5 Habits That Instantly Boost Your Attractiveness
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Date: 2024-07-27
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basdejong1598
The only things that are within reach would be to shut up and listen. My mind is too messy to be a good storyteller. The story may be good, but often my mouth cannot keep up if my head is going at full speed so I stumble over my words. Or I force myself to slow down, but then the words and sentences come out stuttering. As for skills; I have skills, just not ones that are useful for socializing. As for taking care of myself there are contradictions. I can't work a normal job (requires social interaction which are exhausting at best and agonizing by default, so financially I'm unlucky. Mental health is a hot mess that cannot be solved as my condition (misophonia) is recognized since 2001 but still not included in official books about mental stuff, and the only place that I know of that has a treatment procedure has been shut down indefinitely 2 years ago (so before I knew treatment is somewhat possible. At least I can talk a lot about blacksmithing and what's necessary to make a good knife, but no one close to me is interested enough or capable of understanding what I'm talking about. Well, there's one, but let's just say that if what you say doesn't line up with his perspective it's automatically wrong, so hardly any point in even trying.
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The only things that are within reach would be to shut up and listen. My mind is too messy to be a good storyteller. The story may be good, but often my mouth cannot keep up if my head is going at full speed so I stumble over my words. Or I force myself to slow down, but then the words and sentences come out stuttering. As for skills; I have skills, just not ones that are useful for socializing. As for taking care of myself there are contradictions. I can't work a normal job (requires social interaction which are exhausting at best and agonizing by default, so financially I'm unlucky. Mental health is a hot mess that cannot be solved as my condition (misophonia) is recognized since 2001 but still not included in official books about mental stuff, and the only place that I know of that has a treatment procedure has been shut down indefinitely 2 years ago (so before I knew treatment is somewhat possible. At least I can talk a lot about blacksmithing and what's necessary to make a good knife, but no one close to me is interested enough or capable of understanding what I'm talking about. Well, there's one, but let's just say that if what you say doesn't line up with his perspective it's automatically wrong, so hardly any point in even trying.
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HugoStiglitz88
Damnit. I suck at telling stories. Been trying to get better but i have adhd so not only is my mind darting around my memories while im telling it but i also am impulsive and bring up the wrong details
Even worse, sometimes ill drop another story in the middle of the story if it relates
Im also terrible at the 2nd one. Im naturally a confident person, but when i do get awkward its because im not in the moment and not really paying attention. Its why i cant read the room' like i normally do, which makes me shy/awkward
All this is tied to ADHD. I started taking adderall months ago and it has been working for me. Now i can even not pay attention, and still be paying attention or at least easily talk my way out of any previous awkwardness
My confidence has gone through the roof too
the last 3 im good at tho
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Damnit. I suck at telling stories. Been trying to get better but i have adhd so not only is my mind darting around my memories while im telling it but i also am impulsive and bring up the wrong details
Even worse, sometimes ill drop another story in the middle of the story if it relates
Im also terrible at the 2nd one. Im naturally a confident person, but when i do get awkward its because im not in the moment and not really paying attention. Its why i cant read the room' like i normally do, which makes me shy/awkward
All this is tied to ADHD. I started taking adderall months ago and it has been working for me. Now i can even not pay attention, and still be paying attention or at least easily talk my way out of any previous awkwardness
My confidence has gone through the roof too
the last 3 im good at tho
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jbird1152
For a possible part 2, I have a suggestion. This both goes for what I find attractive in others, and what others have found attractive in me. Authenticity. When someone is truly authentically themselves, you can feel that, and it has this magnetic quality, at least that's how I feel. In contrast, I'm sure we've all met someone who just feels fake or we can tell is putting on a front. And for me, its the opposite of magnetic, it repels me. So really, it goes back to the age old wisdom of just be yourself. And being fully myself has been great for my mental health too.
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For a possible part 2, I have a suggestion. This both goes for what I find attractive in others, and what others have found attractive in me. Authenticity. When someone is truly authentically themselves, you can feel that, and it has this magnetic quality, at least that's how I feel. In contrast, I'm sure we've all met someone who just feels fake or we can tell is putting on a front. And for me, its the opposite of magnetic, it repels me. So really, it goes back to the age old wisdom of just be yourself. And being fully myself has been great for my mental health too.
