9 Reasons Someone Is Not Ready for a Relationship, Even If They Like You
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Eric
Number 5 really means they want to go and fck half a cityit can be credible if Mental health is involved (5 became 7)then it is the biggest excuse to reject u in a softer way.
NEVER settle with less than what you crave, you are not to be a free validation serviceremembernobody will take responsibility of the heart they broke even unintentionallyso a but we can still be friends is unacceptable, unless you know that person for a lot of time (mostly childhood friends) love is all or nothingyour effort pays off or it doesnttheres no midfields herethat will bring unnecessary conflict.
People that reject cannot be so selfish to ask for friendship right awayit is a lesser social status in our hierarchy (is not me, is evolutionary biology) and people goes in serious risk in order to go up into that hierarchy WITH YOU! give that person time to restore their confidence and serotonin levelsor disappear for goodsometimes erasing yourself is healthier for their mental health.
If you wonderyeah, im hurt from a rejection that happen back in 2020but im not just bursting outi've been figuring how not to make people i meet in the future go through the same pain i livedi can do better than the people that rejected me and take some responsibility for the glass i break, cuz thats how delicate feelings are and you have to respect them and protect them as much as possibleis not like when it comes to science and politicsin love your words can scar people
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Number 5 really means they want to go and fck half a cityit can be credible if Mental health is involved (5 became 7)then it is the biggest excuse to reject u in a softer way.
NEVER settle with less than what you crave, you are not to be a free validation serviceremembernobody will take responsibility of the heart they broke even unintentionallyso a but we can still be friends is unacceptable, unless you know that person for a lot of time (mostly childhood friends) love is all or nothingyour effort pays off or it doesnttheres no midfields herethat will bring unnecessary conflict.
People that reject cannot be so selfish to ask for friendship right awayit is a lesser social status in our hierarchy (is not me, is evolutionary biology) and people goes in serious risk in order to go up into that hierarchy WITH YOU! give that person time to restore their confidence and serotonin levelsor disappear for goodsometimes erasing yourself is healthier for their mental health.
If you wonderyeah, im hurt from a rejection that happen back in 2020but im not just bursting outi've been figuring how not to make people i meet in the future go through the same pain i livedi can do better than the people that rejected me and take some responsibility for the glass i break, cuz thats how delicate feelings are and you have to respect them and protect them as much as possibleis not like when it comes to science and politicsin love your words can scar people
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education
I don't know if these are the reasons my crush is so afraid to confess his feelings. Could anybody help me? God, I really dont know what to do.
I loved him so much and I still do. I can't forget his laugh, the way we were teasing each other. At first he couldn't even say my name, neither look me in the eyes. I loved him from the first time I ever saw him and I knew he was the one. He is the only one. And after some time, he started flirting. Then I confessed my love through a letter. Some weeks passed, we met in the bus and he asked me: Where have you been? We talked about some issues that did not have to do with the letter. And as we were to part, I said I know I messed up with that letter. No, not all he said. After that, he always looks for me in the room, always stares at me for long moments. Does he love me? Oh, I know he might, but I would like him to show it. Time passes, I will not be that young forever and college is ending in two years. In the next semester, him and I are going to choose different lessons based on the degree we want. I am afraid I will not see him again.
I think he is my soul mate, you know, what my soul searched and longs for. I hope one day our paths will cross. My heart just breaks everytime I see him.
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I don't know if these are the reasons my crush is so afraid to confess his feelings. Could anybody help me? God, I really dont know what to do.
I loved him so much and I still do. I can't forget his laugh, the way we were teasing each other. At first he couldn't even say my name, neither look me in the eyes. I loved him from the first time I ever saw him and I knew he was the one. He is the only one. And after some time, he started flirting. Then I confessed my love through a letter. Some weeks passed, we met in the bus and he asked me: Where have you been? We talked about some issues that did not have to do with the letter. And as we were to part, I said I know I messed up with that letter. No, not all he said. After that, he always looks for me in the room, always stares at me for long moments. Does he love me? Oh, I know he might, but I would like him to show it. Time passes, I will not be that young forever and college is ending in two years. In the next semester, him and I are going to choose different lessons based on the degree we want. I am afraid I will not see him again.
I think he is my soul mate, you know, what my soul searched and longs for. I hope one day our paths will cross. My heart just breaks everytime I see him.
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Aurora
I had a girlfriend from my 9 till my 16 years (we were the same age.
She helped me a lot in the beginning, making me see how toxic my family was with me.
