9 Signs You'll Have A Successful Relationship
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Date: 2023-08-20
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AaronMetallion
I'm 28 years old, and this is my learned and lived experience. There's a lot of healthy and desirable traits out there. But not everyone is set up for you / your personality type. Some relationships are truly effortless, while some others have irreconcilable differences. It's like trying to fit a square into a circle, it'll just create resentment and instability over time.
Take for example, one wants kids, one never wants kids; one wants monogamy, the other does not or wants to be open to options; one would potentially keep a pregnancy, the other might want to abort the baby; one is open to caring or living with aging parents, the other may want to exclude family from the household; one is introverted and wants to be at home, the other is extroverted and feels restless / upset / neglected from spending time at home.
These are all practical long term things to look out for. No matter how attractive, kind, mature you think someone is, you got to actively look out for points of failure too. While movies do romanticize relationships, there are some that feel like they've been cookie cut for you and give you a sense of stability, predictability, and security; and there are some that just aren't meant to work out. Take your time, stay single, do some soul searching, and figure out who YOU are first of all, before you can even begin to understand what type of individual would uniquely complement you.
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I'm 28 years old, and this is my learned and lived experience. There's a lot of healthy and desirable traits out there. But not everyone is set up for you / your personality type. Some relationships are truly effortless, while some others have irreconcilable differences. It's like trying to fit a square into a circle, it'll just create resentment and instability over time.
Take for example, one wants kids, one never wants kids; one wants monogamy, the other does not or wants to be open to options; one would potentially keep a pregnancy, the other might want to abort the baby; one is open to caring or living with aging parents, the other may want to exclude family from the household; one is introverted and wants to be at home, the other is extroverted and feels restless / upset / neglected from spending time at home.
These are all practical long term things to look out for. No matter how attractive, kind, mature you think someone is, you got to actively look out for points of failure too. While movies do romanticize relationships, there are some that feel like they've been cookie cut for you and give you a sense of stability, predictability, and security; and there are some that just aren't meant to work out. Take your time, stay single, do some soul searching, and figure out who YOU are first of all, before you can even begin to understand what type of individual would uniquely complement you.
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Zoe
Ive had people want to be in a relationship with me but I am flat out refusing. Currently Im in fight or flight mode 24 seven. Im in an emotionally abusive living environment. This makes it a lot easier for my PTSD to get triggered. Its like walking on eggshells broken glass and razor blades. I dont think it would be fair to my partner if I would break down almost every three or four days. So when I get out of the abusive living situation, and have time to self improve, and dont break down as often, thats when Ill consider a relationship. I understand that my mental health may never be 100% normal, however, it can be much better than it is I also think when I am more stable, it will be more fair for my partner when I do have a breakdown to help me if needed, and if they need help, I will be able to help them also.
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Ive had people want to be in a relationship with me but I am flat out refusing. Currently Im in fight or flight mode 24 seven. Im in an emotionally abusive living environment. This makes it a lot easier for my PTSD to get triggered. Its like walking on eggshells broken glass and razor blades. I dont think it would be fair to my partner if I would break down almost every three or four days. So when I get out of the abusive living situation, and have time to self improve, and dont break down as often, thats when Ill consider a relationship. I understand that my mental health may never be 100% normal, however, it can be much better than it is I also think when I am more stable, it will be more fair for my partner when I do have a breakdown to help me if needed, and if they need help, I will be able to help them also.
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Maria
I was all of this to my exhe was 7 years younger though, one of my bestest friends and who I thought was the love of my lifewe clicked on almost everything, our hobbies, interests, etc. But he broke it off when things got a bit too real and difficulties started popping up, past traumas rose to the surface and he started distancing himself amidst the pandemic. Im in my early 30s and have made a career for myself in my 20s, developed myself in preparation for my future partner while making my own goals and dreams a realityin this developing nation were in. Clearly, he still had so much to develop and grow in himselfour backgrounds are different as wellStill hurts me that one of my best friends walked out in us. But Im excited for whoever I end up withIm sure hell be amazing.
