6 Types of Unhealthy Father Daughter Relationships
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Laventer_634
I am very ashamed to say that i am basically a victim of the second one. not physically, my father never has layed a hand on me but mentally, he doesn't support my choises or whatever but that's not the main problem, how he expresses it, he always yells, ti me, to my mom, he always thinks about money and money, he is the most miserable person i have ever meet, when i don't wanna talk to him he says stuff like Oh so you don't love me now that you have your phone? Or I am your father and you will answer to me, you live under MY roof and one day, in a big fight i threated that i would run away but he yelled that if i eber run away or hurt myself he will commit. yk. suide because he loves me so much this really affects my mental health but everytime i tell my mom she just says that my dad just doesn't understand easily and that i'm his duaghter so i should love him too
EDIT: (don't get me wrong, i love my mom, i just hate my dad)
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I am very ashamed to say that i am basically a victim of the second one. not physically, my father never has layed a hand on me but mentally, he doesn't support my choises or whatever but that's not the main problem, how he expresses it, he always yells, ti me, to my mom, he always thinks about money and money, he is the most miserable person i have ever meet, when i don't wanna talk to him he says stuff like Oh so you don't love me now that you have your phone? Or I am your father and you will answer to me, you live under MY roof and one day, in a big fight i threated that i would run away but he yelled that if i eber run away or hurt myself he will commit. yk. suide because he loves me so much this really affects my mental health but everytime i tell my mom she just says that my dad just doesn't understand easily and that i'm his duaghter so i should love him too
EDIT: (don't get me wrong, i love my mom, i just hate my dad)
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BUnicorn
My father is. rather wishy washy, first of all he's not been here physically, I call him/text him on the phone sometimes and visit him maybe every few months, (it rlly depends. I remember I didn't even talk to him at all, I might've been 7 or 8 and I couldn't even remember the look of him. But now we talk my slightly on the phone or text. He uplifts me, calls me a Princess and always praises me for being his only -- that he's wanted for so long like having a kids was like owning a toy. Like no! This is someone's life! An actual person! He always talks about how I am going to grow up and change the world and yes! Yes I am! I'm gonna make sure to marry someone who isn't like him! Someone who doesn't argue with my family, or trys to make things worse! I just wish I had a dad who was there physically, mentally, all of the 'llys'! This is long but I really needed to get this off my chest. Thank u so much for posting this
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My father is. rather wishy washy, first of all he's not been here physically, I call him/text him on the phone sometimes and visit him maybe every few months, (it rlly depends. I remember I didn't even talk to him at all, I might've been 7 or 8 and I couldn't even remember the look of him. But now we talk my slightly on the phone or text. He uplifts me, calls me a Princess and always praises me for being his only -- that he's wanted for so long like having a kids was like owning a toy. Like no! This is someone's life! An actual person! He always talks about how I am going to grow up and change the world and yes! Yes I am! I'm gonna make sure to marry someone who isn't like him! Someone who doesn't argue with my family, or trys to make things worse! I just wish I had a dad who was there physically, mentally, all of the 'llys'! This is long but I really needed to get this off my chest. Thank u so much for posting this
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Bobbie
When I got my divorce our daughter age 7 wanted to go live with her dad and his new wife. She would not have to clean her room and get an allowance each week, and other goodies. I was really having a hard time making ends meet and I agreed to try it. For months she was happy and all seemed well. Then all communication stopped, phone number had been changed to unlisted etc. and they had moved. She was now eight. When I did find her she was withdrawn, afraid to talk without him there. and I was like what is going on? A few months later I met a really nice man and we were getting serious. first words out of her mouth was Will he want to play games with me too? At age 9 she went to her school councilor and I got a call. She wanted to come home. I went. my ex threw a fit. and the truth came out. I felt like I could kill him for what he had done to her. She is grown now. he is dead. She still cannot talk about it. or him.
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When I got my divorce our daughter age 7 wanted to go live with her dad and his new wife. She would not have to clean her room and get an allowance each week, and other goodies. I was really having a hard time making ends meet and I agreed to try it. For months she was happy and all seemed well. Then all communication stopped, phone number had been changed to unlisted etc. and they had moved. She was now eight. When I did find her she was withdrawn, afraid to talk without him there. and I was like what is going on? A few months later I met a really nice man and we were getting serious. first words out of her mouth was Will he want to play games with me too? At age 9 she went to her school councilor and I got a call. She wanted to come home. I went. my ex threw a fit. and the truth came out. I felt like I could kill him for what he had done to her. She is grown now. he is dead. She still cannot talk about it. or him.