But than, she just started to do the same thing not so much further after this help. So I get trapped, I was in a bubble created by her, were I basically only imatate her tastys and say that's mine too! , and she saw that I was luing and everything, but just started to push me into this more and more. There is much more she did with me, some on purpose and others she wouldn't do but has done.
Anyway, with my 16, I started to discover who I really are, I still were blind to her but, some part of my brain already noticed that she was a bad person for me, so I started to ingnore her without wanting it hahah, we've finished since than.
After I discover just a little of me, I started to be really romantic and give me away to so many other girls, still blinded, and this just helped me get my trauma worse and worse.
Now, I can't do any step with love. I'm pretending to be alone, but I desire to recover from this all first before deciding if I really want to be alone.
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I had a girlfriend from my 9 till my 16 years (we were the same age.
She helped me a lot in the beginning, making me see how toxic my family was with me.
But than, she just started to do the same thing not so much further after this help. So I get trapped, I was in a bubble created by her, were I basically only imatate her tastys and say that's mine too! , and she saw that I was luing and everything, but just started to push me into this more and more. There is much more she did with me, some on purpose and others she wouldn't do but has done.
Anyway, with my 16, I started to discover who I really are, I still were blind to her but, some part of my brain already noticed that she was a bad person for me, so I started to ingnore her without wanting it hahah, we've finished since than.
After I discover just a little of me, I started to be really romantic and give me away to so many other girls, still blinded, and this just helped me get my trauma worse and worse.
Now, I can't do any step with love. I'm pretending to be alone, but I desire to recover from this all first before deciding if I really want to be alone.
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The
I met a woman. I Took my time, became her friend, learned what made her tick, analyzed my feelings to see if what I was feeling was genuine, fell in love with her, and was unashamed with telling her up front. I made my expectaions clearly and she was all in. And then she wasn't. she hurt me and I realized that she had every one of these qualities.
It's been months and while I haven't let her hold me back from going out and meeting new women, I am now in this place where I cannot genuinely commit, knowing what I've lost.
In the end, you'll know when you know. I knew, but she didn't. I wish her the best, but I wish it had been different.
That I still feel means it was A) genuine, and B) a sign that I still need to work on myself to better get over a woman who was never right for me.
Take time and love yourself. You'll get there.
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I met a woman. I Took my time, became her friend, learned what made her tick, analyzed my feelings to see if what I was feeling was genuine, fell in love with her, and was unashamed with telling her up front. I made my expectaions clearly and she was all in. And then she wasn't. she hurt me and I realized that she had every one of these qualities.
It's been months and while I haven't let her hold me back from going out and meeting new women, I am now in this place where I cannot genuinely commit, knowing what I've lost.
In the end, you'll know when you know. I knew, but she didn't. I wish her the best, but I wish it had been different.
That I still feel means it was A) genuine, and B) a sign that I still need to work on myself to better get over a woman who was never right for me.
Take time and love yourself. You'll get there.
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Balletto
I really want to appreciate #drwiseone for his powerful love spell that brought my husband back to me after 2years of separation. He left home after we had an argument over a certain mistress he was seeing. He got so mad that he left home without coming home for weeks. I felt bad about everything and I talked to a friend about a possible way to get him back home. He introduced to #drwiseone and I visited his website then I messaged him, then I told him my problem. He did the spell and after 48hours my husband, Harry called and said he wanted to see me. We had lunch together and He told me he wanted me back and he also missed me. He apologized and that was it. view my about(profile) to see more of him
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I really want to appreciate #drwiseone for his powerful love spell that brought my husband back to me after 2years of separation. He left home after we had an argument over a certain mistress he was seeing. He got so mad that he left home without coming home for weeks. I felt bad about everything and I talked to a friend about a possible way to get him back home. He introduced to #drwiseone and I visited his website then I messaged him, then I told him my problem. He did the spell and after 48hours my husband, Harry called and said he wanted to see me. We had lunch together and He told me he wanted me back and he also missed me. He apologized and that was it. view my about(profile) to see more of him
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Stephanie
Often mine was 9. Or 1. I had solid feelings for one of my I guess exes. But j wanted him as a friend. He clearly wanted more and became toxic. Tried to compete with whomever I was with. This was years ago. But this video brought back those memories. I either was in an abusive toxic relationship. Or I was single and not ready to take the leap of long distance which mine would have been. He did not respect that or give me time to heal. And when I was ready poof gone ghosted. Its okay though because I met the love of my life shortly after. Sadly never heard from guy again. As I wish we could have been friends as opposed to a relationship. I guess some folks cant handle the friend zone.
