6 Side Effects of Toxic families
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Joe
I'm a 17 years old kid gonna be 18 in a few months. I'm still living with my family. But inside, i'm really feel like i want to move out as soon as i feel ready to do it. Because i have a feeling that my family might be toxic. Since i was born i've always been the typical good kid who always follows orders and not asking questions. (It changed a little bit since i'm a teenager but you know what mean) because that good kid thinks no matter what opinion you have. You always have to listen to adults and other people because some of them are grown ups, and they always know better than you. Not matter if even that adult person is very abusive. A teacher, a friend a grandfather, etc. etc. Which in my opinion that's what it lead me to low self-esteem and anxiety. I'm very calm, i don't talk to much. I'd rather be more alone with my inner thoughts. And even though that i have been made a lot of connections to a lot of people, inside, i don't feel like i have much/real friends. Don't get me wrong i don't say my parents are abusive. I just feel like my mom and dad can't get along with each other. That my father is not happy with his current relationship with my mother. He Even said it by himself when i asked him about this. My mom is just simply lazy at home she doesn't help. She only watches TV and sleeps day in day out. Just only when my father forces her to do something for her own use. He even forced her to get a job, or they will broke up. And my father is like a slave at home because he has to clean up all the trash that my mother makes at home. (Like literally) And i really want to help my dad with anything i can because i think he's a good person after all. Cleaning dishes, move the trash out, paying the bills, etc. But both my parents seems they don't want me to get involve into these stuff. My mom once was cleaning the dishes at my grandfather's house and i said: Can i help you with those dishes? And she responded like: No, you can't. Once you learned how to do it, you can! My inner thoughts was like: But if you don't let me to do it, than how am i even supposed to learn to do? Btw when i'm home alone, i'm used to clean dishes at home while my parents had other things to do. It's like my way of prooving to them that i can do something too. I feel like i have a lots of things that most normal people can do already at this age but i can't. And not gonna lie you can laugh as much as you want, but almost as a 18 years old kid, i don't even know how to tie my own shoes! Or how to start a washing machine. And i don't even know many streets at the city i'm living at the moment. I feel like i'm on a dog leash and my masters keep telling me where to go, where not to go. Or otherwise, i'll be lost. Because all i was doing is to let others tell me what the hell should i do in my whole life while nothing changes. And i know that i can't have controll on every tiny little thing in this world, but at least i want to have a little freedom. To be on my own and do as the way as i think it should be done. I've always had this fear (and still am) that i might let my parents feel disapointed at me with my own choices i make. Or even worse, broke their heart. That's why i feel like i haven't had that much freedom to speak up and didn't do much for it. And that's what i really want to change on me.
Sorry if i have bad english people! I hope it's still understandable what i'm trying to say. Watch out and take care!
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I'm a 17 years old kid gonna be 18 in a few months. I'm still living with my family. But inside, i'm really feel like i want to move out as soon as i feel ready to do it. Because i have a feeling that my family might be toxic. Since i was born i've always been the typical good kid who always follows orders and not asking questions. (It changed a little bit since i'm a teenager but you know what mean) because that good kid thinks no matter what opinion you have. You always have to listen to adults and other people because some of them are grown ups, and they always know better than you. Not matter if even that adult person is very abusive. A teacher, a friend a grandfather, etc. etc. Which in my opinion that's what it lead me to low self-esteem and anxiety. I'm very calm, i don't talk to much. I'd rather be more alone with my inner thoughts. And even though that i have been made a lot of connections to a lot of people, inside, i don't feel like i have much/real friends. Don't get me wrong i don't say my parents are abusive. I just feel like my mom and dad can't get along with each other. That my father is not happy with his current relationship with my mother. He Even said it by himself when i asked him about this. My mom is just simply lazy at home she doesn't help. She only watches TV and sleeps day in day out. Just only when my father forces her to do something for her own use. He even forced her to get a job, or they will broke up. And my father is like a slave at home because he has to clean up all the trash that my mother makes at home. (Like literally) And i really want to help my dad with anything i can