5 Signs a Long Distance Relationship is NOT for you
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Date: 2023-08-20
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naga
Before i am in long distance relationship but she didn't understand me, she wants i can meet her few months ago but because of pandemic situation i dont met her and i explained things and i make her feel better and she didn't tell me she felt disappointed about it or she felt bad about it she just hide it and she is working in company but i am still a student, she have to work and i have to study but we are talking when have time but suddenly she asked her photos which i have in my phone and after i sent her she said delete all pictures suddenly in a early morning i said why she said just do it and then i asked her why are you like that what happened and then she said we are different we are not suitable etc but i asked her i beg her atleast as a friend to stay she said she don't want to talk anymore she deleted my contact i sent her messages i called her, she said don't annoy me, it takes some time to accept it just accept it peacefully it's completely and she deleted contact, i felt sad i felt down, my health is affected i stayed at home for 10 days i motivated myself i move forward i feel my life is mine i have goof future and then she added again and sent messages and she said don't send message or talk only talk when something happened, i don't think about love on her, i dont talk with her and then after 1 month she said she still love me what but i don't feel i love her as much as before, i slowly said i don't have feeling on you now, she cried and she said it's so hurting, so bad but that hurting and that sadness Maken me to don't love her, my mind accepted when she deleted my contact and said too much cold words to me, she thinks even delete after some time the situation will be back to normal as love as before but i didn't feel it's just a situation, i have realised and i have learned a lesson, so she thinks i take revenge on her, she said i beg you we can be like before but honestly i don't feel love on her, my mind become cold to her, so i said we can be friend, still we can talk but i don't have feeling on you, she felt i throw her and, i got a person she understand me alot and she support me she care about me i love her, she also love me, we are in love now and we are far away now but after my graduation i am going to meet my partner, so remember the people who really love they will don't leave in any situation or in any time, they will don't say some reasons or excuses to leave, the people who don't worth they will say some reasons to leave but we have to realise it and stay away from them
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Before i am in long distance relationship but she didn't understand me, she wants i can meet her few months ago but because of pandemic situation i dont met her and i explained things and i make her feel better and she didn't tell me she felt disappointed about it or she felt bad about it she just hide it and she is working in company but i am still a student, she have to work and i have to study but we are talking when have time but suddenly she asked her photos which i have in my phone and after i sent her she said delete all pictures suddenly in a early morning i said why she said just do it and then i asked her why are you like that what happened and then she said we are different we are not suitable etc but i asked her i beg her atleast as a friend to stay she said she don't want to talk anymore she deleted my contact i sent her messages i called her, she said don't annoy me, it takes some time to accept it just accept it peacefully it's completely and she deleted contact, i felt sad i felt down, my health is affected i stayed at home for 10 days i motivated myself i move forward i feel my life is mine i have goof future and then she added again and sent messages and she said don't send message or talk only talk when something happened, i don't think about love on her, i dont talk with her and then after 1 month she said she still love me what but i don't feel i love her as much as before, i slowly said i don't have feeling on you now, she cried and she said it's so hurting, so bad but that hurting and that sadness Maken me to don't love her, my mind accepted when she deleted my contact and said too much cold words to me, she thinks even delete after some time the situation will be back to normal as love as before but i didn't feel it's just a situation, i have realised and i have learned a lesson, so she thinks i take revenge on her, she said i beg you we can be like before but honestly i don't feel love on her, my mind become cold to her, so i said we can be friend, still we can talk but i don't have feeling on you, she felt i throw her and, i got a person she understand me alot and she support me she care about me i love her, she also love me, we are in love now and we are far away now but after my graduation i am going to meet my partner, so remember the people who really love they will don't leave in any situation or in any time, they will don't say some reasons or excuses to leave, the people who don't worth they will say some reasons to leave but we have to realise it and stay away from them
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Pandaimones
I justed broke up with my bf after 11months of relationship(6 at distance, 1 week before valentines day, the day we should see eachother. We had only 2h30 hours of distance so we met at least 1 time a month.
