How To Deal With A Narcissist
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Date: 2024-07-28
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imcherylynn
First things first should be: know what a narcissist is. I have seen people misuse the term and tend to call people narcissists when they aren’t. Like using it when a parent is simply just making a rule and being mildly strict when you were kids.
I’ve got (extended) family who fit into the narc’ bubble perfectly, so I do understand, but I haven’t needed to deal with themfor years. But this year they’ve made very clear attempts to wedge their way back in and manipulate me into doing something for them. Calling, sending loads of texts one after the othertrying to appeal to my interests to win me over, and love bombing. These people have also never had my phone number, but another in the family very happily just handed it over to them without even asking me if it was ok to give it to them. I still don’t know who in my family gave out my number like it was Halloween candy.
The more happens, the longer you know themthe more becomes uncovered.
Thing is, these methods may work in some degree with some levels of narcissists. But if they’re always being terrible to you, intentionally hurting you, and still trying to test and push on your boundaries perhaps the best option is to find a way out. I understand some circumstances are harder to get out of than others, but plan your way out.
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First things first should be: know what a narcissist is. I have seen people misuse the term and tend to call people narcissists when they aren’t. Like using it when a parent is simply just making a rule and being mildly strict when you were kids.
I’ve got (extended) family who fit into the narc’ bubble perfectly, so I do understand, but I haven’t needed to deal with themfor years. But this year they’ve made very clear attempts to wedge their way back in and manipulate me into doing something for them. Calling, sending loads of texts one after the othertrying to appeal to my interests to win me over, and love bombing. These people have also never had my phone number, but another in the family very happily just handed it over to them without even asking me if it was ok to give it to them. I still don’t know who in my family gave out my number like it was Halloween candy.
The more happens, the longer you know themthe more becomes uncovered.
Thing is, these methods may work in some degree with some levels of narcissists. But if they’re always being terrible to you, intentionally hurting you, and still trying to test and push on your boundaries perhaps the best option is to find a way out. I understand some circumstances are harder to get out of than others, but plan your way out.
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AllenWalker92
I did this one year ago. I've been in some long argument with a friend of mine that even if we confronted each other about stuff (I always been the one seeking confront to set things right) and yet he would go back onto subject that has been solved just to have the hook of I was right back then. This whole argument went on for a long and exhausting year, than at some point I realized that the only way possible was to LET GO. He had a perception of me and there was nothing I could do to tell him that his perception he had of me as an enemy had nothing to do with who was confronting him. but he wouldn't listen.
I applied every step listed in this video and in the long run it's working just fine, despite making us be less closer friend than we're used to, but probably for the best.
It wasn't very easy, but if anyone of you happen to experience something like this as well, if you TRIED everything to make it come down to reasoning with no result, DON'T be afraid to take distances from such toxic behaviours for your own sake an peace.
You matter.
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I did this one year ago. I've been in some long argument with a friend of mine that even if we confronted each other about stuff (I always been the one seeking confront to set things right) and yet he would go back onto subject that has been solved just to have the hook of I was right back then. This whole argument went on for a long and exhausting year, than at some point I realized that the only way possible was to LET GO. He had a perception of me and there was nothing I could do to tell him that his perception he had of me as an enemy had nothing to do with who was confronting him. but he wouldn't listen.
I applied every step listed in this video and in the long run it's working just fine, despite making us be less closer friend than we're used to, but probably for the best.
It wasn't very easy, but if anyone of you happen to experience something like this as well, if you TRIED everything to make it come down to reasoning with no result, DON'T be afraid to take distances from such toxic behaviours for your own sake an peace.
You matter.
