Daddy Issues: Psychology Behind Father Wound
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Date: 2023-09-08
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TheNamelessLucas
My father was emotional unavailable. My memories of the past are always him saying, Man don't talk or show emotions! , Swallow those tears at this instant! , screaming like he was about to hit me at any time. In time I learned to keep my emotion to myself and even hidden them from my mother. At school, I was constantly bullied and told to shut up and stay quiet, nobody cares what you think, so I had to suppress my fellings at school too. When I turned 20 I was diagnostic with depression (shocking right, I had to learn how to deal with my emotion for the first time in life. I always had fear of relationships, I was terrified with the constant thought of them leaving with or without a reason; eventually I learned that it had something to do with daddy issues. But I never knew that my preference for having female friends had something to do with it. Everytime I asked myself why only women? , the answer I got was, Because I can talk about my fellings without being judged. It seems so obviously now.
But anyways, nowadays I consider my emotional intelligence my greatest strength; for someone that was always a sensitive person that had no emotional support from home, and live in a place where a man with emotion is considered weak; I don't feel ashamed to show them, and now I can reflect on my own fellings and constantly learn from them, I consider all a victory.
If I haven't looked for professional help in my lowest point, I would never had found out that I was suppressing one of the best parts of me. I would probably be dead by my own hands now. Don't let your fear take hold of you; there are people who can help you go through this phase. We are not alone, no matter how much that feeling feels real.
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My father was emotional unavailable. My memories of the past are always him saying, Man don't talk or show emotions! , Swallow those tears at this instant! , screaming like he was about to hit me at any time. In time I learned to keep my emotion to myself and even hidden them from my mother. At school, I was constantly bullied and told to shut up and stay quiet, nobody cares what you think, so I had to suppress my fellings at school too. When I turned 20 I was diagnostic with depression (shocking right, I had to learn how to deal with my emotion for the first time in life. I always had fear of relationships, I was terrified with the constant thought of them leaving with or without a reason; eventually I learned that it had something to do with daddy issues. But I never knew that my preference for having female friends had something to do with it. Everytime I asked myself why only women? , the answer I got was, Because I can talk about my fellings without being judged. It seems so obviously now.
But anyways, nowadays I consider my emotional intelligence my greatest strength; for someone that was always a sensitive person that had no emotional support from home, and live in a place where a man with emotion is considered weak; I don't feel ashamed to show them, and now I can reflect on my own fellings and constantly learn from them, I consider all a victory.
If I haven't looked for professional help in my lowest point, I would never had found out that I was suppressing one of the best parts of me. I would probably be dead by my own hands now. Don't let your fear take hold of you; there are people who can help you go through this phase. We are not alone, no matter how much that feeling feels real.
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Julia
Yet another video that hits close to home, yet I feel helps work through complex emotions. When I was really young, my Dad worked all the time. Only time I ever say him is when he would discipline me. He also had a nasty habit of using up all his patients at work leaving very little for when he got home. Sometimes he had a tendency to explode and it was up to my Mother to tell him he was going too far. He started to have more time when we got older, but I was never interested in what he was interested in.
The major things I've noticed is a fear of abandonment, as well as high anxiety. There was a lack of self confidence, but that was for a whole other reason. As for trying to find another father figure, I never saw the point. This is what I was brought up to know what a father was, why would I want more? 1 is bad enough. As for the relationship, it was one of fear, which switched to tolerance, with some sparks of respect. Now the fear has turned to hatred and if it wasn't for his handy man skills, I'd be perfectly content to cut him out of my life.
I guess the only other thing to mention is not really knowing which of the 2 sections to look at. Being trans gender I was born male and became female, maybe it would be a combination of Father complex and Daddy Issues. I'm not sure if anyone will read this, but it's sure feels nice to work through some of these difficult emotions.
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Yet another video that hits close to home, yet I feel helps work through complex emotions. When I was really young, my Dad worked all the time. Only time I ever say him is when he would discipline me. He also had a nasty habit of using up all his patients at work leaving very little for when he got home. Sometimes he had a tendency to explode and it was up to my Mother to tell him he was going too far. He started to have more time when we got older, but I was never interested in what he was interested in.
The major things I've noticed is a fear of abandonment, as well as high anxiety. There was a lack of self confidence, but that was for a whole other reason. As for trying to find another father figure, I never saw the point. This is what I was brought up to know what a father was, why would I want more? 1 is bad enough. As for the relationship, it was one of fear, which switched to tolerance, with some sparks of respect. Now the fear has turned to hatred and if it wasn't for his handy man skills, I'd be perfectly content to cut him out of my life.
I guess the only other thing to mention is not really knowing which of the 2 sections to look at. Being trans gender I was born male and became female, maybe it would be a combination of Father complex and Daddy Issues. I'm not sure if anyone will read this, but it's sure feels nice to work through some of these difficult emotions.
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THANATOS
Our relationship is better now, but growing up, my father could be really cruel and gaslighting. I was always compared to his friends other sons that were into sports when I wasn t or he would always whine and guilt trip me to get what he wanted.
He didn t even have the guts to stand up to my mom when she would be in an abusive and drunk mood.
remember, men like my grandfather, and guys like my uncle Andrew (heck, even Optimus prime; in fact, his next board is from Peter Cullen, himself in regards to his brother, who was the former Marine, named Larry) raised me old school, but I learned what it meant to be strong, but gentle.
Proud to say, therapy has helped me out when it comes to dealing with these old wounds. I got a good paying job. I live on my own for the very first time in my life and I m learning the value of responsibility and independence.
