8 Things Toxic Mothers Say To Their Children
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Just two minutes into the video and I was already a crying mess!
Growing up I remember how my mother used to be my ultimate support system in every competitions and my dance practices. I just needed her. I had once had a opportunity to work in one of the short films as the lead role, obviously me being me I needed my mum there but she was busy somewhere else later after a few rehearsal shoots of around a month I figured out she had an affair with the director. Thats just shattered me. I thought it was my mistake if I hadn't had this opportunity my mum would be with me. I broke off that contract. Left my dance classes. I thought this would make my mom normal again
In my 7th grade I found she had an affair with some one at the time. That uncle lived nearby us. I caught them lying. I was the one silently observing this without even uttering a word.
Later on I found out she had an affair with some other guy. I was in the 8th grade by that time. This continued till my 11th grade. It was raining heavily and she was home early from work
I unlocked her phone idk why I found out very sneaky shitty photos of her and the guy and I decided if transfer it to my phone first
I confronted it to her the same day.
MY life has not been the same since that day.
Constant fights, her toxic behaviour. Never once she has treated me like her own daughter.
Being a science student, an infant is born with such miraculous crossovers and process. Some parents just provide unconditional love to their children.
I hope I don't repeat the process. I hope I'd break generational trauma. I can't imagine my life if my child would act like the way I act towards my mother. A child and the mother should never have the love and hatred relationship. Their bond is pure and connected not just for those nine months but for the eternity.
When I look back at some of out pictures I feel pity for the girl in the picture as the constant nagging and self doubt she had to go through as a child. No child deserves such attitude.
Please heal before conceiving. Do not depend on the child to fix the problem adults should.
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Just two minutes into the video and I was already a crying mess!
Growing up I remember how my mother used to be my ultimate support system in every competitions and my dance practices. I just needed her. I had once had a opportunity to work in one of the short films as the lead role, obviously me being me I needed my mum there but she was busy somewhere else later after a few rehearsal shoots of around a month I figured out she had an affair with the director. Thats just shattered me. I thought it was my mistake if I hadn't had this opportunity my mum would be with me. I broke off that contract. Left my dance classes. I thought this would make my mom normal again
In my 7th grade I found she had an affair with some one at the time. That uncle lived nearby us. I caught them lying. I was the one silently observing this without even uttering a word.
Later on I found out she had an affair with some other guy. I was in the 8th grade by that time. This continued till my 11th grade. It was raining heavily and she was home early from work
I unlocked her phone idk why I found out very sneaky shitty photos of her and the guy and I decided if transfer it to my phone first
I confronted it to her the same day.
MY life has not been the same since that day.
Constant fights, her toxic behaviour. Never once she has treated me like her own daughter.
Being a science student, an infant is born with such miraculous crossovers and process. Some parents just provide unconditional love to their children.
I hope I don't repeat the process. I hope I'd break generational trauma. I can't imagine my life if my child would act like the way I act towards my mother. A child and the mother should never have the love and hatred relationship. Their bond is pure and connected not just for those nine months but for the eternity.
When I look back at some of out pictures I feel pity for the girl in the picture as the constant nagging and self doubt she had to go through as a child. No child deserves such attitude.
Please heal before conceiving. Do not depend on the child to fix the problem adults should.
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Alese
My mom (also my dad) love to use the fact that I have a therapist and psychologist to disprove the fact that theyre not abusive to me. Whenever they mention that it make my blood absolutely boil because THEY were not the ones to pursue getting me help although I showed major sighs of anxiety to the point I was missing a ton of school. I reached out to my mom that I needed help and I got brushed off like I usually do. It wasnt until a doctors appointment that my doctor recommended therapy because my blood pressure was so high she could tell my anxiety was the cause of it (I mainly suffered badly with health anxiety so doctors were a nightmare at the time. They dont even pay anything out of pocket for them because of insurance but the make it seem like Ive burdened them with getting the help I needed. On top of that they use my anxiety to claim that I be been manipulated by all of my my family to believe that Id been emotionally and mentally abused by them (they started saying this because I sent evidence to some family members proving what was going on.