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I was all of this to my exhe was 7 years younger though, one of my bestest friends and who I thought was the love of my lifewe clicked on almost everything, our hobbies, interests, etc. But he broke it off when things got a bit too real and difficulties started popping up, past traumas rose to the surface and he started distancing himself amidst the pandemic. Im in my early 30s and have made a career for myself in my 20s, developed myself in preparation for my future partner while making my own goals and dreams a realityin this developing nation were in. Clearly, he still had so much to develop and grow in himselfour backgrounds are different as wellStill hurts me that one of my best friends walked out in us. But Im excited for whoever I end up withIm sure hell be amazing.
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DemoJoshy
Heyo peeps, need some advise. So my best friend and I have been friends for a while now and I told her I've had a crush on her for a while. She said she liked me back and the next day I decided to ask her about it since I'm really like self conscious I guess youd call it. Well she said she wasn't sure and (not in a bad way, I asked her to do this) started listing off the things she doesn't like about me. There were only a few things which were I'm too clingy, I apologize way too much, and I act a litte too touchy I guess (also not in a weird way, just hug her a lot. Now she's not exactly sure and idk if she's just saying she's not sure or if she's actually not. It's pretty scary. I gotta give her some space is all I know. Any advice you can give would be appreciated
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Heyo peeps, need some advise. So my best friend and I have been friends for a while now and I told her I've had a crush on her for a while. She said she liked me back and the next day I decided to ask her about it since I'm really like self conscious I guess youd call it. Well she said she wasn't sure and (not in a bad way, I asked her to do this) started listing off the things she doesn't like about me. There were only a few things which were I'm too clingy, I apologize way too much, and I act a litte too touchy I guess (also not in a weird way, just hug her a lot. Now she's not exactly sure and idk if she's just saying she's not sure or if she's actually not. It's pretty scary. I gotta give her some space is all I know. Any advice you can give would be appreciated
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Snakechu
The interrupting thing. I've never been in a relationship, and I agree with all of these, it's just the not interrupting thing is gonna be a bit hard for me. This happens purely on accident and I don't mean anything by it, but it's because of how my mind works. I tend to repeat stuff whenever I am trying to understand what a person is saying, and this usually happens when the other person is still talking. I've had mixed results whenever I've done this.
I know I need to get better at not doing this, and trust me, it annoys me just as much as the person I'm interrupting. I just hope my future partner will be patient with me.
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The interrupting thing. I've never been in a relationship, and I agree with all of these, it's just the not interrupting thing is gonna be a bit hard for me. This happens purely on accident and I don't mean anything by it, but it's because of how my mind works. I tend to repeat stuff whenever I am trying to understand what a person is saying, and this usually happens when the other person is still talking. I've had mixed results whenever I've done this.
I know I need to get better at not doing this, and trust me, it annoys me just as much as the person I'm interrupting. I just hope my future partner will be patient with me.
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R_TS
I just broke up few days ago. I've been in 4 toxic relationship. Few of them gave me trauma that I kept rethink about it when something happens similar to it. even the slightest. feeling.
Yes. this is a vent. I hope I don't bother anyone.
I've been really tired.
Everyone around me just doesn't. nah, it's actually me that doesn't fit anyone around me.
I just can't find the one that understands me.
I'm a infj. a old soul. I behave. and not really a good humorous person.
Maybe I'll be alone forever.
That would be okay for me. But it's just a bit sad. It means I can't find the one that understands me.
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I just broke up few days ago. I've been in 4 toxic relationship. Few of them gave me trauma that I kept rethink about it when something happens similar to it. even the slightest. feeling.
Yes. this is a vent. I hope I don't bother anyone.
I've been really tired.
Everyone around me just doesn't. nah, it's actually me that doesn't fit anyone around me.
I just can't find the one that understands me.
I'm a infj. a old soul. I behave. and not really a good humorous person.
Maybe I'll be alone forever.
That would be okay for me. But it's just a bit sad. It means I can't find the one that understands me.
