7 Green Flags in Yourself to Be Proud Of
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Date: 2023-12-01
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wxk1w1
2 years ago i was a super negative person, always angry and i had hundreds of red flags. But over those 2 years i managed to change myself so much that now i can (mostly) stay calm in arguments. I probably still have some red flags left but not as many as before. I'm super proud of when i had to leave my best friend of 4 years (let's call her Sheila for her privacy. Let me tell you a bit about it so you'd understand better. So, my best friend asked me to make a discord server with her, and of course i said yes cause who wouldn't? Once the server was done, i started advertising it in my bio. I managed to get 2 of my other friends to join (I'll call him Alex. One of them being my other best friend. Sheila didn't like Alex, so she started being rude to him which is what i didn't want at all. I don't want my 2 best friends to fight so i tried to stop them. Once i realized that won't work then i just left the server where they argued in, Alex leaving after me. But right after i left Sheila said rude stuff about me and laughed at me for leaving (Alex sent me a screenshot, i didn't actually see her say that. I thought it'd be over but almost 10 minutes later Sheila sent me an angry text saying what i did wrong and calling me bad things. She was badmouthing me and Alex and also started manipulating me. I politely said sorry (even though it wasn't my fault and I didn't even wanna participate in that argument, i talked to her nicely and gave her a chance to talk it over with me so she won't hold a grudge forever. But she blew all the chances i gave her and kept trying to argue with me. I'm proud of myself for keeping my cool and now getting angry. The whole time i was speaking my mind honestly, not in a mean way. The last text she sent me went something like this you saying goodbye and unfriending me is proof that im right and you're not, so i calmly told her that i did that only because she was being really toxic and rude, i didn't want to be around her when she was like that. I also told her if you ever want to talk about this argument (that i didn't even wanna participate in) then don't hesitate to friend me. Goodbye for now, I've made amazing memories with you and I'm thankful for that, and just like that i unfriended her on every platform. Of course I'm sad that i lost my nr 1 friend, but since i already apologized and told what i think then i don't feel that bad. Plus it's her loss anyway, she could've talked to me but she didn't
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2 years ago i was a super negative person, always angry and i had hundreds of red flags. But over those 2 years i managed to change myself so much that now i can (mostly) stay calm in arguments. I probably still have some red flags left but not as many as before. I'm super proud of when i had to leave my best friend of 4 years (let's call her Sheila for her privacy. Let me tell you a bit about it so you'd understand better. So, my best friend asked me to make a discord server with her, and of course i said yes cause who wouldn't? Once the server was done, i started advertising it in my bio. I managed to get 2 of my other friends to join (I'll call him Alex. One of them being my other best friend. Sheila didn't like Alex, so she started being rude to him which is what i didn't want at all. I don't want my 2 best friends to fight so i tried to stop them. Once i realized that won't work then i just left the server where they argued in, Alex leaving after me. But right after i left Sheila said rude stuff about me and laughed at me for leaving (Alex sent me a screenshot, i didn't actually see her say that. I thought it'd be over but almost 10 minutes later Sheila sent me an angry text saying what i did wrong and calling me bad things. She was badmouthing me and Alex and also started manipulating me. I politely said sorry (even though it wasn't my fault and I didn't even wanna participate in that argument, i talked to her nicely and gave her a chance to talk it over with me so she won't hold a grudge forever. But she blew all the chances i gave her and kept trying to argue with me. I'm proud of myself for keeping my cool and now getting angry. The whole time i was speaking my mind honestly, not in a mean way. The last text she sent me went something like this you saying goodbye and unfriending me is proof that im right and you're not, so i calmly told her that i did that only because she was being really toxic and rude, i didn't want to be around her when she was like that. I also told her if you ever want to talk about this argument (that i didn't even wanna participate in) then don't hesitate to friend me. Goodbye for now, I've made amazing memories with you and I'm thankful for that, and just like that i unfriended her on every platform. Of course I'm sad that i lost my nr 1 friend, but since i already apologized and told what i think then i don't feel that bad. Plus it's her loss anyway, she could've talked to me but she didn't
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popupro
I'm working really hard to iprove my emotional management and to see things from anothers perspective, while it's not perfect yet and it doesn't come 100% naturally yet, I can manage to force myself to be more understanding now.