because i think he's a good person after all. Cleaning dishes, move the trash out, paying the bills, etc. But both my parents seems they don't want me to get involve into these stuff. My mom once was cleaning the dishes at my grandfather's house and i said: Can i help you with those dishes? And she responded like: No, you can't. Once you learned how to do it, you can! My inner thoughts was like: But if you don't let me to do it, than how am i even supposed to learn to do? Btw when i'm home alone, i'm used to clean dishes at home while my parents had other things to do. It's like my way of prooving to them that i can do something too. I feel like i have a lots of things that most normal people can do already at this age but i can't. And not gonna lie you can laugh as much as you want, but almost as a 18 years old kid, i don't even know how to tie my own shoes! Or how to start a washing machine. And i don't even know many streets at the city i'm living at the moment. I feel like i'm on a dog leash and my masters keep telling me where to go, where not to go. Or otherwise, i'll be lost. Because all i was doing is to let others tell me what the hell should i do in my whole life while nothing changes. And i know that i can't have controll on every tiny little thing in this world, but at least i want to have a little freedom. To be on my own and do as the way as i think it should be done. I've always had this fear (and still am) that i might let my parents feel disapointed at me with my own choices i make. Or even worse, broke their heart. That's why i feel like i haven't had that much freedom to speak up and didn't do much for it. And that's what i really want to change on me.
Sorry if i have bad english people! I hope it's still understandable what i'm trying to say. Watch out and take care!
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Darkgeem
I've always had an overprotective mother, an absent father (I mean, I liked him, but I've always been told he didn't want me as a child, and he didn't do anything for anyone, so as a kid, I believed it and put my feelings away, and have always been talked out of my questioning by my siblings.
Until I realized my mother wasn't overprotective, she was toxic. And my father wasn't absent, he was a victim, as much as I was, and as much as one of my sisters was.
My parents divorced 7 years ago, and I had to live solely with my mother, but the little time I had with my father (about a week once every other month) was, even if I just sat and rested all that time, felt so great, a relief.
Around 5 years ago, my sister got into a relationship that would make her realize our mother's manipulative tendencies, and notice I've been in the same situation she was in, except I had even less space for emotional distancing as I lived with her. 2 years ago, my sister cut all contact with my mother, and moved to another region (until then, she was still living only a few kilometers from us)
I'm now 21 (majority here is 18, and thanks to some wonderful people, a great apprenticeship school (infosec school) with per-student guidance I'll be joining in a few weeks, and my mother and the two other sister I have 's will to move out to another region, all of that happening at the same time, for the first time of my life, my mother painfully agreed to let me have an apartment of my own while studying because I won't be in the same region as her anymore.
I've known this since May, and since May, the more time passed, the more I was prone to mental, physical (denying me being sick even when the doctor said it could be very serious, and verbal abuse as she knew I was getting away from her grip.
I now live with my father until I find a decent apartment near my school and workplace, and for the first time of my life, I can see the light, the end of constant stress, anxiety, wondering what she would invent to make me suffer, and avoiding interaction with her the most I could.
Besides that, I've had diabetes since 2013, and it only got worse year after year, because I wouldn't even have the energy, or will, to take care of it, even if I perfectly knew the theory, voluntarily stopping insulin intake sometimes, just to get to the hospital, where she wasn't. About 10-15 times, going as far as comatose 4 times. And no, I didn't want to die, and it wasn't an attempt to end my life.
I've been stable and kept my blood sugar at normal levels ever since I've really started seeing that escape door.
I can finally start living my life, at the age of 21.
It's such a relief.
For people who are desperate and so down they think it will never end, know that you aren't alone. Someday, you'll find someone who will get you out of this, or an opportunity you just have to take, even if it seems like a mountain at start, you can take it. You deserve to live your own life, you deserve love, and, it's okay to be yourself.
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I've always had an overprotective mother, an absent father (I mean, I liked him, but I've always been told he didn't want me as a child, and he didn't do anything for anyone, so as a kid, I believed it and put my feelings away, and have always been talked out of my questioning by my siblings.