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My mom (also my dad) love to use the fact that I have a therapist and psychologist to disprove the fact that theyre not abusive to me. Whenever they mention that it make my blood absolutely boil because THEY were not the ones to pursue getting me help although I showed major sighs of anxiety to the point I was missing a ton of school. I reached out to my mom that I needed help and I got brushed off like I usually do. It wasnt until a doctors appointment that my doctor recommended therapy because my blood pressure was so high she could tell my anxiety was the cause of it (I mainly suffered badly with health anxiety so doctors were a nightmare at the time. They dont even pay anything out of pocket for them because of insurance but the make it seem like Ive burdened them with getting the help I needed. On top of that they use my anxiety to claim that I be been manipulated by all of my my family to believe that Id been emotionally and mentally abused by them (they started saying this because I sent evidence to some family members proving what was going on.
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Lloyd
My mother's severe emotional abuse since my father's death has led me to attempt suicide twice, the second time leading me in a two week coma, and even thought of even ending her myself just to end the suffering. But there's no use. Life has its way of teaching toxic parents a very harsh lesson, better than what we'd teach ourselves. In her old age she'll feel what she did to me all those years was wrong and the hurt and guilt will cripple her so bad she's wish for her own death. I even wonder if I'll ever let her near my kids once they're born. People always say how parents can never hate their children but I believe that this entire comment section is substantial proof of the opposite. She has made it so that I'll always depend on her for something since I have no support from other family members who also seek her financial support. This is assurance that I'll always be back, for her to take another bite of my soul. The sort of sadness, rage, loneliness, overall depression is unfathomable.
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My mother's severe emotional abuse since my father's death has led me to attempt suicide twice, the second time leading me in a two week coma, and even thought of even ending her myself just to end the suffering. But there's no use. Life has its way of teaching toxic parents a very harsh lesson, better than what we'd teach ourselves. In her old age she'll feel what she did to me all those years was wrong and the hurt and guilt will cripple her so bad she's wish for her own death. I even wonder if I'll ever let her near my kids once they're born. People always say how parents can never hate their children but I believe that this entire comment section is substantial proof of the opposite. She has made it so that I'll always depend on her for something since I have no support from other family members who also seek her financial support. This is assurance that I'll always be back, for her to take another bite of my soul. The sort of sadness, rage, loneliness, overall depression is unfathomable.
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Mahitha
My mom always prioritizes son over daughter. i am the only daughter and she always hates me for some reason. she just scolds me so badly if I don't keep a thing in its place. she always prioritizes her sisters son. she just talks to him so nicely, u might be thinking maybe he is outsider so my mom talks to him like that but no, she always mentioned it to me that she hates daughters and i am sin and no one likes me. i always loves my mom but the day she said all these to me, I started distancing myself from her. hope she loves me one day
She always say girls are meant to be married, and she will marry me off with some man when I graduates that is at the age of 21, I really want to go out from this house so soon but she won't allow me, hope I go to some other country and never come back
You might be thinking what is my father is like, well, my mom acts when my father is there, she scolds then also but she won't say hurtful things to be infront of him.
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My mom always prioritizes son over daughter. i am the only daughter and she always hates me for some reason. she just scolds me so badly if I don't keep a thing in its place. she always prioritizes her sisters son. she just talks to him so nicely, u might be thinking maybe he is outsider so my mom talks to him like that but no, she always mentioned it to me that she hates daughters and i am sin and no one likes me. i always loves my mom but the day she said all these to me, I started distancing myself from her. hope she loves me one day
She always say girls are meant to be married, and she will marry me off with some man when I graduates that is at the age of 21, I really want to go out from this house so soon but she won't allow me, hope I go to some other country and never come back
You might be thinking what is my father is like, well, my mom acts when my father is there, she scolds then also but she won't say hurtful things to be infront of him.
