7 Signs Their Love for You is Toxic
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Ardell
I do know. First lies, and just mean. I still don't know what changed, well i think I do, but ive asked too many times. I know she isnt going to tell me. And I really think i know what changed, when im close she says she doesn't want to hurt my feelings. That is already done. And i get gaslighted now. Im guilty of resentment. And when asked what's wrong, i say nothin', im fine. She points out that is lying, i can't disagree with that. I've been ignored, dismissed and given the lamest reasons of why she wont address any of my needs. Im jaded and just ready to be put down, and snap back or storm off or go inside myself and not acknowledge when it happens. And, i still love her soo much, and i know she loves me, but not like it was. And the last year is probably all on me, as she tried to leave, and i just kept following her smothering her and not letting her go. I know what I need to do, im tryin. Its so hard. I break down and she says nothing has changed for a while. Except shes moved on and im just now accepting it. Not her fault there. Im a wreck, i really planned on forever, and I love her so much and done everything, and it will never be enough. Because she doesn't feel the same. I know life's not fair. But ima say it anyway. Its not fair that i don't get a say, i dont get what i need or want. And i dont get a vote, 100%+100%=200% but 200%+0%=0%. I suck at math but i definitely know that is true. Ive accepted that as the overriding truth. Why? Only matters to me. All my questions and frustration and effort anything, i knot none of that does anything for either of us. Its just how to deal with it. That is definitely toxic for both us. I see it now. Since she moved again, i know. Ugh. Okie dokie that's soo much there. I'm goin to rest, definitely exhausted. And psych2go, ty for your videos, they are an incredible resource and got me to accept things about me, her, us that i was not aware of or i was ignoring. Especially with me. Ty
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I do know. First lies, and just mean. I still don't know what changed, well i think I do, but ive asked too many times. I know she isnt going to tell me. And I really think i know what changed, when im close she says she doesn't want to hurt my feelings. That is already done. And i get gaslighted now. Im guilty of resentment. And when asked what's wrong, i say nothin', im fine. She points out that is lying, i can't disagree with that. I've been ignored, dismissed and given the lamest reasons of why she wont address any of my needs. Im jaded and just ready to be put down, and snap back or storm off or go inside myself and not acknowledge when it happens. And, i still love her soo much, and i know she loves me, but not like it was. And the last year is probably all on me, as she tried to leave, and i just kept following her smothering her and not letting her go. I know what I need to do, im tryin. Its so hard. I break down and she says nothing has changed for a while. Except shes moved on and im just now accepting it. Not her fault there. Im a wreck, i really planned on forever, and I love her so much and done everything, and it will never be enough. Because she doesn't feel the same. I know life's not fair. But ima say it anyway. Its not fair that i don't get a say, i dont get what i need or want. And i dont get a vote, 100%+100%=200% but 200%+0%=0%. I suck at math but i definitely know that is true. Ive accepted that as the overriding truth. Why? Only matters to me. All my questions and frustration and effort anything, i knot none of that does anything for either of us. Its just how to deal with it. That is definitely toxic for both us. I see it now. Since she moved again, i know. Ugh. Okie dokie that's soo much there. I'm goin to rest, definitely exhausted. And psych2go, ty for your videos, they are an incredible resource and got me to accept things about me, her, us that i was not aware of or i was ignoring. Especially with me. Ty
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KittiKat
This is gonna be hard to explain but, I have this one friend that starts lots of drama (well call them Yoda, and its hard trying not to be in any part of it, but yoda used to be super caring, and now when I give yoda compliments, yoda will just tell me to shut up or slang words such as dilligaf in text.
When we get in fights yoda says theyll hurt themself in ways they wont wake up from, so Im scared if I leave yoda, yoda will do something bad to themself and thats the opposite of what I want. I cant imagine the tremendous amount of guilt Id have if I knew someone took their life for me. I slap them out of it even when theyre joking about that kind of stuff, I dont find it funny at all.
Im in 5th grade going into 6th, Im excited that Ill be able to meet new people and wont have to worry as much about yoda spreading rumors abt me if I did unfriend yoda.
Im a very patient person but Im getting sick of this
This was probably cringey to read, I just needed to spill my guts somewhere where Im anonymous
And maybe get help for me and yoda
(#4 really remind me of them)
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This is gonna be hard to explain but, I have this one friend that starts lots of drama (well call them Yoda, and its hard trying not to be in any part of it, but yoda used to be super caring, and now when I give yoda compliments, yoda will just tell me to shut up or slang words such as dilligaf in text.
