8 Struggles of Being Too Nice
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Kamilah
This is from childhood conditioning. Be nice, be lady like when I would show negative emotion, invalidated. people dont like that, that's the devil, that's ugly, I dont like that, stop crying. my reputation was about being nice. I identified as nice. I was a people pleaser. I knew nothing else. Bullied, backstabbed, walked all over. Even by my own family. Led me to all types of abuse by my boyfriend at the time at 15 in my sophomore year of high school. Learned so much about myself and about true love. 17 going on 18 in a few months now and I'm so much higher than I was before. I even learned how to have a healthy romantic relationship with my twin flame. Health in general is one of my top values. I know how to give and take. I have become my number one priority without being too closed off and selfish. I've Learned, unlearned, even going through a spiritual journey. And got real friends I consider to be my soul family. There is still so much more to life and to think I wanted to die at such a young age. Shout out to Tupac because Roses really do grow from concrete. I am living proof. You can do it too. If you dont think nobody believe in you, mf I BELIEVE IN YOU. For real. Everyone can grow, it is your birth right. Everyone can learn, unlearn, wake up, and work to heal their demons. If your demon is named Too Nice like mine is, know that you have the power to tame it and use it to your advantage. I love you. Be well. Remember that only you are responsible for where you are in life and only you can change it if you're not satisfied.
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This is from childhood conditioning. Be nice, be lady like when I would show negative emotion, invalidated. people dont like that, that's the devil, that's ugly, I dont like that, stop crying. my reputation was about being nice. I identified as nice. I was a people pleaser. I knew nothing else. Bullied, backstabbed, walked all over. Even by my own family. Led me to all types of abuse by my boyfriend at the time at 15 in my sophomore year of high school. Learned so much about myself and about true love. 17 going on 18 in a few months now and I'm so much higher than I was before. I even learned how to have a healthy romantic relationship with my twin flame. Health in general is one of my top values. I know how to give and take. I have become my number one priority without being too closed off and selfish. I've Learned, unlearned, even going through a spiritual journey. And got real friends I consider to be my soul family. There is still so much more to life and to think I wanted to die at such a young age. Shout out to Tupac because Roses really do grow from concrete. I am living proof. You can do it too. If you dont think nobody believe in you, mf I BELIEVE IN YOU. For real. Everyone can grow, it is your birth right. Everyone can learn, unlearn, wake up, and work to heal their demons. If your demon is named Too Nice like mine is, know that you have the power to tame it and use it to your advantage. I love you. Be well. Remember that only you are responsible for where you are in life and only you can change it if you're not satisfied.
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Drina
I had all of those problems from childhood to adolescence. I helped other students with their classwork or revision notes. I had no problem helping my classmates. But when they started copying off my homework, stealing my phone and pencils, making me do their homework, buying things for them, and making me skip health class to hang out with them, it became clear that they were taking advantage of my good nature and using it against me. It got to the point where everyone seemed to want something from me.
I was too naive to realize that they only stuck around as long as they needed something from me. I accepted every request they gave to me and did everything they asked of me, no matter how unwilling, uncomfortable, or frustrated I was.
I started to resent them and became overwhelmed, and I kept to myself for most of the time I was in school, with my parents even setting up an emotional chart because I wasn't talking. My self-esteem was crippled and I nearly lost my identity. I didn't tell anyone what was happening because I didn't want their perception of me to change. I was left alone once I had nothing more to give to them. I had even become numb at one point. I was too blinded by my own good nature to realize that they were using it to get what they wanted. I was too scared to tell my parents and teachers what was going on, because I was so afraid of retaliation. I accepted every request they gave me, no matter how unwilling or uncomfortable I was, to the point where I slowly started to become resentful.
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I had all of those problems from childhood to adolescence. I helped other students with their classwork or revision notes. I had no problem helping my classmates. But when they started copying off my homework, stealing my phone and pencils, making me do their homework, buying things for them, and making me skip health class to hang out with them, it became clear that they were taking advantage of my good nature and using it against me. It got to the point where everyone seemed to want something from me.
I was too naive to realize that they only stuck around as long as they needed something from me. I accepted every request they gave to me and did everything they asked of me, no matter how unwilling, uncomfortable, or frustrated I was.
I started to resent them and became overwhelmed, and I kept to myself for most of the time I was in school, with my parents even setting up an emotional chart because I wasn't talking. My self-esteem was crippled and I nearly lost my identity. I didn't tell anyone what was happening because I didn't want their perception of me to change. I was left alone once I had nothing more to give to them. I had even become numb at one point. I was too blinded by my own good nature to realize that they were using it to get what they wanted. I was too scared to tell my parents and teachers what was going on, because I was so afraid of retaliation. I accepted every request they gave me, no matter how unwilling or uncomfortable I was, to the point where I slowly started to become resentful.
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. Aoi-chan.