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Dennis4998
What should I do if my reviewer at work is a narcissist My coworkers successfully avoided getting assigned to work with him but I couldn’t since I joined the firm late. His boss who is the chief of the department doesn’t understand me when I complained to him about the guy, by responding everyone is different. Try to build trust with him. It’s been taking tolls on my mental health, putting up with subtle and seemingly unintentional attempts to gain the upper hand, establish dominance, ruin my reputation. My boss wants to talk about how I’m doing in three months and he said he might consider giving me a different role. I love this job and the pay is good. I love working with other coworkers but I can’t even stand him even for a day. Should I quit my job and move on now or wait to have that career discussion with my boss in three months
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What should I do if my reviewer at work is a narcissist My coworkers successfully avoided getting assigned to work with him but I couldn’t since I joined the firm late. His boss who is the chief of the department doesn’t understand me when I complained to him about the guy, by responding everyone is different. Try to build trust with him. It’s been taking tolls on my mental health, putting up with subtle and seemingly unintentional attempts to gain the upper hand, establish dominance, ruin my reputation. My boss wants to talk about how I’m doing in three months and he said he might consider giving me a different role. I love this job and the pay is good. I love working with other coworkers but I can’t even stand him even for a day. Should I quit my job and move on now or wait to have that career discussion with my boss in three months
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LiborTinka
Yeah tried that gray rocking method, but both parents blame me for not communicating with them despite them being a family. For example: Why don't you call John some time, he's your FATHER! He haven't heard from you for over a YEAR!
This makes me even more anxious to the point of turning off my phone and ignoring their messages - I really hate having to say that I don't want to see them, that it drains me and just one phone call keeps me down for a week: ( It's like they are sucking out all my energy: ( I don't want to be a bad son but I also don't want to be down and depressed all the time. Of course, they would never accept visiting a family therapist - they think it's purely my problem.
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Yeah tried that gray rocking method, but both parents blame me for not communicating with them despite them being a family. For example: Why don't you call John some time, he's your FATHER! He haven't heard from you for over a YEAR!
This makes me even more anxious to the point of turning off my phone and ignoring their messages - I really hate having to say that I don't want to see them, that it drains me and just one phone call keeps me down for a week: ( It's like they are sucking out all my energy: ( I don't want to be a bad son but I also don't want to be down and depressed all the time. Of course, they would never accept visiting a family therapist - they think it's purely my problem.
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marinvidovic763
You are possibly a narcissust
If you perform all those tactics
and
you still want to spend time with that person.
Then
You are a manipulator and possibly a narcisist that
HAS A deep REASON
that keeps you hanging around. That victim.
You might be one
That wants
to be
togethet
. . but
with him hard working on the relationsip
and
. you in control.
Big question.
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You are possibly a narcissust
If you perform all those tactics
and
you still want to spend time with that person.
Then
You are a manipulator and possibly a narcisist that
HAS A deep REASON
that keeps you hanging around. That victim.
You might be one
That wants
to be
togethet
. . but
with him hard working on the relationsip
and
. you in control.
Big question.
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Exsol300
The problem with the first tip is that it is completely ineffective if the narcissist is a parental figure or someone who holds power over you that can change your life for the worse since they will most likely take your efforts at setting boundaries as an attack on them.
This tip is more effective for narcissists who don't fall into those power imbalances.
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The problem with the first tip is that it is completely ineffective if the narcissist is a parental figure or someone who holds power over you that can change your life for the worse since they will most likely take your efforts at setting boundaries as an attack on them.
This tip is more effective for narcissists who don't fall into those power imbalances.
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SENPAI-C-Mihai
I tried, but it doesn't work; on the contrary, they try to get revenge because you left them, and after you set boundaries, they try to violate them. They hack you, spread false rumors, break into your house when you're at work, or dig into your past. I can say that they are obsessive beings who do not take responsibility for their actions.
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I tried, but it doesn't work; on the contrary, they try to get revenge because you left them, and after you set boundaries, they try to violate them. They hack you, spread false rumors, break into your house when you're at work, or dig into your past. I can say that they are obsessive beings who do not take responsibility for their actions.
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RegularInvader
A toxic friend from junior year of high school was practically a narcissist. The friends group for some reason still hung out with him so I stayed away from all of them when senior year came along. Shortly after graduation is when I snapped at him with reverse psychology. I was so relieved to never see him again after that.
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A toxic friend from junior year of high school was practically a narcissist. The friends group for some reason still hung out with him so I stayed away from all of them when senior year came along. Shortly after graduation is when I snapped at him with reverse psychology. I was so relieved to never see him again after that.
