6 Signs You Were Never in Love
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Raph
I love my gf, weve been together for 3 years now, and the problem is, idk if the kind of guy I am can be in a relationship, because after spending a weekend at her house I already feel the need of coming back home to do my hobbies, because seeing their routine it seems like I couldnt do my stuff there, such as music, painting, studying, Im a guy who loves my time alone, but I also love her and this past week I was so into all of these things that I barely talked to her and she was so sad saying I was distant, I felt horrible, she gave an idea and said she wants me to live with her and her grandmother, but as I am a guy always singing, playing the guitar, getting messy with the paintings, Im not sure if this could work as her grandma is always there, it wouldnt feel like home and I wouldnt feel so comfortable, and I fear I would live unhappy, getting home from working all day, then giving attention to them, doing things for the house, and what about the time for my hobbies that make me so happy? Sometimes I make a mess with my tools and when its time to go to bed in my bedroom I leave it all there because nobody cares, I can take care of the it the next day, but when you are living in someone elses house its different, idk Im lost, I like the idea of doing what I like to do when I feel the need and nobody complaining because they need attention or because its too late to make a mess with my tools, it scares me idk what to do anymore, I fear leaving my family to live with her family and do not be able to feel like home, feel miserable because I cant do my stuff, and I feel so selfish saying this but it does help my mental health these things and I bet she gets mad when I say these things help me the most than being with her around
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I love my gf, weve been together for 3 years now, and the problem is, idk if the kind of guy I am can be in a relationship, because after spending a weekend at her house I already feel the need of coming back home to do my hobbies, because seeing their routine it seems like I couldnt do my stuff there, such as music, painting, studying, Im a guy who loves my time alone, but I also love her and this past week I was so into all of these things that I barely talked to her and she was so sad saying I was distant, I felt horrible, she gave an idea and said she wants me to live with her and her grandmother, but as I am a guy always singing, playing the guitar, getting messy with the paintings, Im not sure if this could work as her grandma is always there, it wouldnt feel like home and I wouldnt feel so comfortable, and I fear I would live unhappy, getting home from working all day, then giving attention to them, doing things for the house, and what about the time for my hobbies that make me so happy? Sometimes I make a mess with my tools and when its time to go to bed in my bedroom I leave it all there because nobody cares, I can take care of the it the next day, but when you are living in someone elses house its different, idk Im lost, I like the idea of doing what I like to do when I feel the need and nobody complaining because they need attention or because its too late to make a mess with my tools, it scares me idk what to do anymore, I fear leaving my family to live with her family and do not be able to feel like home, feel miserable because I cant do my stuff, and I feel so selfish saying this but it does help my mental health these things and I bet she gets mad when I say these things help me the most than being with her around
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SUB01
This Hits hard from the very start up to the last, I somehow know that I was never in love with her but I chose to ignore it, up until I found this video by YT recommendations, I'll give you 1000 points for recommending this video to me, now I begin to believe that I was never in love, but curiosity alone.
In fact I know myself for being curious to almost everything until it reach this point that being on a relationship made me very curious. At first months I was very happy, excited, looking forward each day to talk with her or be with her, I moved too fast just what like the video has told us (which hit me the most, maybe because I've been also curious about what it feels for someone to do it for you. but after those things, I asked myself, what am i doing? am I enjoying this? Since then I tend to say, sorry I can't, I'm sorry I couldn't reply, I'm sorry too many things to do, sorry, sorry, & sorry. But, the real thing is that I don't feel anything, feelings, longing, or missing her, unlike before. Now it's been 2 weeks since we talk with each other, I don't feel sad or anything Idk why. But I told myself, I chosen the wrong path.
Everyone, I hope you choose the right path when it comes to relationships. Don't do things too quickly. Let the time goes as your affection for the other person bloom. but when that never happened, just stopped, don't make the other person to long for you, if your not interested anymore, or never want it to progress anymore. just stopped. that's all.
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This Hits hard from the very start up to the last, I somehow know that I was never in love with her but I chose to ignore it, up until I found this video by YT recommendations, I'll give you 1000 points for recommending this video to me, now I begin to believe that I was never in love, but curiosity alone.