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arbea_
8 seconds is not an accurate attention span lol, the study its from doesnt exist and the reason why your attention span is so short is theres so much things to distract you
if you lay down, have a phone or device out of reach and read a book, you can get lost in it for hours
while if you're watching tiktok, if something doesnt entirely grab your attention you are most likely gonna swipe down to find something better
attention spans have no clear baseline for humans, but ultimately, the average is not eight seconds.
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8 seconds is not an accurate attention span lol, the study its from doesnt exist and the reason why your attention span is so short is theres so much things to distract you
if you lay down, have a phone or device out of reach and read a book, you can get lost in it for hours
while if you're watching tiktok, if something doesnt entirely grab your attention you are most likely gonna swipe down to find something better
attention spans have no clear baseline for humans, but ultimately, the average is not eight seconds.
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punkmoose3962
I don't know, been doing all of these and being more open where once I was closed off, (except my health's taken a dip, so I'm skinnier) and whenever I meet someone new and we have great chemistry, and I make my attraction known, they don't reciprocate. Maybe it's just bad luck; I get along with most people, but people just don't want to be intimate with me I guess. I'm comfortable being single and would be okay dying that way, but it would be nice to have something that lasts longer than 3 months someday
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I don't know, been doing all of these and being more open where once I was closed off, (except my health's taken a dip, so I'm skinnier) and whenever I meet someone new and we have great chemistry, and I make my attraction known, they don't reciprocate. Maybe it's just bad luck; I get along with most people, but people just don't want to be intimate with me I guess. I'm comfortable being single and would be okay dying that way, but it would be nice to have something that lasts longer than 3 months someday
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lonestarr1490
Great, with the exception of maybe one, they all apply solely to situations where the other person is already aware of your existence or even engaging in conversation with you. Like, on a date. You assume I'm already on a date!
That's not very helpful for me. It's like those dating advices that tell you how to treat someone in a relationship. I hoped I'd learn something that makes them look at me in the first place, so that I maybe get a chance to get to that stage.
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Great, with the exception of maybe one, they all apply solely to situations where the other person is already aware of your existence or even engaging in conversation with you. Like, on a date. You assume I'm already on a date!
That's not very helpful for me. It's like those dating advices that tell you how to treat someone in a relationship. I hoped I'd learn something that makes them look at me in the first place, so that I maybe get a chance to get to that stage.
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fareedamaming9505
1. Learn to tell story, Book How To Tell A Story
2. What large listening ears you have! Learn to be a good listener
3. Self Love is Hot. Take really good care of yourself
4. Be More Open, to the new things, to new experiences
5. Don’t to candler Bing. Develop interpersonal Skills
Communication, Empathy, .
6. Be Your Most Authentic Self.
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1. Learn to tell story, Book How To Tell A Story
2. What large listening ears you have! Learn to be a good listener
3. Self Love is Hot. Take really good care of yourself
4. Be More Open, to the new things, to new experiences
5. Don’t to candler Bing. Develop interpersonal Skills
Communication, Empathy, .
6. Be Your Most Authentic Self.
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psych2go
Basically,
1. Learn to tell stories 0: 35
2. What large listening ears you have! (= Listening to others, be a listener) 1: 21
3. Self love is hot 2: 21
4. Be more open (= no no to heuristics) 3: 17
5. Don’t be Chandler Bing (Develop interpersonal skills) 4: 06
Good luck at becoming the best version of yourself ==
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Basically,
1. Learn to tell stories 0: 35
2. What large listening ears you have! (= Listening to others, be a listener) 1: 21
3. Self love is hot 2: 21
4. Be more open (= no no to heuristics) 3: 17
5. Don’t be Chandler Bing (Develop interpersonal skills) 4: 06
Good luck at becoming the best version of yourself ==
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venxz3938
Ok guys I'm super early here so I'll do it for ya
0: 34 Learn to tell stories
1: 22 What large listening ears you have (aka active listening)
2: 21 Self love is hot
3: 16 Be more open
4: 08 Don't be Chandler Bing (Develop interpersonal skills)
(Bonus) 4: 55 Be your most authentic self
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Ok guys I'm super early here so I'll do it for ya
0: 34 Learn to tell stories
1: 22 What large listening ears you have (aka active listening)
2: 21 Self love is hot
3: 16 Be more open
4: 08 Don't be Chandler Bing (Develop interpersonal skills)
(Bonus) 4: 55 Be your most authentic self
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neofulcrum5013
Listening seems like a big advantage for introverts. We take it all in and the gears start turning to formulate a decent if not satisfactory response.