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Mary
My relationship with my father is that were close yet far away. He was absent most of the time but he was there when I need him. Hes very alpha male and strict. I see him sometimes we talk, our relationship is pragmatic and he does give me useful advice. We do have a good decent relationship. He put me and my younger brother in a foster home when I was 4 months old, because at the time he was an alcoholic and knew because he was in such a state he couldnt take care of me or my brothers. He made sure that I wasnt placed into too many foster homes made sure I was put in a permanent foster home, which I was in for years. So even though he was absent, he was there but from afar. So, the question is, do I have daddy issues? Please be honest with me. Even if it hurts. Ive watched the whole thing and I will say, my dad is none of these things listed in the video, thank god.
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My relationship with my father is that were close yet far away. He was absent most of the time but he was there when I need him. Hes very alpha male and strict. I see him sometimes we talk, our relationship is pragmatic and he does give me useful advice. We do have a good decent relationship. He put me and my younger brother in a foster home when I was 4 months old, because at the time he was an alcoholic and knew because he was in such a state he couldnt take care of me or my brothers. He made sure that I wasnt placed into too many foster homes made sure I was put in a permanent foster home, which I was in for years. So even though he was absent, he was there but from afar. So, the question is, do I have daddy issues? Please be honest with me. Even if it hurts. Ive watched the whole thing and I will say, my dad is none of these things listed in the video, thank god.
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Ajsen90
My father is the lost and verbally abusive father. He is a narcissist and was an alcoholic most of my childhood. He definitely had a difficult upbringing- abusive mother and a father who abandoned him at 10yo. He suffered guilt after losing his brother to gang violence when he didnt pick him up and watched his younger siblings fall into addiction as well. My father never sought help or therapy, only after he had liver failure from his drinking, he went to rehab but he didnt continue to get help. Please people, if you know you have experienced real trauma. get help! For the sake of your loved ones, especially your children and for your self. Heal. Because you will seek other ways to suppress the pain and usually take it out on innocent people, causing them so much damage.
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My father is the lost and verbally abusive father. He is a narcissist and was an alcoholic most of my childhood. He definitely had a difficult upbringing- abusive mother and a father who abandoned him at 10yo. He suffered guilt after losing his brother to gang violence when he didnt pick him up and watched his younger siblings fall into addiction as well. My father never sought help or therapy, only after he had liver failure from his drinking, he went to rehab but he didnt continue to get help. Please people, if you know you have experienced real trauma. get help! For the sake of your loved ones, especially your children and for your self. Heal. Because you will seek other ways to suppress the pain and usually take it out on innocent people, causing them so much damage.
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Reclamation
Stepping in and defending my daughter when Her Mother at times would kinda go overboard on some issues, but together as a family we often share option on a matter after my wife would let us address basic new hobbys. Confidence! As our daughter grow more an more skillful sportsmanship was her hunger lol team spirits ran highly along with a attitude of asking questions pertaining class assignments. Music was our family way of communicating and a lifestyle of self-respect. Fathering my daughter by showing confidence which opened opportunitys of qualitys giving her a strong foundation towards respecting community health an here lifes accomplishments. College graduate now an loving life. One thing we never thought we'd feel was our lost of her younger little brother.
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Stepping in and defending my daughter when Her Mother at times would kinda go overboard on some issues, but together as a family we often share option on a matter after my wife would let us address basic new hobbys. Confidence! As our daughter grow more an more skillful sportsmanship was her hunger lol team spirits ran highly along with a attitude of asking questions pertaining class assignments. Music was our family way of communicating and a lifestyle of self-respect. Fathering my daughter by showing confidence which opened opportunitys of qualitys giving her a strong foundation towards respecting community health an here lifes accomplishments. College graduate now an loving life. One thing we never thought we'd feel was our lost of her younger little brother.
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education
Is it possible for a dad to be both The Lost and The toxic types together? It sets me off how I finally realized that my father doesn't really care about me nor my well being. It's selfish to like this, yes, but recently my kinda quiet relationship with him (aka me being obedient as much as I can and not make problems) he isn't physically abusive, but was somehow not present in my life and now I struggle with being a socially acceptable person in college. Even seeing my other colleagues all affectionate with their fathers surprise me. Yes I hug and kiss my mother almost every day but it's weird for me when it comes to my father. I don't know where to begin self healing.