When we get in fights yoda says theyll hurt themself in ways they wont wake up from, so Im scared if I leave yoda, yoda will do something bad to themself and thats the opposite of what I want. I cant imagine the tremendous amount of guilt Id have if I knew someone took their life for me. I slap them out of it even when theyre joking about that kind of stuff, I dont find it funny at all.
Im in 5th grade going into 6th, Im excited that Ill be able to meet new people and wont have to worry as much about yoda spreading rumors abt me if I did unfriend yoda.
Im a very patient person but Im getting sick of this
This was probably cringey to read, I just needed to spill my guts somewhere where Im anonymous
And maybe get help for me and yoda
(#4 really remind me of them)
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1: 14 well if the the other person isn't willing to fulfil you needs it will become crystal clear that you are doing your part and that the other person is more or less using you to fulfil their own needs but have no intention or maybe are uncapable of fulfilling your needs, and maybe exactly that is the reason they are trying to make sure that you don't talk about those things.
In my opinion those things should be discussed even before you get into a relationship it will safe both you and the other person all the trouble of finding that out in the middle of the relationship and realizing that you weren't as perfect for each other as you initially tough.
Also another reason for that might be that they are keeping you from leaving the relationship until they can find some one else.
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1: 14 well if the the other person isn't willing to fulfil you needs it will become crystal clear that you are doing your part and that the other person is more or less using you to fulfil their own needs but have no intention or maybe are uncapable of fulfilling your needs, and maybe exactly that is the reason they are trying to make sure that you don't talk about those things.
In my opinion those things should be discussed even before you get into a relationship it will safe both you and the other person all the trouble of finding that out in the middle of the relationship and realizing that you weren't as perfect for each other as you initially tough.
Also another reason for that might be that they are keeping you from leaving the relationship until they can find some one else.
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Dianne
My neighbor is a communication hog. He acts like he knows me but, I don't say anything relevant to him. I am 8 years older than he and I have more understanding of the wold than he. He is afraid of people like me. He seems to be afraid of those who get mental health treatment, or those who are homeless. I have been in both situations. I am still getting treatment.
When this guy starts to put others down I run and hide. I tried to explain to him but he just goes on about his attack. It is not geared at me personally but having been in both situations over several years, I take it personal. I am more afraid of him than of the people getting help. I can understand them. Where he cannot.
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My neighbor is a communication hog. He acts like he knows me but, I don't say anything relevant to him. I am 8 years older than he and I have more understanding of the wold than he. He is afraid of people like me. He seems to be afraid of those who get mental health treatment, or those who are homeless. I have been in both situations. I am still getting treatment.
When this guy starts to put others down I run and hide. I tried to explain to him but he just goes on about his attack. It is not geared at me personally but having been in both situations over several years, I take it personal. I am more afraid of him than of the people getting help. I can understand them. Where he cannot.
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Supersatan25
Unfortunately, Ive realized I was the toxic one. And not just from this video (although this confirms it I guess. I didnt relate to all of the ones listed but definitely the ones about not giving what was needed when asked for it. And she asked multiple times and I never made the effort, which led to our breakup. You never know what you had until its gone. Its been a wake up call, so the past few days Ive started efforts to improve myself (which was the issue. I was coasting through life, and she realized we couldnt both take care of each other, that it would be one sided)
Anyway, self reflection is a powerful thing
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Unfortunately, Ive realized I was the toxic one. And not just from this video (although this confirms it I guess. I didnt relate to all of the ones listed but definitely the ones about not giving what was needed when asked for it. And she asked multiple times and I never made the effort, which led to our breakup. You never know what you had until its gone. Its been a wake up call, so the past few days Ive started efforts to improve myself (which was the issue. I was coasting through life, and she realized we couldnt both take care of each other, that it would be one sided)
Anyway, self reflection is a powerful thing
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night
For me we didn't even talk I tried all I could to fix it I put alot of effort in just to get a response days later like oh I didn't charge my phone I lost my phone stuff like that over and over again at the time I had just found out I had anxiety anxiety attacks were really bad when I first found out I told my partner and he kinda just brushed it off didn't ask hiw he could help or even really care he also didn't start texting more still a weeks wait for 3 small texted I really tried to help but my mom told me it won't work if the other person doesn't put effort in and I didn't he broke up with me and I'm doing better
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For me we didn't even talk I tried all I could to fix it I put alot of effort in just to get a response days later like oh I didn't charge my phone I lost my phone stuff like that over and over again at the time I had just found out I had anxiety anxiety attacks were really bad when I first found out I told my partner and he kinda just brushed it off didn't ask hiw he could help or even really care he also didn't start texting more still a weeks wait for 3 small texted I really tried to help but my mom told me it won't work if the other person doesn't put effort in and I didn't he broke up with me and I'm doing better
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FunPlayer
My gf had a heavy concussion just under 2 months back, but shes still not fully recovered. Seems unfair if I say that I put in all the work to make our relationship, which will be 2 months by tomorrow (not very long, I know) work out. Even tho, shes still trying as hard as possible for her to do smt with me.
