5 Types of Children from Toxic Families
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Date: 2023-08-20
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agyaat
I don't know how many people will understand my pov.
I am eldest daughter of an Indian dysfunctional joint family. I have grown up watching arguments and fights, literally every day. I see my mother crying. I know she is hurt so I try to be there for her so that she can atleast talk to me but lately I am unable to offer her any support. I am tired of the constant fights, loud voices, shouting and arguments. It is making me crazy. I am mad at my parents that they decided to stay in such toxic family just because of social values and neglected the fact that there children are getting affected by all this family drama. I am becoming distant from every one. I have lost all my friends because i feel like I have nothing to talk about. my conversation are generally me crying about something. so I have stopped talking to everyone so that I don't burden them. but I am unable to deal with all this right now.
I understand the sacrifices my parents have made for me. I respect that. but they don't understand that I need my own space my life. the choices they made is not my fault. I want a happy normal life. but they don't understand such things.
I don't know who all can relate. but that's just everyday of my life.
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I don't know how many people will understand my pov.
I am eldest daughter of an Indian dysfunctional joint family. I have grown up watching arguments and fights, literally every day. I see my mother crying. I know she is hurt so I try to be there for her so that she can atleast talk to me but lately I am unable to offer her any support. I am tired of the constant fights, loud voices, shouting and arguments. It is making me crazy. I am mad at my parents that they decided to stay in such toxic family just because of social values and neglected the fact that there children are getting affected by all this family drama. I am becoming distant from every one. I have lost all my friends because i feel like I have nothing to talk about. my conversation are generally me crying about something. so I have stopped talking to everyone so that I don't burden them. but I am unable to deal with all this right now.
I understand the sacrifices my parents have made for me. I respect that. but they don't understand that I need my own space my life. the choices they made is not my fault. I want a happy normal life. but they don't understand such things.
I don't know who all can relate. but that's just everyday of my life.
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Damin
I was always a daydreamer; my father and grandfather are both great readers so they passed that to me, also with the love for history. Since i was the little one of 3 childrens i was the most close to my parents, so i always heard the fight over money or other problems, how my sister was the golden child i was oftem compared to her because i wasn't good at important subjetcs (like math or science) or in female sports (i'm trans male. My mother was the worst to me because i wasn't like my sister and she often called a waste of my (her) money, my sister wasn't too pleased with my mothers atention on her because she often wanted her to do things my sister didn't wanted, so my sister didn't was bad to me, neither was my brother who was often left alone (he was the midle child, betwen the 3 of we get along pretty well, but my mother always wanted to do all a competion, so all of us dreamed with the day we could leave the house, and when my sibling go college i day dreamed even more; now the pandemic has retarded my start in college, so i have some more years here than i wanted.
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I was always a daydreamer; my father and grandfather are both great readers so they passed that to me, also with the love for history. Since i was the little one of 3 childrens i was the most close to my parents, so i always heard the fight over money or other problems, how my sister was the golden child i was oftem compared to her because i wasn't good at important subjetcs (like math or science) or in female sports (i'm trans male. My mother was the worst to me because i wasn't like my sister and she often called a waste of my (her) money, my sister wasn't too pleased with my mothers atention on her because she often wanted her to do things my sister didn't wanted, so my sister didn't was bad to me, neither was my brother who was often left alone (he was the midle child, betwen the 3 of we get along pretty well, but my mother always wanted to do all a competion, so all of us dreamed with the day we could leave the house, and when my sibling go college i day dreamed even more; now the pandemic has retarded my start in college, so i have some more years here than i wanted.
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MR_
I feel like most parents are narcissistic assholes, I feel like that cause I never seen a parent that was treating their child right. I have seen a much better parents then mine but still they were narcissistic in someway. Maybe I just didnt care that much about other parents. Sometimes I daydream about having good parents and how my life would look if they were good people but it doesnt matter. I am who I am because of them, I cant change that. Our childhood makes us who we are and how we perceive the world. I dont like to talk about my feeling and problems probably because nobody cared, Im chill most of the time in school but I can be aggressive too. I sometimes talk a lot and really fast but sometimes I just dont say a word for a while. I dont care about rules but I dont get in trouble. At home I feel just tired and powerless but still I spend most of my time here. I dont know who I am but still I feel like I will never get over it.
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I feel like most parents are narcissistic assholes, I feel like that cause I never seen a parent that was treating their child right. I have seen a much better parents then mine but still they were narcissistic in someway. Maybe I just didnt care that much about other parents. Sometimes I daydream about having good parents and how my life would look if they were good people but it doesnt matter. I am who I am because of them, I cant change that. Our childhood makes us who we are and how we perceive the world. I dont like to talk about my feeling and problems probably because nobody cared, Im chill most of the time in school but I can be aggressive too. I sometimes talk a lot and really fast but sometimes I just dont say a word for a while. I dont care about rules but I dont get in trouble. At home I feel just tired and powerless but still I spend most of my time here. I dont know who I am but still I feel like I will never get over it.