Until I realized my mother wasn't overprotective, she was toxic. And my father wasn't absent, he was a victim, as much as I was, and as much as one of my sisters was.
My parents divorced 7 years ago, and I had to live solely with my mother, but the little time I had with my father (about a week once every other month) was, even if I just sat and rested all that time, felt so great, a relief.
Around 5 years ago, my sister got into a relationship that would make her realize our mother's manipulative tendencies, and notice I've been in the same situation she was in, except I had even less space for emotional distancing as I lived with her. 2 years ago, my sister cut all contact with my mother, and moved to another region (until then, she was still living only a few kilometers from us)
I'm now 21 (majority here is 18, and thanks to some wonderful people, a great apprenticeship school (infosec school) with per-student guidance I'll be joining in a few weeks, and my mother and the two other sister I have 's will to move out to another region, all of that happening at the same time, for the first time of my life, my mother painfully agreed to let me have an apartment of my own while studying because I won't be in the same region as her anymore.
I've known this since May, and since May, the more time passed, the more I was prone to mental, physical (denying me being sick even when the doctor said it could be very serious, and verbal abuse as she knew I was getting away from her grip.
I now live with my father until I find a decent apartment near my school and workplace, and for the first time of my life, I can see the light, the end of constant stress, anxiety, wondering what she would invent to make me suffer, and avoiding interaction with her the most I could.
Besides that, I've had diabetes since 2013, and it only got worse year after year, because I wouldn't even have the energy, or will, to take care of it, even if I perfectly knew the theory, voluntarily stopping insulin intake sometimes, just to get to the hospital, where she wasn't. About 10-15 times, going as far as comatose 4 times. And no, I didn't want to die, and it wasn't an attempt to end my life.
I've been stable and kept my blood sugar at normal levels ever since I've really started seeing that escape door.
I can finally start living my life, at the age of 21.
It's such a relief.
For people who are desperate and so down they think it will never end, know that you aren't alone. Someday, you'll find someone who will get you out of this, or an opportunity you just have to take, even if it seems like a mountain at start, you can take it. You deserve to live your own life, you deserve love, and, it's okay to be yourself.
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Sethulakshmy
What would we do if we belongs to a conservative brown family which inject negativity inside you everyday no matter whatever you do and there is a pandemic hence the moving out is quite impossible? My father is the most selfish person I have seen in my life. My mother put up with him and died after 25 years of marriage because he ignored the medical emergency that she needed. He has property but refused to give it up hence not doing anything to get me married off since there is a dowry culture in our nation. I am against that culture but when the legal right to the property has been demanded then he refused it since I am a girl. My brother is the most negative person in the world and I am suffering from the gas lighting and guilt tripping every single day. Even if I try to make myself positive and do everything to make these people happy by everything I know there was always been ignorance and lack of respect in every possible way. My brother wanted to get married but he blame me because I am his responsibility and I am still in the house. I am a doctoral student in a foreign university and doing my studies online due to the travel restriction. I am pursuing my studies only due to the 100% fee weave and scholarship I receive. If I had to ask them for any help then I would not be even doing this. I have been looking after my living and educational expenses ever since my mother died using my study grants and fellowships. If I ever asked them why didn't they support me in any way, they will tell they did not say no to my career options and hence I am indebted to them for my achievements. I wanted to move out. I don't know if it is possible since it is not a practice in our culture. Also, due to the pandemic situation, the moving out is difficult 10 times. Any good advice? I know if I waited for some more time the restriction will be lifted and I could finally be free from these people. But I don't know how long I can hold on to this!
