7 Signs Someone is Obsessed With You, Not Love
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Deeksha
So I started talking to this guy on telegram and from the very first day i started liking him and after like three or four days i became extremely obsessed with him and during this phase i was preparing for some competitive exam and i knew that I m wasting my time but i couldn't control myself and i would talk to him for hours and hours but there was one thing i didn't like he knew how imp this exam was to me but he never said you should go study and all but yea whatever so we'd flirt sometimes or like talk about a lot of stuff even tho this guy didn't know about me having a crush on him and then one day(i realised after spending almost one month like this ) that i am almost ignoring my studies and i have to stop this but didn't know how so i confessed and explained him everything that i can't help but fall more and more and i even told him that this is just a phase for me I'll get over it you don't need to worry but then he said he like me too i knew he was just saying it but right after this moment my crush obsession or whatever started to fade slowly and he started to like me even more and then i told him there's no future even if we like eachother i mean I have a lot to focus on and i told him from the very start that I've never been in a relationship and I'm not even looking for one but he would still try. And Now after five months he is like crazy for me
You know what the worst part is that since I'm preparing for that competitive exam again bc last tym i didn't do well but he just doesn't understand that i can't talk to him for whole damn day. He just wants to talk he even msg me when he's in class at first i felt really bad for him that he must be missing me and all but now he just doesn't understand that i also have a life like last night I said I'm going to sleep gn and he was like it's just ten can we talk for a while like seriously I've failed once and now im preparing again and he doesn't understand all he cares is that he likes me and he needs to talk to me.
ONE MORE THAT I'D LIKE TO ADD THIS GUY IS REALLY GOOD BUT HE ACTING THIS WAY BECAUSE HE S AFRAID TO LOSE ME BUT I JUST WANT HIM YO UNDERSTAND THAT I REALLY CAN'T FOCUS ON ANYTHING OTHER THAN MY CAREER RIGHT NOW.
So guys pls tell me what should I do and this is just like very small part of the story i talk about this to my bsf all the time she always tells me you don't give him hope and don't make him feel that you guys have a chance so that he won't get hurt but he's gonna get hurt anyway
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So I started talking to this guy on telegram and from the very first day i started liking him and after like three or four days i became extremely obsessed with him and during this phase i was preparing for some competitive exam and i knew that I m wasting my time but i couldn't control myself and i would talk to him for hours and hours but there was one thing i didn't like he knew how imp this exam was to me but he never said you should go study and all but yea whatever so we'd flirt sometimes or like talk about a lot of stuff even tho this guy didn't know about me having a crush on him and then one day(i realised after spending almost one month like this ) that i am almost ignoring my studies and i have to stop this but didn't know how so i confessed and explained him everything that i can't help but fall more and more and i even told him that this is just a phase for me I'll get over it you don't need to worry but then he said he like me too i knew he was just saying it but right after this moment my crush obsession or whatever started to fade slowly and he started to like me even more and then i told him there's no future even if we like eachother i mean I have a lot to focus on and i told him from the very start that I've never been in a relationship and I'm not even looking for one but he would still try. And Now after five months he is like crazy for me
You know what the worst part is that since I'm preparing for that competitive exam again bc last tym i didn't do well but he just doesn't understand that i can't talk to him for whole damn day. He just wants to talk he even msg me when he's in class at first i felt really bad for him that he must be missing me and all but now he just doesn't understand that i also have a life like last night I said I'm going to sleep gn and he was like it's just ten can we talk for a while like seriously I've failed once and now im preparing again and he doesn't understand all he cares is that he likes me and he needs to talk to me.
ONE MORE THAT I'D LIKE TO ADD THIS GUY IS REALLY GOOD BUT HE ACTING THIS WAY BECAUSE HE S AFRAID TO LOSE ME BUT I JUST WANT HIM YO UNDERSTAND THAT I REALLY CAN'T FOCUS ON ANYTHING OTHER THAN MY CAREER RIGHT NOW.