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SWAGGY_NAZ
My older mental abusive sister likes to make me do things for her that she can easily do herself. I have tried being nice to her but she always gets defensive with me and calls me lazy, not only that but she also threatens me to do it or else i would get in trouble. Even worse, my mother doesnt seem to notice how sensitive my sister has made me and says that she is just trying to protect me and that Im the one who is lazy. My sister cant even get a simple glass of water for herself! She has the audacity to force her younger brother to get it for her like im a slave. I have tried to pray to the lord to make my life happier, only to give up from how worse it got. You cannot tell me that this is normal. This is true cruel behavior. My parents have talked to her many times. But the next day, she forgets about everything and continues to be abusive. I wish everything was better for me.
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My older mental abusive sister likes to make me do things for her that she can easily do herself. I have tried being nice to her but she always gets defensive with me and calls me lazy, not only that but she also threatens me to do it or else i would get in trouble. Even worse, my mother doesnt seem to notice how sensitive my sister has made me and says that she is just trying to protect me and that Im the one who is lazy. My sister cant even get a simple glass of water for herself! She has the audacity to force her younger brother to get it for her like im a slave. I have tried to pray to the lord to make my life happier, only to give up from how worse it got. You cannot tell me that this is normal. This is true cruel behavior. My parents have talked to her many times. But the next day, she forgets about everything and continues to be abusive. I wish everything was better for me.
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Jenessa
When I was little, there were times when my mom was nice. But there were times, too-often-that she yelled at us, through gritted teeth & broke things against the wall. She slept in the living room vs. her bedroom, so we were expected to tip toe around the tiny house the 3 of us lived in. This went on much longer than it didnt.
Mind you, we didnt do chores.
WE NEVER WERE ASKED TO.
We were to clean our room. Much of the time we didnt do that either.
Mom was always one to grab our stuff out of our hands as we played with it & smash it to bits or snatch me up, in particular, and whip me with a skinny leather belt, several times. 10+ lashings usually. On my bare bottom.
Those memories suck.
Unbelievably I have moved her into our house where we live now, thinking it would be alright because she'd be happier.
Quite the contrary. Just like her.
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When I was little, there were times when my mom was nice. But there were times, too-often-that she yelled at us, through gritted teeth & broke things against the wall. She slept in the living room vs. her bedroom, so we were expected to tip toe around the tiny house the 3 of us lived in. This went on much longer than it didnt.
Mind you, we didnt do chores.
WE NEVER WERE ASKED TO.
We were to clean our room. Much of the time we didnt do that either.
Mom was always one to grab our stuff out of our hands as we played with it & smash it to bits or snatch me up, in particular, and whip me with a skinny leather belt, several times. 10+ lashings usually. On my bare bottom.
Those memories suck.
Unbelievably I have moved her into our house where we live now, thinking it would be alright because she'd be happier.
Quite the contrary. Just like her.
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Jenessa
When I was little, there were times when my mom was nice. But there were times, too-often-that she yelled at us, through gritted teeth & broke things against the wall. She slept in the living room vs. her bedroom, so we were expected to tip toe around the tiny house the 3 of us lived in. This went on much longer than it didnt.
Mind you, we didnt do chores.
WE NEVER WERE ASKED TO.
We were to clean our room. Much of the time we didnt do that either.
Mom was always one to grab our stuff out of our hands as we played with it & smash it to bits or snatch me up, in particular, and whip me with a skinny leather belt, several times. 10+ lashings usually. On my bare bottom.
Those memories suck.
Unbelievably I have moved her into our house where we live now, thinking it would be alright because she'd be happier.
Quite the contrary. Just like her.
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When I was little, there were times when my mom was nice. But there were times, too-often-that she yelled at us, through gritted teeth & broke things against the wall. She slept in the living room vs. her bedroom, so we were expected to tip toe around the tiny house the 3 of us lived in. This went on much longer than it didnt.
Mind you, we didnt do chores.
WE NEVER WERE ASKED TO.
We were to clean our room. Much of the time we didnt do that either.
Mom was always one to grab our stuff out of our hands as we played with it & smash it to bits or snatch me up, in particular, and whip me with a skinny leather belt, several times. 10+ lashings usually. On my bare bottom.