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What would we do if we belongs to a conservative brown family which inject negativity inside you everyday no matter whatever you do and there is a pandemic hence the moving out is quite impossible? My father is the most selfish person I have seen in my life. My mother put up with him and died after 25 years of marriage because he ignored the medical emergency that she needed. He has property but refused to give it up hence not doing anything to get me married off since there is a dowry culture in our nation. I am against that culture but when the legal right to the property has been demanded then he refused it since I am a girl. My brother is the most negative person in the world and I am suffering from the gas lighting and guilt tripping every single day. Even if I try to make myself positive and do everything to make these people happy by everything I know there was always been ignorance and lack of respect in every possible way. My brother wanted to get married but he blame me because I am his responsibility and I am still in the house. I am a doctoral student in a foreign university and doing my studies online due to the travel restriction. I am pursuing my studies only due to the 100% fee weave and scholarship I receive. If I had to ask them for any help then I would not be even doing this. I have been looking after my living and educational expenses ever since my mother died using my study grants and fellowships. If I ever asked them why didn't they support me in any way, they will tell they did not say no to my career options and hence I am indebted to them for my achievements. I wanted to move out. I don't know if it is possible since it is not a practice in our culture. Also, due to the pandemic situation, the moving out is difficult 10 times. Any good advice? I know if I waited for some more time the restriction will be lifted and I could finally be free from these people. But I don't know how long I can hold on to this!
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Maharana
I have joint family and they are very very toxic and see my father don't say a little word to them, they use us my parents and siblings like servants, don't treat like family even my grandparents they are super toxic, insecure, selfish, cruel and very self centred
Bcoz of that seeing their real colours i got severe panic attacks and admitted to hospital. i used to be very sweet and loving but now i am too introvert, reserved. now i have trust issues and don't even wanna to make friends so for now i don't have friends and a family member on which i can rely much. my mom says that i am now spoiled bcoz she want me to stay away from that matters but i want to keep distance with those toxic people and don't involve with them in any talk. mom says that i have become mature so early but what to do if i have family like this. she didn't have that type of family in her childhood. so my first mantra become don't let anyone make use of me. that's it
I am in depression since 2. 5 years and have low self esteem issues and self doubt. i have no courage of telling someone mu opinions and ideas bcoz my father keep putting us down that i have no confidence. he says that u are only bookworm not practical, fool, useless etc. just bcoz he is alrounder in our family doesn't mean that we don't know anything. he is so abusive in that manner that seeing him my toxic so called family also treat us like that bcoz my father treat us in that way. as we have not support of my dad.
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I have joint family and they are very very toxic and see my father don't say a little word to them, they use us my parents and siblings like servants, don't treat like family even my grandparents they are super toxic, insecure, selfish, cruel and very self centred
Bcoz of that seeing their real colours i got severe panic attacks and admitted to hospital. i used to be very sweet and loving but now i am too introvert, reserved. now i have trust issues and don't even wanna to make friends so for now i don't have friends and a family member on which i can rely much. my mom says that i am now spoiled bcoz she want me to stay away from that matters but i want to keep distance with those toxic people and don't involve with them in any talk. mom says that i have become mature so early but what to do if i have family like this. she didn't have that type of family in her childhood. so my first mantra become don't let anyone make use of me. that's it
I am in depression since 2. 5 years and have low self esteem issues and self doubt. i have no courage of telling someone mu opinions and ideas bcoz my father keep putting us down that i have no confidence. he says that u are only bookworm not practical, fool, useless etc. just bcoz he is alrounder in our family doesn't mean that we don't know anything. he is so abusive in that manner that seeing him my toxic so called family also treat us like that bcoz my father treat us in that way. as we have not support of my dad.
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ToukaTouka
I think gaslighting counts as toxicity, right?
Whenever my dad and I are fixing something, or doing something together, when it goes wrong (most of the the time something decides to mess up) he blames me, including the times where it's his fault. As a result, I kind of started walking around eggshells around him. I also thought that maybe if I didn't make any mistakes, he wouldn't feel the need to yell at me, so I tried to be perfect. When he saw I was trying to be perfect, and I was getting A's and things like that, he also started demanding perfection. I've been backsliding lately because I can no longer function with people (yay) and he's doing it again, saying that it's my fault I can't function around people and I should stop being shy. Welp, I might have AvPD (emphasis on the might) so I don't think it's that easy. Maybe I would feel at least a little better if he could tell me that I, regardless of perfection, was enough and actually mean it.
