5 Signs You've Been Mentally Abused
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Date: 2023-08-20
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cat.
I dont really have the courage to go to a person to talk about this or have any trusted person to talk too so Ill just say it here.
When I was younger, my step brother was always the sporty one, the energetic one who didnt care if people saw him cry or get mad, yet he wasnt that intelligent (I would still call him pretty intelligent though. However theres me who only is a bit more intelligent than my brother (not bragging) but because of conditions like low iron and have already fractured many bones in my body I cant do physical exercise for the life of me. And I also dont have that great of social cues so I was and am socially awkward. Yet my parents didnt know I had trouble speaking to people, and my brother was barely understanding. It always felt like my parents praised my brother as they always had their attention on him, good or bad. I was just there. I felt emotionally attached to my brother so whenever he felt high emotion I would begin to cry. My parents and brother always argued at the dinner table so I would just sit there, crying. And when the attention was on me it wasnt because I got an A in school or that I made a friend, it was because I was crying when my brother stormed out. My parents didnt like me crying. A month before my 12th birthday, one afternoon while my father was out on site, my mother and brother started arguing while I was trying to do my homework and then in a blink of an eye my brother walked out of the door and was never seen again. Since he was my step brother he just called his biological mother to pick him up, its been 2 years now and I only just heard that he was looking for a job and dropped out halfway through 10th grade. I still miss him very much, and he barely communicates with his father so he probably wont communicate with me for a long time or maybe never. I feel bad for him, but at the same time he never acknowledged how I felt while he was home.
My family is wealthy so a lot of people think my family is all happy and that, but since my brother left my mother and father always let their anger out on me. They talked trash about me to their friends, they laughed at my emotions. They felt disgusted by my appearance because, my thighs are too fat, my cheeks are too round, I have too many freckles and bumps on my skin, I have such fair skin, my scars are showing too much, I weigh too much. I have tried skin care, I have tried exercising, I have tried bottling up my emotions, I have tried starving myself, just to fit their expectations but its never enough. I just wonder what went wrong? What did I do? I didnt act out when I was a child, I was disciplined, I never got angry. I mean sure I did act a little whiny from time to time, but I listened. I just think somewhere along the road I did something wrong to deserve this, to be isolated from everyone.
Sorry for making you read my rant, have an amazing day/night: )
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I dont really have the courage to go to a person to talk about this or have any trusted person to talk too so Ill just say it here.
When I was younger, my step brother was always the sporty one, the energetic one who didnt care if people saw him cry or get mad, yet he wasnt that intelligent (I would still call him pretty intelligent though. However theres me who only is a bit more intelligent than my brother (not bragging) but because of conditions like low iron and have already fractured many bones in my body I cant do physical exercise for the life of me. And I also dont have that great of social cues so I was and am socially awkward. Yet my parents didnt know I had trouble speaking to people, and my brother was barely understanding. It always felt like my parents praised my brother as they always had their attention on him, good or bad. I was just there. I felt emotionally attached to my brother so whenever he felt high emotion I would begin to cry. My parents and brother always argued at the dinner table so I would just sit there, crying. And when the attention was on me it wasnt because I got an A in school or that I made a friend, it was because I was crying when my brother stormed out. My parents didnt like me crying. A month before my 12th birthday, one afternoon while my father was out on site, my mother and brother started arguing while I was trying to do my homework and then in a blink of an eye my brother walked out of the door and was never seen again. Since he was my step brother he just called his biological mother to pick him up, its been 2 years now and I only just heard that he was looking for a job and dropped out halfway through 10th grade. I still miss him very much, and he barely communicates with his father so he probably wont communicate with me for a long time or maybe never. I feel bad for him, but at the same time he never acknowledged how I felt while he was home.