I started to became jalous because he wouldnt do efforts to come to see me, and hide his problems to me. We were compatible, but he was my first relation ship. I deeply loved him but we had deep communication troubles. Knowing that i was making him sad because we cant see each other was slowly destroying me, because I did all the efforts I could to understand him but get nothing in return (never came to see me, only me did the travel and slowly calling me less and less without explanations but only excuses after I tell him that he hurted me. So after trying too much time to make him understand how he was hurting me even thought he told me every days he loved me, i told him by message that it was to much, and he dumped me, saying that he knows what is a long distance relationship (he never told me he had already one) and that it was worse after. I feel betrayed, because i thought that we discovered together what is this kind of relationship, and abandoned putting so much effort to finish like this, without at least trying, or real explanation, and I feel that I didn't knowed him at all.
My efforts was all in vain, i think he never wanted a long distance relationship and let me wonder because I was deeply in love so it was comfortable to him.
Please if you not ready, be honest and try to make at least comprise to try, but never lie on your past experiences if you truly love your partener. And please, respect yourself, if it's starting to be difficult because you think it's one sided, never let you wonder and torture you too long and talk to somebody. I've gone through this feeling only 6weeks because my friends opened my eyes. If he really loved me he would have make efforts like I asked him but he never. My hopes were too hight and I fell hardly. Be courageous and go on, I hope that it won't go like what I've been throught
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I justed broke up with my bf after 11months of relationship(6 at distance, 1 week before valentines day, the day we should see eachother. We had only 2h30 hours of distance so we met at least 1 time a month.
I started to became jalous because he wouldnt do efforts to come to see me, and hide his problems to me. We were compatible, but he was my first relation ship. I deeply loved him but we had deep communication troubles. Knowing that i was making him sad because we cant see each other was slowly destroying me, because I did all the efforts I could to understand him but get nothing in return (never came to see me, only me did the travel and slowly calling me less and less without explanations but only excuses after I tell him that he hurted me. So after trying too much time to make him understand how he was hurting me even thought he told me every days he loved me, i told him by message that it was to much, and he dumped me, saying that he knows what is a long distance relationship (he never told me he had already one) and that it was worse after. I feel betrayed, because i thought that we discovered together what is this kind of relationship, and abandoned putting so much effort to finish like this, without at least trying, or real explanation, and I feel that I didn't knowed him at all.
My efforts was all in vain, i think he never wanted a long distance relationship and let me wonder because I was deeply in love so it was comfortable to him.
Please if you not ready, be honest and try to make at least comprise to try, but never lie on your past experiences if you truly love your partener. And please, respect yourself, if it's starting to be difficult because you think it's one sided, never let you wonder and torture you too long and talk to somebody. I've gone through this feeling only 6weeks because my friends opened my eyes. If he really loved me he would have make efforts like I asked him but he never. My hopes were too hight and I fell hardly. Be courageous and go on, I hope that it won't go like what I've been throught
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guhlore
Im 16 Im in a LDR with my boyfriend of 2 and a half months so far I havent seen him yet and he is 15 and only live about an hour and a half away, Ive been struggling personally because sometimes I feel like he isnt opening up to me but Ill keep trying, I know we are early in our relationship and honestly Ive already made a mistake that possibly broke his trust, I feel genuine love for him but I just wish we had more genuine conversations but I too bottle up my emotions sometimes, obviously this is just all my point of view and reading it back I understand where my issues lie, however Im nervous to bring up these issues with him because Im scared itll push him away idk what to do I love him but right now our future doesnt have much clarity, and we dont really have any idea of when we can meet in person I just really hope that as time goes by maybe we can open up to eachother a bit more and have clearer plans for our future
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Im 16 Im in a LDR with my boyfriend of 2 and a half months so far I havent seen him yet and he is 15 and only live about an hour and a half away, Ive been struggling personally because sometimes I feel like he isnt opening up to me but Ill keep trying, I know we are early in our relationship and honestly Ive already made a mistake that possibly broke his trust, I feel genuine love for him but I just wish we had more genuine conversations but I too bottle up my emotions sometimes, obviously this is just all my point of view and reading it back I understand where my issues lie, however Im nervous to bring up these issues with him because Im scared itll push him away idk what to do I love him but right now our future doesnt have much clarity, and we dont really have any idea of when we can meet in person I just really hope that as time goes by maybe we can open up to eachother a bit more and have clearer plans for our future
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saarah
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2. 5 years and he's leaving to start his first big out of university job next year in a different city, while I'm staying back home to finish my degree. It would be perfect if I knew I was able to come to his city after I graduate, but the company that I have signed a contract with to work with will only let me work from our home-city (the internship is 3 years and I've been preparing for this amazing opportunity my entire university career)
My boyfriend and i both keep tiptoeing around the conversation of what happens after his 1st year of work in his new city and I graduate from my degree, (I think because we're both scared to say hey we don't have a plan, and no plan = we might not end up working out and we're just holding on to delay the inevitable.
