14 Signs of Emotional Abuse In Relationships
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Ymyeh
I was just in a fight with my GF yesterday. She was making a joke about something to which I unfortunately did not get. We were laughing happily prior to that joke but once I told her that I understood it wrong she flew off the handle. She was angry that I couldnt understand the joke. Why did she need to explain the joke to me that this was not what she was expecting me to act and answer. I said I was sorry for being slow witted and I understood it differently (quite frankly it was a bit obscure. I told her how I misunderstood the joke but now I see she was right and apologized profusely for not understanding.
She said it was fine but a moment later she remarks at me sarcastically saying I was making excuses, laughing at one point further making me feel dumber than before. She began to further press the point how annoying it was for her that I was this slow. I remained silent for the most part while apologizing. After a while she did not persist in showing her annoyance with me.
I told her that she was starting to hurt my feelings and asked her to please stop. To which she got angrier telling me that I was guilt-tripping her. I honestly was not. I just wanted to convey that her words is continually making me feel worse about myself. After a long pause she says ok and cuts communication entirely. I even apologized again and again. telling her I loved her. but nothing. come next day still nothing. I know she saw my messages saying I love her but she just sees them and wont take my calls.
And here I am now. This wasnt the first time something like this happened and she quite frankly ticks a lot of the boxes in the video.
Am I being abused?
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I was just in a fight with my GF yesterday. She was making a joke about something to which I unfortunately did not get. We were laughing happily prior to that joke but once I told her that I understood it wrong she flew off the handle. She was angry that I couldnt understand the joke. Why did she need to explain the joke to me that this was not what she was expecting me to act and answer. I said I was sorry for being slow witted and I understood it differently (quite frankly it was a bit obscure. I told her how I misunderstood the joke but now I see she was right and apologized profusely for not understanding.
She said it was fine but a moment later she remarks at me sarcastically saying I was making excuses, laughing at one point further making me feel dumber than before. She began to further press the point how annoying it was for her that I was this slow. I remained silent for the most part while apologizing. After a while she did not persist in showing her annoyance with me.
I told her that she was starting to hurt my feelings and asked her to please stop. To which she got angrier telling me that I was guilt-tripping her. I honestly was not. I just wanted to convey that her words is continually making me feel worse about myself. After a long pause she says ok and cuts communication entirely. I even apologized again and again. telling her I loved her. but nothing. come next day still nothing. I know she saw my messages saying I love her but she just sees them and wont take my calls.
And here I am now. This wasnt the first time something like this happened and she quite frankly ticks a lot of the boxes in the video.
Am I being abused?
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Moon
It looks like I've been abused while abusing him since I've been ( out of insecurity and lack of reassurance) acting controlling, we were both victims of narcissistic perverts while having severe unhealed traumas due to our daddy issues so u can imagine how our relationship went, i was the one trying to heal both and he was the one only focusing on his career while keeping me around to cherish him and nurture him only whenever he needs it he didn't consider fixing him self a bit no self growth not a bit of effort to change for the better healing for both of us he wanted me to work on the whole relationship on my own which is impossible i can't heal both n make it work on my own that's why I lat go n focused all my energy on my self cuz if he doesn't wanna heal i do! If he stays the same he won't accomplish much in his pattern and even if he does he will never be satisfied and whole until he accepts and heal himself.
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It looks like I've been abused while abusing him since I've been ( out of insecurity and lack of reassurance) acting controlling, we were both victims of narcissistic perverts while having severe unhealed traumas due to our daddy issues so u can imagine how our relationship went, i was the one trying to heal both and he was the one only focusing on his career while keeping me around to cherish him and nurture him only whenever he needs it he didn't consider fixing him self a bit no self growth not a bit of effort to change for the better healing for both of us he wanted me to work on the whole relationship on my own which is impossible i can't heal both n make it work on my own that's why I lat go n focused all my energy on my self cuz if he doesn't wanna heal i do! If he stays the same he won't accomplish much in his pattern and even if he does he will never be satisfied and whole until he accepts and heal himself.
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Arata
I only relate to a some of these but MAN they hit so hard!
Our bond was so strong just a couple years ago but has recently felt like I'm walking along very thin ice. My friend is currently going through stress and trauma so I just think if I stay quiet and act the way they want, then things will get better over time. But taking a moment to properly think about it, I genuinely believe that they're being toxic, even if they don't realise. The problem is, I can't pull myself away from them. I can't even remmeber how we became friends. I'm too much of a nervous wreck to speak to others to try to make new friends, and they know it. They know that if one of us is gonna pull the plug on the friendship, it's them because I'll never have the heart to do it. Even tho I know it'll be healthy for me.
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I only relate to a some of these but MAN they hit so hard!