In fact I know myself for being curious to almost everything until it reach this point that being on a relationship made me very curious. At first months I was very happy, excited, looking forward each day to talk with her or be with her, I moved too fast just what like the video has told us (which hit me the most, maybe because I've been also curious about what it feels for someone to do it for you. but after those things, I asked myself, what am i doing? am I enjoying this? Since then I tend to say, sorry I can't, I'm sorry I couldn't reply, I'm sorry too many things to do, sorry, sorry, & sorry. But, the real thing is that I don't feel anything, feelings, longing, or missing her, unlike before. Now it's been 2 weeks since we talk with each other, I don't feel sad or anything Idk why. But I told myself, I chosen the wrong path.
Everyone, I hope you choose the right path when it comes to relationships. Don't do things too quickly. Let the time goes as your affection for the other person bloom. but when that never happened, just stopped, don't make the other person to long for you, if your not interested anymore, or never want it to progress anymore. just stopped. that's all.
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Celina
Okay so I have a story!
Well I liked this guy for a while and we were friends, but then I told him I liked him, at first I didn't want a relationship or anything and he didn't either (with me) So when I told him bout my fellings and luckly nothing changed we continued to be best friends, and with the time I didn't feel I liked him anymore, I just loved to be around him buttt on my birthday I called him and some other friends to eat in a restaurant than when the night was over we went home together (bc we live in the same building) we were in the Uber and he was holding my hand cuddling me and pulling me close to hug me, well I didn't stop him I liked that we were close. I went to my apartment and could stop thinking about that, and I was wondering what I had to do and everything, at that time I was confused LoL well the day after my birthday, we went out together and got back home about 10 or 11pm than we were in his car and we talked there for a loooooong time and he starts to kiss me (don't worry guys were just kissed lol) but we were there kissing hugging and either of us didn't want to go, but like we agreed to continue as friends and didn't tell anyone bout that, cause I didn't want a relationship and neither did he, now I really thought I was in love but at the same time confused, If u read all this can u help? LoL I really don't know what to do I don't want to ruin or friendship and don't even know what I want tbh
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Okay so I have a story!
Well I liked this guy for a while and we were friends, but then I told him I liked him, at first I didn't want a relationship or anything and he didn't either (with me) So when I told him bout my fellings and luckly nothing changed we continued to be best friends, and with the time I didn't feel I liked him anymore, I just loved to be around him buttt on my birthday I called him and some other friends to eat in a restaurant than when the night was over we went home together (bc we live in the same building) we were in the Uber and he was holding my hand cuddling me and pulling me close to hug me, well I didn't stop him I liked that we were close. I went to my apartment and could stop thinking about that, and I was wondering what I had to do and everything, at that time I was confused LoL well the day after my birthday, we went out together and got back home about 10 or 11pm than we were in his car and we talked there for a loooooong time and he starts to kiss me (don't worry guys were just kissed lol) but we were there kissing hugging and either of us didn't want to go, but like we agreed to continue as friends and didn't tell anyone bout that, cause I didn't want a relationship and neither did he, now I really thought I was in love but at the same time confused, If u read all this can u help? LoL I really don't know what to do I don't want to ruin or friendship and don't even know what I want tbh
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Foreseer
. I'm hoping this gets washed over under all the other comments, I don't want to be recognized for this, I just wanted to find a place to yell out frustrations tonight, on a night where I feel cold once more
I'm still somewhat grieving from a breakup of my own, even if weeks have passed. and I still feel like I've been robbed of any closure or acknowledgement of how I truly felt. just because I didn't have the agency to understand that I didn't feel safe with my emotions, and now I feel villainized for it.
. I'm just tired of these sleepless nights to myself, tired of those thoughts coming back to me.
Too many people left me. and the one person I thought would be incapable of doing that. they proved me wrong.
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. I'm hoping this gets washed over under all the other comments, I don't want to be recognized for this, I just wanted to find a place to yell out frustrations tonight, on a night where I feel cold once more
I'm still somewhat grieving from a breakup of my own, even if weeks have passed. and I still feel like I've been robbed of any closure or acknowledgement of how I truly felt. just because I didn't have the agency to understand that I didn't feel safe with my emotions, and now I feel villainized for it.
. I'm just tired of these sleepless nights to myself, tired of those thoughts coming back to me.
Too many people left me. and the one person I thought would be incapable of doing that. they proved me wrong.
