How Childhood Trauma Shapes Your Personality
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Nikki
There are alot of things I reconize for myself in this video. Perfectionism, because I want to be good at the one thing where I have more talent than others. Having developed certain hate to food, textures and smells because they remind me of my childhood. I always had one comfort food and I cant stop eating obsessivly or cant share it with my siblings. Acting childlike, because I had to grow up to early in life. Things happend at home when I was young and I needed to take care of myself. I am now 20 yo and I have this costant fear of becoming an adult. I became afraid of attachment love to people, because I dont want to go through shit again, I been through enough already.
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There are alot of things I reconize for myself in this video. Perfectionism, because I want to be good at the one thing where I have more talent than others. Having developed certain hate to food, textures and smells because they remind me of my childhood. I always had one comfort food and I cant stop eating obsessivly or cant share it with my siblings. Acting childlike, because I had to grow up to early in life. Things happend at home when I was young and I needed to take care of myself. I am now 20 yo and I have this costant fear of becoming an adult. I became afraid of attachment love to people, because I dont want to go through shit again, I been through enough already.
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education
My parents got divorced and I lived with my mom as a child who was very neglectful, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive. Ive spent the past few years trying to undo all of the damage thats been done. I dont think Ill ever be able to undo it all and thats what scares me the most. I dont want to be in a place in my life where I want to settle down with someone because I dont want to dump all of my problems on them, I dont want to burden someone with my miserable life. I dont think Ill ever be able to find someone. I dont feel like Im good enough for someone but at the same time I want to have that experience (like it talks about in the video.
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My parents got divorced and I lived with my mom as a child who was very neglectful, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive. Ive spent the past few years trying to undo all of the damage thats been done. I dont think Ill ever be able to undo it all and thats what scares me the most. I dont want to be in a place in my life where I want to settle down with someone because I dont want to dump all of my problems on them, I dont want to burden someone with my miserable life. I dont think Ill ever be able to find someone. I dont feel like Im good enough for someone but at the same time I want to have that experience (like it talks about in the video.
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Jamie
I often expect everything I do to be perfect but after 2 years of therapy I understand how unattainable and even unsatisfying striving for perfection can be. I have to comment because my mother literally said to me that I needed to get straight A's in all of my school subjects. My parents also expected me to be a doctor or lawyer, those were the only acceptable occupations because my father was a doctor. My interests have always been playing music or studying art history but my parents told me that getting a degree in these subjects would be worthless. Thank you so much for your videos.
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I often expect everything I do to be perfect but after 2 years of therapy I understand how unattainable and even unsatisfying striving for perfection can be. I have to comment because my mother literally said to me that I needed to get straight A's in all of my school subjects. My parents also expected me to be a doctor or lawyer, those were the only acceptable occupations because my father was a doctor. My interests have always been playing music or studying art history but my parents told me that getting a degree in these subjects would be worthless. Thank you so much for your videos.
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Vanessa
When my parents were going through a divorce, I remember them immediately talking negatively about each other to me as soon as I got in the car with them to go spend 2 weeks at their house, and I failed to see how it was my problem. Over the years, I got used to other people making their problems my problems. I became the therapist friend, or at least I wanted to be. I still don't know how to break my own mother out of her jaded anger spirals, because I've internalized the fact that she has a right to be upset and this is an emotional burden I've been trained my whole life to bear.
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When my parents were going through a divorce, I remember them immediately talking negatively about each other to me as soon as I got in the car with them to go spend 2 weeks at their house, and I failed to see how it was my problem. Over the years, I got used to other people making their problems my problems. I became the therapist friend, or at least I wanted to be. I still don't know how to break my own mother out of her jaded anger spirals, because I've internalized the fact that she has a right to be upset and this is an emotional burden I've been trained my whole life to bear.
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Sana
Ive had to deal with so much abuse at home as well as a lot of bullying in school. I was in denial about it and I still find it hard to come to terms with how horrible my childhood really was because when you are a child you think its normal. I feel so alone because I can never trust anyone with my real thoughts and feelings. I hate myself for not dealing with it better and I need to be strong to get by everyday but Im still weak. It doesnt help that Im still dependent on my parents. I hope God pulls me out of this situation one day, I will keep trying my best despite everything.