Anyway, just looking for some advice.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 2. 5 years and he's leaving to start his first big out of university job next year in a different city, while I'm staying back home to finish my degree. It would be perfect if I knew I was able to come to his city after I graduate, but the company that I have signed a contract with to work with will only let me work from our home-city (the internship is 3 years and I've been preparing for this amazing opportunity my entire university career)
My boyfriend and i both keep tiptoeing around the conversation of what happens after his 1st year of work in his new city and I graduate from my degree, (I think because we're both scared to say hey we don't have a plan, and no plan = we might not end up working out and we're just holding on to delay the inevitable.
Anyway, just looking for some advice.
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Jen
I have a boyfriend we've been ldr for almost 11 months. He always makes me confuse because we don't say I love you with each other until now. I want to give my time to him but he always play computer games while we are chatting. We haven't tried video call until 11 months. When we are having video call his attention is divided between me and his game. He admits that he want me being there with him but we've been planning that he will visit me. I'm having a hard time communicating with because he has dyslexia then his personality is different from the way he text. But we always say each other good morning and good night. But what I'm tired is he makes me feel that I'm the only one making the conversation. He don't ask me anything until sx is being talked about
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I have a boyfriend we've been ldr for almost 11 months. He always makes me confuse because we don't say I love you with each other until now. I want to give my time to him but he always play computer games while we are chatting. We haven't tried video call until 11 months. When we are having video call his attention is divided between me and his game. He admits that he want me being there with him but we've been planning that he will visit me. I'm having a hard time communicating with because he has dyslexia then his personality is different from the way he text. But we always say each other good morning and good night. But what I'm tired is he makes me feel that I'm the only one making the conversation. He don't ask me anything until sx is being talked about
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Mike
February 10, 2021
Me and my bf are in a long distance relationship. It's still our 2nd week although we have been talking for 3 months. Long distance relationship is honestly hard, but I know we'll make it. I trust him, he trusts me. Currently, we're kinda in a not so good situation in terms of communication because he's a lil bit busy. But it's ok, because I know he'll make up to it. hopefully. I love him so much and I miss our usual conversations. I really do hope that he'll be done with his homeworks so that we can finally talk the same way as before: ') I love Ashley so much. Friends, please pray that our ralationship may last forever.
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February 10, 2021
Me and my bf are in a long distance relationship. It's still our 2nd week although we have been talking for 3 months. Long distance relationship is honestly hard, but I know we'll make it. I trust him, he trusts me. Currently, we're kinda in a not so good situation in terms of communication because he's a lil bit busy. But it's ok, because I know he'll make up to it. hopefully. I love him so much and I miss our usual conversations. I really do hope that he'll be done with his homeworks so that we can finally talk the same way as before: ') I love Ashley so much. Friends, please pray that our ralationship may last forever.
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fleuropeangirl
Hi, I've been in a LDR for almost three years now. How do you know LDR is not for you: If you are someone who needs a lot of attention (which is okay) rather it's physical or just by texting, this is NOT for you. You have to realize your LDR relationship is not the same as a close relationship. You are living separate lives and you can't always share everything with your partner. If you need attention but your partner can't give it for reasons you gotta be able to deal with that. Of course it's like that in every relationship but in LDR it's different because of the high level of insecurity that is not always easy to avoid.