I was told to be nice all the time apparently it was already in me. my cousin. she. Used me and copied my work and even asks me to draw for her modules. I mean it's okay but she's been copying almost my whole answers and she has wifi! (In the Philippines when we don't have wifi we go to a store and paload so we can have data) she could've just do it herself, on her own but she always comes to me like I'm some kind of right answer machine. my grandma knows about it and said I should stop it. my grandma even told my mother, because the day when grandma told me I was too nice was my modules we're missing and I know I left it at my cousins house. they denied it was there like they're hiding it, but at least I still finished all that in 1 day cause i asked to borrow my classmates book and stuff. I never wanted to go to my cousins house ever again. Cause she just do TikTok all day, my grandma and mom even did told me I was too nice
In Tagalog; masyado Kang mabait
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I was told to be nice all the time apparently it was already in me. my cousin. she. Used me and copied my work and even asks me to draw for her modules. I mean it's okay but she's been copying almost my whole answers and she has wifi! (In the Philippines when we don't have wifi we go to a store and paload so we can have data) she could've just do it herself, on her own but she always comes to me like I'm some kind of right answer machine. my grandma knows about it and said I should stop it. my grandma even told my mother, because the day when grandma told me I was too nice was my modules we're missing and I know I left it at my cousins house. they denied it was there like they're hiding it, but at least I still finished all that in 1 day cause i asked to borrow my classmates book and stuff. I never wanted to go to my cousins house ever again. Cause she just do TikTok all day, my grandma and mom even did told me I was too nice
In Tagalog; masyado Kang mabait
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Rohan
There's this girl I knew for a long time. I saw her recently at a Christmas party I went too. I was just playing on my phone and she came up to me. She asked if she could use my hotspot since her phone is booty. I said yes cause it was a simple thing to do. Theeeeen a few moments later, she saw me playing subway surfers. She asked if she could play. Again I said yes cause it wasn't a big deal. But I had to draw the line when she stared wasting my keys to redeem her dieing. She didn't even freaking ask if she could use it. I grinded for that shit. But I didn't say anything cause I didn't want to sound rude about it. Plus she's so nice to me and it makes me feel bad.
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There's this girl I knew for a long time. I saw her recently at a Christmas party I went too. I was just playing on my phone and she came up to me. She asked if she could use my hotspot since her phone is booty. I said yes cause it was a simple thing to do. Theeeeen a few moments later, she saw me playing subway surfers. She asked if she could play. Again I said yes cause it wasn't a big deal. But I had to draw the line when she stared wasting my keys to redeem her dieing. She didn't even freaking ask if she could use it. I grinded for that shit. But I didn't say anything cause I didn't want to sound rude about it. Plus she's so nice to me and it makes me feel bad.
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TreeFitty
I usually act as the counselor for one of my friends and didnt believe my other friends when they claimed he was taking advantage of me I finally had to force myself out of the situation when my other friends named the many times he would ditch me as soon as I helped him it sucks when I realized he wasnt such a great friend
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I usually act as the counselor for one of my friends and didnt believe my other friends when they claimed he was taking advantage of me I finally had to force myself out of the situation when my other friends named the many times he would ditch me as soon as I helped him it sucks when I realized he wasnt such a great friend
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Elanna
When Im too afraid to say no to hanging out with my friend, I just make up lies as to why I cant go instead of just saying that I want to rest and take time for myself. I know she probably would appreciate the honestly, but I cant help but think that she would be mad at me if I told her the truth.
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When Im too afraid to say no to hanging out with my friend, I just make up lies as to why I cant go instead of just saying that I want to rest and take time for myself. I know she probably would appreciate the honestly, but I cant help but think that she would be mad at me if I told her the truth.
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Epic
I started trying to be straightforward. If I'm upset just I'm a bit upset something bad is happening well, this is upsetting you don't have to hold it in then get mad seemingly out of nowhere. Just be completely honest. If someone is pushing your boundaries I'm really not a fan of this
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I started trying to be straightforward. If I'm upset just I'm a bit upset something bad is happening well, this is upsetting you don't have to hold it in then get mad seemingly out of nowhere. Just be completely honest. If someone is pushing your boundaries I'm really not a fan of this
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J. Q.
Woah slow down. Just because I forgive everyone doesnt mean I trust them. I forgive them because I dont need a grudge weighing me down like an anchor. Id rather let the problem fade out of existence like the past instance the spawned it in the first place. Emphasis on the word past
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Woah slow down. Just because I forgive everyone doesnt mean I trust them. I forgive them because I dont need a grudge weighing me down like an anchor. Id rather let the problem fade out of existence like the past instance the spawned it in the first place. Emphasis on the word past
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yue
This is so true
I remember when I dated almost all the people that has a crush on me even though I have no feelings for them.
I do all the tasks.
All the pressure comes to me.
When people vent to me I always say Come by anytime and when I'm busy I can't turn them down
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This is so true
I remember when I dated almost all the people that has a crush on me even though I have no feelings for them.
I do all the tasks.
All the pressure comes to me.
When people vent to me I always say Come by anytime and when I'm busy I can't turn them down
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Quniey
My friend is too nice. He always do things for his friends even thought he doesn't want to. Sometimes his friends would just ignore and pretendly forgot about the good things that he does. I want to cheer him up but I don't know what to do. :'( he is sort of a people pleaser.