(Sorry this is so long, I maybe should've shortened it)
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I think gaslighting counts as toxicity, right?
Whenever my dad and I are fixing something, or doing something together, when it goes wrong (most of the the time something decides to mess up) he blames me, including the times where it's his fault. As a result, I kind of started walking around eggshells around him. I also thought that maybe if I didn't make any mistakes, he wouldn't feel the need to yell at me, so I tried to be perfect. When he saw I was trying to be perfect, and I was getting A's and things like that, he also started demanding perfection. I've been backsliding lately because I can no longer function with people (yay) and he's doing it again, saying that it's my fault I can't function around people and I should stop being shy. Welp, I might have AvPD (emphasis on the might) so I don't think it's that easy. Maybe I would feel at least a little better if he could tell me that I, regardless of perfection, was enough and actually mean it.
(Sorry this is so long, I maybe should've shortened it)
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Wayne
I have experianced all 6 of those side effects. My father never appresiated me for who I am as an indevidual. I was alnost allways afraid of him, yet he wonders why it seems like I'm builing a wall around me. Ho, how I wished I could say to him It's to protect me from you! but I was even more afraid of telling him that. He would beet me a lot for years while growing up. The step mother was almost as bad if not worse. She's the reason I never went to high school. The step sister was a real nightmare. She would constantly hurras me for hours every chance she gets. I know I was born with a developmental disabillity which is why many kids I've met would hurras and bully me. Maybe this is the reason I can't seen to astablish a long term relationship with a person I really like. That could meen having to cut all ties with my real mother (who I love so dearly, my sister and my brother.
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I have experianced all 6 of those side effects. My father never appresiated me for who I am as an indevidual. I was alnost allways afraid of him, yet he wonders why it seems like I'm builing a wall around me. Ho, how I wished I could say to him It's to protect me from you! but I was even more afraid of telling him that. He would beet me a lot for years while growing up. The step mother was almost as bad if not worse. She's the reason I never went to high school. The step sister was a real nightmare. She would constantly hurras me for hours every chance she gets. I know I was born with a developmental disabillity which is why many kids I've met would hurras and bully me. Maybe this is the reason I can't seen to astablish a long term relationship with a person I really like. That could meen having to cut all ties with my real mother (who I love so dearly, my sister and my brother.
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Lu
After moving out of a very toxic home (I am 35) I try the least to stop by my parents home because of the toxicity that still happens. Parents fought all the time since I was a child until LITERALLY two weeks before I moved out! ( over 30 years) my sister is a narcissist and so is my father. My youngest brother is so damaged that he is trying to survive living there. My other brother moved out and has a family and is making sure to break every toxic cycle we grew up in. I feel like its taken me years to heal and unlearn patterns of toxicity. It might take me my whole life to heal and maybe theres sum irreparable damage from all the years of abuse I suffered but I am EXTREMELY thankful that I left I feel like a free bird that is out of the miserable cage I was placed in! I am a survivor and so are you ALL! You will get through this!
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After moving out of a very toxic home (I am 35) I try the least to stop by my parents home because of the toxicity that still happens. Parents fought all the time since I was a child until LITERALLY two weeks before I moved out! ( over 30 years) my sister is a narcissist and so is my father. My youngest brother is so damaged that he is trying to survive living there. My other brother moved out and has a family and is making sure to break every toxic cycle we grew up in. I feel like its taken me years to heal and unlearn patterns of toxicity. It might take me my whole life to heal and maybe theres sum irreparable damage from all the years of abuse I suffered but I am EXTREMELY thankful that I left I feel like a free bird that is out of the miserable cage I was placed in! I am a survivor and so are you ALL! You will get through this!
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Yuma
My aunt made me feel so useless at cleaning my bathroom that I still can't seem to clean it right, even to this day. My toilet seat is getting moldy due to my bathroom issues combined with this problem. I have had a migraine for over 3 weeks, only able to eat, drink, and sleep. I still have a migraine, but it is a light one. I still have to have the lights off, as it is extreme. Light sensitivity, feeling like I'm going to puke (if not outright puking, bathroom issues (the runs, body pain, and at times my chest even starts to hurt. The butt pain also comes on sunddenly, but never last longer than 5 minutes. It's a pain in the butt (pun intended, though spot on too) to deal with and I'm about to go back to bed despite it being only about 10 in the morning. This issue is wearing me out.