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Is it possible for a dad to be both The Lost and The toxic types together? It sets me off how I finally realized that my father doesn't really care about me nor my well being. It's selfish to like this, yes, but recently my kinda quiet relationship with him (aka me being obedient as much as I can and not make problems) he isn't physically abusive, but was somehow not present in my life and now I struggle with being a socially acceptable person in college. Even seeing my other colleagues all affectionate with their fathers surprise me. Yes I hug and kiss my mother almost every day but it's weird for me when it comes to my father. I don't know where to begin self healing.
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Bunnies
My father is kind and affectionate but he cant listen to me when I need him. Everyone is different but that side of him is not fun. He was almost NEVER involved in my school activities but came to every yearly event before summer vacation. He's barely involved in my personal life or feelings and takes everything I say as an attack. It's not fun to be around him because we don't really do stuff together and have fun. Mom does all that and more. I fainted today at the gym and he didn't even ask me more about it, probably bc he thinks I look fine. And I am fine now, but I just wish he could care to ask and listen more without making mean comments.
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My father is kind and affectionate but he cant listen to me when I need him. Everyone is different but that side of him is not fun. He was almost NEVER involved in my school activities but came to every yearly event before summer vacation. He's barely involved in my personal life or feelings and takes everything I say as an attack. It's not fun to be around him because we don't really do stuff together and have fun. Mom does all that and more. I fainted today at the gym and he didn't even ask me more about it, probably bc he thinks I look fine. And I am fine now, but I just wish he could care to ask and listen more without making mean comments.
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Tobi
I had a father who was abusive and developed drinking problems. He was physically, emotionally and verbally abusive to me, my mom, and stepmom growing up. He would take his anger and frustration on me by yelling at me on top of his lungs. He would talk down on me, calling me names, insults my mother, and belittled me. My dad apologized to me for his actions but i wasn't buying his excuse. He doesn't understand that we're not as close as we are. If my dad loves, he wouldn't le traumatized, broken, damaged as I am today. Because of him, I have serious daddy issues, unable to maintain healthy relationship, depression, anxiety and sadness.
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I had a father who was abusive and developed drinking problems. He was physically, emotionally and verbally abusive to me, my mom, and stepmom growing up. He would take his anger and frustration on me by yelling at me on top of his lungs. He would talk down on me, calling me names, insults my mother, and belittled me. My dad apologized to me for his actions but i wasn't buying his excuse. He doesn't understand that we're not as close as we are. If my dad loves, he wouldn't le traumatized, broken, damaged as I am today. Because of him, I have serious daddy issues, unable to maintain healthy relationship, depression, anxiety and sadness.
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Kristel
My parents were divorced when I was three, and I didnt have a super close relationship with my dad. We got along fine and understood each other, but he really wasnt around much. My daughter is the one I worry about. Her father abandoned me when I was still pregnant with her, and theyve never met. I made it a point to speak well of him (without making excuses for him leaving, but she and I really struggled financially while she was growing up. She refers to him as sperm donor. Shes a kind adult with healthy boundaries in her relationships, but Im still concerned about the effect that having no dad has on her.
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My parents were divorced when I was three, and I didnt have a super close relationship with my dad. We got along fine and understood each other, but he really wasnt around much. My daughter is the one I worry about. Her father abandoned me when I was still pregnant with her, and theyve never met. I made it a point to speak well of him (without making excuses for him leaving, but she and I really struggled financially while she was growing up. She refers to him as sperm donor. Shes a kind adult with healthy boundaries in her relationships, but Im still concerned about the effect that having no dad has on her.