So guys pls tell me what should I do and this is just like very small part of the story i talk about this to my bsf all the time she always tells me you don't give him hope and don't make him feel that you guys have a chance so that he won't get hurt but he's gonna get hurt anyway
Please help with your suggestions
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Ethan
I just dealt with this situation with one of my classmates from college a few months ago. She seemed nice at first, but she was very obsessed with me. I never dated her because she already had a boyfriend, but she sure as hell acted like she had a huge crush on me, and was extremely obsessed with me. That is extremely inappropriate. She called me constantly and most of the time they were at the wrong times. She always texted me and she would not stop bothering me. I would be busy studying and she still would not stop texting me when I would say that I am busy. Last time I checked, the words I'm busy are supposed to be the universal sign of I can't talk right now. She also noticed how big of a nerd I am, and she tried to make me her tutor for the semester because she was extremely behind in the class, and I was already halfway through my semester and the work for the class, and she didn't even start the work. She tried to make me her tutor, but I can't do that. She relied on me when she could have just gone to the school's tutoring center. I had the feeling that if I did do that, she would have taken advantage of how smart I am, used it to get a good grade, and never talk to me again. I never gave her that help because I couldn't. That is why colleges have tutoring centers. She had an immature high school behavior, too. It's friggin college. Stop acting like an immature child and grow up. I even skipped class a few times to avoid her. That on top of needing a break from my bad professor. She was even late for one of her classes to say goodbye to me as I was walking to my car. She only had two minutes until class, and the building where it was at the opposite direction I was going, and she ran like the wind to catch me just to say bye to me. She was late because she couldn't think before she acted. I haven't spoken to this girl since the semester came to an end, and she has not contacted me since then. I hope this does not happen to me or anyone else again.
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I just dealt with this situation with one of my classmates from college a few months ago. She seemed nice at first, but she was very obsessed with me. I never dated her because she already had a boyfriend, but she sure as hell acted like she had a huge crush on me, and was extremely obsessed with me. That is extremely inappropriate. She called me constantly and most of the time they were at the wrong times. She always texted me and she would not stop bothering me. I would be busy studying and she still would not stop texting me when I would say that I am busy. Last time I checked, the words I'm busy are supposed to be the universal sign of I can't talk right now. She also noticed how big of a nerd I am, and she tried to make me her tutor for the semester because she was extremely behind in the class, and I was already halfway through my semester and the work for the class, and she didn't even start the work. She tried to make me her tutor, but I can't do that. She relied on me when she could have just gone to the school's tutoring center. I had the feeling that if I did do that, she would have taken advantage of how smart I am, used it to get a good grade, and never talk to me again. I never gave her that help because I couldn't. That is why colleges have tutoring centers. She had an immature high school behavior, too. It's friggin college. Stop acting like an immature child and grow up. I even skipped class a few times to avoid her. That on top of needing a break from my bad professor. She was even late for one of her classes to say goodbye to me as I was walking to my car. She only had two minutes until class, and the building where it was at the opposite direction I was going, and she ran like the wind to catch me just to say bye to me. She was late because she couldn't think before she acted. I haven't spoken to this girl since the semester came to an end, and she has not contacted me since then. I hope this does not happen to me or anyone else again.
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Cory
This is a difficult topic because sometimes you're both obsessed with each other and that's good to some extent. Just check the list don't do anything that's annoying or over-the-top. It's easy to get obsessed if you're apart for a long time or something early in the relationship and you Pine away for them that's normal. Just keep in your mind that you love yourself and you share your love with someone else; there's no shame in that.
Let's face it if it's a perfect relationship more or less and you both feel it you're both going to feel a little obsessed. So don't destroy the best relationship you ever had by worrying about it. Just tone it down and think long-term. Realize your partner might be obsessed with you and that's pulling you into the same mindset, remember you're always there to help each other.
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This is a difficult topic because sometimes you're both obsessed with each other and that's good to some extent. Just check the list don't do anything that's annoying or over-the-top. It's easy to get obsessed if you're apart for a long time or something early in the relationship and you Pine away for them that's normal. Just keep in your mind that you love yourself and you share your love with someone else; there's no shame in that.
Let's face it if it's a perfect relationship more or less and you both feel it you're both going to feel a little obsessed. So don't destroy the best relationship you ever had by worrying about it. Just tone it down and think long-term. Realize your partner might be obsessed with you and that's pulling you into the same mindset, remember you're always there to help each other.