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My aunt made me feel so useless at cleaning my bathroom that I still can't seem to clean it right, even to this day. My toilet seat is getting moldy due to my bathroom issues combined with this problem. I have had a migraine for over 3 weeks, only able to eat, drink, and sleep. I still have a migraine, but it is a light one. I still have to have the lights off, as it is extreme. Light sensitivity, feeling like I'm going to puke (if not outright puking, bathroom issues (the runs, body pain, and at times my chest even starts to hurt. The butt pain also comes on sunddenly, but never last longer than 5 minutes. It's a pain in the butt (pun intended, though spot on too) to deal with and I'm about to go back to bed despite it being only about 10 in the morning. This issue is wearing me out.
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Kimberley
Well I went into foster care at ten my mother couldnt look after me now ever since Ive left Ive tried connecting but its hard to except she cant be the mother I want. Shes nothing like me she doesnt want a career she doesnt build me up and has bipolar. my dad has skitosprrania from an accident when he was younger now hes a control freak but when it come to actually letting me stay there he would rather see me go into a hostel. The sad thing is I had so much optimism but every time Im with my mum I get severely depressed lol. I have just given up when they see me get low they do nothing and I feel worthless
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Well I went into foster care at ten my mother couldnt look after me now ever since Ive left Ive tried connecting but its hard to except she cant be the mother I want. Shes nothing like me she doesnt want a career she doesnt build me up and has bipolar. my dad has skitosprrania from an accident when he was younger now hes a control freak but when it come to actually letting me stay there he would rather see me go into a hostel. The sad thing is I had so much optimism but every time Im with my mum I get severely depressed lol. I have just given up when they see me get low they do nothing and I feel worthless
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Pupkemu
I don't have a toxic family, but I always have this constant fear of being judged. Even if it's a tiny price of criticism that wouldn't hurt others, I always find a way to take it personally and it bothers me so much. It's kind of scary when it feels like the whole world is judging you even though it's not. It's mostly when people look at my grades or when someone's asking for my opinion. But when I'm alone or just doing something in my room with my door closed, I feel more confident and less worried or scared.
Edit: so sorry about the long comment, I'll try to make it shorter
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I don't have a toxic family, but I always have this constant fear of being judged. Even if it's a tiny price of criticism that wouldn't hurt others, I always find a way to take it personally and it bothers me so much. It's kind of scary when it feels like the whole world is judging you even though it's not. It's mostly when people look at my grades or when someone's asking for my opinion. But when I'm alone or just doing something in my room with my door closed, I feel more confident and less worried or scared.
Edit: so sorry about the long comment, I'll try to make it shorter
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Jo
6 out of 6
The anxiety thing I didn't realise until relatively recently though. I was so overwhelmed by emotional numbing, and it had been a life long thing, I didn't even recognise the feeling as anxiety until I got on SSRIs and had a different state of mind to compare it to.
In a way I do feel powerful though because I spent most of my life in such a high stress, low mood state that even when I'm super stressed now it's still less stressful than my baseline mood used to be. If I start to feel normal I know depression and anxiety is at work.
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6 out of 6
The anxiety thing I didn't realise until relatively recently though. I was so overwhelmed by emotional numbing, and it had been a life long thing, I didn't even recognise the feeling as anxiety until I got on SSRIs and had a different state of mind to compare it to.
In a way I do feel powerful though because I spent most of my life in such a high stress, low mood state that even when I'm super stressed now it's still less stressful than my baseline mood used to be. If I start to feel normal I know depression and anxiety is at work.