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Hi, I've been in a LDR for almost three years now. How do you know LDR is not for you: If you are someone who needs a lot of attention (which is okay) rather it's physical or just by texting, this is NOT for you. You have to realize your LDR relationship is not the same as a close relationship. You are living separate lives and you can't always share everything with your partner. If you need attention but your partner can't give it for reasons you gotta be able to deal with that. Of course it's like that in every relationship but in LDR it's different because of the high level of insecurity that is not always easy to avoid.
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Mark
The only reason I would get into another relationship is to be together. The chances of a LDR working is much lower than in person. Don't fool yourself unless one is going to move to the other within a year. move on. If your LDR partner needs money - dump them now. The odds are higher that one of you will meet someone locally and move on. Some people delude themselves into thinking people they've never met are the love of their life. It's not real if you've never met. People who move their LDR love to a new country will also find that very hard. You'll be much happier with in person relationships.
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The only reason I would get into another relationship is to be together. The chances of a LDR working is much lower than in person. Don't fool yourself unless one is going to move to the other within a year. move on. If your LDR partner needs money - dump them now. The odds are higher that one of you will meet someone locally and move on. Some people delude themselves into thinking people they've never met are the love of their life. It's not real if you've never met. People who move their LDR love to a new country will also find that very hard. You'll be much happier with in person relationships.
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yaya
I cannot have a long distamce relationship even if i wanted to. Am ok liking and caring someone from a distance with no expectations. Ut i cant have aactual ldr. This guy i dated used to be maried and had a baby. He tryed to work away and his wife cheated on him with a coworker. He was traumatized and when he had to go away from me he told me he could never be long distance because he didnt think a woman could wait that long. I always remember him but if he cant be close to me eather of us will ever try to get close is just too hard.
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I cannot have a long distamce relationship even if i wanted to. Am ok liking and caring someone from a distance with no expectations. Ut i cant have aactual ldr. This guy i dated used to be maried and had a baby. He tryed to work away and his wife cheated on him with a coworker. He was traumatized and when he had to go away from me he told me he could never be long distance because he didnt think a woman could wait that long. I always remember him but if he cant be close to me eather of us will ever try to get close is just too hard.
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Stephanie
I worry my husband might be cheating on me, but i had no way of establishing this fact since i didn't have access to his phone or laptop, then i contacted this special hacker who was introduced to me by a friend, on contacting this professional hacker, i was able to know the reason for my husband's lack of responsibility at home, i discovered so many love messages and conversations on several apps on his phone that revealed that he was actually seeing someone. This hacker is reliable and legit. Contact him on WEBMAX_DRONE on IG
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I worry my husband might be cheating on me, but i had no way of establishing this fact since i didn't have access to his phone or laptop, then i contacted this special hacker who was introduced to me by a friend, on contacting this professional hacker, i was able to know the reason for my husband's lack of responsibility at home, i discovered so many love messages and conversations on several apps on his phone that revealed that he was actually seeing someone. This hacker is reliable and legit. Contact him on WEBMAX_DRONE on IG
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Stephanie
I worry my husband might be cheating on me, but i had no way of establishing this fact since i didn't have access to his phone or laptop, then i contacted this special hacker who was introduced to me by a friend, on contacting this professional hacker, i was able to know the reason for my husband's lack of responsibility at home, i discovered so many love messages and conversations on several apps on his phone that revealed that he was actually seeing someone. This hacker is reliable and legit. Contact him on WEBMAX_DRONE on IG
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I worry my husband might be cheating on me, but i had no way of establishing this fact since i didn't have access to his phone or laptop, then i contacted this special hacker who was introduced to me by a friend, on contacting this professional hacker, i was able to know the reason for my husband's lack of responsibility at home, i discovered so many love messages and conversations on several apps on his phone that revealed that he was actually seeing someone. This hacker is reliable and legit. Contact him on WEBMAX_DRONE on IG
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Vixen
I'm in a long distance relationship keep in mind that I'm 16 now and I started having a long distance relationship at i think 13? But I'm getting worried about my parents finding out he's like my sister's age and I only seen one photo of him but I wanna face time him but I'm afraid my parents will find out anyways even if I hide it from them because the reason why I don't date anyone where I live is because some people are very mean or break everything out of my life but I'm not sure how I feel anymore about relationships.