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Nana
it was exaxtly how it explained. it was obvious he is infatuationed and lived in fantasy, i tried to stop and slow down for the relationship but he did not listen. he did wedding propose where i really don't like. he doesn't care what i like or not. one day he moved my house without informed me and threat me to live together when i said NO. guess what happens, emotional abuse was left in our relationship. he is cold, he is cruel, he is selfish, and he hates me and depend on me but no matter how many times to explain, he doesn't realize. i want to run away.
i am emotional 7-11, forced to be happy to sustain his fantasy for love 24 hours 7 days 365days. i am blamed i am avoidance attachment.
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it was exaxtly how it explained. it was obvious he is infatuationed and lived in fantasy, i tried to stop and slow down for the relationship but he did not listen. he did wedding propose where i really don't like. he doesn't care what i like or not. one day he moved my house without informed me and threat me to live together when i said NO. guess what happens, emotional abuse was left in our relationship. he is cold, he is cruel, he is selfish, and he hates me and depend on me but no matter how many times to explain, he doesn't realize. i want to run away.
i am emotional 7-11, forced to be happy to sustain his fantasy for love 24 hours 7 days 365days. i am blamed i am avoidance attachment.
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Naamsai
Unn, I was right.
I never told him I was in love with him because I really wasn't.
The person I've truly always been in love with is you.
My heart was confused along the way and it hurted you. I'm sorry. I hope you let me make it up to you some day. If someone better will come and find you, I will work with all I have to make sure that I am that someone better you deserve.
In the mean time, please do not question the sincerity of my love for you. I'll prove to you over and over how it has to be you, it cannot be anyone but you.
Three years ago or three lives from now. I'm in love with you.
Undeniably, endlessly, tragically.
With Love and Devotion,
Naamsai.
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Unn, I was right.
I never told him I was in love with him because I really wasn't.
The person I've truly always been in love with is you.
My heart was confused along the way and it hurted you. I'm sorry. I hope you let me make it up to you some day. If someone better will come and find you, I will work with all I have to make sure that I am that someone better you deserve.
In the mean time, please do not question the sincerity of my love for you. I'll prove to you over and over how it has to be you, it cannot be anyone but you.
Three years ago or three lives from now. I'm in love with you.
Undeniably, endlessly, tragically.
With Love and Devotion,
Naamsai.
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Versa
If he was never in love good luck take care friend. I know why no other man has been with me outside of social media also in that way for over 17yrs not even really my ex-spouse Bradley Lee Haas separated never ever getting back together with he's in prison for something doesn't have anything to do with me. If that's it good thing haven't slept with anybody still 17yrs no other decent man in reality has tried to be with me or not the right man I don't get with just anybody. Haven't been around another man not anybody by myself like that for 17yrs just saying. If didn't like me or love me to answer to confim, i didn't know what to think.
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If he was never in love good luck take care friend. I know why no other man has been with me outside of social media also in that way for over 17yrs not even really my ex-spouse Bradley Lee Haas separated never ever getting back together with he's in prison for something doesn't have anything to do with me. If that's it good thing haven't slept with anybody still 17yrs no other decent man in reality has tried to be with me or not the right man I don't get with just anybody. Haven't been around another man not anybody by myself like that for 17yrs just saying. If didn't like me or love me to answer to confim, i didn't know what to think.
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Bluestone
Love always starts with infatuation and after a certain period of time Love becomes a choice. Love includes wanting them in your life, care for them. Most importantly respecting them and never doing such things which can hurt them. Standing with them in hard times against family, friends anything if the person is right, if the love feels genuine. People make love years after years then betray for something better and lost everything in the end.
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Love always starts with infatuation and after a certain period of time Love becomes a choice. Love includes wanting them in your life, care for them. Most importantly respecting them and never doing such things which can hurt them. Standing with them in hard times against family, friends anything if the person is right, if the love feels genuine. People make love years after years then betray for something better and lost everything in the end.
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Ronan
trying to convince myself that i werent in love but realised i was and still, problem was me and my ex werent ready for relationship and i moved too fast, it doesnt mean its not over but we both have to be better mentally and physically, right now im doing no contact. even tho its hard. i dont know for how long. what should i do? i really want to apologize for what i have done, im also really scared that she will find someone else
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trying to convince myself that i werent in love but realised i was and still, problem was me and my ex werent ready for relationship and i moved too fast, it doesnt mean its not over but we both have to be better mentally and physically, right now im doing no contact. even tho its hard. i dont know for how long. what should i do? i really want to apologize for what i have done, im also really scared that she will find someone else
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Jonathon
I realized after she dumped me for losing feelings (which Im pretty sure was a result of her confusing infatuation with love and using me as a mental vacation/ subsidy for her shit life) that I also did not love her, at least for who she was. I ignored all the red flags and loved someone who didnt exist, and I found that out really quick after grieving the first week. Im better off, thanks for the practice lol.