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Ive had to deal with so much abuse at home as well as a lot of bullying in school. I was in denial about it and I still find it hard to come to terms with how horrible my childhood really was because when you are a child you think its normal. I feel so alone because I can never trust anyone with my real thoughts and feelings. I hate myself for not dealing with it better and I need to be strong to get by everyday but Im still weak. It doesnt help that Im still dependent on my parents. I hope God pulls me out of this situation one day, I will keep trying my best despite everything.
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silver2therescue1
I am exactly like this. Except for the eating disorder. I do have the other behaviors to a T. Took me years to figure out why and to even begin trying to get over it. But I'm learning how to cope with it and move on from it. I'm learning who I wanna be and pushing aside what my parents wanted me to be. It's been a long process and I still have a ways to go but I'm getting there and I'm happier than I've ever been before as I've been embracing my true self.
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I am exactly like this. Except for the eating disorder. I do have the other behaviors to a T. Took me years to figure out why and to even begin trying to get over it. But I'm learning how to cope with it and move on from it. I'm learning who I wanna be and pushing aside what my parents wanted me to be. It's been a long process and I still have a ways to go but I'm getting there and I'm happier than I've ever been before as I've been embracing my true self.
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Heaven
I have age regression. sometimes its really hard to talk to older people like me and its hard to look for a job or practice driving. its really because Im still stuck in my childhood and childish ways. Lately Ive been noticing tht I often hang around kids and doin the stuff they do and I really hate it because when I grow to be a young adult people are gonna think of me differently and tht I dont act my real age. I hope I overcome this: /
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I have age regression. sometimes its really hard to talk to older people like me and its hard to look for a job or practice driving. its really because Im still stuck in my childhood and childish ways. Lately Ive been noticing tht I often hang around kids and doin the stuff they do and I really hate it because when I grow to be a young adult people are gonna think of me differently and tht I dont act my real age. I hope I overcome this: /
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sakshi
After watching this video, I think i also have a childhood trauma. I am an introvert person now i understand why im not able to change even after trying so hard bcz I was too shy and rarely talked to people. I would not share how I feel, what I want to do, what my secrets are I just looked at the people sitting at a corner. i thought tht if I shared my feeling to them they would make fun of me of my thoughts. This is my story.
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After watching this video, I think i also have a childhood trauma. I am an introvert person now i understand why im not able to change even after trying so hard bcz I was too shy and rarely talked to people. I would not share how I feel, what I want to do, what my secrets are I just looked at the people sitting at a corner. i thought tht if I shared my feeling to them they would make fun of me of my thoughts. This is my story.
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Xena
Disorganized-fearful avoidant and sometimes act childish/age regression, tho not because I think I cant work, pay bills or do chores, rather its the opposite. Started to do almost all the chores when I was around 10yo. until now Im almost 26, feels like i have missed being a child, being taken care of. Its just feels like Im always the one who has to take care of everything and clean after everyone unless am sick and dying lol
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Disorganized-fearful avoidant and sometimes act childish/age regression, tho not because I think I cant work, pay bills or do chores, rather its the opposite. Started to do almost all the chores when I was around 10yo. until now Im almost 26, feels like i have missed being a child, being taken care of. Its just feels like Im always the one who has to take care of everything and clean after everyone unless am sick and dying lol
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Syn
It took me a while to actually figure out that my parents really did a number on me when it came to my mental health situation. Now at 21 years old I have a lot of issues I hide away because when I showed them in the past, I drove away friends and partners. I learned sharing my traumas got me abandoned so I closed them away. Im working on undoing that habbit but its really hard
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It took me a while to actually figure out that my parents really did a number on me when it came to my mental health situation. Now at 21 years old I have a lot of issues I hide away because when I showed them in the past, I drove away friends and partners. I learned sharing my traumas got me abandoned so I closed them away. Im working on undoing that habbit but its really hard
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Tessa
My parents have hurt me in any way possible but the thing is, after all the fight and stuff, they say they love us and they care about us. Ive grown to be a silent person and not talk to anyone, my parents just blame me for that like seriously i want to keep my mouth shut so respect it.
