6 Signs It's Time to Let Go of a Best Friend Version 2
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Eric
Here is the most painful truth in life. Most best friends are from when you were struggling in life. They were either in the same shoes as you, or slightly better off. They come along and give you a hand and comfort, and for that you are grateful. But when your life turn around, and you start succeeding, but your best friend don't succeed, you will be surprised how many of them leaves.
They just can't take it, their jealousy got the better of them. You will start hearing hints of them not happy for your success. They want to put you back into your old place. They want to show you how bad you still are. etc. Or they view you are a show-off and rude (You weren't even trying to be rude, you don't have to. Your successes naturally make you sound like a show-off to them, a threat to their self-confidence. They will pay close to attention to every single thing you do, say, or think, and trash talk all of them, give you a shot any chance they could to bring you back down. You will feel more and more uncomfortable hanging out with them. That is true, because they feel more and more uncomfortable being with you and your successes, even if you don't do anything rude. Before when you were a failure, they know how to handle you, but now they don't. Now your mere presences offend them, because you remind them of their own failures and shortcomings.
You of course value that friendship, because they helped you out when you are down. But they cannot be there with you on your way up. So you must leave them.
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Here is the most painful truth in life. Most best friends are from when you were struggling in life. They were either in the same shoes as you, or slightly better off. They come along and give you a hand and comfort, and for that you are grateful. But when your life turn around, and you start succeeding, but your best friend don't succeed, you will be surprised how many of them leaves.
They just can't take it, their jealousy got the better of them. You will start hearing hints of them not happy for your success. They want to put you back into your old place. They want to show you how bad you still are. etc. Or they view you are a show-off and rude (You weren't even trying to be rude, you don't have to. Your successes naturally make you sound like a show-off to them, a threat to their self-confidence. They will pay close to attention to every single thing you do, say, or think, and trash talk all of them, give you a shot any chance they could to bring you back down. You will feel more and more uncomfortable hanging out with them. That is true, because they feel more and more uncomfortable being with you and your successes, even if you don't do anything rude. Before when you were a failure, they know how to handle you, but now they don't. Now your mere presences offend them, because you remind them of their own failures and shortcomings.
You of course value that friendship, because they helped you out when you are down. But they cannot be there with you on your way up. So you must leave them.
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wonk
how is this so relatable. i met her in elementary school, and we literally always hung out together and we always came back to each other, even after fights then i made other friends and we became a friend group and she just became so distant. i always felt that i had to be the one to start the conversation or we just wouldnt talk. she was always waiting for me to invite her, and it made me feel like she didnt want to hang out. another thing is even though she swore we were best friends, i always asked her how she was doing etc, and most times she would respond with hmmm or umm okay. it got to a point where i asked her what she did over the weekend and she said nothing but then when someone else, much less close than i thought we were asked her, she told them everything she did. also i had one friend and she just talked to that friend instead of me most of the time, she literally even invited them and started conversations with them and laughed with them and everything like they were best friends and when i said how are you to her she just said ummm and walked away. by that point, we almost had nothing in common it was like she was the angel and i was the devil. and when i made mean jokes she got really mad at me. now though, i have a friend who actually listens to me and it feels like i can actually be myself around them instead of pretending to be someone nicer which im not.
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how is this so relatable. i met her in elementary school, and we literally always hung out together and we always came back to each other, even after fights then i made other friends and we became a friend group and she just became so distant. i always felt that i had to be the one to start the conversation or we just wouldnt talk. she was always waiting for me to invite her, and it made me feel like she didnt want to hang out. another thing is even though she swore we were best friends, i always asked her how she was doing etc, and most times she would respond with hmmm or umm okay. it got to a point where i asked her what she did over the weekend and she said nothing but then when someone else, much less close than i thought we were asked her, she told them everything she did. also i had one friend and she just talked to that friend instead of me most of the time, she literally even invited them and started conversations with them and laughed with them and everything like they were best friends and when i said how are you to her she just said ummm and walked away. by that point, we almost had nothing in common it was like she was the angel and i was the devil. and when i made mean jokes she got really mad at me. now though, i have a friend who actually listens to me and it feels like i can actually be myself around them instead of pretending to be someone nicer which im not.
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Artistic
I lost my childhood best friend from pre-school because we were roommates and it was a huge mistake. We constantly argued and not get along each other. We went on separate paths. She once insulted me by called me bad best friend. I was extremely hurtful. She apologized to me and I forgave and hoping she would do something to spend time together but she never did. I invited her to my two holiday parties (Halloween and Christmas, she rejected my two parties, I was super hurtful as well then after one semester, we drifted away and never contact again. She wished me good luck w life. I knew that means our friendship was over. My former best friend knew a day was my bday but never say happy bday to me, I was devastated as heck. It bothered me a lot. I was very very sad to let go my former best friend but I have to 100% let go.