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I'm in a long distance relationship keep in mind that I'm 16 now and I started having a long distance relationship at i think 13? But I'm getting worried about my parents finding out he's like my sister's age and I only seen one photo of him but I wanna face time him but I'm afraid my parents will find out anyways even if I hide it from them because the reason why I don't date anyone where I live is because some people are very mean or break everything out of my life but I'm not sure how I feel anymore about relationships.
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Earth
My only issue is we rely on texting every day and for some reason she changes her attitude towards me out of nowhere. So I start over thinking about why shes acting differently towards me. I always ignore it and never say anything about it, then things go back to normal. We've only been together for about 7 weeks and we see eachother every single weekend. Sometimes for 3 days. We both say we want to eventually move in together and make it work but when she changes on me I start to worry.
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My only issue is we rely on texting every day and for some reason she changes her attitude towards me out of nowhere. So I start over thinking about why shes acting differently towards me. I always ignore it and never say anything about it, then things go back to normal. We've only been together for about 7 weeks and we see eachother every single weekend. Sometimes for 3 days. We both say we want to eventually move in together and make it work but when she changes on me I start to worry.
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Arianna
I kind of disagree with the last part. I think second thoughts about relationships, especially LDR, is pretty normal. It doesn't automatically mean it's not right for you. These info might influence someone to hastily break up just cause the info wasn't clear enough. Second thinking especially during hard times is normal, I know I've been through it but again, love is a choice. You get to choose if you can tough it out til things get better or if it isn't for you.
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I kind of disagree with the last part. I think second thoughts about relationships, especially LDR, is pretty normal. It doesn't automatically mean it's not right for you. These info might influence someone to hastily break up just cause the info wasn't clear enough. Second thinking especially during hard times is normal, I know I've been through it but again, love is a choice. You get to choose if you can tough it out til things get better or if it isn't for you.
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ROXILLIA
Im Lushai stay at one of India state and the men who talk to me and have relationship with me was stay at USA HE said iwas in relationship with you trust me i like to married you he said.
We cant tlak together in written only i know english in spoken i did not learn any language i know only my mother tongue langue but he always ask me and said do you want to have relationship and stay with me he always said
I didnt trust distance relation how will i do
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Im Lushai stay at one of India state and the men who talk to me and have relationship with me was stay at USA HE said iwas in relationship with you trust me i like to married you he said.
We cant tlak together in written only i know english in spoken i did not learn any language i know only my mother tongue langue but he always ask me and said do you want to have relationship and stay with me he always said
I didnt trust distance relation how will i do
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Goodah
Im in a long-distance for almost two years now and lately, I feel like I'm unhappy with our setup. He works 13-14 hours a day and I am a full-time univ student. We speak every day for like 1-2 hrs and he goes to work. I am not complaining about how much time we spend or talk together, I know he's busy with work it is just that I feel like I'm already setting for the bare minimum. At young age idk if i still doing the best for me.
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Im in a long-distance for almost two years now and lately, I feel like I'm unhappy with our setup. He works 13-14 hours a day and I am a full-time univ student. We speak every day for like 1-2 hrs and he goes to work. I am not complaining about how much time we spend or talk together, I know he's busy with work it is just that I feel like I'm already setting for the bare minimum. At young age idk if i still doing the best for me.