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Sirius
Due to pressure of being the best and not embarrass the family, from my mom mostly, because father was gone and wouldn't care much, just drink and make scandals and mom tried to raise us good but she didn't so good anyway, you can't go and be happy and read books try to be best at knowledge, have high grades to satisfy family and not many friends just because you're afraid of manipulation or because you're just too pure with other people even if you say the wrong things to them, without intention, so I was always the lost child/dreamer, while my sister is the hero one, to receive love, must perform good at school, same happened to me, but I know myself intuitively, that's why as Pisces, I use my intuition mostly, I don't trust logics, or don't follow logical path, because I've learnt how I am and where I'm stronger!
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Due to pressure of being the best and not embarrass the family, from my mom mostly, because father was gone and wouldn't care much, just drink and make scandals and mom tried to raise us good but she didn't so good anyway, you can't go and be happy and read books try to be best at knowledge, have high grades to satisfy family and not many friends just because you're afraid of manipulation or because you're just too pure with other people even if you say the wrong things to them, without intention, so I was always the lost child/dreamer, while my sister is the hero one, to receive love, must perform good at school, same happened to me, but I know myself intuitively, that's why as Pisces, I use my intuition mostly, I don't trust logics, or don't follow logical path, because I've learnt how I am and where I'm stronger!
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Breanna
I relate to four out of five of these the only I dont relate to is 5 growing up I felt like I had to be there for my brother and sister because my mom wasnt she always had her head up her ass when it came to me in fact she didnt even know I was suicidal til I was 22 I would alway put on a brave face and act like everything was ok when it wasnt I also hid away in my room got in trouble at home yet was good quiet kid at school that didnt want any trouble all because I was more scared of my parents then school in fact school was my haven I felt so salf loved and accepted by my teachers that I wanted to be the best student they ever had I remember getting bullied so much I had to eat in the principals office school was rough but home was worse
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I relate to four out of five of these the only I dont relate to is 5 growing up I felt like I had to be there for my brother and sister because my mom wasnt she always had her head up her ass when it came to me in fact she didnt even know I was suicidal til I was 22 I would alway put on a brave face and act like everything was ok when it wasnt I also hid away in my room got in trouble at home yet was good quiet kid at school that didnt want any trouble all because I was more scared of my parents then school in fact school was my haven I felt so salf loved and accepted by my teachers that I wanted to be the best student they ever had I remember getting bullied so much I had to eat in the principals office school was rough but home was worse
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Tran
I found that my personality is mixed from each type. At home, I just want to hide and spend time on my own, my family said that Im selfish because I dont want to get involved in any problems. But, Im entirely a joker in front of other people outside and like making other laugh even if it me feel ridiculous. However, I have very low self-esteem, and fear of being a failure or taking risks and I hate competitions. Right now, Im still miserable and struggle from doing everything especially something relating to my career. Just share my story. Hope to see other opinions.
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I found that my personality is mixed from each type. At home, I just want to hide and spend time on my own, my family said that Im selfish because I dont want to get involved in any problems. But, Im entirely a joker in front of other people outside and like making other laugh even if it me feel ridiculous. However, I have very low self-esteem, and fear of being a failure or taking risks and I hate competitions. Right now, Im still miserable and struggle from doing everything especially something relating to my career. Just share my story. Hope to see other opinions.
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Priya
I'm both the spacegoat troublemaker and lost child/dreamer. I usually get furious at my parents and i disrespect them most of the time by yelling. But after that I always breakdown into tears. I regret it so much that I always wish to die. But again, a new day starts. And the same thing goes on. And I think my parents aren't even toxic they do so much for me. But there are a few things ion like bout them. But it's okay ig since everyone has good and bad qualities both. And i am the worst daughter to them. I want to change so badly but my anger takes over me.
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I'm both the spacegoat troublemaker and lost child/dreamer. I usually get furious at my parents and i disrespect them most of the time by yelling. But after that I always breakdown into tears. I regret it so much that I always wish to die. But again, a new day starts. And the same thing goes on. And I think my parents aren't even toxic they do so much for me. But there are a few things ion like bout them. But it's okay ig since everyone has good and bad qualities both. And i am the worst daughter to them. I want to change so badly but my anger takes over me.