However I have other childhood best friend from pre-school too and we used to hang out a lot in elementary school until mid-year or middle school year, we stopped contacted and we disconnected for almost 10 years until 2019, we reconnected again and we were so happy to reconnect again. We are perfectly good and we are still best friend forever. We have no problem with our goal achievements.
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I lost my childhood best friend from pre-school because we were roommates and it was a huge mistake. We constantly argued and not get along each other. We went on separate paths. She once insulted me by called me bad best friend. I was extremely hurtful. She apologized to me and I forgave and hoping she would do something to spend time together but she never did. I invited her to my two holiday parties (Halloween and Christmas, she rejected my two parties, I was super hurtful as well then after one semester, we drifted away and never contact again. She wished me good luck w life. I knew that means our friendship was over. My former best friend knew a day was my bday but never say happy bday to me, I was devastated as heck. It bothered me a lot. I was very very sad to let go my former best friend but I have to 100% let go.
However I have other childhood best friend from pre-school too and we used to hang out a lot in elementary school until mid-year or middle school year, we stopped contacted and we disconnected for almost 10 years until 2019, we reconnected again and we were so happy to reconnect again. We are perfectly good and we are still best friend forever. We have no problem with our goal achievements.
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Letty
I had this best friend for 13 years now and we always had fun even if we haven't talked in a long time. but last year she started to not having empathy with my feelings, broked my trust and said shit about me for other people. I hold it as I could to make things right and apologize for anything that I've done, but at a certain point she was just sending me away just because. she was baking me off and being an asshole all the time, and I just couldn't handle anymore. when I let her go was so satisfying, I felt so relieved and happy, because she was not draining me. and everyone who I truly felt good by their side I kept and it is a good enviroment now. so, I guess there is people to live some moments of our lives, but at some point they don't fit with our path and we have to go saperate ways. I mean, she did good to me and we laughed and travelled and she introduced me new people (really nice ones, but we are not meant to be together anymore. sometimes let it go is more peaceful.
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I had this best friend for 13 years now and we always had fun even if we haven't talked in a long time. but last year she started to not having empathy with my feelings, broked my trust and said shit about me for other people. I hold it as I could to make things right and apologize for anything that I've done, but at a certain point she was just sending me away just because. she was baking me off and being an asshole all the time, and I just couldn't handle anymore. when I let her go was so satisfying, I felt so relieved and happy, because she was not draining me. and everyone who I truly felt good by their side I kept and it is a good enviroment now. so, I guess there is people to live some moments of our lives, but at some point they don't fit with our path and we have to go saperate ways. I mean, she did good to me and we laughed and travelled and she introduced me new people (really nice ones, but we are not meant to be together anymore. sometimes let it go is more peaceful.
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sarcxstic
My situation is a bit different. I haven't been best friends with this person for very long. In fact, I've only gotten close to them in the past four to five months. But she went from being just another person I saw around to being a constant in my day-to-day life. We would text constantly, plan times to hangout, see each other all the time. But it's like I flipped a switch, now. She hardly texts me and when I text her, she takes forever to reply if she even does. She doesn't ask to hangout. She's been fairly distant and only talks to me when it's related to something that benefits her. And I would cut her off, but I'm so, so attached to her. I'm in this constant loop of stress, annoyance, and disappointment but I still adore her and enjoy her company so much that I can't bring myself to stop contacting her. I hate this feeling.
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My situation is a bit different. I haven't been best friends with this person for very long. In fact, I've only gotten close to them in the past four to five months. But she went from being just another person I saw around to being a constant in my day-to-day life. We would text constantly, plan times to hangout, see each other all the time. But it's like I flipped a switch, now. She hardly texts me and when I text her, she takes forever to reply if she even does. She doesn't ask to hangout. She's been fairly distant and only talks to me when it's related to something that benefits her. And I would cut her off, but I'm so, so attached to her. I'm in this constant loop of stress, annoyance, and disappointment but I still adore her and enjoy her company so much that I can't bring myself to stop contacting her. I hate this feeling.
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Hernndez
i have been holding onto our friendship for so long, trying to tell myself that we are still best friends, but she has already left me for so many new people. I have been the one trying too keep in touch because if i dont talk to her, she wont talk to me.
i dont understand the reason we are falling apart, i want to let go but i simply cant, it hurts, the one person i used to trust, that would always understand me, is leaving my side
i really cant accept it im trying to but its such a struggle.
i know she can have other friends, it makes me happy seeing her enjoy being with her new friends, but for some reason it just hurts.
i know im not the only friend shes supposed to have and she can make new friends, but why would she push me too the side, as if she really doesnt like me anymore.