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Marco
When I was a child my mother died before i could understand her words, as a result all my family overprotected me during my growth, i had all the symptoms explained in the video during my teenage, now i'm 20 and they still do it, things are getting better after some discussing, but i still feel like i'm in a cage, i don't want to blame my family, life had been hard for most of us, but still this is toxic and I need them to understand i'm an adult, sometimes even good people do not understand they're bad to who's around them
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When I was a child my mother died before i could understand her words, as a result all my family overprotected me during my growth, i had all the symptoms explained in the video during my teenage, now i'm 20 and they still do it, things are getting better after some discussing, but i still feel like i'm in a cage, i don't want to blame my family, life had been hard for most of us, but still this is toxic and I need them to understand i'm an adult, sometimes even good people do not understand they're bad to who's around them
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Mike
I find myself bending over backwards to emotionally support my family when theyre going through stuff because they never did it for me. So backwards right? My brother just moved back home, recovering from homelessness and hes constantly praised for his behavior. I try to make a name for myself and Im shunned from family functions and nobody even ask how my career is going. I just relapsed into moving home to helping my family out, and its literally killing me. Idk if Im doing the right thing or if Im doing it out of guilt.
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I find myself bending over backwards to emotionally support my family when theyre going through stuff because they never did it for me. So backwards right? My brother just moved back home, recovering from homelessness and hes constantly praised for his behavior. I try to make a name for myself and Im shunned from family functions and nobody even ask how my career is going. I just relapsed into moving home to helping my family out, and its literally killing me. Idk if Im doing the right thing or if Im doing it out of guilt.
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569Times
Actually I a'm only happy today because I only trusted outsiders, outsiders are always going to be nicer, kinder and more considerate to me, I know that these people are nicer than my family, the people who aren't my family members helped me grow and develop, they helped me reach my goals, find a purpose in life, have a positive outlook in things, and be a healthy person, strangers helped me become a happy relatively healthy person.
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Actually I a'm only happy today because I only trusted outsiders, outsiders are always going to be nicer, kinder and more considerate to me, I know that these people are nicer than my family, the people who aren't my family members helped me grow and develop, they helped me reach my goals, find a purpose in life, have a positive outlook in things, and be a healthy person, strangers helped me become a happy relatively healthy person.
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Judy
I think my family is truly toxic. Ive cried a lot, and I mean A LOT. I have cried silently, so nobody heard and got into my personal space. Is that a bad thing? Its hard to talk after crying. I found that I have to lie for my privacy. Bad thing? My sibling hardly ever does stuff with me, my dad just doesnt understand. My mom isnt too toxic. But if I tell my mom that I was crying, she would feel bad and I dont want that. Bad things?
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I think my family is truly toxic. Ive cried a lot, and I mean A LOT. I have cried silently, so nobody heard and got into my personal space. Is that a bad thing? Its hard to talk after crying. I found that I have to lie for my privacy. Bad thing? My sibling hardly ever does stuff with me, my dad just doesnt understand. My mom isnt too toxic. But if I tell my mom that I was crying, she would feel bad and I dont want that. Bad things?
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ICES
I think they should give ALL high school kids a obligated psychology test by LAW to determine if they are at risk for bringing up at risk children that can become a threat to society. If they are found at risk they should be given at the cost of the government the emotional help they need through therapy.
This will help reduce crime, poverty so many troubles if detected in time the high schoolers are damaged in some way.
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I think they should give ALL high school kids a obligated psychology test by LAW to determine if they are at risk for bringing up at risk children that can become a threat to society. If they are found at risk they should be given at the cost of the government the emotional help they need through therapy.
This will help reduce crime, poverty so many troubles if detected in time the high schoolers are damaged in some way.
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drunkandspill
oh i have been through so much emotional abuse that i can't even begin to say anything i mean the words itself would be insufficient to explain all of that but know that whatever you said in the video i could relate to all of this and its been 6-7 years i have dealing with this feeling but always doubted myself and hence never could get out of here and i want to get the damn out of here like so badly i might cry!
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oh i have been through so much emotional abuse that i can't even begin to say anything i mean the words itself would be insufficient to explain all of that but know that whatever you said in the video i could relate to all of this and its been 6-7 years i have dealing with this feeling but always doubted myself and hence never could get out of here and i want to get the damn out of here like so badly i might cry!
