6 Small But Harmful Things That Destroy Your Mental Health
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Date: 2023-08-20
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HamsterBoy
Self deprecating humor is an interesting one for me. Back in high school, I was surrounded by both friends and bullies alike. While the friends were nice, the bullies took a great toll on my emotions. All of the teasing and taunting wore my patience and self-esteem razor thin. That was until I remembered the idea of laughing at vs laughing with some one. What if I turned this Idea to my advantage?
So I decided that if they were going to have fun laughing at me, I too will also have fun laughing at me. In my mind, there were now two me's. The target me, of what I was, who I could freely make fun of. And the self me, of who I was, and who had confidence and where I could draw my self-esteem from. It's hard to get offended when you take every insult thrown your way as just a simple playful joke.
And you know what? It worked. I took every insult as just an opportunity to practice my wit. Taking none of the intended offence to heart. And while the bullies never did go away, it did make dealing with them so much easer.
This is where the story takes a turn. For when I graduated and got a job, the bullies were gone, but my self deprecating humor was still strong. My boss, who also has a wicked sense of humor, is one of the nicest men I've ever met. And the two of us got along swimmingly.
After about a year, is when I notice that my self deprecating humor was not only a habit, but now becoming a bad habit. After I completed a task, I would presented it to my boss and then, out of the blue and without any one prompting me, I would belittle my work, and put down my abilities with humor. And while this had little effect on my self-esteem, it did however, make me pause and wonder what was it doing to my reputation. No one was attacking me, or trying to put me down, so why was I selling my self so short? I am good at my job and I can do great things. I know this, but I must also show this publicly.
Once I realized this, I was better able to catch my self and redirect my wit to a more positive view point. And I've gotten much better since.
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Self deprecating humor is an interesting one for me. Back in high school, I was surrounded by both friends and bullies alike. While the friends were nice, the bullies took a great toll on my emotions. All of the teasing and taunting wore my patience and self-esteem razor thin. That was until I remembered the idea of laughing at vs laughing with some one. What if I turned this Idea to my advantage?
So I decided that if they were going to have fun laughing at me, I too will also have fun laughing at me. In my mind, there were now two me's. The target me, of what I was, who I could freely make fun of. And the self me, of who I was, and who had confidence and where I could draw my self-esteem from. It's hard to get offended when you take every insult thrown your way as just a simple playful joke.
And you know what? It worked. I took every insult as just an opportunity to practice my wit. Taking none of the intended offence to heart. And while the bullies never did go away, it did make dealing with them so much easer.
This is where the story takes a turn. For when I graduated and got a job, the bullies were gone, but my self deprecating humor was still strong. My boss, who also has a wicked sense of humor, is one of the nicest men I've ever met. And the two of us got along swimmingly.
After about a year, is when I notice that my self deprecating humor was not only a habit, but now becoming a bad habit. After I completed a task, I would presented it to my boss and then, out of the blue and without any one prompting me, I would belittle my work, and put down my abilities with humor. And while this had little effect on my self-esteem, it did however, make me pause and wonder what was it doing to my reputation. No one was attacking me, or trying to put me down, so why was I selling my self so short? I am good at my job and I can do great things. I know this, but I must also show this publicly.
Once I realized this, I was better able to catch my self and redirect my wit to a more positive view point. And I've gotten much better since.
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Panagiotis
A small story on self-deprecating jokes:
I was bored in class so I started sketching random stuff, mainly cars. A few days later, I got a seperate notebook to draw. The cover was black with quotes like random shit inside and 0% quality which felt accurate given that I wasn't good at drawing. Making jokes that made fun of me was a habit so I pretty much opted for that cover instantly.
But that notebook had many pages. And in each one, I improved and experimented with new techniques. Towards the end, there are drawings with realistic proportions, great amounts of detail and accurate, realistic shading which I would never think were possible for me to do when I got that notebook.
As I improved, making fun of myself started becoming rarer until I eventually only made fun of me when I mess up something and try to avoid it next time. Improving at drawing just happened with very little effort and lots of repetition during boring classes. Then I started pouring pure passion into my drawings because I loved drawing.
That made me realize that I'm not trash at everything (my exact attitude at the time, side effect of the quarantines) and that the main thing holding me back from improving on other aspects was that exact attitude of nah I'm trash at it anyway, I'll just do it without putting that much effort or not even try at all! When those jokes disappeared from my life, I found it easier to appreciate the small things that I see an improvement on.
