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5 Good Habits That Are Actually Bad For You

5 Good Habits That Are Actually Bad For You

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You may have seen videos of bad habits that are actually good for you, but have you considered maybe supposed good habits can also be bad for you as well? For example, always being positive, aiming for perfectionism, avoiding conflict, are actually toxic habits to some degree. 1. Always being positive 0
Date: 2023-08-20

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Ryu - The Darkening - HIT ME
Ryu means that I am HIT ME, Hit Me All The Way, In Any Way, Anyway. HIT ME Always Works, I Do Not Hit. It Hits All By Itself, Everyone And Everything Has This HIT ME Side In It. The Red Bands, HIT ME, The Hits Are A Fact Of Life And The Key To Enlightenment, I Die For It. A Sacrifice For Love, The Way Out Of The Abyss.
So we are what hits us and what we suffer from.
The Darkening symbolizes the opposite of The Enlightenment. Yet these two opposites are one. Because we are all at the same time darkened and enlightened. But The Darkening's dominant form is the nature of suffering while The Enlightenment's dominant form is the nature of blissfulness. And the all-encompassing being A holds the unity of all there is, The Darkening and The Enlightenment.
While.
HIT ME, Hit Me All The Way, In Any Way, Anyway. HIT ME Always Works, I Do Not Hit. It Hits All By Itself, Everyone And Everything Has This HIT ME Side In It. The Red Bands, HIT ME, The Hits Are A Fact Of Life And The Key To Enlightenment, I Die For It. A Sacrifice For Love, The Way Out Of The Abyss.
can be seen as the relationship with suffering and the hits.
The Words I am using as mantra's and affirmations and also the names for the soundtracks I connected these words and their real experiences with:
Ryu - The Darkening - HIT ME
Ryu - The Darkening - Hit Me All The Way, In Any Way, Anyway.
Ryu - The Darkening - HIT ME Always Works.
Ryu - The Darkening - I Do Not Hit. It Hits All By Itself.
Ryu - The Darkening - Everyone And Everything Has This HIT ME Side In It.
Ryu - The Darkening - The Red Bands (The red bands are bands I am holding on, to transfer the verbal or physical hits from someone or something into my hands. For when I cannot use the words in a direct HIT ME experience. Those are bands I am wearing around my forehead and my wrists. They help me deal and heal with the hits)
Ryu - The Darkening - HIT ME
Ryu - The Darkening - The Hits Are A Fact Of Life And The Key To Enlightenment.
Ryu - The Darkening - I Die For It - A Sacrifice For Love (Things I did wrong and the practice of redeeming myself)
Ryu - The Darkening - The Way Out Of The Abyss
HIT ME
This quote from the joker actor Heath Ledger from The Dark Knight made an enormous impact on me and inspired me to create a philosophy. It helped me making peace with all of that. Through practices of any kind. I have learned to love my trauma, my illness, my feelings, my thoughts, my conflicts, my life and ultimately my suffering. The hits are a fact of life and the key to enlightenment. A hit affects you, internally or superficially. Everyone and everything has this HIT ME side in it. And if you set your life expectation to HIT ME, it always works and you will never be disappointed that way. Because something always hits you. Even if you don't want to be hit by something, it still hits you. Hence, it still works as a life expectation. It even works when positive things hit you. Like soft raindrops or a soap bubble. Same as joy or bliss. Hit me all the way, in any way, anyway. If you devote yourself to such an idea, you decipher the path to enlightenment. This is a good reason to follow the path of loving our suffering as it brings great benefit to one. From ourselves, when we don't want to be hit and don't want to take in the hits, to the desire to be hit and take in the hits. It always works, regardless of the form. As Bruce Lee said: Be unconsciously conscious or consciously unconscious. Once one has developed a certain level of this practice, one masters the suffering and becomes truly enlightened. I am quoting Bruce Lee again: I do not hit. It hits all by itself.
The Way Out Of The Abyss
Only when we can accept what we want to let go, can we let go of what we want to accept.
A peaceful mind is the cure for restlessness.
And love is the cure for a broken spirit.
Pain is strength in disguise waiting, to be revealed. And It takes a lot of strength to cry. Because when we cry, we open up to the pain that we experience.
When all the waves come crashing down on you, there is faith to get you through. Express your belief into reality and believe in it. This is how you get through the waves.
We make mistakes, because we are not perfect. And for that fact I am grateful, that I make mistakes.
Remember the solution to any problem is the problem itself. It came into existence and it will not leave you.
A sacrifice for love, is a sacrifice worth dying for. We don't have to undo what we do wrong in this life. We die for it and thus, sacrifice ourselves for love.
So live for the truth and die for the lie. Die for your negative qualities and live for your positive qualities. That is the sacrifice and the salvation of the human spirit.
The guilt we feel is that, which enslaves us. Only when we also remember our innocence, are we free at the same time.
There is nothing in this universe, that can harm a mad person. Except making the mad person even more insane, through harm.
When you are ready to take in all the hits, in order to gain strength from it and at the same time you are ready to pass on all the love out of compassion to others; one will be as strong as a demon and as compassionate as an angel. A demonic angel.
A victory is achieved, by resolving the battles within.
If you give up fighting yourself and instead start absorbing yourself, you will be invincible.
When you change the powers that hold you back, into the powers that hold your back, you will be unstoppable.
You are an example of what a human being is capable of. Take in the hits and use them, as fuel for Ascension.
The greatest bliss is found when you make peace with your suffering. Because suffering is the root of blissfulness. If you love your suffering, blissfulness arises. And blissfulness is the key, to heaven on earth.
If you can defeat yourself, by loving yourself, your fears, your pain and ultimately your suffering; then it will transform you and you will be reborn.
In order to overcome suffering, one has to become suffering oneself.
Because when you are one with all, you are bound by nothing and therefore free from everything.
And through becoming one with suffering you master it.
The journey to enlightenment is a process, that involves a lot of suffering. But in the end every moment of suffering will be worth it. Because choosing to suffer consciously is the springboard, to enlightenment.
That's how you remember your origin and you begin to embody it.
Because where there is suffering, the love spark resides and the fire is kindled where God, or Consciousness enters and spreads out.
Become Ryu, the dragon. Become suffering. Be in a relationship with HIT ME from sadness to madness and become HIT ME and the hits yourself. And Ryu, the dragon spreads its wings and rises. Thus he finds the way out of the abyss.