My family is wealthy so a lot of people think my family is all happy and that, but since my brother left my mother and father always let their anger out on me. They talked trash about me to their friends, they laughed at my emotions. They felt disgusted by my appearance because, my thighs are too fat, my cheeks are too round, I have too many freckles and bumps on my skin, I have such fair skin, my scars are showing too much, I weigh too much. I have tried skin care, I have tried exercising, I have tried bottling up my emotions, I have tried starving myself, just to fit their expectations but its never enough. I just wonder what went wrong? What did I do? I didnt act out when I was a child, I was disciplined, I never got angry. I mean sure I did act a little whiny from time to time, but I listened. I just think somewhere along the road I did something wrong to deserve this, to be isolated from everyone.
Sorry for making you read my rant, have an amazing day/night: )
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Sophia
Even though I only relate to 2 of the 5 topics I know as a fact that when I was younger my grandpa mentally abused me and my family. Even though I was so young I knew what was going on and I'm happy I knew what was going on. But whenever I see him and he says something about my weight or something else about my life (I am very normal weight for my age he is just ignorant) I cannot bring myself to stand up to him. I sometimes make up fake scenarios of me yelling at him and standing up for myself. But I know I cannot act on those thoughts without breaking down crying. If I ever do stand up to him though I know I will be the FIRST and the LAST person to do it. Mental health is really real. Do not be like me and be too scared to stand up for yourself lol. Don't let anybody tell you that ur mental health isn't important or you are over reacting about it because everyone has their own struggles. Ur abuser is also a victim in atleast one sort of way and they do not realize it. The reason why I think they act like this is because they dealt with their own experiences and they do not know how to deal with it and take it out on other people. Me myself I also have both mentally abused and physicaily abused but I really do deeply regret it and I am working on it. Sometimes our emotions bottle up and we end up taking it out on someone else and that can effect their mental health. (Sorry for my grammar)
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Even though I only relate to 2 of the 5 topics I know as a fact that when I was younger my grandpa mentally abused me and my family. Even though I was so young I knew what was going on and I'm happy I knew what was going on. But whenever I see him and he says something about my weight or something else about my life (I am very normal weight for my age he is just ignorant) I cannot bring myself to stand up to him. I sometimes make up fake scenarios of me yelling at him and standing up for myself. But I know I cannot act on those thoughts without breaking down crying. If I ever do stand up to him though I know I will be the FIRST and the LAST person to do it. Mental health is really real. Do not be like me and be too scared to stand up for yourself lol. Don't let anybody tell you that ur mental health isn't important or you are over reacting about it because everyone has their own struggles. Ur abuser is also a victim in atleast one sort of way and they do not realize it. The reason why I think they act like this is because they dealt with their own experiences and they do not know how to deal with it and take it out on other people. Me myself I also have both mentally abused and physicaily abused but I really do deeply regret it and I am working on it. Sometimes our emotions bottle up and we end up taking it out on someone else and that can effect their mental health. (Sorry for my grammar)
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Mobile
Well Let's see how many I get empathy Nope, can't do that I come across as an emotionless ahole because i dont get sadness and the such My therapist says it's because I've Put up so many mental barriers That I am now incapable of feeling emotions. Positive or negative But I've gotten pretty good at emulating them So that's fun Low self esteem ding ding ding we have a winner I Feel as though I am worthless Is upright on humanity I have legitimately had the thought that People would hate me if I offed myself because it would be a pain to clen up Always saying yes What do you know another Bullseye I will say yes Even if Bring me physical harm I will neglect my needs physical or psychological In exchange for pleasing others i Find it nearly impossible to say That I want to do something or that no Somebody can't do something Blow shelf confidence what do you know Spot on again If I am saying something or giving an answer. I will either just fall off halfway through Saying something and gett all quiet and hesitant I will say I think Or I will say but that's just what I think don't trust me I'm probably wrong after I say something Fatigue Yup, if I lay down horizontally and close my eyes for more than 10 seconds I am Already half asleep Chronic pain got that I have chronic muscle Fatigue