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Dhaifan
This is so nice to listen, especially when you're trying to build a proper relationship. It is true without these traits things could escalate and fall apart more easily. These made me sheds tears because there's someone i really want to build a proper relationship with. Sometimes expectations gets in the way for the both of us. These signs are the key point. Without clarity or thoughts or understanding, it is just that hard to build or maintain a good healthy relationship.
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This is so nice to listen, especially when you're trying to build a proper relationship. It is true without these traits things could escalate and fall apart more easily. These made me sheds tears because there's someone i really want to build a proper relationship with. Sometimes expectations gets in the way for the both of us. These signs are the key point. Without clarity or thoughts or understanding, it is just that hard to build or maintain a good healthy relationship.
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Tara
I tried sending this to my bf thinking it could help or better our relationship. because I think he needs to work on his communication more. and it turned into how I'm telling him what to do, that this video was a tutorial to relationships, he felt insulted. then got more on me saying he doesn't tell me how I should act.
I never told him how he should act. I didn't think sending this video would do that or even make him feel that way. so idk what to do.
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I tried sending this to my bf thinking it could help or better our relationship. because I think he needs to work on his communication more. and it turned into how I'm telling him what to do, that this video was a tutorial to relationships, he felt insulted. then got more on me saying he doesn't tell me how I should act.
I never told him how he should act. I didn't think sending this video would do that or even make him feel that way. so idk what to do.
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Amy
This is definitely helpful for me as someone who can overthink things sometimes, or worry too much about other people's opinions or input. I know that the second trait is something that can be seen as negative at times, but when you have people in your life that value and care about you a lot, it really doesn't hurt as much as you think when they offer their input on situations that you share with them, but be careful with your words.
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This is definitely helpful for me as someone who can overthink things sometimes, or worry too much about other people's opinions or input. I know that the second trait is something that can be seen as negative at times, but when you have people in your life that value and care about you a lot, it really doesn't hurt as much as you think when they offer their input on situations that you share with them, but be careful with your words.
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NiallerIsHome
This really helps me! Im in a platonic relationship and its long distance. We havent seen each others faces but Ive known them for a long time. They know I like someone in my class and is okay with it, besides this is all platonic. They are in a relationship themselves. We know not to go into each others boundaries! We keep our topics level and if someones having a rough day we play Minecraft!
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This really helps me! Im in a platonic relationship and its long distance. We havent seen each others faces but Ive known them for a long time. They know I like someone in my class and is okay with it, besides this is all platonic. They are in a relationship themselves. We know not to go into each others boundaries! We keep our topics level and if someones having a rough day we play Minecraft!
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Izuku
Since I very recently got into a relationship, wich is my first one, it was such a relief to see that we have all these traits even though we don't have a lot of free time to be together without friends (so out of school) but ty so much for this awesome content Psy2go, it really did help me in hard times: )
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Since I very recently got into a relationship, wich is my first one, it was such a relief to see that we have all these traits even though we don't have a lot of free time to be together without friends (so out of school) but ty so much for this awesome content Psy2go, it really did help me in hard times: )
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callmeteo
Let me try to list all the refs:
0: 14 - Dream and George
0: 30 - Pepa and Felix
1: 11 - Luz and Amity
1: 36 - Luisa
2: 33 - Im not sure
3: 04 - Lmanburg
3: 41 - Abuela and her husband
4: 19 - Puffy and Niki
4: 23 - Karl, Sapnap and Quackity
5: 04 - Julieta and Augustin
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Let me try to list all the refs:
0: 14 - Dream and George
0: 30 - Pepa and Felix
1: 11 - Luz and Amity
1: 36 - Luisa
2: 33 - Im not sure
3: 04 - Lmanburg
3: 41 - Abuela and her husband
4: 19 - Puffy and Niki
4: 23 - Karl, Sapnap and Quackity
5: 04 - Julieta and Augustin
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iamhim
Most of these steps have already been completed or were already in the process of, but the one like having an equal sense of humor me and mine are struggling with that and idk if she sees how problematic that can be. Honestly not sure what to do. We are both willing to don couples therapy tho.
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Most of these steps have already been completed or were already in the process of, but the one like having an equal sense of humor me and mine are struggling with that and idk if she sees how problematic that can be. Honestly not sure what to do. We are both willing to don couples therapy tho.