Those memories suck.
Unbelievably I have moved her into our house where we live now, thinking it would be alright because she'd be happier.
Quite the contrary. Just like her.
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Ember
one thing that has really stuck with me is that i get called useless by my mum and she always says the phrase 'I do everything for you, you could help me out. ' and its always like she wants me to do everything, for example there was one instance where she told me to go close a window that was open and it got stuck so I called her and told her that it was stuck, and it was like that she thought that i didn't even try so she ended up yelling at me saying that i am useless, but the thing is it really upsets me and she likes to act like nothing happened. there has also been many times when she says that i annoy her and that i'm too emotional so it sometimes makes me feel as though i shouldn't exist and that i have wanted to attempt ending my life, i'm not sure if its emotionally abusive but it hurts.
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one thing that has really stuck with me is that i get called useless by my mum and she always says the phrase 'I do everything for you, you could help me out. ' and its always like she wants me to do everything, for example there was one instance where she told me to go close a window that was open and it got stuck so I called her and told her that it was stuck, and it was like that she thought that i didn't even try so she ended up yelling at me saying that i am useless, but the thing is it really upsets me and she likes to act like nothing happened. there has also been many times when she says that i annoy her and that i'm too emotional so it sometimes makes me feel as though i shouldn't exist and that i have wanted to attempt ending my life, i'm not sure if its emotionally abusive but it hurts.
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Lurking
Its a constant rut of runination over Am i being too much others have it worse. despite being 17 and having seen a lot of other family dynamics, its still so hard to believe that your own parents are toxic provided they gave you a roof over your head. This video is really an eye opener but it's nowhere near easy to accept the hard fact since you've only got one pair and if i let go of them how in the world am i. it makes you fearful of the world and people around u living in a constant paranoia. feeling like you've been pushed around into circumstances and that you've no control over whats going on with you
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Its a constant rut of runination over Am i being too much others have it worse. despite being 17 and having seen a lot of other family dynamics, its still so hard to believe that your own parents are toxic provided they gave you a roof over your head. This video is really an eye opener but it's nowhere near easy to accept the hard fact since you've only got one pair and if i let go of them how in the world am i. it makes you fearful of the world and people around u living in a constant paranoia. feeling like you've been pushed around into circumstances and that you've no control over whats going on with you
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Axelrod
My mother abused me emotionally, physically, and mentally when I was four months to five. I know that it was a while back, however, I would like to talk about it. She would do the usual (hitting, throwing stuff, yelling, screaming, being angry for no reason) and I now have zero self esteem and Ive tried to kll myself because of this-its just not right. I feel I deserved it but I didnt and I want everyone who reads this to know
you are beautiful and wonderful and amazing in every way. Do not kll yourself. People care about you. I learned that from my bf. I hope you have a nice day because you deserve it
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My mother abused me emotionally, physically, and mentally when I was four months to five. I know that it was a while back, however, I would like to talk about it. She would do the usual (hitting, throwing stuff, yelling, screaming, being angry for no reason) and I now have zero self esteem and Ive tried to kll myself because of this-its just not right. I feel I deserved it but I didnt and I want everyone who reads this to know
you are beautiful and wonderful and amazing in every way. Do not kll yourself. People care about you. I learned that from my bf. I hope you have a nice day because you deserve it
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Caijiaxin333
Ive heard these at least 5 times a day Im 13 years old now Im depressed anxious and broken inside and out my mom invalidates only me and I feel like its because Im the middle child for example if I forgot to do my chores my mom will abuse me in just any way but most of the time shell try to take me down and manipulate me into thinking its all my fault but if my little sister or my older sister forget something she doesnt get mad shell just say ok no problem. Thats why Im scared that if I ever have children Ill turn into my mom Ill for sure try not to be like her tho.
