9 Signs You Have Unhealed Trauma
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Date: 2023-08-20
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rrdjjd
i cried watching this, ive sabotaged and ruined most of my relationships with people without even realizing how toxic i was, now after nearly an year of guilt, fear and trying to run away from it, ive gotten the courage to face what led me to act certain ways and how i can change myself. This year im going to put forward to heal to the best of my limits. this isnt day one of healing. ive been seeing my school counselor for idk 6 months. doing a lot of shadow work to get to this point and i can still barely face myself. Lots of times i just broke down and couldnt do it anymore. I won't say i haven't gotten braver and better since what i once started with, Year 4 of trying to get better, lets go.
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i cried watching this, ive sabotaged and ruined most of my relationships with people without even realizing how toxic i was, now after nearly an year of guilt, fear and trying to run away from it, ive gotten the courage to face what led me to act certain ways and how i can change myself. This year im going to put forward to heal to the best of my limits. this isnt day one of healing. ive been seeing my school counselor for idk 6 months. doing a lot of shadow work to get to this point and i can still barely face myself. Lots of times i just broke down and couldnt do it anymore. I won't say i haven't gotten braver and better since what i once started with, Year 4 of trying to get better, lets go.
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Zack
You know, I was doxxed as a 13 year old and was absolutely terrified. I am also autistic. It makes me wonder if it has something to with why I could not cope with simple embarrassing events, being afraid to try new things, afraid of failure, and a cycle of anger towards others. I could not understand why I always felt anxious for a decade and held difficulty sleeping sometimes. For a decade, I would fear almost everything- I held a fear of reputation ruin very easily.
I ended up doing many shameful things to get my stalkers to get away from me online.
When I look back at it, I was extremely carefree and happy at 11 but at 13, things began to get very icky and I did not know why.
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You know, I was doxxed as a 13 year old and was absolutely terrified. I am also autistic. It makes me wonder if it has something to with why I could not cope with simple embarrassing events, being afraid to try new things, afraid of failure, and a cycle of anger towards others. I could not understand why I always felt anxious for a decade and held difficulty sleeping sometimes. For a decade, I would fear almost everything- I held a fear of reputation ruin very easily.
I ended up doing many shameful things to get my stalkers to get away from me online.
When I look back at it, I was extremely carefree and happy at 11 but at 13, things began to get very icky and I did not know why.
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David
Since I cant open up to anyone let me open up here anonymously.
I got heartbroken by who Ive show nothing but love. Though Im not all that fat but I feel ugly and worthless that being a bit overweight might be the reason why she left me. I am a very talented musician not to brag but Im holding myself back from working on my career cuz I dont wanna be seen as fat. I dont know how to handle things emotionally anymore. Sometimes I just wanna disappear loose weight and come back when I feel okay mentally. I need help but I cant open up to anyone no matter how hard I try. I just cant or should I say the masculine part of me wont allow me to open up
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Since I cant open up to anyone let me open up here anonymously.
I got heartbroken by who Ive show nothing but love. Though Im not all that fat but I feel ugly and worthless that being a bit overweight might be the reason why she left me. I am a very talented musician not to brag but Im holding myself back from working on my career cuz I dont wanna be seen as fat. I dont know how to handle things emotionally anymore. Sometimes I just wanna disappear loose weight and come back when I feel okay mentally. I need help but I cant open up to anyone no matter how hard I try. I just cant or should I say the masculine part of me wont allow me to open up
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VibrantTV
One of my traumas really affected me it won't heal.
I was in first grade at the time when i almost killed a 2nd grade student by throwing a rock at his forehead. The injury was so severe he almost lost consciousness, That almost got me expelled. luckly someone revealed that I get panicked and angry whenever someone says mean stuff to either my loved ones or me. That resulted violence.
I panicked because i thought it was real, but instead it turned out it was a joke i thought was insulting. He couldn't read any words or sentence anymore. I felt ashamed and guilty that everyone was calling me a murderer.
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One of my traumas really affected me it won't heal.
I was in first grade at the time when i almost killed a 2nd grade student by throwing a rock at his forehead. The injury was so severe he almost lost consciousness, That almost got me expelled. luckly someone revealed that I get panicked and angry whenever someone says mean stuff to either my loved ones or me. That resulted violence.