Our bond was so strong just a couple years ago but has recently felt like I'm walking along very thin ice. My friend is currently going through stress and trauma so I just think if I stay quiet and act the way they want, then things will get better over time. But taking a moment to properly think about it, I genuinely believe that they're being toxic, even if they don't realise. The problem is, I can't pull myself away from them. I can't even remmeber how we became friends. I'm too much of a nervous wreck to speak to others to try to make new friends, and they know it. They know that if one of us is gonna pull the plug on the friendship, it's them because I'll never have the heart to do it. Even tho I know it'll be healthy for me.
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Connor
One of my best friends is in an emotionally abusive relationship, and it's extremely hard and draining to get him to open his eyes to all of this. He has vented to me in detail over text and even called me at work to vent over the course of 30 minutes about what his boyfriend has done. I and a few other of his friends have told him that he should break up with his current boyfriend, but no matter what we try, he'll always say that he loves his boyfriend, he's afraid of being single again, and doesn't care if the abuse gets worse. It's just heartbreaking to me to see that one of my closest friends and confidants is being treated so poorly, and because he's desperate to be loved, he's willing to sacrifice himself because he wants a partner, even if they're bad for him.
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One of my best friends is in an emotionally abusive relationship, and it's extremely hard and draining to get him to open his eyes to all of this. He has vented to me in detail over text and even called me at work to vent over the course of 30 minutes about what his boyfriend has done. I and a few other of his friends have told him that he should break up with his current boyfriend, but no matter what we try, he'll always say that he loves his boyfriend, he's afraid of being single again, and doesn't care if the abuse gets worse. It's just heartbreaking to me to see that one of my closest friends and confidants is being treated so poorly, and because he's desperate to be loved, he's willing to sacrifice himself because he wants a partner, even if they're bad for him.
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Karolina
I recently broke up with a guy that did all the 14 ALL THE TIME! It was like an emotional roller coaster for a year and I always had to guess what would be the right thing to do and I was always wrong in his eyes. Together with him my blood pressure got very high and I thought it was because of me not exercising (because I couldnt always do that when I was planning to go to the gym he came to visit or made me feel guilty) Two months after I broke up with him I checked my blood pressure again and it was even a little bit low I really did my self a big favor by leaving him. So beware of these signs please if you read this! I cant imagine the status of my health if I stayed with him for longer time
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I recently broke up with a guy that did all the 14 ALL THE TIME! It was like an emotional roller coaster for a year and I always had to guess what would be the right thing to do and I was always wrong in his eyes. Together with him my blood pressure got very high and I thought it was because of me not exercising (because I couldnt always do that when I was planning to go to the gym he came to visit or made me feel guilty) Two months after I broke up with him I checked my blood pressure again and it was even a little bit low I really did my self a big favor by leaving him. So beware of these signs please if you read this! I cant imagine the status of my health if I stayed with him for longer time
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Carbon
I noticed any time I sent any of my progress on a game to this discord chat, theyd say something like theres no way youre still on that part because they completed the game. Like even if I was is that bad? Bro let me have fun the game JUST came out what is their problem?
They make me feel and treat me like Im immature, and keep calling me a ten year old. I was kept from people for years, of course Im gonna have trouble socializing.
Im younger than all of them and Ive made more accomplishments in my transition than they ever will in years.
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I noticed any time I sent any of my progress on a game to this discord chat, theyd say something like theres no way youre still on that part because they completed the game. Like even if I was is that bad? Bro let me have fun the game JUST came out what is their problem?
They make me feel and treat me like Im immature, and keep calling me a ten year old. I was kept from people for years, of course Im gonna have trouble socializing.
Im younger than all of them and Ive made more accomplishments in my transition than they ever will in years.
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Soubhik
Do men get emotionally abused by their partners? Because I have been. But no one believes me. And it's hard talking to anyone about it. Most of the times I get blamed cause I couldn't stand for myself in those times. I've been gaslighted severely and whatever confidence I had in myself I have lost it all. Today I feel like I'm a no one. I had dreams. I wanted to change the world. But now I have realised I wasn't meant for anything. Today I'm just grateful that I have survived another day.
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Do men get emotionally abused by their partners? Because I have been. But no one believes me. And it's hard talking to anyone about it. Most of the times I get blamed cause I couldn't stand for myself in those times. I've been gaslighted severely and whatever confidence I had in myself I have lost it all. Today I feel like I'm a no one. I had dreams. I wanted to change the world. But now I have realised I wasn't meant for anything. Today I'm just grateful that I have survived another day.