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Solitary
In fairness, nobody likes sending a message and not getting a response within a reasonable time frame. My last relationship ended with me being stonewalled for 3 days. One minute we were having a normal conversation over text, the next she just completely shut me out. For the first 2 days, I was an anxious wreck. On the 3rd day, I began to look up what to do when being stonewalled. I regret not simply walking away - could have saved myself a lot of hurt and anger.
The hurt took a long time to get over - most of it stemming from anger at myself, for letting myself be put in that situation. The lesson I took away from it? If you don't respect the person you are in that relationship, in 9 cases out of 10 it's the wrong relationship for you.
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In fairness, nobody likes sending a message and not getting a response within a reasonable time frame. My last relationship ended with me being stonewalled for 3 days. One minute we were having a normal conversation over text, the next she just completely shut me out. For the first 2 days, I was an anxious wreck. On the 3rd day, I began to look up what to do when being stonewalled. I regret not simply walking away - could have saved myself a lot of hurt and anger.
The hurt took a long time to get over - most of it stemming from anger at myself, for letting myself be put in that situation. The lesson I took away from it? If you don't respect the person you are in that relationship, in 9 cases out of 10 it's the wrong relationship for you.
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Mariam
I am extremely kind and shy.
There is a boy who is obsessed with me and I tried as much as I can to say no clearly, and explain in the nicest possible way why I don't want to be in a relationship right now but he is still insisting.
Every time I tell him sorry I can't, he keep telling me take your time and think about it seriously please please think. And he is always talking with me and while we are talking he calls me his wife or his fiance or my love. I literally rejected the whole relationship and he calls me his wife I don't know how to escape
Please someone tell me what should I do
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I am extremely kind and shy.
There is a boy who is obsessed with me and I tried as much as I can to say no clearly, and explain in the nicest possible way why I don't want to be in a relationship right now but he is still insisting.
Every time I tell him sorry I can't, he keep telling me take your time and think about it seriously please please think. And he is always talking with me and while we are talking he calls me his wife or his fiance or my love. I literally rejected the whole relationship and he calls me his wife I don't know how to escape
Please someone tell me what should I do
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Oiayoiay
I had a friend who is a bit obsessed with me. Sometimes she calls me multiple times a day cuz shes bored or wants to talk. On average like 4 calls and the most calls I got a day was 13 calls. Goes as far as send me long messages and unnessary photos of random things. When I do pick up, she just blurt out and rambles on random details I didnt even ask about. So usually I respond with oh ok, or dry responses to end the conversation quickly. This ends up making things worse cuz its like shes expecting me to give or say something interesting thus the random rambling mentioned in beginning.
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I had a friend who is a bit obsessed with me. Sometimes she calls me multiple times a day cuz shes bored or wants to talk. On average like 4 calls and the most calls I got a day was 13 calls. Goes as far as send me long messages and unnessary photos of random things. When I do pick up, she just blurt out and rambles on random details I didnt even ask about. So usually I respond with oh ok, or dry responses to end the conversation quickly. This ends up making things worse cuz its like shes expecting me to give or say something interesting thus the random rambling mentioned in beginning.
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CarGy69ZL1
This video isnt necessarily inaccurate but I do think it can be misleading Psych2Go will typically preface videos by explaining that you cant assume someone who shows one or two of these traits is toxic or ingenuine, so Im surprised that didnt happen here for example someone who gives disproportionally might just show their love in that particular way. Someone who appears obsessed with status very well could be, or might just be trying to support their partners goals as best as they can. Like anything else, these are NOT telltale signs; their context must be taken into account.
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This video isnt necessarily inaccurate but I do think it can be misleading Psych2Go will typically preface videos by explaining that you cant assume someone who shows one or two of these traits is toxic or ingenuine, so Im surprised that didnt happen here for example someone who gives disproportionally might just show their love in that particular way. Someone who appears obsessed with status very well could be, or might just be trying to support their partners goals as best as they can. Like anything else, these are NOT telltale signs; their context must be taken into account.