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Often mine was 9. Or 1. I had solid feelings for one of my I guess exes. But j wanted him as a friend. He clearly wanted more and became toxic. Tried to compete with whomever I was with. This was years ago. But this video brought back those memories. I either was in an abusive toxic relationship. Or I was single and not ready to take the leap of long distance which mine would have been. He did not respect that or give me time to heal. And when I was ready poof gone ghosted. Its okay though because I met the love of my life shortly after. Sadly never heard from guy again. As I wish we could have been friends as opposed to a relationship. I guess some folks cant handle the friend zone.
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Amy
Feeling unhappy or dissatisfied with life is probably the biggest reason why I left my ex. Not only that, but the way I viewed reality was starting to feel more dis-morphed because of how he views his own life. I could list more reasons that compounded this decision, but ultimately, I just felt the need to create a wall and stop allowing certain thoughts and behaviors to influence my way of thinking. And granted, I feel like everything I've worked on to help myself mentally and emotionally just kept staggering backwards the longer I stayed with him. I truly feel as if being single is what was needed, and I'm hoping that in time, he can learn to accept and respect that.
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Feeling unhappy or dissatisfied with life is probably the biggest reason why I left my ex. Not only that, but the way I viewed reality was starting to feel more dis-morphed because of how he views his own life. I could list more reasons that compounded this decision, but ultimately, I just felt the need to create a wall and stop allowing certain thoughts and behaviors to influence my way of thinking. And granted, I feel like everything I've worked on to help myself mentally and emotionally just kept staggering backwards the longer I stayed with him. I truly feel as if being single is what was needed, and I'm hoping that in time, he can learn to accept and respect that.
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Qibs
I feel guilty with my ex. I have most of these signs. I am still struggling with college years and my mental health. We are in ldr and I can't commit to her everyday (chatting and calling etc. Tbh, im not someone who always have phone in my hand. I just feel anxious if I'm using phone for too long. She was very nice with me. She loved me unconditionally but I can't commit in relationship anymore. I feel exhausted. Thinking about her make me feel anxious because i keep on thinking that i can't reciprocate her energy. Sometimes, I argue with myself if i do really fall for her or I just like her. But, I also feel hurt with our breakup Im pathetic
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I feel guilty with my ex. I have most of these signs. I am still struggling with college years and my mental health. We are in ldr and I can't commit to her everyday (chatting and calling etc. Tbh, im not someone who always have phone in my hand. I just feel anxious if I'm using phone for too long. She was very nice with me. She loved me unconditionally but I can't commit in relationship anymore. I feel exhausted. Thinking about her make me feel anxious because i keep on thinking that i can't reciprocate her energy. Sometimes, I argue with myself if i do really fall for her or I just like her. But, I also feel hurt with our breakup Im pathetic
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Ray
my ex said they felt they werent ready for a relationship which is understandable, but i wish they wouldve told me sooner. they lost feelings for me too and dragged me on and pretended to love me too, it killed me. i am struggling now with depression and just a whole bunch of stuff because of their carelessness and just trying to get themselves out of it without even bothering to think of how itd affect me. i hate to say it but they were the reason why ive been doing sh and struggling with suicidal ideation. its so important to consider how your words and actions can affect others.
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my ex said they felt they werent ready for a relationship which is understandable, but i wish they wouldve told me sooner. they lost feelings for me too and dragged me on and pretended to love me too, it killed me. i am struggling now with depression and just a whole bunch of stuff because of their carelessness and just trying to get themselves out of it without even bothering to think of how itd affect me. i hate to say it but they were the reason why ive been doing sh and struggling with suicidal ideation. its so important to consider how your words and actions can affect others.
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Willow
Doesnt have an ex
Doesnt have to travel
Our values/beliefs align
Ok stressful time makes sense- (theyve got ocd and its flared rn)
Knows who they are
Pretty sure they dont have commitment phobia-
Might have some not happy with themselves-ness- ok probably does-
Can compromise I think
Ok this last one I dont and cant know unless Im told.
And ASKING could scare and push them away because of the current stress.
Ive been wondering and waiting for what feels like months now I dont want to wonder anymore but I think this helped. a little.