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Dream
I have to tell my life story. I live in a toxic family. My mother and father used to make big quarrels in the home. My father leaves us for so many years. So I have lost trust in him. without permission, he had joined me for a professional career. My sister has depression too. I couldn't live in this home. But I don't know what will I do? My family wants to control my whole life. They are trying to manipulate my life.
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I have to tell my life story. I live in a toxic family. My mother and father used to make big quarrels in the home. My father leaves us for so many years. So I have lost trust in him. without permission, he had joined me for a professional career. My sister has depression too. I couldn't live in this home. But I don't know what will I do? My family wants to control my whole life. They are trying to manipulate my life.
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Amber
I've been through all of those, and ivr always been mentally abused my whole life, and I have alters to protect myself now but I was terrified so I diddnt tell anyone in my family because I didn't feel safe but I told my therapist, and she promised she would tell my parents but she did anyways, and now my mom has turned everyone in my family against me, I can't trust her, and now she manipulates me every day-
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I've been through all of those, and ivr always been mentally abused my whole life, and I have alters to protect myself now but I was terrified so I diddnt tell anyone in my family because I didn't feel safe but I told my therapist, and she promised she would tell my parents but she did anyways, and now my mom has turned everyone in my family against me, I can't trust her, and now she manipulates me every day-
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Travis
Im on my dads account but my sister always hurts me and forces me to do stuff and she tells me to smile because I dont know how to smile anymore because of her and then my cusin comes over and they always hurt me calling me fat ugly mistake so I try to stay away from them but I cant they always come find me.
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Im on my dads account but my sister always hurts me and forces me to do stuff and she tells me to smile because I dont know how to smile anymore because of her and then my cusin comes over and they always hurt me calling me fat ugly mistake so I try to stay away from them but I cant they always come find me.
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Killua_Zoldyck
I actually act like i don't fear being manipulated and hope someone will treat me the way i want but they still treat me like shit. No matter what i do or how I behave they still manipulate me. I act like I'm fine and I've moved on from it but deep down it triggered me and it really hurt.
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I actually act like i don't fear being manipulated and hope someone will treat me the way i want but they still treat me like shit. No matter what i do or how I behave they still manipulate me. I act like I'm fine and I've moved on from it but deep down it triggered me and it really hurt.
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Tidela
Ive been in denial about this for 8 years. but considering Ive experienced all of these side effects. I think Im starting to find some clarity. For the longes time Ive been thinking it was something the matter with me, but Im starting to wonder if thats not entirely true.
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Ive been in denial about this for 8 years. but considering Ive experienced all of these side effects. I think Im starting to find some clarity. For the longes time Ive been thinking it was something the matter with me, but Im starting to wonder if thats not entirely true.
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Jo
I chose to disown my family. I could have actually gotten both of my parents arrested if I wanted to, and A&E staff did offer me the option. I decided to just disown them both though. My siblings then disowned me in response, but I don't really mind that either.
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I chose to disown my family. I could have actually gotten both of my parents arrested if I wanted to, and A&E staff did offer me the option. I decided to just disown them both though. My siblings then disowned me in response, but I don't really mind that either.
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Tanishka
I hate relatives because when they come they have only one question to ask and say that what's your percentage in exam and my daughter is better than you she has 91%(yeah, but why i care your daughter, a single piece of paper can't decide my future )
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I hate relatives because when they come they have only one question to ask and say that what's your percentage in exam and my daughter is better than you she has 91%(yeah, but why i care your daughter, a single piece of paper can't decide my future )
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Atlas
my dad wont accept me for me, as a transgender male, and hes trying to gaslight me about it all. its taken a huge toll on me, and hes always been verbally and emotionally abusive. im soon moving in with my mom, a safe space, but rn im stuck there,
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my dad wont accept me for me, as a transgender male, and hes trying to gaslight me about it all. its taken a huge toll on me, and hes always been verbally and emotionally abusive. im soon moving in with my mom, a safe space, but rn im stuck there,
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