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Well Let's see how many I get empathy Nope, can't do that I come across as an emotionless ahole because i dont get sadness and the such My therapist says it's because I've Put up so many mental barriers That I am now incapable of feeling emotions. Positive or negative But I've gotten pretty good at emulating them So that's fun Low self esteem ding ding ding we have a winner I Feel as though I am worthless Is upright on humanity I have legitimately had the thought that People would hate me if I offed myself because it would be a pain to clen up Always saying yes What do you know another Bullseye I will say yes Even if Bring me physical harm I will neglect my needs physical or psychological In exchange for pleasing others i Find it nearly impossible to say That I want to do something or that no Somebody can't do something Blow shelf confidence what do you know Spot on again If I am saying something or giving an answer. I will either just fall off halfway through Saying something and gett all quiet and hesitant I will say I think Or I will say but that's just what I think don't trust me I'm probably wrong after I say something Fatigue Yup, if I lay down horizontally and close my eyes for more than 10 seconds I am Already half asleep Chronic pain got that I have chronic muscle Fatigue
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Four
it all started when we came to his house day one. He told me he would pay me for pressure washing his driveway what i got was a one dollar peice of cheesecake. Than he told me girls wont and will never like me the following night my mom got some type of sickness she was vomiting, pooping blood when she asked HIM for help he was drunk at a bar not paying attention than my mom told me about it me crying saying are you gonna die? She says no reashuring me after that he finnaly vame home when my mom was long gone and HE went to the hospital insulting my mom getting escorted like an idot. The folling day the van was gone. for context the van was my moms form of transportation and HE took it away he originally gave it as a gift when it was gone my mom called my dad he rented a car and got us out of that house i cried the whole carise home (4 hours) and the next following three days i mostly cred taking into mid i could not see my grandmother with stage 3 dementia i am still scared for life up to this day.
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it all started when we came to his house day one. He told me he would pay me for pressure washing his driveway what i got was a one dollar peice of cheesecake. Than he told me girls wont and will never like me the following night my mom got some type of sickness she was vomiting, pooping blood when she asked HIM for help he was drunk at a bar not paying attention than my mom told me about it me crying saying are you gonna die? She says no reashuring me after that he finnaly vame home when my mom was long gone and HE went to the hospital insulting my mom getting escorted like an idot. The folling day the van was gone. for context the van was my moms form of transportation and HE took it away he originally gave it as a gift when it was gone my mom called my dad he rented a car and got us out of that house i cried the whole carise home (4 hours) and the next following three days i mostly cred taking into mid i could not see my grandmother with stage 3 dementia i am still scared for life up to this day.
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HumanMonkeMan1942
Damn, i just clicked on the video beacuse i was interested, i have find out im Mentaly abused, i had a friend, he was way more popular than me, we got along, but, after time, that frindship become very toxic, there was a time when he made almost evryone turn away from me and don't be my friend, i fourth grade i ahd like only 1 true friend. from 5th to 8th grade it was a littlebit better, but still, he loved mocking on, me, like i can't do taht or i can't do that thing, or im not knowing taht good, he knows it better, today we bearly talk, even if we are in the same class, but still, this just made me rethink evrithyng i wanted to say or do that is somewht important, i almost always quiston myself, should i do that, am i sure this is realy the good thing, this is worth it? And some bullyng comed in handy too ffrom others-
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Damn, i just clicked on the video beacuse i was interested, i have find out im Mentaly abused, i had a friend, he was way more popular than me, we got along, but, after time, that frindship become very toxic, there was a time when he made almost evryone turn away from me and don't be my friend, i fourth grade i ahd like only 1 true friend. from 5th to 8th grade it was a littlebit better, but still, he loved mocking on, me, like i can't do taht or i can't do that thing, or im not knowing taht good, he knows it better, today we bearly talk, even if we are in the same class, but still, this just made me rethink evrithyng i wanted to say or do that is somewht important, i almost always quiston myself, should i do that, am i sure this is realy the good thing, this is worth it? And some bullyng comed in handy too ffrom others-
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Chris
I feel like that's true for me, most of these points. A lot of times I experience self doubt, like if I use a word correctly or if I understood a word correctly (cos im bilingual.
Ive been learning graphic design in a school designed for that profession, and I self doubt myself that I am good enough and when my classmates tell me my work looks good I think to myself why did i even ask, i dont believe them. They are lying. Its not good.