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Mick
i dont really agree with everything, as you said there is a thin line between love and obsession.
there are phases in long lasting love in relationship, and when you fall inlove, the first days / weeks / months are the most intense feelings where you can get a little obsessed with your partner and there is nothing wrong with this it can be part of a phase of love. just wanting to spend more time with your partner but obviously it isnt gonna be forever. at some point you will calm down but still be inlove with them.
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i dont really agree with everything, as you said there is a thin line between love and obsession.
there are phases in long lasting love in relationship, and when you fall inlove, the first days / weeks / months are the most intense feelings where you can get a little obsessed with your partner and there is nothing wrong with this it can be part of a phase of love. just wanting to spend more time with your partner but obviously it isnt gonna be forever. at some point you will calm down but still be inlove with them.
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Peachy
After watching this video, Im more sure about how toxic and immature I am in a relationship. Despite all of the wounds that I caused to my partner, they still stick with me and spot the good sides in me. So Im now learning how to change, how to be more mature day by day so I can treat them better, for what they really deserve to have.
I know I was a bad partner, but Im happy that I figured that out and decided to change
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After watching this video, Im more sure about how toxic and immature I am in a relationship. Despite all of the wounds that I caused to my partner, they still stick with me and spot the good sides in me. So Im now learning how to change, how to be more mature day by day so I can treat them better, for what they really deserve to have.
I know I was a bad partner, but Im happy that I figured that out and decided to change
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Killua565
They change their opinions easily because you said something, you don't have to be eloquent or persuasive at all or to have cared at all before. All that matters is you're perfect so your opinions are perfect and anyone in their way is bad.
Ignoring or romanticizing your bad traits, or romanticizing your believed persecution.
Trance-like state when talking to them.
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They change their opinions easily because you said something, you don't have to be eloquent or persuasive at all or to have cared at all before. All that matters is you're perfect so your opinions are perfect and anyone in their way is bad.
Ignoring or romanticizing your bad traits, or romanticizing your believed persecution.
Trance-like state when talking to them.
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marmol_rm
Don't get hurt by this kind of videos people. If you're giving all you have for your partner and they won't accept it no matter what, that's not YOUR fault neither the other. Both sides are to fault for this, the best thing to do is to prioritize yourself and leave those people if they show clear signs of not caring, even if you love them, is for the better of both
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Don't get hurt by this kind of videos people. If you're giving all you have for your partner and they won't accept it no matter what, that's not YOUR fault neither the other. Both sides are to fault for this, the best thing to do is to prioritize yourself and leave those people if they show clear signs of not caring, even if you love them, is for the better of both
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education
I realized my partner and i both show some of these signs but like weakened and its also getting better so quick relief to some out there: things dont always go perfectly from the beginning. Its important to be forgiving, patient and helpful when dealing with obsession in a relationship. And obsession doesnt necessarily mean lack of love.
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I realized my partner and i both show some of these signs but like weakened and its also getting better so quick relief to some out there: things dont always go perfectly from the beginning. Its important to be forgiving, patient and helpful when dealing with obsession in a relationship. And obsession doesnt necessarily mean lack of love.
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WretchedWendigo
I just broke up with a girl last night and she was absolutely obsessed with me she was making false promises and was doing so much to herself that was bad for her so she would stay with me but she quickly started unloading all her drama on me like I was a therapist and started being really toxic
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I just broke up with a girl last night and she was absolutely obsessed with me she was making false promises and was doing so much to herself that was bad for her so she would stay with me but she quickly started unloading all her drama on me like I was a therapist and started being really toxic
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Bryce
One lesson you should never forget,
that when a door closes a window opens.
Dont hesitate to try to open that door because it may just be closed & not locked. The window isnt be enough to see everything. Allow patience to check whether the door is closed or not. Give it time and space trust me.
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One lesson you should never forget,
that when a door closes a window opens.
Dont hesitate to try to open that door because it may just be closed & not locked. The window isnt be enough to see everything. Allow patience to check whether the door is closed or not. Give it time and space trust me.
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GIGABOB
1st and 2nd I do but I dont actually take I only give to her lol and the 4th Im pretty sure my imagination is high but the 5th is nah I dont care if shes ugly or not Ill still love her the 6th huh well I dont make promises too much but I do make the promises does this make me obsessed with her?