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Dave
iam a really nice guy and people say you need to toughen up get rid 16 years beeen togother we still dont know how to talk i like walks running cycling all she wants to do is shop or play witht he dog no love at all i dont know if iam doing it rignt i dont know if she thinks iam not manly enough for her a wuss toughen up dave sort of like thing iam sick of trying to be someone iam not iam a lover not a fighter i love wimen but this one just dosnt understand love
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iam a really nice guy and people say you need to toughen up get rid 16 years beeen togother we still dont know how to talk i like walks running cycling all she wants to do is shop or play witht he dog no love at all i dont know if iam doing it rignt i dont know if she thinks iam not manly enough for her a wuss toughen up dave sort of like thing iam sick of trying to be someone iam not iam a lover not a fighter i love wimen but this one just dosnt understand love
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celia
I realized for a few months that I may also contribute to problems in my current relationship. I felt toxicity on my partners side and then it felt like it shifted to me. Now I am the one causing problems. Thank you for this video this is gonna help me fix myself and my actions before it goes too far. I dont wanna be in a toxic relationship like my mother. I am better than that. I notice many people have toxic traits but its our job to fix that and do better.
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I realized for a few months that I may also contribute to problems in my current relationship. I felt toxicity on my partners side and then it felt like it shifted to me. Now I am the one causing problems. Thank you for this video this is gonna help me fix myself and my actions before it goes too far. I dont wanna be in a toxic relationship like my mother. I am better than that. I notice many people have toxic traits but its our job to fix that and do better.
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Versa
I don't need somebody putting me through that in my own account or in my life after 17 years of going through that from somebody else I don't want to go through that again by somebody else. I'm not going to have somebody control my life again I'm not going to have somebody control my phone my electronics anything to do with me ever again. I have kept my cool as much as I possibly can I will not be with somebody that does that to me
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I don't need somebody putting me through that in my own account or in my life after 17 years of going through that from somebody else I don't want to go through that again by somebody else. I'm not going to have somebody control my life again I'm not going to have somebody control my phone my electronics anything to do with me ever again. I have kept my cool as much as I possibly can I will not be with somebody that does that to me
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My
If i even say one sentece in a 24 hours to my husbend he replied me Why you want to ruined my life with your dirty mouth, and continue with rough abuseive language for my 1 sentence. and he blame me for every thing and he realised me very tacticly behined his every failure there's only reasion is me. i have panic attack for this treats i shevear but when i got panic attack infront of him he replied me Stop doing your noncense Darama
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If i even say one sentece in a 24 hours to my husbend he replied me Why you want to ruined my life with your dirty mouth, and continue with rough abuseive language for my 1 sentence. and he blame me for every thing and he realised me very tacticly behined his every failure there's only reasion is me. i have panic attack for this treats i shevear but when i got panic attack infront of him he replied me Stop doing your noncense Darama
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Fauxstrider
12 signs are a bullseye to what my wife says. I'm a sole bread winner, when I finally was able to afford to buy her a car of her dreams her reaction was oh OK and when I reminded her of that she says that actually she had earned for this car because she let me work from home. Not a simple thank you I love this car, nothing. It hurts to this day when I pay for repairs for her car or fill the tank.
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12 signs are a bullseye to what my wife says. I'm a sole bread winner, when I finally was able to afford to buy her a car of her dreams her reaction was oh OK and when I reminded her of that she says that actually she had earned for this car because she let me work from home. Not a simple thank you I love this car, nothing. It hurts to this day when I pay for repairs for her car or fill the tank.
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Ben
Just been through this with an ex girlfriend we had a miscarriage and I felt guilty 10 of these things applied to me.
We was living together and for four months and I was gaslighted and emotionally neglected.
Every conversion I had about trying to fix or find common ground resulted in me being insurcure and furious resistance.
Take care when enough is enough quit.
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Just been through this with an ex girlfriend we had a miscarriage and I felt guilty 10 of these things applied to me.
We was living together and for four months and I was gaslighted and emotionally neglected.
Every conversion I had about trying to fix or find common ground resulted in me being insurcure and furious resistance.
Take care when enough is enough quit.
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helgassa
I was in an abusive relationship 3 years ago. It was terrible. At the time, I didnt know what a healthier relationship should look like, so I thought there was something wrong with me. It was extremely difficult for me to get out of this relationship, but I failed. This man still haunts me, but I hate him so much that now I use abuse to somehow get back at him.
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I was in an abusive relationship 3 years ago. It was terrible. At the time, I didnt know what a healthier relationship should look like, so I thought there was something wrong with me. It was extremely difficult for me to get out of this relationship, but I failed. This man still haunts me, but I hate him so much that now I use abuse to somehow get back at him.
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LAtttiful
Problem is they are 100% to blame and has treated me like trash based off their wrong feeling. But if i invalidate their feelings (aka accusations) and place 100% blame on their self sabotaging, now I sound like an abuser. I'm over hearing them sounding like a victim when most things that went wrong was because of themselves. Take accountability and change.
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Problem is they are 100% to blame and has treated me like trash based off their wrong feeling. But if i invalidate their feelings (aka accusations) and place 100% blame on their self sabotaging, now I sound like an abuser. I'm over hearing them sounding like a victim when most things that went wrong was because of themselves. Take accountability and change.