I tell myself, I am worse than everyone else in my class and I believe it. I cant bear it when others do better than me and it hurts my self worth even more.
And I tell myself why am i even depressed. I shouldnt be depressed. Nothing happened to me.
So maybe all of that is trying to tell me that I was mentally abused.
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I feel like that's true for me, most of these points. A lot of times I experience self doubt, like if I use a word correctly or if I understood a word correctly (cos im bilingual.
Ive been learning graphic design in a school designed for that profession, and I self doubt myself that I am good enough and when my classmates tell me my work looks good I think to myself why did i even ask, i dont believe them. They are lying. Its not good.
I tell myself, I am worse than everyone else in my class and I believe it. I cant bear it when others do better than me and it hurts my self worth even more.
And I tell myself why am i even depressed. I shouldnt be depressed. Nothing happened to me.
So maybe all of that is trying to tell me that I was mentally abused.
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Raya
you learn to memorize the footsteps of everyone in the house the tones of different voices and how to mask emotions so that the interaction can be as short as possible because you know if you cry or let out that panick attack then he wins and he will try to destroy everything you care about and even after he is gone you still find pieces of yourself that you want to forget about but cant. like the dent in the floor from when he threw the dresser at you to the memories of your dog that he beat until you were screaming at him to stop and then he gave her away because you were being cruel to her it seems to never stop even when he has long since left i still find reminders of him. thanks stepdad
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you learn to memorize the footsteps of everyone in the house the tones of different voices and how to mask emotions so that the interaction can be as short as possible because you know if you cry or let out that panick attack then he wins and he will try to destroy everything you care about and even after he is gone you still find pieces of yourself that you want to forget about but cant. like the dent in the floor from when he threw the dresser at you to the memories of your dog that he beat until you were screaming at him to stop and then he gave her away because you were being cruel to her it seems to never stop even when he has long since left i still find reminders of him. thanks stepdad
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Axelrod
My mother abused me emotionally, physically, and mentally when I was four months to five. I know that it was a while back, however, I would like to talk about it. She would do the usual (hitting, throwing stuff, yelling, screaming, being angry for no reason) and I now have zero self esteem and Ive tried to kll myself because of this-its just not right. I feel I deserved it but I didnt and I want everyone who reads this to know
you are beautiful and wonderful and amazing in every way. Do not kll yourself. People care about you. I learned that from my bf. I hope you have a nice day because you deserve it
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My mother abused me emotionally, physically, and mentally when I was four months to five. I know that it was a while back, however, I would like to talk about it. She would do the usual (hitting, throwing stuff, yelling, screaming, being angry for no reason) and I now have zero self esteem and Ive tried to kll myself because of this-its just not right. I feel I deserved it but I didnt and I want everyone who reads this to know
you are beautiful and wonderful and amazing in every way. Do not kll yourself. People care about you. I learned that from my bf. I hope you have a nice day because you deserve it
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SmokeBacon07
I have never related to a video that much. As someone with a mentally abusive mother, this stuff has been happening to me and i noticed that I have a lot of fatigue, self-doubt, and to be honest, I dont know if mental abuse can give you mental problems, but I have been doing a lot worse with spelling in writing without fing up and Ive been trying harder. I dont understand it. What I meant by that was its more like going back to self doubt I spell something think its spelled the other way, and then realize I spelt it right the first place but I think its another way and I screwed up again.
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I have never related to a video that much. As someone with a mentally abusive mother, this stuff has been happening to me and i noticed that I have a lot of fatigue, self-doubt, and to be honest, I dont know if mental abuse can give you mental problems, but I have been doing a lot worse with spelling in writing without fing up and Ive been trying harder. I dont understand it. What I meant by that was its more like going back to self doubt I spell something think its spelled the other way, and then realize I spelt it right the first place but I think its another way and I screwed up again.
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greenglitch345
If I or any of my friends said something to our parents about mental abuse, they would be like OMG! I would never do something like that!