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I realized after she dumped me for losing feelings (which Im pretty sure was a result of her confusing infatuation with love and using me as a mental vacation/ subsidy for her shit life) that I also did not love her, at least for who she was. I ignored all the red flags and loved someone who didnt exist, and I found that out really quick after grieving the first week. Im better off, thanks for the practice lol.
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Sunflower
This is making me question if I truly love him. I didn't any of the points besides the first one, where we went too fast in the relationship. We have known each other for quite a while, but we became friends officially at some point and started dating around 5 months later. We quickly went to physical and emotional intimacy. I love him, at least I think I do.
I hope this isn't infatuation.
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This is making me question if I truly love him. I didn't any of the points besides the first one, where we went too fast in the relationship. We have known each other for quite a while, but we became friends officially at some point and started dating around 5 months later. We quickly went to physical and emotional intimacy. I love him, at least I think I do.
I hope this isn't infatuation.
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Elisabeth
Deep love takes time to mature on the behaviours of both partners. I cannot force deep love, but that could develop in time with plenty of communication between the two parties! my status is happily single until whenever! Yes I have flaws, which are there with me. Patience is required at all times. I could be the loyalist partner to my someone, should he requires/ desires me x
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Deep love takes time to mature on the behaviours of both partners. I cannot force deep love, but that could develop in time with plenty of communication between the two parties! my status is happily single until whenever! Yes I have flaws, which are there with me. Patience is required at all times. I could be the loyalist partner to my someone, should he requires/ desires me x
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Kyla
It's almost two months since I've broken up with my first boyfriend and unfortunately, he fits all of the signs aforementioned. In my case, I could only relate to the first and last sign. Looking at it in hindsight, he might not have probably loved me at all. And the thought that I wasted my time on someone who didn't actually care about me or my feelings is what hurts me the most.
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It's almost two months since I've broken up with my first boyfriend and unfortunately, he fits all of the signs aforementioned. In my case, I could only relate to the first and last sign. Looking at it in hindsight, he might not have probably loved me at all. And the thought that I wasted my time on someone who didn't actually care about me or my feelings is what hurts me the most.
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education
The worst feeling is someone manipulating you to make you feel like you aren't good to them or show them enough love, when in it's them that constantly put their job, friends and personal life in general in front of you. That kind of manipulation and gaslighting has damaged me to the point I simply cannot trust a woman when she says she loves me or sees a future with me.
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The worst feeling is someone manipulating you to make you feel like you aren't good to them or show them enough love, when in it's them that constantly put their job, friends and personal life in general in front of you. That kind of manipulation and gaslighting has damaged me to the point I simply cannot trust a woman when she says she loves me or sees a future with me.
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Choco
Brain: Let's watch this video, just what we sure are on right path!
Me: flashbacking to my parents relationship and noticing, what it have some signs, but quickly denies till very end of the vid
Heart: .but deep down she knew. it can be truth.
Edit: Everything is fine! Just I had doubts, but I thought a little more after writing it and everything is fine=)
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Brain: Let's watch this video, just what we sure are on right path!
Me: flashbacking to my parents relationship and noticing, what it have some signs, but quickly denies till very end of the vid
Heart: .but deep down she knew. it can be truth.
Edit: Everything is fine! Just I had doubts, but I thought a little more after writing it and everything is fine=)
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Indrid
If she took thousands from me, had me doing lots of repairs and hard labour for her and her friends, which were supposed to be my friends, abandoned me in the most painful way, when I needed her the most, and mocked my while her taxi passed me by as she left, I would say that is an indication, that there is a strong possibility, that she never loved me.
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If she took thousands from me, had me doing lots of repairs and hard labour for her and her friends, which were supposed to be my friends, abandoned me in the most painful way, when I needed her the most, and mocked my while her taxi passed me by as she left, I would say that is an indication, that there is a strong possibility, that she never loved me.