I feel like I have a mix of both good and bad self worth, I really vallue the things I'm able to do and I feel like my self worth in purely myself couldn't be better, but I have a nagging fear that my friends will suddenly stop liking me which I feel like reflects on my emotional self worth
I just genuinly like myself so it's not dofficult to have some positive self talk and I also don't feel too much guilt about the things I've done simply because I know I'm putting in so much effort to be better and not make the same mistakes again
I feel like there's always somewhere for me to be and something to do and someone to hang out with to the point where independence just kinda slides into place naturaly
And as I said, I'm just genuinly happy, so it leads to a positive outlook
Sure I'm not perfect, not by far, but hey, I'm improving, so why shouldn't I allow myself to be happy?
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I'm working really hard to iprove my emotional management and to see things from anothers perspective, while it's not perfect yet and it doesn't come 100% naturally yet, I can manage to force myself to be more understanding now.
I feel like I have a mix of both good and bad self worth, I really vallue the things I'm able to do and I feel like my self worth in purely myself couldn't be better, but I have a nagging fear that my friends will suddenly stop liking me which I feel like reflects on my emotional self worth
I just genuinly like myself so it's not dofficult to have some positive self talk and I also don't feel too much guilt about the things I've done simply because I know I'm putting in so much effort to be better and not make the same mistakes again
I feel like there's always somewhere for me to be and something to do and someone to hang out with to the point where independence just kinda slides into place naturaly
And as I said, I'm just genuinly happy, so it leads to a positive outlook
Sure I'm not perfect, not by far, but hey, I'm improving, so why shouldn't I allow myself to be happy?
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psych2go
2: 17 my mother always called me a narcissist as a child. i would take many selfies as a younger kid because i was curious, of course i was! i was a kid! i thought that technology was cool. and i had no reason to be ashamed to take photos of myself. about two years ago we got in a fight, and i was on my device afterward, drawing. she asked me, these exact words, What are you doing now? taking selfies? yet you apparently hate yourself? (yells) God, you're so selfish! as i was going through a year of depression from my OCD and intrusive thoughts. she still acts as if i'm an awful person to this day, saying things like i need to learn empathy or that nobody will like me if i treat people badly, little does she know she and my father are the only people i am almost ever angry at. i personally think she has told me these things because she, herself, is insecure about the idea of having a good sense of self worth, and thinks it means that the person is a narcissist (which is not inherently a bad thing, either. it's a disorder.
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2: 17 my mother always called me a narcissist as a child. i would take many selfies as a younger kid because i was curious, of course i was! i was a kid! i thought that technology was cool. and i had no reason to be ashamed to take photos of myself. about two years ago we got in a fight, and i was on my device afterward, drawing. she asked me, these exact words, What are you doing now? taking selfies? yet you apparently hate yourself? (yells) God, you're so selfish! as i was going through a year of depression from my OCD and intrusive thoughts. she still acts as if i'm an awful person to this day, saying things like i need to learn empathy or that nobody will like me if i treat people badly, little does she know she and my father are the only people i am almost ever angry at. i personally think she has told me these things because she, herself, is insecure about the idea of having a good sense of self worth, and thinks it means that the person is a narcissist (which is not inherently a bad thing, either. it's a disorder.
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kelleyk28
I am very empathetic and I like that about me, but #3 is never going to happen. I'm am never going to like myself or see myself, as what people call, clearly. I feel I already do that and I know what I see, and my mind will never be changed about it. I will agree that I am good person. I feel like I am, but I have zero self-esteem, haven't had any since I was about 8 and I'm 48 now. I'm never going to have any, and if people would quit trying to make me have any, I might be able to come to terms with it.
Thanks for these videos. It's nice to see people understanding what some of us go through.