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Indrid
I believe there can be no successful relationships anymore. In people living in the 21st century, in a modernised nation, anonymous communication has made them extremely self righteous, self entitled, and very cruel. This combination assures a failing relationship will happen to most.
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I believe there can be no successful relationships anymore. In people living in the 21st century, in a modernised nation, anonymous communication has made them extremely self righteous, self entitled, and very cruel. This combination assures a failing relationship will happen to most.
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MattyTheGreat
it kinda really frustrates me how some of my friends who are in relationships literally don't fit most of these things and still keep their relationships going while I've been single forever. Like, yeah I'm 17, but those people are even younger than me
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it kinda really frustrates me how some of my friends who are in relationships literally don't fit most of these things and still keep their relationships going while I've been single forever. Like, yeah I'm 17, but those people are even younger than me
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Leo
Im in a truly healthy relationship but my anxiety gets in the way he understands and supports me but i feel so bad because my own issues and past trauma relationship and now he has to help me more than i can help him, im on meds now but its still really bad
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Im in a truly healthy relationship but my anxiety gets in the way he understands and supports me but i feel so bad because my own issues and past trauma relationship and now he has to help me more than i can help him, im on meds now but its still really bad
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_lynxz4lxfe_
I see lmanburg flag, karlnap, and dreamnotfound: 0
Edit: I think I also might see puffy and niki- not sure tho
Also edit: this is how you know these ships will work out- when a psychologist who knows a lot about relationships ships them lmao
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I see lmanburg flag, karlnap, and dreamnotfound: 0
Edit: I think I also might see puffy and niki- not sure tho
Also edit: this is how you know these ships will work out- when a psychologist who knows a lot about relationships ships them lmao
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Yum
I love how you are including other communities in this too like mcyt/dsmp! I find it cool because they are all mostly overlooked and dont get enough support or recognition. Thankyou so much for the continuous support and I cant wait for another video!
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I love how you are including other communities in this too like mcyt/dsmp! I find it cool because they are all mostly overlooked and dont get enough support or recognition. Thankyou so much for the continuous support and I cant wait for another video!
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Claire_Fox
The fact they used Dream and George in the beginning-
no no no,
they used so many dsmp things in this. L'manberg flag, techno, karl, sapnap, schlatt, niki, etc.
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The fact they used Dream and George in the beginning-
no no no,
they used so many dsmp things in this. L'manberg flag, techno, karl, sapnap, schlatt, niki, etc.
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Tyler
It's called princess syndrome. Disney movies show this and girls grow up with those movies and develop all these insane ideas of what a relationship is supposed to be.
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It's called princess syndrome. Disney movies show this and girls grow up with those movies and develop all these insane ideas of what a relationship is supposed to be.
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PinkFluffyGuy
PLEASE i wanted to watch something non dsmp related for the first time in like 2 days, and FIFTEEN SECONDS IN is dnf. It caught me so off guard lmao
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PLEASE i wanted to watch something non dsmp related for the first time in like 2 days, and FIFTEEN SECONDS IN is dnf. It caught me so off guard lmao
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David
Yeah i am sorry for been a dick and sorry that i just cant cope sometimes and you are ace? ACES! P>S LOTS OF LOVE TO YUMI ANDF AMANDA xxx
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Yeah i am sorry for been a dick and sorry that i just cant cope sometimes and you are ace? ACES! P>S LOTS OF LOVE TO YUMI ANDF AMANDA xxx
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ilphaesn
This is amazing. I might actually send this to a friend or two. Thanks for the advice!
Also, ALL the nerd shit
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This is amazing. I might actually send this to a friend or two. Thanks for the advice!
Also, ALL the nerd shit
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Lonzarelli
My heart goes out to anyone who had a hurricane breakup and actually had a right to blame the weather
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My heart goes out to anyone who had a hurricane breakup and actually had a right to blame the weather
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Green
will it still be successful if we don't have any of the signs but we put efforts in our relationship?
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will it still be successful if we don't have any of the signs but we put efforts in our relationship?
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