6 Signs You Have A Love Addiction AKA Limerence
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Date: 2023-08-20
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spiderlime
i recently went through such a state, and i can say that there is no better freind than knowledge in such times: find out about your crush as much as you can. you may find out that the object of your love is someone with a very different mindset and set of ethics than your own. you don't want to end up drained and abused by manipulators.
be aware that falling in love has the falling part first. you won't fall if you take the right steps. also be aware that by falling to the right person rather than moving away, you become an unwilling accomplice to the wrongs that they may do to others. there can be nothing more empowering in the life of a bad person than the presence of a good person that has joined the dark side.
in this day and age, with so much pressure for conformity, and the preference in the media for an emphasis on moral ambiguity, people forgot to ask themselves: who am i really? what do i want from life? what are the values that i believe in? do they motivate me to become a better person, for myself and others? do the people in my life reflect any decency toward me and others? people are not born perfect, but they can become better. your approach to love should be based on this perspective.
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i recently went through such a state, and i can say that there is no better freind than knowledge in such times: find out about your crush as much as you can. you may find out that the object of your love is someone with a very different mindset and set of ethics than your own. you don't want to end up drained and abused by manipulators.
be aware that falling in love has the falling part first. you won't fall if you take the right steps. also be aware that by falling to the right person rather than moving away, you become an unwilling accomplice to the wrongs that they may do to others. there can be nothing more empowering in the life of a bad person than the presence of a good person that has joined the dark side.
in this day and age, with so much pressure for conformity, and the preference in the media for an emphasis on moral ambiguity, people forgot to ask themselves: who am i really? what do i want from life? what are the values that i believe in? do they motivate me to become a better person, for myself and others? do the people in my life reflect any decency toward me and others? people are not born perfect, but they can become better. your approach to love should be based on this perspective.
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DistressedDamsel79
Damn, I have definitely experienced this. For me I think it developed as a response to being overweight, being told it affected my worth and would have an negative effect on my love life. So any time I felt myself start to crush on some one, I would crush (repress) those feelings because I didnt deserve them and had no chance in hell. It didnt stop me from having my own personal fan fiction and hoping they would be the one to prove my insecurities wrong. Yeah Im emotionally stunted in this area. Still never been with someone, at this point being single is familiar and safe. The only thing stopping me from dating now is the paranoia I get from listening to true crimeIm so glad Im meeting with my therapist next week I definitely need to show her this
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Damn, I have definitely experienced this. For me I think it developed as a response to being overweight, being told it affected my worth and would have an negative effect on my love life. So any time I felt myself start to crush on some one, I would crush (repress) those feelings because I didnt deserve them and had no chance in hell. It didnt stop me from having my own personal fan fiction and hoping they would be the one to prove my insecurities wrong. Yeah Im emotionally stunted in this area. Still never been with someone, at this point being single is familiar and safe. The only thing stopping me from dating now is the paranoia I get from listening to true crimeIm so glad Im meeting with my therapist next week I definitely need to show her this
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Savage
As much as it sucks that Ive been experiencing this for basically a couple years, its really validating to find out that this is an actual phsycological condition when my friend first told me about it, Im a dead ringer for it, Ive had all of these symptoms to Ted just less severe now that Ive been away from my object for a long time, but it always comforts me to know that Im not crazy or alone with things like this. I will say though, other than just allowing the thoughts to exist I cant seem to get these thoughts to go away, if my first obsession is out of the picture, my mind just seems to shift that thinking to someone else. Other than journaling and just moving on Im not sure what to do.
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As much as it sucks that Ive been experiencing this for basically a couple years, its really validating to find out that this is an actual phsycological condition when my friend first told me about it, Im a dead ringer for it, Ive had all of these symptoms to Ted just less severe now that Ive been away from my object for a long time, but it always comforts me to know that Im not crazy or alone with things like this. I will say though, other than just allowing the thoughts to exist I cant seem to get these thoughts to go away, if my first obsession is out of the picture, my mind just seems to shift that thinking to someone else. Other than journaling and just moving on Im not sure what to do.