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Kaidee
And then there is the father that, takes out their anger for the daughters mother out on the daughter. On purpose or not he hurt the daughter and scarred her for life. He also takes control of the other sibling and turns her onto his side where they do everything they can to hurt the daughters mother. It doesnt effect the mother too much as shes learning to deal with it but it hurts the daughter way more. The daughter is then left in sorrow of missing the sibling while also feeling so much anger towards them both. And I dont know how my mind can deal with it anymore
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And then there is the father that, takes out their anger for the daughters mother out on the daughter. On purpose or not he hurt the daughter and scarred her for life. He also takes control of the other sibling and turns her onto his side where they do everything they can to hurt the daughters mother. It doesnt effect the mother too much as shes learning to deal with it but it hurts the daughter way more. The daughter is then left in sorrow of missing the sibling while also feeling so much anger towards them both. And I dont know how my mind can deal with it anymore
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ThatOneFanGirl
I say with my dad (technically stepdad) hes Lost and Abusive, it was never like then when I was 8 when he and my mom got married. only when I got older that he had gotten more abusive
But as I got older sometimes its hard for him to to keep his job with job and family with family. Hes more verbally abusive since his job is being a deputy but there was only one time when he was physically abusive, it was when I was 8 and that he dragged me by the ankles and his grip left bruises, my mom told him that if he ever did that again he would be divorced.
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I say with my dad (technically stepdad) hes Lost and Abusive, it was never like then when I was 8 when he and my mom got married. only when I got older that he had gotten more abusive
But as I got older sometimes its hard for him to to keep his job with job and family with family. Hes more verbally abusive since his job is being a deputy but there was only one time when he was physically abusive, it was when I was 8 and that he dragged me by the ankles and his grip left bruises, my mom told him that if he ever did that again he would be divorced.
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SoliudeSamm
Honestly I thought I was so weird and that it was abnormal to crave a relationship but hearing about the lost father made me think through things. Firstly, I want to strongly address, my Dad is a fantastic Dad, he raised me from birth, but I'm unable to see him due to the social services (hence why I have an absence of emotional support) and I do seek relationships just to feel love and affection, I'm so glad to know It's not my fault
(just to add, I've never had a mother figure and I've lived with my grandparents for 5 years now)
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Honestly I thought I was so weird and that it was abnormal to crave a relationship but hearing about the lost father made me think through things. Firstly, I want to strongly address, my Dad is a fantastic Dad, he raised me from birth, but I'm unable to see him due to the social services (hence why I have an absence of emotional support) and I do seek relationships just to feel love and affection, I'm so glad to know It's not my fault
(just to add, I've never had a mother figure and I've lived with my grandparents for 5 years now)
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education
My dad has done most of these. He's more of the pampering, lost, and toxic father. Although my dad shows me affection, it's not the exact affection that I actually want. I want his praise and support for how hard I try. He always wants what's best for me, not even letting me choose what I actually want to do. And even when I actually want to do something, he wouldn't let me have those dreams. I love my dad, but I also truly resent him. He doesn't understand me even though he says he loves and want what's best for me.
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My dad has done most of these. He's more of the pampering, lost, and toxic father. Although my dad shows me affection, it's not the exact affection that I actually want. I want his praise and support for how hard I try. He always wants what's best for me, not even letting me choose what I actually want to do. And even when I actually want to do something, he wouldn't let me have those dreams. I love my dad, but I also truly resent him. He doesn't understand me even though he says he loves and want what's best for me.
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Rajpal
It is weird for me idk
But my dad looks at me inappropriately many of the times, have anger issues and not really there for me emotionally.
I find it really UNCOMFORTABLE and insecure being around him, my home is not really my home.
Idk maybe I am the problem here maybe my thinking is wrong but i am very much hurt too, i cant even addressthis problem, or talk about this. But i want someone to help me, then at the same time i think its hopeless can't be resolved or maybe i am just thinking too much.
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It is weird for me idk
But my dad looks at me inappropriately many of the times, have anger issues and not really there for me emotionally.
I find it really UNCOMFORTABLE and insecure being around him, my home is not really my home.
Idk maybe I am the problem here maybe my thinking is wrong but i am very much hurt too, i cant even addressthis problem, or talk about this. But i want someone to help me, then at the same time i think its hopeless can't be resolved or maybe i am just thinking too much.
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Ishika
I think things too easily available are not given due worth, every body is hating there father but do they know other people in family are enjoying this drama. Is your mom given same treatment? Even if it is yes, then why not she is leaving? Females should start rejecting these kind of men as they only want a means to increase more like them and when we are not the same, they tries to show their supremacy
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I think things too easily available are not given due worth, every body is hating there father but do they know other people in family are enjoying this drama. Is your mom given same treatment? Even if it is yes, then why not she is leaving? Females should start rejecting these kind of men as they only want a means to increase more like them and when we are not the same, they tries to show their supremacy
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Ethereal_butterfly
I had a pampering father at first but after my sisters were born it all changed, He was always telling me to have responsbility and put all my effort to my sisters and ignore myself and after a few years he started changing he lied to me all the time broke my trust like a million times, guilt tripped me, and blame me for anything that goes wrong so right now i have the anguish father.