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Ive heard these at least 5 times a day Im 13 years old now Im depressed anxious and broken inside and out my mom invalidates only me and I feel like its because Im the middle child for example if I forgot to do my chores my mom will abuse me in just any way but most of the time shell try to take me down and manipulate me into thinking its all my fault but if my little sister or my older sister forget something she doesnt get mad shell just say ok no problem. Thats why Im scared that if I ever have children Ill turn into my mom Ill for sure try not to be like her tho.
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melanyebaggins
you look like you fell out of a rag bag!
no one will want you if you keep snacking!
you're so over-sensitive
if you weren't so lazy I wouldn't have to yell at you to get your work done!
why do you constantly leave everything after your butt?
you live like a princess compared to when I was your age!
I just don't know what to do with you anymore!
why aren't you obedient like your sister?
what do you have to be depressed about?
But my mom wonders why I never call.
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you look like you fell out of a rag bag!
no one will want you if you keep snacking!
you're so over-sensitive
if you weren't so lazy I wouldn't have to yell at you to get your work done!
why do you constantly leave everything after your butt?
you live like a princess compared to when I was your age!
I just don't know what to do with you anymore!
why aren't you obedient like your sister?
what do you have to be depressed about?
But my mom wonders why I never call.
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Cheesecake_desu
What irritates me more is that when they compare you to someone they know, look at tommy here hes 18 and has job earning money unlike you whos just at home some bs like that and things like Why do you dress up that way? Its disgusting to look at dont you have shame? Just imagine what would others think if they saw me with someone like you lol i just laugh it of everytime she says some bs like that cuz i know for a fact that what others think of you doesnt really matter and that makes her made
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What irritates me more is that when they compare you to someone they know, look at tommy here hes 18 and has job earning money unlike you whos just at home some bs like that and things like Why do you dress up that way? Its disgusting to look at dont you have shame? Just imagine what would others think if they saw me with someone like you lol i just laugh it of everytime she says some bs like that cuz i know for a fact that what others think of you doesnt really matter and that makes her made
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Ela
My mom only liked babies, she didnt like children over 4 years old. So when I became around 4. She was sick of me because I grew up, and she decided to have 2 more children. While she looked after them, she didnt look after me. Whenever she sees a little baby, she acts like its her own child and completely ignores me. She always says I need hospital and I need needles and all kinds of stuff. She tells me to F off and go away when I try talking to her. Im non existent to her. I wish I never grew up
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My mom only liked babies, she didnt like children over 4 years old. So when I became around 4. She was sick of me because I grew up, and she decided to have 2 more children. While she looked after them, she didnt look after me. Whenever she sees a little baby, she acts like its her own child and completely ignores me. She always says I need hospital and I need needles and all kinds of stuff. She tells me to F off and go away when I try talking to her. Im non existent to her. I wish I never grew up
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crepe!
i have a sign which i think isn't really toxic
just ignore them
now, i unconditionally love my mom and she's an amazing mother but there is just one thing that she says when i tell her about my shitty classmate who harasses me for everything i like/do. she simply had told me just ignore him. but finally she realized her mistakes and said she would contact his parents if he continues and i'm so glad.
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i have a sign which i think isn't really toxic
just ignore them
now, i unconditionally love my mom and she's an amazing mother but there is just one thing that she says when i tell her about my shitty classmate who harasses me for everything i like/do. she simply had told me just ignore him. but finally she realized her mistakes and said she would contact his parents if he continues and i'm so glad.
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Beanie6900
God I love your videos but I hate to see that these things always show how these things happen in my life I don't know how to handle it anymore as I constantly feel delusional because she told me yesterday telling me that I will not survive without her and so many except my mom comparing me happens quite a lot and I hate to know how I am constantly dealing with most of these points
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God I love your videos but I hate to see that these things always show how these things happen in my life I don't know how to handle it anymore as I constantly feel delusional because she told me yesterday telling me that I will not survive without her and so many except my mom comparing me happens quite a lot and I hate to know how I am constantly dealing with most of these points
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Karen
My mom thought my room was part of her house too and I never always had my personal space even with a no trespassing signs on my bedroom door. I was a teenager then no doubt. I want privacy sometimes. Don't pick a lock to open the bathroom door when you know I'm using it. Lest there's an emergency of some kind. Don't tell me I can't do away with body hair at 12 years old.