If there's something to learn from this story it is, that there's no reason to put even more obstacles in your own way. I bet that whatever it might be that you're working on, is already hard enough. Show just a tiny bit of faith to yourself and you'll see a big difference!
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A small story on self-deprecating jokes:
I was bored in class so I started sketching random stuff, mainly cars. A few days later, I got a seperate notebook to draw. The cover was black with quotes like random shit inside and 0% quality which felt accurate given that I wasn't good at drawing. Making jokes that made fun of me was a habit so I pretty much opted for that cover instantly.
But that notebook had many pages. And in each one, I improved and experimented with new techniques. Towards the end, there are drawings with realistic proportions, great amounts of detail and accurate, realistic shading which I would never think were possible for me to do when I got that notebook.
As I improved, making fun of myself started becoming rarer until I eventually only made fun of me when I mess up something and try to avoid it next time. Improving at drawing just happened with very little effort and lots of repetition during boring classes. Then I started pouring pure passion into my drawings because I loved drawing.
That made me realize that I'm not trash at everything (my exact attitude at the time, side effect of the quarantines) and that the main thing holding me back from improving on other aspects was that exact attitude of nah I'm trash at it anyway, I'll just do it without putting that much effort or not even try at all! When those jokes disappeared from my life, I found it easier to appreciate the small things that I see an improvement on.
If there's something to learn from this story it is, that there's no reason to put even more obstacles in your own way. I bet that whatever it might be that you're working on, is already hard enough. Show just a tiny bit of faith to yourself and you'll see a big difference!
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Panagiotis
I thought it was just me who would get really annoyed when I am demanded to do more than one thing at once. It is really annoying and doesn't let me focus to be efficient. I knew it is generally difficult to multitask but I thought my reaction wasn't normal. It has the same overwhelming sense that a very messy room gives out. But it's just that I am not made to multitask. I can only do things well when I take one at a time. Someone else might be able to multitask and still do just as well as me, but I don't care, kudos to him of course but I'm not obligated to multitask just because someone else can. Schools try to make us want to be perfect at everything but the reality is, become better at what you're good already
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I thought it was just me who would get really annoyed when I am demanded to do more than one thing at once. It is really annoying and doesn't let me focus to be efficient. I knew it is generally difficult to multitask but I thought my reaction wasn't normal. It has the same overwhelming sense that a very messy room gives out. But it's just that I am not made to multitask. I can only do things well when I take one at a time. Someone else might be able to multitask and still do just as well as me, but I don't care, kudos to him of course but I'm not obligated to multitask just because someone else can. Schools try to make us want to be perfect at everything but the reality is, become better at what you're good already
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Sienna
I used to vent a lot, but as Ive worked on my healing for the past few years, Ive really been working on not doing it so much. Now the perfect poster thing, I think I could work on that a little bit more. Now, I do rock back-and-forth due to blindness and autism. Is this a bad thing? I know that probably sitting hunched over is not the best. But I rock back-and-forth for one, to get a glimpse around me of everything because I cant see. For two, I do it to self soothe, its called Stimming. But I could really work on not hunching over so much with my head down.
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I used to vent a lot, but as Ive worked on my healing for the past few years, Ive really been working on not doing it so much. Now the perfect poster thing, I think I could work on that a little bit more. Now, I do rock back-and-forth due to blindness and autism. Is this a bad thing? I know that probably sitting hunched over is not the best. But I rock back-and-forth for one, to get a glimpse around me of everything because I cant see. For two, I do it to self soothe, its called Stimming. But I could really work on not hunching over so much with my head down.
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FuryQueen380
I feel like some of these tips could lead to worse mental health; I've actually seen and felt the impact of preventing yourself from venting and it's worse than venting as much / how you need to.
From my experience, the causal link of most of these tips is backwards: you're not depressed because you have bad posture; you have bad posture because you're depressed.
Psych2Go is usually pretty good, but they really fell short on this one by seemingly assuming causality when all the research they mentioned only really confirmed a correlation
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I feel like some of these tips could lead to worse mental health; I've actually seen and felt the impact of preventing yourself from venting and it's worse than venting as much / how you need to.
From my experience, the causal link of most of these tips is backwards: you're not depressed because you have bad posture; you have bad posture because you're depressed.