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Doesnt have an ex
Doesnt have to travel
Our values/beliefs align
Ok stressful time makes sense- (theyve got ocd and its flared rn)
Knows who they are
Pretty sure they dont have commitment phobia-
Might have some not happy with themselves-ness- ok probably does-
Can compromise I think
Ok this last one I dont and cant know unless Im told.
And ASKING could scare and push them away because of the current stress.
Ive been wondering and waiting for what feels like months now I dont want to wonder anymore but I think this helped. a little.
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zerothehero
Im a girl, and I told my guy friend I liked him. We got along so well, and just clicked. He said he liked me but he respected me and didnt wanna ruin what we had. I respect his choice, but seeing him everyday while acting closer than before breaks me a little more inside everytime. Hes so important to me and Im so glad we could remain friends, but I always stay wishishing it could be more. I know I should move on, but he is so sweet and kind, its so hard to move on or not like him. :/
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Im a girl, and I told my guy friend I liked him. We got along so well, and just clicked. He said he liked me but he respected me and didnt wanna ruin what we had. I respect his choice, but seeing him everyday while acting closer than before breaks me a little more inside everytime. Hes so important to me and Im so glad we could remain friends, but I always stay wishishing it could be more. I know I should move on, but he is so sweet and kind, its so hard to move on or not like him. :/
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Adeyum64
I feel like this is getting out if hand. Like, when is the point in life where you feel ready?
When you realise that your biological clock is running out? That's just an egoistic approach of wanting kids, but not giving a damn about your partner.
After you've seen everything? Never gonna happen
After you fixed everything? Never gonna happen
And that's whats making me afraid. Never getting out of that hole. Just accepting what I get and not question it.
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I feel like this is getting out if hand. Like, when is the point in life where you feel ready?
When you realise that your biological clock is running out? That's just an egoistic approach of wanting kids, but not giving a damn about your partner.
After you've seen everything? Never gonna happen
After you fixed everything? Never gonna happen
And that's whats making me afraid. Never getting out of that hole. Just accepting what I get and not question it.
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sjuzi
im so scared ill never find someonne like her, we understood each other withoput saying much and had the same energy, but shes just not in the right space of mind, not ready to have a deep connection with someone, if she continued our relationship her feelings would deepen and then she would be too attached to me and there would probably be problems, but i cant get over her i need someone to tell me im gonna find someone like her or shes gonna come back
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im so scared ill never find someonne like her, we understood each other withoput saying much and had the same energy, but shes just not in the right space of mind, not ready to have a deep connection with someone, if she continued our relationship her feelings would deepen and then she would be too attached to me and there would probably be problems, but i cant get over her i need someone to tell me im gonna find someone like her or shes gonna come back
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OG
I just don't understand how you can literally say that you find someone interesting, both romantically and intellectually, have a great time, hour long phone calls and night messages, you keep going out and hugging each other, yet not want a relationship. It already is a relationship, isn't it? I feel like for some people, only defining it as relationship / dating makes them back off. And that really hurts.
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I just don't understand how you can literally say that you find someone interesting, both romantically and intellectually, have a great time, hour long phone calls and night messages, you keep going out and hugging each other, yet not want a relationship. It already is a relationship, isn't it? I feel like for some people, only defining it as relationship / dating makes them back off. And that really hurts.
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Bonhomie
I started relationship but I hide a dark thing inside my mind without knowing it, when it come out I feel like I'm not ready. I feel insecurity, and I don't want my love one to suffer from it. So I ask her to give me sometimes, We can be friend instead. I'm hurt from this but doing so will help me and her as I can't love her if I'm struggle my self. I'm appreciate my self for choosing this option!
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I started relationship but I hide a dark thing inside my mind without knowing it, when it come out I feel like I'm not ready. I feel insecurity, and I don't want my love one to suffer from it. So I ask her to give me sometimes, We can be friend instead. I'm hurt from this but doing so will help me and her as I can't love her if I'm struggle my self. I'm appreciate my self for choosing this option!
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Piano
And identifying whether or not they fit into these categories are difficult which honestly is an understatement. I am in a relationship where we dont know each other enough and he may or may not want to compromise and might not be over his ex and we are both quite busy. Regardless only time will tell and until its abundantly clear one or more of these are true I think its best to continue through.
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And identifying whether or not they fit into these categories are difficult which honestly is an understatement. I am in a relationship where we dont know each other enough and he may or may not want to compromise and might not be over his ex and we are both quite busy. Regardless only time will tell and until its abundantly clear one or more of these are true I think its best to continue through.