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I had a pampering father at first but after my sisters were born it all changed, He was always telling me to have responsbility and put all my effort to my sisters and ignore myself and after a few years he started changing he lied to me all the time broke my trust like a million times, guilt tripped me, and blame me for anything that goes wrong so right now i have the anguish father.
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MissWalker
Mine is definitely the lost father, but add enjoyment from my sadness. There are so many pictures of me crying when I was young. I knew that when I cried, the camera was coming in my face. Hurting my feelings and then laughing. He told me he couldnt do it to my mom, so he does it to me. He has always been wonderful to my mom, then switched with me. I'm 24 now, it is what it is.
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Mine is definitely the lost father, but add enjoyment from my sadness. There are so many pictures of me crying when I was young. I knew that when I cried, the camera was coming in my face. Hurting my feelings and then laughing. He told me he couldnt do it to my mom, so he does it to me. He has always been wonderful to my mom, then switched with me. I'm 24 now, it is what it is.
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NISHANT
My father made me feel like I have to depend on him otherwise I will be ruined that made me sooo. Soo suck, and he made me feel like he is helpless he is so stressed and under so unhappy to have a daughter like me. As a result i stopped talking to myself and hate myself and feels like it is better to me to die as all my dreams crash
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My father made me feel like I have to depend on him otherwise I will be ruined that made me sooo. Soo suck, and he made me feel like he is helpless he is so stressed and under so unhappy to have a daughter like me. As a result i stopped talking to myself and hate myself and feels like it is better to me to die as all my dreams crash
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Percious
My dad told me whats the point of raising a kid if they dont help them in some way. And it makes me feel very codependent and very sad. And it makes me wonder what is the point of having kids? Is it so they will take care of me when im older? I realize thats unfair and unhealthy. I dont really know why people should have kids.
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My dad told me whats the point of raising a kid if they dont help them in some way. And it makes me feel very codependent and very sad. And it makes me wonder what is the point of having kids? Is it so they will take care of me when im older? I realize thats unfair and unhealthy. I dont really know why people should have kids.
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Kooky_Devil
Mines pamper and toxic, he gave me everything that I dont want or need (he also gave me the bad habit of buying stuff to make others like me) but also he doesnt believe I have a life outside of his little world. People outside only see that he gets me stuff and doesn't care about how he treats me
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Mines pamper and toxic, he gave me everything that I dont want or need (he also gave me the bad habit of buying stuff to make others like me) but also he doesnt believe I have a life outside of his little world. People outside only see that he gets me stuff and doesn't care about how he treats me
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Lulan
I had the lost father and i knew my relationships stemmed from my relation with my dad. I have an anxious attachment style and i have a guy who in reality reflects a father-character to me (we have a 4 year difference) and not only that, i did suffer self esteem issues
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I had the lost father and i knew my relationships stemmed from my relation with my dad. I have an anxious attachment style and i have a guy who in reality reflects a father-character to me (we have a 4 year difference) and not only that, i did suffer self esteem issues
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Australia
I have the lost father but you cant change your parents, can you? Live with what you have, some of my friends have lost their dads forever. I am grateful for having my dad alive but I wish he was a bit more supportive in terms of emotional matters. Thats okay.
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I have the lost father but you cant change your parents, can you? Live with what you have, some of my friends have lost their dads forever. I am grateful for having my dad alive but I wish he was a bit more supportive in terms of emotional matters. Thats okay.
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NISHANT
I don't know why did it happen to me all of sudden my father becomes so so toxic father, every my friends father are helping their daughter to be independent and let them their freedom and now I don't know how to stand up for myself
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I don't know why did it happen to me all of sudden my father becomes so so toxic father, every my friends father are helping their daughter to be independent and let them their freedom and now I don't know how to stand up for myself
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Khushi
Whenever i see my cousins, my freinds or any random girl happy with there father i hate it i lost it there and feel like i can be them atleast for once. I also want to experience these. I cant tolerate my own sister also.
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Whenever i see my cousins, my freinds or any random girl happy with there father i hate it i lost it there and feel like i can be them atleast for once. I also want to experience these. I cant tolerate my own sister also.
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