6 Mindsets That Keep You Single For A Long Time
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Date: 2024-02-25
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waynetech10
7. After years of being told and shown that people like you are the last thing anyone wants to be stuck with, you don't suddenly believe you're worth the time, now.
A lot of women that have talked me up are in crisis mode. They've wasted their 20s on garbage, horible men, abusive, deadbeat, absentee dads, and during that time, they rejected all others. Now that things are going very poorly (raising kids alone, mounting debt, looking at their 40s and beyond alone, they say I have much to offer, forgetting that, when talking with their friends, they say something different. I came to accept it, and devoted my time and effort into other things, and into trying to be good enough, for myself. Still a work in progress, but one thing that is for sure to keep me from dating, besides my loser status, I just don't trust that it's now time to give geeks and losers a chance.
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7. After years of being told and shown that people like you are the last thing anyone wants to be stuck with, you don't suddenly believe you're worth the time, now.
A lot of women that have talked me up are in crisis mode. They've wasted their 20s on garbage, horible men, abusive, deadbeat, absentee dads, and during that time, they rejected all others. Now that things are going very poorly (raising kids alone, mounting debt, looking at their 40s and beyond alone, they say I have much to offer, forgetting that, when talking with their friends, they say something different. I came to accept it, and devoted my time and effort into other things, and into trying to be good enough, for myself. Still a work in progress, but one thing that is for sure to keep me from dating, besides my loser status, I just don't trust that it's now time to give geeks and losers a chance.
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psych2go
I had a conscious and told the love of my life I was messing around with my buddies aunt and this lady from my neighborhood I met at the local high school. I remember her saying You've made your choice, so be it. If you ever loved me you'll stay with her now. I remember promising her I would because she wished it and we parted ways on a sour note. I didn't see her for nearly 8 years but when I did she was the nurse that cared for my son when he was a newborn in the hospital. It was at that moment she witnessed me keeping my word to her and showing her that I could've been responsible in life. That was almost 20 years ago now.
This is part of my real life not just a story.
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I had a conscious and told the love of my life I was messing around with my buddies aunt and this lady from my neighborhood I met at the local high school. I remember her saying You've made your choice, so be it. If you ever loved me you'll stay with her now. I remember promising her I would because she wished it and we parted ways on a sour note. I didn't see her for nearly 8 years but when I did she was the nurse that cared for my son when he was a newborn in the hospital. It was at that moment she witnessed me keeping my word to her and showing her that I could've been responsible in life. That was almost 20 years ago now.
This is part of my real life not just a story.
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KT-4.
I've been staying single because i feel like i'd hurt the girl emotionally. I havent dated in a few years now, but my past relationships all seemed to end very soon after i messed something up. I feel like me having the general capasity to cause so mamy issues, even though it's not guarenteed, is a major obstical blocking me from dating. Also, im in highschool with no car and no job, which i struggle to get because of my living situation and lack of transport. Im probably overthinking, i dont know anymore. I have a good personality and i really do try to be the best i can, but i guess some little issues sorta stop me.
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I've been staying single because i feel like i'd hurt the girl emotionally. I havent dated in a few years now, but my past relationships all seemed to end very soon after i messed something up. I feel like me having the general capasity to cause so mamy issues, even though it's not guarenteed, is a major obstical blocking me from dating. Also, im in highschool with no car and no job, which i struggle to get because of my living situation and lack of transport. Im probably overthinking, i dont know anymore. I have a good personality and i really do try to be the best i can, but i guess some little issues sorta stop me.
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DJ-iu5bb
I never say never but I dont see it happening for me as I got Autism and ADHD even talking to folks that you dont have feelings for is hard to interact so imagine me asking someone out also those Dating Apps are so heart crushing when Folks see it as a Game to really get laid then more finding a person that actually has feelings for you its like a Popularity Contest and your not in the Club and like due to the past im pretty used to rejection or getting let down alot
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I never say never but I dont see it happening for me as I got Autism and ADHD even talking to folks that you dont have feelings for is hard to interact so imagine me asking someone out also those Dating Apps are so heart crushing when Folks see it as a Game to really get laid then more finding a person that actually has feelings for you its like a Popularity Contest and your not in the Club and like due to the past im pretty used to rejection or getting let down alot
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apocratos0174
Remember to work on your personal issues first and try to be happy with yourself before going out there searching for love.