And after every party I go to, I get a lot of questions. Just because she wants to know how it was, as she cant go herself because she still needs to rest. All the other signs I dont see at all: )
Healthy relationship ig
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My gf had a heavy concussion just under 2 months back, but shes still not fully recovered. Seems unfair if I say that I put in all the work to make our relationship, which will be 2 months by tomorrow (not very long, I know) work out. Even tho, shes still trying as hard as possible for her to do smt with me.
And after every party I go to, I get a lot of questions. Just because she wants to know how it was, as she cant go herself because she still needs to rest. All the other signs I dont see at all: )
Healthy relationship ig
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trinityyy
i ended shit with him today, thanks for all the videos you've helped me. i've never noticed the things he's been doing to me and how much i've changed honestly. I was once that ghetto out-going, and happy girl but i was wasting my time doing shit he wanted, acting a certain way, and ultimately changing my whole personality! I'll be getting that back now, thank uuuuuuuuu one day or maybe even this year, i'll find that one person thats respectful, kind, caring, loving, and NOT manipulative
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i ended shit with him today, thanks for all the videos you've helped me. i've never noticed the things he's been doing to me and how much i've changed honestly. I was once that ghetto out-going, and happy girl but i was wasting my time doing shit he wanted, acting a certain way, and ultimately changing my whole personality! I'll be getting that back now, thank uuuuuuuuu one day or maybe even this year, i'll find that one person thats respectful, kind, caring, loving, and NOT manipulative
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william
Hello Hopefully you can help me. My girlfriend for a year. She just stop answering my texts or calls and staying away from me. I stop by her where she works and waited till she came out after work, She didn't even seem like herself. It has been 2 months since I have talked to her. Things she has told me I know she is depressed. She has push me away. I have never felt love from someone like we felt when we were together. I don't know if I should give up on her? What should I do?
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Hello Hopefully you can help me. My girlfriend for a year. She just stop answering my texts or calls and staying away from me. I stop by her where she works and waited till she came out after work, She didn't even seem like herself. It has been 2 months since I have talked to her. Things she has told me I know she is depressed. She has push me away. I have never felt love from someone like we felt when we were together. I don't know if I should give up on her? What should I do?
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education
to be honest, i just wanted to make her happy. i never really liked her, which is terrible. she is my best friend however, but it feels like were more. friends than partners. she controls me a lot, and i have no courage into talking to her about it. if she found out i never really loved her, then our relationship would be ruined, i wouldnt have any friends. but shes so tiring, even being around her is tiring. im not sure what to do
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to be honest, i just wanted to make her happy. i never really liked her, which is terrible. she is my best friend however, but it feels like were more. friends than partners. she controls me a lot, and i have no courage into talking to her about it. if she found out i never really loved her, then our relationship would be ruined, i wouldnt have any friends. but shes so tiring, even being around her is tiring. im not sure what to do
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My
This describes many Asperger's = level 1 = high functioning autism people.
In psychology, Asperger's have cognitive issues due to a gene mutation that is carry through generations.
Many autism people due to neglecting from parents they grow up with all these characters, is this means they are toxic or they don't know they act this way.
Later the NT partner develop Cassandra Syndrome.
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This describes many Asperger's = level 1 = high functioning autism people.
In psychology, Asperger's have cognitive issues due to a gene mutation that is carry through generations.