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Layne
My boyfriend of five years told me Im not, and never have been good enough for him after years of him making me feel worthless, like Im a failure, Im useless, Im going to amount to nothing, guys Im so broken right now. I cant just leave, for many complicated reasons. Im so depressed, I dont even want to go on anymore. I just, dont want to suffer anymore
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My boyfriend of five years told me Im not, and never have been good enough for him after years of him making me feel worthless, like Im a failure, Im useless, Im going to amount to nothing, guys Im so broken right now. I cant just leave, for many complicated reasons. Im so depressed, I dont even want to go on anymore. I just, dont want to suffer anymore
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Ravenshelter
You know you're in an emotionally abusive relationship, when you can tick off all of the points except one or two, and then start to question whether it is in fact toxic or abusive, because not ALL of the points relate to the relationship.
Sending love and support to anyone else who's going through this as well, it's tough.
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You know you're in an emotionally abusive relationship, when you can tick off all of the points except one or two, and then start to question whether it is in fact toxic or abusive, because not ALL of the points relate to the relationship.
Sending love and support to anyone else who's going through this as well, it's tough.
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Mini
The girl I'm with right now does almost all of these things to me and and he was in an abusive relationship before being with me so I honestly don't think she recognizes what she's doing is amusic. So tonight I'm going to shower this video I'm just a flat out if that doesn't stop, I'm leaving.
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The girl I'm with right now does almost all of these things to me and and he was in an abusive relationship before being with me so I honestly don't think she recognizes what she's doing is amusic. So tonight I'm going to shower this video I'm just a flat out if that doesn't stop, I'm leaving.
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Garden
I went through this at school with a so-called best friend all the way back in the 90s, just before the Internet. I was trapped, isolated, and super dependent on her even up until my 20s.
I'm 40 next year, and I've only just started to process these demons, and give the abuser a name.
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I went through this at school with a so-called best friend all the way back in the 90s, just before the Internet. I was trapped, isolated, and super dependent on her even up until my 20s.
I'm 40 next year, and I've only just started to process these demons, and give the abuser a name.
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Kermit
I broke up with my abusive girlfriend a year ago, I noticed her abuse way too late into our relationship (We were together for almost 2 years) but i broke up with her anyway. Out of curiousity i wanted to check how many traits from this video describe her. The answer is all of them
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I broke up with my abusive girlfriend a year ago, I noticed her abuse way too late into our relationship (We were together for almost 2 years) but i broke up with her anyway. Out of curiousity i wanted to check how many traits from this video describe her. The answer is all of them
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Veronica
I can remember how every time I tried to communicate and talk about something that bothered me, I was accused of starting my sh! t again and causing trouble. No matter what I did, it was wrong. Im so glad Im out of it, now. Looking back, I cant believe the things I put up with.
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I can remember how every time I tried to communicate and talk about something that bothered me, I was accused of starting my sh! t again and causing trouble. No matter what I did, it was wrong. Im so glad Im out of it, now. Looking back, I cant believe the things I put up with.
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urbanobstacles
Ever notice in these videos it's always women talking and the abuser in the situation is always a man. Men are more likely to be physically abusive. But ladies sorry but your more likely to be mentally abusive. I'm not complaining but us men don't get any love
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Ever notice in these videos it's always women talking and the abuser in the situation is always a man. Men are more likely to be physically abusive. But ladies sorry but your more likely to be mentally abusive. I'm not complaining but us men don't get any love
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Khaleesi
Luckily I saw the signs before it was too late. Sadly I spent 12 years feeling like I was going crazy. I've been out for two weeks now and have never felt better. Never be too scared to reach out to a family member or friend for help You can do this.
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Luckily I saw the signs before it was too late. Sadly I spent 12 years feeling like I was going crazy. I've been out for two weeks now and have never felt better. Never be too scared to reach out to a family member or friend for help You can do this.
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Evolve
Tbh if this happens to me I wouldn't care I'm emotionally numb I wouldn't even care if they do or don't love me or even care. And if they ignore my feelings that okay for me and I walk on egg shells anyway so just another perk on me to be more caution.
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Tbh if this happens to me I wouldn't care I'm emotionally numb I wouldn't even care if they do or don't love me or even care. And if they ignore my feelings that okay for me and I walk on egg shells anyway so just another perk on me to be more caution.
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Mann
Total hobby psychology. Much too general. It always depends on the context. If one were to name concrete situations, it would be halfway serious, but like this? Totally generalised. For every point I immediately thought of a counter-example.
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Total hobby psychology. Much too general. It always depends on the context. If one were to name concrete situations, it would be halfway serious, but like this? Totally generalised. For every point I immediately thought of a counter-example.
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