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i have been holding onto our friendship for so long, trying to tell myself that we are still best friends, but she has already left me for so many new people. I have been the one trying too keep in touch because if i dont talk to her, she wont talk to me.
i dont understand the reason we are falling apart, i want to let go but i simply cant, it hurts, the one person i used to trust, that would always understand me, is leaving my side
i really cant accept it im trying to but its such a struggle.
i know she can have other friends, it makes me happy seeing her enjoy being with her new friends, but for some reason it just hurts.
i know im not the only friend shes supposed to have and she can make new friends, but why would she push me too the side, as if she really doesnt like me anymore.
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robin
I feel this way with my old friends and family particularly with my old best friend in elementary school to be honest all we've really ever been friends for is warrior cats and going on the swings every single day and as for my family me and my younger cousin have been really close when we were little but since I've moved away about 5 years ago visits and talk with friends aren't the same as they used to be I feel bad because I still feel bad because I remember all the good times we've had when we were younger both good friends and family alike but now just talking to anyone from my family or old friends feels forced or never feels like I'm ready to go into it with them again. Idk I just feel detached from my old life from where I used to live
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I feel this way with my old friends and family particularly with my old best friend in elementary school to be honest all we've really ever been friends for is warrior cats and going on the swings every single day and as for my family me and my younger cousin have been really close when we were little but since I've moved away about 5 years ago visits and talk with friends aren't the same as they used to be I feel bad because I still feel bad because I remember all the good times we've had when we were younger both good friends and family alike but now just talking to anyone from my family or old friends feels forced or never feels like I'm ready to go into it with them again. Idk I just feel detached from my old life from where I used to live
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KittyQveen
I dont know what to do. I have a friendship that lasted 7 years. But now Ive noticed some things, whenever they text first, I reply within seconds, but whenever I text them, they take days or weeks to reply. Or not even reply at all. They get mad at me for the tiniest things. While me on the other hand I dont get mad at them at all. They talk about other friends around me, they call other friends around me, and it upsets me. They also know that Im sensitive to certain things and jokes. For example, one time they jokingly said Your a bad friend and they KNOW how it makes me feel. Yet, they still continue to say things like that. I honestly just dont know right now. Wether to move on or what. I just dont know what to do.
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I dont know what to do. I have a friendship that lasted 7 years. But now Ive noticed some things, whenever they text first, I reply within seconds, but whenever I text them, they take days or weeks to reply. Or not even reply at all. They get mad at me for the tiniest things. While me on the other hand I dont get mad at them at all. They talk about other friends around me, they call other friends around me, and it upsets me. They also know that Im sensitive to certain things and jokes. For example, one time they jokingly said Your a bad friend and they KNOW how it makes me feel. Yet, they still continue to say things like that. I honestly just dont know right now. Wether to move on or what. I just dont know what to do.
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Odawgisboss1
I had a best friend starting pre school and we been solid through our childhood and in high school we would hangout almost everyday. Things turned around though when he was in college thats hours away from my hometown and I started traveling a lot for work. Im 24 now and getting married soon and found out he has a baby on the way and he called me recently wondering when I would be in town and we are planning to meet up for a drink and catch up on life.
Just remember yall, best friends dont completely delete you from their life. They always have good memories of spending time with you in the past. They may not wanna be best friends anymore but they never forget you.
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I had a best friend starting pre school and we been solid through our childhood and in high school we would hangout almost everyday. Things turned around though when he was in college thats hours away from my hometown and I started traveling a lot for work. Im 24 now and getting married soon and found out he has a baby on the way and he called me recently wondering when I would be in town and we are planning to meet up for a drink and catch up on life.
Just remember yall, best friends dont completely delete you from their life. They always have good memories of spending time with you in the past. They may not wanna be best friends anymore but they never forget you.
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Alleasha
I dont know if we were ever friends. I just started to like her, and wanted to be her friend. I've given her so much, and have so much love for her. I dont know what's wrong with me, why no one wants to be my friend. I made her a letter to encourage her and let her know what was constantly on my mind concerning her, but it just seems like she's shy and nice. Like she doesnt want to be my friend, but she can't say no. I'm thinking about sending her another letter later this month to tell her what's going on. Maybe I'm wrong, and she does want to be my friend? I wish I knew, but then ignorance could be bliss. I'm sad.