1. Yes you would, and you do.
2. Its not always the parents that have these side effects.
3. It isn't always people we know, it could be a stranger at the park, insulting your outfit. Or a random kid in the hall pointing out how your hair is weird. Or at lunch in the cafeteria being ignored by your friends and having to be quiet the whole lunch.
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If I or any of my friends said something to our parents about mental abuse, they would be like OMG! I would never do something like that!
1. Yes you would, and you do.
2. Its not always the parents that have these side effects.
3. It isn't always people we know, it could be a stranger at the park, insulting your outfit. Or a random kid in the hall pointing out how your hair is weird. Or at lunch in the cafeteria being ignored by your friends and having to be quiet the whole lunch.
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Anonymoose
I believe I have been gaslight by my OCD wife. Im exhausted all the time trying to fulfill the needs of her germ phobia and hand washing obsession. I constantly feel that her need to monitor my hand washing as well as ours kids hand washing is mentally exhausting and will give our kids phobias as well. She knows she has a problem but due to my desire to get her help for her earlier in our marriage made her push back against me and fight back. Now she will firmly say no to any help.
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I believe I have been gaslight by my OCD wife. Im exhausted all the time trying to fulfill the needs of her germ phobia and hand washing obsession. I constantly feel that her need to monitor my hand washing as well as ours kids hand washing is mentally exhausting and will give our kids phobias as well. She knows she has a problem but due to my desire to get her help for her earlier in our marriage made her push back against me and fight back. Now she will firmly say no to any help.
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plutonium
My best friend wanted me to meet his friends because they were making a game. They didn't know how to code so I carried, even though the idea for the game was pretty dorky. I was almost finished, but then they betrayed me and kicked me out of the group completely, then they told me that this was my fault and I was being rude. I felt so betrayed; ( If someone find this how can I fix this?
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My best friend wanted me to meet his friends because they were making a game. They didn't know how to code so I carried, even though the idea for the game was pretty dorky. I was almost finished, but then they betrayed me and kicked me out of the group completely, then they told me that this was my fault and I was being rude. I felt so betrayed; ( If someone find this how can I fix this?
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christopher
A sign I've noticed in myself and others is the desire to cover up, excessively large hoodies for example can be seen as a way of simulating physical touch which is often heavily desired in people who feel lonely as a result of being emotionally and mentally abused. I myself have had days where I take two, three, or four showers in order to feel like I'm being hugged
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A sign I've noticed in myself and others is the desire to cover up, excessively large hoodies for example can be seen as a way of simulating physical touch which is often heavily desired in people who feel lonely as a result of being emotionally and mentally abused. I myself have had days where I take two, three, or four showers in order to feel like I'm being hugged
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Shadowfeather
You did miss one and it's one that I suffer with a lot but the combination of low self esteem and low self value can lead to a sensation of constant loneliness if you can't talk to others and then can cause further damage like depression and refusal to accept health because you trick yourself into saying your fine and you don't need to or shouldn't speak out anyways
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You did miss one and it's one that I suffer with a lot but the combination of low self esteem and low self value can lead to a sensation of constant loneliness if you can't talk to others and then can cause further damage like depression and refusal to accept health because you trick yourself into saying your fine and you don't need to or shouldn't speak out anyways
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Maytal
Yeah I do began to realize as an adult that I was mentally abused as a teenager by my mom and my own siblings I didn't want to believe that at first but going to art school and college and seeing their families and theirs stories and of course my families reactions when I realized it and it hurts me hard of how it affects my childhood and adulthood so much I hurts
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Yeah I do began to realize as an adult that I was mentally abused as a teenager by my mom and my own siblings I didn't want to believe that at first but going to art school and college and seeing their families and theirs stories and of course my families reactions when I realized it and it hurts me hard of how it affects my childhood and adulthood so much I hurts
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WumpusTheBlahaj
My friend she is not any more was physically abused, whenever I tried to vent about being emotionally abused she would saythats not real abuse it doesn't count which caused me to not ask for help for 15 years. Thank you for having your videos. I have cried while watching you, and your voice is now so comforting.