I panicked because i thought it was real, but instead it turned out it was a joke i thought was insulting. He couldn't read any words or sentence anymore. I felt ashamed and guilty that everyone was calling me a murderer.
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Marcos
More than once in my life.
Between 2012 and 2013, before I met my true love, and shortly afterwards began our mutual protection and care. And we became kinda like the truest partnership.
I did go through severe traumatization almost daily.
She also made it stop a long time.
Then someone, several years after. did to her what must never be done to anyone.
I got angry with him when that was the wrong way to help her.
And tried to report him. Causing the previous living hell to return with a vengeance.
And so, between March 2021 (and it continues. I've tried to endure.
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More than once in my life.
Between 2012 and 2013, before I met my true love, and shortly afterwards began our mutual protection and care. And we became kinda like the truest partnership.
I did go through severe traumatization almost daily.
She also made it stop a long time.
Then someone, several years after. did to her what must never be done to anyone.
I got angry with him when that was the wrong way to help her.
And tried to report him. Causing the previous living hell to return with a vengeance.
And so, between March 2021 (and it continues. I've tried to endure.
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Dang
Me Im totally fine! No need to worry my friggin past;
mom being with multiple mentally and emotionally abusive men my parents divorced when I was six my dad took me and my little sister's and moved half way across Canada when I was 5/4 being homeless for weeks/ months at different campsites me being nine when the cops showed up to take me and my sister's away from my dad being banned from seeing him and being told that if we do are mom will be named a bad mom and me and my sister's will be split up and sent to different orphanages and adoption centers so yeah I'm fine
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Me Im totally fine! No need to worry my friggin past;
mom being with multiple mentally and emotionally abusive men my parents divorced when I was six my dad took me and my little sister's and moved half way across Canada when I was 5/4 being homeless for weeks/ months at different campsites me being nine when the cops showed up to take me and my sister's away from my dad being banned from seeing him and being told that if we do are mom will be named a bad mom and me and my sister's will be split up and sent to different orphanages and adoption centers so yeah I'm fine
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Icera3019
I hate noicy/loud places, places with many people you could even call It social axiety. Which means I HATE big partys. In the camps i was in the past the on the final day there was always a party and I was always forced to go there- NO wasnt an option. I always sat in corner of the room and hoped It would end. When someone sreamed I would feel even worse. IT WAS LITERALY HELL. So I was thinging that could mean It was a trauma. Im telling you I dont want to live that moment even once again. (sorry for bad english Im 13 and english isnt my main language)
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I hate noicy/loud places, places with many people you could even call It social axiety. Which means I HATE big partys. In the camps i was in the past the on the final day there was always a party and I was always forced to go there- NO wasnt an option. I always sat in corner of the room and hoped It would end. When someone sreamed I would feel even worse. IT WAS LITERALY HELL. So I was thinging that could mean It was a trauma. Im telling you I dont want to live that moment even once again. (sorry for bad english Im 13 and english isnt my main language)
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Orthodox
I'm 33 living in Japan (my life-long dream. I have a wonderful wife and family both here in Japan and back in the U. S. and yet that voice from when I was 6 and first learned of death is screaming louder in my head than ever Everyone's gonna die and leave you. This may sound silly but I'm starting to understand that voice and its evil cousin If you plan for the horrors to come then you won't be shocked when they do. have done nothing but rob me of truly enjoying the blessed life God has given me. but I feel real good knowing it can be dealt with. I hope.
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I'm 33 living in Japan (my life-long dream. I have a wonderful wife and family both here in Japan and back in the U. S. and yet that voice from when I was 6 and first learned of death is screaming louder in my head than ever Everyone's gonna die and leave you. This may sound silly but I'm starting to understand that voice and its evil cousin If you plan for the horrors to come then you won't be shocked when they do. have done nothing but rob me of truly enjoying the blessed life God has given me. but I feel real good knowing it can be dealt with. I hope.