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I dont know if we were ever friends. I just started to like her, and wanted to be her friend. I've given her so much, and have so much love for her. I dont know what's wrong with me, why no one wants to be my friend. I made her a letter to encourage her and let her know what was constantly on my mind concerning her, but it just seems like she's shy and nice. Like she doesnt want to be my friend, but she can't say no. I'm thinking about sending her another letter later this month to tell her what's going on. Maybe I'm wrong, and she does want to be my friend? I wish I knew, but then ignorance could be bliss. I'm sad.
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LunaVid6231
This whole video I was legitimately crying and shaking, I think all of this are happening with me and my supposed best friend. We started drifting apart a month and a half ago and I didnt even do anything wrong, she had kind of a fight with another friend in common and then she just ghosted me for a whole month, some days ago she wrote to me but I just told her I wasnt ready to talk with her.
All of this is deeply hurting me, I dont wanna let go of our friendship of 6 years, I love (or loved) her a lot, but right now I cant even look at her face without feeling angry or resentful
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This whole video I was legitimately crying and shaking, I think all of this are happening with me and my supposed best friend. We started drifting apart a month and a half ago and I didnt even do anything wrong, she had kind of a fight with another friend in common and then she just ghosted me for a whole month, some days ago she wrote to me but I just told her I wasnt ready to talk with her.
All of this is deeply hurting me, I dont wanna let go of our friendship of 6 years, I love (or loved) her a lot, but right now I cant even look at her face without feeling angry or resentful
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timdaferret
I once was faced with a brutal breakup with a friend. Definitely one of the most painful experiences in my life. Though I didn't want it to hold me back from doing the things I love, and/ or to let it destroy personal interests. As much as it hurt, I wanted to move on as soon as possible.
It still hurts sometimes, but for the most part, I'm over it. I can also see that it was definitely time to split with that person.
I just hope they were able to move on too.
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I once was faced with a brutal breakup with a friend. Definitely one of the most painful experiences in my life. Though I didn't want it to hold me back from doing the things I love, and/ or to let it destroy personal interests. As much as it hurt, I wanted to move on as soon as possible.
It still hurts sometimes, but for the most part, I'm over it. I can also see that it was definitely time to split with that person.
I just hope they were able to move on too.
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Princess
Yea, i experienced this recently. I had to let go of my best friend of 17 years cause it just wasnt there anymore. She broke my trust, we werent communicating anymore and she was being transphobic. There just wasnt anything left to the friendship. Much as i wanted to keep her in my life, she was being rude and inconsiderate right before my dads funeral. I had no choice but to kick her out of my life. It still saddens me, but i did what was best for me
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Yea, i experienced this recently. I had to let go of my best friend of 17 years cause it just wasnt there anymore. She broke my trust, we werent communicating anymore and she was being transphobic. There just wasnt anything left to the friendship. Much as i wanted to keep her in my life, she was being rude and inconsiderate right before my dads funeral. I had no choice but to kick her out of my life. It still saddens me, but i did what was best for me
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Darlie
My close friends started to do hangouts without me in Secret. Everything started to make sense when I stumbled on a group photo of their hangout without me i had been letting know i want to see them all. It was the straw that broke the camels back when i drove the Far distance to celebrate a birthday, but the main girl clearly didnt want me around. I was just done after that. N cut every tie of friendship from my old season of life.
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My close friends started to do hangouts without me in Secret. Everything started to make sense when I stumbled on a group photo of their hangout without me i had been letting know i want to see them all. It was the straw that broke the camels back when i drove the Far distance to celebrate a birthday, but the main girl clearly didnt want me around. I was just done after that. N cut every tie of friendship from my old season of life.
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Mary
I was BFs with a woman for 26 years. We at one time were very close. When she moved away 3 1/2 years ago she promised me we would still get together. We did on occasion but I felt it wasnt the same anymore. We started seeing less and less of each other, even talking on the phone. I finally had to call it quits. We had drifted apart. I wasnt important in her life anymore and it hurt. Now Im free and am healing.
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I was BFs with a woman for 26 years. We at one time were very close. When she moved away 3 1/2 years ago she promised me we would still get together. We did on occasion but I felt it wasnt the same anymore. We started seeing less and less of each other, even talking on the phone. I finally had to call it quits. We had drifted apart. I wasnt important in her life anymore and it hurt. Now Im free and am healing.