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Josefine
The class clown one is me haha I don't have any of my crazy family anymore. Because I cut them off and thats the best and onlything I have done for myself in my 20 years of living. My mom and I lived alone together bc my dad moved away when I got born and after that my mom had been drinking tons of wine and been narcissistic ever since. It's okay to push bad people away. if they treat you unworthy or just as a pet. don't be afraid to push them away bc they don't deserve you. You are way too sweet for them. Just let go, it's hard but it helps! I promise
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The class clown one is me haha I don't have any of my crazy family anymore. Because I cut them off and thats the best and onlything I have done for myself in my 20 years of living. My mom and I lived alone together bc my dad moved away when I got born and after that my mom had been drinking tons of wine and been narcissistic ever since. It's okay to push bad people away. if they treat you unworthy or just as a pet. don't be afraid to push them away bc they don't deserve you. You are way too sweet for them. Just let go, it's hard but it helps! I promise
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Steven
What about the Kid that comes across as bright, talkative, sweet etc, to adults, but keeps their bedroom like a bomb hit it, never cleans up after themselves, not the best at self-care, oh and acts out at school, does not do their homework. Also, has a hard time making friends except with their younger cousins etc and the mother is somewhat a Narcissist, but sees the child as perfect! Even, blames the school, the other kids, etc, for the kids issues outside the home!
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What about the Kid that comes across as bright, talkative, sweet etc, to adults, but keeps their bedroom like a bomb hit it, never cleans up after themselves, not the best at self-care, oh and acts out at school, does not do their homework. Also, has a hard time making friends except with their younger cousins etc and the mother is somewhat a Narcissist, but sees the child as perfect! Even, blames the school, the other kids, etc, for the kids issues outside the home!
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Poundra
I'm the lost child. As my parents giving me my name which means sound in Sanskrit. Now that's the only thing that they can get from me. As time passed I see no solutions that may work for them. So I'm starting a new life in a new place. I only provide them good news and probably money in the near future. I suggest for the other lost children out there for you to make your own paradise. You are all deserves to be happy.
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I'm the lost child. As my parents giving me my name which means sound in Sanskrit. Now that's the only thing that they can get from me. As time passed I see no solutions that may work for them. So I'm starting a new life in a new place. I only provide them good news and probably money in the near future. I suggest for the other lost children out there for you to make your own paradise. You are all deserves to be happy.
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mayonnaise
I identify with 1 and 4. I haven't even told my best friend that I have family problems, almost all of my classmates think I'm just, well, that one kid who tells terrible jokes and wins contests, and my teacher seems to know but she never said anything about it. Only my crush and his friend know about that stuff, but they think of my family as their ideal family because they're starved of affection and attention.
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I identify with 1 and 4. I haven't even told my best friend that I have family problems, almost all of my classmates think I'm just, well, that one kid who tells terrible jokes and wins contests, and my teacher seems to know but she never said anything about it. Only my crush and his friend know about that stuff, but they think of my family as their ideal family because they're starved of affection and attention.
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AnimalMemes
I am most likely the clown because I'm mostly ignored by my parents, and I do have anxiety and only 2 friends because the other one was toxic and in third grade, I would get bullied I would most likely I think of myself as a pushover I don't defend myself. and I also make my siblings. Laugh so I don't have to I can never remember when I last laugh, and my older brother makes everybody laugh except for me.
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I am most likely the clown because I'm mostly ignored by my parents, and I do have anxiety and only 2 friends because the other one was toxic and in third grade, I would get bullied I would most likely I think of myself as a pushover I don't defend myself. and I also make my siblings. Laugh so I don't have to I can never remember when I last laugh, and my older brother makes everybody laugh except for me.
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popsocket
I remember watching those animes where the protagonist is someone lonely or struggling at the first episode and a few episodes later, they meet other people and they welcome the protagonist to a home that they deserve. Watching the filler episodes where they interact as a family makes me imagine that I'm also in that scenario. Having a toxic family really does make me do these things.
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I remember watching those animes where the protagonist is someone lonely or struggling at the first episode and a few episodes later, they meet other people and they welcome the protagonist to a home that they deserve. Watching the filler episodes where they interact as a family makes me imagine that I'm also in that scenario. Having a toxic family really does make me do these things.
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Growmance
I have a narcissistic mother who super conservative who use to be verbally and mentally abusive. I never got a lot of attention growing up and and their was one point where my moms bf would fight in the house and would have to listen to it as a teenager for over an hour. It would be so loud I would blast Eminem. As a grown up now I turned into Mascot due to my broken home and childhood.
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I have a narcissistic mother who super conservative who use to be verbally and mentally abusive. I never got a lot of attention growing up and and their was one point where my moms bf would fight in the house and would have to listen to it as a teenager for over an hour. It would be so loud I would blast Eminem. As a grown up now I turned into Mascot due to my broken home and childhood.