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My friend is too nice. He always do things for his friends even thought he doesn't want to. Sometimes his friends would just ignore and pretendly forgot about the good things that he does. I want to cheer him up but I don't know what to do. :'( he is sort of a people pleaser.
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Xeans_19
People who are not close to me call me a kind and patient angel but if i start saying no to them, act a little upset or show my opinions to them they distance themselves from me which is sad. I'm lucky i have friends that i can be open to without hurting any of them.
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People who are not close to me call me a kind and patient angel but if i start saying no to them, act a little upset or show my opinions to them they distance themselves from me which is sad. I'm lucky i have friends that i can be open to without hurting any of them.
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Dustin
Thinking that being nice is a fault is ridiculous. The fault belongs to other people for exploiting you. You should never have to second guess yourself if you want to be nice. However, people are just naturally terrible people anymore and apparently that's normal now.
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Thinking that being nice is a fault is ridiculous. The fault belongs to other people for exploiting you. You should never have to second guess yourself if you want to be nice. However, people are just naturally terrible people anymore and apparently that's normal now.
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Gabi
i am feeling bad because i was too nice with a guard, and he asked my number. of course i said no, but i got really mad of getting to this point. i shouldnt be that nice in the first place and something bad could have happened. im scared to see him again somewhere.
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i am feeling bad because i was too nice with a guard, and he asked my number. of course i said no, but i got really mad of getting to this point. i shouldnt be that nice in the first place and something bad could have happened. im scared to see him again somewhere.
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SeireiART
Being too nice will make people step on you at every opportunity.
It's good to be nice to people, but there are limits to it, and when that one nice individual reaches its limit, you're gonna regret it so much.
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Being too nice will make people step on you at every opportunity.
It's good to be nice to people, but there are limits to it, and when that one nice individual reaches its limit, you're gonna regret it so much.
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best
I have one question I hope that can be asked why do I not sleep at night but then once sleep during the day I stay up all night on a device then and the day it's like take a long nap no matter how long it is
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I have one question I hope that can be asked why do I not sleep at night but then once sleep during the day I stay up all night on a device then and the day it's like take a long nap no matter how long it is
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Brain
That's why I have fake friends because I can't say no even if It hurts my feelings I always say yes because I don't want to disappoint them and I can easily forgive others even if it's there fault.
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That's why I have fake friends because I can't say no even if It hurts my feelings I always say yes because I don't want to disappoint them and I can easily forgive others even if it's there fault.
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Toby
What I do is usually treat people how they treat me, but a lot of them call me jerks for that. Little do they know.
Besides that when I meet someone nice, I treat them how I want to be treated.
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What I do is usually treat people how they treat me, but a lot of them call me jerks for that. Little do they know.
Besides that when I meet someone nice, I treat them how I want to be treated.
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taki141
To fellow ARMY who made it here as well:
relates to half of these points oh yeah, me. me. me.
3: 30 is distracted by the RJ sitting in the corner on the bed me. OH LOOK ITS RJ! :D
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To fellow ARMY who made it here as well:
relates to half of these points oh yeah, me. me. me.
3: 30 is distracted by the RJ sitting in the corner on the bed me. OH LOOK ITS RJ! :D
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Moosistao
I'm nice(or what they say) but I don't trust much - _- I might treat you as a friend but I don't trust you like the way you trust me. Heck my friends don't even know my favorite color.
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I'm nice(or what they say) but I don't trust much - _- I might treat you as a friend but I don't trust you like the way you trust me. Heck my friends don't even know my favorite color.
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Clouding
Fear of speaking my mind, being to nice and not asserting myself, being unable to express my emotions around people, and social anxiety all empower each other and wow it's some trash
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Fear of speaking my mind, being to nice and not asserting myself, being unable to express my emotions around people, and social anxiety all empower each other and wow it's some trash
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Tiwari
Why I'm like that. Just asking by my side why
A girl cheated me. For her emotional stability and nothing else and I'm not even. Have that idea to say why you've done that. Why?
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Why I'm like that. Just asking by my side why
A girl cheated me. For her emotional stability and nothing else and I'm not even. Have that idea to say why you've done that. Why?
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Pixel
Me who tells my sister Im done helping her because every time she needs something I get it. She texts me for a drink me: well getting her a drink wont hurt rightttt
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Me who tells my sister Im done helping her because every time she needs something I get it. She texts me for a drink me: well getting her a drink wont hurt rightttt
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Blog
When I was 10, I was bullied by my classmates because I was too nice. It's not a big deal that you may think but it's enough for me to remember and obsess till now
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When I was 10, I was bullied by my classmates because I was too nice. It's not a big deal that you may think but it's enough for me to remember and obsess till now
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Stephany
i say sorry for everything someone could hit me wit a ball by accident n id say sorry. i dont want them to feel bad they hit me either. im so nice
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i say sorry for everything someone could hit me wit a ball by accident n id say sorry. i dont want them to feel bad they hit me either. im so nice
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water
For me its:
-being called innocent
-being booped all the time
-being an arm rest
-people asking me questions and using me all the time
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For me its:
-being called innocent
-being booped all the time
-being an arm rest
-people asking me questions and using me all the time
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