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I am very empathetic and I like that about me, but #3 is never going to happen. I'm am never going to like myself or see myself, as what people call, clearly. I feel I already do that and I know what I see, and my mind will never be changed about it. I will agree that I am good person. I feel like I am, but I have zero self-esteem, haven't had any since I was about 8 and I'm 48 now. I'm never going to have any, and if people would quit trying to make me have any, I might be able to come to terms with it.
Thanks for these videos. It's nice to see people understanding what some of us go through.
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samarthkapil6579
something i've noticed from personal experience, i think its important to cry when u feel like it to manage emotions instead of repressing these emotions. Recognize and validate what you feel but at the same time remind yourself that this feeling and situation is temporary like everything in life, whats permenant is, well your life in your perspective and what you do with it. It's kind of like saying a final goodbye to these emotions holding you back. This is what i do and i feel very clear and motivated after that.
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something i've noticed from personal experience, i think its important to cry when u feel like it to manage emotions instead of repressing these emotions. Recognize and validate what you feel but at the same time remind yourself that this feeling and situation is temporary like everything in life, whats permenant is, well your life in your perspective and what you do with it. It's kind of like saying a final goodbye to these emotions holding you back. This is what i do and i feel very clear and motivated after that.
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smart_gamer_3607
damn. you know. I had a feeling that I wasn't gonna have a green flag in this video and sure enough. Wow, that makes me question a lot. I mean I'm nice to people on the outside but on the inside I find a way to get pissed off easily due to something that happened last year to me. someone made me have this thing where I find something wrong with them before they can see something wrong with me (and no it doesn't feel great)
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damn. you know. I had a feeling that I wasn't gonna have a green flag in this video and sure enough. Wow, that makes me question a lot. I mean I'm nice to people on the outside but on the inside I find a way to get pissed off easily due to something that happened last year to me. someone made me have this thing where I find something wrong with them before they can see something wrong with me (and no it doesn't feel great)
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psych2go
I have 6 out of 7 just not blame one. Even at my own fault i blame others even my mom always said that u never think that can be ur own fault. Bt i will try my best 4 making changes on me.
Yes my English left a chat ( it is not my first lang. My first lang is kumauni language ( uttarakhand, india (mother tongue) them Hindi: ) don't try to judge
Bie!
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I have 6 out of 7 just not blame one. Even at my own fault i blame others even my mom always said that u never think that can be ur own fault. Bt i will try my best 4 making changes on me.
Yes my English left a chat ( it is not my first lang. My first lang is kumauni language ( uttarakhand, india (mother tongue) them Hindi: ) don't try to judge
Bie!
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elykcrowblack7071
Dont have this. Probably cause I have a grim outlook on reality and that s ok! By independent I mean Im always alone does that count? Probably not. but hey I tried? Im adult but it depends on you if Im mature or not. Either way I dont care. All I want is to die cause IM tired of existing.
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Dont have this. Probably cause I have a grim outlook on reality and that s ok! By independent I mean Im always alone does that count? Probably not. but hey I tried? Im adult but it depends on you if Im mature or not. Either way I dont care. All I want is to die cause IM tired of existing.
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purple4216
Hmmm, I sometimes have all of these. Some days, i'm not that positive, or recognise my self worth, But I am working on all of these.
I definitely try the Positive self talk most often. We all need that extra boost of confidence.
YOU ARE WONDERFUL PEOPLE! compliment yourself more often!
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Hmmm, I sometimes have all of these. Some days, i'm not that positive, or recognise my self worth, But I am working on all of these.
I definitely try the Positive self talk most often. We all need that extra boost of confidence.
YOU ARE WONDERFUL PEOPLE! compliment yourself more often!
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A55a551n
Timestamps
1. Emotional management 0: 30
2. Nuanced understanding 0: 54
3. Good self worth 1: 17
4. Positive self-talk 1: 40
5. No guilt 2: 07
6. Independent 2: 33
7. Positive outlook 3: 03
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. Emotional management 0: 30
2. Nuanced understanding 0: 54
3. Good self worth 1: 17
4. Positive self-talk 1: 40
5. No guilt 2: 07
6. Independent 2: 33
7. Positive outlook 3: 03
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Psych2go
Have you ever received positive feedback from others about one of these traits? I'd love to hear your experiences! And by the way, always remember how amazing you are even if no one has mentioned it yet. What truly matters is the progress you make, not striving for perfection.