How can you make another person happy if youre not happy with yourself
And its not fair to go out there, trying to find someone and throw your emotional bagage onto them, expecting this relationship to be healthy and lasting.
Thats why im 33 and the last serious gf i had was 13 years ago.
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Remember to work on your personal issues first and try to be happy with yourself before going out there searching for love.
How can you make another person happy if youre not happy with yourself
And its not fair to go out there, trying to find someone and throw your emotional bagage onto them, expecting this relationship to be healthy and lasting.
Thats why im 33 and the last serious gf i had was 13 years ago.
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brandonporter2321
I swear, this video speaks to my soul. Well, except for the ex since i never had a relationship to get an Ex. With that said, I'm trying my best to come to terms with the fact that I will more than likely be single forever, and i will die single.
And the sooner i do a better job at accepting this, the better ill be in life. Is it harsh and cynical Yes. But honestly, it's the truth. A truth i need to accept.
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I swear, this video speaks to my soul. Well, except for the ex since i never had a relationship to get an Ex. With that said, I'm trying my best to come to terms with the fact that I will more than likely be single forever, and i will die single.
And the sooner i do a better job at accepting this, the better ill be in life. Is it harsh and cynical Yes. But honestly, it's the truth. A truth i need to accept.
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lovelumity
I can mark V on all these signs except that I don't think that the other person should be perfect, I rather think on the contrary that I should be perfect
And I didn't have a friend before mainly because of what was mentioned in this video
It reminded me that one time someone asked me what I would do once I had a friend and I didn't know what to say because my thinking was that I would be alone forever
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I can mark V on all these signs except that I don't think that the other person should be perfect, I rather think on the contrary that I should be perfect
And I didn't have a friend before mainly because of what was mentioned in this video
It reminded me that one time someone asked me what I would do once I had a friend and I didn't know what to say because my thinking was that I would be alone forever
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darlingdior
I've been single my whole life. Though I have had 2 online relationships that didn't go anywhere. I'm too shy to talk to people and really don't know what to talk about and feel like I'm a failure because I've gone so long (29 yrs old) so I have a hard time opening up to people. This mix makes me very shameful and I see couples and wonder where did I go wrong and why can't I do that.
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I've been single my whole life. Though I have had 2 online relationships that didn't go anywhere. I'm too shy to talk to people and really don't know what to talk about and feel like I'm a failure because I've gone so long (29 yrs old) so I have a hard time opening up to people. This mix makes me very shameful and I see couples and wonder where did I go wrong and why can't I do that.
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duongnamphuong
I have trust issues with anyone approaching me without telling their purpose. There are times that they convince me to join their cult. I despise strangers in social networks that send me friend request without a word, those who contacted me for job interviews even after I refused twice. Both real world and virtual world are not safe for my social life.
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I have trust issues with anyone approaching me without telling their purpose. There are times that they convince me to join their cult. I despise strangers in social networks that send me friend request without a word, those who contacted me for job interviews even after I refused twice. Both real world and virtual world are not safe for my social life.
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MegaChriz
I'm 38 years old now, and I find the idea to date women that have kids uncomfortable, especially if these kids are nearing their teenage years. I just have no experience raising children and I'm also unsure if I could handle that currently emotionally. But I wonder if I should try to let go of these feelings in order to get better chances of finding someone
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I'm 38 years old now, and I find the idea to date women that have kids uncomfortable, especially if these kids are nearing their teenage years. I just have no experience raising children and I'm also unsure if I could handle that currently emotionally. But I wonder if I should try to let go of these feelings in order to get better chances of finding someone
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ExcelMK
I don’t think I really have a chance regardless of my mindset.
Not only am I socially anxious, not only am I also depressed, but I have a bad habit of laziness and I say the wrong things so often it makes me look like a complete jerk.
Maybe people see something in me I don’t but I’m in a horrific spot that I don’t see me breaking out of.
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I don’t think I really have a chance regardless of my mindset.
Not only am I socially anxious, not only am I also depressed, but I have a bad habit of laziness and I say the wrong things so often it makes me look like a complete jerk.