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Ghanshyam
I'm also going through this condition and it's tough. Like it's said here. When it's also unrequited love, the condition is much worse. The fact that we don't even get to know them well enough makes us cook up unrealistic ideas about them, their personality, their body etc. They would be the most perfect human for us, and the fact that we'll never get to know the real them will result in us sticking to the unrealistic image we have about them. We start comparing our lives with theirs'. We feel as if we're missing out on a lot in our life. I also suffer from OCD and I think limerence and OCD is one of the worst combo a person can have, and it's taking a huge toll on my mental well-being
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I'm also going through this condition and it's tough. Like it's said here. When it's also unrequited love, the condition is much worse. The fact that we don't even get to know them well enough makes us cook up unrealistic ideas about them, their personality, their body etc. They would be the most perfect human for us, and the fact that we'll never get to know the real them will result in us sticking to the unrealistic image we have about them. We start comparing our lives with theirs'. We feel as if we're missing out on a lot in our life. I also suffer from OCD and I think limerence and OCD is one of the worst combo a person can have, and it's taking a huge toll on my mental well-being
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Nuha
I used to have this for like 2 years and and the third year I got cured and feeling real love right now hears how I did it:
-I kept a pen and pencil attached to me and wrote the fantasy every time I daydreamed
-l tried after that to accept that he doesn't like me and the love is for my own happiness and not anything serious until the love goes away
-I tried the to be positive and mabye he don't want to show that he loves me by what happens to me
Iam now alhamdullah very convinced that he loves me
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I used to have this for like 2 years and and the third year I got cured and feeling real love right now hears how I did it:
-I kept a pen and pencil attached to me and wrote the fantasy every time I daydreamed
-l tried after that to accept that he doesn't like me and the love is for my own happiness and not anything serious until the love goes away
-I tried the to be positive and mabye he don't want to show that he loves me by what happens to me
Iam now alhamdullah very convinced that he loves me
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clean
Everything has a label nowadays.
You wanna dismiss the feelings as something negligible, when you are just basically somehow in love with the person.
Its natural. Yes its true that i am just in love with the idea of romance itself.
Call it what you want but i call it love.
Now if it works out between the two person, then it can be real love in progress.
The word limerence sounds so dehumanizing and complicates such simple element of life.
Love love love is amazing
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Everything has a label nowadays.
You wanna dismiss the feelings as something negligible, when you are just basically somehow in love with the person.
Its natural. Yes its true that i am just in love with the idea of romance itself.
Call it what you want but i call it love.
Now if it works out between the two person, then it can be real love in progress.
The word limerence sounds so dehumanizing and complicates such simple element of life.
Love love love is amazing
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Justyna
Anyone out here who has limerence over your dentist(s? Those are the only people I easily obsess over. They are young like me, and I think it's the care and calmness that draws me to them. How friendly, precise and handsome they are in my eyes. Thinking about my dentist, creating scenarios that will never become my reality, being extremely at bliss whenever I have a visit and I can spend 1/2 hours on their seat. Did anyone out here had that and got over it? SHARE ME YOUR STORY, Please.
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Anyone out here who has limerence over your dentist(s? Those are the only people I easily obsess over. They are young like me, and I think it's the care and calmness that draws me to them. How friendly, precise and handsome they are in my eyes. Thinking about my dentist, creating scenarios that will never become my reality, being extremely at bliss whenever I have a visit and I can spend 1/2 hours on their seat. Did anyone out here had that and got over it? SHARE ME YOUR STORY, Please.
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Грищенко
limerence may be painful sometimes, but without my feelings i would feel dead. that's why on the other side is hard for me to get rid of it. sometimes it seems like nothing brings me so much excitement and happiness, nothing makes me stop feeling derealisation as much as him. Well, that's perfect conditions to develop an addiction. I'm exhausted, life is too hectic for me, i wish i was never born.