Psych2Go is usually pretty good, but they really fell short on this one by seemingly assuming causality when all the research they mentioned only really confirmed a correlation
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Ray
I really have to put a very huge effort to understand this voice. English is not my national language, but it is not the case. It really makes me a difference who is talking. And it is not about the person but the diction. The voice of this person is so soft that I hardly get it what is told in the episodes. DX
It's a good thing that Amanda has a better and a more clear voice. When she talks in the episodes I usually don't have any difficulties. Although I am still discovering new words while listening to psych2go videos. :)
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I really have to put a very huge effort to understand this voice. English is not my national language, but it is not the case. It really makes me a difference who is talking. And it is not about the person but the diction. The voice of this person is so soft that I hardly get it what is told in the episodes. DX
It's a good thing that Amanda has a better and a more clear voice. When she talks in the episodes I usually don't have any difficulties. Although I am still discovering new words while listening to psych2go videos. :)
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Deohenge
Bonus item 7 - Breathing. Basic biology shows that every person who ever struggled a mental health issue is correlated by breathing. Did you know that breathing is directly linked to people with mental health issues? So the next time someone tells you Don't hold your breath, you can respond with confidence Wouldn't it be better for my mental health if I held my breath forever?
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Bonus item 7 - Breathing. Basic biology shows that every person who ever struggled a mental health issue is correlated by breathing. Did you know that breathing is directly linked to people with mental health issues? So the next time someone tells you Don't hold your breath, you can respond with confidence Wouldn't it be better for my mental health if I held my breath forever?
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Nick
If you perceive all these factors then in my opinion you should seek for a therapist. Take regular counselling sessions and sedatives & antidepressant if prescribed. Never ever break the continuity.
Though it will be difficult in initial days but I promise one day you will be able to make it and outshine others.
It's my personal experience.
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If you perceive all these factors then in my opinion you should seek for a therapist. Take regular counselling sessions and sedatives & antidepressant if prescribed. Never ever break the continuity.
Though it will be difficult in initial days but I promise one day you will be able to make it and outshine others.
It's my personal experience.
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Storyteller
0: 44 Isn't the former caused by the latter? I mean, it's entirely possible for those with mental health issues fall into bad posturing, and even more so considering that it's easy to fall into if your spiraling deeper and deeper into your own problems, as it's hard to keep about yourself when you have literally no bearings of yourself.
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0: 44 Isn't the former caused by the latter? I mean, it's entirely possible for those with mental health issues fall into bad posturing, and even more so considering that it's easy to fall into if your spiraling deeper and deeper into your own problems, as it's hard to keep about yourself when you have literally no bearings of yourself.
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Lo
Selfies are taken too close. The lens deforms our traits, make the nose and forehead bigger. Once I realized this, I started to accept myself and stop feeling deformed and ugly. I only embrace pictures of me taken by others now or pictures in a mirror. I don't know how this information is still not widely spread yet.
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Selfies are taken too close. The lens deforms our traits, make the nose and forehead bigger. Once I realized this, I started to accept myself and stop feeling deformed and ugly. I only embrace pictures of me taken by others now or pictures in a mirror. I don't know how this information is still not widely spread yet.
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Lisa
Thanks to all here that shorten the content in the comments. Sometimes I am just curious and have no time to watch. So I look for those and then I decide wether I watch or not.
These 6 are very true and no. 3 is a thing I tell my friends very often. I am gonna send her this.
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Thanks to all here that shorten the content in the comments. Sometimes I am just curious and have no time to watch. So I look for those and then I decide wether I watch or not.
These 6 are very true and no. 3 is a thing I tell my friends very often. I am gonna send her this.
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Sugar
A girl I went to high school with once said to me, all you do is complain. You know that? I didn't. I was just like my mother & didn't realize that. I hated that girl for saying that then, but I'm thankful to her now. I also used to be judgmental, just like my family.
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A girl I went to high school with once said to me, all you do is complain. You know that? I didn't. I was just like my mother & didn't realize that. I hated that girl for saying that then, but I'm thankful to her now. I also used to be judgmental, just like my family.
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versatile
Things with me is, sometimes I feel like even if I do take care myself, like eating fruits and keeping a clean place, Id feel unsatisfied somehow. Like I wanna eat chips and candy again. Or I just have nothing to look forward too right now.