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Have you ever received positive feedback from others about one of these traits? I'd love to hear your experiences! And by the way, always remember how amazing you are even if no one has mentioned it yet. What truly matters is the progress you make, not striving for perfection.
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-_eyes_-
I have a question, is my head twitching either to the side or up a sign of Tourette s? I also sometimes make random noises, but for some reason I do it more when I m cold? And now when I just randomly go Wha wha! Or something, I have no idea what to say if someone asks: (
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I have a question, is my head twitching either to the side or up a sign of Tourette s? I also sometimes make random noises, but for some reason I do it more when I m cold? And now when I just randomly go Wha wha! Or something, I have no idea what to say if someone asks: (
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namethestars
The timing of this is beautiful, I've just moved house on my own after living in the home I use to have with my ex and my emotions are all over the place, I needed something to remind myself that I did do the right thing and this video gave me some of that prompt
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The timing of this is beautiful, I've just moved house on my own after living in the home I use to have with my ex and my emotions are all over the place, I needed something to remind myself that I did do the right thing and this video gave me some of that prompt
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keefemanoos6553
7 green flags in yourself to be proud of
0: 31 Emotional management
0: 56 Nuanced understanding
1: 17 Good self worth
1: 40 Positive self talk
2: 07 No guilt
2: 33 Independent
3: 04 Positive outlook
I got 6 green flags sheesh
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7 green flags in yourself to be proud of
0: 31 Emotional management
0: 56 Nuanced understanding
1: 17 Good self worth
1: 40 Positive self talk
2: 07 No guilt
2: 33 Independent
3: 04 Positive outlook
I got 6 green flags sheesh
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psych2go
another kind of positive self talk or comfort to others i do is statements such as they won't judge you, and if they do, they aren't worth it! find people who respect you as a human, and realize that people make mistakes.
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another kind of positive self talk or comfort to others i do is statements such as they won't judge you, and if they do, they aren't worth it! find people who respect you as a human, and realize that people make mistakes.
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Entei9000
I definitely struggle with some of these, but I'm also good at the rest, so I think I can work with that. And in the meantime I'm working towards getting to a point where I can apply the rest to myself too.
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I definitely struggle with some of these, but I'm also good at the rest, so I think I can work with that. And in the meantime I'm working towards getting to a point where I can apply the rest to myself too.
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yomiseno
My self-worth comes from my stubborness. If I feel like I am looking after myself, trying my best to grow, I use that as sense of self-worth. If I am not, I feel worthless. I feel like a loserrrrrr.
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My self-worth comes from my stubborness. If I feel like I am looking after myself, trying my best to grow, I use that as sense of self-worth. If I am not, I feel worthless. I feel like a loserrrrrr.
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MelodyFuetsch
Do u think you could do red flags that you should watch out for or red flags that you might have without knowing if you can find any research it would be great. You re really helpful.
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Do u think you could do red flags that you should watch out for or red flags that you might have without knowing if you can find any research it would be great. You re really helpful.
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Renikee
0: 30 Emotional management
0: 55 Nuanced understanding
1: 17 Good self worth
1: 40 Positive self talk
2: 08 No guilt
2: 33 Independent
3: 04 Positive outlook
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0: 30 Emotional management
0: 55 Nuanced understanding
1: 17 Good self worth
1: 40 Positive self talk
2: 08 No guilt
2: 33 Independent
3: 04 Positive outlook
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martinisawe6300
Yo I have all 7 of the green flags.
But also another green flag is who you spend your time with, since they're the ones who will directly impact who you are
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Yo I have all 7 of the green flags.
But also another green flag is who you spend your time with, since they're the ones who will directly impact who you are
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