Depression causes a lot of issues for me when doing simple everyday tasks such as getting out of bed.
My dad always looks at my mental illness as an excuse, and he blames me for every single symptom I experience. He even talks to my therapists and just. convinces them I'm doing this to myself. I want privacy, and a professional I can talk to that my dad can't talk to the way he always does.
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Depression causes a lot of issues for me when doing simple everyday tasks such as getting out of bed.
My dad always looks at my mental illness as an excuse, and he blames me for every single symptom I experience. He even talks to my therapists and just. convinces them I'm doing this to myself. I want privacy, and a professional I can talk to that my dad can't talk to the way he always does.
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Dee
What about when you live in a POC household where the topic of mental illnesses doesnt even breach their mind, that the topic of depression is automatically thought of as being crazy, or anxiety as being shy, or bipolar as having anger issues. Im being told that I havent reached an age to be stressed out enough, or tired to where I sleep until 5pm each day. That I shouldnt be so exhausted mentally.
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What about when you live in a POC household where the topic of mental illnesses doesnt even breach their mind, that the topic of depression is automatically thought of as being crazy, or anxiety as being shy, or bipolar as having anger issues. Im being told that I havent reached an age to be stressed out enough, or tired to where I sleep until 5pm each day. That I shouldnt be so exhausted mentally.
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Michael
I dont necessarily have a bad relationship with my parents, but my parents barely talk to one another (caused by years of bad communication and a huge fight, its been going on for years now, and overtime i feel that my relationship with each of them is weakening. Now I'm searching everywhere: how do you get your parents to want to fix their relationship?
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I dont necessarily have a bad relationship with my parents, but my parents barely talk to one another (caused by years of bad communication and a huge fight, its been going on for years now, and overtime i feel that my relationship with each of them is weakening. Now I'm searching everywhere: how do you get your parents to want to fix their relationship?
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Abigail
I worry when I try to tell people about my depression. So far I have told two people so far in the 3 years I have had it and they have already forgot. So I dont wanna tell anyone because it will make me feel worried. Also my mum is a single mum with no job and 3 kids so I dont want to put her under any more stress or more worry.
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I worry when I try to tell people about my depression. So far I have told two people so far in the 3 years I have had it and they have already forgot. So I dont wanna tell anyone because it will make me feel worried. Also my mum is a single mum with no job and 3 kids so I dont want to put her under any more stress or more worry.
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very
I've told my parents that I believe i have depression but my parents don't believe in it. The amount of times I've joked about kms around my parents isn't even funny, they think everything is a joke. If I ever really pushed the issue of me having depression and got a teacher or something involved. oof my mom would flip out
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I've told my parents that I believe i have depression but my parents don't believe in it. The amount of times I've joked about kms around my parents isn't even funny, they think everything is a joke. If I ever really pushed the issue of me having depression and got a teacher or something involved. oof my mom would flip out
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Royale
But, my mom would never believe me because I act strong, smile and look happy but I have no emotion and Im dead inside. Shed never believe me and say you looked it up on the internet so you think you have it but you dont. I think Ill just keep acting and Ill be fine but good animating on the video, keep up the good work!
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But, my mom would never believe me because I act strong, smile and look happy but I have no emotion and Im dead inside. Shed never believe me and say you looked it up on the internet so you think you have it but you dont. I think Ill just keep acting and Ill be fine but good animating on the video, keep up the good work!
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Amrin
I tried to tell them but after that they just ignored me for a few days, so I didn't bother anymore. I still suffer with depression, anxiety and insomnia to this day, I don't know what to do, I don't want to get a therapist bc of legal reasons. I know it's bad to bottle up your feelings but I have no one to talk to. help
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I tried to tell them but after that they just ignored me for a few days, so I didn't bother anymore. I still suffer with depression, anxiety and insomnia to this day, I don't know what to do, I don't want to get a therapist bc of legal reasons. I know it's bad to bottle up your feelings but I have no one to talk to. help
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V10letta
Ive been dealing with this for a while now. most of my friends think its fake, counsels think its normal, my own brother thinks im emotional. I need to know what to say please help me. I cant do it alone my mind keeps on trying to break me down i need their help but o go numb whenever i try to talk. please help me.
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Ive been dealing with this for a while now. most of my friends think its fake, counsels think its normal, my own brother thinks im emotional. I need to know what to say please help me. I cant do it alone my mind keeps on trying to break me down i need their help but o go numb whenever i try to talk. please help me.
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Rianna
How should I bring up the topic? I've not spoken to a professional but I went to the er with breathing troubles and they said it was most likely anxiety. Things have gotten worse since then and I'm starting to think they we're right. I also think I may be depressed but I don't know how to bring up the conversation.
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How should I bring up the topic? I've not spoken to a professional but I went to the er with breathing troubles and they said it was most likely anxiety. Things have gotten worse since then and I'm starting to think they we're right. I also think I may be depressed but I don't know how to bring up the conversation.
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Paula
I tried talking to my parents about it (twice now) but they don't believe me, they get angry and tell me I'm being dramatic which makes me doubt sometimes if I have a problem or making this up, even though every video I've seen about depression (and anxiety) fits with how I feel.
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I tried talking to my parents about it (twice now) but they don't believe me, they get angry and tell me I'm being dramatic which makes me doubt sometimes if I have a problem or making this up, even though every video I've seen about depression (and anxiety) fits with how I feel.
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