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Things with me is, sometimes I feel like even if I do take care myself, like eating fruits and keeping a clean place, Id feel unsatisfied somehow. Like I wanna eat chips and candy again. Or I just have nothing to look forward too right now.
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Psych2Go
We're hiring again. To promote accessibility to things that help improve one mental wellness, we're thinking of doing more content. If you know someone who likes to animate in a very cute, 2D style, send them over to tupsych2go. net.
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We're hiring again. To promote accessibility to things that help improve one mental wellness, we're thinking of doing more content. If you know someone who likes to animate in a very cute, 2D style, send them over to tupsych2go. net.
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MarkVD100
The problem is that when I try to do a straight posture, I feel like I'm suffocating and dizziness where it feels like real life is dropping FPS, especially when I move. I can't seem to get around that no matter how hard I try.
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The problem is that when I try to do a straight posture, I feel like I'm suffocating and dizziness where it feels like real life is dropping FPS, especially when I move. I can't seem to get around that no matter how hard I try.
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Fastronaut
I wonder if bad posture and clutter are actually consequences of poor mental health, even more so than they are causes. The study you used likely didnt test that. It could be an area where future research is needed!
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I wonder if bad posture and clutter are actually consequences of poor mental health, even more so than they are causes. The study you used likely didnt test that. It could be an area where future research is needed!
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TheTwistedLife
What is going on and why does de speech sound so uncanny? Are you guys using some sort of program to produce this sounds? It feels unpaused, tempo is too monotonous, leave time between one part and the other.
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What is going on and why does de speech sound so uncanny? Are you guys using some sort of program to produce this sounds? It feels unpaused, tempo is too monotonous, leave time between one part and the other.
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SickPrid3
multitasking always leads to lower efficiency in long run
short burst of doing all at once work because you have mental capacity for it, doing it all the time drains you
I know, I've been there
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multitasking always leads to lower efficiency in long run
short burst of doing all at once work because you have mental capacity for it, doing it all the time drains you
I know, I've been there
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psych2go
just hearing these make me sweat
most of these things are happening around me?
is that how you would say it
especially number 1 and 3 but 3 has rubbed off on me from other people saying them
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just hearing these make me sweat
most of these things are happening around me?
is that how you would say it
especially number 1 and 3 but 3 has rubbed off on me from other people saying them
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Arman
thank you
I dont know if its possible but have your tried to put some of the citations/references in the video description?
this will help others(like me) to explore more deeper about the subject
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thank you
I dont know if its possible but have your tried to put some of the citations/references in the video description?
this will help others(like me) to explore more deeper about the subject
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ExistingSmiles
i constantly make bad jokes about myself because i dont want other people to make bad jokes about me, if i already made a joke about myself, they cant hurt me because ive already hurt myself
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i constantly make bad jokes about myself because i dont want other people to make bad jokes about me, if i already made a joke about myself, they cant hurt me because ive already hurt myself
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John
My ex was an extreme hoarder, she was in denial, if she saw something she liked she had to have it, even when there was nowhere to put it, things would stay on her stairs or in my car for months.
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My ex was an extreme hoarder, she was in denial, if she saw something she liked she had to have it, even when there was nowhere to put it, things would stay on her stairs or in my car for months.
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Scarlet
The fact that the voices sound almost the same, just with a slight (aussie/kiwi maybe) accent REALLY trips me out xD
Keep on keeping on though, not a complaint, just amusing to me.
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The fact that the voices sound almost the same, just with a slight (aussie/kiwi maybe) accent REALLY trips me out xD
Keep on keeping on though, not a complaint, just amusing to me.
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Dinonugget4life
Psych2go has always been there to help me understand my emotions and my mental health and I just want to say thank you and most of these 6 things do relate and I feel lost.
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Psych2go has always been there to help me understand my emotions and my mental health and I just want to say thank you and most of these 6 things do relate and I feel lost.
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education
1. Bad posture - Yes
2. Clutter - Yes
3. Self deprecating jokes - No
4. Selfie - No
5. Multitasking - Yes
6. Venting or complaining - Yes
A test I got 4/6 on
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1. Bad posture - Yes
2. Clutter - Yes
3. Self deprecating jokes - No
4. Selfie - No
5. Multitasking - Yes
6. Venting or complaining - Yes
A test I got 4/6 on
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