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Shoto
The first one is dumb and not always true. Sometimes people just fall easily
The third one. Idk about you but peple have left me in a blink of an eye once I say something they didn't. It's called anxiety. I'm not going to spew my guts out only to get my heart stomped
Six that is the most ridiculous thing ever. Anxiety does not mean lack of love
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The first one is dumb and not always true. Sometimes people just fall easily
The third one. Idk about you but peple have left me in a blink of an eye once I say something they didn't. It's called anxiety. I'm not going to spew my guts out only to get my heart stomped
Six that is the most ridiculous thing ever. Anxiety does not mean lack of love
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masey
I dont think speed has anything to do with it. I was stuck in a situationship for a year, which was fake love, and the pace was too slow
But I'm in a relationship with someone else now, we moved kinda fast, but it is real love. We face tough shit together and have expressed our feelings. So, speed shouldn't be a factor
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I dont think speed has anything to do with it. I was stuck in a situationship for a year, which was fake love, and the pace was too slow
But I'm in a relationship with someone else now, we moved kinda fast, but it is real love. We face tough shit together and have expressed our feelings. So, speed shouldn't be a factor
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Mikesthatguy
This stinks. he was my friend first. then I realized hr was my best friend. he said I was his. then we were together. it was the best night of my life. the feeling of him in my arms. I finally felt whole and complete. I just want him in My arms. but I realized he may not feel the same way I do. It hurts.
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This stinks. he was my friend first. then I realized hr was my best friend. he said I was his. then we were together. it was the best night of my life. the feeling of him in my arms. I finally felt whole and complete. I just want him in My arms. but I realized he may not feel the same way I do. It hurts.
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Brenda
I love deeply, without expectations, knowing flaws and strengths from the other person, but usually Im the one that feels that deeply, and years ago I began to closed up. I am very open in communication and expressive and for some reason thats not common. I want the same openness I give. Thats my boundary.
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I love deeply, without expectations, knowing flaws and strengths from the other person, but usually Im the one that feels that deeply, and years ago I began to closed up. I am very open in communication and expressive and for some reason thats not common. I want the same openness I give. Thats my boundary.
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Noah
I truly loved her. I wanted to give her whole world and wanted her to be my family.
But she didn't even want to understand you and didn't want to take responsibility for your trust. She never loved you and led you to the point where you don't want to love anyone again. I'm sorry, but your heart is dead.
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I truly loved her. I wanted to give her whole world and wanted her to be my family.
But she didn't even want to understand you and didn't want to take responsibility for your trust. She never loved you and led you to the point where you don't want to love anyone again. I'm sorry, but your heart is dead.
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Dylan
I feel like I've never been in a relationship because I've felt like I don't fit in with my generation of people. Felt like an Outcast in life since I was young and I just got to the point where if she's meant to be, she'll value and understand me for me, just tired of settling for the same results
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I feel like I've never been in a relationship because I've felt like I don't fit in with my generation of people. Felt like an Outcast in life since I was young and I just got to the point where if she's meant to be, she'll value and understand me for me, just tired of settling for the same results
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luvlieify
Even if you think you're in love with a person in the beginning, love may fade and before you know it, you're married with kids and just pretending that everything's OK. Then out of nowhere, you suddenly discovered that he had cheated on you and was the loser that you thought he was all along.
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Even if you think you're in love with a person in the beginning, love may fade and before you know it, you're married with kids and just pretending that everything's OK. Then out of nowhere, you suddenly discovered that he had cheated on you and was the loser that you thought he was all along.
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Kazusato_Iyama
My so called relationship of half a year ended a month ago, well we weren't technically together officially, after seeing this i realize she was never in love with me in the first place, while i fell in love with her more and more each day, i guess it's a good thing that we call it off.
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My so called relationship of half a year ended a month ago, well we weren't technically together officially, after seeing this i realize she was never in love with me in the first place, while i fell in love with her more and more each day, i guess it's a good thing that we call it off.
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education
What if the only one of these that I have is the first one? Like I'm sure I'm il love with this person, but we've known each other for like two months and an half or smt. Even tho in these two months we've spoken a lot and got to know each other very well
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What if the only one of these that I have is the first one? Like I'm sure I'm il love with this person, but we've known each other for like two months and an half or smt. Even tho in these two months we've spoken a lot and got to know each other very well
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