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I grew up in a toxic household where expressing myself was seen as disrespect and selfish. This lead to several mental health issues later down the line, I never talked to anyone or spoke out against anything, and I even had a suicide attempt in the 8th grade.
I never knew the reason why I was depressed, but I tried my best not to blame my parent because she was a single mom and I always tried to see the best in her, and in everyone. Growing up, I was often severely punished for little things I did. I even went so far as to take the blame for what my siblings wouldve gotten in trouble for to hold onto some kind of normality between everyone.
I always avoid conflict and try my best to be positive in every situation I come by because Ive been pushed into believing my words hold no meaning. But since I realized how much of an issue doing this is, Im not sure what to do about it exactly Its so difficult trying to break out of a cycle of habits when I still live in the same place as her. Im trying so hard to move out, but the yelling is so traumatizing Ive blocked everything out. I heard trauma can block out certain memories? I have a horrible memory and my childhood is a little faint. I cant believe id rather avoid the issue altogether than to stand up for myself. Its so frustrating when nobody can understand me. I wish humans had the ability to feel another persons pain. I hate being so scared of everything. I cant stand the pain anymore

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I have this close person who I entrusted with a possession I had that was given to me last year by a relative. It was over 2 decades old (older than me)
Unfortunately they accidentally broke it. But becuz I made a habit on Being Positive & Avoiding Conflict, my instincts were to calm them and say its fine, and that I'd fix it (which is not possible)
Something deep inside me is going wild, like a mini me is screeching not only to the person, but to me as well. The negative thing about having too good habits is that I couldn't express myself freely, like I don't know how anymore especially since I never do it.
Its been over a week, but I'm so bothered and lack sleep now becuz not only am I going to be held responsible and get scolded by my parents, but I also haven't expressed that stirring feeling in me and its messing me up >: ')

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I have had all these. I have progressed at moving beyond each one of them in the last 10 years. The first step is identifying the difference between, for instance, a healthy desire to be respectful toward people, and automatically making their mindsets out to be more respectable than they clearly are. I used to try to make people more pleasing to me; sort of a converse people pleasing habit. It is ok simply to acknowledge that some people arent where you think they should be.
An important step in progressing has been to take the time for calm reflection about what in me makes me excessively want to see good in everybody, or people please too much.