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cherry
My old best friend left me in grade 4 for the popular girls and she never said that shewas just going to move on she just abandoned me with no one to play with and i tried playing with her and her new friends but she never really care that i was their plus her new friends hated me and kidked me out of their friend group and my best friend didnt even cared and to this day it still hurts
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My old best friend left me in grade 4 for the popular girls and she never said that shewas just going to move on she just abandoned me with no one to play with and i tried playing with her and her new friends but she never really care that i was their plus her new friends hated me and kidked me out of their friend group and my best friend didnt even cared and to this day it still hurts
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Bryceton
What if everyone in your life has always treated you like the odd man out, even though you have always put others first and did your best to be a good person but you finally after years and years, you finally make a best friend who you thought loved and cared only to be suddenly ghosted leaving you to be hurt and alone, longing for some one to pick up the pieces of your broken heart?
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What if everyone in your life has always treated you like the odd man out, even though you have always put others first and did your best to be a good person but you finally after years and years, you finally make a best friend who you thought loved and cared only to be suddenly ghosted leaving you to be hurt and alone, longing for some one to pick up the pieces of your broken heart?
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TotemCrow
I changed and increased my self esteem, she continued to show she didnt value me. Eventually it could only have one outcome. I dropped hints about how I saw through people using and abusing my time and how I had to distance myself but she was so focused only on what she wanted that she didnt think my new self would do anything about it with her until I did.
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I changed and increased my self esteem, she continued to show she didnt value me. Eventually it could only have one outcome. I dropped hints about how I saw through people using and abusing my time and how I had to distance myself but she was so focused only on what she wanted that she didnt think my new self would do anything about it with her until I did.
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Jessica
I was best friends with a girl for two-and-a-half years and I experienced everything in this video even having to come to the realization that it was over I remember laying in my bed crying I was weak to the point where I couldn't get out of bed my aunt had to physically get me out of bed she pulled me out of bed and had me go outside to get some fresh air
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I was best friends with a girl for two-and-a-half years and I experienced everything in this video even having to come to the realization that it was over I remember laying in my bed crying I was weak to the point where I couldn't get out of bed my aunt had to physically get me out of bed she pulled me out of bed and had me go outside to get some fresh air
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Lilac
I don't wanna let them go.
Heart: I'll be more broken if you stay with them
Brain: it's true you need to let go before heart becomes more broken
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Fine, I know it's going to hurt me and my mental health but it's better to let go of the friendship. they did stuff in the past that are unforgivable and they betrayed my trust
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I don't wanna let them go.
Heart: I'll be more broken if you stay with them
Brain: it's true you need to let go before heart becomes more broken
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Fine, I know it's going to hurt me and my mental health but it's better to let go of the friendship. they did stuff in the past that are unforgivable and they betrayed my trust
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thecrazymarvelgirl
I think I am slowly losing my bff rn. In all my years in school. I've had so many bffs. but whenever theyball drifted apart. I never felt that sad. but it's not the same with my current bff. it's really heartbreaking.
sometimes I get really anxious over the fact that she are drifting apart. it's haunting me all the time.
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I think I am slowly losing my bff rn. In all my years in school. I've had so many bffs. but whenever theyball drifted apart. I never felt that sad. but it's not the same with my current bff. it's really heartbreaking.
sometimes I get really anxious over the fact that she are drifting apart. it's haunting me all the time.
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Autistic
I feel sign 6 all too well.
A few years ago, I met this person who I bonded with over mental health, old school things and self care. In recent months, this person has hardly talked to me and it's just gotten extremely one-sided. It hurts, but I am considering cutting ties with this friend and this video definitely helped
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I feel sign 6 all too well.
A few years ago, I met this person who I bonded with over mental health, old school things and self care. In recent months, this person has hardly talked to me and it's just gotten extremely one-sided. It hurts, but I am considering cutting ties with this friend and this video definitely helped
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Ayushi
How easy it is for people to come into your life, make you feel that you can be dependent on themselves and then suddenly starts pretending like they don't know you, you are worthless, they don't wanna be with you anymore and now you are helpless to do anything, especially when you don't have anybody else to have your back
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How easy it is for people to come into your life, make you feel that you can be dependent on themselves and then suddenly starts pretending like they don't know you, you are worthless, they don't wanna be with you anymore and now you are helpless to do anything, especially when you don't have anybody else to have your back
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EmJ
Im already crying, I lost my bestfriend tonight of 12 yrs. She said she didnt feel connected and I didnt want to keep her as my friend if she was unhappy. So I let her go. I dont know how I'm going to go on, my mental health has been rlly bad lately and I'm scared I might go over the edge. I miss her so much
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Im already crying, I lost my bestfriend tonight of 12 yrs. She said she didnt feel connected and I didnt want to keep her as my friend if she was unhappy. So I let her go. I dont know how I'm going to go on, my mental health has been rlly bad lately and I'm scared I might go over the edge. I miss her so much
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