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limerence may be painful sometimes, but without my feelings i would feel dead. that's why on the other side is hard for me to get rid of it. sometimes it seems like nothing brings me so much excitement and happiness, nothing makes me stop feeling derealisation as much as him. Well, that's perfect conditions to develop an addiction. I'm exhausted, life is too hectic for me, i wish i was never born.
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Sunny
Thank you for this video. I have struggled with this off and on during my life. After watching this, I started to think also how I want to be free from it. Then I also started to think I would not want the person I'm obsessing over to have this obsession over me also. Wouldn't wish it on anyone, as it just feels so unhealthy and waste of time that would be better spent on other productive things.
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Thank you for this video. I have struggled with this off and on during my life. After watching this, I started to think also how I want to be free from it. Then I also started to think I would not want the person I'm obsessing over to have this obsession over me also. Wouldn't wish it on anyone, as it just feels so unhealthy and waste of time that would be better spent on other productive things.
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willMB
Im going through limerance rn and honestly from my experience if your suffering from limerance and the other person rejects you, its honestly one of the most painful feelings you will ever experience. You know you shouldnt like them anymore but you cant help it, but the more you think about it the worse your feelings get and im not even sure how to get over it
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Im going through limerance rn and honestly from my experience if your suffering from limerance and the other person rejects you, its honestly one of the most painful feelings you will ever experience. You know you shouldnt like them anymore but you cant help it, but the more you think about it the worse your feelings get and im not even sure how to get over it
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the
I honestly don't know why we humans should go through situations like this. I highly wish I could never fall in love again. This is just constant pain, constant humiliation, anxiety. I even feel like my crush doesn't even truly knows me, since I always end up trying to show a better version of myself to impress them. All of this is so wrong. So unnecessary.
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I honestly don't know why we humans should go through situations like this. I highly wish I could never fall in love again. This is just constant pain, constant humiliation, anxiety. I even feel like my crush doesn't even truly knows me, since I always end up trying to show a better version of myself to impress them. All of this is so wrong. So unnecessary.
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Mahanan
Im really stuck in a loop, I suffer from limerence and my limerent object knows about it AND takes advantage of it. Followed my ghosting me every now and then for a while and keep coming back when I think Im over them. And I always think Im now strong enough I just want to enjoy a chat with them. And the cycel continues.
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Im really stuck in a loop, I suffer from limerence and my limerent object knows about it AND takes advantage of it. Followed my ghosting me every now and then for a while and keep coming back when I think Im over them. And I always think Im now strong enough I just want to enjoy a chat with them. And the cycel continues.
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just
In my high school there is someone so obsessive that he stalked me till I go home two or three times a week. At first it doesn't matter because I know this must be because he adores me but it caused me anxiety. I think it's limerence and that will be bad if you can't control it. Your crush will go far away
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In my high school there is someone so obsessive that he stalked me till I go home two or three times a week. At first it doesn't matter because I know this must be because he adores me but it caused me anxiety. I think it's limerence and that will be bad if you can't control it. Your crush will go far away
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Eminemstrash
Im the LO of a person i know that has Limerence. and ive had limerence before myself, so i know what shes going through.
Part of me wants to give her such amazing experiences, while slowky breaking it to her that we need a real, pure relationship.
Wish me luck!
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Im the LO of a person i know that has Limerence. and ive had limerence before myself, so i know what shes going through.
Part of me wants to give her such amazing experiences, while slowky breaking it to her that we need a real, pure relationship.
Wish me luck!
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Dat
1. obsessively thinking about them 2: 07
2. insecurity and / or shyness in their presence 2: 47
3. putting them on a pedestal 3: 31
4. emotional dependency 4: 30
5. longing for reciprocation 4: 50
6. fantasizing reciprocation 5: 06
I hope I could help! (:
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1. obsessively thinking about them 2: 07
2. insecurity and / or shyness in their presence 2: 47
3. putting them on a pedestal 3: 31
4. emotional dependency 4: 30
5. longing for reciprocation 4: 50
6. fantasizing reciprocation 5: 06
I hope I could help! (:
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Stonedog70
This is the worst feeling in the world. It was a 3 week relationship and she left me.