Thank you for all the amazing content guys. Its really helped me out as well.
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Our relationship is better now, but growing up, my father could be really cruel and gaslighting. I was always compared to his friends other sons that were into sports when I wasn t or he would always whine and guilt trip me to get what he wanted.
He didn t even have the guts to stand up to my mom when she would be in an abusive and drunk mood.
remember, men like my grandfather, and guys like my uncle Andrew (heck, even Optimus prime; in fact, his next board is from Peter Cullen, himself in regards to his brother, who was the former Marine, named Larry) raised me old school, but I learned what it meant to be strong, but gentle.
Proud to say, therapy has helped me out when it comes to dealing with these old wounds. I got a good paying job. I live on my own for the very first time in my life and I m learning the value of responsibility and independence.
Thank you for all the amazing content guys. Its really helped me out as well.
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Club
Women and the gynocentric court system are mainly to blame for fathers who are perceived to have abandoned their children. Because most women are incapable of self accountability, they create a toxic environment that makes it impossible for a man to be around her once the relationship is broken. The constant one sided blame, pettiness and vindictiveness lends itself to parental alienation to punish the man. Because the courts fail to recognize the pattern created by the woman, the man is left to stay away. It is well documented that children of single mothers tend to develop in a much worse manner than children of single fathers.
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Women and the gynocentric court system are mainly to blame for fathers who are perceived to have abandoned their children. Because most women are incapable of self accountability, they create a toxic environment that makes it impossible for a man to be around her once the relationship is broken. The constant one sided blame, pettiness and vindictiveness lends itself to parental alienation to punish the man. Because the courts fail to recognize the pattern created by the woman, the man is left to stay away. It is well documented that children of single mothers tend to develop in a much worse manner than children of single fathers.
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kim
Definitely not a good thing for the kids to grow up with only one biological parent, good thing that there are no country with groups having over 70% of kids born out of wedlock, that doesn t have an impact and it s bad to even mention it, 50% in other groups are also insanely high, but it s probably fine
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Definitely not a good thing for the kids to grow up with only one biological parent, good thing that there are no country with groups having over 70% of kids born out of wedlock, that doesn t have an impact and it s bad to even mention it, 50% in other groups are also insanely high, but it s probably fine
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Miks
I have friend with daddy issues and she always cry because of lack of support from her father. She always said that her father traumatized her. As her friend, Idk what to do and say to her but I always listen to her rants whenever she choose to open up.
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I have friend with daddy issues and she always cry because of lack of support from her father. She always said that her father traumatized her. As her friend, Idk what to do and say to her but I always listen to her rants whenever she choose to open up.
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TheDenimWarrior
I reached out to my father in 2020 after not seeing him since I was 8 and wanted to meet up and leave things in the past and move forward. He agreed to meet up and talk, but when the day came, he blocked my number. So this year makes 20 years
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I reached out to my father in 2020 after not seeing him since I was 8 and wanted to meet up and leave things in the past and move forward. He agreed to meet up and talk, but when the day came, he blocked my number. So this year makes 20 years
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Vish
It messes with ur brain and not easy to even to do small things, feeling insecure and those abusive words which they use to hurt are never gonna heal and to live with them everyday is nightmare and theirs no end to it.
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It messes with ur brain and not easy to even to do small things, feeling insecure and those abusive words which they use to hurt are never gonna heal and to live with them everyday is nightmare and theirs no end to it.
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education
Family court's and modern day western women globally. Following modern day feminists. Does not help with fathers who do and are trying to be a part of, their children's lives # mgtow. Facts and reality.
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Family court's and modern day western women globally. Following modern day feminists. Does not help with fathers who do and are trying to be a part of, their children's lives # mgtow. Facts and reality.
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uanime1
This is made worse by modern divorce laws that prioritise the mother over the father.
Also women who make poor choices regarding their partners and use of contraception.
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This is made worse by modern divorce laws that prioritise the mother over the father.
Also women who make poor choices regarding their partners and use of contraception.
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Friendly
I don t trust men because my father strangled and beat my twin brother and I, also he told the doctors when I had spinal meningitis at 3 weeks old that he wanted me to die
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I don t trust men because my father strangled and beat my twin brother and I, also he told the doctors when I had spinal meningitis at 3 weeks old that he wanted me to die
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Joel
I had an absent father. He would make so many promises, and then he would not come through. That's why I don't speak to him much anymore unless he needs me.
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I had an absent father. He would make so many promises, and then he would not come through. That's why I don't speak to him much anymore unless he needs me.
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freeze
Is mother issues a thing? daddy issue I've heard of that but not mother issues if that has every information on it can you make a video on it psych2go?
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Is mother issues a thing? daddy issue I've heard of that but not mother issues if that has every information on it can you make a video on it psych2go?
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Aerthylia
Thanks for the vid The subject here is the father, mainly, but I would be interested to know as well about the mother side. Is it very different?
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Thanks for the vid The subject here is the father, mainly, but I would be interested to know as well about the mother side. Is it very different?
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Simone
My boyfriend and I both had toxic and then absent fathers. I have daddy issues but I'm working on it, and I'm more understanding towards him
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My boyfriend and I both had toxic and then absent fathers. I have daddy issues but I'm working on it, and I'm more understanding towards him
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lcveaxo
I wish some parents knew that being emotionally present in your kid's life is equally important as being physically present
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I wish some parents knew that being emotionally present in your kid's life is equally important as being physically present
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