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aleleotta350
Best thing to do is escape. If it is not possible then be evil to them (TO THEM ONLY) and don't show any remorse. If you do then you are already doomed. They are not worth losing yourself. If they call you evil, don't be ashamed. Its not what you are if you are showing an evil behavior just to them and not everybody else.
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Best thing to do is escape. If it is not possible then be evil to them (TO THEM ONLY) and don't show any remorse. If you do then you are already doomed. They are not worth losing yourself. If they call you evil, don't be ashamed. Its not what you are if you are showing an evil behavior just to them and not everybody else.
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brynner_boutique
Everyone saying leave
SHUT UP
Most children in America deal with narcissistic parents (mostly mothers) and are minors that can’t escape
You acting like we are incompetent and can simply leave is not helpful
Anyone out there with narcissistic parents IT WILL END ONE DAY AND YOU ARE SO STRONG
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Everyone saying leave
SHUT UP
Most children in America deal with narcissistic parents (mostly mothers) and are minors that can’t escape
You acting like we are incompetent and can simply leave is not helpful
Anyone out there with narcissistic parents IT WILL END ONE DAY AND YOU ARE SO STRONG
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soIeil
i /was/ a narcissist myself, (thats a whole different and personal story) and dealing with a narcissistic person myself right now. its tough trying to watch this video and seeing myself in this narcissist position. even though i came to help myself, it felt like it worsened my problem.
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i /was/ a narcissist myself, (thats a whole different and personal story) and dealing with a narcissistic person myself right now. its tough trying to watch this video and seeing myself in this narcissist position. even though i came to help myself, it felt like it worsened my problem.
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A55a551n
Timestamps
1. Set boundaries 0: 44
2. Be firm 1: 34
3. Gray rocking 2: 14
4. Understand narcissism 3: 11
5. It's not about you 3: 52
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. Set boundaries 0: 44
2. Be firm 1: 34
3. Gray rocking 2: 14
4. Understand narcissism 3: 11
5. It's not about you 3: 52
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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MegaManNeo
Okay what am I suppose to do if the department's supervisor is a narcissist and he constantly ignores that he mustn't give me anymore orders since he got promoted but rather has to communicate that with my boss
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Okay what am I suppose to do if the department's supervisor is a narcissist and he constantly ignores that he mustn't give me anymore orders since he got promoted but rather has to communicate that with my boss
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ozymandias3097
When can I see a video on how I can be better at being a narcissist We’re just as important as people who aren’t narcissists. In fact, we’re probably even more important. me especially.
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When can I see a video on how I can be better at being a narcissist We’re just as important as people who aren’t narcissists. In fact, we’re probably even more important. me especially.
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charlesjones9858
What happens if the narcissist follows you when you leave or if they keep violating your boundaries Or worse yet, what if the narcissist does something terrible to get your attention
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What happens if the narcissist follows you when you leave or if they keep violating your boundaries Or worse yet, what if the narcissist does something terrible to get your attention
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BlaqAdam
Nothing is more narcissistic than placing that title on someone. It automatically absolves you from any fault you might have had in the relationship to those listening to you.
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Nothing is more narcissistic than placing that title on someone. It automatically absolves you from any fault you might have had in the relationship to those listening to you.
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ankitanandy6076
I had created huge physical distance with my narcissist family. It changed my life. Now they are trying to sow doubt in my happy love life. they just don't give up.
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I had created huge physical distance with my narcissist family. It changed my life. Now they are trying to sow doubt in my happy love life. they just don't give up.
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noobzito2
Timestamp! (I'm back)
-0: 45 Set boundaries
-1: 35 Be firm
-2: 15 Gray rocking
-3: 11 Understand narcissism
-3: 53 It's not about you
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Timestamp! (I'm back)
-0: 45 Set boundaries
-1: 35 Be firm
-2: 15 Gray rocking
-3: 11 Understand narcissism
-3: 53 It's not about you
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TacSprint
Stop with the narcissist crap. Only a mental health professional can diagnose NPD. It's becoming a buzzword for people we don't like.
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Stop with the narcissist crap. Only a mental health professional can diagnose NPD. It's becoming a buzzword for people we don't like.
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