That’s probably how I ended up being friends with a few extroverts.
Now if only this worked for me relationship wise.
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Listening seems like a big advantage for introverts. We take it all in and the gears start turning to formulate a decent if not satisfactory response.
That’s probably how I ended up being friends with a few extroverts.
Now if only this worked for me relationship wise.
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youhub835
I did 1st, 2nd and 4th but i went overboard and spoiled all
Now i have no friends
And they are backlashing on me
No one speaks to me in school
Now I'm like who's in fault
Them for not correcting me on my mistake way before this happened or me
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I did 1st, 2nd and 4th but i went overboard and spoiled all
Now i have no friends
And they are backlashing on me
No one speaks to me in school
Now I'm like who's in fault
Them for not correcting me on my mistake way before this happened or me
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AC-ni4gt
I was told and learned somewhere that the more you polish and improve your inner-self, the more attractive you are on the outside. However I have experienced that if you don't work on rounding yourself out, it makes the efforts in vain.
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I was told and learned somewhere that the more you polish and improve your inner-self, the more attractive you are on the outside. However I have experienced that if you don't work on rounding yourself out, it makes the efforts in vain.
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7thundersofrev10
Question: There are people out there that are called Jammers
I just have not really formulated if this is a control issue an immotional destructive person a person who hates you or psychological issue
Please let me know.
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Question: There are people out there that are called Jammers
I just have not really formulated if this is a control issue an immotional destructive person a person who hates you or psychological issue
Please let me know.
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scoots291
1: become a ttrpg game master
2: become a ttrpg game master
3: do not become a ttrpg game master
4: become a ttrpg game master
5: become a ttrpg game master
Inshort being a ttrpg game master makes you more attractive
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1: become a ttrpg game master
2: become a ttrpg game master
3: do not become a ttrpg game master
4: become a ttrpg game master
5: become a ttrpg game master
Inshort being a ttrpg game master makes you more attractive
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felipeguerra235
Your tumbnails are sick, you really know the public those videos are for: V
Jokes aside, great content, cool way of explaning these stuff and mommy voice, well made composition over all. I'm subscribing!
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Your tumbnails are sick, you really know the public those videos are for: V
Jokes aside, great content, cool way of explaning these stuff and mommy voice, well made composition over all. I'm subscribing!
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MegaManNeo
There's no story to tell about me.
Other than that I feel like I am almost halfway there
In general I grew up being alone, there probably isn't anyone interested in that which I feel compatible with.
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There's no story to tell about me.
Other than that I feel like I am almost halfway there
In general I grew up being alone, there probably isn't anyone interested in that which I feel compatible with.
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psych2go
0: 34 learn to tell stories
1: 22 what large listening ears you have!
2: 20 self love Is hot
3: 18 be more open
4: 06 don't be Chandler Bing (develop interpersonal skills)
You're welcome
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0: 34 learn to tell stories
1: 22 what large listening ears you have!
2: 20 self love Is hot
3: 18 be more open
4: 06 don't be Chandler Bing (develop interpersonal skills)
You're welcome
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unknownone5314
I don't think being your authentic self works for men. I'm in my 30s and just being me doesn't seem to help me find someone. I believe that it should have happened by now if this advice worked.
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I don't think being your authentic self works for men. I'm in my 30s and just being me doesn't seem to help me find someone. I believe that it should have happened by now if this advice worked.
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jwanie366
Slowly been working on all these habits. The hardest thing for me is going out to social areas in large groups (like bars. That’s probably why it’s been hard for me to find that special someone
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Slowly been working on all these habits. The hardest thing for me is going out to social areas in large groups (like bars. That’s probably why it’s been hard for me to find that special someone
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davids2096
Thanks for the tips and pointers! I will try them out, and hopefully they work! Thanks and take care! Oh yeah, I am requesting you present a part 2! It would really be helpful! Thanks again! Bye!
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Thanks for the tips and pointers! I will try them out, and hopefully they work! Thanks and take care! Oh yeah, I am requesting you present a part 2! It would really be helpful! Thanks again! Bye!
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