Maybe people see something in me I don’t but I’m in a horrific spot that I don’t see me breaking out of.
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redheadbelle
The One does exist! It’s ok & understandable to feel scared to approach. Find out what you want. It should be communicated in some way so the One doesn’t wait while you have no plans whatsoever to approach. Your needs matter. Find out what you want. But let it be known in some kind of way. Mixed signals hurt her as much as you.
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The One does exist! It’s ok & understandable to feel scared to approach. Find out what you want. It should be communicated in some way so the One doesn’t wait while you have no plans whatsoever to approach. Your needs matter. Find out what you want. But let it be known in some kind of way. Mixed signals hurt her as much as you.
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psych2go
I am the youngest of five children. My three sisters were married at the age of 17. My brother was married at the age of eighteen. My oldest sister was married to two men at the same time. She's been divorced a number of times. My brother has been divorced five times. I am 54 and I've never been married. What else can I say
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I am the youngest of five children. My three sisters were married at the age of 17. My brother was married at the age of eighteen. My oldest sister was married to two men at the same time. She's been divorced a number of times. My brother has been divorced five times. I am 54 and I've never been married. What else can I say
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lucatricerri1531
Timestamps!
0: 32 1. You're not letting new people enter your life.
1: 01 2. You're not willing to try new things.
1: 35 3. You're not over your ex.
2: 10 4. You're still waiting.
2: 43 5. You have major trust issues.
3: 15 6. You genuinely don't want to be in a relationship.
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Timestamps!
0: 32 1. You're not letting new people enter your life.
1: 01 2. You're not willing to try new things.
1: 35 3. You're not over your ex.
2: 10 4. You're still waiting.
2: 43 5. You have major trust issues.
3: 15 6. You genuinely don't want to be in a relationship.
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flamegamer3424
I’m glad I’ve seen this video. It’s been hard to trust anyone these past few years because I got turned down a lot. I feel like I’m waiting for a relationship, but in reality, I don’t have to. I still have time to work on myself, let go of the doubts, and I’ll be ready when the time comes.
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I’m glad I’ve seen this video. It’s been hard to trust anyone these past few years because I got turned down a lot. I feel like I’m waiting for a relationship, but in reality, I don’t have to. I still have time to work on myself, let go of the doubts, and I’ll be ready when the time comes.
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psych2go
I'm complete oposete of all these signs, there was a period of 2 years when i really just didn't wanted to be with anyone, but that's over.
And still, NOTHING!
I got frustrated when two mounths ago a perfect girl just ghosted me.
Rly some people are just destened for failiure, but whatever.
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I'm complete oposete of all these signs, there was a period of 2 years when i really just didn't wanted to be with anyone, but that's over.
And still, NOTHING!
I got frustrated when two mounths ago a perfect girl just ghosted me.
Rly some people are just destened for failiure, but whatever.
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psych2go
I’m visually impaired and autistic I’m going to live with my parents when I graduate high school I don’t think someone would want to marry someone with many special needs that watches little kids shows and plays with toy made for toddlers I even play with bath toys and refuse to take a shower
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I’m visually impaired and autistic I’m going to live with my parents when I graduate high school I don’t think someone would want to marry someone with many special needs that watches little kids shows and plays with toy made for toddlers I even play with bath toys and refuse to take a shower
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Insecure_baddie
In my case I can’t really trust people specially when you know too much about people. I see them as potential violent individuals and I really can’t like them. I don’t know what my city is doing to me ngl, but I can’t move out cause ik I would just end up dead either way
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In my case I can’t really trust people specially when you know too much about people. I see them as potential violent individuals and I really can’t like them. I don’t know what my city is doing to me ngl, but I can’t move out cause ik I would just end up dead either way
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0_3_6_9_0
Thank you for this video, I do not relate to any of these signs or mindsets. Its just that I feel attracted to few girls (probably on this platform) but I do not know any of them well enough to filter them all down to commit towards one, so avoiding them becomes an easier option.
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Thank you for this video, I do not relate to any of these signs or mindsets. Its just that I feel attracted to few girls (probably on this platform) but I do not know any of them well enough to filter them all down to commit towards one, so avoiding them becomes an easier option.
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