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My parents have hurt me in any way possible but the thing is, after all the fight and stuff, they say they love us and they care about us. Ive grown to be a silent person and not talk to anyone, my parents just blame me for that like seriously i want to keep my mouth shut so respect it.
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Lyrics
Thank you. My parents are the scariest people to me, they threatened me and insulted me a lot since I was small. Nowadays I always have the idea of suicidal, I cannot get rid of the depression. Whenever I do something wrong, I blame myself harshly and their voices appear in my head.
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Thank you. My parents are the scariest people to me, they threatened me and insulted me a lot since I was small. Nowadays I always have the idea of suicidal, I cannot get rid of the depression. Whenever I do something wrong, I blame myself harshly and their voices appear in my head.
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Laura
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
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Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
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psych2go
Ever since I was a child my dad would emotionally mentally abuse me making me not feel good enough he would never take care of me and eat the rest of the food so my family couldnt eat it was hard and now I never feel good enough
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Ever since I was a child my dad would emotionally mentally abuse me making me not feel good enough he would never take care of me and eat the rest of the food so my family couldnt eat it was hard and now I never feel good enough
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Zuzanna
Wait how is it possible that I can relate to like three of these traumas and I actually feel like I had a pretty good childhood at least compared to others that I sometimes hear. I dont get it anymore
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Wait how is it possible that I can relate to like three of these traumas and I actually feel like I had a pretty good childhood at least compared to others that I sometimes hear. I dont get it anymore
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alex
i have really bad attachment issues, my mom wasnt properly in my life for 12 years and my dad only stoped neglecting me this year. i cope good but bad, but im working on getting better and slowly i am.
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i have really bad attachment issues, my mom wasnt properly in my life for 12 years and my dad only stoped neglecting me this year. i cope good but bad, but im working on getting better and slowly i am.
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Wendy
This video (for good or ill) in no way covered my childhood.
I guess I had a way worse, much darker, much more traumatic childhood than most.
Thank goodness it's not that common. (I hope)
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This video (for good or ill) in no way covered my childhood.
I guess I had a way worse, much darker, much more traumatic childhood than most.
Thank goodness it's not that common. (I hope)
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Janneke
I am a perfectionist and my parents do set those experctations but they dont even realize it and they wont listen when i say that they set those expectations and it makes me feel awfull
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I am a perfectionist and my parents do set those experctations but they dont even realize it and they wont listen when i say that they set those expectations and it makes me feel awfull
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brezlynn
mu brother raped me, 7 years later i still havent told anybody. sometimes i can hardly look at him the same but hes not the kid he was before idk im still not completely over it
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mu brother raped me, 7 years later i still havent told anybody. sometimes i can hardly look at him the same but hes not the kid he was before idk im still not completely over it
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Matheus
By controlling your weight, you may feel like you're finally gaining control over something in your life. I literally think this and I was thinking it was something normal. omg!
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By controlling your weight, you may feel like you're finally gaining control over something in your life. I literally think this and I was thinking it was something normal. omg!
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Janneke
4: 25 i have but they didn't ignore me all they did is say that i can handle it or that ive become such a softy since i whas a tough kid and now im a little more sensitive
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4: 25 i have but they didn't ignore me all they did is say that i can handle it or that ive become such a softy since i whas a tough kid and now im a little more sensitive
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Sumayia
My whole childhood was full of trauma. My parents keep humanilating me. They make me feel like a am not worthy of anything. Their over expectations made my dreams smaller.
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My whole childhood was full of trauma. My parents keep humanilating me. They make me feel like a am not worthy of anything. Their over expectations made my dreams smaller.
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Michael
Often they expect perfection from others only to be outdone by their own standards of perfection. In the end it can prove to be counter productive.
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Often they expect perfection from others only to be outdone by their own standards of perfection. In the end it can prove to be counter productive.
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Kpopmulitstan
I love how they bring awareness to things everyone deals with and sorry for getting out of line. It was that v from bts on there shoulder
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I love how they bring awareness to things everyone deals with and sorry for getting out of line. It was that v from bts on there shoulder
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CharLeigh
I would always see things at night chasing me and my parents would always fight still do for years both things happened still dose
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I would always see things at night chasing me and my parents would always fight still do for years both things happened still dose
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