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rainclouds
Definitely the hero/responsible type. I've heard that You're so mature for your age! one too many times. :( My dad is definitely toxic, emotionally abuses my mom and I've had to grow up i guess, to figure out how to save myself and my sister from his exploding anger. And now, to become a listening ear for my dad's depressions and my mom's sufferings courtesy of my dad.
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Definitely the hero/responsible type. I've heard that You're so mature for your age! one too many times. :( My dad is definitely toxic, emotionally abuses my mom and I've had to grow up i guess, to figure out how to save myself and my sister from his exploding anger. And now, to become a listening ear for my dad's depressions and my mom's sufferings courtesy of my dad.
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SOVA
I'm the lost child
It's just describing me, I escape My parents arguing by daydreaming so much that I sometimes have problems getting back to reality
Well, maybe that's an exaggeration, but it's close to that, and I have problems focusing because of that, at school, at home, everyday
Everyone sees me as a good child since I don't want problems and am really shy
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I'm the lost child
It's just describing me, I escape My parents arguing by daydreaming so much that I sometimes have problems getting back to reality
Well, maybe that's an exaggeration, but it's close to that, and I have problems focusing because of that, at school, at home, everyday
Everyone sees me as a good child since I don't want problems and am really shy
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robonene
as a preeten i was type 1 and 5, as a teen, type 3, now as a young adult im type 4 and i hate it i just want to cut my family off but it's impossible, i wouldn't survive by myself for even a week due to my health issues: ( so i just want to make others feel happy at least, it's better to laugh with them than being lonely and scared of everything.
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as a preeten i was type 1 and 5, as a teen, type 3, now as a young adult im type 4 and i hate it i just want to cut my family off but it's impossible, i wouldn't survive by myself for even a week due to my health issues: ( so i just want to make others feel happy at least, it's better to laugh with them than being lonely and scared of everything.
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Warren
I am the scapegoat type. I still couldn't keep myself out of trouble, not because I still do not know how to behave, but because the difficult people I have to deal with at home don't themselves. I have a younger brother who is in danger of becoming this and another who is the class clown type.
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I am the scapegoat type. I still couldn't keep myself out of trouble, not because I still do not know how to behave, but because the difficult people I have to deal with at home don't themselves. I have a younger brother who is in danger of becoming this and another who is the class clown type.
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Sakib
I'm the lost child/dreamer, I fealt really bad when my family was discussing how quiet I am, saying how I have no social skill right Infront of me. I am invisible so I am sure they didn't think twice before judging me straight to my face, but it really felt bad
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I'm the lost child/dreamer, I fealt really bad when my family was discussing how quiet I am, saying how I have no social skill right Infront of me. I am invisible so I am sure they didn't think twice before judging me straight to my face, but it really felt bad
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Queen
Your parent doesnt have to be the addiction for you to end up being the enabler. I had to care for my siblings while my parent went to work, and they never held the other parent accountable for anything; they laid around. But I had to be the adult replacement.
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Your parent doesnt have to be the addiction for you to end up being the enabler. I had to care for my siblings while my parent went to work, and they never held the other parent accountable for anything; they laid around. But I had to be the adult replacement.
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Tee
I was always a day dreamer. That was my escape, not from my family but from society. I dreamed of who I wanted to be so I can forget who I really was. My parents didnt know how to nurture my good points so I day dreamed most of the time.
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I was always a day dreamer. That was my escape, not from my family but from society. I dreamed of who I wanted to be so I can forget who I really was. My parents didnt know how to nurture my good points so I day dreamed most of the time.
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education
Try multiple homes. with multiple adults looking for a child's Allegiance and preference in Behavior. Now throw multiple divorces and break ups, on all sides, + heavy verbal and physical neglect and abuse.
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Try multiple homes. with multiple adults looking for a child's Allegiance and preference in Behavior. Now throw multiple divorces and break ups, on all sides, + heavy verbal and physical neglect and abuse.
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education
I think about family that are so toxic af and the children are so enough with it and kill themselves or become insane and killed the family? Yeah that kid like that need to go for therapy immediately.
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I think about family that are so toxic af and the children are so enough with it and kill themselves or become insane and killed the family? Yeah that kid like that need to go for therapy immediately.
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The
We tried to escape the abuse, but realised the scars mentally are permanent. We'll never be normal and it's affecting relationship between us, my sister and me. What did we do so wrong to suffer like this!
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We tried to escape the abuse, but realised the scars mentally are permanent. We'll never be normal and it's affecting relationship between us, my sister and me. What did we do so wrong to suffer like this!
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PF
Therapy, journaling, and recognizing you may be all types at various times in your journey, but doing whatever is best for you is how to cope and heal. Even though healing feels like a forever process.
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Therapy, journaling, and recognizing you may be all types at various times in your journey, but doing whatever is best for you is how to cope and heal. Even though healing feels like a forever process.
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