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Part of the toxic positivity may be seeing the best in everyone. Sure, you want to give people a chance, maybe two, and understand that sometimes bad circumstances can cause people to act badly, but also, don't be blinded by this. People out there will take advantage and also, you can overlook some harmful, even dangerous traits in others. If there is a pattern of bad behavior, maybe it's not just special circumstances after all. See who are worth the time, effort and chances you give (especially young people can use this) and who to just not put a lot of effort into.
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I avoid conflict if it feels like its not worth fighting for. Like when a random person calls me names I am like Ok, I dont know you so why should I care what you say?
But conflict as in an disagreement, I fight that, for example if a friend says X color is the best. Often it just leads to that we find a compromise like for you X color is best, for me Y color is best.

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I want to do my best but admitting that my positivity is a serious problem. sigh ok its true; I really dont know how to talk to people in public. The jokes & small talk that come off naturally only last so long. A few conversations even derail into strange territory. Thats why Im usually more capable of striking up a full conversation online than anywhere else.
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I avoid conflict all the time, I was raised to be polite even when I want to deadass slap someone. But for me, it'll take a lot for me to snap, so I don't really see it as that much of a problem. And If I did get angry, I would be seen as a failure because where I'm from (especially if you're young like I am) it's very disgraceful.
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I hate toxic positivity a lot.
How would working too hard be a good habit? Too means it's not good in itself.
I never thought any of these were good, except avoiding conflict. Because of how offended and aggressive so many people are today I have to. I didn't used to be like that.
And I do practice perfectionism. T_T

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Never give up
No, sometimes you need to stop and give up. You can't do everything: some people are good at this thing and some are not. Yeah you can try, but when you realize that this is not your thing at all don't push yourself to become good at it. Just keep practicing at things that you're already good at.

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I can relate to no. 1
I tried to be positive all the time. It was really frustrating. I felt as if I was lying to myself all the time. Thankfully it was a new habit so I broke out of it as soon as possible. It is much better to accept the negative feelings instead of pretending that I am happy all the time.

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I had to say no to someone last night as she wanted to stay over at mine but said sorry, can't as I got work in to morning. She then felt I was being selfish. So I had to avoid conflict as it wasn't a wise idea in a restaurant and don't want to start up a fight. So just left back home.
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Not even one Minute into the video and it hits Home. So how do I manage my Emotions? Well first you get a jar, then you stuff these so called feelings in and Put the jar into a drawer only to submerge when you all by your self and have to Put them in a bigger jar.
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I have all of these, I really want to change all of these habits of mine but it's too hard because I want to be one of the best at everything at and be everybody's friend at school. It sounds more easy writing these down but it's really hard for me.
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The main gist I got from this video is just to keep it real with yourself. If you're tired, rest. If you're feeling negative, don't suppress or conceal. Be honest with yourself about how you're feeling and act accordingly
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I resonate with the habit of avoiding conflict as someone growing up in a culture where you can't disagree with your elders even when they're wrong
Edit: so you can't even communicate issues or stand up for yourself

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Hi, Psych2Go!
Could you do a vid on parenting tips; for example, how can a parent motivate a teen to do homework, and help out around the house, without said parent coming across as overbearing or tyrannical?

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Just a reminder- go to bed. Rest your burned out tired head down in your comfy pillow. Give your eyes a break and put down the device. Take a deep breath and relax.
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I can't say that I was surprised by those factors, but I rather say that some of those were the ones I had, personally, and had to learn to manage through experience
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Being too positive can actually kill your mental well being. I learned that the hard way when all my emotions got so bottled up that I had a bad mental breakdown.
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I didn't find these bad good habits surprising for me because i do all of them unconsciously (except i guess for the workaholic one because i procrastinate a lot)
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I often avoid conflict or even not causing it in the first place because I'm too scared to confront orbe confronted. Any solution on how to not be scared of this?
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Even as a student I find these to be relatable
Especially when chatting online; you will meet people who don't like you and plan to stab your back

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I dont really do these anyways wich im happy about i used to do 1 very long time ago then like 4 years later it came back way worse now im all good
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Your such an earth angel, Thankyou beautiful Soul. Needed this today. I am a solo artist. I work so much I get anxiety. Time to stop. I love you xxx
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