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My friend she is not any more was physically abused, whenever I tried to vent about being emotionally abused she would saythats not real abuse it doesn't count which caused me to not ask for help for 15 years. Thank you for having your videos. I have cried while watching you, and your voice is now so comforting.
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education
I dont think ive been mentally abused but after seeing this, maybe i have. Im a picky eater so i find it hard to eat healthy things. My dad has made many commentsnon my weight which makes me insecure and my mum is always trying to push her transphobic ways on me and my sister saying that we cant be boys.
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I dont think ive been mentally abused but after seeing this, maybe i have. Im a picky eater so i find it hard to eat healthy things. My dad has made many commentsnon my weight which makes me insecure and my mum is always trying to push her transphobic ways on me and my sister saying that we cant be boys.
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catMania
My dad was verbally abusive to me it sucks that I didn't recognize it until my parents separated and now he's saying that he wants to try again I'm still trying to work through all the damage that he did the first time I don't want to trust him again I don't know what do you guys think I should do
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My dad was verbally abusive to me it sucks that I didn't recognize it until my parents separated and now he's saying that he wants to try again I'm still trying to work through all the damage that he did the first time I don't want to trust him again I don't know what do you guys think I should do
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psych2go
Over sharing can also be a sign, me and my siblings werent allowed to speak at home, wed get yelled at for trying to talk to each other, so, when I was at school or hanging with friends, I wouldnt stop talking, because I knew that as soon as I got home, that I wouldnt be allowed to talk anymore.
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Over sharing can also be a sign, me and my siblings werent allowed to speak at home, wed get yelled at for trying to talk to each other, so, when I was at school or hanging with friends, I wouldnt stop talking, because I knew that as soon as I got home, that I wouldnt be allowed to talk anymore.
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Quill
I left an emotionally abusive household three years ago, but the abuse didn't stop there. I still saw him because he's my biological father. I still spoke to him. Him and my stepmother still abused me. I have yet to see a doctor about it but I think I have PTSD from it.
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I left an emotionally abusive household three years ago, but the abuse didn't stop there. I still saw him because he's my biological father. I still spoke to him. Him and my stepmother still abused me. I have yet to see a doctor about it but I think I have PTSD from it.
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Hamsini
I feel like those who are mentally abused tend to bellittle their own problems and act like everything is fine. They also tend to mimick their abusers behavior and become more manipulative as a person with out realizing. This is just my personal exeprience but idk.
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I feel like those who are mentally abused tend to bellittle their own problems and act like everything is fine. They also tend to mimick their abusers behavior and become more manipulative as a person with out realizing. This is just my personal exeprience but idk.
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Alexandria
I have fibromyalgia. anxiety. depression. insomnia. and was mentally and emotionally abused during my childhood. even now.
My last relationship was mentally and emotionally abusive. he started becoming physical. I had to get out.
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I have fibromyalgia. anxiety. depression. insomnia. and was mentally and emotionally abused during my childhood. even now.
My last relationship was mentally and emotionally abusive. he started becoming physical. I had to get out.
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Mellow98
Ive been put down a lot by my mother and elementary school teachers. Mental abuse cause me to lose trust and positive connection towards people. Im 29 years old, I still self-doubt myself and my capabilities to set my mind to anything.
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Ive been put down a lot by my mother and elementary school teachers. Mental abuse cause me to lose trust and positive connection towards people. Im 29 years old, I still self-doubt myself and my capabilities to set my mind to anything.
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Roblox
I have been told many times by friends that i have been mentally abused, but when they say i need to go against my parents it acares be because i feel they are my lifeline and the only people who can get me help even when they don't
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I have been told many times by friends that i have been mentally abused, but when they say i need to go against my parents it acares be because i feel they are my lifeline and the only people who can get me help even when they don't
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ItsNoahScott
I was talking to this girl things were going good but outta nowhere she lashes out & makes me feel like I did something wrong when I feel like I didnt do anything wrong at all. Its been going on for 2 days.
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I was talking to this girl things were going good but outta nowhere she lashes out & makes me feel like I did something wrong when I feel like I didnt do anything wrong at all. Its been going on for 2 days.
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