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Angel
I watched this video almost 2 years ago this month, and a couple weeks later I finally stopped talking to the person who abused me and told my mom what had happened to me behind closed doors. I'm still struggling so much, but I can see work I've done on my demons to understand what happened to me by asking myself better questions.
Because this entire video describes my life since I was 12. Just got worse as an adult with no ways of having a support group/social anxiety.
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I watched this video almost 2 years ago this month, and a couple weeks later I finally stopped talking to the person who abused me and told my mom what had happened to me behind closed doors. I'm still struggling so much, but I can see work I've done on my demons to understand what happened to me by asking myself better questions.
Because this entire video describes my life since I was 12. Just got worse as an adult with no ways of having a support group/social anxiety.
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Scarlet
welp. this hits the nail on the head. i never lost someone i cared about besides pets, but years of mental and verbal abuse even after the worst of it is over being an entier elimentry school bullying ya as well as someone claming to be your best friend manipulating you till middle will make some trama. started in second grade with a bad teacher and i still have unhealed trama thats just kinda covered with hard scabs now at 21.
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welp. this hits the nail on the head. i never lost someone i cared about besides pets, but years of mental and verbal abuse even after the worst of it is over being an entier elimentry school bullying ya as well as someone claming to be your best friend manipulating you till middle will make some trama. started in second grade with a bad teacher and i still have unhealed trama thats just kinda covered with hard scabs now at 21.
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David
Im 76 and can identify with much in this clip. That was my early life, however, it is possible to climb out of this rut of low self esteem and lack of confidence. A narcissist father was my main problem but separation and a long slow process of strengthening my mind and character helped me to overcome the negativity and become a relatively normal person, but the process took me about 50 years.
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Im 76 and can identify with much in this clip. That was my early life, however, it is possible to climb out of this rut of low self esteem and lack of confidence. A narcissist father was my main problem but separation and a long slow process of strengthening my mind and character helped me to overcome the negativity and become a relatively normal person, but the process took me about 50 years.
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Elliott
It's kind of scary how accurate this is. You just explained every mental problem I have and I don't even think I have any trauma. Good parents, strong family bond, the greatest friend groups ever, stable job and money, I am loved and I have everything I need, but I have these problems you explained in the video and it's overwhelming and it's holding me back from serving my family.
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It's kind of scary how accurate this is. You just explained every mental problem I have and I don't even think I have any trauma. Good parents, strong family bond, the greatest friend groups ever, stable job and money, I am loved and I have everything I need, but I have these problems you explained in the video and it's overwhelming and it's holding me back from serving my family.
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Emily
Im not afraid to tell others what happened to me, but I always brush off telling how bad it was because those I tried to tell ignored me and told me you must be wrong, I bet (x) happened and you just THOUGHT, Im sure ___ is true, youre just (x, etc. Ive never thought different than the truth of how bad it was, but nobody in my life wanted to see it. Even a counselor said that.
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Im not afraid to tell others what happened to me, but I always brush off telling how bad it was because those I tried to tell ignored me and told me you must be wrong, I bet (x) happened and you just THOUGHT, Im sure ___ is true, youre just (x, etc. Ive never thought different than the truth of how bad it was, but nobody in my life wanted to see it. Even a counselor said that.
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Almaas
i have never had any neglection in my childhood even though my parents are divorced he has been in contact with me my fam has taken all such good care of me then why do i have to click on this vdo, why do i fear disappointing them even when they dont pressurise me and why after all the chances and luxuries i cant give them what they want
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i have never had any neglection in my childhood even though my parents are divorced he has been in contact with me my fam has taken all such good care of me then why do i have to click on this vdo, why do i fear disappointing them even when they dont pressurise me and why after all the chances and luxuries i cant give them what they want
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Simon
Everyone in the comments talking about their toxic parents or abandonment as a child, while i simply can't get over my crush rejecting me almost 3 years ago, makes me question if I'm not just WAY too sensitive like what I have experienced is something everyone has at some point (at least that's what I've been told)
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Everyone in the comments talking about their toxic parents or abandonment as a child, while i simply can't get over my crush rejecting me almost 3 years ago, makes me question if I'm not just WAY too sensitive like what I have experienced is something everyone has at some point (at least that's what I've been told)
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education
Uhm yes I do have unsealed trauma and anxiety and nightmares makes most of the sighs is correct of me but my mom says I dont need a therapist I can just do it myself but since I cant get a therapist my big brother experienced it so he is my therapist now so ty fur telling me: ) you really helped
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Uhm yes I do have unsealed trauma and anxiety and nightmares makes most of the sighs is correct of me but my mom says I dont need a therapist I can just do it myself but since I cant get a therapist my big brother experienced it so he is my therapist now so ty fur telling me: ) you really helped
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Say
I experienced what some would call traumatic childhood events, I really dont think it has affected me and while I have had some of these symptoms non are super clear. Im here because a lot of people tell me I seem traumatized I dont see it but im going to therapy so maybe I can figure it out there.