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Loki
I am facing with my bf and he hasn't been able to be open with me and now he is hiding things like I know it's not place to be looky loo but he is dealing with his own issues and even with me and I may tell him that we need a break or not try to be in a relationship with him cus of this. I love him with all of my heart but I feel second thoughts in this and it was my fault that I I wanted to be in this Long Distance Relationship
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I am facing with my bf and he hasn't been able to be open with me and now he is hiding things like I know it's not place to be looky loo but he is dealing with his own issues and even with me and I may tell him that we need a break or not try to be in a relationship with him cus of this. I love him with all of my heart but I feel second thoughts in this and it was my fault that I I wanted to be in this Long Distance Relationship
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Sun
I've been in a few LDRs and each one of them ended. Personally its extremely difficult to feel connected to someone when im not able to physcially be in their presence. I tried forcing myself to love them but i simply didn't. Of course it is different for everyone though! I found a great guy irl but long distance relationships can work as long as there is an extra effort put by both parties
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I've been in a few LDRs and each one of them ended. Personally its extremely difficult to feel connected to someone when im not able to physcially be in their presence. I tried forcing myself to love them but i simply didn't. Of course it is different for everyone though! I found a great guy irl but long distance relationships can work as long as there is an extra effort put by both parties
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Tochukwu
Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It's for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one the love. Had this is mind when I saw a recommendations on speedtechie on IG. I accessed my girlfriend's phone to know if I was the only one in love. Her messages shows she has no other man but me. I love Amelia
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Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It's for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one the love. Had this is mind when I saw a recommendations on speedtechie on IG. I accessed my girlfriend's phone to know if I was the only one in love. Her messages shows she has no other man but me. I love Amelia
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StamoG
I legit do NOT understand how someone can be in a LDR and simply trust that they or the other person won't suddenly fall for somebody else they meet. As if you can control who you get feelings for. Of course there are exceptions, but sooner or later the absence will lead one of them to be attracted to somebody else they meet, and then it gets messy.
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I legit do NOT understand how someone can be in a LDR and simply trust that they or the other person won't suddenly fall for somebody else they meet. As if you can control who you get feelings for. Of course there are exceptions, but sooner or later the absence will lead one of them to be attracted to somebody else they meet, and then it gets messy.
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Andy
Met through social media and fell in love for 2 years. ( And it's like investing in stocks that are uncertain whether there will be profit or loss )
We'll never know wht will happen in the future.
Perth Australia - Malaysia
Me&Her were like Beauty and the Beast.
And
She's successful business woman, while im just a small farmer.
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Met through social media and fell in love for 2 years. ( And it's like investing in stocks that are uncertain whether there will be profit or loss )
We'll never know wht will happen in the future.
Perth Australia - Malaysia
Me&Her were like Beauty and the Beast.
And
She's successful business woman, while im just a small farmer.
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Eric
Sorry to say so. but
long distance relationships _never_ work
It doesn't work for anyone. Even if you like the idea - somehow - it'll probably work for a few days or weeks. before it finally fails without any way to stop it from crashing your relationship.
Don't try it. I did so and it only hurts. It can never work.
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Sorry to say so. but
long distance relationships _never_ work
It doesn't work for anyone. Even if you like the idea - somehow - it'll probably work for a few days or weeks. before it finally fails without any way to stop it from crashing your relationship.
Don't try it. I did so and it only hurts. It can never work.
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Rosey
Ive been in a long distance relationship for almost 9 months now and Im setting up a date to finally see him Ive went into the jealousy stage but we always talk about the serious stuff and make each other better: )
Its not easy but if you truly love that person then you both can make it
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Ive been in a long distance relationship for almost 9 months now and Im setting up a date to finally see him Ive went into the jealousy stage but we always talk about the serious stuff and make each other better: )
Its not easy but if you truly love that person then you both can make it
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BluFox185
My love has a deadname, So I'll use her online name: Void, The most amazing, Loving person I've ever met.
I had to have tough conversations before we were even a couple. It was a really complex online fight and I lost a friend. But I got out with my one and only love < 3
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My love has a deadname, So I'll use her online name: Void, The most amazing, Loving person I've ever met.
I had to have tough conversations before we were even a couple. It was a really complex online fight and I lost a friend. But I got out with my one and only love < 3
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Leanne
My friend is in a long distance relationship with someone she's never met and I really want to support her with it but I'm struggling to understand it. I don't believe you can love someone you've never met. What are your thoughts on this?
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My friend is in a long distance relationship with someone she's never met and I really want to support her with it but I'm struggling to understand it. I don't believe you can love someone you've never met. What are your thoughts on this?
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