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1st and 2nd I do but I dont actually take I only give to her lol and the 4th Im pretty sure my imagination is high but the 5th is nah I dont care if shes ugly or not Ill still love her the 6th huh well I dont make promises too much but I do make the promises does this make me obsessed with her?
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Nintendo
I sometimes think Im obsessed and fluffy but i dont know were the line starts Ive dated my significant other and it feels like the honeymoon phase 24/7 and Im struggling with the romantisizeing the relationship but we both do it so I guess were both just obsessed with eachother
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I sometimes think Im obsessed and fluffy but i dont know were the line starts Ive dated my significant other and it feels like the honeymoon phase 24/7 and Im struggling with the romantisizeing the relationship but we both do it so I guess were both just obsessed with eachother
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Bryce
I wasnt obsessive I was just obsessed with the love we had and shared. It was true and genuine just the distance and me not understanding that I needed to do more for her and less for myself wasnt clicking till Im now left with nothing. God will guide me in the right direction.
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I wasnt obsessive I was just obsessed with the love we had and shared. It was true and genuine just the distance and me not understanding that I needed to do more for her and less for myself wasnt clicking till Im now left with nothing. God will guide me in the right direction.
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Vane
I had a guy who complained about me not sending him texts or answer calls when i told him i ll be thinking if i ll talk with him or not (i wanted to break contact) we weren t dating just talking. Ended up blocking him because he was too insistent and I only felt repulsed by him.
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I had a guy who complained about me not sending him texts or answer calls when i told him i ll be thinking if i ll talk with him or not (i wanted to break contact) we weren t dating just talking. Ended up blocking him because he was too insistent and I only felt repulsed by him.
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Co
We were both obssessed about each other but we thought it was love.
We heart each other and now i've got serious problematic issues and have no one (because of our relationship)to talk to. and no money to go to an expert therapist. but now its easier with this knowledge
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We were both obssessed about each other but we thought it was love.
We heart each other and now i've got serious problematic issues and have no one (because of our relationship)to talk to. and no money to go to an expert therapist. but now its easier with this knowledge
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SM
The 7 signs:
1. They hate unanswered messages
2. They are emotionally immature
3. They take without giving
4. They romanticize the relationship
5. They control you with guilt
6. They are obsessed with status
7. They make false promises
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The 7 signs:
1. They hate unanswered messages
2. They are emotionally immature
3. They take without giving
4. They romanticize the relationship
5. They control you with guilt
6. They are obsessed with status
7. They make false promises
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plsdontdecay
So I guess I was obsessed. I couldnt tell until someone told me that I had an unhealthy obsession with someone. Coincidentally, watching this video, I also realized she also has an unhealthy obsession with me. Thank god we broke up.
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So I guess I was obsessed. I couldnt tell until someone told me that I had an unhealthy obsession with someone. Coincidentally, watching this video, I also realized she also has an unhealthy obsession with me. Thank god we broke up.
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Ro
I wish I would have seen this video when it came out. I was about to enter into the worst relationship of my life, and this would have shown me everything wrong with it. Thank you for putting out stuff like this. Y'all are awesome.
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I wish I would have seen this video when it came out. I was about to enter into the worst relationship of my life, and this would have shown me everything wrong with it. Thank you for putting out stuff like this. Y'all are awesome.
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education
Ive had friendships with people who I thought were friends who would behave in these ways. Also get upset if I talked to or hung out with anyone else. thinking they own me. Definitely a control thing.
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Ive had friendships with people who I thought were friends who would behave in these ways. Also get upset if I talked to or hung out with anyone else. thinking they own me. Definitely a control thing.
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Kevin
Ive been in love with the same woman for 15 years, we went to court 3 years back and i told the judge, im sorry, judge, i dont want anything more to do with this woman at all, she just wants to judge me
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Ive been in love with the same woman for 15 years, we went to court 3 years back and i told the judge, im sorry, judge, i dont want anything more to do with this woman at all, she just wants to judge me
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Shockwave
Currently going through this right now.
My online friend turned into someone who's obsessed with me, and would always try to bring up why I didn't reply to his messages, even for 1 second.
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Currently going through this right now.
My online friend turned into someone who's obsessed with me, and would always try to bring up why I didn't reply to his messages, even for 1 second.
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