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Equinoxx
I recently got out of a relationship this past January, and I've recently created a really good friendship that I wouldn't mind exploring romantically. My only issue is that- I feel good when I'm with him, but I feel guilty for liking him when I'm not. I don't know if this is emotions being carried on from my past relationship or not but I could really use some help with that if anyone knows
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I recently got out of a relationship this past January, and I've recently created a really good friendship that I wouldn't mind exploring romantically. My only issue is that- I feel good when I'm with him, but I feel guilty for liking him when I'm not. I don't know if this is emotions being carried on from my past relationship or not but I could really use some help with that if anyone knows
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Francienne
The first one hits hard especially when you already invested yourself and risk all your fears about love. Just to end up not having the person because he was too damaged in his previous relationship. He wanted him healing, little did he know, while he was on the process, I was breaking too.
I got out of that kind of relationship. I hope he is healing on his own now.
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The first one hits hard especially when you already invested yourself and risk all your fears about love. Just to end up not having the person because he was too damaged in his previous relationship. He wanted him healing, little did he know, while he was on the process, I was breaking too.
I got out of that kind of relationship. I hope he is healing on his own now.
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Mafer
My crush liked me and he confessed it to me, I was excited but I realized that it probably wouldn't work and I rejected him.
I felt bad for having done it but carrying things like social anxiety makes me do things I don't want and I don't want that to affect my relationships like it already does with my friends.
Plus I'm prone to toxic relationships because of it.
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My crush liked me and he confessed it to me, I was excited but I realized that it probably wouldn't work and I rejected him.
I felt bad for having done it but carrying things like social anxiety makes me do things I don't want and I don't want that to affect my relationships like it already does with my friends.
Plus I'm prone to toxic relationships because of it.
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Tony
Relationships are a lie. A couple can have fun together for a while, but they don't last. It's usually the female, but not always, who gets bored and is ready to move on. Just look at it like riding one of those old kiddie horses that you drop the coin in. Move on when the ride is over but enjoy it to the fullest while it lasts.
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Relationships are a lie. A couple can have fun together for a while, but they don't last. It's usually the female, but not always, who gets bored and is ready to move on. Just look at it like riding one of those old kiddie horses that you drop the coin in. Move on when the ride is over but enjoy it to the fullest while it lasts.
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Flaming
I can't date currently cause i love with my mom (under age, so i can't just go to her house and she can't come to mine and we can have full freedom of ourselves, so I'll wait until i can have that freedom, even if i have to sacrifice some years of my life by working harder than I can handlw
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I can't date currently cause i love with my mom (under age, so i can't just go to her house and she can't come to mine and we can have full freedom of ourselves, so I'll wait until i can have that freedom, even if i have to sacrifice some years of my life by working harder than I can handlw
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Lillian
Theyre trying to get over their ex and figure themselves out and Im trying to figure myself out and trying to get over commitment phobia thanks to seeing my parents relationship crumble around me. Its okay though because were still great friends and were figuring things out together: )
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Theyre trying to get over their ex and figure themselves out and Im trying to figure myself out and trying to get over commitment phobia thanks to seeing my parents relationship crumble around me. Its okay though because were still great friends and were figuring things out together: )
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Senorita
I heard from my man that he is still trying to find himself, and has a lot of depression issues! , and Bipolar, too! No wonder he is showing me love signs, but is afraid to say I love you! Back to me, but my love for him is patient! And we are working on it together!
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I heard from my man that he is still trying to find himself, and has a lot of depression issues! , and Bipolar, too! No wonder he is showing me love signs, but is afraid to say I love you! Back to me, but my love for him is patient! And we are working on it together!
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Doezie
Someone likes me and i dont know if i like them back, the main reason is that i want to be free to kiss and do stuff with who i want and not be stuck to one person. What should i do? (Edit: i want to discover things on my own first before committing to someone else)
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Someone likes me and i dont know if i like them back, the main reason is that i want to be free to kiss and do stuff with who i want and not be stuck to one person. What should i do? (Edit: i want to discover things on my own first before committing to someone else)
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glitzy
That's me. Someone confess that he like me, and I like him so much too. But I just don't want to be in a relationship coz I'm still wounded & traumatized. I don't wanna hurt me or make him wait. I'm now on the process of healing & building myself.
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That's me. Someone confess that he like me, and I like him so much too. But I just don't want to be in a relationship coz I'm still wounded & traumatized. I don't wanna hurt me or make him wait. I'm now on the process of healing & building myself.
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