Many autism people due to neglecting from parents they grow up with all these characters, is this means they are toxic or they don't know they act this way.
Later the NT partner develop Cassandra Syndrome.
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education
This honestly made me feel so depressed everything listed is exactly what Ive always experienced and Ive always sought and really tried to always give and receive the healthiest and most blissful love. I just feel sad seeing my nativity and innocence being violated and preyed on.
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This honestly made me feel so depressed everything listed is exactly what Ive always experienced and Ive always sought and really tried to always give and receive the healthiest and most blissful love. I just feel sad seeing my nativity and innocence being violated and preyed on.
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Mishal
no but yes im the one who gives in the effort and im the one getting jealous he is just a very chill person who actually doesn't have time for me and cares more about friends. idk maybe because our relationship is hidden or is it because i don't value much to him. sigh
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no but yes im the one who gives in the effort and im the one getting jealous he is just a very chill person who actually doesn't have time for me and cares more about friends. idk maybe because our relationship is hidden or is it because i don't value much to him. sigh
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Omaha
1, 3, 4, and 6 in my old relationship. While i was definitely a 7. Because i needed to avoid topics or points that would lead to arguments going on over and over. At least now i can spot it, and not going through that again!
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1, 3, 4, and 6 in my old relationship. While i was definitely a 7. Because i needed to avoid topics or points that would lead to arguments going on over and over. At least now i can spot it, and not going through that again!
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dreamboi
Watching this to make sure I have no toxic traits or if I have i need to fix them. I love my boyfriend so much the last thing i want to be is a burden to him instead of lifting him up to his fullest potential
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Watching this to make sure I have no toxic traits or if I have i need to fix them. I love my boyfriend so much the last thing i want to be is a burden to him instead of lifting him up to his fullest potential
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VPL
This video honestly taught me alot about my previous relationship. And how toxic she truly was. Thank you for opening my eyes. I love your guys videos, they always help I'm different ways and are very informative.
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This video honestly taught me alot about my previous relationship. And how toxic she truly was. Thank you for opening my eyes. I love your guys videos, they always help I'm different ways and are very informative.
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Thesar
I had a toxic relationship with my ex a while ago. It was so hard to end our relationship back then but I did it in the end. It feels lonely sometimes but it's the best choice I've ever made.
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I had a toxic relationship with my ex a while ago. It was so hard to end our relationship back then but I did it in the end. It feels lonely sometimes but it's the best choice I've ever made.
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Charlotte
I ended my relationship in september last year and I can say that almost every sign in this video was present. It only confirms that I made the right decision. Thanks for the reassurance.
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I ended my relationship in september last year and I can say that almost every sign in this video was present. It only confirms that I made the right decision. Thanks for the reassurance.
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Adrian
The girl I'm courting has all the traits except no. 2 but i still love her. I love her too much that i can't seem to let go of her. Any suggestions what should i do?
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The girl I'm courting has all the traits except no. 2 but i still love her. I love her too much that i can't seem to let go of her. Any suggestions what should i do?
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Rishab
Thanks for your supportive videos. By which I got to know why I was not happy in my relationship. And now I am able to get out of it. Now I am really happy. Thanks
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Thanks for your supportive videos. By which I got to know why I was not happy in my relationship. And now I am able to get out of it. Now I am really happy. Thanks
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BETTER
For every guy going through a break up right now, Remember that, sometimes good things fall apart so that better things come together. Keep your head up kings.
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For every guy going through a break up right now, Remember that, sometimes good things fall apart so that better things come together. Keep your head up kings.
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SphynxNightmare
I knew it. I have had multiple people, even relationship counselors, tell me they're toxic but I always feel like I have to double-check.
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I knew it. I have had multiple people, even relationship counselors, tell me they're toxic but I always feel like I have to double-check.
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Tyler
4 of 7. and we're currently in a long distance relationship on a break because I brought up the fact that we don't have honest communication.
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4 of 7. and we're currently in a long distance relationship on a break because I brought up the fact that we don't have honest communication.
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Rose
All these signs is what I grew up seeing in my parents. Now, at 21 I dont know what healthy love looks like. Im so thankful for PsychtoGo.
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All these signs is what I grew up seeing in my parents. Now, at 21 I dont know what healthy love looks like. Im so thankful for PsychtoGo.
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