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I experienced what some would call traumatic childhood events, I really dont think it has affected me and while I have had some of these symptoms non are super clear. Im here because a lot of people tell me I seem traumatized I dont see it but im going to therapy so maybe I can figure it out there.
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the
Thanks for the video, my mom died in 2020 right before the pandemic and her sudden passing hit us like a freight train, and there were custody issues and she had just started back visiting. She was the best mom ever, and I loved her to the moon and back. This video helped a lot.
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Thanks for the video, my mom died in 2020 right before the pandemic and her sudden passing hit us like a freight train, and there were custody issues and she had just started back visiting. She was the best mom ever, and I loved her to the moon and back. This video helped a lot.
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lUNA
this is helpful i had a truma back when i was in elementary i was addicted to this one online game that i didn't do my schoolworks until my parents scolded me so bad that i ended up having truma so now i tried hard to get good grades and almost the signs describe me as well
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this is helpful i had a truma back when i was in elementary i was addicted to this one online game that i didn't do my schoolworks until my parents scolded me so bad that i ended up having truma so now i tried hard to get good grades and almost the signs describe me as well
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Fuji
1. Yes.
2. Not really/Maybe?
3. Yes.
4. Im afraid about whats after the outcome, its hard getting pulled around.
5. It happens so frequently this year
6. Yeah.
7. I stopped hurting myself years ago.
8. No.
9. Yeah.
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1. Yes.
2. Not really/Maybe?
3. Yes.
4. Im afraid about whats after the outcome, its hard getting pulled around.
5. It happens so frequently this year
6. Yeah.
7. I stopped hurting myself years ago.
8. No.
9. Yeah.
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7Write4This9Heart7
I KNOW I do from my mom's abuse, so. YEP, not surprised at all that these fit me to a T! lol. Wondering even more if I have PTSD now. Wouldn't surprise me at all, frankly. Just add it to the pile! X'D X'P
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I KNOW I do from my mom's abuse, so. YEP, not surprised at all that these fit me to a T! lol. Wondering even more if I have PTSD now. Wouldn't surprise me at all, frankly. Just add it to the pile! X'D X'P
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G_Cube
I talk to my mom and usually she is a little rude, same with me but one time when it first started she was talking nicely and i felt like something was rong and that i didnt deserve to be treated like that:
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I talk to my mom and usually she is a little rude, same with me but one time when it first started she was talking nicely and i felt like something was rong and that i didnt deserve to be treated like that:
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Yuvraj
To be honest I'm suffering trauma because of toxic environment in my family
I never think that I will suffer
I used to be a bright student but now I'm not
Somebody help me what should I do
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To be honest I'm suffering trauma because of toxic environment in my family
I never think that I will suffer
I used to be a bright student but now I'm not
Somebody help me what should I do
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Almaas
no matter how harsh truth you say and how much it hurts but ur soothing voice always calms me down it feels like love and care i wish more ppl could speak like you and i hope this is ur real voice
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no matter how harsh truth you say and how much it hurts but ur soothing voice always calms me down it feels like love and care i wish more ppl could speak like you and i hope this is ur real voice
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sura
what if it is constant? You try to move on, but every single time you come home, you get new experiences of this passive-aggressive treatment. then you realize, it will never end, unless you end.
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what if it is constant? You try to move on, but every single time you come home, you get new experiences of this passive-aggressive treatment. then you realize, it will never end, unless you end.
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