I knew I had an unhealthy love for her
It's been a month now and I can't get over her
No sign of getting better
I don't want to feel this anymore
What can I do?
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This is the worst feeling in the world. It was a 3 week relationship and she left me.
I knew I had an unhealthy love for her
It's been a month now and I can't get over her
No sign of getting better
I don't want to feel this anymore
What can I do?
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Angelique
I think I have this, except I dont put people on pedestals. My crush had many flaws, including being a player, but for whatever reason I think about him a lot. He also flirted with me many times, so the feelings were mutual. Idk he was a charming guy I guess.
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I think I have this, except I dont put people on pedestals. My crush had many flaws, including being a player, but for whatever reason I think about him a lot. He also flirted with me many times, so the feelings were mutual. Idk he was a charming guy I guess.
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IamHim
Im struggling to get over someone I didnt even date, we were just friends and I created an entire relationship with her in my head and when I finally told her how I felt she rejected me now Im here a month later heartbroken over something that wasnt even real
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Im struggling to get over someone I didnt even date, we were just friends and I created an entire relationship with her in my head and when I finally told her how I felt she rejected me now Im here a month later heartbroken over something that wasnt even real
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Faye
What happens when two people are like this towards each other and in a relationship with each other? Obsessed with the idea of the person, but dating the reality of them and not everything matches, so you have to try and figure it out. How would that work?
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What happens when two people are like this towards each other and in a relationship with each other? Obsessed with the idea of the person, but dating the reality of them and not everything matches, so you have to try and figure it out. How would that work?
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Katrina
Oh yeah
I completely relate to everything that was mentioned
This happened to me in the middle of May
I'm feeling a lot better now, I'm almost over it and I've never been happier to realize this nightmare of obsession is finally fading
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Oh yeah
I completely relate to everything that was mentioned
This happened to me in the middle of May
I'm feeling a lot better now, I'm almost over it and I've never been happier to realize this nightmare of obsession is finally fading
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Ziora_Dagger98
You know Ive always wondered what was wrong with me until I watched this video and this describes how I act when I have a crush on someone it eats me alive and I cant take it but its good to know what I have from this video thank you
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You know Ive always wondered what was wrong with me until I watched this video and this describes how I act when I have a crush on someone it eats me alive and I cant take it but its good to know what I have from this video thank you
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Miseye
So basically, if someone & I are interested in each other for quite some time & adore one another its labeled as limerance instead of actually love overtime.
Yeah ok so what exactly is this simulation were currently living in about?
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So basically, if someone & I are interested in each other for quite some time & adore one another its labeled as limerance instead of actually love overtime.
Yeah ok so what exactly is this simulation were currently living in about?
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TyCat7
Can't believe this video has been up for a full year, and I NEVER SAW IT UNTIL NOW! I just learned about limerence a few days ago, but I've had it for about 20 years! I couldn't have found out about this SOON enough! Please DO MORE!
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Can't believe this video has been up for a full year, and I NEVER SAW IT UNTIL NOW! I just learned about limerence a few days ago, but I've had it for about 20 years! I couldn't have found out about this SOON enough! Please DO MORE!
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Kat
literally haven't seen my LO for over 11 years. they wormed their way back into my mind recently and i hate it.
but keeping them in that slot prevents someone currently in my life from taking it so it's kind of easier this way.
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literally haven't seen my LO for over 11 years. they wormed their way back into my mind recently and i hate it.
but keeping them in that slot prevents someone currently in my life from taking it so it's kind of easier this way.
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Justin
Wow! I needed to hear this! 38 yo female, and it just so happens my crush is actually named Billy we flirt, but Id like it to be more, but he lives 1000 miles away. Even if hes into me too, it wouldnt work anyway
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Wow! I needed to hear this! 38 yo female, and it just so happens my crush is actually named Billy we flirt, but Id like it to be more, but he lives 1000 miles away. Even if hes into me too, it wouldnt work anyway
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