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My mom thought my room was part of her house too and I never always had my personal space even with a no trespassing signs on my bedroom door. I was a teenager then no doubt. I want privacy sometimes. Don't pick a lock to open the bathroom door when you know I'm using it. Lest there's an emergency of some kind. Don't tell me I can't do away with body hair at 12 years old.
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ZwilightStreamer
Yeah my mom has said/done a few of these things I usually dont feel like Im enough for more than just that though. That said, I plan on continuing my journey through life and even though it sometimes feels hopeless all the time, I know Ill be free someday. Possibly even very soon as Im gonna try to get a good job soon so well see where things take us.
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Yeah my mom has said/done a few of these things I usually dont feel like Im enough for more than just that though. That said, I plan on continuing my journey through life and even though it sometimes feels hopeless all the time, I know Ill be free someday. Possibly even very soon as Im gonna try to get a good job soon so well see where things take us.
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Sasha
My mother had three children while I was a teenager (my childhood was filled with literal cancer and two strokes) and when I talked about how I felt neglected, she was like lots of kids have siblings; stop feeling abandoned. oh, also she admitted to me that the middle child was her favorite. Felt very little love as the oldest.
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My mother had three children while I was a teenager (my childhood was filled with literal cancer and two strokes) and when I talked about how I felt neglected, she was like lots of kids have siblings; stop feeling abandoned. oh, also she admitted to me that the middle child was her favorite. Felt very little love as the oldest.
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mauzrium
I dont understand why courts in divorce most likely give the child to mother even though che is more abusive. The thing that mother loves you the most is not true it is a lie. And most importantly, my dad carried me all his life. Mine house that the man bought or pays
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I dont understand why courts in divorce most likely give the child to mother even though che is more abusive. The thing that mother loves you the most is not true it is a lie. And most importantly, my dad carried me all his life. Mine house that the man bought or pays
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duck
My mother said different things she told me just be unhappy I don't care I'm the mother I own everything in this house your dad abandoned you I'm the one who stayed I live a lot longer than you not as hard as being your parent you intentionally make me feel miserable
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My mother said different things she told me just be unhappy I don't care I'm the mother I own everything in this house your dad abandoned you I'm the one who stayed I live a lot longer than you not as hard as being your parent you intentionally make me feel miserable
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CertifiedRat
I can relate with a lot of these things and even when I was 11 I was thinking about committing, I obviously didnt but its not like I only thought about it once the only reason I didnt commit was because of my friends I didnt want to disappoint them.
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I can relate with a lot of these things and even when I was 11 I was thinking about committing, I obviously didnt but its not like I only thought about it once the only reason I didnt commit was because of my friends I didnt want to disappoint them.
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Awkward
To this day I will never forget the moment my mother looked me in the eyes and said: Maybe I should never have given birth to you. She broke me and my heart in so many ways with so many words and actions but that sentence alone destroyed so much.
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To this day I will never forget the moment my mother looked me in the eyes and said: Maybe I should never have given birth to you. She broke me and my heart in so many ways with so many words and actions but that sentence alone destroyed so much.
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Francis
how about i had to watch mt mother attack me then place my sister on a pedisal at the same time when my sisters grades were c's and d's i made a's and b's and when id make a c i would be attacked and get told my sister was better than me.
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how about i had to watch mt mother attack me then place my sister on a pedisal at the same time when my sisters grades were c's and d's i made a's and b's and when id make a c i would be attacked and get told my sister was better than me.
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riya
Other than the mindless beatings mom would put kerosene on me light the matchstick and threaten to put me on fire. I wish she had killed me instead of the regular torture. She faked suicide to blackmail me and insult and slap me in public
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Other than the mindless beatings mom would put kerosene on me light the matchstick and threaten to put me on fire. I wish she had killed me instead of the regular torture. She faked suicide to blackmail me and insult and slap me in public
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